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742 thoughts on “The Definitive Guide To Making Your Ex Boyfriend Love You Again”

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    Madison

    September 11, 2016 at 4:45 am

    Hey there! Me and my ex have been broken up for a year. We separated and agreed we should move on. 2 months ago he wished me happy birthday and was being very nice out of no where. He’s been great and good to me. We’ve went out a many times and hooked up a few times as well too. He texts me everyday and calls here and there too. I am confused I want him back but I haven’t mentioned anything. All the feelings I lost have come back. He hasn’t said anything about us getting back together but he always mentions the times we used to have and the things we did and how much fun it was. He calls to hangout and offers to pick me up from work. I’m confused. What should I do? Should I let him know how I feel or move on?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 12, 2016 at 4:03 pm

      Hi Madison,

      it’s obvious that he likes you but I think you shouldnt sleep with him again.. coz I’m not sure if he’s in it because you’re friends with benefits or he’s just taking his time

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    Brooke

    September 6, 2016 at 4:00 am

    Hi,

    I was with my boyfriend for over a year and to me everything was perfect. We were in love and happy, yes we had our fights and bumps in the relationship but we always agreed to try and work on it together. But less then a week ago he sent me a text message to say he wanted to break up. It was drawn out longer by me wanting to talk about it and fight for our relationship and I honestly thought he would want to but he ended up just getting more annoyed with me. He said he didn’t want to get back together with me. I left him alone a few days but then broke again and contacted him saying I accepted what I may have done to cause this and I was sorry but wanted another chance to get through it. But again he was nice for a while but then got frustrated and said he had had enough and didn’t want me and doesn’t have the love for the relationship anymore. But then he said he still wanted to be best friends which we always were when we dated so I didn’t understand why he wanted to be my best friend but not my boyfriend. I’m completely heart broken and need some advice.
    Will the contact rule still work for me?
    If he’s so annoyed at me and says the love is gone won’t he just move on?
    Why does he want to be my friend?
    Is there a chance for him to miss me and potentially want me back??
    How do I make him fall in love again?
    What do I do please help??

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 7, 2016 at 6:07 am

      Hi Brooke,

      we canr guarantee that the no contact rule will work..but if he’s annoyed of you trying to talk to him, that means if you keep trying it wont help right? And if you keep being present, you’ll be friendzoned..

      do you want to try what Chris advised above?

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    STRUGGLING

    August 23, 2016 at 10:11 am

    hi ive been really having a hard time 🙁
    my ex of almost two years broke up with me saying he’s falling out of love (i realize it was probably the lack of appreciation i’d show him) it’s been almost two months since the break up but we’ve been keeping a bit of contact because we see each other at school so often & it really kills me inside to see him having fun with people i don’t know after he ditched me, we go to this new college so i’ve also been having a hard time socializing properly like i used to because i’ve been so affected, i’ve been trying not to talk to him at all but it really does kill me going around campus because i get lovely reminders of things that should’ve been great but aren’t anymore 🙂

    how do i make him want to talk to me & be with me again?? i want him to regret his decision & make him think life is terrible without me but i’m so upset he seems to be doing just fine

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 27, 2016 at 8:53 am

      Hi Struggling,

      you should be doing what he does.. make new friends, join new clubs or volunteer. Improve yourself and have fun

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    STUCK

    July 24, 2016 at 1:07 am

    so my bf of a year & a half & I broke up around two weeks ago, I’ve been away on a trip for 3 months & I am coming back in two days & he is really pushing to see me so much, I of course want to see him but it was obviously because I was excited to see my boyfriend & go on a date.. anyways, he said he broke up with me because he was losing affection.. & that he didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore in general (which to me is so selfish :-/) I know he’s not leaving for someone else, throughout our relationship, we did really well, we prioritized other things separately like school family friends etc, we never had jealousy or trust issues as well, we would end up having fights only because our personalities clashed, he still sees me as amazing & everything but he basically set off the “I love you but im not in love with you” bullshit, sigh, so right now, we agreed to meet up to spend some time together when I got back… I want to hang out with him but I don’t want him to think being friends is okay I want him to try to make moves on me… is there a way to get him to get re attracted to me without me trying “too hard”?? I want him to see me & think “wow no I love this girl & I want her what was I thinking” when we meet again, I want ️him to fall back in love with me & show me that by making moves.. do you think I have a chance?? & what should I do when I end up seeing him..??

