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Cat
July 3, 2017 at 1:51 am
I was dating this great guy for just 5 or 6 weeks. I ended up making a mess of myself, getting super desperate and needy on date 8, crying and begging him for more, and he broke things off with me the next day (he was honestly super nice about it). He told a mutual acquaintance that he had really liked me, but I got way too intense and wanted too much from him too soon. I didn’t beg him during or after the breakup and haven’t reached out to him since then, which was 3 weeks ago. Do you think there is any chance I can ever redeem myself?
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 5, 2017 at 1:27 pm
are you improving yourself and are you active in posting?
Claire
June 18, 2017 at 2:15 am
So I’m in a bit of a predicament here. My boyfriend broke up with me as soon as he moved to another state (we had already planned that I would go live with him in a couple of months). He said it was because he felt he couldn’t be honest with me, which I understand what he meant. I did the unforgettable and started begging. It didn’t work of course, so I stopped talking to him for a couple days and he came back. And we got back together. Thing is, he broke up with me a few days later saying the same thing. And again, I made the mistake of begging. We are still texting though, but Ican tell I pushed him away. Will going no contact for the full term help ? I know what I did wrong and I know I can fix it.
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 19, 2017 at 7:17 pm
hmm..what did you do wrong and how are you going to fix it?
Amy
June 17, 2017 at 11:48 am
I am a bit confused! So do I do the NC first and then do the point score or are these separate strategies which can be applied individually!
Amy
July 6, 2017 at 9:39 am
Hello Amor
I had improved myself alot during the NC but it’s like I fell in love with him again and that made me desperate and did all these stupid things which I knew I shouldn’t have done! I have done the begging some weeks ago but I have continued to be in contact with him but just small talk nothing else and as he is distant so there aren’t many times we could have talked!
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 6, 2017 at 7:55 pm
Do at least 45 days..
Amy
July 5, 2017 at 8:43 am
Well, I have done the begging and convincing after the NC so I don’t know how to proceed now?
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 5, 2017 at 6:16 pm
Because you didnt do everything the right way.. Did you just lately do the begging? The right way to do nc is to improve yourself, be active in posting, slowly and continuously build rapport while also continuing to do what you started to do in nc.. It’s not a guarantee that that will work. It will only increase your chances but since you didn’t follow it, it didn’t help you too.. So, try it the right way, one last time..if it doesn’t work out, you have to move on..
EBR Team Member: Amor
June 18, 2017 at 7:13 pm
nope.. try the advice on this one:
My Ex Boyfriend Told Me He Loves Me But Won’t Commit
Jennifer
May 19, 2017 at 8:41 pm
So my boyfriend and I sorta had a mutual breakup in January of this year. I didn’t want it and just flooded him with questions and asking if there’s still a chance with us for about 4 months. Finally he said no and I let go. I told him whatever is meant to be will be and I haven’t contacted him in about 10 days. I know he still loves me. I just want to know did I ruin my chances by the begging. I’m doing the NC now and really working on myself while trying to let him go. I just want a professional opinion. Thank you
Jennifer
May 20, 2017 at 12:03 am
What kind of advice can you give me for now?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 21, 2017 at 6:10 pm
improve yourself..because you can only control yourself.. follow the advice above and check this one:
The Ungettable Girl
Jennifer
May 19, 2017 at 8:52 pm
Also want to add we were together for 3 years. I love him very much and I know we had our problems. Thought we would make it through all of them. I was very desperate those months. He even said it. I feel like he kept me around to get over me. Getting over me slowly. Not like a shock. I hate that I did that. Wish I started NC right away and was stronger. Do you think I ruined it all?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 19, 2017 at 11:07 pm
it depends more on what you will do now and after nc. Focus on that.
Rajni
May 16, 2017 at 5:47 am
Hi, i read everything chris is teaching here. We started as FWB but i was always in love wid him. But i nvr forced him. He initially was meeting me 3 – 4times a wk den slowly it became just once a month. Den he contacted whenever he wanted to hookup. I saw him flirting too so we had a fight over dis. But he ensured me dat now he wont b breaking my trust agn. I trusted and den he broke it agn. Not by flirting but gave me a time to meet and whn i reached dere, he didnt came and his mobile was off. I was hurt obviously. I went immediately NC.
I decided to go for 21 day NC as we were not officially dating. After 21 days he contacted me agn and i picked up. He said he wants to see me (for a hookup). I said yes, but den i refused and i dont want to hv sex wid him until he commits.
