By Chris Seiter

Updated on August 17th, 2021

Today, we’re going to talk about social media posts or statuses that can make your ex jealous.

Now, as always, we try to make this an all encompassing guide on jealousy through social media.

So ideally, every thing that we’re talking about today can be used on a wide variety of different social media platforms from Instagram to Facebook, to TikTok, Snapchat, you name it.

We’re trying to be all inclusive, but at the same time, we’re also trying to take from him real life experiences that our clients are actually experiencing. So every single status that we’re going to be listing here today has not just been pulled randomly from a hat.

We’ve actually surveyed our audience and tried to figure out exactly what sort of posts that they use ended up eliciting jealousy. So if you aren’t familiar, one of the reasons that we feel our program is one of the best in the world is because we give you access to a special private Facebook support group.

And the Facebook support group as of today has over 6,100 members in it.

So what I usually do sometimes when I want real life data from real life people going through breakups and what’s working to get their exes back is I’ll survey the Facebook group.

I’ll simply ask them a question and that’s exactly what I did here.

I went to the Facebook group with over 6,100 different men and women, and asked them the simple question of, what were some of the best statuses that you posted that eventually made your ex jealous on social media?

And we got over 22 answers as of right now and it’s still growing.

But I went ahead and found there are certain patterns that are beginning to emerge, specifically nine patterns that we noticed emerge. So what I’d like to do is take a real live status update or picture, or post via social media that our clients have used and elicited jealousy.

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The 9 Statuses That Can Make Your Ex Jealous

So like I said, nine different statuses or posts that can make your ex jealous.

So let’s briefly cover what those are.

  1. The Sports Montage Post
  2. The Holy Trinity Ungettable Post
  3. The Food Jealousy Post
  4. The Drink Jealousy Post
  5. The Mirror Selfie In A Bar Post
  6. The Going Out On Their Birthday Post
  7. The Having Fun With Someone Else Post
  8. The Killing It At Work Post
  9. The Look Where I Am Post.

So what I’m going to do is briefly talk about what each one of these looks like and means.

So let’s start from the top and talk about the sports montage post.

The Sports Montage Post

The sports montage post was posted in our Facebook support group by a woman named Amy who basically said roughly two and a half weeks into her no contact, she posted like one of those montage on Instagram that kind of allows you to post multiple pictures at once with her football girls.

Now she is in the UK and football is commonly referred to in America as soccer.

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So basically she posted football/soccer posts of her since she’s on a soccer team.

And this definitely elicited a reaction from her ex. And she says that it wasn’t even to get him to feel that I was finally comfortable. I think by natural progress, it happened and showed through and it got a lot of attention including his.

So what do we learn from Amy here?

Well, we learned that being active is important.

So especially if you’re not a very confident person or you’re trying to rebuild your confidence sometimes entering into a sports league and posting photos of yourself in that sports league can be a really, really good idea.

Also, it has the added benefit and probably my best recommendation is Amy already was part of a soccer league. But what sometimes is interesting is there’s these leagues in America and I’m not really sure how the UK works exactly. But when I was in college, we had something called coed softball.

So basically it was like softball, sort of like baseball, except the underhand softball thing, where you were allowed to have teams made up of both males and females. So one of the smartest things you can do is posting sort of team pictures, or you sort of doing awesome things on the field, like these montage things, but also with members of the opposite sex to elicit some of that jealousy within your ex. And as you can see, it can be an incredibly effective approach.

The Holy Trinity Ungettable Post

Next, we have the Holy Trinity ungettable posts and this one comes to us directly from a woman named Amanda who says, “I can’t do the jealousy posts as it will 100% backfire being used on my ex. I know him, but simply me being UG,” which is sort of an acronym for ungettable. “And sharing great pics on social media helped my case a lot. And he wants me back.”

So this is kind of interesting because really what she’s talking about with the ungettable posts, I think has more to do with sort of the Holy Trinity concept.

Now, the Holy Trinity, if you’re not familiar, is this concept that I came up with in 2013 or 2014 within the infancy of ex-boyfriend recovery, where I basically was trying to explain to people how they should be using or structuring their time during a no contact rule.

