Can I Get My Boyfriend Back If I Give Him Space?

691 thoughts on “Will He Come Back If I Give Him Space”

Broken and confused

January 7, 2018 at 4:14 pm

Hi, me and my ex broke up last Monday and we had sex on tues night and we cut everything last Wednesday. I wanted to have a sweet and memorable goodbye. We been together for 5 yrs and we broke up once in 2015 and patch up after I NC and things was good. He left his rebound to come back to me. But I would say I did most of the job of getting him back. the problem is that I’m the prefect girlfriends he ever had but he feels we can’t get along, our character clashes and he feels i don’t think like him, I make him look stepped over. Which I dun mean it’s just I speak what’s on my mind. I would never make him feel small but he always devalue and belittle me. I can say this break up has been so hard on us. The last thing he said was he don’t think he wants to continue with me, he doesn’t want to have much attachment or I should be involved in his life anymore. He hates that I questions and talks a lot. It’s almost he can’t accept the real me. We are both scorpios tho. He also said take some cooling period and then maybe we can be friends but he don’t think he wants a relationship with me. But I never loved anyone like him. I strongly feel his love is strong for me. I feels he isn’t committed to me. What I should do? It’s only 5th day of the nc. Btw I’m a single mum with 1 teenage daughter and a son from an ex husband. I would give anything for him to try work things out wt me this time. Can that happen?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 9, 2018 at 9:28 pm

if he always devalues you and disrespects you, move on from him.. if your children were in the same situation, what would you say to them?

Sharon

January 2, 2018 at 5:08 am

My boyfriend asked for space due to his finances, family, and stress! Today makes day two of the no contact rule, but we attend the same church. That means we will see each other on bible study on Wednesday’s and Sunday’s. He also texts me: 1. You okay?; and What are you doing? What should I do about church, because it’s important to me, and his little texts?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 6:24 pm

Hi Sharon,

You can approach it like this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Jules

December 31, 2017 at 1:41 am

Hi,
I had a fight with my LDR boyfriend a week ago. And since then, we havent talked each other. We have been dating for about 3 months. He didnt ask for a space neither break up with me. On the next day after a fight, I texted him if he was still mad at me,but still no response until now. And the day after tomorrow is his birthday. My questions are:
1. Should I congratulate him on his birthday? Or should I keep the no contact rule until he reaches out?
2. Does it mean he wants to end the relationship? Because he didnt ask for a space neither tell me that it is over.

Looking forward to your reply. Please help. Thank you

Regards,
Jules

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 31, 2017 at 10:35 pm

Hi,

check this one:
“Can I Text My Ex On His Birthday?” Let’s End This Discussion Right Now

Jayce

December 30, 2017 at 5:34 pm

Dear EBR team,

I had a fight with my LDR boyfriend a week ago, and since then we havent talked each other. We are dating for about 3 months. He didint say he needed a space neither break up with me. On the next day after we had a fight, I texted him if he was still mad at me but no response until now. And day after tomorrow is his birthday. My questions are:
1. Should I congratulate him on his birthday? Or should I keep the no contact rule until he reaches out?
2. Does it mean he wants to end this relationship? Because he didnt ask for a space neither tell me that it is over.
Looking forward to your reply. Please help me. Thank you

Regards,
Jayce

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 31, 2017 at 10:35 pm

Hi,

check this one:
“Can I Text My Ex On His Birthday?” Let’s End This Discussion Right Now

Vicky

December 30, 2017 at 4:01 pm

Hi there
My question is should I continue this relationship with my boyfriend of three months now, everything was great until I found out one day that he is talking to a girl that he met before me giggling and laughing but he said he has no intentions of being interested more than a friend with her. I didn’t like it so I told its nit fair on me. After a month she texted him again and he giggled on the messages than told her how much he loves me but never closed the communication.
I was arguing with him over that and he said that I am wrong in my opinions.
I think I am not, now I feel he distant himself from me so I didn’t respond back from yesterday last conversation.
Should I do the 30 days NC or to forgive him?
I do lost trust in him now!!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 31, 2017 at 10:32 pm

Hi Vicky,

why not befriend the other girl instead? Because if they’re really just friends, you’re pushing him to her.

