What Are Your Chances of Getting Your ExBoyfriend Back

My Ex Boyfriend Is Unresponsive

Lately I’ve noticed a lot of women asking a variation of the same question,

Chris what the heck do I do if things seem to be going great when I am texting my ex but then he just stops responding?

The truth is that I was actually asked this on a Facebook Live I did within the Private Facebook Group yesterday and I kind of drew a blank.

I hate it when that happens because there are like 25 women on watching and dissecting my every move.

And all I could come up with was a measly,

Be more interesting

So, last night and the better part of this morning it just stuck with me and I knew I had to do better.

That’s when I got a voicemail from a woman named Melody.

As it turns out melody asked the same exact question.

Chris, what do I do if my ex is unresponsive?

And so I answered and I feel pretty good about my answer.

Check it out!

What I Talk About In This Episode

  • Long distance relationships
  • How my experience with them impacted me
  • A funny story about my past
  • Why an ex really becomes unresponsive
  • What to do if he becomes unresponsive
  • How to avoid it from happening again to you

Important Links Mentioned In This Episode

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Written by EBR Teamate

Chris Seiter

39 thoughts on “My Ex Boyfriend Is Unresponsive”

  1. amy

    December 12, 2017 at 8:48 am

    Amor
    thank you for responding!
    I will tell him I need space and good bye for now! and I don’t tell him the time duration right!
    do I apologize or say something else or just a simple goodbye!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 14, 2017 at 11:27 am

      Sorry I wasn’t clear… Just tell him goodbye..I meant for now only for you
      .. Dont apologize. He has to think youre really moviing on

  2. amy

    December 11, 2017 at 11:06 am

    amor
    thank you for helping out! I don’t mean to pester u!
    tell me how do I deal with him texting or calling me? do I talk to him or ignore him?
    any help would be appreciated!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 12, 2017 at 5:28 am

      That’s alright..That means you have to say goodbye for now to him if he texts you..so you can have a clean slate..and then ignore if he texts again

  3. K.

    December 11, 2017 at 10:46 am

    Hi, thank you a lot for your reply. However, wouldn’t it be chasing if I tried to initiate conversations in this situation? He didn’t seem to want to talk to me and, like I said, he did anything he could to avoid me, so I also wouldn’t like to disturb him somehow or appear desperate. Hope it makes sense.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 13, 2017 at 1:06 am

      make it natural.. if he sits besides you, initiate or if you happen to stand in line next to each other..

  4. K.

    December 11, 2017 at 9:31 am

    Hi again. Since I didn’t receive any message from him during the NC period, I decided to extend it by 15 days. I do know that the more I do NC, the less effective it is, but I made this decision based on his recent behavior and my knowledge about his personality (he’s not the one to make the first move). So last week, right after 30 days had passed, he started approaching me and talking to me (still very awkwardly) about some minor stuff. I kept being friendly and even made him follow me right after I finished talking to him and went to chat with someone else. However, he’s been acting weird this week – two days ago he just stormed out of the room after the lecture was over, but then started to walk very slowly towards the exit, as if he wanted me to catch up with him (which I didn’t). Today he ignored me completely (there was a seat next to me and he hesitated to sit down for so long that another person came in and sat there – it looked ridiculous) and, what’s worse, as I was walking out of the building, he pretended he hadn’t noticed me and didn’t say ANYTHING. What to do now? I’m confused by his fluctuating attitude. I’ve made a lot of friends since we broke up, improved myself to the point everyone has started noticing all the positive changes, and become extra active on social media.
    Thanks,
    K.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 12, 2017 at 5:24 pm

      Hi K,
      You have to initiate conversations so, you can slowly build rapport..

  5. K.

    December 11, 2017 at 8:59 am

    Hello,

    I’m still waiting for your reply. I posted a message on December 8 and then on December 10, but none of them show. 🙁 Hope you get them, as I’d really need some insight into my situation. Thanks.

    K.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 11, 2017 at 10:07 am

      Initiate conversations so you can slowly build rapport

  6. amy

    December 10, 2017 at 7:15 pm

    please give me some guidelines as to how I should proceed if he texts or calls me? ignore him or continue talking to him?

  7. amy

    December 10, 2017 at 7:12 pm

    So what should I do if he texts me? should I talk to him or ignore him? Is it like an extended NC?
    Why does he flirt with me if I am friend zoned? I feel friend zoned too! I get it! I already am dating other people but it still hurts! The last fight did ruin everything but of course you are right! He doesn’t want me at all, maybe just as a friend and nothing more or maybe like a friends with benefits and nothing else! It all started good but its not salvageable anymore and its about time anyway that I move on a lot!

  8. K.

    December 10, 2017 at 5:45 pm

    Hi,

    I really hope my message did come through. Looking forward for your reply.

    Thanks,

    K.