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 26, 2016 at 9:19 am

      Hi Stuck,

      don’t be too available.. if you can postpone the meet for now,.postpone it and meet other friends.. when you meet keep it fun and light and leave in high note.. maintain yourself and meet new people too and go out with them..

      be flirty when you meet but don’t overdo it

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    NATASHA

    July 1, 2016 at 1:20 pm

    Hi Chris,
    Me and my ex broke up 3 days ago because we have been fighting a lot. We fought a lot, i agree, but generally they were just small fights that often lead to me being angry at him or vice versa (usually it is because we tease each other and then misunderstood each other). We broke up once over a month ago because he was so busy with his work that he didnt reply me often enough that i got irritated by it and almost broke up with him. 3 weeks ago, we fought over something really huge and he broke up with me because he didnt want to keep hurting me and hurting us, he said it would be better if we stop seeing each other because we do not fit at all. I begged for him to get back together with me and promise that it wouldnt happen again, but he was different ever since. He started getting mad at no reason and I was tired of it. On the day of the breakup, he said he was acting differently because he subconsciously (maybe) wanted me to break up with him instead of him breaking up with me. I was mad and i said things I felt at that point of time (I said he was losing interest in me and he did not love me anymore). I begged for him to come back to me and start all over again because I realised my fault and I am sure that I can change, but he said let’s move on and leave things where they are. He did not want to see me anymore until we both have moved on, he blocked me on instagram but he did not block me on other social media. I am now on NCR (2 days into it) and I dont know what to do. Should I initiate a meeting after I have done the NCR? Does he really still love me or was it all just an act of pity?

    Thanks 🙂

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      NATASHA

      July 2, 2016 at 4:32 am

      hi Amor,

      So what should I do after the NCR? Should i initiate a meetup or do i just let him be?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 4, 2016 at 12:50 pm

      nope.
      slowly rebuild rapport again through texts, and then calls before meeting up

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 1, 2016 at 5:55 pm

      hi Natasha,

      it looks like he just agreed to get back for you to stop begging

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    Serena

    June 25, 2016 at 5:15 pm

    Hello- It’s been a month since my ex ended our 3 year relationship because we’ve been fighting for months, and toward the end we “grew apart” (we stopped trying). I moved to a new city to be with him as he started his career. He was doing so well and working crazy hours, but it was putting a strain on our relationship because I was not happy and didn’t feel it was the right city for my career goals. We’re both 25 so we’re young and around the age that we should be focusing on our own career advancements, but we’ve definitely been putting a lot of energy into our relationship. We truly love each other so deeply, we would talk openly about marriage and what our future looks like etc. I started applying to jobs on the west coast (we live in texas) because I felt that’s where my career would blossom and I could be happy in my own life to be happier in our relationship. When he found out it was sad and he cried because he said he doesn’t believe in LDR and he can’t leave his job here. After that we took a break, I applied, interviewed, and received an offer to my dream job. I believe in the time we were apart, he realized how much the relationship was getting in the way of growing in his career (he got a promotion right after we took space) and at one point in the conversation he mentioned “he fell a little out of love” everytime we fought about me not being happy here and complaining about my career and being “bored” here. I leave in a few weeks to start the perfect job in a new city, but I don’t want to loose him. He says he believes we were only meant to be with each other for a chapter and it’s over and if it’s meant to be we’ll come back into each others lives. Is it possible to make him fall back in love with me over this distance? I’ll be back here every month or so for work/ different reasons so we could see each other. Do you think I’m just holding on to false hope? How do I keep in touch so he still feels our connection, but also knows I respect his space and that he is trying to live his life. I plan to move back here after a year/ year and a half anyway

