Why Do Men Break Up With You Without An Explanation?

Have you just broken up with your ex-boyfriend? Has your ex ghosted your relationship? Are you clueless as to why your relationship has ended abruptly, without warning?

Don’t worry…. As always, I am here to explain what is going on in your ex-boyfriend’s mind and help you to understand why he has ended your relationship suddenly and has not explained why.

I mean, really, why do men break up with their girlfriends without offering an explanation?  Simply right out of the blue.  You don’t see it coming.  And when he tells you it’s over, he hardly offers a word of explanation.

They deliver the bad news and you are left crushed.

So if you are looking  for the quick answer, I will oblige!

What Possesses My Boyfriend To Break Up With Me With Little Warning or Explanation?

Your Answer:

You boyfriend is either afraid, immature,  in denial, cowardly, insensitive, self possessed or a combination of those things and cares so little about your feelings or how this terrible news is going to impact you, he proceeds anyway with giving you the bad news in the hopes of getting it over with as quickly as possible.

As you probably will agree, anytime your boyfriend pulls a stunt like this, there is not just something wrong with the state of the relationship, but there is something wrong with him. Breakups are hard enough to deal with.

When you have to deal with the pain of not knowing what you did wrong (if anything) and why he just dropped you from his life  and gave up on even trying – never mind  his failure to explain why he is behaving with such cruelty – it makes the breakup recovery period all the more difficult.

Why Does It Hurt So Much When Your Boyfriend Breaks Up With You Out of the Blue

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No girl wants to be in the dark.  When your boyfriend leaves you standing alone and wondering “what did I do wrong”, it is a low blow indeed.

Some men cannot seem to grasp how such a break is not just emotionally disabling to his girlfriend, but sets up a bitter conflict for the future.

GET SOME HELP NOW!

Not knowing why your boyfriend broke up with you out of nowhere is a big part of it.  But breaking up no matter the cause or reason, whether it’s shared or not, is always the thing that pulls you way down.

But guess what.  I have some solutions for you!

What Am I To Do When My Ex Boyfriend Suddenly Leaves With Me Without Warning?

This question is the common refrain I hear from women whose boyfriend has left them high and dry with no warning or explanation. These painful questions women ask come in all forms, but there is a common thread. They want to know:

1. What causes a man (or my boyfriend) to abruptly end a relationship that otherwise seemed to be doing well?  I am left holding the pieces in my hand.

2. Why did my boyfriend leave me without explanation or even a note telling me why its over?  It’s unfair and maddening that he would have so little regard about how I felt.

3. Why do guys break up with you for no reason?  They up and call it quits leaving you confused,  blaming yourself, and losing confidence along the way.

4. My boyfriend just left me without telling me and I not sure if I will ever be the same again.

5. My boyfriend just left me without a word, dumping me without an explanation.  He has no idea how humiliating this makes me feel.

Should I Just Tell My Boyfriend I Hate Him For Leaving Me Without Explanation, Completely In the Lurch

Clearly, when break up chaos unfolds in such a way, it is like your heart has been torn from your body. The rejection from your boyfriend leaving is difficult enough to deal with, but to have to spend countless days wondering what happened – what you may have done wrong – and why he could treat you so cruelly just leaves your emotions scattered to to the wind.

But before you do anything, like charging out of the house to confront him or text your boyfriend a dozen times, just take a step back, slow down, and seek ot understand what might cause him to do this.

Because understanding your boyfriend’s reasons for ending the relationship  suddenly, out of the blue, is going to help you with what you decide to do next.

But I Really Want My Boyfriend To Suffer For Breaking Up With Me Suddenly and Leaving Me Heartbroken

I know you feel this way right now and you ought to be mad at him for dumping you unexpectedly.  When a man leaves his girlfriend without telling her why and just goes about his business like nothing is wrong, you may feel like shutting yourself in. You may  start crying uncontrollably or you may even go berserk and try to hunt him down, demanding answers for why he dumped you out of the blue.

My advice is not to give in to those angry voices and passions rising up in you.  Don’t call call your boyfriend insisting on an explanation.  Don’t jump in your car and drive over to his place and throw a fit over him leaving you with no warning or explanation.  Not even a heads up.