Charlotte

December 30, 2017 at 11:59 am

Hi EBR
Great article thank you!
My situation is that I went travelling to Australia and met my Aussie bf on tinder. It was like a fairytale we were perfect he was romantic and everything was going well. After a year we moved in together and life was great. I got a new job and started being home with him at weekends, he got a promotion and got more stressed. He started wanting alone time and gradually arguments started. My parents visited and he didn’t make any effort. Awkward.
The last year of us being together I felt I was always trying to get us back to being perfect. He gradually started treating me worse and we have now split up and I’ve moved out as went back to UK for Xmas. He said we could have some space and see how things are when I get back to Australia. He took me to the airport and said he loved me and was messaging me for a few days over Xmas but now he has just stopped texting. If I text him he just says he’s been busy. I’m so confused how he can go from texting loads to just stopping dead? I know I need to do no contact rule I’m just scared that returning to Australia I am going to have lost him for good as space seems to do the opposite for him.. he doesn’t miss me he grows to enjoy his life without me. He has also blocked me on all social media saying he doesn’t want to see things and get annoyed. What should I do? I go back in a couple of weeks and need to find somewhere to live and get the rest of my stuff out of our apartment so will need to speak to him eventually. I can’t help feeling he’s with someone new. All of the signs tell me he is but he is also an introvert so could just be playing PlayStation ignoring me.
Please help I feel so lost and want to go back with hope to sort things out.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 31, 2017 at 10:25 pm

Hi Charlotte,

check this one:
Will My Ex Forget Me If I Do No Contact

Nicole

December 28, 2017 at 7:19 pm

Hi,
I have been with a guy for almost five years. We lived together almost four years. Out of no where, he felt like our relationship wasn’t on the right path and suggested that I move out. He claims that we are just on a break because he is liking his alone time. I invested over $14,000 in his home and I am devestared because I left my own home to move in with him. He sold me the dream that he would never let me go and we would always be together. I am miserable and don’t even know how to begin to find nfsrkd because he is my best friend. We still hang out and attend NFL football games together. Before we got together, his mom was murdered and an ex girlfriend died in a car wreck with him so I am not sure if he is just stressed. He keeps assuring that maybe our circle will repeat and we will start all over. Any ideas of what I should do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2017 at 8:15 pm

Hi Nicole,

check this one:
EBR 027: What To Do If You Live With Your Ex Boyfriend

Ellen

December 28, 2017 at 9:25 am

My ex wants space and I gave it to him. But from time to time he contacts me and we have nice conversations, like nothing ever changed. However, I now realize that this is only when convient for him, while totally ignoring what I might feel or go through in daily live. So I am trying to hold on to no contact now (1w), just for me and maybe us in the future. But I know he is going through difficult and lonely time (that’s why he needed space, to solve this alone) and he has an important job interview. Is it a good thing to send him a brief succes message or better to keep the no contact?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2017 at 7:27 pm

Hi Ellen,

keep being in nc..

Alison

December 27, 2017 at 10:34 am

By the way he also mentioned he felt detached, he was not engaged in our conversations…what’s that supposed to mean?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2017 at 4:29 pm

That means you’re just his friend with benefits.. Yes, it would be better to move on..

Alison

December 27, 2017 at 9:51 am

Hi Amor,
Yes,he also said there were too many things to overcome,he wanted us to stop…Seems like I should move on??
Jiyoung

December 27, 2017 at 3:48 am

You deserve soo much more and I am not sure if i could ever give or be that man for you. Maybe i was and i didnt realize it. I wish i could still be.