And I said, really, what you’re going to want to do is divide your life up into three distinct aspects:

  1. Health
  2. Wealth
  3. Relationships

Now in a perfect world, we would be able to balance our time in each of these areas and live a very balanced sort of transcended lifestyle. But what tends to happen during breakups is we put so much focus on the relationships portion of our Holy Trinity concept or categories that we kind of neglect the others.

And this kind of bleeds through to the others as well.

So imagine you go through a breakup, you’re very depressed about the breakup, very upset about the breakup.

And as a result you decide, I don’t really want to go for a run today, or I’m not really feeling like eating healthy today. I just want to eat something that can help distract myself from thinking about the breakup. Well, all of a sudden the breakup has negatively impacted your health and that kind of forces you to snowball.

And you sort of at work decide, I don’t really want to work really hard today, or I don’t really care about going into work. I’m going to stop going to work. And let’s say your boss calls and you get reprimanded and all of a sudden this negative relationship aspects can negatively impact your wealth as well.

So what’s interesting though, is the opposite is also true.

You can actually improve all the areas of your Holy Trinity by focus on the corresponding different or parallel area to the Holy Trinity. So let’s say for example, you’re really depressed, and you’ve sort of hit rock bottom. Instead of feeling like, oh my goodness, I’ve hit rock bottom.

Your attitude should be, oh yes, I’ve hit rock bottom. There’s only one way to go: up. And so you get to work, but you don’t get to work by focusing on obsessing about your ex. You get to work by focusing on obsessing about areas that you have full control over. Health, wealth, things like that.

And so what happens is you use the momentum you build from focusing on health and focusing on doing a good job at creating wealth, that it sort of bleeds over into relationships and relationships in and of itself doesn’t have to just be about your ex. It can be about your relationship with your family, your relationship with friends, relationship with support groups.

There’s a lot of different ways that we can kind of look at relationships. But the idea is by focusing on all the areas of the Holy Trinity that you have really positive control over, you can actually positively impact your relationship with your ex. And one of the cool ways that you can do this is through social media status updates that can ultimately make your ex jealous.

Because what you’re going to find out is a common theme here is your ex has a certain narrative that they’ve built in whenever you go through a breakup. So the narrative usually goes something like this.

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They want me back, they’re going to get so depressed without me. So if you actually do the opposite of that and show them you’re doing the opposite of that by posting on social media, by posting really cool health updates, really cool wealth updates, really cool relationship updates with family and friends.

All of a sudden this narrative is sort of proven wrong, and this interests your ex again, and also makes them a little jealous because they in turn are still very hurt by the breakup.

The Food Jealousy Post

All right, so next we have the food jealousy post. And this comes to us from a woman named Velis who basically said, “I posted a jealousy picture of a Caesar salad made by me. Two plates. I was with a friend of mine, two glasses of white wine on my balcony. I posted it as a story on Instagram on day 21 of no contact. And he replied to it. After we started meeting again, he told me that this made him jealous.”

So this is actually a variation of something that I talk actually a ton about on some of the jealousy posts that I’ve written for ex-boyfriend recovery.

And this is sort of the subtle jealousy dig. So the story behind this one is basically one of my very first coaching clients when I was talking to them, she told me the story. And the story was that she posted a picture on Facebook. I think it was where she was on a date, but it wasn’t with a romantic partner.

It was just basically kind of like a meetup. So she posts a picture of her food and the meetup she has with this friend, the friend’s arm happens to be in the picture. And she was literally just trying to … She’s like one of those food blogger type people. So she was really just trying to focus on the food, but because the guy’s arm was in the picture, her ex literally went ballistic on her.

And I actually said, hey, do you mind if I tell that story to the Facebook group? And when I told people in the Facebook group, they loved it and started implementing it on their exes. And as you can see from Vellus here, it still is very effective. So what she basically did was she made a Caesar salad.

She doesn’t say or clarify if … She mentions that she was with a friend, but she doesn’t mention if the friend was pictured in it. So you can even go more subtle with this where you just, there’s two Caesar salads, and you’re just posting the picture of the Caesar salads, but you don’t actually need to see the other person at all.

And that can be incredibly effective at making an ex jealous because ultimately they’ll start to wonder, are they on a date with someone else who is this other food for, she can’t possibly be eating two Caesar salads herself.