Just pull back from all that break up chaos.  Realize what your boyfriend did was a classless act and probably tells you more about who is and what he is about than you realized.

But before passing final judgement on what this guy did to you, seek first to understand his motives and underlying behavior.

Understanding The Reasons Why Men End Relationships Without Warning or Telling You

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For the remainder of this article I am going to be explaining the main reasons why your ex may have ended the relationship without warning or explanation. The topics we will cover are as follows:-

  • The three types of break ups that result in broken hearts without explanation.
  • The relationship status prior to your boyfriend suddenly bolting without warning
  • The feelings that affect his behavior and how they can trigger impulsive decisions.
  • His reasons (logical or not) for avoiding telling you the truth about the breakup.

Let’s just dive right in and start talking about the three different types of breakups,

But before we dive in and talk about why your ex-boyfriend may not have given you an explanation for your breakup, I want to briefly talk about the three different ways your ex-boyfriend can break up without warning.

  1. Ghosting
  2. The nothing break-up
  3. The false truth

What Is Ghosting and How Does It Connect With Your Boyfriend Leaving You With Saying a Word? 

Ghosting is the process of freezing you out, either slowly over a period days or weeks, or alternatively overnight. Either way your ex will be ignoring your efforts to continue the relationship, he won’t respond to texts or phone calls….. he will just vanish, like a ghost.  In many of these cases, you never get an explanation for why he ended the relationship.  It just ends without a note, a message, a phone call, a text, or any other form of communication.

It is like your boyfriend has disappeared  into the night and the relationship between the two of you never existed.  And that is the way he wants it.  To confront any hard truths about himself or you, would mean he has to discuss things and explain things.  And perhaps, he is not that kind of guy who is open with you or himself.  Perhaps your boyfriend is the kind of guy who just would rather delude himself that his actions of breaking it off with you without notice or explanation didn’t hurt anyone, so no one is to blame.

This is perhaps the toughest of the three methods your ex might use to breakup with you without explanation as it can leave you wondering if you are still together.  When your boyfriend just slithers away leaving you completely confused and broken hearted, it adds to the suffering.

You know that already because you are experiencing it first hand.  Your boyfriend has not yet learned this truth, because he is hiding it.  He is avoiding it.  But sooner or later, you ex will have to confront the truth which is he dumped you unceremoniously, completely out of the blue and not only was it a cruel act, but his own guilt will eventually come back to haunt him.

Did Your Boyfriend Pull “The Nothing Breakup” On You?

The nothing breakup is where your ex makes an effort to formally break-up with you but actually provides no reason at all as to why.

The nothing breakup is usually done via email or text message to avoid providing further detail or discussion on the matter.

This naturally will leave you feeling totally confused as to why your relationship has ended.

What Is The False Truth?

The False Truth breakup is where you ex boyfriend breaks-up with you formally but gives you a vague and fictional reason. This might include phrases like :-

  • “It’s not you it’s me”
  • “I need to find myself”
  • “You deserve better”
  • “I like you too much”

All of these are reasons your ex might provide you with to mask the real reason he is breaking up with you.

Reasons For Why Your Ex Boyfriend Will Avoid Explaining Why He Wants To End The Relationship  

Now that we have talked briefly about the methods an ex might employ to avoid explaining a break-up, let us progress to the reasons your ex might quit a relationship without explanation.

Reason #1: Brief Relationships

The first reason that springs to mind when I hear that an ex-boyfriend has ended a relationship without explanation is to blame in on the reasoning that the relationship was brief, hardly worthy of an explanation.  Of course this is a bunch of bull.  You boyfriend knows this and you know this.  But being in a delusional state, he tries to get away with it.  He figures, its better to lean on this reasoning than have to do something this is hard and uncomfortable….like telling my girlfriend why I am breaking up with her.

If you were in a casual relationship, or have only been on a few dates with your ex then it is quite likely that your ex-boyfriend feels that the situation does not warrant a proper breakup or an explanation.

There is a period of time when all couples start seeing each other where they are dating but not yet in a serious relationship.