  9. amy

    December 10, 2017 at 6:38 am

    please reply
    he hasn’t talked to me after he texted me after the fight!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 10, 2017 at 5:11 pm

      Hi Amy,

      It’s not really to stop talking for 6 months just to rest but it’s for you to have time to accept that he has moved on.. Come from a point that no feeling for you remains from him, that he has moved on…because right now, you’re already friendzoned and you’re just chasing him..
      At least after 6 months, if you still want to try to build rapport, you’ve already established a different life routine, in that time, if it doesn’t work out in building rapport, just stop, and continue moving on in your life doing your new routine…

  10. K.

    December 8, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    Hi again. Since I didn’t receive any message from him during the NC period, I decided to extend it by 15 days. I do know that the more I do NC, the less effective it is, but I made this decision based on his recent behavior and my knowledge about his personality (he’s not the one to make the first move). So last week, right after 30 days had passed, he started approaching me and talking to me (still very awkwardly) about some minor stuff. I kept being friendly and even made him follow me right after I finished talking to him and went to chat with someone else. However, he’s been acting weird this week – two days ago he just stormed out of the room after the lecture was over, but then started to walk very slowly towards the exit, as if he wanted me to catch up with him (which I didn’t). Today he ignored me completely (there was a seat next to me and he hesitated to sit down for so long that another person came in and sat there – it looked ridiculous) and, what’s worse, as I was walking out of the building, he pretended he hadn’t noticed me and didn’t say ANYTHING. What to do now? I’m confused by his fluctuating attitude. I’ve made a lot of friends since we broke up, improved myself to the point everyone has started noticing all the positive changes, and become extra active on social media.

    Thanks,

    K.

  11. amy

    December 8, 2017 at 7:47 am

    hey please reply
    he texted me and we talked a little
    now what?

  12. amy

    December 6, 2017 at 9:28 am

    Amor
    he texted me and talked to me too although a little but he did!
    now what should I do?

  13. amy

    December 6, 2017 at 6:12 am

    isn’t there any other solution huh? by 6 months the whole world will be different! please help out!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 10, 2017 at 5:10 pm

      Hi Amy,

      It’s not really to stop talking for 6 months just to rest but it’s for you to have time to accept that he has moved on.. Come from a point that no feeling for you remains from him, that he has moved on…because right now, you’re already friendzoned and you’re just chasing him..
      At least after 6 months, if you still want to try to build rapport, you’ve already established a different life routine, in that time, if it doesn’t work out in building rapport, just stop, and continue moving on in your life doing your new routine…

  14. amy

    December 6, 2017 at 6:03 am

    So u mean to say I shouldn’t initiate at all and for now means 6 months minimum and that I should lay low and never push or fight!
    I didn’t do this before, this time I got a bit too much! And I should move on so that I don’t expect anything at all! And if he texts me, how should I behave, should I continue building rapport or just remain indifferent!
    Isn’t 6 months too much? Nothing will remain afterwards! hope u understand!

  15. amy

    December 4, 2017 at 3:59 pm

    Hey Amor
    Sorry for the long back to back comments
    I apologized he kept on saying fine its fine I told him he sound cold and insincere he said not his problem and that he cant be friendly all the time and that he is not in the mood to talk right now and that hope I understand him
    he seemed silently angry to me
    I will give him space
    is there any hope?
    I hope I haven’t ruined it all! what do u think?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 5, 2017 at 7:15 pm

      Yeah but in a calm way.. not to fight with him.. and that’s the main reason why I think you should move on.. fighting back and forth doesn’t build rapport.. if he initiates, good, you can still continue to talk but pushing things makes it worse because of your expectation.. And also, if you really want to convey you want respect, you don’t stay friends with someone who disrespects you right? We can’t force you to move on of course but that’s my honest advice to you… If you still want to talk to him, of course you can do it.. but if you’re asking what helps you more, it’s moving on for now.

  16. amy

    December 4, 2017 at 12:44 pm

    u told me to tell him how I felt and I did! I read the texts the content is the same of our conversation!
    I just told him to not make me feel disrespected and bad and he said he didn’t do it !
    please reply
    listen I texted him today
    I would see if he replies back anytime soon and how it goes!
    please help me ok and guide me

  17. amy

    December 4, 2017 at 10:25 am

    I don’t want to move on nor wait half a year! please help but in ssome other way pleaseeeeeeeeeee.. not like this

  18. amy

    December 4, 2017 at 9:15 am

    Amor
    What are you talking about? Move on? Why would you say that?
    We had fights major than this even before this and these texts on Facebook were before we talked on texting on phone and he saw the texts after a day and didn’t respond and the texts were harsh in nature but the content was the same about which we talked!
    What if he texts me himself?

  19. Amy

    December 3, 2017 at 5:55 am

    amor
    He saw my texts on facebook and didnt reply to me. I have ruined everything. Please reply what should i do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 4, 2017 at 6:36 am

      that means you have to send an explanation text on why you said those but that’s just to clear the air but frankly after that, it’s either you move on.. let a very long time pass before trying again maybe 6 months or 1 year.