Sorry that i said you didn’t try as much as i did or that you were busy. I knew what you were doing. You had a family, a son, a life,jobs and more,i had to understand. Which i tried to. Sametime i felt left out. I know when we were together it was good, it was great. Even the small stupid arguments i missed. We challenged one another ways of thinking and how each other does things.

I should not of done what i did and left you like that. I am sorry. I know i hurt you. You tried to make it better and i was too stubborn to listen for advice and help not sure if it’s related to me growing up or life. I know that is something i need to work on. Hope and wish for your help if i can.

Lately reflecting on what kind of person I’ve been to you the good,the bad the idiot. All i can think about is how i did this and let you go and lost you. I cannot see myself with anyone else in this world except for you.

I know that it maybe too little too late and Jiyoung Seo may have moved on to new and better things and happiness which she soo deserves.

Wish we could move on and startover or were we left off and take on the world together.

Maybe Jiyoung has moved on and is happy now and does not need me in her life. Whatever you decide i understand. But know that i would fight for you and your love . I do miss you and love you Jiyoung Seo.

This is my ex contacted me today during NC that I have followed you instructed.

I dont know what should I reply and not want to mess it up again.

Plz help!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2017 at 1:24 pm

Hi Jiyoung,

How many days are you in nc now?

Ana

December 26, 2017 at 10:17 pm

My ex long distance boyfriend have been distant literally. He has a girlfriend now but we are still in touch. I asked him if he needs space and he said ‘’I spend most time texting I have no time to enjoy myself’’ Idk if between the lines he meant he wants me to give him space. I still have feelings for him. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 28, 2017 at 1:37 am

Hi Ana,

Check this one:
EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend

Kara

December 26, 2017 at 5:48 am

i already broke up 3 months ago with my boyfriend. and already used the no contact rule before, it took a little bit long for him to reach me, he contacted me after 1month 2 weeks of no contact. i am too confidence that we will back together again, because after he reach me, we begin to act like couple again, and he treats me like his girlfriend again, but there’s still no statement that “we are back together again”.
suddenly, he start acting weird, like confused about his life, lose his self confidence, thinking a lot about his future etc. and it was like he doesnt interest in me anymore, like he became bitter, and i dont know why, because we are not fighting, everything seems so well before.

now my question is, should i go no contact in 30 days? (its been 1 week i used no contact again to give him space)
what if he contact me before 30 days?

(note: sorry my english not really good)

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 27, 2017 at 10:43 pm

Hi Kara,

Do 30 days, and then initiate contact after that

Vita

December 25, 2017 at 8:28 pm

My boyfriend and I was broke up first in October, we have 6 months LDR. I did NC and talked with him again via wa this month. he admitted that during NC he met other girl and having one night stand with her. At first time I took it easy. But when we started our relationship again this thing added my insecurity, im so jealous and last week i did gnat text messages him until he didn’t want to read any messages from me. On Saturday i feel so desperate and finally texted him that this is offer and nc him after that.
I know i love him so much but I can’t chase him during this moment and this is the first time he ignored all of my messages.
We already have plan to meet in his country next month which is it will be 30 days more of NC. Can i initially ask to meet without be like crazy ex girlfriend?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 27, 2017 at 9:50 pm

Hi Vita,

If you’re broken up again, dont go there right after nc.. You would really look like the crazy ex if you did that

Alison

December 25, 2017 at 3:40 am

Dear EBR team,
I’ve been on my NC period of 25th day since I sent my ex the last text message which he did not reply, no word from him so far. I’m kind of worried what if he still ignores me or doesn’t want to talk to me after NC (before he said he needed space, he’d rather not talk), he said he needs to be firm this time,doesn’t want to see me until his feelings have cooled off,also wants us not to be involved romantically (we broke up once then started seeing each other without in a relationship), what is he supposed to mean?? Just so confused, he said he is going to move on from me, should I just move on too??

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 27, 2017 at 2:26 am

Hi,

Were you sleeping with him?

