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Confused
March 2, 2019 at 3:55 am
Hi, my ex broke up with me a little over a month ago… it’ll be 2months in 9days. Anyway, every since the very first day he broke up with me he’s been telling me he’s coming back to me & that we’ll get back together, just not right now & any time I ask when he tells me he doesn’t know when, he’ll tell me when the time is right. Should I believe this? I mean he’s been consistently telling me… We talked face to face about it and everything. He told me he thinks we just need to give it time. He also told me he didn’t want to move on without me & he wanted his “next” relationship to be our “new” relationship… But idk, I just don’t know what to believe, because he still ignores me and doesn’t really act like he “wants” me. He tells me he loves me and everything else. His actions just don’t match. And, I don’t want it to take forever for him to come back like he’s telling me he will. So I just sit & second guess everything he’s told me. I don’t really know what to do…
Monika
January 7, 2019 at 5:20 pm
Hello.
So my story is that me and my boyfriend were together for a year and a half. One night when I was out with my friends my drink got spiked and I blacked out and don’t remember anything but one of my friends told me that I kissed another friend. I immediately told my now ex and he didn’t talk to me for the rest of the day but the next day he told me he wanted to try again and fix it as we had really good chemistry and really loved each other. A few day went by and we would have night talks about the situation and they would rarely end we’ll so he ended up breaking up with me as he said he doesn’t trust me and doesn’t want to have to worry everytime I go out. He wanted to stay friends in secret as he told his entire family and all his friends about what I did. We were friends for 2 weeks but I still had feelings for him and he knew that as I begged him almost every night to come back as we really had something going but then he told me he kissed another girl 2 weeks after the break up and that made my heart sink. I told him I can’t talk to him about stuff like that as it just kills me inside, so I told him not to talk to me for at least 2 weeks but maybe as long as 2 months. It’s been a week now and I’m dying to text him but I know I can’t. I don’t know if I have any chance of getting him back and I don’t know what to do. I’m having doubts as it’s been almost a month after we broke up and I haven’t even looked at other guys whereas he kissed some other girl 2 weeks into the break up and told me he might actually try going with her. I need help as I don’t know what to do anymore.
Soph
December 26, 2018 at 4:53 pm
Hi
My ex is of 4 weeks after 3 years together. I texted him after 2 weeks asking to meet and he refused and said he has nothing to say. He broke up with me because he said things were no longer working and he isn’t to romantically intetested anymore. I am 100 % sure there isn’t another woman. I think it’s because I’m clingy. He’s never been good at replying but since 2 weeks ago when I restarted NC I have heard nothing from him. Not even Christmas day. Should I be worried if he doesn’t reach out for the whole of NC?
Thanks
Chris Seiter
December 26, 2018 at 10:02 pm
Hi Soph!
I do think you should implement NC. Visit my home page to check out the resources available to you that can show you the way. There are steps you can undertake if he does not reach out during the NC period.
Chris Seiter
December 26, 2018 at 10:02 pm
Hi Soph!
I do think you should implement NC. Visit my home page to check out the resources available to you that can show you the way. There are steps you can undertake if he does not reach out during the NC period.
Me
November 18, 2018 at 3:47 pm
Hi Chris or whoever reads this
I went completely insane. I went to his house constantly begging for some closure. He said he didn’t want to be in relationship with me or someone else and he told me to move one more than three times. He gets very upset when I show up at house at night and doesn’t want to have sex. When we first started dating he was completely different person, texted often and sent me funny stuff. Then he got busy with school and work and said he has other stuff on his mind and told me he doesn’t reciprocate feelings for me. He never replies to my texts or dms and recently he threaten to block me if I don’t stop. I explained to him I don’t want a relationship if he doesn’t want one, but I wanted us to be close and he ignored that question too. He wants me to move on but I can never ever trust another man nor do I feel like I am attracted to males because they have the power to hurt us
Ana
October 30, 2018 at 4:25 am
Hi Chris!!
Just want to thank you and your team for all the hard work you put into this website.