Then next day, i sent him a msg dat he already knew dat i liked him buy still he continuously was breaking my trust..agn and agn. But he said “get lost”. I said dat if you can’t respect me den atleast dont insult. But u already hurt me so much so ok… I can only wish u d best.. Bye”
Nvr heard from him agn. I brokeup becauae he was using me clearly. But i miss him so much and still want him back. I want his genuine love. I have already done NC. Now what can I do??
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 17, 2017 at 6:56 pm
you cant change other people..you had the right reason when you walked away but it looks like you said it and did for him to change, not because it’s really what you believe but, you still made the right choice of walking away..for me you should move on but if you really want to try for a last chance, do at least 45 days..take it slow in building rapport after.. if he still just wants sex, move on..
Angel
May 11, 2017 at 2:15 pm
Hi, I have been reading articles from Ex boyfriend recovery website and yea, I begged so hard to my ex. Hence I am here. Haha. I find it hard right now doing NC period since we belong to a close group of friends. Definitely not going with them poses a lot of drama and when I am with them there is a very obvious awkwardness between my ex and I, and when interacting with our friends which are closest to him than I do. What do I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 11, 2017 at 8:18 pm
how active are you now? When you’re with them, just be casual and civil with him
Mariana
May 9, 2017 at 10:32 am
Hey guys! So my bf broke up with me nearly 3 weeks ago and during that time I begged him so many times to come back and he told me he wouldn’t change his mind because he is exhausted and can’t deal with this anymore. Though sometimes he would send mixed signals such as saying “i dont want to say know but i am not going to say yes” (to get back together.
But two days ago i finally decided it was time to let go and just stop texting him and start my recovery process, even though what i really wanted was to have him back!
Should I stick to the no contact rule or just give up and move on? X
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 11, 2017 at 6:24 pm
Hi Mariana,
try the no contact rule first
Adela
April 27, 2017 at 5:09 pm
I had a relationship of 8 months we brokeup in march , it started great as every relation ,but at the end we couldn’t handle the fact that he started to have distance because of his full time work and I started to have anxiety and doubts of our relation , we tried to comprehend each other, but at the end we only got into discussion, so we agreed to break up because he said that we didn’t know how to handle it even we loved each other, we knew that we needed to resolve our problems so we could be in a relationship, he told me that right now he can`t be in one because he is focused in his work and projects , and he can´t give the time, and also that I have to be mentally stronger and more self-steem so I can be in a relationship. Two weeks later since the breakup I did many mistakes with him, of texting him, trying to make him realized that we can do it better, begging, and telling him that I really consider everything I did wrong and that I changed, until he ignores me totally, only the last text he told me that he can`t be in a relation right now, he can`t love me the way I wanted, that I didn`t do anything wrong, he needs his space to resolve difficult things in his life , the first days he told me he had the possibility to see each other again, but he promised we won’t cut communication but today he can`t, the way he had answered me is now is with one word, days later, tired of me . He said that he still loved me but I know that is not the way of romantic because he practice meditation for 4 years, so he knows how to let go, so I really don`t know what to do, when I had made mistakes (gnatting ,begging ) and now ignores me. Two days ago I phoned him and he answered me for the second time in two months, and it was for 25 minutes, it was friendly, talked about what have we done, family, I didn’t say anything of love o relation, just friendly, and that`s all, Do you think there is still a chance if I started de no contact rule?? Even though I made many mistakes….
Thanks for reading Amor!!!!
Adela
May 8, 2017 at 5:01 am
No, when we talked at the reunion everything started friendly we could talked nice moments we had when we were together and then everything changed because he just started to talk automatically like “apologizing” because he read every message but didn’t answer some of my texts (the ones I wrote when I did the mistake of begging ,gnatting to return before I started the NC rule) “…because of his difficult situation he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me or anyone he doesn’t have the time for it , he just want to hang out with his friends ….”(But I found it strange because during the breakup he said “not with me”, and now he says “not with me not with anyone”) like giving me explanations that he is single, even though I didn´t ask. 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 11, 2017 at 3:23 pm
ah ok.. that just means you have to be careful not to convey that you’re trying to get him back.. he has to see that you’re just friendly because you’ve moved on
adela
May 5, 2017 at 2:23 pm
Amor, yesterday I saw my ex by surprise (2 months since the breakup of a relation of 8 months) because of a friends reunion, we talk friendly, but he told me that he doesn’t want a relationship with me, no with “anyone”, but that we could be friends, the next day a friend of his told me that he changed his status in “single” and that he started to comunicate with his exgirlfriend , since two weeks ago, and dating. We had problems with her because at first she didn’t want to leave him, and then she lost contact with him for months and then she was became his friend.
