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744 thoughts on “The Definitive Guide To Making Your Ex Boyfriend Love You Again”

  1. Beckie

    February 28, 2016 at 10:09 pm

    Dear Chris,

    Me and my boyfriend where together for 1 year and have recently broken up earlier this month (February) just after he visited me on my year abroad in Canada.

    He said his reason for ending our year long relationship was because of the feelings he now holds for his ex-girlfriend! He said that when we were doing things like skiing it did not feel the same or like the real thing! However he has never expressed these feelings to me before as he always said that he loved me and always saw a future with me… all of a sudden he doesn’t! I don’t believe that you stop loving someone over night!
    He always said that there was a reason we met and were together! I want to be with him again it was all so sudden! Do you have any advice on my situation?

    1. Beckie

      March 3, 2016 at 2:04 pm

      I am returning home in May and I have to return some of his things. Do you have any advice about how I should go about this?

      Also if I don’t speak to him until I return his things in May is he likely to contact me?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 3, 2016 at 2:42 pm

      just make it casual, so it won’t get awkward.. even just a simple..hi, I just returned..how are you lately? I went cleaning and cleaned yours too, if you wanto get them anytime, just message me…

      yes, there’s a chance he will

    3. Beckie

      March 2, 2016 at 6:41 pm

      They haven’t spoken for over a year and he sent her a message about 2 weeks ago but she did not reply and has ignored him because she does not want anything to do with him!

      At the moment I am not talking to him! I don’t really know what to do about the situation! Because we were so happy together he literally changed so quickly!

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 3, 2016 at 10:52 am

      that’s good that she’s doesn’t want him.. yes for now that’s the best thing to do..

    5. Beckie

      March 2, 2016 at 4:04 pm

      Hi!

      They had not spoken to each other for over a year!

    6. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 2, 2016 at 5:09 pm

      hmmm..but when they did start talking again..I mean are you sure it wasn’t recent.. but going back to you.. are you doing nc?

    7. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 29, 2016 at 1:02 pm

      Hi Beckie,

      was it really overnight or they have been in touch long enough for him to realize he want her back?

  2. Samantha

    February 5, 2016 at 5:15 pm

    Hi, Chris.
    I’m wondering if you could give me some quick advice? If you could please get back to me, I would appreciate it so much!
    My husband and I were married for 7 years, we have four daughters (two are mine from a previous relationship, and two are ours together).
    We have always had a pretty good relationship, I believe we were happy most of the time. We didn’t fight much, but when we did, it was bad. I held grudges for a long time that I would throw in his face a lot of the time. I was verbally abusive to him at times and it’s something I’m not proud of. I feel ashamed of it. He was loving towards me, but not always affectionate. He didn’t always show me love the way I needed it and it caused issues aswell.
    January 8th, 2016 he told me that he couldn’t deal with this anymore and said he was leaving. I basically made a fool out of myself, begging him to stay, telling him I love him and we can be fully happy together. You see, I told him all the time I would leave him (even though I never actually meant it). This was the first time he ever said anything like that to me, always told me he would never leave me, that he loved me too much. Well, he stayed and things were a little awkward between us. On January 12th, 2016, he said he was leaving again. We talked and he stayed.. again. It was back and forth for a while, but then he decided to go stay with his mom, visiting our daughters and I about twice a week. I should mention that he has been talking to his ex girlfriend recently, saying she is only a friend (she is in a relationship). He talks to her all the time. Even in front of me. Their conversations don’t seem to be threatening to my marriage, but I’m still uncomfortable with this. He told me not to worry about her, and that she has no impact on whether he is with me or not. But he says part of him will always love her. He also decided he would like to go to college in September in her town which is four hours away. February 2nd, 2016, he told me he loves me, but is unsure if he is still in love with me. He said that he wants to be with me, but can’t at this time. He says he needs time alone to clear his thoughts, and he needs to learn how to make himself happy (he’s always put my feeling above his and he says it’s taken a toll on his happiness), but his ideal outcome would be for he and I to be together and for our family to be together again. When he is around he’s still loving towards me, still holds me, comforts me, kisses me, and he still tells me he loves me. I feel like he doesn’t really know what he would be losing. He knows I would do anything to be with him. I think he feels like he’s in control of this situation, and it makes him want to take his time figuring his stuff out. Like I said, he says he wants to be with me and he would like for our family to be together. I feel like I need to move out of our house to be with my parents, which is an hour away. I don’t feel like my marriage will be fixed while I’m living in our house, we are supposed to be buying this house in a few months, but I’m unsure that we will even be together by then, so I’m probably going to have to move anyway. But I also know that if I choose to leave, three out of four of our children will need to switch schools, so coming back to this area is not an option. If I move, it will be for good so my kids are not tossed back and forth from place to place. I’m a very attractive woman, still young, I know I could find someone else later on, but I really just want a future with my husband. I miss him.
    I’m wondering if by moving out and hardly speaking to him (aside from when we talk about our kids), if you think he might realize that he is making a big mistake and if limited contact will work? Do you think he will miss me and come back to me? I love him so much and would do anything to keep our family together.
    Thank you for your time, your words have helped me a lot.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 6, 2016 at 11:30 am