Just a couple of questions. I took the exboyfriend recovery quiz and got a rather high score. But overall I feel completely hopeless with the situation I am in.
I was the one who broke everything off with the guy because he did a complete 180 and went from being super loving to cold. I didn’t know what to do and he refused to open up and I eventually just broke down.
I cried and told him I was tired of him and told him I knew he would find someone amazing. That was 2.5 months ago and we have not spoken since. I post on social media once in a while, but he never likes or views my stories. In fact, a couple of weeks after I last spoke to him in August he has posted a pic of another girl on his story saying really mushy and sweet things and it kind of broke.
Since then I have been working on improving myself. This relationship was long distance, but he is now actually going to be moving to my city in December.
I have thought about reaching out to him but thought maybe it would be better to wait it out and see if I run into him on a college campus.
I guess I am just wondering if I even have a chance and if it is even worth pursuing?
Thank you!!!
Chris Seiter
October 31, 2018 at 12:19 am
Thanks Ana for our kinds words.
So its usually best to have a plan. One for yourself and one to better optimize your chances with your ex if you want him back. It sounded like there are some compatibility issues you will need to think about. Implementing no contact can help you in that regard. Take a look at some of the resources and tools I have on the site that will help you in these ways.
Debra
October 28, 2018 at 8:47 pm
I hate that he has this power over me, I’ve nevef begged anyman , wtf did he do to me ? I hate myself for being so pathertic . It’s like i was watching it as if I was another person in disbelief that I was even saying it . Like I couldn’t hold back my words. The bad part was . He was hitting on a girl behind me as I was doing it . He’s rotten and doesn’t deserve me . He’s gonnz be begging for me next time ! F him . My regret is that I thought so highly of him
And not of myself . He treated me bad ! Never again !! No contAct rule will not get him back . I tried it , I did it exactly as stated . If they don’t want you , flat out , they don’t want you. Gotta move on. Someone else willl . No disrespect to this love guru , but this was exhausting To read , it was like , just get to the point. He dragged it out and with no real answer. There is no answer or trick. What’s done is done .
Chris Seiter
October 29, 2018 at 2:48 am
Hi Debra!
Yes, the personal power should be balanced in a healthy relationship. Please don’t hate yourself. Many people are prone to begging and pleading when they are rejected. There are many paths available to you and if you are unhappy in your circumstance then its time for healing and recovery and focusing on those things that bring you fulfillment.
michelle
October 12, 2018 at 9:15 am
hello ,
I’m in long distance relationship for 5 months and things were great but he is younger than me 4 years and before we broke up i always angry at him when we are face timing and it lead him to broke up with me he told me that he was tired of me and did not have any feelings for me and hope we can be just friends after that he still responding to my text and i begged him for 2 weeks and he is still say no after that i sent him sorry message for begging him also include our bad and good memories together, and agreeing to be friends. After that he replied me say thank you for everything and told me to move on but he also told me if you need help don’t hesitate to contact him. I confused now and start doing NC. Do you think he and I can get back together ?
Chris Seiter
October 13, 2018 at 2:18 am
Hi Michelle!
Best to have an ex recovery plan, which can include no contact, and follow the tactics. Go to my home page of this site and check out the tools and resources if offer!
