You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed... I'm Here To Fix That

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Mari

December 21, 2017 at 9:55 pm

Can you help me??
Ex and I were together 10 months (He’s 25, I am 30)He is diagnosed with schizoaffective (schizo/bipolar) but is mostly fine, has only had a couple big issues in his life with it.During fights he would usually get so stressed he would end it. Start dramatics like screaming etc.Then I’d talk sense into him, telling him its a rash decision.He’d agree and apologize, saying he doesnt know why I stay.Had an instance where he admitted he is jealous of my sexual experience and wishes he had more for himself.He got on Tinder when we broke up once and I found him on it days after we made up.He was okay since then, we had a great relationship forom October til now.Recently (Dec 10) he broke up with me. I usally try to talk sense into him but I gave up and said I am done, to not write me anymoreHe flipped, called me several times after 2 hours, left VMs crying begging me, “I cant live without you I cant take the pain of not having you. You’re right I was rash and you deserve better.” I take him back, he sees that I installed Tinder on my phoneI told him I will delete it since we are back together and did. Days later he starts an argument out of nowhere. He was drunk and we break up. Begs me back the next morning, same stuff about how I deserve better and wants to talk no matter how long it takes.I dont answer til 4 PM. He had wanted to talk aftyer work.He was mad again tho, and said he was done, and not going to talk. I go on a date and tell him, but proceed to argue with him via text all night. (Stupid right??)After arguing via text for two days he said its done, that he wants to be friends and hopes I dont block him cause he likes talking to me more than he ever has anyone. Didn’t talk for 2 days. Saw him on TINDER. He posted a pic on Facebook that I took of some scenery on one of the best times we have had.I broke down and begged, tried to think of ways to appeal to him because it usually worked. He said we fight like cats and dogs, but all I want is to get along.Today he did not reply to begging. I wrote him again stating I dont know if he has blocked my number, that this is wrong for me after all because it shouldn’t be this hard and that I am blocking his number. He said “Your number is not blocked but I don’t want to be with you. we need to move on.” This is the longest this has gone on … usually we work it out in a day tops. Maybe two at most.
What should I do ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 25, 2017 at 9:47 pm

HI Mari,

You should move on.. it’s a toxic relationship.

morgan

December 17, 2017 at 7:30 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me after a year. At first he said that it was because he felt he didn’t have time for a relationship and didn’t want to hurt me. He seemed really upset at first but I couldn’t stop pushing him when all he asked for was space. Then he started bringing up small things that had bothered him, claiming I never changed after we broke up a couple months prior for one week. Now he says he doesn’t see a future with me because he doesn’t believe people will change. I didn’t stop contacting him for about 4 weeks after and all he’s doing now is partying. He unadded me on snapchat and unfollowed on instagram and tells everyone we just don’t work because of our personalities. I texted him when I got into an accident because I needed help and he didn’t answer but then later told my friend he felt really bad about it and obviously still cares about me but told her not to tell me that he said that. He is doing everything he can to try and get over me and I’m scared it’s working. Initially, he said he didn’t want to give me false hope because he didn’t know how much space he would need and now he’s just mad I didn’t give him space when he asked for it repeatedly. I thought if I could get him to be friends with me again I could show him change but I don’t think he will reach out until he’s sure he’s over me. It’s been almost 5 weeks but I’ve been in no contact for about one week. We still see each other at school. Things are such a mess because when he didn’t respond about the accident I sent him a whole thing about how it shows he doesn’t care about me and basically telling him off and that’s how we left things. I think he might be flirting with other girls already. Is there still a chance in the future? Did I ruin any chances? It just seems like he doesn’t care about me he won’t even look me in the eye at school.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 20, 2017 at 7:03 pm

Hi Morgan,

then act as if he has moved on.. if he has moved on, thinks you’re chasing him, and is not attracted to you because you’re chasing him, what are you going to do?

Em

December 8, 2017 at 11:46 pm

I have tried nc but have only managed 2 weeks at the most!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 11, 2017 at 3:05 pm

Ok, but how many times have you done it?