So that’s how that works.

The Drink Jealousy Post

And the next type of jealousy post is actually called the drink jealousy post. And this is actually basically an identical version of what Vellus basically said, except we’re going to feature sort of a success story here named Susan.

Now, Susan basically says, “I’m not sure if you’re looking for pics, but this got my ERP guy back together, asking if I was on a hot date on my social media picture thread.” And she was actually kind enough to include a picture, which is basically just two drinks.

And you can actually see it appears like they’re at a bar somewhere. You can sort of see the bar set up behind the drinks, but there’s no guy pictured at all.

So it’s implied that she’s on a date with someone else, but it’s not so in your face. So as you can see, that sort of subtle jealousy idea through food or even drinks can be an incredibly effective motivator in making an ex jealous.

And the clear indication here is that I’m a big fan of subtle jealousy because I think ultimately people would use jealousy on them if they are prone to jealousy.

They are more tormented by the narrative that they create in their heads than by actually seeing something in the flesh, so to speak. So if you usually post a picture of you and another guy, and we’re actually going to feature that in a little bit here, you’ll find it’s sometimes not as effective as being more subtle.

And the reasoning behind that is because with some subtlety where it’s implied you’re on a date, but not explicitly stated you’re on a date, they allow their minds to run wild and ultimately become more and more jealous and really think about you more. And that’s ultimately what you want to have happen.

The Mirror Selfie In A Bar Post

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All right, the next social media status update or post that we’re going to feature here is called the mirror selfie in a bar post. And this is actually going to come to us from a woman named Emily, who basically said, “I posted a mirror selfie of me dressed up in a bar. He messaged me two minutes after he saw it asking if I was on a date and said, I looked good.”

So this is even a further variation of sort of the food jealousy posts, the drink jealousy posts. And I want you to notice really the pattern that’s exhibiting here is subtlety seems to be the key. But also when you’re taking the mirror selfie in a bar post, the important thing here is the location.

We always have a certain stereotypical idea of what locations entail. I think nothing sort of illustrates this better than a show like The Bachelor. The Bachelor, The Bachelorette, they take the contestants on these incredible dates and some of the most incredible romantic locations.

And while I wouldn’t say a bar is an incredibly romantic location, what it does have a stereotype for is, hey, this is typically where men and women first meet when they’re beginning to learn about each other.

This is where men and women go out with friends to pick up people and sometimes even have one night stands and that can actually play into the jealousy factor. So if he sees you looking really good in a mirror selfie, posting a selfie in a mirror, but it’s also clearly shown in the background that you’re kind of at a bar, yeah, that can be an incredibly effective way of becoming jealous. And I would say this is like a really forceful, subtle jealousy.

And you’ll notice even Emily said, he messaged her two minutes after he saw it, asking if she was on a date and that she looked good.

So as you can see, it’s incredibly effective if you pull this off right.

So I think it goes without saying, you want to look your best in the mirror selfie, you want to make sure it’s explicitly shown that you’re at a bar without being so obvious about the bar. So really the key to subtlety is it’s never in your face. So the key here is really, she’s not taking a picture of herself and she is, but she’s not.

She’s taking a picture of herself and the fact that she’s at a bar, but the irony here is the mirror shows that she’s at the bar. The mirror is what sort of shows the location that you want your ex to see and be driven wild from.

The Going Out On Their Birthday Post

All right, the next one is called the going out on their birthday post. And this comes to us from a woman named Paula, who basically says, “I was going out for drinks with some friends on his birthday. Unintentional jealousy post as I thought I was still blocked at the time. Wink.”

Okay. So there’s actually two layers going on here.

Most of the time, when we get questions about exes and birthdays, it happens during the no contact rule. So if you aren’t familiar with the no contact rule, it’s a period of time where you’re ignoring your ex and you’re supposed to be using that time to outgrow your ex.

But oftentimes women and men get so hung up on the fact that they’re going to hurt their ex’s feelings if they don’t wish their ex a happy birthday, if their ex’s birthday falls in the midst of that no contact rule.