Alisha
September 23, 2018 at 4:58 am
Hello there,
This is a long story but I will try to keep it short. I and my long distance boyfriend were together for 5 years. Our relationship was full of up and downs but we always found a way. He is very very stubborn by nature. After 6 months of dating, I found out that he was cheating on me but I forgave and forgot. He got a tattoo of my name to prove that he loves me. After 5 months we brokeup again and didnt speak for 2 months. I approached him but he seemed not interested though we started talking as buddies but this was hurting me and I kinda started seeing somebody else. Now my boyfriend came to my city to propose me again but found out about this new guy and got deeply hurt. He went back to his place and started ignoring me. I cut all the contacts with new guy and I begged for 8 months to take me back and he did. We were together again and happy. After 4 months we decided to move to the same city so that we can end LDR and be with each other. But after a year or so, my bf got insecure with my collegue who was my good friend. There was just a friendship from both sides. But he found out that I was still talking to him, he read the chats, totally friendly it was but he brokeup woth me again, putting all the blame on me. I started begging again. But he said we can only be friends. Everything became normal being his friend. We were still sleeping together, holding hands, kissing all the times but he was not giving me commitment and whenever I ask for patchup, he would just get angry and starts to blame me. After 1 year being friends, I had to move to another city for work. He promised he would come to see me. So now we are in LDR again. He came to see me after 2 months. We were so in love without any commitment. I asked him to take me back but he said no for that. Now on his last day at my place, he checked my phone and found this guy in my block list with I kinda tried to move on 4 years back. He got hurt and blamed me for things I didnt do. He thinks I still talk to that guy. I am ready to give him proofs that I dont but he is not ready to listen to me. He still ask me to be his friend and act normal and not to talk aboit us. I did that again and he came back to see me. We slept together. I checked his phone this time and found out that he is talking to a girl alot. I confronted him and he again blamed me for everything. I still begged him to take me back. And he left. I am still begging him and he seem to be loosing all the interest in me. He doesnt reply to my texts. He doesnt answer my calls now. I desperately want to get back with him. I am getting physically weak as I m not able to eat anything and he doest care about me at all and cares about this new girl he is talking to.
I feel I lost him this time. He insults me so bad when I speak to him about us.
Is it possible to get back together if there are multiple breakups involve ?
Is there any way to get him back ?
Chris Seiter
September 23, 2018 at 4:24 pm
Hi Alisha….certainly with more breakups comes more heartache and these cycles are not healthy. I am concerned you are being subjected to abusive behavior. You should pull back and start no contact. I have tons of info on this site and books, podcasts, lots of things to help you. Visit my home page as it maps it out.
Sk
September 11, 2018 at 1:13 pm
Hi Chris. I was in a relation wd a guy undergoing divorce since 2 years. We were happy initially, we stay together few days a week and he himself used to talk about our future n marriage. But then the divorce hearings, his parents unwillingness for our relation, his wifes unwillingness for divorce after mentally torturing him took a toll on us n we started Fighting alot. He stopped talking about our marriage so d fights even increased more. Now since last 2 months he was talking about leaving me cuz of excessive fights but always agreed to stay when I asked but said he’s not willing to try for us himself cz he has given up which made me even more insecure and fights increased even more. And now he broke off saying he doesn’t want me in his life cz we fought again. It’s been 3 days of no contact. I have begged him multiple times n last he said is that I need to give him break now n he doesn’t want to come back Please help me. I really love him n understand my mistakes and want to try
Shay
August 17, 2018 at 9:13 pm
Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. He gave me no explanation, he said he loved me but he still ended things. Of course I begged him for a couple of days and he didn’t respond. About a week later he followed me with his fake Instagram account and tried to communicate through Instagram stories. Don’t you think this is crazy? I mean he doesn’t respond to my texts but he posts stories to explain himself? He even posted a photo of us kissing? What is that even mean? He even calls me darling but he doesn’t come back. Anyway he said things were complicated in his life. His family is moving and he said he just wants to make sure that he is never going to hurt me again. He is an over sensitive guy. He thinks he’s hurting me how can I change his mind into thinking that I’m perfectly fine with him. And how to convince him to have long distance relationship? I hope you can help me. I’m on your site 7/24. Great job!
Chris Seiter
August 18, 2018 at 3:35 am
Hi Shay!
His words are not agreeing with his actions. But now he seems to be having second thoughts. So not terribly surprising given the mix message you were getting up front. Usually giving a guy some space can help. Not making yourself too available and showcasing your value via social media or any other means. Go check out my site’s home page for tools and resources to help you through all of this!
