How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Fall In Love With You Again- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

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Gina

September 16, 2013 at 11:30 pm

Hello Chris, I need your advice! My boyfriend and I are in colleges one hour away from each other. We broke up seven weeks ago because he was tired of fighting and at first we had planned to just take space and then get back together, but that changed two weeks ago when I called him and he said its best if we remain single. I then met him up for dinner on thursday night and he said that he loves me a lot but he just isnt ready to be a good boyfriend right now. He kissed me as well. Then the next day I got a call from my friend saying that she saw him at the bar and he was drunk but telling her how he is so incredibly miserable without me. He had texted me everyday this past week. Some were a little boyfriendy, others were just as a friend. He asked me if I kissed anyone and I had said no and he replied with a sad face and said he missed me. The other day he told another one of his friends (who told me) that he is not happy without me. I then decided to leave. Because I am single, and I love him and want him, but obviously he wasnt acting on his emotions and so yesterday I told him that I need to move on and so does he and we cannot be friends and cannot talk. He replied saying that hes sorry but right now he just needs to focus on himself and he is his own priority and that he also doesnt think that I have “changed” in such a short period of time. I was very naggy during our relationship and we used to fight about that alot. In these seven weeks I have realized that and I am so ready to not nag and have him back and show him that I can be the girl he fell in love with. I am trying the nc for 30 days and hoping that he will realize exactly how miserable he is without me but I am also not sure if thats the best way to go. What if he forgets that he loved me because we dont talk? Because his college is an hr away, i will definitely not bump into him anywhere or see him so I feel like he actually may forget that he loved me. I am confused on what to do and how to get him back. Any advice you have would be much appreciated 🙂

admin

September 17, 2013 at 1:56 am

You might want to check out the long distance post.

Alyssa

September 16, 2013 at 11:24 pm

Hi, Chris! I have read all of your articles pertaining to how to get your ex boyfriend back and I have a huge issue. Okay so me and my boyfriend basically lived together for a year. We had our ups and our downs, but we truly loved each other. We were talking about getting engaged and his parents met my parents and it was getting pretty serious. I will admit that throughout this relationship i sometimes acted psychotically but never enough to push him away. One day, he woke up and just left. He packed his things and just left and said he needed a “break.” I was so devastated. This break happened right after a huge fight we had. We were on a boat with his friends and we kept fighting and I feel like thats what caused him his breaking point. Anyway, we have now been on a break for four weeks and I asked him how long he wants this break. (In this break I have been improving and working on myself to be a better person and a better girlfriend.) I met up with him to discuss this break just a few days ago and he said he didnt know how long this break will last. He says he just likes being single, although he loves me a lot and if there was a girl he would want to be with it would be me, but right now he just “doesnt know.” I got really hurt and then I decided to just walk away. I told him I cannot wait for this undecided end to the break because that hurts me. I mean what if he wants to be on a break for a year? I cant just sit here and cry all day. After I told him I was leaving he started crying and said that he changed his mind, but I knew it was for the wrong reasons, so I said no and I said if you want to be with me you’ll have to fight for me because right now you’re only asking for me back because I am leaving you. He agreed and then hugged me and parted ways. I know that he loves me and I love him but I also know that he wants to be single, not to hook up with people, but just to do his own thing and take care of himself. My question to you is, what do i do now? Should I do the nc for 30 days, and if i do it do you actually think it’ll work? Hes 25 and im 23 and hes in his second year of med school. Thank you so much for any advice youd have to offer and sorry this is so long!

admin

September 17, 2013 at 1:55 am

I think it is your best bet going forward honestly. Have you picked up the E-Book. There is a lot more in there!
Gina

September 17, 2013 at 6:15 pm

What exactly do you mean by “going forward?” I really need all the help I can get 🙁 And what if he doesnt contact me at all during the nc 30? Ive read your page on the no contact rule but that still really worries me :-/
admin

September 18, 2013 at 3:01 am

What exactly worries you? I want to clear up your doubts.
Alyssa

September 18, 2013 at 3:52 am

Im worried during the NC period he will find someone else. Someone who will comfort him while im gone
admin

September 19, 2013 at 1:38 am

Well, if he does it will likely be a rebound b/c you will be the only thing on his mind.