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    Jelena

    June 22, 2016 at 1:10 pm

    Hello, me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year now. 2 months ago, he cheated on me because “he ‘s a guy and he needs sex”. He broke up with me. I was begging him not to do that. I was broken. I’ve been in love with him for more than 6 years… He is my IDEAL man. Well… We got back together and everything was fine ( except our sex life because I had a picture in my head of him sleeping with another girl ). He lives in another town because of college and we haven’t seen each other for 20 days now. He broke up with me AGAIN 3 days ago and I still can’t stop crying. We had a deal-when we break up we won’t give back our “presents” if we still love each other. He told me today that he will give me back everything I gave him and also that he wants his stuff back. The reason for breaking up was:” It’s not going anymore. I love you but that’s not it and I don’t want to waste time on something that won’t work because of distance.” Can anyone give me some advice? :/

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 27, 2016 at 7:33 am

      Hi Jelena,

      did he really sleep with somebody or you just accused him? Because if he really did sleep with somebody else then you have think about if you really want him back. If he didn’t you should still go into no contact to let him cool off and to improve yourself.

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    Girl

    June 16, 2016 at 7:00 am

    We were with each other for 18 months ,A few weeks back, I was asking why he never called much anymore I also did say some hurtful things (blamed him for another person running away but this person had issues/was living with them and had depression but they had to kick him out due to their sister moving in so I made him feel bad for doing that). He wanted a break because he “wasn’t sure if he fully loved me anymore” (said not physically)…but 10 minutes later said he did love me?!. I did used to push him a lot for not calling me much or taking me out but he’s bad with handling emotions and conflict so instead of fixing situations he runs away. So that day I said it’s over, I was hurt, and grabbed my laptop from his house without saying a word. Day after I had rebound sex. He was very hurt and we met up twice to talk. He cried a lot and sort of raged abit because he was hurt and jealous but i (thought) we made up and he wanted to “make love” to me I said “only if you say we’re back together” he said yes we are, but on a break.
    After the break up he asks if we can be friends i said no. The next night he calls me because he promised to, and expresses that he “doesn’t think we’re right for each other neither does HIS SISTER” that “our relationship is toxic and we dont have trust” bearing in mind HE CHEATED ON ME IN THE PAST ONCE. I said “I’m going to move on now, cya” he says “you’ll always have a place in my heart” crying.
    He sends a text saying “have fun with your rebound sex” Then he unfollowed me on Facebook and Instagram that same day because he said he couldn’t stop looking at my profiles and gets jealous) I reply 9 days later. And he says he has stuff to drop off to me and that he “would love to see my face again” and asks how many guys ive seen since the break up i said none and he said he isnt interested in anyone either
    Now he’s coming to give my stuff back in 2 days, how do I act? I’ve been stand of fish with the texts after applying NC for 9 days and he seems to be coming back to me slowly but I’m not sure. How do I act when he comes to my house? How do I act “ungettable” and should I start “friend zoning” him? Since I said no but if I say I’m happy being friends will this surprise him?

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      Girl

      June 21, 2016 at 3:58 am

      He’s also doing petty stuff like liking my Instagram photo. If he wants me back why can’t he just say so and get to it?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 21, 2016 at 7:30 pm

      if he’s doing therapy, then that’s a very big step for him.. Be kind to him , just don’t be all over him 😉

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      Girl

      June 20, 2016 at 6:00 am

      Yes he has. He was standing at the door staring hopelessly so I invited him in for a coffee. We had a laugh and were chatting without any serious chat until he kissed me then he said he “felt that he wasn’t on the same level as me emotionally” but then cried saying he does love me. He then asked me to dates he has planned in the near future. I asked him why he’s so emotionally unavailable (he abuses weed and I can tell he has some depression) and he started crying saying he’s unhappy with himself. Then I told him if I reconsider getting back with him that he has to see a therapist first and sort his life out and he’s agreed to do that but he’s such a confused soul.He mentioned he’s not interested in anyone else but I don’t know what to do I feel like I’m a standing ship with my anchor in one spot. Just don’t know what to do. We are now texting normally but I’m trying not to invest myself emotionally just yet.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 18, 2016 at 11:35 am

      Hi Girl,

      has he come to give you your things?