  20. amy

    December 2, 2017 at 5:40 am

    Amor
    After awhile he texted me he hadn’t seen the fb messages so we talked pleasantly for awhile then it took a took a turn for the worst! He called me lost and confused and that why am I calling him a shitty person I just told him he acts shitty I told him how I felt he said why am I in a complex that he doesn’t care etc and then he said that if he even had a little idea he wouldn’t make me feel bad and that he doesn’t! After this, we argued for a little but I tried to make him understand and he said ok and was in quite a bad mood and said he will talk to me some other time.
    He still hasn’t seen the Facebook messages, they are brutal! I don’t know how he would react and would he even talk to me after this!
    When I asked him why he ignored me he said he was busy!
    I think I ruined stuff alot and got irritated with his getting close and distant cycle which has become frequent too!
    Did I screw up alot?
    What should I do now? Now he must know that it got to me!
    That I care enough!

  21. amy

    December 1, 2017 at 10:57 am

    amor
    I txted him on messenger he replied I didn’t know that so I texted him on his number he replied and I asked if he was free to come online he said he cant say for sure and I got pissed off and told him to keep his attitude with himself and taunted him a little to which he stopped replying everywhere and I left him messages on messenger which aren’t even delivered and I had been quite harsh in them!
    what do I do now? I was holding off texting him till now and now I have screwed up amazingly!
    I have been casually seeing another guy and was having fun but all these feelings for him came back and I missed him!
    he had been flirting with me too much this past week and then he just vanished on me!

  22. Alex

    November 30, 2017 at 2:48 pm

    I really need help.I followed ebr program and met with my ex.It was great,and he kissed me and told me that he was thinking about me a lot.We agree to give it a try by meeting each other.But we stated act like a couple very quickly.I told him about it so we decided to be togheter but not to tell anyone.Next day I was really stupid and asked him if he is sure(he wasn’t sure about me and that’s why he broke up with me first time so I wanted to protect me)He told me that he isn’t exactly sure and maybe it was too fast and we should follow the first plan(hang up a little bit) .Then he texted me that he want to do it properly and see if he feels something for me or he misses being in relationship and that we should meet and get to know each other better and act as a friends for now.I agreed.Its been two days and he isn’t initiating anything and today I texted him to see if he has time for gym(we thought about going this Friday,nothing sure)He said that he probably isn’t gonna make it (our meeting was dictated if he has his classes) and then ignored my text about maybe different day.I know I have to give him space but is it necessary to do full NC?Or maybe I’ll wait week or two and initiate (if he doesn’t earlier)?He cares for me being hurt again as he said so he would rather tell me that he changed his mind about trying to get together.Do you think it’s over?Thank you

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 30, 2017 at 8:45 pm

      Just lay low for one or two weeks, don’t rush things

  23. Selina

    November 29, 2017 at 7:27 pm

    Btw today is the third day since he blocked me

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 30, 2017 at 7:22 pm

  24. Selina

    November 29, 2017 at 7:23 pm

    Hi
    Me and my ex and his ex are working together and we are all friends
    I tried NC rule .. I take a vacation from work and stop calling him

    He called me after 2 days of NC and he called my brother and my other friend to ask about me
    Then he stop calling for 3 days
    When I came back on Facebook he sent me .. when I ignored him after 2 days .. he called again and then he blocked me at Facebook and he stop calling and he is getting back with this ex who works with us..

    I was intending to end the NC in 4 days because I have to get back to work
    What should I do ? Call him or keep ignoring him tell we see each other again at work?

  25. amy

    November 29, 2017 at 12:50 pm

    I have the same exact situation! Everything is going great but then in the middle of conversation he vanishes for days and doesn’t reply at all! And then he comes back himself being all nice and interested! We do have interesting conversations but after a day or two, its gone! I hope this thing would stop! How should I make him reply to me?
    When he doesn’t reply, should I text him or wait for him to come after me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 29, 2017 at 2:37 pm

      Ask him anytime..if he doesn’t answer tell him calmly what you felt about what he’s doing

  26. Faeeqe Tabrizi

    November 29, 2017 at 12:33 pm

    Hi dear.
    My NC period finished the day before yesterday.and I send veri happy text which was included a inside joke and funny story. But he didn’t respond. He didn’t contacted me in NC too. We were dating for a 3 month. And all of a sudden the week before my birthday he said he wanted to be alone! I didn do any crying or anything but after 2 week i text him that we should talk and end it probably but he said no. And i cut the communication since. He has been bankrupt and had a very bad financial crisis. He was silent in social media all the month and not even liking his own friends and family. Anyway we had a very brief but nice 3 month. And I really want him back. But he didn’t answer and i dont know if he will in any future attempt that I do. So what do you think I should do? I had break ups before him but it is the first time that i feel that our story should not be like this. He is worth it. But I guess he doesn’t feel like that and mybe i should let him go?
    I am 32 he is 31.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 29, 2017 at 3:06 pm

      Hi Faeeqe,

      How active were you in improving yourself and in posting during nc and now, and how long did you do nc?

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