During this time an ex-boyfriend may feel that giving you an official breakup is inappropriate or weird as it is too soon to require it.

If you were in a texting relationship or had only met face to face a handful of times then it is very common that an ex-boyfriend will end the relationship by ghosting for this reason. If you are in this situation then your key area of focus should be on building much more attraction with your ex-boyfriend.

Reason #2: Was Friends With Benefits The Excuse Your Ex Boyfriend Used? 

I always recommend that people steer clear of friends with benefits arrangements as they are neither friendly nor beneficial. I recommend not becoming friends with benefits because it is so easy to “catch a case of the feels” and then someone gets hurt.

Men and women view sex very differently in the friends with benefits situation, most women link having sex to developing feelings…. whereas for a man, having sex is linked to wanting more sex.

In a friends with benefits situation this can often lead to a mismatch of expectations in the relationship status as time goes by.

If you were in a friends with benefits arrangement with a guy and he ended it without an explanation it is likely that he noticed a shift in your desire for a more traditional relationship.

Due to the casual nature of your relationship he may not have felt you were owed a formal breakup, this is especially true if he had been clear at the start that he did not want a relationship.

If you were in a friends with benefits relationship then I recommend you focus on building mutual respect and demonstrating the values he wants in a girlfriend going forward, this is because the attraction and rapport is already in place to some degree.

Reason #3: Does He Think The On/Off Relationship Gives Him License To Act So Cruelly?

This reason is exactly how it sounds. If you and your ex-boyfriend have broken up before then there is a good chance that your ex believes you have talked through your problems and tried to resolve the issues enough times before.

Under circumstances where you have had multiple breakups with your ex it is very likely that he believes that everything that can be discussed, has been discussed already and that there is no benefit in having the same conversation repeatedly.

I remember a time when I broke up with someone many years ago and we got back together a few times. Over the holidays they rang every single day to try and negotiate their way out of a breakup. Eventually I stopped answering their calls because I found it annoying but also because everything about the relationship had already been discussed many times…. I had no new information I could give them.

If you have broken up with your ex-boyfriend several times before, he may think that you don’t need an explanation as you have already had one and know everything there is to know.

The Feelings That Affects Your Boyfriend’s Behavior To Leave You Without Telling You

As with most breakup behaviors, your ex-boyfriend tends to be driven by how he feels more than what he thinks.

This is the next area we will cover to help you understand which emotions affect his decision to avoid explaining your breakup.

Uncertainty May Rule Your Man’s Mind

Sometimes an ex-boyfriend will breakup with you out of the blue and not explain why because he doesn’t know.

That’s right, sometimes an ex can’t explain why they are breaking up with you because they don’t have a tangible reason.

I’ve been in situations before where I have ended a relationship without explanation because I wasn’t sure why it needed to end; I just knew it didn’t feel right on some level.

Trying to explain that you are ending a relationship for no reason, other than you feel you should is extremely difficult, as such your ex may avoid having the break-up and closure conversation altogether.

If an ex-breaks up with you out of uncertainty I would class this as a general breakup possibly paired with some personal issues on his part and would recommend you follow the standard Ex-Boyfriend Recovery plan to win your ex back.

Selfish As It Is Your Ex Boyfriend May Fear Hurting Himself

This reason may sound strange but an ex-boyfriend may actually feel hurt when breaking up with you. When a relationship begins to deteriorate and communication turns sour, both parties can say or do very hurtful things in the lead up to the breakup.

If this has happened then there is a possibility that your ex is avoiding explaining the breakup because he is also hurt by what has happened in the proceeding days or weeks.

Discussing his reasons for the breakup will only refresh in his mind the hurtful or disrespectful events that have occurred and he doesn’t feel he can deal with it.

You Guy May Think He Is Being Ruled By Kindness

This one probably seems bizarre, but sometimes an ex-boyfriend may breakup with you without explanation because they feel it is kinder.

When you break-up with someone, deep down you know that whatever reason you give is going to hurt their feelings.

Sometimes an ex-boyfriend can think it is in your best interests to shield your from their reasoning.