      Hi Samantha,

      Yeah, it looks like he’s gaining control but have maybe try to talk him first. when he is being affectionate, tell him, in a calm way, that he is sending mixed signals and that you’re not comfortable with it. That you understand that he needs his time and you respect it but if he’s not ready yet to get back together then he needs to be in sync with his actions. You understand that he does that because he still loves you but ask him, is it helping him have clarity now and give the family another chance?

      If he’s still undecided, then maybe you can go to your parent’s house for mean time(I don’t know if this doable, but is it possible that during NC, the kids stays with him and you at your parent’s? Just so you can take a time off) And then when you come home, you can talk about everything in calm way again but not in pressuring way. Like, update each other, but don’t be sweet again suddenly, just amicable, don’t nag him and be ready to listen to him if he wants to talk.
      About the other girl, you may open up that you’re uncomfortable about that too because it seems inappropriate to hear that he still loves and then he decides to go to college with but that you understand that he’s not really meaning for it to be hurtful. (Although, I know it’s hurtful, but the more you point fingers, the more he’ll pull back) Don’t accuse him. It’ll start another fight plus it’s better to focus on letting him see you’re the best choice and no other. Because the more you act jealous, the more he gets to validate to talk with her.

  3. Maria

    January 11, 2016 at 10:03 pm

    My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years , since we were 13 years old , and we have been married for almost 3 years and we have a 5 year old daughter , my husband decided that he didn’t want to be with me anymore 5 weeks ago, he said that he doesn’t love me anymore and that he was just use to the idea of us being together , he says that I wasn’t supportive and I never showed him love , but the thing is that we both wouldn’t show each other love , and now that I’m trying to fight for our relationship he says it’s a joke cause I wouldn’t try fighting for our relationship when we were together , but I was supportive , I did everything he liked to do and it made me love the things he loves to do , and the thing is that we weren’t even fighting till the month of November after I lost my job , he says that I would mad for stupid reasons and I would but I have always been like that and he says that he feels nothing for me and it’s been like that for a while now but their were moments where he showed me and proved to me that he loved me , and all I want is for him to come back to me , I want him to love me again , I’m falling apart knowing I don’t have him in my life anymore .

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 17, 2016 at 8:27 am

      Hi Maria,

      I know this will be hard but being mad for the small reasons and saying seems to be one of the thibgs he’s trying to tell you to change. If you say, it’s just you, does that mean you can’t change it? And try to calm down a little. You have daughter, so you will always be co-parents. Don’t rush to get him back. You also said both of you don’t show each other love. Mahbe you need to address that too once he starts to get comfy with you again.

  4. Linda

    December 12, 2015 at 8:04 pm

    Hi Chris, your articles are really eye opening. I have two questions and I’ll try to keep it short. I’m not sure if I should use jealousy if I made a lot of mistakes talking about other guys and making him feel insecure. Shall I try to make him think I can be with someone else? He contacted me twice during co contact period, and when we splitted he wanted to stay as friends. Secondly, my no contact period ends on Christmas day, should I text him on the Christmas day or wait till it’s over? Thanks so much for your help!

  5. viola

    December 2, 2015 at 2:45 pm

    What should I do? I yelled at my boyfriend 11-6-15 aND told him I didn’t think he ever loved me! He broke up with me on 11-14-15 and put me in the friend zone after I apologized. I just purchased your books and we’ve been texting each other, so I never did the no contact policy. Should I start doing the no contact policy or should we keep texting? Most of his texts are positive.