Should I continue the NC rule? , I’m heartbroken to know this …. is there still a chance?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 5, 2017 at 5:20 pm
why did he mention that he doesnt want a relationship with anyone? did you ask?
adela
May 5, 2017 at 2:22 pm
Amor, yesterday I saw my ex by surprise (2 months since the breakup of a relation of 8 months) because of a friends reunion, we talk friendly, but he told me that he doesn’t want a relationship with me, no with “anyone”, but that we could be friends, the next day a friend of his told me that he changed his status in “single” and that he started to comunicate with his exgirlfriend , since two weeks ago, and dating. We had problems with her because at first she didn’t want to leave him, and then she lost contact with him for months and then she was became his friend.
Should I continue the NC rule? , I’m heartbroken to know this …. is there still a chance?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 5, 2017 at 3:23 pm
why did he mention that he doesnt want a relationship with anyone? did you ask?
adela
May 4, 2017 at 3:40 pm
Hi Amor, I saw my exboyfriend yesterday because of a friends reunion that was a surprise because i didn’t know he was going to be there, then he started talking to me, and he told me that he doesn’t want a relationship with me or with anyone right now, that he was ignoring me because of my feelings, he felt bad for it, that we could be friends and see each other to do something but he doesn’t want to return. I’m heart broken, because I saw even in social media that he changed his status to single, and he doesn’t have any picture of us anymore… it passed 2 months since our breakup, is there any chance he could change his mind? thank you for reading !
Adela
May 2, 2017 at 3:43 am
Amor, even though he told me that he can`t love me for a relationship because right now he isn`t looking for one,?? he has his priorities first now.. and it has passed 2 months telling me the same thing and he just remebers the negative of us, sometimes i feel that I have to stop trying because I think his meditation has made him moving on already, this ideas confused me and breaks my heart because I love him . ….. I will start NC right away and no more chasing or begging but time for myself this third month …
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 2, 2017 at 6:53 pm
if you want to move on, that’s ok. if you want to try nc before moving on, that’s ok too
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 30, 2017 at 7:39 am
It’s not yet too late to start the no contact rule.. Improve yourself, be active in posting, don’t beg and don’t chase him again.
Adela
April 27, 2017 at 12:26 am
Hello, I had a relationship of 8 months , he is 32 years I’m 27, it started great as every relation ,but at the end we couldn’t handle the fact that he started to have distance because of his full time work and I started to have anxiety and doubts of our relation , we tried to comprehend each other, but at the end we only got into discussion, and misunderstanding each other, so we agreed to break up, we knew that we needed to resolve our problems so we could be in a relationship, he told me that right now he can`t be in a relation because he is focused in his work and projects , and he can´t give the time, and also that I have to be mentally stronger and have more self-steem so I can be in a relationship. Two weeks later since the breakup I did many mistakes with him, of texting , trying to make him realized that we can do it better, begging, and telling him that I really consider everything I did wrong and that I changed, until he ignored totally, then he texted me that he can`t be in a relation right now, he can`t love me the way I wanted, that I didn`t do anything wrong, he needs his space to solve difficult things in his life .The first day he told me he had the possibility to see each other again but today he can`t, the way he answered me now is with one word, days later, like he is tired of me . He said that he still loved me but I know that is not the way of romantic because he practiced meditation for 4 years, so he knows how to let go, I really don`t know what to do,… I had made mistakes (begging, try to convinced him ) and now ignores me. I got confused when he told me the first to weeks since the breakup that he doesn`t want to leave me out of his life, that he will no erase me from any social network, that we will not cut the comunication ….. yesterday I called him , for 25 minutes, he seemed calm, talked about what have we both being doing with our lives, that he is still in difficult times, but I did`t tell him anything of love or to be with him , it was just friendly. .. So? Do you think that he talked me only to be polite for his promise of having contact? , because when I texted him just to say Hi , and not to cut communication even if it’s just friendly that he promised , but he never respond any of my texts… until this phone call, now he disappeard again, Do you think there’s still a chance to recover my EXboyfriend?