Jas
August 3, 2018 at 7:23 pm
Hi, my ex boyfriend and I recently broke up about 6 weeks ago. Well he broke up with me. We were together for two years. We were fighting a lot on vacation and when we came back he broke up with me and I begged him and cried for him to come back and in the beginning of our break up he told him to give him space and we could talk later but I made the Mistake of keep begging him and now he completely cut me off blocked me on social networks but my number is not blocked. I begged for us to be friends two nights ago and he told me to focus on myself and be happy and he is not going back on his word because he needs to be strong . Is there any hope?! Help please
Unknown
July 29, 2018 at 9:30 am
Hi, my ex broke up with me 5 days ago. He was tryna do it for a couple days but i kept begging and spamming and chasing that i finally chased him away to a point he blocked me everywhere cuz of how annoying it was. I really wish i read this article sooner, i didnt know about the NC rule. I thought chasing would help but ik now i just reacted on instinct and i was very emotionally unstable atm. Now that i pushed him away completely, how would i even show him im doing the NC rule if im blocked? Hes gonna think im only not hitting him up cuz my texts cant possibly go through, not cuz its what im doing on my own. Makes me feel powerless cuz i cant even show him i can ignore him on my own. Im on vacation for another month or so, i cant even see him in real life. Am i too late for the NC rule to help me get him back?
Chris Seiter
July 29, 2018 at 4:02 pm
Sorry your ex just broke up with you. I know its still fresh and painful, but you will get thru this. You should visit my website home page and take a look at an ebook I wrote called “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” as it will help you optimize your chances. INdeed, you will find lots of resources on my home page that can help you immensely You are not too late on implementing NC. But you need to learn more about how to best implement it!
Sydney
May 8, 2018 at 9:59 pm
Hi, my ex and I broke up a few days ago and I have tried to do the no contact thing, I would like to know what I can say to fix all my begging and fix how he sees me after that. I don’t have money to spend on your book.
Chris Seiter
May 9, 2018 at 2:54 am
Hi Sidney…take some time and read the posts here! YOu will find some really useful information that can help you in so many ways. Focusing on your own self development and looking pragmatically at the future is important.
Tanvi Pandya
April 25, 2018 at 2:55 am
Me and my ex boyfriend dated for about 9 months and we got super attached in such a little time. He had girl friends before me but I was his actual ‘serious’ relationship. He was my first bf. He is also 3 years older than me. Also, how do I know for sure I was his first serious? Well, ofc he said it all the time but the fact I kept fighting and nagging every single time and this guy never gave up on me and always fought back. Always made sure I felt right. It was also a live-in relationship. Things started going downhill around 6th month when he got into his masters program in a different city. My insecurity got the best of me and the rest of 3 months were ME brutally fighting with him for everything possible and he took it all. As soon as he moved away, within 3 weeks we broke up and I was the one to force the breakup because I kinda took him for granted thinking that he’ll always back, like how he always did but this time he couldn’t take the stress anymore so he stuck to the breakup decision. After that, for the whole week I begged him to come back but he had made up his mind. I went to visit him after 2 weeks of breaking up, i went there and he was waiting for me with roses and sunflowers and everything was normal like nothing ever happened. However the next day he tried his best to not have any physical contact because he didn’t want the physical attraction between us to be “meaningless” he didn’t want the sex to be “meaningless”, but again, it happened. Our feelings were still too strong. I came back, a month later it was my birthday and he traveled all night to surprise me in the morning, things were still going the same just that the “relationship” tag wasn’t there. We weren’t official but we both were still madly in love. The fights were even worse now since there was distance but the love and passion was there as well. It’s been 8 months since we broke up and and everyday we call each other in the morning, after class, skyping for 8-10 hours just like any normal couple but we aren’t a couple. I went to his place again for valentines and we fought one day and he held me and cried saying the only thing he fears is “losing me” as a person. I came back and a month later, we fought and he said “he needs space” he cannot give his 24/7 to me anymore like no skyping all the time and call. I was taken a back obviously but after about 2-3 days of argument, we still ended up doing the same. Until he now finally reached his limit because we had a fight and i said some really harsh things AGAIN and this time he didnt call me back and blocked me on whatsapp, something he never did. For a week we went without contact but he was supposed to come to my city to visit us (we have a mutual friend group) so I knew he’d see