Kate

December 6, 2017 at 9:58 am

I would say so…? I haven’t wanted to excessively post because it’s not something I have ever done and usually don’t post anything at all. However, I have posted whenever I have went out with friends and went to a concert and posted a picture of myself when I went to an event that we were supposed to be going to together so everything that I’ve posted has been positive and happy! I still have a picture of him and I as my cover picture on Facebook and I know I should change it (which I am going to) but should I delete it completely off Facebook too? I honestly don’t think he’s even missing me at all, when he finished it with me he didn’t seem phased or even the slightest bit upset and genuinely just did not give a damn about being really really nasty to me (I know I’m silly for wanting him back but I can’t help it). Friends have told me that he is all of a sudden liking all his ex’s things on social media and there are many signs indicating that he is now going with her so I genuinely have no clue what to think at this stage anymore…
Em

December 4, 2017 at 10:31 pm

Hey,
Me and my Fiance broke up after 7 years together. We have been broken up for 3 months now, the longest I have gone is 2 weeks nc. During these months apart, we have hooked up with each other twice.
Yes, I have begged and we have had this conversation about giving the relationship another go many times which hasn’t been a success and probably pushed him away further as we both get frustrated.
This guide has helped but can you suggest what I should do next please?
Would really appreciate it!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 5, 2017 at 7:43 pm

Hi Em,

how many times have you done nc by now?

Kate

December 1, 2017 at 7:04 am

Hey, 4 weeks ago my boyfriend text me and said he didn’t care if he never seen me again. We had been a couple for a year and a half and our relationship was always very good and we were both very happy. He didn’t give any reasons other than “it just won’t work” and at the time of the breakup I did plead with him for a day or two (which I now know I shouldn’t have) but I was just so upset and shocked and confused. He was still talking to me though as he wanted to remain friends but just keep saying “I don’t know , it just won’t work”. A couple of days after the break up I cut contact and I am now coming to the end of it and have followed all the information provided on what to do during the no contact phase. I was wondering , does the pleading that I done count as excessive? Have I greatly hindered my chances of getting him back and does it mean I can no longer initiate things? I also seen something about sending a clean slate message after pleading but I was already two weeks into no contact and the last conversation we had was not vicious or an argument or anything, what should I do regarding this or will he gather that I have accepted the break up from the work I have been doing during no contact and the way in which I initiate contact? Thanks in advance.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 4, 2017 at 5:13 am

Hi Kate,

Youe chances depend now on how active you are in improving yourself and in posting..does your posts seem like you chose to stop chasing and move on?

Yuop

November 30, 2017 at 9:30 am

Oh, and I forgot to mention he isn’t keen on returning my stuff or taking his things

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 30, 2017 at 8:28 pm

Hi yuop,
Do less of posts that disappears after 24 hours..focus in improving yourself and in doing posts that just stays there.. If you didn’t do that during those two weeks, that’s a no contact rule period… Nc rule means focusing in improving yourself and being active in posting while not talking to him and continuing to do so after nc period while slowly rebuilding rapport

Yuop

November 30, 2017 at 9:28 am

Tried the nc rule for 2 weeks now alr but he isn’t interested in my life anymore. He doesn’t checks on my posts or snaps alr. Any other advice on what to do to get him back?
Rie

November 29, 2017 at 6:04 am

Weve been dating 3yrs and half he broke up with me because hes not sure if his love on me is a gf or a friend were not that fighting. I begged him for almost 2months but failed, Hes been cold after break up, and now i want to do the nc rule. Is it possible to get him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 29, 2017 at 3:03 pm

Hi Rie,

Try it..it’s not a guarantee but the advice above increases your chances

Yuop

November 26, 2017 at 8:18 am

So we broke up about a month ago and during the first week we had small conversations. After that we stopped talking for 2 weeks and I texted him for my stuff. And now we aren’t contacting anymore. Initiated the break but I didn’t want it after but he wanted it. He said we were different persons and had to let go. We were together for 2 years. Talked about marriage and moving in together. Any chance for us to get back together? I really love him. We had lots of small fights in between and he said it’s all about my character. How do I change this? He doesn’t seem to care at all and looks like he’s moving on well. He said he is happier now because of the space he has and I’ve been controlling him. Do I do the NC and see if he texts me or do I move on?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 28, 2017 at 2:01 am

Hi Yuop,

Try the nc rule first.

Antoneta

November 19, 2017 at 1:36 am

Hello! I really want to know what tactics should I use to ensure that he is the one starting conversations?