Thank you Amor for reading !
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 30, 2017 at 7:39 am
It’s not yet too late to start the no contact rule.. Improve yourself, be active in posting, don’t beg and don’t chase him again.
Adela
April 27, 2017 at 12:32 am
Sorry Amor, I forgot to mention that we broke up almost 2 months ago, in March, so , honestly with this, I haven’t started No contact, is there still a chance for this?
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 30, 2017 at 7:39 am
It’s not yet too late to start the no contact rule.. Improve yourself, be active in posting, don’t beg and don’t chase him again.
Samantha
April 3, 2017 at 6:46 pm
We broke up on our 11 month anniversary. I initiated it seeing as I was ever so lonely in the relationship and to my surprise he said fine “let’s call it a day”.
After then I called him so many times – many of which he replied to me. Part of me believes he still loves me and another believes he just really doesn’t want to hurt my feelings because it’s not in his character.
We planned a future together. I wanted to help him with a lot of things including college and career plans etc. He loves my daughter and she loves him. We planned children.
Anyway one Friday I went out and got so emotional. I called him 100+ times. In the morning he called me and said he’s sorry he didn’t have his phone and told me about his crazy night.
Oh btw when he agreed to breakup I begged him for about 3/4 days and he kept rejecting me.
Anyway I’m 3 days into no contact – he came over so angry as he thought I “suggested” some guy as a friend on Facebook who is my Edna by I didn’t as I deactivated Facebook and every other social medias. I was blunt and he kept asking me how I am I said I’m fine. I had a huge smile on my face. He took his Xbox controller, the last of his things at my house and left. Oh and he told me that he had some clothes of mine and I told him to leave them at the neighbours. He asked me where I was going I said don’t worry.
Anyway I want him back. Not now in the distant future but I’m so afraid that he will go back to the ex that tried so hard to ruin our relationship.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 4, 2017 at 3:26 pm
Hi Samantha,
that’s good that you’re in nc.. follow the advice above and in this one too:
The Ungettable Girl
Bailey
March 31, 2017 at 9:19 am
Hi,
It has been a week since i broke up with my bf. I am the one who broke up with him. Initially i texted him non stop (sms since he blocked me from everywhere else) he would reply 1 message after i sent 3 or 4. until he recently texted me telling me “i have many people to check up on me. All i want you to do is leave me alone!” I freaked out and immediately decided to take on the no contact rule. Its been 3days now and i was doing well until i bumped into him. Gosh! I dont know if i acted right. I kept it a light and cheery convo. I did most of the talking i was smiling and happy then said bye. Immediately after i went back to no contact. I know its a short time but he hasnt texted me ( I saw him thursday morning ). Do you think i can get him back? Do you think i acted the right way when i saw him? Is it even worth a shot?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 31, 2017 at 10:01 pm
Hi Bailey,
I think it’s better than being emotional..why did you break up and how long was the relationship?
F
March 28, 2017 at 12:48 am
My boyfriend decided to break up with me because he was trying to adopt with my attitudes (open mindedness) for 7 months but he couldn’t, he says that we have two different lives, way of thinking, rights and wrongs ( as he gets so jealous over tiny things but he never loved to share this because he didn’t want me to feel restricted) so he tried to adopt but never felt comfortable and was always pressured but never shared with me this. 3 months ago he decided to break up, i begged, we got back, 2 months later nothing changed and he took the final decision. I’ve been beginning him for two weeks now tried to offer alot of solutions, asked his best friend to talk to him, but he says that he feesl comfortable that way and that he loved me but never felt comfortable with me. And he’s is the most stubborn human being i’ve ever seen and worst than that he’s is so convinced that he took the right decision. I don’t know what to do..