me. He came, he saw me, we hugged, he said things became toxic hence we needed the space and everything for the night went back to normal (we didn’t kiss or anything) he also told me he saw my tweet about how i wanted a kung fu panda doll and he ordered it for me.. He went back, I asked to Skype like before and he said no, again i got angry and said some things and he said it back and we fought ugly, and I cried and cried and he hung up. I kept calling him and he blocked me again from whatsapp. Then he bought the car we both have been discussing for a few months and he unblocked me, sent pics and blocked me again. It’s been 2 weeks since we talked, we still have each other on instagram and other social medias but our prime source of conversation was whatsapp and i am blocked from there due to constantly being annoying and calling, and on normal call. T he last time we talked when i was crying he said “after my exams, i’ll call you once, if you pick up then all good, if not then i’ll understand”. His internship starts here in my city next month, in about a week and he chose it here because of me, so we all can be close during summer time and have fun in the new car. I don’t know if he will call and even if he does, things aren’t going to be the same. I see his stories how he’s going to the movies, lunch and all. I also do post stories of me having fun and he sees it too. But i dont know anymore. I mean something as big as buying a car and he didn’t have the decency to at least call me up and tell me but just sent me pics (unblocking, sending pics then blocking again … a lot of work tbh) It’s been 2 weeks of NC.. what should i DO. I realize my mistakes now and how I was so harsh on him. I mean who would still fight back and listen to all the bull shit thrown at them even AFTER the break up. This guy really loved me and I refuse to believe him when he said to me ” I don’t love you anymore, get out of my life” thats how he hung up and blocked me 2 weeks ago. Also, as you mentioned above about showing him a different side of yours, I do that through my stories, when i was in relationship with him and even after the post-relationship, whatever we had, I was the one who liked to stay indoors and just be home. Now I go out with my friends, shopping, cycling and I post them on my stories where he can see. Do you think it affects him or is he thinking of that more than just me being casual me? Also, what should i do? wait for him to contact me and pick up or just ignore him?
I’m extremely sorry for the long post.
Chris Seiter
April 25, 2018 at 3:26 am
Hi Tanvi…oh yes, it has an effect on him, these stories! Men are always checking up on their exes. Have you not picked up a copy of my ebook, Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro? It is an epic Companion Guide and will help you through all these questions you have around timing of contact and No Contact and building attraction and etc, etc. Just go to my website Menu and click Products link to learn more about the ebook resources. You would really benefit by having a comprehensive blueprint to guide you thru this process. And by the way….don’t worry too much about the mean things guys can say in the throes of a breakup. It was his anger speaking.
Tanvi Pandya
April 25, 2018 at 5:35 pm
I’m sorry I don’t have the money on me right now to purchase anything 🙁 Do you think he will ever unblock me, and even if he does and tried to reach out (considering his birthday is coming in 20 days, should I do something?) should I pick up or should I just “leave” his life as he did say “get out of my life” …
Chris Seiter
April 25, 2018 at 11:03 pm
Hi Tanvi…I think you should hang in there. Guys can say mean things, particularly in the middle of breakup situations. It doesn’t mean that they really feel it in their heart. Just keep reading the posts on this website and you can construct a strategy. The ebooks organize all in one place, step by step, but if you invest a lot of time reading, you can piece together a plan going forward.
Cheryl Madeline
April 17, 2018 at 4:56 pm
It’s been 4 months since the mutual breakup. We’ve been together 6 months. I did no contact right after the breakup and i succeeded. I followed the tide theory and texting guides here. Nothing worked. Though I got postive responses. He would call me but i often miss it because I was busy. When i call him back he won’t answer also. We weren’t friends though, just being civil with each other. Last week I asked him to think about us being back together. He was shocked because he said he thought i have moved on and that I was confusing. I gave him time to think. He answered after 2 days and told me that “I don’t want to for now” then I said I’ll respect that and maybe we can at least be friends. Then he just replied “i’m dating someone” IT HURT. I let my emotions get ahead of me and BEGGED HIM to give us another chance and that I’ve grown and mature as person ever since we broke up. He only said “I told you i’m already dating someone” Then i said “Okay then just do me a favor and tell me we can’t be together anymore and that you don’t feel anything for me” But he doesn’t want to. I asked again to spare me my feelings by saying this to me. He just left me on read. What should I do? I love him and I’m hopeless. I’m scared that if the rebound thing could go serious.