    1. oops

      December 7, 2015 at 4:29 pm

      I did no contact after like 6 months of him begging for me back because all the gurus say it *has* to be done.. he got a new girlfriend during no contact, OOPS. Should have just went back and not bothered with the no contact >.<

    2. Chris Seiter

      December 3, 2015 at 4:50 am

      Yes do no contact if you are friendzoned but make sure you do not tell him your not going to be talking to him. Just do it. 🙂

  6. Ejike John

    November 24, 2015 at 7:48 pm

    I have never seen a guide as detailed as this one here. It was an interesting read to know that there are ways you can use in mending a broken relationship. Nice work here.

    1. Chris Seiter

      December 2, 2015 at 6:45 am

      Hey Thanks for the positive feedback!

  7. Marilize

    November 18, 2015 at 10:27 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I need your help, my boyfriend and I broke up a while back, now we are together again (he said he doesn’t want to be without me) BUT now that me are together again he has admitted that he still doesn’t feel the same way he did when we started dating, now he is willing to work on the relationship but he doesn’t see hope for us, how can I fix this. What can I do to remind him why he still loves me even though things don’t feel the same

  8. Sad

    October 27, 2015 at 9:03 pm

    Hi..I am not sure how to check for responses and no longer see my comment from yesterday.It’s under “me” and “sad” and about the father of my child whom I’ve bn with for 2 years..and blame my jealousy and drug use for pushing him away..Well..he mssgd me askin if i had a date for the party I was goin to the other nt..I didn’r respond and have mainly only mssgd him about baby..I mssgd him last nt sayin I was going to b a little late lickin her uo today as I had a Drs appt. It took wayyyy longer and when I got there to pick her up…he was SCREAMING…how irresponsible I was and like a child he could not depend on me and will never be w me again bc he needs someone he can trust and depend on. He had packed up most of my clothes as well..This was really hard to see as it’s our house we picked out and had our baby in..and he is just erasing me from it..His friend is staying there now..Idk for how long.As I was gathering some things he asked “how my date” was and said “u say u love me and then go an a date..what a joke” and I said I wasn’t seeing anyone and he said “yea right First message u didn’t respond to..ok whatever”. Well I had JUST started implementing No contact rule. He has a crazy temper and says very cruel things when mad..and he used to apologize and hug me after..but obv not now.I tried to grab him and hug him at the beginning…and he recoiled and said “f#/# that..Don’t touch me”.. So I just left..He sais we would have to start meeting somewhere to exchange baby as he doesn’t want me in the house anymore..I’m a mess..I wasn’t going to send anything but just sent a message saying I am doing my best to turn my life around and get it together and don’t need your insults. Please help me asap..Idk how to handle this..It seems me not responding is making him more mad..and he is already full of so much hate and anger for all I’ve done already..He takes no responsibility AT ALL..Do I still do No contact?? I need to prove to him I’ve changed and have made great progress..but now I’m starting over..bc I was late for a Drs appointnent..sooo frustrating…Will I see reply in my e mail?? Please help..Idk what to do..I want my family back and need help…We had NEVER played games so this is sooo hard..It’s like he hates me and will never love me again like he used to..I hope things are not too far gone..I’ve been at my mom’s 3 weeks…I hope you will send an e mail w reply bc I can’t see my comment here anymore..Desperate to get off this roller coaster..I think he wants to see me doing well for myself again and independent and strong and confident like when we 1st got together..But do I try and get my own place then?? Idk if I can afford it…So scary..all of this..I had such high hopes..Until today..and my littlelist mistake..he hates me for bc it brings back alllll I’ve done..Help!!

  9. NB

    September 27, 2015 at 12:10 pm

    Hi,
    We broke up two weeks back. our marriage was fixed. but suddenly he decided not to get married with me cause he thinks that i suspect him. this was not their in his mind but his friends have made him think all this. i really want to get him back as i love him a lot. i cant stay without him. i dont know what he is actually feeling about me right. whether he is missing me or not. whether he loves me or not anymore or not. help me Chris. i need him back in my life.