Julia

December 23, 2017 at 2:01 am

Hey EBR,

I was with a guy for 3.5 years, thought we were on the same page about what we wanted then one day he blindsided me saying he wanted kids (which he’d denied for years). We broke up because I didn’t want them but now I realize it’s something I really want plus a life with him!

We were still seeing each other and sleeping together for 8 months after the breakup but now he says he wants to stop that and just be friends partly to work on himself but there’s also another woman in the picture. Up until now I’ve been trying to give him decent space and I thought we were really starting to reconnect. He said he wants to stop the physical stuff because he needs to sort out his feelings. We chatted on my birthday a few days ago and I have a Christmas present to give him – his birthday is also the beginning of Feb. What do I do with all this?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 26, 2017 at 5:18 pm

Hi,

Right now, you’re friends with benefits..Check this one:
EBR 006: How To Turn Friends With Benefits Into A Relationship2015/02/22 What Are My Ex Boyfriends

ReshSeth

December 22, 2017 at 4:15 am

My boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months now.. he said he liked me alot more than any other girl but not ready for love or relationship.. i accepted it and was fine with it.. but i became too emotionally attached to him.. demanding more attention and asking him to talk to me all d tym.. he didnt like it and asked fr a space fr a month.. i gave him and again contacted him.. again i became needy.. talked about my family problms and wen he didnt respond more empathetically i became bitter nd accused him of leaving me n hurting me wen i was emotionally unstable due to family situations.. he became irritated n blocked my contact.. nd texted me kindly nt to disturb him.. wat to do nw

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 26, 2017 at 1:03 am

Hi Reseth,

Are you going to do the no contact rule?

Jen

December 21, 2017 at 1:10 pm

I’m 4 weeks post break-up and just initiated no-contact (I’m on day 4….but have had little to no contact thus far by choice). My ex sent me a birthday gift and not sure what the right thing to do is, send it back or keep it? What is the right move if I want a chance at reconciliation? Need advice!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 25, 2017 at 6:18 pm

Hi Jen,

belated happy birthday! waht do you mean by little to no contact? Because nc period means, no initiating and no replying..

Via

December 21, 2017 at 12:14 pm

Hi Amor,

Yes i definitely want to try the no contact rule. I havent contacted him as of yet, went ghost on all my social media accounts. he posted a picture of himself yesterday on his instagram, i didnt acknowledge it. so far i think im doing good, what are my next steps, how long should i do the NC. New years is around the corner, so do i wish him a happy new years?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 25, 2017 at 6:16 pm

do at least 30 days, be active in doing social media posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours but don’t social media stalk him..

Help

December 20, 2017 at 6:41 pm

Me and my ex dated 2 years ..
There was a call made to my ex’s job someone making up lies to his boss basically trying to get him fired this happened 2 weeks after my ex told me he wanted a break and I went a week with blowing him up and begging basically.. so he obviously thought it was me who made that call but I swear it wasn’t but he just doesn’t believe me so basically I kept calling/embarrassing myself for a month then did almost a month NC then he reached out to me it was a good week we talked everyday with him starting the convos and we planned to meet after like 10 days of talking he went silent finally after a week he told me basically he loves and misses me ( I believe him I can tell his feelings are still there ) but can’t trust me and I asked how do
We fix this or should I leave it alone ..he told me I should just leave it alone for now and that he doesn’t know about the future he can only say how he feels right now .. i told him I loved him and respected his decision so I’ll leave it alone and he didn’t text back.. that was a 4 days ago ..

I really don’t want to do Nc because I’ve done it multiple times before .
I was thinking to love on without moving on and maybe if he reaches out to me we can try things again ?? But I’m not sure
I’m still going to make sure I improve myself , post on Socail media .. etc

Any advice ? Is it ok if I text him merry Christmas?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 20, 2017 at 10:22 pm

It’s time to fully move on

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