If your ex avoids talking to you about the break-up out of kindness then that is good news, clearly he thinks highly of you and cares about your feelings.

The Truth is Often Your Boyfriend Was Unable to Confront His Fear

An ex-boyfriend can breakup with you and avoid telling you the reason why out of fear.

Assuming this is not your ex-boyfriends first relationship he is going to have been through breakups before and even if he hasn’t he knows people who have.

Men know that when they breakup with a woman, there is the potential for the situation to become very messy and that there is a high risk of drama.

Maybe his ex-girlfriends became angry or desperate, maybe they pleaded and cried for hours, if anything like this has happened in the past he will be scared that this might happen with you as well.
When an ex-boyfriend is scared he will either ghost you or give you a false reason for the breakup because he feels you are unable to handle the real explanation.

Breakups of this nature are usually driven by your ex’s perception of your insecurity so that is a key area for you to work on.

He Was Feeling Guilt So Your Ex Just Skipped Out

The next reason an ex might end a relationship and not explain why is guilt.

Your ex-boyfriend may avoid telling you the reason for the breakup because his reasoning is something he knows is not pleasant.

Unexplained guilty breakups tend to be caused by secret affairs, other female temptation that he has yet to act on, or sometimes thoughts that he feels are shallow.

Perhaps he thinks you have let yourself go or that he can meet someone better.

Regardless of the details, these breakups are nearly always driven by infidelity or shallow judgement.

If you fall into this category, definitely focus on self improvement and building more attraction with your ex.

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Logical Reasons To Avoid The Breakup

There are some occasions where your ex-boyfriend’s decision to bypass the breakup explanation is driven by logic and I have listed two situations where that might be the case.

He Is Afraid of a Break Up Negotiation

Earlier on we talked about how your ex-boyfriends previous breakups give him an insight as to how you might take the news. When a couple break-up it is almost always true that the person being dumped tries to use logic to win their ex back.

Your ex-boyfriend will probably have experienced this before, it is really common for an ex-girlfriend to try and negotiate her way back into a relationship.

This is done by taking an ex-boyfriends reasons for a breakup and using logic to try and talk him out of the decision; providing counter reasoning to his desire to end the relationship and usually offering to change to make the relationship work.

This in itself isn’t so bad however your ex-boyfriend will have experienced this approach before and most likely seen that even when he has given a girl a second shot, nothing has changed.

For this reason an ex-boyfriend might avoid explaining a break-up to stop you from finding ways to negotiate a comeback.

You Boyfriend Just Didn’t Want Any Long Discussions (No autopsies)

I get it…. Some people love closure. They love to dissect a breakup and understand it from every angle, it helps them feel better.

The thing is, not everyone feels that way. Speaking from my own experience I really don’t like talking about a breakup when I am having one, I don’t want to think of all the reasons I don’t want to be with someone anymore.

For this reason, I have always had a no autopsy approach to breakups. I don’t have closure chats whether I am on the giving or receiving end of a breakup, I prefer to focus on what is best for me from that point on rather than reflect on the past.

For me personally I don’t find it constructive to talk about the breakup at length, it makes me feel worse….

I don’t like discussing the breakup and watching someone get upset. I find it unpleasant to see someone I care about feeling hurt. When I breakup with someone I don’t want to be reminded of the good times we had together as it makes me feel like I’m a bad person for initiating the breakup…. The reality is I don’t want to think about the breakup at all at that point in time.

It could be that your ex-boyfriend also has this same “No autopsy” approach to ending a relationship and that is why he has given you no explanation about your breakup.

Summary

Whether your ex has ghosted you or formally broken up with you, there is always a good reason that drives him to avoid explaining why your relationship is over.

The reasons can be driven by anything from the length time you were together, to not wanting to hurt your feelings.

Whatever your ex-boyfriend’s reasons for the breakup, it is clear that right now he is not ready to open up to you.

If your ex is avoiding explaining the break-up then you should avoid pushing him for an answer, the best thing you can do is continue with your no-contact period and work on becoming the best version of yourself so that you can to help attract him back when the time is right.