Chris Seiter
April 17, 2018 at 11:08 pm
Hi Cheryl…it seems you guys are just missing each other on the communications link up early on. But that really couldn’t be helped. Has he moved on? I can’t say with certainty. Sure he may be dating someone, but who really knows how that is going to turn out. I think your move forward in a pragmatic way with the notion that the two of you might not be together. Give him some space. And most importantly, Keep focusing on your own healing needs, being the best YOU. You can’t put your life on hold. You should move forward. That does not mean you are leaving him behind. But at this stage, it is probably best he makes the next overture. IF you are available and interested in him in the future, then you can decide then if you want to resurrect the relationship. And if you think you would like some coaching or need the help of the Private Facebook Group I have, just go read about it on my Products link via my website menu tab.
Ama
April 14, 2018 at 11:34 am
Hi, my boyfriend of six years in relationship left me for his ex-girlfriend. He only contacts me when he needs help. I made a fatal mistake of begging him. Please can he come back. And what do I do to make him come back to me.
Jennifer Seiter
April 14, 2018 at 1:39 pm
I’m so sorry you are going through this! How long ago did you breakup? You will want to start with the no contact rule. I’m assuming she was talking to him at the end of your relationship “as friends” or behind your back?
Read our article on the no contact rule. https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-no-contact-rule-version-2-0/
Ama
April 14, 2018 at 3:21 pm
We broke up for 3 months now. He dating her right after the breakup. Is he gone forever?
Chris Seiter
April 18, 2018 at 5:10 am
Hi Anna…I decided to jump in here…i hope you don’t mind. No, its not necessarily all over. Do you have a game plan? Have you considered in of the ebooks I have written?
Hunter
April 12, 2018 at 3:51 pm
Hello, I would really appreciate some advice and help. I wish I would have found this website sooner. My boyfriend (24) of 3.5 years broke up with me (24) almost 2 weeks ago and we live together. We broke up due to having been fighting about twice a month for the last 6 months and it got too much for him seeing as we both work and are in school. We have never really had any serious problems and we are deeply in love and are best friends. For those 2 weeks, I have begged, cried and pleaded almost every day for us to get back together. For a couple hours or days, he will act loving, call me all the cutesy names, hug, kiss, tell me he misses and loves me but then takes a 180 turn the next day and tells me to give him space and he doesn’t want to be together. Hes moving out in a month with his friends. My acting desperate has not helped anything and I am trying something different, starting NC today. Is there any advice you can offer? Do I have a chance of getting him back if I start and stick with NC today?
Chris Seiter
April 12, 2018 at 4:26 pm
Hi Hunter! Probably a shortened NC given your history. Space for you both would probably be helpful, given you history is pretty positive. His emotions are all over the map, and so he needs some itme to settle in. If you have not picked up my ebook yet, you should take a look at it (go to site Menu/Products tab). Lot there for you to consider and much more comprehensive.
Alyssa
April 9, 2018 at 2:56 pm
I didn’t beg, I begged for closure which I guess is equally as embarrassing. I start the NC and hope for the best!! I want to rectify and start over.
Chris Seiter
April 10, 2018 at 4:08 am
It’s also important to consider how he views the act. You wanted closure but he may have took it as,
“She wants this closure so bad so she can weasel her way back into my life.”
Hence, he thinks you begged.
Alyssa
April 10, 2018 at 11:34 am
Very true. I feel like a JA but I have this need to be in control of a situation and this one wasn’t. So I definitely feel he has the upper hand now and he does.