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    Esther

    May 31, 2016 at 3:44 pm

    my boyfriend and i just broke up a month ago because his dad doesn’t like me because i’m from another tribe.when we broke up i fell sick and kept texting me to check up on me then i kept on texting him until i realized that i was the one texting him much until he i decided not to text him again. 2 weeks later he texted me asking how i’m doing. when we broke up he told me that he still loves me and i was the best friend he never had. for now i have kept my distance from him with no contacts but what are my chances of getting back together with him? please help

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 31, 2016 at 9:25 pm

      Hi Esther,

      How old are you both?

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    Gab

    May 11, 2016 at 1:19 pm

    Hi and congratulations for the effort and the good suggestion you are delivering here.

    I’d like to tell you my story even if I’m still in the middle of it. I’m 36, Italian gay guy living in the UK. One year ago I met my ex bf (33, Spaniard) and we spent 9 months as a couple and things were amazing. But at certain point i started to be too dependent on him and on the other hand he felt not mature enough for a relationship. So after an amazing holiday he decided to break up (he was a bit desperate at the beginning and i tried to control myself). We always kept in touch (one night we kissed in a party, many times) but when i realised that i was thinking about him like the love of my life i tried to understand if there would be any possibility to be together again in the future and he told me that he doesn’t believe in second chances (because of his only other relationship that he had) that he wanted to move back to Spain, that he kissed me because was drunk etc…
    After that i decided to turn page and so no messages, no meetings…Apparently not for him because I know for sure that he is still thinking about me (even showing it on social networks). After 2 weeks he texted me saying that he wanted to change his life, that i was right he has not good friends here but that he wants to stay in the UK and stuff like that and then proposed to meet up few days later. We met and i felt for the first time really good with myself even if i was happy to meet him obviously. After spending the afternoon in a park we went to mine for a dinner and in the middle of watching a film we started to have sex, for the first time in 3 months. He even suggested that we could have it “next time”. The day after we had a very easy going chat and that’s it.
    I really think this time i want to be with no contact at all for more time than 2 weeks. And i’m realizing that I have nothing to loose: I have myself back, metting people and enjoying what I have.

    At the same time i know what i felt for him and how was being together (even if maybe not the right timing for both).

    So….I really don’t know if he will come back and part of me is still loving him, but I don’t want to have hopes anymore. Am I wrong?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 15, 2016 at 1:50 am

      Hi Gab,

      I think you’re starting a friends with benefits relationship here. Don’t sleep with him again next time.. You have attraction but if he remains stubborn, you have to be firm to that you’re not going to be with him just for sex.. you don’t have to talk about it very seriously but just refuse it… You can tell him, it’s not just you to be sleeping with someone you’re not committed with, and then let the topic go..

      it’s good that you have your own life right now because we have to be realistic.. if he’s not open to 2nd chances, then you have to be careful with him because it’s either he’s breaking his belief or he’s just doing things he likes with you with no commitments.

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    Kim

    May 6, 2016 at 9:02 pm

    My bf broke up with me last november. He said he still loved me but needed time alone. I did all the wrong things, begging, crying… It didnt work. I had a horrible christmas and on new years eve he sent me a text to wish me a happy new year and I didnt respond. A few days later he texted me again and asked me if i was mad with him because I didnt respond. He said I was his best friend and didnt want to lose me. I got new hope after that. We sent each other some text again in february. He was really nice. Then in March I found out he was seeing someone else. A women with 2 children and he never wanted any children with me (he alredy has a son from a previous relationship). He said that if we would have a baby, we wouldnt have our freedom to do the things we loved like travelling when his son was all grown up. I agreed. And now he has a new relationship with a woman with 2 young children? I dont understand. He said he wanted to be alone. He didn’t tell me about the new relationship. I am so hurt right now. I hardly hear him anymore. Do I still have a chance. Should I contact him or leave him alone. I’m crying every day. He was my soulmate. Please can you give me some advice. I’m hurting so much. I’m all alone and he’s playing happy families with an ugly woman with 2 kids. The only thing they have in common is that his son plays soccer and her sons do as well. Please help.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 8, 2016 at 1:41 pm