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Written by EBR Teamate

Chris Seiter

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Jayne
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I dated my ex for 6 months but we had known each other for nearly 25 years, it was a ldr of some 3000kms, we seemed to be good although he came on pretty strong as did l, (yep, passion crash and burn) bought me presents, paid for me to fly over to see him, told me l was amazing and that he loved me, we both had an awesome time! He started to shift the goalposts (even though he continued to ring me every night) saying he was looking forward to ‘me time’ after getting out of a 12… Read more »
Hannah
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Hi, just wondering if you could give some insights into the quiz on your chances of getting back with an ex? Is there an ideal percentage that has a high likelihood of getting back together? What’s the number that you’d recommend to move on? I got 43, does that mean I should give up? Looking forward to your reply!

Ronena
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I can relate to this article but it hurt so much he left me for not logical reasons after telling me that he is ready to take our relationship into the next step in the same month he left me I was in a very good 5 years relationship I don’t know what to do I talked to him several times and nothing changed all of his friends are telling me that he is fine and not even sad a little, this is another thing that I cannot handle I am not talking about a month or year we was… Read more »
amy
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Hi! So I need some desperate help with my ex situation! This is probably WAAAY too much info – but I’m desperate A quick recap on our relationship and what happened through the last 6 months of our relationship was unbearable. Basically he is an elite sportsman and so am I. From the very beginning he chased me for a year, he asked me to be his girlfriend after a month or so of dating, he said I love you first, he asked me to move in after 3 months (I didn’t until we were together 6 months) we only… Read more »
Lola
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Hi, Could you advise me what should I do in my case. My ex broke up with me 1 year ago. Since that time we were always in touch, sometimes pretending to be friends but most of the time just arguing. but still we were pretty close. After 8 months I got into relationship with his friend, not very close but still friend. We kept it secret and during this time I didn’t want to talk to my ex and I was in no contact for about month. I texted him after a month to ask for my money back… Read more »
Cara
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Hi,
Isn’t one major reason guys break up without an explanation is because they want the opportunity to COME BACK in case it doesn’t work out with some other girl or they work out their issues? In other words other guy friends have told me that most guys will NEVER burn a bridge if they think they can get sex from an ex girlfriend? Is that true and then how does one reconcile that with if they do come back…it doesn’t feel good to know they only saw you as a option?

Bianca
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I had been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. My boyfriend recently just broke up with me at random, I had seen him on Thursday night and everything fine he was normal and happy and we were happy he told me he loved me and nothing could seriously have been any better. After I left I hadn’t been receiving texts from him as well as him not returning my calls. I got scared and began to constantly call and text because I was confused and didn’t know what was going on. I ended up venting to a friend and… Read more »
Bianca
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I had been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. My boyfriend recently just broke up with me at random, I had seen him on Thursday night and everything fine he was normal and happy and we were happy he told me he loved me and nothing could seriously have been any better. After I left I hadn’t been receiving texts from him as well as him not returning my calls. I got scared and began to constantly call and text because I was confused and didn’t know what was going on. I ended up venting to a friend and… Read more »
Misunderstood
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I feel hurt that someone broke up with me out of the blue. Since I feel like I tried to be the best girlfriend I can be, why would I want someone who could not respect me enough without giving me a proper explaination. It seems like we have always change and alter ourselves for someone’s liking. I just wanted and deserved an explanation. There is no reason to attempt to win him back.

Misunderstood
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I feel hurt that someone broke up with me out of the blue. Since I feel like I tried to be the best girlfriend I can be, why would I want someone who could not respect me enough without giving me a proper explaination. It seems like we have always change and alter ourselves for someone’s liking. I just wanted and deserved an explanation. There is no reason to attempt to win him back.

Eliza
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I think this website have all the excuses to don’t move forward, it is really wrong to make a plan to win someone back, someone should chose to be with you, you don’t need a plan or anything. Best advice MOVE ON !!! You don’t deserve this, why would you want to be with someone without the bravery or empathy to talk to you like a normal mature person, be free!! Lots of great guys out there. You should focus your effort in self love and understanding of the situation to move forward. Don’t make the same mistake twice.