And it’s always like the bane of my existence, I’ve even done entire podcast episodes, I think even entire posts talking about why it’s important not to break the no contact rule for a simple birthday sort of greeting.

And oftentimes it’s because wishing your ex a happy birthday does not advance you at all. All it does is show that you’re thinking a lot about them. Instead, I actually think a smart approach would be doing what Paula does. Imagine this. Imagine you are so busy, you forget it’s your ex’s birthday. You’re busy living your life and having fun.

So you actually go out with friends, not necessarily to a bar, but it could just be at a restaurant. You’re going out, meeting up with friends at this restaurant, or even a bar for drinks. And you’re posting pictures on your ex’s birthday. Now this can be taken two different ways from an ex.

The first way is the most common way, which will be your ex is so wrapped up into what you’re doing, they kind of forget the fact that maybe you’re doing it to get their attention. So that’s the first way.

The second way is they just literally think you’re doing it to get their attention. So you need to really have a good handle on the type of person your ex is and how they’ll react to jealousy if you use it.

Now, the idea here is by going out, having fun with friends, you’re kind of hitting the relationships aspect of the Holy Trinity. But at the same time, what you’re also doing is showing your ex that you’re having a good time on their birthday.

And it’s also kind of showing your ex, hey, this is what you’re missing out on. We could have had a good time on your birthday. Instead, I’m replacing you with my friends. This is a less subtle form of jealousy. But again, it was incredibly effective for Paula who said her ex got jealous and she thought she was blocked at the time.

The Having Fun With Someone Else Post

All right, next, we have the having fun with someone else post.

And this one is coming to us from a woman named Katie, which basically says, “I posted a picture of me laughing with a male friend.” All right.

So here we have our form of direct jealousy via social media. The way this works is pretty simple. You with a platonic male friend, have someone take a picture of the two of you sharing a laugh. That’s it. But this is a direct form of jealousy. My advice always would be if you want to make your ex jealous, and this is your primary directive on what you’re doing.

First approach it through indirect means, through subtle means.

So try to make your ex jealous through some of those Holy Trinity posts, through the food jealousy, drink jealousy, mirror and the selfie post, even the going out on the birthday post is pretty subtle.

But the second you actually include a member of the opposite sex that your ex or someone that your ex could potentially become jealous of in the picture, even if you’re not “making out” with them and doing ridiculous things romantically with them, this is still a form of direct jealousy because it looks like you are trying to make them jealous.

But you can not deny the effectiveness. So it really depends on the type of person your ex is.

And also it depends on the type of person you are.

And I say that because if you have a history of posting pictures with other guys having fun, purely platonic, there’s nothing wrong with that.

In fact, this type of a post fits right in tandem with your previous history of posts. So it kind of just looks like you’ve picked right back up where you left off before you started dating your ex.

The Killing It At Work Post

And the next one we have is called the killing it at work post.

Now this one’s kind of a fun one because it directly hits on the wealth aspect of the Holy Trinity. And it comes to us from a woman named Carmen who basically said, “I posted a pic of my first week back in the office that got a ton of attention. He was calling me within hours of me posting.”

And she doesn’t actually specify what it was that she posted. But I’m just going to go out on a limb here and say her posting a picture at work.

I think reading between the lines here, her ex must’ve been jealous of some of the males she worked with at her specific job. And for those women who are listening here, who think, well, my ex isn’t like that, think again. Because like I’ve already stated with subtle jealousy, oftentimes it’s what you can’t see that makes you more jealous than what you can see.

Yes, what you can see can make you incredibly jealous, it can make you feel like the person’s being unfair to you, flirting with this person in front of you.

But it’s oftentimes when you’re left alone with your own mind that you have to go to war with it and your mind knows exactly what to say or what to think to attack you in the weak areas.

So if your ex has a history of becoming jealous with the fact that, hey, you work with other guys, you’re an attractive woman, other guys hit on you, including men at work. All of a sudden it’s a different sort of feel to posting a picture of going back to work.

So if you think your ex has a history of doing this, where they’ll just be driven nuts by the fact that other men find you attractive, especially at work, posting a picture at work, even if it’s just you sitting there around other guys at your desk can be an incredibly effective motivator with regards to jealousy.