      Hi Kim,

      let’s say she’s not attractively in advantage of you but with what you said, that he set aside what he doesn’t prefer mean there’s more to her.. maybe her personality and character? it’s better if you leave him be.. and if you want a last try..do no contact but after that yiur next steps should only be friendly.. because if he knows you’re doing it to get him back, he’ll protect his current relationship.. you should watch this video to understand more what I’m saying
      What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

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    Eli

    April 30, 2016 at 5:46 am

    I’m doing no contact now. My plan is that after no contact, I will implement the friendzone tactics. However I did notice that you said that it’s supposed to be a last ditch effort. What’s the difference? Does that mean that my plan has a low chance of working?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 1, 2016 at 1:36 pm

      nope, it’s just a last resort because it’s risky..

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    margot

    April 18, 2016 at 3:54 pm

    Hello,
    my boyfriend and I were together for 2 years and lived together. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago and although in the beginning I begged for another opportunity, I decided to apply the “No contact” for almost 2 weeks now. But times have been confusing to me… We had an amazing relationship, at least I thought so. We were very open with each other and shared the same dreams and goals together. Until three weeks ago he came to me and said he didn’t love me anymore and felt this way for a few months already. I mean, his actions, his eyes, his words never reflected this, but maybe I was completely blind with love. Looking back. we were feeling pressured with the amount of work and responsibilities, I was starting to feel insecure about myself and he was very anxious because of financial problems and about his future since he is moving abroad next year for a master degree, but we discussed that situation many times and he assured me that we were going to fight for us because we had something very special between us and he couldn’t picture his life with anyone else. I was living my dream. Anyway, a few days before he broke up with me he went to a competition in a different city, when he came back he said he had changed along with his dreams, I couldn’t understand what he meant until last week I found he started dating another girl he met during those 2 days… He said she wasn’t the reason we broke up, he just wanted to be alone and not have the pressure of any serious relationship now, his friends told me it wasn’t anything serious, but honestly I don’t know, I mean it was strong enough to end our relationship. I knew pretty well this guy and never thought he would do anything like this… He has been a wall to me, very distant and cold. We meet each other occasionally because we are at the same university. I really want to fight for him, but I seriously don’t know if it is worth it or if I stand a chance. I still have strong feelings towards this man and I respect him tremendously although his actions in the last few days. I know an incredible person behind those actions, but he said that person is dead… I have been trying not to judge him, not to hear anything everyone has to say about him, it’s pretty hurtful. I felt (feel) he was the one. I have been working really hard on my insecurities, have already lost the weight I gained, started meditation, yoga, eating well, volunteering. I have done this for me, for a new and healthier me, but I feel he doesn’t even care, just keeps ignoring me. I know now that he wasn’t entirely honest about his true feelings, but it is so confusing to trust this new person that speaks to me as if he was speaking to a wall without any emotion on his eyes, voice… The same person that used to say he respected me above all things in the universe, wrote the most beautiful poems to me, held me with all his strength. I still love him, all his faults and qualities, or at least the memory I have of him. I don’t know if this new girl is serious to him, or if she’s only filling an empty space in his life. He asked me to stay friends but I don’t know if he was serious about that as well.. I just wanted him to see this new and healthier me. I miss his love and friendship, I never met anyone like him. Also don’t know how or when I should contact him, I am willing to give him and myself the space and time we need, but I still have dreams, just don’t know if I should hold on to them…

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 18, 2016 at 6:15 pm

      Hi Margot,

      it looks like he sees her as a grass is greener case and is now in honeymoon phase with her.. for me you should move on.. for sure he will compare you two, but not until some time has passed.. if you want to wait that out, it’s your choice

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    Annie

    March 25, 2016 at 10:29 pm

    Hey Chris!

    I have completed NCR and from getting either ignored or getting rude responses, he now replies neutrally.. And I am pleased with it.
    Except we broke up in November, and he has been neutrally replying for about a month.
    The thing is, I am very confident that I can execute all your advice if I can actually get him to start replying enthusiastically. I am very sure of that. I am so sure of that, in fact that I’m sure that even he’s sure of this fact..which is why he is not letting his guard down, and replying with just as few words as possible, no matter what.
    So I really really need help in Breaking that wall down and actually getting him to reply enthusiastically, could you please help?
    I have sent memory messages, messages about topics of his interest and all that..I just get responses like “yeah” or “okay” or maximum “okay sure”
    I really feel like if I can get past this, the rest wouldn’t be a problem. Please advise!