Eliza
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I think this website have all the excuses to don’t move forward, it is really wrong to make a plan to win someone back, someone should chose to be with you, you don’t need a plan or anything. Best advice MOVE ON !!! You don’t deserve this, why would you want to be with someone without the bravery or empathy to talk to you like a normal mature person, be free!! Lots of great guys out there. You should focus your effort in self love and understanding of the situation to move forward. Don’t make the same mistake twice.

m
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hi, I was in relationship with this guy for 7months, before that datd him for 4 months. we fought last two months, he tried, I tried but because of my insecurities , I blew it. now he doesnot want to be in a relationship. he is going through a rough patch , want to focus on himself. how to get him back. I have begged and pleaded, still answer is no

m
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hi , I have been into a 8 month relationship with this guy, I proposed him . he was very sweet and caring frst , then after some months , I got insecure , I never met his frnds formally , though he said they know about me. two three months back our fights got worse. we used to fight for small things, I told him about my insecurities , he said he couldnot help me , I will only have to overcome them. he used to help frst , now heis also going through a rough patch in his… Read more »
m
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hi, I was in relationship with this guy for 7months, before that datd him for 4 months. we fought last two months, he tried, I tried but because of my insecurities , I blew it. now he doesnot want to be in a relationship. he is going through a rough patch , want to focus on himself. how to get him back. I have begged and pleaded, still answer is no

m
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hi , I have been into a 8 month relationship with this guy, I proposed him . he was very sweet and caring frst , then after some months , I got insecure , I never met his frnds formally , though he said they know about me. two three months back our fights got worse. we used to fight for small things, I told him about my insecurities , he said he couldnot help me , I will only have to overcome them. he used to help frst , now heis also going through a rough patch in his… Read more »
Madri
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Hi, my ex and I have been dating for 5 years, everything was going well and we were happy, or at least I was. His behavior changed for about a week and he started to avoid me then he broke up with me saying he’s unhappy and this is all he could think that would make it better. After a few days he said he made a mistake and just needed space, in the meantime I should go out with friends and do things I like. I did that and ran into him one night when I was out with… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Madri,

Did he meet somebody else, or did something new?

Madri
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Hi, my ex and I have been dating for 5 years, everything was going well and we were happy, or at least I was. His behavior changed for about a week and he started to avoid me then he broke up with me saying he’s unhappy and this is all he could think that would make it better. After a few days he said he made a mistake and just needed space, in the meantime I should go out with friends and do things I like. I did that and ran into him one night when I was out with… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Madri,

Did he meet somebody else, or did something new?

Emma
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Hi My boyfriend and I had been together almost 4 years, we were looking to buy a house together actually was in the process of buying, all of a sudden he went into a deep depression and lost himself and had become boring as he was working lots of hours to get the deposit for the house, out of the blew the other week he ended it saying his feelings have changed for me and he doesn’t love me anymore. Is this actually the case or has he just lost himself within the relationship? Will he come back to me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emma,

it’s not a guarantee to work in any situation but it increases your chances.. maybe he got overwhelmed realizing the weight of responsibility in paying a house..

Emma
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Hi My boyfriend and I had been together almost 4 years, we were looking to buy a house together actually was in the process of buying, all of a sudden he went into a deep depression and lost himself and had become boring as he was working lots of hours to get the deposit for the house, out of the blew the other week he ended it saying his feelings have changed for me and he doesn’t love me anymore. Is this actually the case or has he just lost himself within the relationship? Will he come back to me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emma,

it’s not a guarantee to work in any situation but it increases your chances.. maybe he got overwhelmed realizing the weight of responsibility in paying a house..

katey
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Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been on an on/off relationship. We had an argument on thr 3rd of November and we haven’t spoken since. I’ve learnt from this happening in the past it’s better not to contact him. Will going NC make him reply to me? Never gone this long without talking to him and he’s usually text me by now. I’m worried he’s ghosting me and we’re splitting up for good. Please help me!!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Katey,

it helps increase your chances, but it’s not a guarantee.. how active are you in improving yourself and in posting?

katey
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Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been on an on/off relationship. We had an argument on thr 3rd of November and we haven’t spoken since. I’ve learnt from this happening in the past it’s better not to contact him. Will going NC make him reply to me? Never gone this long without talking to him and he’s usually text me by now. I’m worried he’s ghosting me and we’re splitting up for good. Please help me!!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Katey,

it helps increase your chances, but it’s not a guarantee.. how active are you in improving yourself and in posting?