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 28, 2017 at 5:51 pm
Hi F,
you cant force somebody to change..that will be their decision. That’s why we have standards. Check this one:
Do You Have The Same Values As Your Ex? (With Chase Kosterlitz)
Crystal
March 26, 2017 at 10:18 pm
My ex and I were together for 4 years. The last two years weren’t great and unfortunately we split up last year and he slept around a bit and I didn’t do anything, however this time round when we split up he was back doing what he did before sleeping around and I actually slept with someone else too. He was the only boy I had slept with before this incident so it did have a bad reaction when he found out. We have been split for 4 months and since he found out what I have done he has showed every sign he isn’t coming back, we have gone weeks on end without speaking before I break it and give in. I’ve begged and pleaded him and cried that I still love him and I want him to love me back and come back to me but he insists he feels nothing for me anymore after what I done and that he has too much pride to ever come back to me. I feel broken; he has had this power since the day we split and it’s heartbreaking knowing that although I hurt him I didn’t do anything wrong, he was the one who cheated and lied and was doing 10 times worse what I was doing he should be begging for me! I’m at the point now where everyone has told me he isn’t coming back and it’s time to let go and move on but nothing hurts more then knowing he isn’t coming back and he doesn’t love me when I love him the most. I just want him to contact me, positively and realise how muvh of a mistake he’s made and for him to love me back and beg for me but I just know this isn’t going to happen. I know I need to move on but I honestly would do anything to have him come running back to me and since this article says about point scoring he doesn’t make any contact with me at all unless it’s me calling him and then he just tells me he’s moved on, he’s not coming back and he feels nothing. I feel broken what should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 28, 2017 at 2:16 pm
Hi Crystal,
do you want to do the advice above?
Katie
March 26, 2017 at 12:52 am
Hi!
So my boyfriend and I met online around April of last year and started off as casual friends with no intent to date as he was very focused on his career(we are both in college) and had never had a girlfriend. Well, he ended up falling for me and i slowly fell for him too and we met up 3 months later. We were in a long distance relationship the entire 7 month time and he has always been very sweet, loving and reassuring at how i’m his future and he would never leave and how amazing i am for him. Well, he went on Spring Break this year and decided to break it off with me midway through the week. He claimed he wanted to “drink and party without worrying about my feelings and “he needed to figure out his plans for the future and his dreams” and “he couldn’t do the distance anymore”. We had been fighting for about a week or so prior to the breakup and I believe he’s scared he’s missing out on college life. I have been doing NC for a week now and he reached out to me twice, yet he honestly seems so much happier without me. Is there a point to keep trying? I really want our relationship back and I want us to make healthy changes but is there anything else I can do to show him how we should be together?
Katie
March 26, 2017 at 1:57 am
He’s gonna be in town on day 21 of no contact and I cant decide if i should text him then ( he will be at a work event that he looks forward to every year) or wait the full 30 days. what do you think?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 26, 2017 at 4:00 pm
Hi Katie,
When did you exactly break up?
Ayu
March 16, 2017 at 12:23 pm
Hello I wanna ask,last months me and my ex boyfriend got broke up and we wanted to start as friends. At first it was okay when we texted each other..A few weeks later he ignore me even if I message him he won’t reply.Then this morning I broke the NC for 10 days and texts him begging him through texts to come back and yet he won’t reply. I know I feel guilty because of begging,crying and pleading him but will I have a chance to get him back and start over NC?
Ayu
March 17, 2017 at 4:27 am
We’ve been together for 2 years and he’s the one who wants to break up because of his stubborn feelings
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 21, 2017 at 2:59 pm
ok, stick to at least 30 days nc, be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media.. dont beg again..
Ayu
March 17, 2017 at 3:56 am
He’s the one who wants to break up with me and we’ve been together for 2 years
Ayu
March 16, 2017 at 12:25 pm
I am now trying to ignore him for good but I still love him and I want him back and give us a second chance
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 16, 2017 at 6:11 pm
Hi Ayu,
why did you break up and how long was the relationship?
L
March 16, 2017 at 2:03 am
We were together for 6 months and lived together about 5 months. During the time we were together, he was still in contact with his ex of pretty frequently and mostly behind my back. I confronted him as I am very upset about this. I am not sure if he really did stop talking to her, I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Fast forward, he has to leave for school and promise that he would work the long distance relationship out. We made promises and we even planned for me to visit him. I was worried and insecure as his ex is at the same place as he is. I started becoming clingy as he always say that he’s tired and busy just for the first week he went back to school! I snapped and said things I didn’t intended and he went radio silence since. I’ve begged for him for 2 weeks before I decided to fly to his place to try and talk to him without letting him know, as I thought distance was the problem because he was never like this. But, I was wrong and he was defensive and disgusted at the sight of me and we didn’t get to talk. I left silently, evaluated the relationship and sent him an apology letter. No response, and he blocked me on FB and Messenger. I was shattered. After 2 weeks, I sent him an email again, saying what I needed to say, hoping for a second chance. It has been 2.5 weeks now, no response and I took this time as NC. Do I still have a chance with him since it has been almost 2 months since this all started? His birthday is next week, should I wish him?
