How to Make a Stubborn Ex Boyfriend Come Running Back

We are never ever, ever, ever getting back together

I never thought I’d begin an article for ExBoyfriend Recovery by quoting a Taylor Swift song, but here we are. I thought it was appropriate for the topic of this article, because we are going to be talking about how to make stubborn exboyfriends who are adamant about breaking up come running back, begging to be yours again.

Yesterday, someone posted in our private Facebook group asking if anyone had their ex say one of the following:

“I just don’t think we’re compatible.”

“I don’t feel the same for you anymore.”

“I don’t see a future with you.”

“I think we’re better off as friends.”

“This isn’t working.”

Et cetera.

The answer is yes. Absolutely. All the girls who responded heard one or more of these lines, or something similar. It is very common for a man to feel very secure in his decision to end it, and to use one of these to end the conversation, for fear of the woman trying to “talk him out of it.”

Using any of these lines helps to make the break feel more permanent, and right now, he is set on ending it.

The thing is, it is often these guys who are so adamant about the relationship being over who end up coming back some time down the road.

Take my ex for instance: We were together for a number of years, and I anticipated we would be together for a good deal more. But then he ended it, using the first of the lines mentioned above, as well as a slew of others.

I didn’t beg or plead, though. I knew deep down that he would be back.

And he is.

And you’ll be surprised to know what happened to make this stubborn guy change his tune.

Newsflash… it wasn’t begging.

Processing Time

It is no secret that men and women process things differently. You’ve seen this picture online posted on various social media, right?

The timing may be off, but the overall concept is true.

After a breakup, the woman tends to begin processing emotions immediately. That is why so many man refer to their ex’s as “crazy.” After a breakup, they are hurt, so they tend to throw all logic out the window and react emotionally, trying to salvage the relationship. The guy’s immediate reaction is to go out with friends, and even begin dating again. He may be sad, but because of societal standards, he doesn’t show it, and instead acts out, as though he doesn’t care. My ex was absolutely guilty of this after our breakup, and it was extremely painful to observe.

But then, a few weeks to months later (depending on the length of your relationship), the woman will start to feel a bit better. She’ll start going out with friends, taking up new hobbies, going to the gym, and she may even begin to hesitantly start dating again. This is the point where the reality of the breakup actually begins to set in for the guy. Going out isn’t as fun as it was, none of the hot girls he’s dating seem to stack up to how wonderful his ex girlfriend was, and his life begins to feel monotonous and boring.

Fast forward to 6 months to a year later (again, depending on the people involved and the length of the relationship). The woman is embracing life as a single woman, she’s being asked out by eligible bachelors constantly. She is nurturing her relationships with her friends and family, and she is taking steps towards her goals.

Women tend to lose themselves in relationships more than men do. We tend to prize our relationships and emotional connections above all else, whereas men tend to prize work and public accomplishments. A good girlfriend can add so much to a man’s life, but he might not realize how much until she’s gone. But when a woman begins to find herself again after a breakup (and that is at base what the ExBoyfriend Recovery program is all about), she gets to put herself and her needs first, when before, she put her partner’s needs and desires above even her own.

My point here is that men and women process things very differently. A recent study by Binghamton University and University College London found that though women hurt more as they result of a breakup, they also tend to deal with breakups in a more healthy way – grieving, and then doing a lot of self improvement work to feel better about themselves. This means that when they get back out there on the dating scene, they are more confident and attractive than ever. And they really have done the healing work and are over their ex fully, ready to embark on the next relationship healthily.

The same study found that men tend to react way differently. They distract themselves and don’t actually work to get over or recover from the relationship.

Instead, they do what I mentioned above – go out with friends, fill the void with other women, etc. But then, after a certain amount of time, the reality of the breakup begins to set in. They realize that A) They actually do want a life partner and they have to get back out and compete on the dating scene again; or B) What they had was absolutely irreplaceable, he let her go, and now she has moved on.