KATHY
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Hi, I want to know if my ex still love me and really mean what he said. We broke up two weeks ago. His reason was I am not fit to be with him in the future and honestly I didnt know why. But after he texed me that he inboxed me and said that He couldn’t live with his decisions. Should I reply or move on?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kathy,

Do you want to try the no contact rule?

KATHY
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Hi, I want to know if my ex still love me and really mean what he said. We broke up two weeks ago. His reason was I am not fit to be with him in the future and honestly I didnt know why. But after he texed me that he inboxed me and said that He couldn’t live with his decisions. Should I reply or move on?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kathy,

Do you want to try the no contact rule?

S
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My bf and I dated for almost 2 years. We were in the on and off relationship. We had a fight last week, and he just stopped replying. It wasn’t a big fight, we had worse fights and we still moved pass it. But this time, its been 9 days. I texted him on day 2 about the dinner plan we had, day 3 to apologise, day 4 to tell him he can go if he wants, i just need a proper closure, just drop me a text, i dont need reasons/explanation either. but nothing, no reply at all. Is… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Yup that’s ghosting and yes, stick to at least 30 days

S
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I broke no contact on day 14, to ask for a closure.
Spent the whole day trying to apologise and convince him otherwise, but he said he’s done.
But I can tell he’s doing it to spite me.
What do I do now? restart NC for 30 days?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Yup..

S
Guest
Thanks for replying me Amor. I’m feeling really confused now. I broke NC on day 14 to ask for closure, hoping I would feel better and I can move on. But I ended up with all the blames, and i started begging for 2 days. He replied me but mainly to tell me that he’s done and I’ve been a horrible gf. Now I feel even worse. and I regretted breaking NC. I was already half way through, only half way to go. I’ve stopped texting him as of yesterday. What should I do now, and what are my chances… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You need to restart 30 days.. Your chances increase and depend on you.. If you change and improve..and be active in posting

S
Guest

Thanks for the reply Amor,

On NC day 3 now, trying to change and improve and been posting! : )

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s good!

S
Guest
My bf and I dated for almost 2 years. We were in the on and off relationship. We had a fight last week, and he just stopped replying. It wasn’t a big fight, we had worse fights and we still moved pass it. But this time, its been 9 days. I texted him on day 2 about the dinner plan we had, day 3 to apologise, day 4 to tell him he can go if he wants, i just need a proper closure, just drop me a text, i dont need reasons/explanation either. but nothing, no reply at all. Is… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Yup that’s ghosting and yes, stick to at least 30 days

S
Guest

I broke no contact on day 14, to ask for a closure.
Spent the whole day trying to apologise and convince him otherwise, but he said he’s done.
But I can tell he’s doing it to spite me.
What do I do now? restart NC for 30 days?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Yup..

S
Guest
Thanks for replying me Amor. I’m feeling really confused now. I broke NC on day 14 to ask for closure, hoping I would feel better and I can move on. But I ended up with all the blames, and i started begging for 2 days. He replied me but mainly to tell me that he’s done and I’ve been a horrible gf. Now I feel even worse. and I regretted breaking NC. I was already half way through, only half way to go. I’ve stopped texting him as of yesterday. What should I do now, and what are my chances… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You need to restart 30 days.. Your chances increase and depend on you.. If you change and improve..and be active in posting

S
Guest

Thanks for the reply Amor,

On NC day 3 now, trying to change and improve and been posting! : )

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s good!

Vivi
Guest

What do you do if your in a on/off again relationship. And he breaks up with you because the last break up hurted him too much to forgive you?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

How many times have you broken up?

