Rejection and denial…
For most of the women I work with there are no two scarier words than the ones written above.
And yet I find that quite a few women end up rejected or denied by their exes.
Well, in my experience it is because they overextend themselves.
Think of it like this.
Your ex boyfriend breaks up with you which causes you to immediately want him back. Of course, you are a very smart person and you know that you need to have a sound strategy if you are going to convince him to take you back. So, you go online and search everywhere for a reputable source to help you with your pain.
Eventually you stumble across my little gem of a website here and read about the no contact rule.
Now, don’t get me wrong.
The no contact rule is without a doubt an essential strategy to getting your ex back but it has a bit of a downfall to it.
Generally, by doing a period of no contact it makes you want your ex even more and causes you to go a little too fast too soon.
Hence, you overextend yourself before enough of a connection has been built and you end up rejected.
In fact, that is exactly what happened to Taylor, the subject of our episode today.
A Bit About Taylors Situation
- She just completed a 30 day no contact rule
- She was on day 5 of the “texting phase”
- Things seemed to be going well…
- And then she overextended herself a bit and ended up rejected
- She now wonders what to do
One thing that you are going to notice about this episode of the podcast is that I talk a lot about one thing,
Often times, getting an ex back revolves around how connected you can make him feel towards you and making him connected to you revolves around the four levels of conversation,
- Small Talk: Anyone can talk about, it can be a stranger in a shop or in a bus
- Swapping Facts: We only do this with people we are loosely acquainted with and is the sort of conversation you might have on a first date.
- Discussing Opinions: Tend to do with with people you are familiar with, You know they won’t judge you too harshly
- Sharing Feelings: Usually reserved for family members and romantic information.
Don’t worry, I talk a lot more in depth about it in the episode (give it a listen!)