Can you please write something about that? It will be very much appreciated.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 20, 2017 at 5:39 pm

Hi Antoneta,

Check this ones:
Here Is How You Text An Ex Boyfriend To Get Him Back

The Stages of Not Getting a Text Back From Your Ex and How to Survive Them

D

November 15, 2017 at 1:56 pm

What about for a wife who has begged for several months and has spiraled downhill following the pending divorce? I am in counseling now in trying to improve myself but he is at a point where he said he no longer has it in him to continue with the marriage and is tired And emotionally exhausted. He says he wants me to be happy he still treats me with respect and where still living together just sleeping separately but he has completely shut down and just wants me to you be financially stable so that I can move out. He told me there’s no changing his mind, he will not go back. Initiating conversations isn’t hard because we live together and he still thinks of me as a friend so how would I apply this or is it even worth it should I just give up because I feel like I’ve damaged my image so much in his eyes in that he has nothing left except wishing me well…

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 2:12 am

Hi D,

check this one:
EBR 027: What To Do If You Live With Your Ex Boyfriend

Em

October 21, 2017 at 3:40 pm

Hi, me and my boyfriend of over a year broke up a little over a month ago, I have finally been doing the NC rule for 8 days now and whenever I post something he looks at it and for the first 4 weeks after the breakup I was in his Facebook header. we broke up bc he’s super stressed out from school and two jobs and he plans on moving after this year but so do I, I kept telling him we had options but he didn’t wanna listen to me because he’s stubborn. we still had feelings for each other I’m his longest relationship, the first person he loved and the first person he truly opened up to, a couple days before we broke up we apologized and owned up to all of our fights (which there was only 4 of)
Ranjitha

October 4, 2017 at 7:56 am

Hello Chris, this is ranjitha from India
Actually me and bf were in a relationship of almost two years and we broke up two weeks ago. The reason being he says he doesn’t feel for me anymore and that I am cuff for him. He says he doesn’t feel like marrying me and that it won’t ever work out. He says we aren’t an appropriate match and considers other couples perfect. He even lost his father a year back. Can it be the reason? We were in an on and off relationship from past two months and when I finally gave up two weeks ago because he wanted me to get tired and leave. I have been in no contact from past two weeks and he hasn’t contacted me directly since then. And after twenty days I have to go to his place and pick my stuff. can you help me with my situation please? And this is our first serious breakup where I have started thre no contact. what are my chances of getting him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 5, 2017 at 7:26 am

Hi Ranjitha,

Hoe much are you improving yourself and how active are you in posting?

Gigi

August 20, 2017 at 12:52 pm

Hi to whoever poor soul dealing with us miserable girls going on and on about our maybe-not-so-worthy-of-our-love ex boyfriends.
Ahh, cliffhangers are my weakness. It just kills me not to know how things end. It is the one thing that makes me stay up all night finishing a TV series or a whole novel. I read this article about a week ago and purchased Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO. What pages should I essentially focus on to read more about your trump card?
Btw, I have read the whole book. But I want to read the above-mentioned part more carefully.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 22, 2017 at 9:13 pm

Hi GIgi,

Read the parts about the texting and being the ungettable girl.

Keerthi

August 14, 2017 at 10:46 am

Hy Chris..this is Keerthi from India…My boyfriend broke up with me just before 2 weeks..we were toghter since 3 years… reason for the break up was we were fighting and his family got involved n his mom got angry on me n warned him not to see me anymore.. evnen he was annoyed and frustrated due to all the fighting n decided to be better I choice.. I tried to contact him n did begging n pleading also but later he blocked me everywhere (all social media n phone calls..the last time when I contacted him through a mutual friend he said we are done n there is no way that my mom is gona trust u n accept you so do not keep any false hope..m done with you..don’t contact me anymore if you do so I am gonna hate you even more.)I have no means to communicate with him anymore…I have been following NC since 10 days…but I Dont know what’s going on in his mind…he is really mad at me..I don’t know if NC will work for my Situation because of the involvement of his family…I don’t know what should be the next step that I have to take…he is really “the one” for me but I don’t think so if he see me like that…help me..tell me what I can do…I really can’t afford your guide n thatz is the sad part too..

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 14, 2017 at 9:18 pm

Have you checked this one:
EBR 054: My Exes Mom Made Him Break Up With Me

If yes, do you want to try the advice in it?

Amanda

August 12, 2017 at 2:11 pm

Me and my ex have been off and on for 2 years . He’s my first love . We both had trust issues against each other . Mine was mainly his ex . We got together right after they ended a four year relationship & she would sometimes still try and contact him . He broke up with me because one day he was dealing with family issues and I continued to blow up his phone starting arguments with him because of a argument we had the night before . He said he was done . For good and told me to move on and not contact him anymore . He never told me to move on before . I was beyond hurt and confused I continued to contact him up for a couple of days . Which I knew I shouldn’t have. He called me a physco , blocked my calls (not texts) his phone does that . and threaten to change his number . He said I annoyed him to the max . He even told me he was going to try to work things out with her , but later apologized for saying it says he said it to get me to leave him alone . Finally our last conversation I basically apologized for the way I was acting and explained myself .He basically just told me maybe if I would’ve just gave him a break after he ended things we could’ve worked things out & how it’s the wrong moves I made and I won’t make them again with my future relationships(which he never talked about me being in a future relationship before ) at the end he told me he still loves and cares about me a lot but he knows I won’t change and after the way I acted. he’s done for good .