This is the dynamic that is at play when Chris says “They always come back after you’ve moved on.” I know this to be true. My ex came back – he said he had been processing his feelings in his alone time and realized a lot of things about our relationship, and himself. I told him, “but you were so sure” and he said that it had just taken time.

Moving on Without Moving On

If your exboyfriend was stubborn and adamant about the breakup, please keep the above in mind. There are academic studies that support the theory that men think less about the repercussions of ending a relationship, and others like the above that support the idea that they don’t recover as fully. I think this makes these stubborn men likely to return, but you have to play it the right way. After all, my ex is stupid stubborn, and he made a return.

So, what is the best way to play the chess game with a stubborn exboyfriend? It depends on what stage you’re at (as always No Contact is first and foremost).

Think about the study above and the implications. Women take longer to recover, but recover more fully/healthily. Men seemingly bounce back right away, but it is all a facade. We know that men tend to return back to relationships as soon as their ex girlfriend has moved on. Therefore, I have come up with an equation:

Self Improvement + Fear of Loss = Moving On Without Moving On

Let’s tackle Self Improvement First.

My ex mentioned on more than one occasion how blown away he was by all of the things I accomplishing after our separation. I took a lot of things that he considered negative qualities about me and turned them around. I worked on my confidence. I worked to become a better person. I did it for myself, though, not for him. And that was the key. I killed the No Contact Rule. I tackled the Holy Trinity of health, wealth, and relationships.

WORK ON YOURSELF. FOR YOURSELF.

This is a key concept of moving on without moving on. You may not actively be moving on to new people, but you are moving forward in your life and attacking personal goals. And that’s sexy as hell. To re-attract your ex back you can’t just focus on your interactions and how he’s responding to your texts. You have to re-attract him by becoming more attractive to him again (and I’m not just talking physically), and make him question his reasons for breaking up with such a badass lady. The best thing you can do is focus on self improvement. And if you do that, it will assist with getting closer to getting your ex back, but it will also make you happier with yourself and your life. Embrace No Contact. Embrace Yourself.

Alright, on to Fear of Loss.

I don’t know if you’ve ever broken up with someone. I have, a couple of times. And each time I did, I felt secure in the knowledge that if I ever wanted them back, they’d come running (for the record, I’ve never wanted any of them back – women tend to take their time deciding to end things, remember?)

But I digress.

My point is, your ex may feel secure, thinking that if he wants you back, you’ll be there with just a snap of his fingers. You can’t let him feel this security. He has to be scared that he is going to lose you, that you could move on.

So what do you do to strike that fear in his heart? I’d say there are two options here. First, there is jealousy. Obviously, a new person entering the picture is going to make even the most stubborn of ex’s a bit nervous if he has any residual feelings. Post that you’re going out with a guy friend. Casually mention a male co-worker’s name in a story to your ex, post a picture of a great dinner you’re having, and make the male hand around the beer stein slightly obvious, but not too obvious.

The other way to achieve this is scarcity. Just be a little less available to him. Don’t pick up his call, and instead send him to voicemail. Let a few texts go unanswered. Indulge in some push/pull to make him worry that he is losing you and your life has become too busy for him, whether or not there is another man in it.

If you can utilize both of these tools, it will help to make your ex start to wonder if you really are over him. And no one likes being unwanted, even if they broke up with the person.

Just remember, most guys tend to come back to their ex girlfriends as soon as they have started moving on. So if you can create the illusion that you are moving on and moving forward, it may cause him to return to you sooner. But keep in mind that is he thinks he has you, he’s not going to be afraid of losing you.

The Bottom Line

If a guy tells you any of the above things I mentioned at the top of this article, or anything in that same vein, I urge you to instead take it with a grain of salt.

People change all the time, and so do their feelings.

While writing this article, I kept thinking about Buffy and Spike. Spike becomes head over heels for Buffy in season 5, but she is less than interested:

Spike: “You can’t tell me that there isn’t anything there between you and me. I know you feel something.”
Buffy: “It’s called revulsion. And whatever you think you’re feeling it’s not love. You can’t love without a soul.”
Drusilla: “Oh, we can, you know. We can love quite well… if not wisely.”