Chris Seiter
April 10, 2018 at 10:53 pm
I understand. We all want control of things that impact our lives. But your might surprise yourself with what you can impact.
Alyssa
April 11, 2018 at 1:41 am
True again. Thanks so much for your insight!!!
Chris Seiter
April 11, 2018 at 2:38 am
You bet Alyssa….keep you head up!
Lou
April 3, 2018 at 1:02 am
Hi, I need help!
I’ve been in on and off contact with my ex for 7 weeks now. We were together for 1 year. Some of that time I was emotional and begging, one time we had sex, one time it was sexting and other times just random messages or drunk phone calls but mostly initiated by me. Tonight I’ve stupidly reached out to him to tell him about my mental health struggles, he said he understood but he can’t ‘be there’ for me. I’ve done everything wrong! Is it too late for me to get the power back and have NC be successful??? He txt me a few days ago because he drunkenly nearly accidentally called me on Facebook…so he’s checking my social media but I’m blocked from contacting him on EVERYTHING. He even reblocks my phone number after we txt. We broke up because we argued a lot due to our seperate issues. Help 🙁
Chris Seiter
April 3, 2018 at 2:06 am
So, he’s blocked you like multiple times?
But you aren’t blocked on facebook.
Just getting my facts straight.
Lou
April 3, 2018 at 10:46 am
My replies have seemed to dissappeared! Short answer to your question… yes that’s correct.
Lou
April 3, 2018 at 10:40 am
Also…. he said he had blocked me from insta, snapchat etc because it was too hard to see me. That was relatively soon after we broke up. I’ve been purposely posting happy pictures etc on fb so he sees them but now I’ve told him how much I’m struggling (even though I’ve made it clear it’s not about him) I’ve literally gave all my power away and he’ll just see me as a crumbling mess whilst he’s skipping around town knowing he’s coping better than me.
Lou
April 3, 2018 at 10:36 am
Yes! He obviously unblocked me to txt me the other night and the next day I realised he had also unblocked my Facebook messages for some reason too (he’s never actually blocked my fb page though) so I message him on there the day after he texts… he doesn’t read any of them all day so I send a final message saying it’s a two way street and not ok for him to expect a reply and then ignore me…. he read them the next day and then blocked me on messenger again. I had to call from an unknown number a leave a message for him to txt me so I could explain my current struggles. After a fairly non emotional reply he blocked my number again and here we are. Again he can still gain access to my Facebook profile but that’s it at this point.
Manshi
April 2, 2018 at 3:34 pm
Hi my boy and I were together for 2 years and he broke up with me almost a month ago saying that he needs to figure out his life and that since he had to do that he thinks he doesn’t have time for a commitment like a relationship. I immediately panicked and begged him, I tried to convince him that he doesn’t have to do that and I even made his friends talk to him about it. His friends were shocked when they found out that he broke up with me because everyone knew how in love we were with each other and how strong our relationship was.
My boy said that he hopes that we can be friends, that if we are meant to be we will find our way back to each other and that he wants to keep in touch with me.
I really love him and I know that I did the worst thing by begging him to stay but I can’t stop loving him because I know he’s the one. So please i kindly ask you to help me get him back. Please tell me what I’m suppose to do because I really want him back. I want him to come back to me. Please help me.
Chris Seiter
April 4, 2018 at 12:34 am
The first step is always start up NC!
We will be here for you throughout the entire process.
Manshi
April 4, 2018 at 3:27 am
Hi Chris, for how long should I do no contact?
Chris Seiter
April 5, 2018 at 10:50 pm
Hey!
So, go and read this post,
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-no-contact-rule/
And figure out what time frame would be best for you.
Manshi
April 6, 2018 at 3:08 am
Hi,
Thank you for taking your time to reply to my questions Chris, I’m going to start NC today, I will follow through 30 days and let you know how it goes.
Have a blessed day!
Chris Seiter
April 7, 2018 at 4:44 am
Come back if you have trouble throughout the process… trust me it’s not an easy thing to get through.