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 2, 2016 at 1:52 pm

      Hi,

      Sorry for the late reply. I read all your previous comments too. It looks like it’s because he knows you want him back and now you’re the one chasing him.. It would really take time after that because until he sees you’ve actually moved on, the he doesn’t think you’re trying to get him back, then that can increase the chances of him getting attracted to you again. Especially if you have already learned to love yourself and have your own life..

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    Help!

    March 25, 2016 at 9:44 pm

    Hey Chris!

    I badly want to buy all your e-books, but you have only facilities to receive payments through credit card! Unfortunately I have only a debit card so I’m not able to buy them!
    I even missed out on your “recovery plan” offer because of that 🙁
    Please can you make changes for various forms of payment?
    Thanks!

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      Help!

      April 2, 2016 at 9:46 pm

      Amor,
      Sorry for spamming with multiple messages that time..I was just so confused!
      But here I actually asked something different! 😛 I would like to know if the ebr team could enable other forms of purchase besides credit cards?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 4, 2016 at 7:51 am

      Sorry for the late reply.. it may mean your messages are not that compelling, or he still thinks you’re getting him back and not just being friendly so he doesn’t want to engage…

      I’m afraid our only form of payment is credit card…

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 2, 2016 at 1:52 pm

      Hi,

      Sorry for the late reply. I read all your previous comments too. It looks like it’s because he knows you want him back and now you’re the one chasing him.. It would really take time after that because until he sees you’ve actually moved on, the he doesn’t think you’re trying to get him back, then that can increase the chances of him getting attracted to you again. Especially if you have already learned to love yourself and have your own life..

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    Joanne

    March 14, 2016 at 12:48 am

    Hi,

    I was plan to get back with my ex but in a half way i mess it because of my uncontrolled emotion. The reason my ex break up with me is because of i’m possessive and he feel stress when with me. We have a happy time together for 1 year plus but everything change after he know a girl from DOTA. is it possible i get him to fall in love with me again? I now on 2nd times of NC. He still want to be friend with me and help me whenever I need.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 15, 2016 at 10:41 am

      Hi Joanne,

      I’m guessing your in your teens or twenties, So, I’m guessing too that he haven’t met the dota girl in person right? I think it’s not just because of the girl and not rally you’re possessiveness, although he might have not liked that before too but he just made it a reason to cover he’s real reason.. just don’t reply to him during nc of course, and are you being active?

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    Adriana

    March 4, 2016 at 12:37 am

    Hi so recently my boyfriend broke up with me because we had issued and I kinda pushed him into a mindset where he “doesn’t want to deal with the responsibly or issues a realistic shop has” he tells me he loves me and cares about me and since the break up we’ve hooked up and I’ve also gone over to his house and spent the night without hooking up. I feel lik he’s being honest but I want to win him back, I don’t know if I’m doing things right but I feel like if I stick around he might change his mind. I don’t want to let go of what he have and although the I know I don’t need him I really love spending time and talking to him. We’re just amazing together

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      Joanne

      March 16, 2016 at 6:46 am

      Hi Amor,

      Thanks for your reply. He have meet the DOTA girl and they keep texting each other everyday. He told me that he and the girl just a friend. I have told him that I trust him but I don’t trust the girl as the girl send the text message like flirting him although the girl have BF. Actually my age is almost 30 and my ex is 23. When we broke up he didn’t tell me the truth reason that why he want to brake. But recently I know the reason of break up from his buddy which he (my ex) said he feel stress because of i’m possessive and he with the girl just a friend but because of me he have to become a bad guy which he block her in every social network and never reply her text. When broke up I have try to please him back, because of this make him move far away from me. After a few month he text me and said he only want to be friend with me (he told me he don’t love me, don’t want to get back together again and he happy with his life now). I have control myself not to reply any message from him, but he never contact me since NC.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 16, 2016 at 9:38 pm

      that’s good..be firm and also.. be active.. if his issue is your possessiveness, he has to see yiu’re having your own life now.. yiu can also try jealousy posts