-Buffy the Vampire Slayer, “Crush”

However, in the last episode of the series, she tells him she loves him, and I even hear that they get together in the comics (which are considered cannon). What did Spike do to get Buffy to love him? He changed? He also utilized jealousy tactics (bringing a date to Xander’s wedding in “Hell’s Bells”). It worked. Buffy is the epitome of stubborn, but she couldn’t’ deny that there were feelings between them (much to my chagrin – I’m a Buffy/Angel shipper all the way).

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Stubbornness is nothing when feelings are concerned. If you do the work and start moving on without moving on, I would say you have a nice chance of having your ex show up to your door and telling you he misses you and wants you back. Your power comes from appearing to move on. So embrace that, and all the positive changes that come along with it.

(Written by Rachel)

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Anita Glenn
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Thank you so much. This help me threw it.

Anita Glenn
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Thank you so much. This help me threw it.

Nikita
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Hi, so basically I dated my boyfriend for 8 months. he is quite a very busy guy – he works 3 jobs (because he is going to do a loan) and recently he was offered a course from one of those jobs for just 4 weeks starting this january. anyway long story short, he used to break up for almost every argument we had which was mainly started by me arguing of how little we used to meet weekly. (p.s. minor arguments because he used to text me the following day or 2 of the argument). his working schedule is… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nikita,

when did you broke up? Are you going to do the nc rule?

Nikita
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Hi, so basically I dated my boyfriend for 8 months. he is quite a very busy guy – he works 3 jobs (because he is going to do a loan) and recently he was offered a course from one of those jobs for just 4 weeks starting this january. anyway long story short, he used to break up for almost every argument we had which was mainly started by me arguing of how little we used to meet weekly. (p.s. minor arguments because he used to text me the following day or 2 of the argument). his working schedule is… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nikita,

when did you broke up? Are you going to do the nc rule?

Josey
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Help EBR. My ex and I were together for 2 years and we recently broke up 2 months ago. We were very committed and I had a promise ring. For the most part our relationship was perfect. We did everything together and were so in love. We even got our first place together. However out of nowhere he told me he was unhappy and broke up with me shortly after. The last 6 months before that had been a little rough with some petty fighting here and there but nothing I thought was abnormal…I mean every couple goes through a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Josey,

Try it first.. It’s not a guarantee to work in any situation but it helps increase your chances.

Josey
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Help EBR. My ex and I were together for 2 years and we recently broke up 2 months ago. We were very committed and I had a promise ring. For the most part our relationship was perfect. We did everything together and were so in love. We even got our first place together. However out of nowhere he told me he was unhappy and broke up with me shortly after. The last 6 months before that had been a little rough with some petty fighting here and there but nothing I thought was abnormal…I mean every couple goes through a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Josey,

Try it first.. It’s not a guarantee to work in any situation but it helps increase your chances.

Ari
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Hi, So my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me last week. Everything was going great. We had a great date night when all of the sudden a conversation came up about the future and he said he didn’t see a future with me and breaking up is probably best. Mind you, just hours before he was telling me he loved me and we were smiling and having fun. I told him that we should take a day or 2 to cool down and then talk about it. We did. He said he still thinks breaking up is probably… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ari,

I think there’s a chance.. You mean you’re going to do months of nc? If so, how long?

Ari
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Hi, So my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me last week. Everything was going great. We had a great date night when all of the sudden a conversation came up about the future and he said he didn’t see a future with me and breaking up is probably best. Mind you, just hours before he was telling me he loved me and we were smiling and having fun. I told him that we should take a day or 2 to cool down and then talk about it. We did. He said he still thinks breaking up is probably… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ari,

I think there’s a chance.. You mean you’re going to do months of nc? If so, how long?

Mila
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Hi Amor, Suddenly he deleted my number from his phone. I can say that because I am not able to see his profile pic. on whatsapp but can able to see last seen. So I am sure that hedeleted my number but not blocked me. I was active on whatsapp story. What do you think? What can be his intention to do that? I thought he either try to make me react or make himself forget me easily… I did nothing about that I am stick my extra n.c (30 days) waiting… And also one thing to say is it… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

be more active in doing posts in Facebook or Instagram that are not stories, or those that doesn’t disappear.