L
March 17, 2017 at 3:40 am
He is still ignorint me. Do I still have a chance to get him back despite everything I did (begging and flying all the way to him out of desperation) and him blocking me? I’ve been improving myself but how would he know when he cuts me out on FB and ignoring me? His brother is the only mutual friend and his family is trying to stay out of this.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 21, 2017 at 2:50 pm
that’s why it’s important to stick to nc because if he’s used to you begging, he’ll wonder why you stopped..and when he gets curious, he has to see that you’re moving on and improving
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 16, 2017 at 4:58 pm
Hi L,
nope you shouldn’t and if the past 2 weeks is not focused in improving yourself, restart the count and do 45 days..
Sasha
March 10, 2017 at 4:51 pm
I severely begged after my ex broke up with me. For about a month straight. The very last day I meant to cut off all communication with him and begin no contact I got drunk with my girlfriends, saw him talking to a girl and while I was passing him on my way to the bathroom, I kicked his feet (I’m hoping it wasn’t as agressive as I recall but I think it was). I apologized right away (I couldn’t believe I did that) and tried to play it off like an accident. I went up to him again after I was done with the bathroom and apologized once more but in my rushed efforts, knocked over a beer bottle in front of him and he just looked even more shocked. I haven’t contacted him since (despite my desire to apologize sober) so it’s been a week of no contact. I realize how much I damaged my chances to get back with him but I truly want to do everything in my power to get him back. But I feel like all hope is lost. Any advice is severely welcomed.
Sasha
March 10, 2017 at 4:54 pm
P.S. I already purchased the ex boyfriend recovery pro.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 14, 2017 at 4:11 pm
Hi Sasha,
was it the premium one? Are you already part of the private Facebook group?
harry
March 6, 2017 at 5:05 pm
I begged my ex the past month and was wondering if I still have any chance of making it work if i begin NC
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 10, 2017 at 1:57 am
Hi Harry,
yes, you can still try the advice above..
051116jk
March 6, 2017 at 6:53 am
Hi! Im 5months pregnant. My bf and i broke up recently. Well everything was perfect til february. It all started when i moved into a new house which he wanted. He was problematic with the financial like paying for our rent etc so i helped him. And we had an argue before that i said i wont give him the his rights and surname to our child which is my really fault and didnt mean it and now hes makin it as an excuse. The 1st time i found out that im pregnant i caught him cheating he chose us. And now its the same girl. He dont want to go with me into check ups during his off becoz hes spending alot of time with the girl. They havin sex also coz i read it into his cellphone. Ive tried to centralized the baby and asked him to try to remember everything but he’s close minded. I begged. He has also different decision time by time. At first we broke up and let the girl heard it, then the other day he said it was all act since he’s trying to caught if this girl is the one who is trying to ruin us. Then he even made a letter and surprise during valentines since he has work he asked my friends for some help but also i found out that after his work he brought somewhere the girl for a dinner. Then we broke up again. He said he will contact me for the baby’s sake and come with me during check ups but it changed again. He said he will help me thru expenses during giving birth. So now i did some agreement which stated that he will pay for the monthly check ups and meds, he will call and talk to our baby even its still in my womb, that he will come with me every check ups. Hopefully doing the agreement wont make the situation worst. Im trying to do the NO CONTACT and if he agreed on agreement i will just let him talk to our child and be cold as ice. But tbh i want him back. But how if theres someone in a picture already. Hope ull help me Btw he said to someone that he doesnt care about me anymore It hurts to think im the mother of his child
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 9, 2017 at 12:26 pm
Hi 051116jk,
Do you still live together? The other girl doesn’t matter right now. What matters more is what you can control, yourself.
Elizabeth
March 1, 2017 at 9:20 am
My boyfriend and I separated a little over a week ago. I did the whole begging thing and well I ended up asking if he thought I was a good girlfriend before the break up, he said I was but we couldn’t work things out because he can’t get hurt again. It’s been hard on me because I’m 5 months pregnant with his son and so with counseling I have worked on the issues that had hurt him enough to leave but now I have no idea how to show him that I have changed and won’t hurt him again.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 1, 2017 at 8:44 pm
Hi Elizabeth,
why did you broke up? Are you going to do the no contact rule? Check this one too:
Here’s How To Get Your “Baby Daddy” Back