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 4, 2016 at 7:09 am

      Hi adriana,

      if you really feel sticking around will work, it’s ok to to do that and then observe as the days pass

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    Amber

    March 3, 2016 at 7:04 pm

    Hi I need some help my ex left me 5 months ago now we were together for 3 years he just decided that he needed to find himself and he wasn’t happy. He said he loves me but can’t be in a relationship. He then barley talks to me almost right after the break up and just refuses to have any kind of contact at all. Do you have any advice for what I should do.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 4, 2016 at 4:49 am

      Hi Amber,
      when did you last talked? Do you consider doing contact?

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    Mary

    March 2, 2016 at 4:30 am

    Hey Chris,
    I would really appreciate an advice from you. Most of the tactics described in your book i tried by myself, somehow intuitively i knew what to do, but it never worked out completely. So my situation – i was an ungettable girl for him, when we first met, i though ‘with this guy? Never in my life’. But once i got to know this person better, i realised he was exactly what i need, we were real soulmates. But after some time he suddenly said he is not interested in me anymore, that he doesnt love me, but i’m still one of his best friends and he ‘could never expect to get so close to anyone’. Should i also add that he is still sexually attracted to me, but he doesn’t want to have relationships with me. I tried ignoring him, it ended up in drunk calls from him and texts – asking me out for a coffee or simple ‘how re you, what re you doing etc’ But once i stopped NC, he put me back in friendzone. I tried using jealosy, he is very interested in where have i been and with whom, but it looks like he just wants me to finally get a new guy and get over him. I really don’t know what tactic to use here, we re on the good terms, but i’m afraid if i let him go and stop any contact, i will lose him completely.
    Best regards, and looking forward to get an answer from you.
    Mary

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 2, 2016 at 4:36 pm

      Hi Mary,

      you basically became the chaser..you’re attractive for him which is good but I think it’s because he knows how much you like him.. I don’t think you would lose him coz you’re friends but it’s a matter of what’s really interesting for him and of he’s into relationahips now

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    Beckie

    February 28, 2016 at 10:09 pm

    Dear Chris,

    Me and my boyfriend where together for 1 year and have recently broken up earlier this month (February) just after he visited me on my year abroad in Canada.

    He said his reason for ending our year long relationship was because of the feelings he now holds for his ex-girlfriend! He said that when we were doing things like skiing it did not feel the same or like the real thing! However he has never expressed these feelings to me before as he always said that he loved me and always saw a future with me… all of a sudden he doesn’t! I don’t believe that you stop loving someone over night!
    He always said that there was a reason we met and were together! I want to be with him again it was all so sudden! Do you have any advice on my situation?

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      Beckie

      March 3, 2016 at 2:04 pm

      I am returning home in May and I have to return some of his things. Do you have any advice about how I should go about this?

      Also if I don’t speak to him until I return his things in May is he likely to contact me?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 3, 2016 at 2:42 pm

      just make it casual, so it won’t get awkward.. even just a simple..hi, I just returned..how are you lately? I went cleaning and cleaned yours too, if you wanto get them anytime, just message me…

      yes, there’s a chance he will

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      Beckie

      March 2, 2016 at 6:41 pm

      They haven’t spoken for over a year and he sent her a message about 2 weeks ago but she did not reply and has ignored him because she does not want anything to do with him!

      At the moment I am not talking to him! I don’t really know what to do about the situation! Because we were so happy together he literally changed so quickly!

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 3, 2016 at 10:52 am

      that’s good that she’s doesn’t want him.. yes for now that’s the best thing to do..

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      Beckie

      March 2, 2016 at 4:04 pm

      Hi!

      They had not spoken to each other for over a year!

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 2, 2016 at 5:09 pm

      hmmm..but when they did start talking again..I mean are you sure it wasn’t recent.. but going back to you.. are you doing nc?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 29, 2016 at 1:02 pm

      Hi Beckie,

      was it really overnight or they have been in touch long enough for him to realize he want her back?

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