Mila
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Hi Amor, Suddenly he deleted my number from his phone. I can say that because I am not able to see his profile pic. on whatsapp but can able to see last seen. So I am sure that hedeleted my number but not blocked me. I was active on whatsapp story. What do you think? What can be his intention to do that? I thought he either try to make me react or make himself forget me easily… I did nothing about that I am stick my extra n.c (30 days) waiting… And also one thing to say is it… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

be more active in doing posts in Facebook or Instagram that are not stories, or those that doesn’t disappear.

Andy
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My ex and I were together for 13 years. For the last 5 years we were living in a long distance relationship. Both of us were trying to make the relationship work and everybody was telling us that we were such a great fit for eachother. Of course we had our flaws, but whatever was wrong we tried to resolve in the intimacy of our relationship. However, a year ago I told him that I wanted to settle down someplace, have a family, raise children and he said that first I would have to leave everything, quit my job and… Read more »
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Andy
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My ex and I were together for 13 years. For the last 5 years we were living in a long distance relationship. Both of us were trying to make the relationship work and everybody was telling us that we were such a great fit for eachother. Of course we had our flaws, but whatever was wrong we tried to resolve in the intimacy of our relationship. However, a year ago I told him that I wanted to settle down someplace, have a family, raise children and he said that first I would have to leave everything, quit my job and… Read more »
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Mila
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Thanks for your answer Amor, but I texted him again a week after and I said ” You wantto hear th thing that I just saw” no reply… I start moving on without moving on. I wouldn text again, because he wont reply ever. He try to make me see his photos with his female friends ( I was insecure). I know he try to make me see because he shared his photos on instagram (and I dont have insta. account and he knows it) and also share on Whatsapp story, the only person on his whatsapp list without an… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Lis, don’t worry a lot of girls do it. I hope you didn’t send an emotional text… I think you need to restart nc, do 30 days, and do more of posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours.. if you blocked him, make your posts public.. It looks like he has moved on, so he has to think that by the point you initiate contact again, you’re either moving on or has moved on too and just being friendly because he saw it through your posts.. Don’t say in your first text that you just want to be friends… Read more »
Mila
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Thanks for your answer Amor, but I texted him again a week after and I said ” You wantto hear th thing that I just saw” no reply… I start moving on without moving on. I wouldn text again, because he wont reply ever. He try to make me see his photos with his female friends ( I was insecure). I know he try to make me see because he shared his photos on instagram (and I dont have insta. account and he knows it) and also share on Whatsapp story, the only person on his whatsapp list without an… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Lis, don’t worry a lot of girls do it. I hope you didn’t send an emotional text… I think you need to restart nc, do 30 days, and do more of posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours.. if you blocked him, make your posts public.. It looks like he has moved on, so he has to think that by the point you initiate contact again, you’re either moving on or has moved on too and just being friendly because he saw it through your posts.. Don’t say in your first text that you just want to be friends… Read more »
Mila
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Hi, We were together about 3 years (mostly LDR) and he broke up with me 27 days ago. After 21 days NC. I initated contatc with a text which is a suggestion text ( yo need to try … youre gonna like it) but he doesnt reply at all. I felt that he was waiting for me to send following texts which I didnt. He is a stubborn man and his ego is realy high. I am waiting for a week to initiate again. Am I on the right path? What do you think about re-initiating because I m scared… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mila,

restart nc, do at least 30 days, continue improving yourself but do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours and make them public.

Mila
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Hi, We were together about 3 years (mostly LDR) and he broke up with me 27 days ago. After 21 days NC. I initated contatc with a text which is a suggestion text ( yo need to try … youre gonna like it) but he doesnt reply at all. I felt that he was waiting for me to send following texts which I didnt. He is a stubborn man and his ego is realy high. I am waiting for a week to initiate again. Am I on the right path? What do you think about re-initiating because I m scared… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mila,

restart nc, do at least 30 days, continue improving yourself but do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours and make them public.