The Look Where I Am Post

And the final jealousy status post/update that can make an ex jealous is called the look where I am post.

And this is actually one of my favorites. It comes to us from Amanda, who basically says her “Posting pictures of her traveling and checking out places that he always told me we would go together made him jealous.”

All right. So here’s kind of an interesting, funny thing that happens in relationships. Oftentimes men and women have a tendency to future pace relationships. So when we’re in the midst of a honeymoon period, when we’re feeling really good about ourselves, what we do is we will start projecting of what things will be like in the future. And usually we do this through locations. Oh yeah.

We’re going to take a trip there one day. Oh yeah. We’re going to go there one day.

So if your ex is saying, you’re going to do all these things together and you’re going to go all these places together, but never comes close to doing it, one of the really cool ways of making them jealous and also making them a bit regretful is having that experience without them. Sometimes you can do this alone.

Usually it’s best to go with a friend, but I think a primary easy example is actually not with regards to going places that they tell that they would like to go with you. It’s with regards to doing things that they told you that they were going to do together with you.

So this can be usually … So usually I’ve noticed a lot of exes will say like, hey, we should do a romantic, like private hot air balloon ride together.

Well you don’t have to necessarily do a private hot air balloon ride, but maybe what you can do is look up where hot air balloons take off somewhere nearby and sign up and go on one. I’ve actually been on a hot air balloon ride, and it was one of the most incredible experiences I think I’ve ever experienced.

In fact, I got some really cool stories out of it because I went with my wife when we were engaged and I had actually already proposed to her before I went on the hot air balloon ride. It was actually like included in the engagement proposal. So when we went on the hot air balloon ride, we were actually already engaged.

But what’s interesting is I didn’t know this about hot air balloons, but when hot air balloons land, they sometimes don’t know where they’re going to land. And so they have a car that’s almost like, kind of like chasing the hot air balloon ride, so that it knows like, hey, there’s a communication between the two. Our hot air balloon pilot basically set up like, hey, we’re going to be landing here.

And so when we landed, we actually landed in this really, really open neighborhood. There was like no fences or anything, but there was like this gigantic kid’s birthday party going on. And so as we’re getting closer and closer to landing, you could see people coming out of their houses and pointing out our hot air balloon.

So it’s this really cool experience. And we landed literally in the backyard of this like eight year old birthday party. So this eight year old’s having a birthday party, and we were the ones who like landed. I’m pretty sure he thought like his parents, like, oh yeah, mom and dad, thank you so much. It’s the best birthday ever. A hot air balloon ride in the backyard.

The truth is though that it was like completely by chance, but it was really cool because when we got out, everyone assumes that I had popped the question on the hot air balloon ride, but I had already done it way before then.

And we were just so tired of people literally asking us this question that eventually we just sort of like, went with it and were like, yeah, that’s what happened.

So we have like a bunch of pictures of us landing in this hot air balloon, this backyard with a hot air balloon. All these kids are coming out and trying to roll the hot air balloon up. We’ve got pictures. People like posing with us and stuff like that, showing off the engagement ring and everything like that.

And while that’s an incredible story, imagine the story you can have, if you were to do one of these experiences that your ex always “said that they wanted to do with you, but never got around to doing it.”

Not only can that make them jealous of the fact that you’re doing it without them, but it also can make them regret the fact that they’re not having this experience with you.

So it works.

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28 thoughts on “The Best Statuses To Make Your Ex Jealous”

  1. Julia

    June 21, 2021 at 6:50 pm

    What if my ex keeps posting romantic paragraphs, oil paints sometimes music or songs.. and I am confused if he wants me to notice?? Or he found someone else and seeking her notice?? Should I post any comment?? Ir just ignore??

  2. Carlianne

    April 19, 2021 at 12:47 pm

    3 years and a kid together. We had been seeing homes and talking engagement. I thought we were getting engaged and reacted when his friend did instead. I found out over text message. He left that night and drove an hour to stay with his parents. Came back the following evening after ignoring me for 24 hours. Broke up saying he can’t make me happy and he isn’t there in our relationship. Showed up for all of his belongings the next day. He moved out and left me with all responsibilities. We didn’t discuss bills. He didn’t talk to my child. Just left.