  10. Millie

    September 26, 2015 at 1:07 am

    My boyfriend and I just broke up two months ago and he already has a new girlfriend. I have no idea if this is a rebound relationship or not, it may end up working out really well between them – I’m not going to pretend like I was the perfect girlfriend. Anyway, I’ve read through this guide and I’ve thought about implementing the ideas in a couple of years (if he is single and I’m still in love with him). I was just wondering if they would be as effective if I leave it so long? In the meantime, I’m definitely going to become an ‘Ungettable Girl’

  11. Kelli

    September 19, 2015 at 8:41 pm

    Hi Chris.
    My boyfriend recently broke up with me. We are 24 years old and had been dating for 3.5 years. We had talked about our future many times (marriage, houses, pets, kids, finances, etc.). He even went so far as to plan how he would propose and began to look at rings. Our relationship was very good. Everyone believed we would be married in the next few years. We had our ups and downs like normal but always worked through them. His reason for dumping me was that he just doesn’t love me romantically anymore. I’m positive there is not another girl. He said he doesn’t know if he wants to be married in his 20s or even have kids anymore. I don’t believe you just stop loving someone. This makes it confusing for me as to why this happened and what I might be able to do to change things. I’ve read many of your posts and only saw one part where you talked about falling out of love and how the person doesn’t want to put effort in anymore. I was hoping maybe you could shed some more light on situations like mine and If the relationship can be saved.

    1. Alex

      November 25, 2015 at 4:33 am

      I just went through the same exact situation. How has it been working out for you so far?

    2. Linda

      November 1, 2015 at 7:40 pm

      Hi Kelli

      I was wondering how your situation is now ? Have you implemented the NC rule ?
      I’m in a similar situation, currently on day 9 of NC.
      Are you making any progress ?

  12. Marti

    August 8, 2015 at 11:23 am

    Forgot to mention that he is from other country and…. But is for longer conversation I would be happiest if we could talk….

  13. Marti

    August 8, 2015 at 11:21 am

    HI Chris. I would need your opinion about what I will tell you. Me an my boy we were far friends and colleagues after few months we become to be couple.we passed trough many good am very bad things.he changed his agresivity to don’t hurt me anymore because he said he loves me.last period was extremely bad for us.he was not working for 3 months and he was not even trying to fix some money for us neither when I was pushing him.he put weight and he was every single day playing games from early morning till late night I love him so so much.but is like he is blind.always I was hy his side in good and bad.last time finished like… We talking and he said to me that if I have definition of love as I do than he doesn’t love me.because for him marriage, kids and home is not definition of marriage but is that he cares about me lot and I am very important person in his life.and that still I will be.he is still holding me still have pictures on Facebook with Mr and his name on Facebook dedicated to me not changing. To peplople around is till saying I am his girlfriend not calling me ex and to my family sending notes likw do not work doesn’t matter what happened I will still come to visit u and help you if you will need anything (my grandparents) but still telling to me we broke up and to find another man for me to be happy that he want me to be happy. And for the moment it feels like he needs to be alone he said he can’t imagine life without me but neither with me as couple.I don’t know what to think about it. Something is telling to me that he still loves me.he said to me that all those our fights and bad situations between us pushed him to decide like this.I love him and I will do all for him the hardest thing is that we are staying in the same flat and room as flatmates. Thank you for your help God bless u

  14. ekara

    August 6, 2015 at 5:13 pm

    Hi Chris…im totally confused..i have known my ex for 2 years and we have being in a relationship for just 6 months..at first i was this Ungetable girl you mentioned..me and my ex we were in the same study group and gradually became great friends..we had this unique magic between us..but then he expressed his feelings for me..and pretty much chased me after rejection..after we got together things were going well..but then due to my stupidity (didnot give him the time and love he deserved) he lost interest in our relationship…on our breakup day he said im a very good person and that i deserve someone better and that im only gonna be hurt if i stay with him…and that he never had feelings n doubts love even exists…etc.. …then i started the NC rule..it has being just 15 days…i know one has tobe patient in such matters..but i didnt get even a single text or call from him…infact it was my birthday yesterday he didnt care to wish me…is this a sign that he moved on or doesnt care? i don understand what to do…and whatever im doing (NC) what if its having a negative effect on him….??

  15. Ivy

    August 3, 2015 at 5:16 am

    I just want to say that reading this, truly empowered me. I was combing through the web for tips and tricks and I found your article. None of it discouraged me and it has only made me more confident because I KNOW that I can do all these things. Sometimes I just lose focus because my emotions get the best of me but that won’t be the case anymore. Thank you for your article Chris! I might just even watch Buffy bc of this. :]

    1. Chris Seiter

      August 6, 2015 at 10:54 pm

      If you watch buffy I recommend watching “hush” as the first episode.

      Its in season 4.

      Very awesome episode.