Kris
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Okay, so I hadn’t spoken to my ex in months and although we ended amicably, we still hadn’t spoken or met up with each other even though we said we could still be “friends” (i don’t actually believe that).. Anyways, we still have each other on social media and that includes snapchat. Well, the other day, I posted a story and he replied to it in the most random way and we ended up starting a conversation with each other although I was a bit hesitant because it was so random and it had been so long since we spoke..… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kris,

maybe he just didn’t have someone to talk to that day, and then you were responsive.. For me, if you wanted to build rapport, don’t expect much from him but initiate more conversations..

Kris
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Okay, so I hadn’t spoken to my ex in months and although we ended amicably, we still hadn’t spoken or met up with each other even though we said we could still be “friends” (i don’t actually believe that).. Anyways, we still have each other on social media and that includes snapchat. Well, the other day, I posted a story and he replied to it in the most random way and we ended up starting a conversation with each other although I was a bit hesitant because it was so random and it had been so long since we spoke..… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kris,

maybe he just didn’t have someone to talk to that day, and then you were responsive.. For me, if you wanted to build rapport, don’t expect much from him but initiate more conversations..

Sammie
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Are the rules different if I was the one who ended things with my ex? I made the mistake of asking my ex to consider giving me a second chance in an apology. We’ve never had each other on social media so I wouldn’t know if he’s even seen my social media. 🙁 Can an ex still be stubborn even if they didn’t call the shots and ended things?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

what did he say when you asked?

Sammie
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Are the rules different if I was the one who ended things with my ex? I made the mistake of asking my ex to consider giving me a second chance in an apology. We’ve never had each other on social media so I wouldn’t know if he’s even seen my social media. 🙁 Can an ex still be stubborn even if they didn’t call the shots and ended things?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

what did he say when you asked?

amy
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ok I will tell him about this tomorrow! hope it turns out for the better

amy
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ok I will tell him about this tomorrow! hope it turns out for the better

amy
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yeah Amor, enough with ignoring this thing!
I haven’t really texted him after that day! Do you think I should wait for him to text me or text him myself and tell him about all this?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Ask him anytime..if he doesn’t answer tell him calmly what you felt about what he’s doing

amy
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yeah Amor, enough with ignoring this thing!
I haven’t really texted him after that day! Do you think I should wait for him to text me or text him myself and tell him about all this?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Ask him anytime..if he doesn’t answer tell him calmly what you felt about what he’s doing

amy
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hi Amor there is this one thing bothering me alo and I hope u can help me find a olution for it ! we had been talking all this week on texting when before it was on messenger. Two days ago, he was replying and we were having a pleasant conversation and he just vanished in the middle of it when before he used to send me a follow up text excusing himself! He didn’t even excuse himself and on the next day I texted him thrice but he didn’t reply and he marked my previous texts from some days… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

ask him first why he did it.. if he doesn’t answer, then tell him in a calm way what you feel about it.

amy
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hi Amor there is this one thing bothering me alo and I hope u can help me find a olution for it ! we had been talking all this week on texting when before it was on messenger. Two days ago, he was replying and we were having a pleasant conversation and he just vanished in the middle of it when before he used to send me a follow up text excusing himself! He didn’t even excuse himself and on the next day I texted him thrice but he didn’t reply and he marked my previous texts from some days… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

ask him first why he did it.. if he doesn’t answer, then tell him in a calm way what you feel about it.

Amy
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We had a long conversation on call and afterwards we had playful conversations on texts but I feel he is withdrawing again! What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

You should be the one doing the push pull..he should be the one wondering what you’ve been up to..and then seeing through your posts or hearing through friends what you did or where you’ve been.. Be busy..put more time in your activities instead of him.

Amy
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We had a long conversation on call and afterwards we had playful conversations on texts but I feel he is withdrawing again! What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

You should be the one doing the push pull..he should be the one wondering what you’ve been up to..and then seeing through your posts or hearing through friends what you did or where you’ve been.. Be busy..put more time in your activities instead of him.