    I called him once since the BU. He didn’t seem to regret his decision but did apologize for not giving me more of a conversation.

    I haven’t spoken to him in 3 weeks. It’s been a month since he left. I’m off social media entirely. I have heard he is out at the bars a lot. His actions do not match his words from even the day before he left me. He said he is happy to come home to his girls and not feel the pressures of drinking.

    He has deleted our photos from social media. And he is following a similar path to a previous break up we had 2.5 years ago. I just don’t know what could be going through his head.

  3. Simon Jemimah

    April 15, 2021 at 7:23 pm

    My ex break up with me cause he saw alot of post about me and another guy, after he came back from a short service training, I pleaded with him but he refused to accept me back.

  4. Marianne

    December 9, 2020 at 7:54 pm

    My ex broke up with me about a month ago. A week after the break-up, he saw me at breakfast with a male friend and was very jealous (sent me a couple nasty text messages). He has texted and called sporadically (about 2-3x/week) since. I have replied after each third attempt, kept it casual and positive. I did agree to see him once and it went very well. Last week I went to florida and he commented on my posts and texted me throughout the trip. Last night I went out with a friend and posted it on social media but did not post a picture of myself or my friend. I left the pair very ambiguous. He texted me saying it looks like I had a good night. I replied thank you, I did have a very nice evening. Now he is ignoring me. I’m wondering if his curiosity has been piqued and if these are positive signs for beginning to repair our relationship or if he is now angry with me for going out and having a nice time.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      December 23, 2020 at 6:39 pm

      Hi Marianne, it does have some positives here, it sounds as if he is worried you are moving on. However, if you want to follow this program you do need to complete a period of no contact.

  5. Michael

    December 3, 2020 at 7:38 pm

    So we had an angry breakup after almost 2y, and haven’t spoken since. She lives 45 min away so I won’t run into her, and rarely if ever uses social media; we never even bothered ‘friending’ each other on FB since neither of us was active.

    Now that I’ve been ‘no contact’ for 45 days, since I’ve started positive lighthearted FB posts again… would it be breaking no contact to casually tag her in a comment sort of related to a bday gift she’d given my daughter… ‘@her- on the off chance you’ve inadvertently opened FB… her gift finally came in, she’s LOVING ‘em; you’ve officially won at birthday gifts ‘? My short-term goal is to alert her to the fact that I’m posting, so she can see that I seem happy and potentially drop the anger and miss me. She’s definitely too stubborn to be the first to reach out… appreciate any advice!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      December 4, 2020 at 10:26 pm

      Hi Michael, yes this is something you could do but only after you have completed a no contact and sent your first few texts that Chris suggests in his articles.

  6. Gabby

    November 7, 2020 at 5:47 am

    I had been dating my baby daddy for 3 years I broke up with him so that he can better himself. 2 weeks after he found a girlfriend and he choose her over our son and I.

    He keeps watching my statues and comments on them then he starts posting his girlfriend trying to make me jealous.

    Fortunately for me I muted his status.

    Is he over me ?

    He says she’s better than me yet she isn’t giving him direction. Instead he is drinking and party everyday

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 8, 2020 at 10:49 am

      Hi Gabby, I don’t think he is over it or he wouldn’t be telling you she is better than you. Rise above it all and focus on your child.

  7. Kate Horne

    July 3, 2020 at 6:55 pm

    Ok so my situation is:

    I was controlling and stage 5 clinger and lost myself. I got too much and he asked for a break. Out of nowhere BUT I had been badgering him the night it happened. I started no contact after a big mistake of asking if he met someone else. He then slowly blocked me. Whatsapp, then Facebook and finally Instagram on Tuesday (30 June). He did contact my friend and tell her he is hurt by me accusing him of cheating etc and told her ‘time will tell I guess but don’t tell Kate (me) but it may be over this time. Im now hard blocked. BUT suddenly an old Instagram account of his has popped up in the search bar, from his previous ex. Is this to stalk me? So I am also on day 18 of no contact and all he has done is block me. HELP!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      July 4, 2020 at 10:41 pm

      Hi Kate, so searching for him on social media is against the rules of No Contact so you need to stop doing that! And focus on yourself. Also, as much as you have your friend telling you this information and talking to your ex this does not help either. You need a clean break, do not ask about him or search for him for a solid 30 days. Work on your Holy Trinity and then start the texting phase if you are unblocked at the time, if not you are forced to stay with the NC until you are unblocked on at least one platform

  8. Jolene

    June 16, 2020 at 12:37 pm

    I was the one breaking it off with him after only 6 weeks of dating. However I regret doing that… the problem is when he asked me if had a Facebook account, I lied and said no. So now I cannot post pics of me during no contact rule on social media except using my WhatsApp status. I haven’t blocked him.