Kellie

September 16, 2013 at 1:43 am

I was in a really bad place this morning. My friend left, & i couldn’t stop thinking about my ex. I sent him a message, just a “hey:)” & he responded 20 minutes later. We talked for a little, & then he said that he almost came to my house the other night to drop some stuff off that i “left” at his house. (keep in mind my house is an hour & 30 minutes away; I actually live on a mountain) as soon as he told me what stuff he wanted to return (which was stuff that i kept at his house on purpose, he knew that) all bets were off. I told him to call me, & when he did I begged him to take me back, snot & tears running down my face. He told me the same thing he did before, which was he didn’t want a relationship right now. When he hung up because he had to go, he said he’d text me. I waited 10 minutes & no text, so naturally, me being desperate, i sent him 2 texts, asking what I could do to start over, how i want to take it slow, & move forward, etc. No reply. I sent another a little over 2 hours ago saying “I hope you’re making the right decision. I hope you’re ready to give me up, because I can’t keep waiting like this. I honestly thought you would be open to wanting to talk about this & make it better. I’ve realized the mistakes I’ve made & i was willing to work on them for you. Just realize that what you don’t appreciate about me, someone else will.” I then called him, & sure enough, i was sent to voicemail. (I can also see when he reads my messages, because i message him from this app on my iPod. He hasn’t read the last message yet, but he did read the 2 desperate ones) I told him to call me when he gets the chance. So now, as I’m waiting for him to call me, I read this article. I gotta tell you Chris, I feel amazing right now. Instead of wanting to beg for him back, I want to spend all the time i waste missing him into time i use becoming the ‘ungettable girl’. When he does call me, I’m going to send him right into voicemail. & If he doesn’t call me, then I won’t be disappointed. You truly are amazing spending time out of your day writing these articles out of the goodness of your heart. All of our broken hearts are blessed to have you behind all this advice. Thank you so much Chris!

admin

September 16, 2013 at 5:28 am

Yessss!

Finally someone gets it! Instead of wasting time moping use it to better yourself.

THANK YOU KELLIE!
Kellie Hawk

September 18, 2013 at 2:48 am

*another update*
So after that whole thing, he texted me “hey.” yesterday at around 5:00 pm. I didn’t reply. I’m almost positive that he’s just contacting me because he wants his video game back. & I really don’t want to come off as the psycho ex girlfriend that holds his stuff hostage. He does have some things of mine that he has said he wants to drop off at my house, & I heard from a friend that he’s thinking of driving all the way up to my house to drop them off. So idk what I do. Should I set up a time with him for when he can come by or something? I don’t know if I’m ready to see him or not. & I really don’t want my stuff back, especially when it was supposed to be kept at his house. But I feel like if I don’t contact him about it then he’s going to come by & just leave it at my doorstop. I really don’t know why to do now.
admin

September 18, 2013 at 3:02 am

Well, you are allowed to break NC to get your stuff. I think I may have told you that already though.
Kellie Hawk

September 18, 2013 at 7:25 pm

I really don’t want to talk to him until NC is over, I was really just thinking about mailing his game back to him. He’s not the type of guy to burn my stuff or throw it away, & I don’t want my stuff back right now. I’m really just not ready to see him like those you know? But would it be bad if I just mailed it to him? I might be going to my friends house next weekend who lives pretty close to him, should I give it to him then when I can prepare & do it on y own time? I don’t know. I know I would freak out if he came up here though.
admin

September 19, 2013 at 2:16 am

Have you gotten my E-Book?

I talk about exactly when you need to talk to him AFTER NC like you were saying.
Kellie

September 16, 2013 at 1:59 am

*UPDATE* Literally, right as i posted that he replied to my text. He said “I’m sorry, I was working. & I have no problem talking about it, but I’m not going to negotiate on whether I should get back together with you. And I know there is someone out there that will be better for you.”

I replied “That’s fine, You need your time, I understand that. Of course, I’m not looking to date right now either. I put a lot of thought into it, & i think this is the best thing that could happen to us right now. I’ll keep you in my thoughts Grant. I have to go though, I have a lot to do before my mom gets home. I’m sure we’ll talk soon. Take care:)”

He said “Ok, just don’t wait for me. Please.”

I’m not going to reply. He can tell that I read it, but I’m not going to reply because he doesn’t need to know if I’m waiting for him or not. Just like he doesn’t want to feel obligated to text me everyday, I don’t want to feel obligated to tell him if I’m waiting for him or not.

I just wanted to tell you my story. I still have every intention of getting him back, just not this second. I’m kinda stuck though now, should I do NC for a month now? Or like 2 weeks? If so, what should I say? Thanks again Chris:)
admin

September 16, 2013 at 5:29 am

Yea, I say a month is the way to go Kellie!

Rahi

September 16, 2013 at 12:43 am

Even if he put more effort than me in the relationship, later on I put the same effort. If i didnt, I dont think we would have been together for almost two years. I agree I did make mistakes. I tried to tie him down and be all in control. He did not like that which made him lie to me and make excuses not to be around me. I know because of my own mistakes he backed away but he also had mistakes as well. But now I dont know where things are heading to. His birthday is coming up and also three days after his birthday was suppose to be our two year anniversary. Should I use this as an advantage to bring back past memories about our relationship?

admin

September 16, 2013 at 5:24 am

No, because if you talk to him then he is going to assume that you are trying to get him back.