I know I need to do no contact . Does it sound like I should do no contact to improve and move on ? Or should I do no contact and try to get him back at the end ? Also for how long ?

Also just to add we have a ten year age difference and he has no social media.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 13, 2017 at 7:05 pm

HI Amanda,

if you want a higher chance of getting him back, do no contact to heal and improve yourself to the point that if you don’t get him back, it will hurt, but despite the hurt, you’ll go in life. You’ll go on continuing to improving yourself. Do at least 45 days.

Taylor

July 20, 2017 at 2:43 am

My boyfriend and I broke up after three years together. He wasn’t just my boyfriend but my best friend. We talked about marriage, kids, and the future constantly. I initiated the break-up, thinking that I wanted to start a family closer to my parents (who live on the west coast) and he didn’t want to leave the current state we lived in. Also, I didn’t know if what I felt for him was really love. See, I had a fear of love and marriages. Nowadays people get married and end up divorcing years later, as well as, saying they love each other and then changing their mind, that scares me. Now I’ve realized that when you love someone thats the chance you take for them. Anyways, we decided to part ways four months ago. I moved out of our place last month and moved closer to my parents. Within the last month I realized that I don’t need to be by my family in order start a family. That love is more important and trumps family (in a sense). With this new knowledge I called my ex-boyfriend the other night begging him to give me a second chance, telling him that I made a mistake, informing him of the realizations that I’ve had since being here. It was just like the sales example given above, I just couldn’t take no for an answer. Anyways he told me that he is trying to move on and that I should too, that I am a great friend but that he doesn’t want to start over again since he thinks I will likely choose my family again and leave him. He informed me again that I needed to start moving. Since I wasn’t taking “no” for an answer he told me that he needed to go and we said bye. I’ve been beside myself this past week with the realization that I likely lost my one true love. It hurts knowing that I did this. So like everyone else, I’ve been searching for ways to get him back. What would be your advice? Every time that him and I have talked or texted since our break-up, has been initiated by me. Should I try the NC rule or should I move on with the hope that we’ll reconnect one day and that what’s meant to be will happen?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 23, 2017 at 6:35 pm

Why not try the advice above? It’s better to be active than just wait

Jessica

July 8, 2017 at 3:59 am

My ex and I dated for 9 months. He broke things off with me because I bowed up at him at work during an argument. I started crying right after because of the situation we were in. 5 days later he broke up with me when I got upset that he bailed on me. He told me that he was afraid we were going to become physical with each other after I bowed up and that maybe in the future. He wanted to be single and that I cause stress. So, I decided I needed to change my actions. I realized i’m a toxic person because of my past and I no longer want to be that person anymore. I made an appointment with my doctor, he prescribed me some medicine and I am now talking to a counselor every week. However…. I begged for him back for about a week and a half. Then I started getting mad because I spent a lot of money on tickets for an event. I asked for the money back and he got mad told me any chance of us getting together is gone, deleted my number, snap chat, etc. If anyone asked about me, he now says a lot of negative things. We work together and the next day I apologize for getting upset and he wouldn’t speak to me. The next time we worked together he would then tense up and would not make eye contact if we were in the room together. People at work even noticed. Well he has been gone for the last week and I will see him at work Monday. I haven’t texted or spoke to him in over a week but I never know what to do while we are at work.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 9, 2017 at 7:08 pm

Check this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Shy

July 5, 2017 at 8:54 pm

Hello! My name is Shy and me and my boyfriend broke up about three weeks ago, after two years and a promise to marry each other. While I was attending school, my effort in the relationship slowly declined, causing me to eventually tell him in different forms that I didn’t need him or want him. This lead to a mutual breakup after I tried to fix what I had caused. He says he’d like to start off as friends and maybe try again. Before we began dating, he was my best friend for 5 years even though we both always had feelings for each other. After he told me this, I went into full blown panic mode and began to beg him with pathetic sayings such as “I’d give anything to have us back” etc. I’ve recently began the NC rule, and he’s messaged me once. He even called me about a week ago out of the blue, but this was before I discovered the no contact rule. Please send help on what I should do next. Does it sound like I should’ve give up and just result us in never getting back together? Or should I continue to try? I would love to have hope that I get to have the opportunity to be with my best friend again.

Please help,
Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 6, 2017 at 7:27 pm

Hi Shy,
are you actively improving yourself and being active in posting?

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