    Do the same social media rules during no contact apply to WhatsApp too?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 16, 2020 at 7:48 pm

      Hi Jolene, you can use the whatsapp story to have the same effect yes


    January 4, 2020 at 7:46 pm

    I am the most happiest woman on earth right now, My fiancee that left me few months ago just came back to me last night crying to take him back.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 4, 2020 at 8:44 pm


  10. TD

    November 10, 2019 at 10:09 am

    Guy I was dating put up a pic on his snapchat just over a week ago I work away alot and do make it look like im with someone for dinner drinks etc anytime Im away as I wanted him to commit more and be the one to say he wanted me but its back fired on me he put snap up I said to him and he said I thought you didnt care we chatted over next few days I told him he hurt me and then last msg said i didnt really want to loose touch as he helped me with alot of stuff but I didnt want to be messaging him if he didnt want to stay in touch he nva replied he kept watching all my insta and snapchat stories Ive since closed my snapchat stories form him as I think that sometimes seeing nothing is more curious for someone he continued watching my instas then he posted pic of girl on his insta yday but not them together in pic then on one of my instas yday I shared a story on my feed that was me doing dance routine to a song I dont care it wasnt directed at him it just happened to be that song ive since noticed hes unfollowed that insta but is still on my other insta and snapchat and last nite he added to his snapchat story for 1st time in a week a snap with the back of her head in it i havent opened it today is 1 wk since last contact do you think he is trying to get a reaction from me or has moved on. We were dating 4mths

  11. Kailey

    September 20, 2019 at 10:53 pm

    My ex and I broke up a month ago and I feel like I’ve made a mistake in social media terms. On Instagram, I made a private story only for him to see, to post to all day basically showing him what I’ve been up to. Should I stop doing this? I want him to miss me and come back and see what I’m doing and want to be apart of it so I thought this would be good and have him back. So far, nothing. My friends (both girls and guys) are telling me to hide him from seeing my stories on social media. Completely disappear and have him wonder what I’m up to. Will he forget about me? Is this too much? I think it might work considering he’s so used to being with me every single day and seeing what I’m up to via social media that he actually hasn’t had a real chance to actually miss me post breakup.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 21, 2019 at 2:43 pm

      Hi Kailey, so the idea of using social media to your advantage is by posting exciting and interesting things, but you need to make it public 1 – so he will see and be on the outside looking in, but also for people to comment on your posts about how great these activities are.

  12. Adeline

    August 10, 2019 at 2:52 pm

    Hi! I was dating this guy for 7 years, basically from the ages of 17-24. We broke up almost a month ago and I’ve really having a hard time getting through this.

    So basically we both agreed that we needed to take time for ourselves and do things for ourselves. We were so consumed with each other that this relationship was causing us more anxiety and stress. He also opened up to me and told me he’s been feeling like he’s not the guy for me and that I deserved better for a while now and how he couldn’t give me the things I wanted. He’s 26 and has been trying to figure himself out and his future, and he’s been struggling with that and many other things. Like he said, he’s at a stage where he’s not happy with himself and where he’s at. This has been happening for a while and we thought things will get better if we just do what we need to do as individuals, but the issues were still there. He’s frustrated and he’s going through a lot and well this relationship just added to the stress. He compared himself a lot to me as i have a degree and a good job.

    He always has to put other people first and he wants to focus on himself. Which i totally understand. He mentioned how we got together so young that we never really worried about ourselves and that was definitely becoming very evident in our relationship.
    We’re both unhappy right now and we knew that we needed to do this. Who knows if it makes our bond stronger in the future, but we’ve both felt like if things are meant to be again, it’ll happen. We had a good break up and it was mutual, but This is so hard and i miss him so much. We have not communicated at all but i do have him in social media (which doesn’t bother me at all). I agree that he needs this time for himself as do i. I’ve just been feeling so empty and broken for a while.