Brandy wright

September 15, 2013 at 4:38 pm

I just wanted to make a comment about the overweight thing. I do agree with you Chris that many guys have this idea they must date fit/thin women. But I do want to maybe correct your opinion on this slightly. I myself am a curvy/volumptuous girl, always have been always will. I always date the most attractive and extremely fit guys. All of my girlfriends that are thin are always jealous and ask me why they can’t date these type of men. What it boils down to is confident and self worth. I have an abundance of this and exude this to every man I meet. When I walk into a room I generally turn heads. So i think your advice should maybe be more along the lines of Be the best version of yourself, Be happy, healthy and confident bc that’s truly what men find attractive 🙂

admin

September 16, 2013 at 4:15 am

Agree Agree Agree. I actually talk about the importance of confidence (like you have in spades) in the E-Book.

Though, when I think of someone overweight or chubby I don’t think of someone as curvy or voluptuous.

Actually, when I think of curvy or voluptuous I think of one sexy woman. So, I am pretty sure that applies to all guys as well. Confidence just seals the deal and is so important!

Thanks for the comment Brandy!

Rose

September 14, 2013 at 1:54 am

What if things aren’t going that well at all? He says that any love he once had is now hate. I admit I definetily made mistakes, but I can’t see anything to truly elicit hate. I don’t know if it’s worth it if he says he feels that way. (It kinda seems like what he’s doing is digging for attention (even kinda the breakup was), since a lot of people quit paying him as much attention) :/ There’s just this sinking feeling I have that I’m letting something good get away and that I’ll truly regret it later if I don’t keep trying. It’s not helped that at least once a week he gets brought up by someone or another. It seems like everyone really wants us together again. -.- It’s not “peer pressure” or anything that gets to me though, it’s that they make me remember all the good times.

admin

September 15, 2013 at 1:15 am

Well, if things aren’t going well you have to kind of let time go by so those things not going well kind of subside for a while.
Rose

September 15, 2013 at 2:34 am

Alright, thanks. And by the way, I really like you’re site. It’s really amazing.
admin

September 16, 2013 at 3:37 am

Thanks Rose!

People like you who read it are the amazing ones.

Princess

September 14, 2013 at 12:54 am

Wow Chris,
I have literally tried everything with this man. No contact for 13 months TWICE!!! He chased me both times. We get back together and he freaks out when we get to the 9th month which is when it’s time to move the relationship to the engagement status. I know he loves me no doubt but he has a classic case of wanting to have his cake and eat it too. I believe he takes me for granted when we are in a relationship together, then when I leave he starts to value me and my dumb behind fall backs to the same pattern.

What do you think? This time I won’t go no contact it is effective because it does get him to chase me, but he relaxes. We broke up a month ago. I have spoken to him here and there. Ignored his calls a few times and I sense that he won’t mind getting back together. Here is why. I sent him a text last night it read “I drove by your old apartment yesterday and it brought back fund memories. It made me smile” he responded immediately with a memory he had of us yesterday afternoon. He does not really like to text so he called and we talked a little and laughed a little. I decided not to take his calls this weekend and will not contact him.
I want to try the friend zone thing. My LAST resort. I want to send him a “can I get a guys perspective” text on Monday. This actually happened to me. I want to ask his opinion. If a guy asks you for a midnight date is it a booty call?
Let me know what you think..

admin

September 15, 2013 at 1:13 am

Hahah sweet we have a friend zone taker!

I think thats a fantastic way to kick things off with him for sure.

P.S. I think it is a booty call.
Princess

September 15, 2013 at 3:07 am

Lol Chris I know that. I told him that too and blocked his number promptly. 🙂
admin

September 16, 2013 at 3:42 am

Sweet!
Princess

September 14, 2013 at 6:21 pm

I think I have something better. I got hit on by a guy called Mike. That’s my exes name also. Going on a date with him.now how do I use that to make him jealous?
admin

September 15, 2013 at 1:54 am

Take a picture (not of you making out just a subtle one) and post it on Facebook.

Courtney

September 13, 2013 at 8:30 pm

Hey Chris,

Almost to day 30 of NC! Tuesday is the day. What if his commitment issues are what broke you up in the first place? Try the friends portion? (recap: the one who showed up at church-haha)

admin

September 15, 2013 at 12:54 am

Well, the friend zone thing is a list ditch effort type of deal. Just work the plan in Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO first and then gauge where you are at.