Vivi
Guest

A few times, but the last one he was extremely angry and saying a bunch of hurtful things including ‘ I’m nothing to him ‘ and saying he was seeing some. ( he’s never done that before to me ) so I can only guess he said those things because he was hurt. After that I successfully did the 45 day no contact. And afterwards he responded and we got back together, but a couple weeks later this all happened. I don’t know what to do.

Vivi
Guest

Also before he broke up with me our last conversation he admitted to me that he loves me a lot and was a lil afraid to lose me. So I’m a little confused to why he even broke up with me.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

So, he broke up with you now because the break up before this still hurts him? Why? What happened in that break up? Did you cheat? Did he lose trust in you because of something else?

Vivi
Guest
Well just so you know we were also engaged and have been throughout this on and off relationship. But no I’ve never cheated on him before ( although he does think that it is possible that I WOULD cheat on him; he actually broke up with me the first time because of that ). And what’s different the last break up was I was actually successfull in the NC for 45 days. I’ve done NC for like 30 days, but in the middle I’d re-friend him on fb and appearantly you can’t even do that. But I truly don’t know… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

okay.. do this one the proper way.. straight 45 days with no adding him, liking nor commenting back, no texting nor replying.. Make it look like you’re really moving on.. just don’t post anything that’s too forward with somebody else.

Vivi
Guest

What do you do if your in a on/off again relationship. And he breaks up with you because the last break up hurted him too much to forgive you?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

How many times have you broken up?

Vivi
Guest

A few times, but the last one he was extremely angry and saying a bunch of hurtful things including ‘ I’m nothing to him ‘ and saying he was seeing some. ( he’s never done that before to me ) so I can only guess he said those things because he was hurt. After that I successfully did the 45 day no contact. And afterwards he responded and we got back together, but a couple weeks later this all happened. I don’t know what to do.

Vivi
Guest

Also before he broke up with me our last conversation he admitted to me that he loves me a lot and was a lil afraid to lose me. So I’m a little confused to why he even broke up with me.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

So, he broke up with you now because the break up before this still hurts him? Why? What happened in that break up? Did you cheat? Did he lose trust in you because of something else?

Vivi
Guest
Well just so you know we were also engaged and have been throughout this on and off relationship. But no I’ve never cheated on him before ( although he does think that it is possible that I WOULD cheat on him; he actually broke up with me the first time because of that ). And what’s different the last break up was I was actually successfull in the NC for 45 days. I’ve done NC for like 30 days, but in the middle I’d re-friend him on fb and appearantly you can’t even do that. But I truly don’t know… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

okay.. do this one the proper way.. straight 45 days with no adding him, liking nor commenting back, no texting nor replying.. Make it look like you’re really moving on.. just don’t post anything that’s too forward with somebody else.

emily
Guest

Hi, I want to know if my ex bf doesn’t reply my text (even doesn’t open it) on snapchat. Should I text him again? If yes how days or weeks to text him again?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Initiate again after a week.. If he still doesn’t reply, initiate after two weeks. If he still doesn’t reply that means you have to move on

Nicole
Guest
Hi! First off I would like to Thank the EBR team! You are amazing and your posts really make me think differently about things… I see everything clearer and open minded thanks to you guys. In the beginning of June my ex broke up with me… basically with the fake it´s not you it´s me , you deserve better blah blah blah, I begged and pleaded for a few days only to find out he was immediately interested already in another girl (hopefully a rebound). I started no contact. During no contact, he asked my friend about me , how… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You should start to initiate and slowly build rapport

emily
Guest

Hi, I want to know if my ex bf doesn’t reply my text (even doesn’t open it) on snapchat. Should I text him again? If yes how days or weeks to text him again?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Initiate again after a week.. If he still doesn’t reply, initiate after two weeks. If he still doesn’t reply that means you have to move on

Nicole
Guest
Hi! First off I would like to Thank the EBR team! You are amazing and your posts really make me think differently about things… I see everything clearer and open minded thanks to you guys. In the beginning of June my ex broke up with me… basically with the fake it´s not you it´s me , you deserve better blah blah blah, I begged and pleaded for a few days only to find out he was immediately interested already in another girl (hopefully a rebound). I started no contact. During no contact, he asked my friend about me , how… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You should start to initiate and slowly build rapport