  13. Asisipho

    May 23, 2019 at 11:26 am

    Hi. I met a guy few weeks ago, it was love at first sight. It happened that we end up sleeping together. Now the thing is I asked him about the direction of our relationship, he said all he can offer now is fun and we can try building something as we go on.

    I ended things with him few days back because I felt like I can’t settle for fun. I now miss him, wish to talk to him. I feel like trying things with him maybe we might reach the stage of a proper relationship. I’m confused and I like the guy please help.

  14. Kate

    February 18, 2018 at 1:06 pm

    Hello. So how do you know that he is NOT back because of his ego and pride? What if he comes back just to break your heart again, and then he leaves. How do you know that he deserves a chance and that he is back because of love?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 20, 2018 at 12:37 pm

      Hi Kate,

      Don’t take him back easily..let him prove to you first that he has good intentions

  15. Luisa

    January 19, 2018 at 2:10 pm

    Hi, I have a question..
    So my ex and I broke up little over two years ago after three wonderful years, but we continued to hook up for the following six months. During this period a “don’t worry about her, she’s just a friend” girl appeared. Eventually I realized that it was going nowhere and I did no contact for month and a half, not only to make him miss me, but to pull myself together after the awful six months. My ex and this new girl became official, and during the reminder of the year we continued to talk in a casual but with distance kind of way. And I always got the impression he was trying to make me jealous..he did everything he said he was going to do with me, with her, constantly changed his profile pic on whatsapp.. stuff like that.

    Last year we talked like seven times, and everytime it would be with distance, like all our familiarity was gone and we were trying to make it not so awkward. Like we were okay with each other even though you could feel the tension. So I thought that it was all done with I should move on, and realize that whatever friendship we might have built (we were best friends in school and I’ve known him since we were 8) was gone. Still I wanted to keep my social game up and I used instastories to just cause a little jealousy.. you know, nothing harmful in that, just to let him know that I was done chasing after him.

    Now this tuesday he wrote to me out of the blue, saying that it had been awhile since he knew off me and that the only things he knew were due to my instastories. So I replied a lilttle playfull and sassy saying that he must be lost since I haven’t posted anything for month and a half, he replied that he’s been lost for much longer. He asked me about my recent trip, I asked him about his and replied about mine… and then he never replied again…

    I don’t get it why he does that?! He appears out of the blue and then just leaves. It felt as if we were talking face to face and then he just turned around and left.

    As far as I know he’s still dating this girl, and some mutual friends tell me that they do nothing but fight all the time and he flirts with a lot of women (none of this happened with me)

    But yeah… I’m confused..

    Thank you for your help!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 20, 2018 at 4:17 am

      Hi Luisa,

      Maybe they’re having problems and he knows you would reply every time he contacts you.

  16. Cynthia

    January 16, 2018 at 7:30 pm

    What works for introverted guys, specifically? My ex doesn’t react to jealousy well. If he felt threatened in the slightest, he would pull away or act out.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 18, 2018 at 7:00 am

  17. Marnie Shriver

    January 16, 2018 at 4:47 pm

    My situation is hard. My boyfriend was recently diagnosed with bi polar. He left town for a getaway cross country trip and has now decided to stay in Boulder. He does a lot of push and pull. He will tell much he loves me, misses me, and how I’ve changed his life then disappears for a few days. Mind you I always wait for him to text. I never initiate. I’m being very supportive of his journey but he still treats me like this. I never beg for him to come back or guilt him for leaving. This has been so hard and I’m still supportive of him. He treats total strangers with more respect than me. So confused. Every time I try to break it off he won’t let me. I tried to break up before he left! We just decided to stop communicating. It’s been one day. It’s really hard but I’m sticking to it! I’m just hurt that even through a health issue is is pushing me away. HELP!!!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 18, 2018 at 6:40 am

      Hi Marnie,

      Frankly, don’t allow him to do that.. We get what we allow..