Jane

September 13, 2013 at 6:08 am

Hi Chris! Can I use video clips with the two of us in it for the emotional memories? More than a year ago, I edited video clips for our 5th monthsary and made into a music video with Janet Jackson’s “Everytime” as music background. Should I directly tell him to watch it? And one more thing, we don’t usually hug the first time we see each other after being apart but I would kiss him on the cheek. Should I stick with the brief hug when we meet? Wouldn’t it seem unusual?

admin

September 13, 2013 at 6:17 pm

Hi Janet,

Video clips might work. Remember though, you can’t do the emotional memories right out of the gate. You have to introduce them when he is comfortable in the conversation.

As for the hug if it seems weird for you, you can ditch it.
Jane

September 13, 2013 at 11:57 pm

Thank you so much Chris for taking your time to answer. I’m a fan of your articles. Hope I could get him to love me again after I follow your guide. 🙂
admin

September 15, 2013 at 1:07 am

I really hope so too!

Rahi

September 13, 2013 at 3:27 am

I really like how you written everything out. It will sure come in handy. But ill be honest, I do not like how you brought up about women being obese, over weight or even chubby. And I also disagree on how you need the right look to be an “ungettable girl”. If you have the right mind set and a way to make your self hard to get, then it does not matter how you look. Not all skinny,slim and fit girls are perfect. Chubby/ obese/ overweight girls as well have their own ways to perfection for any guy that wants to be with them. But yes, if you want to be fit and think losing weight will boost your confidence level then of course that will help any girl that is over weight to become an “ungettable girl”. Also I really do hope not all guys think like you.

admin

September 13, 2013 at 5:51 am

Hi Rahi,

Thank you for commenting. It really means a lot.

I really meant no offense about the obese, over weight or chubby. However, if there is one thing I know it is men and men do think like that. You are absolutely right, looks shouldn’t matter. However, in my experience they do. I just wanted to be as honest as possible. I swear that is my only intention.

If I offended you I am really sorry. From the bottom of my heart sorry.
Rahi

September 13, 2013 at 3:11 pm

Lol, I like your honesty. So if me do think like that, how is it that over weight girls have their chances in a relationship? And just a general question, but is it because of girl’s weight, some relationships dont work out?
admin

September 13, 2013 at 6:31 pm

Most men I do believe think like that. Now, not every single man on earth thinks like that but the majority do.

And relationships have ended because of someone letting themselves go in the relationship. It isn’t just men that can get tired of looking at an overweight girl. Some women can get tired of looking at an overweight man and break up with him.
Rahi

September 13, 2013 at 11:56 pm

Yeah your right, it works both ways. But, no one ever thinks that you can always help to motivate them to lose weight and build confidence. Sucks nothing ever goes that way. Anyways i had a question for you. Me and my ex broke up three months ago. I actually broke up with him because he started making excuses to not see me, started ignoring me, and also broke my heart. So i ended it with him. But it sucks because our families are close and it feels weird being around them. But recently, we did start talking and he told me the reasons why he was backing away. But he also mentioned how he was thinking about getting back and if we do we have to move every step into our relationship very carefully. After that we stopped talking so one day i just randomly asked him whats up and whats on his mind. Its like I am willing to let go and move on but theres something that stopping me from doing that and I also feel like he isn’t letting go either. His birthday is coming up this month and few months ago i booked a couples dinner cruise for his bday. So I didnt want it to go to waste so I asked him if he wants we can go but if he does not want to be with me whats so ever then I will def cancel the plan and try to get my money back. All he said was honestly i dont know what to tell you I am confused about us. I still think about how things will be like if we got back together. And then I told him if he doesnt want me in his life then I will walk away and never look back. I will never be anywhere near his family or anywhere his life and i swear on it. And he said he has to think about it and he doesnt want to jump into anything. He also said how hes concerned abt getting into the same problems we had before and hes scared we will go through that again. So I basically felt like i got his answer and that he definitely does not want to be with me. I said a lot of things to him but he did not reply. I don’t know what to do. His confusion wasn’t allowing me to move on and he wasn’t telling me to move on either. He put so much effort into this relationship, even more than me. And all of a sudden he backed out. Honestly, why is this even happening? Sorry for a long response. I didn’t realize that i was writing like an emotional wreck lol.
admin

September 15, 2013 at 1:12 am

Well, to me what stuck out is that he put in more into the relationship than you did.

That can really mess with a guys head and turn him off.
Rahi

September 13, 2013 at 3:13 pm

Men**

Allie

September 12, 2013 at 9:30 pm

It makes me happy to see new posts!! Haven’t had time to read it yet, but thanks for all the time you put into this!!

admin

September 13, 2013 at 4:06 am

This one is good. I don’t brag often about content on this site but this one is really good.

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