Amy
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Amor
After two days, he texted me again with what’s up and I replied after some hours!
Until yesterday, there wasn’t anything from both sides but then I just straight up called him he didn’t pick then he called me back but I was busy so couldn’t pick and we exchanged some texts and he called me thrice again but I told him I am busy so he got a bit pissed off and said will talk later and when I texted him at almost midnight, he didn’t reply!
It’s hide n seek!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Initiate at a good time so that he doesn’t at midnight too..

Audrina M
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Hi Amor, To clear up confusion I did NC for 30 days then texted which was positive and we continued to text everyday (sometimes he initiates it) until we went down memory lane reflecting how we were sexually with him asking if I been with other guys which I avoided answering therefore it went downhill from there he basically told me to not contact him again and he will text me when he can find my sons things… now I tried to text different times and was blocked. Emailed and no response. It’s been 30 days which is basically second… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

That means he has to think you’re moving on and not going to chase anymore through your posts.. Does your posts look like that? Since your blocked, you have to make them public.. If you haven’t done that, extend to 45 days..

Amy
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Amor
After two days, he texted me again with what’s up and I replied after some hours!
Until yesterday, there wasn’t anything from both sides but then I just straight up called him he didn’t pick then he called me back but I was busy so couldn’t pick and we exchanged some texts and he called me thrice again but I told him I am busy so he got a bit pissed off and said will talk later and when I texted him at almost midnight, he didn’t reply!
It’s hide n seek!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Initiate at a good time so that he doesn’t at midnight too..

Audrina M
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Hi Amor, To clear up confusion I did NC for 30 days then texted which was positive and we continued to text everyday (sometimes he initiates it) until we went down memory lane reflecting how we were sexually with him asking if I been with other guys which I avoided answering therefore it went downhill from there he basically told me to not contact him again and he will text me when he can find my sons things… now I tried to text different times and was blocked. Emailed and no response. It’s been 30 days which is basically second… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

That means he has to think you’re moving on and not going to chase anymore through your posts.. Does your posts look like that? Since your blocked, you have to make them public.. If you haven’t done that, extend to 45 days..

Amy
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Hello Amor
He texted me on Sunday after 15 days, just saying hey and it was at 1.30am So I replied the next day at night and he hasn’t replied until now!
Why did he text me then?
Now what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

well, it was midnight.. it can be a booty call or he has been thinking why you’re not texting.. have you initiated again by now?

Amy
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Hello Amor
He texted me on Sunday after 15 days, just saying hey and it was at 1.30am So I replied the next day at night and he hasn’t replied until now!
Why did he text me then?
Now what should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

well, it was midnight.. it can be a booty call or he has been thinking why you’re not texting.. have you initiated again by now?

Audrina
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Hi Amor It’s Audrina. It’s day 27 of 2nd NC we were in the texting phase for a week which started postitive and ended negative when he assumed I been with other guys and acted coy like he didn’t care before proceeding to block me leaving me to restart NC. Today I texted him regarding his portion of the phone bill that’s due tomorrow and no shocker I’m still blocked. I sent an email and I’m 100% sure he blocked me there as well. I tried to text him through a family members phone he was on good contact with… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Audrina,

sorry, I’m confused.. Did you mean your texting phase was during your nc? Because the texting phase should be after nc.. talking to him about the bills is ok as long as it’s only about that..

Audrina
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Hi Amor It’s Audrina. It’s day 27 of 2nd NC we were in the texting phase for a week which started postitive and ended negative when he assumed I been with other guys and acted coy like he didn’t care before proceeding to block me leaving me to restart NC. Today I texted him regarding his portion of the phone bill that’s due tomorrow and no shocker I’m still blocked. I sent an email and I’m 100% sure he blocked me there as well. I tried to text him through a family members phone he was on good contact with… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Audrina,

sorry, I’m confused.. Did you mean your texting phase was during your nc? Because the texting phase should be after nc.. talking to him about the bills is ok as long as it’s only about that..