  16. Katelyn

    July 29, 2015 at 4:12 am

    my ex-boyfriend had some issues with another girl after we broke up and now he says that he wont date anyone and cant love. HELP ME!!!!!! how do I brake his walls down so I can make him love me again????????

  17. Jamie King

    July 15, 2015 at 3:29 pm

    hey chris,
    so I was in a relationship with a man for 3 years. before I met him I had just given birth to my daughter. after a couple months together we were doing great and were so happy together that I allowed him to meet her and over the past three years he has been her father. she has never met another man and known them to be with me or as her father. he has literally been all she has had in her life. during the last two years of our relationship we went through hell. excuse my language please but truthfully that is what it was. we were broke, homeless, both chasing our own separate dreams and all with a toddler that we couldn’t afford daycare for. throughout this mess I was trying to find a better paying job and when I did he gave up his work to sit at home with the kid it was originally only supposed to be for a week or two but as you can imagine that’s not how it played out. when he finally got back to work I was the one that gave up everything and stayed at home with the kid. at that time we had just finally after a year of homelessness found our own apartment that we could afford and moved in however then fact that he is a construction worker made it so that he had to have the vehicle all the time and with little money we could only afford one vehicle. I began to fall into depression because I felt as though I was stuck and I never left the house or did anything I had given up all my friends to follow him to a different town my family was nowhere near and I felt like he expected a house wife and that’s not the kind of girl I am. I like to work and go out and have fun but it seemed like he had stopped wanting to take me out. I began to get even more depressed and obsess over my body thinking I just wasn’t good enough for him to want to show me off anymore. it was during all this that we really began to fight a lot and grow apart. I tried to pretend I was okay so that I wouldn’t lose him but that only seemed to make things worse. about two weeks ago he finally packed his things and moved in with his friend. I was broken completely over this and he knew it. I spent two weeks not eating not sleeping and hardly being able to get off my couch. I couldn’t even sleep in our bed I still can’t. so I began to work on myself and getting happy because that’s what he had asked me to do and I tried the no contact rule for a week and he ended up showing up at my house sunday night to spend time with our daughter and myself and after staying at the apartment in separate rooms that night he told me he had come back and felt so bad about it because he had made out with his friends cousin. a girl he knew I didn’t like him around when we were together. he told me how they had all gone camping together and all they did was make out but I feel like there was more. I keep telling myself that’s just my girl brain trying to stay mad at him but the person I want to be is forgiving and so I forgave him and I told him he was welcome to stay in our apartment he could have the bedroom and I would continue to sleep on the couch. he accepted that offer so far and I also called the girl since I knew her and I was 100% honest with her when I said I forgave her and I couldn’t be mad at them for doing it when we weren’t together and I told her that I only wanted him to be happy and I didn’t want her to end her friendship with him because of me because I know how unhappy he had been and that he was truly happy to have a friend in her when he needed one. she accepted what I had told her and knew as much as I wanted him back I would allow him to be happy no matter what that meant for me. no matter what we will share a daughter and I will have to be in his life just as he will have to be in mine. over the last couple of days I have changed a very a large amount from the depressed angry me and started to forge my path to being happy with myself and a good person all around and now that he is living here I can see that he sees that and he likes the way it is going. however he knows that I want him back he knows how much I truly love him and he knows that I may be doing this change for me but at least a portion of it is for him as well. where we stand now he doesn’t believe he is in love with me anymore and he has said it many times that he doesn’t see us getting back together ever. I have tried to accept this but I also am still holding on to the tinyest bit of hope that the new me will make him fall all over again and he will change his mind. I have talked to him about how he felt about the girl what happened and I have tried to be a friend to him about it. I’m afraid that I am putting myself into the friend zone and I’m not going to be able to get out. I can’t make him think I don’t want him or he can’t have me because he has known for years that I am in love with him and I won’t give up on us so how can I make him miss me or feel urgency when he knows he’s all I want? I have started to recreate all of our good memories and try to build new ones and I am currently trying to get to know the man he has become and introduce him to the woman I am becoming. I have gotten him to hold my hand and sit close to me and we hug all the time and he has looked at me once with a look like he wanted to kiss me but he then quickly left for work and I don’t want to push him away by moving too fast. should I be trying to do more or should I be trying to do less? I mean I have stopped texting and calling him a lot I try to allow him to initiate the texting or calls because I don’t want to appear needy or desperate, I try not to force him or guilt him into spending time with me or being here at our house and still each night knowing he has to be up extra early he has waited for me to get home from work and he has sat up until almost 1am just talking and laughing and having a good time. we haven’t even turned a tv on in the last couple nights we are just focusing on eachother. I’m just not sure I’m doing everything the right way and it’s much more complicated because no matter what happens my daughter is going to need him around and he wants to be around for her. I don’t want to make her think that it will happen no matter what and every day I tell her that mommy and daddy are only friends and daddy just needed a place to stay and I explain the situation to her the best I can without trying to make her share in my hope because I don’t want her heart to break again. do you have any advice on how I should be handling things?