Amy
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EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Let him initiate this time… If after two weeks from now he still hasn’t initiated, you can initiate…

Amy
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EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Let him initiate this time… If after two weeks from now he still hasn’t initiated, you can initiate…

Camila
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My ex and I had been together for 2 years and we lived together. He broke up with me and I left our apartment and he is certain he wants to be done with me but he still messages me telling me he misses me or that he cries whenever he goes grocery shopping because we used to always go together. He also tries to talk to me by talking about my belongings and how he needs to get rid of them but as soon as I tell him what to do he just pushes the date back. I am… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Camila,

why did you broke up?

Camila
Guest
My ex and I had been together for 2 years and we lived together. He broke up with me and I left our apartment and he is certain he wants to be done with me but he still messages me telling me he misses me or that he cries whenever he goes grocery shopping because we used to always go together. He also tries to talk to me by talking about my belongings and how he needs to get rid of them but as soon as I tell him what to do he just pushes the date back. I am… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Camila,

why did you broke up?

Amy
Guest

Amor
Thank you for responding!
We were talking and he just stopped responding and I stopped texting after that!
I haven’t texted him after that! Should I text him or wait for him to initiate?

Amy
Guest

Amor
Thank you for responding!
We were talking and he just stopped responding and I stopped texting after that!
I haven’t texted him after that! Should I text him or wait for him to initiate?

Amy
Guest

Hey Amor
A week ago we were talking and in the middle of it he stopped responding and seen all my texts and didn’t reply and hasn’t until now! Should I text him? What should I do?
How can I do push pull when he is doing it so much by being indifferent towards me although he is good while we talk!
Please respond fast!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

when he stopped responding, you shouldn’t have sent another text.. and if you can see how he does push pull, copy it. You just have to do it first.

Amy
Guest

Hey Amor
A week ago we were talking and in the middle of it he stopped responding and seen all my texts and didn’t reply and hasn’t until now! Should I text him? What should I do?
How can I do push pull when he is doing it so much by being indifferent towards me although he is good while we talk!
Please respond fast!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

when he stopped responding, you shouldn’t have sent another text.. and if you can see how he does push pull, copy it. You just have to do it first.

Amy
Guest

How should I move on without moving on when I am still in contact with him and in building rapport stage and he is on and off with me?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Yes, you should be moving on without moving on because that helps in push pull… Push pull means you make him interested because you’re amazing or you’re fun to talk with but you’re indifferent and not always available…

Amy
Guest

How should I move on without moving on when I am still in contact with him and in building rapport stage and he is on and off with me? How am I going to show him that I am moving on and not pining after him when we still talk?

Amy
Guest

Hi Amor
My ex talks about other girls a lot and treats me like his friend and has called me a friend on some occasions too! What do I do now? Why is he doing this? The distant and friendly cycle continues!

Amy
Guest

Hi Amor
My ex and I talk and its constant close and distant cycle but there is addition now, he talks about other girls a lot and tells me how he liked a certain girl a lot and how a certain girl hit on him as if I am his guy friend or his wingman! What do I do now? I feel jealous and angry!

Amy
Guest
Hi Amor My ex and I talk, like 3 to 4 days, we are really close and then he does conversation ghosting on me! Then he comes back after almost a week and the cycle repeats again and again! He talks about other girls a lot, how some girl hit on him and how there is some other hot girl that he started a conversation with, in a gym! It makes me insanely jealous and angry but I remain silent! And refers to me as his wingman kind of! Before the past relationship conversation we had, he was super flirty… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Yes, you should be moving on without moving on because that helps in push pull… Push pull means you make him interested because you’re amazing or you’re fun to talk with but you’re indifferent and not always available…

Amy
Guest

How should I move on without moving on when I am still in contact with him and in building rapport stage and he is on and off with me?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Yes, you should be moving on without moving on because that helps in push pull… Push pull means you make him interested because you’re amazing or you’re fun to talk with but you’re indifferent and not always available…