  18. Miya Lane

    July 8, 2015 at 4:17 pm

    Hey Chris,

    So I’ve got myself into a kinda complicated situation…

    There’s this guy I’ve had a crush on since Oct. 2013. We started to get intense contact en started dating since July 2014.. But there’s just one big problem.. Because I’m not planning to have sex before marriage I always let him be free to meet other girls and stuff so he can still fulfill his needs. You can tell we were having a friends with benefits accept for the ‘real’ benefit. Condition was, he had to tell me everytime he is going to meet with a girl which he did in de beginning. After last new year things got more serious between the two of us, and he stopped telling me about other women which made me think there aren’t any others.

    Almost a month ago I saw conversations in his phone with 3 women, and i read he even met one. After reading all of that i was pretty messed up. Especially ’cause I thought we got more serious and all.. After ignoring him for one week we spoke things out and we left our situation open as in we didn’t make any plans of continuing or quitting everything.

    Recently he came to me, told me he had been thinking for a while and he came to the conclusion. His conclusion frankly shocked me.. He told me he wants to make us ‘official’. As you can imagine I was incredibly happy, it finally happened after a year!! Though, as good as I know him.. I knew it wouldn’t last for a long time. He was always busy talking to girls, especially when he was bored. How would he stop doing that after being used to it for so long? He convinced me he could resist the temptation and he showed me he deleted all of his contacts (even on FB) and deleted all conversations and history so he couldn’t contact them again.

    I seriously couldn’t be any happier until three days after it was ‘official’. He started telling me he was feeling the need to start adding girls etcetera.

    Like seriously? Can you believe this!?

    He told me he wanted a break because he wants to fulfill his needs and stuff like that, but I’m not into that. I feel so ashamed of myself after being so happy. Anyway, I broke up with him. I’ve had it with his behaviour even though it was my own fault in the first place. Worst part is we both know I’d go back to him once he comes knocking on my door.

    My question to you, what is the best thing to do? Wait for him untill he’s done with his ‘break’ or should I just forget him, move on and follow the ebove steps?

    I sincerely hope you can help me, I’m really stuck and I don’t know what to do.

  19. Jules

    July 3, 2015 at 8:46 pm

    Hi,
    Was with partner for 18 months, didn’t live together although talked about future plans etc. I fell pregnant 5 months ago. He was like a rabbit in headlights and disappeared for three months before agreeing to meet up with me to talk. We spent a lovely 24 hours together and he said he would do whatever he needed to do. He kept text contact up for a bout two weeks after that, then nothing. Isn’t communicating with me at all or responding to any of my texts or emails, however I know he is reading them.
    Baby is due in 4 months and not sure what to do. Deep down he is a good man and I am still deeply in love with him. Not sure what to do.

  20. Kat

    June 30, 2015 at 10:54 pm

    I am in a trying situation. I dated a guy for four years. Not a guy– the love of my life. I broke up with him because I didn’t think he treated me right. I started to talk to another guy, but after things went a little too far I decided I wanted to be completely single. That was during the summer. The following fall my ex was completely obsessed with me. He could not let us go, but I felt it was not the right time. That winter/spring we began to talk again and things heated up. Little explanation needed, I am now pregnant and more in love with him than ever. Huge problem though, he now has a girlfriend. She is new and nice and literally a teenager. I am not sure what to do… I have tried to separate them but that (obviously) only made him hate me more. He says he loves me but is never going to be with me again. ever. Well, that’s not what I want. I love him so much and we have had a rocky relationship, but with a baby on the way shouldn’t now more than ever be the time to make things work? I feel like I not only love him, but need him at this point– that’s not for a dramatic effect I am getting quite pregnant and need his help. Whenever we see each other we have sex, and this may sound conceded but of course we do he can’t resist me. I am desperate to have him back in my (and our baby’s) life. Is there hope for such a complicated relationship that now involves a sleazy teenager? Any advice is appreciated.

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