By EBR Team Member: Ashley

Breakups already suck, but one of the things that can make them even more awful is if you were in a long distance relationship. If this is the case, it is likely that you were not dumped face to face, but rather via phone, text, email, Skype, maybe even snail mail. This can make the separation process more difficult in many ways, but it can also make it easier too, depending on how you look at it.

I’ve never been in a long distance relationship, because I asked some of the ladies who are dealing with the situation to give me some help. I got a lot of great pointers, many from women who had successfully gotten their ex’s back who they were in a long distance relationship with!

The overall main piece of advice that I got also lined up nicely with what the first step of the Ex Boyfriend Recovery Program is: No Contact.

For many people, No Contact is the hardest part of the process. But because your relationship was long distance, you will have some distinct advantages.

Embrace No Contact

No Contact is an extremely important time period in the Ex Boyfriend Recovery process, possibly the most important part. This period acts as a reset so that you are able to gain back your confidence, and get back to a more emotionally centered place.

After your breakup, it is understandable that you would be emotional. I imagine long distance breakups are even more difficult in some ways because you don’t always see it coming. In all of my past breakups, I’ve sensed my guy pull away a bit before the end, so I had the heads up that something was wrong, and I wasn’t super surprised when he ended it (though I was definitely still heartbroken). In a long distance relationship, it’s harder to see those signs, so I imagine that there are even more instances of it feeling like the breakup came out of the blue.

But this is good when it comes to No Contact. You want that distance there. The distance is your friend. Sure, you still have to see his name in your phone and his picture on social media, but you don’t run the same risk of, say, running into him on campus or at the grocery store.

Put him out of your mind as best as you can for your No Contact period, whether it be 21, 30, or 45 days.

A couple of the girls on the Facebook group offered the very wise counsel and advice to come back to yourself during your no contact period. Take the time to embrace being alone and think about what you can do to make yourself happy.

Chances are, you were putting a ton of effort into your long distance relationship. I’m sure it put a strain not only on the bond between you and your partner, but also on you and your lifestyle. So during No Contact, embrace the time to get back to your roots. Instead of logging onto Skype at 9pm each night to talk to your guy, go out dancing with friends, or have dinner with your sister. Call your mom. Work on all of the relationships that inevitably got less attention when you were nurturing your relationship.

And take the time to think about you and what you want. It could very well be that after thinking it through, you realize that the whole long distance thing wasn’t working for you anyway, and you may find you enjoy your independence. The bottom line is, take some time and energy for yourself. It will act as a reset between you and your ex, help you to get your bearings, and it will likely make him miss you.

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The Tightrope between Friends with Benefits and the Friend zone

Once you and your guy are back in contact, pay close attention to how he is acting towards you. You’ll want to try and gauge where you fall between the two categories of Friends with Benefits and The friend zone.

Friends with Benefits is a little harder long distance, obviously, but it is possible. Your ex could want sexy photos and texts, phone sex, skype sex. And if you guys do get to the point of a meetup, he may be hoping to get physical.

On the other hand, you have another, probably more dangerous category: the friend zone. When you and your ex were in a long distance relationship, he probably considered you his main friend and confidante. It’s going to be hard to let that go.

My ex and I were in the opposite of a long distance relationship, but it’s still very clear he views me as the primary person he feels comfortable being vulnerable around, and he still considers me his best friend. People are habit forming, and it’s difficult to let go of someone you were so comfortable around…even if they are miles and miles away.

So what you have to do is walk the tightrope between the friends with benefits, and the friend zone. This means not letting things get too comfortable on a friend level – you want him to be vulnerable around you – that is your power, but you don’t want him to get comfortable with you in that space. Because of that, you should keep up some flirting in your communications so that he has no choice but to see you in an attractive light.

But you can’t go too far with that, of course, because then you get stuck with him texting and calling you late at night when he’s drunk, lonely, and horny.

Other techniques you can use to maintain this balance include:

The Push/Pull Theory – When he starts getting close, push him away. When you sense him pulling away, you pull back too. Many women tend to do the opposite, and when their guy starts pulling away, they start pushing. Sometimes guys just need space. It is important to give it to them. They will always be back. Men are built to chase. Let him.

Don’t Be Too Available – When you were in a long distance relationship with your guy, you probably turned down a lot of fun things so that you could go home and chat with him at a time that worked for both of your locations. Once you two are broken up, you are no longer required to make those sacrifices. Go out and make him wonder what you’re up up and why you’re not answering your phone.

Jealousy – Piggy-backing off of the idea of making him wonder: Add some jealousy techniques. Mention a guy’s name in passing. Post pictures of you out at the club looking hot. Remind him of what he can’t have – what is no longer his.

Circle of Influence – If you can use your ex’s family and friends to your advantage in a long distance relationship, do it. People care about what their friends and family think of the person they are seeing. So if you can use social media and friend/family connections to your advantage, do it.

Positive Memories – One of the wonderful ladies on our group mentioned that she texted he ex a lot of memory texts. Even if he was far away, she was able to give him a positive memory of a time that the two of them shared together. This builds up positive feelings, even from miles away.

Leave Him Hanging – When you guys do talk, always be sure to end the conversation on a high note. You want him to be thinking really positively about you, and then cut the conversation short so that those positive feelings continue even after you’re no longer on the other end of the line.

Social Media – One of your biggest advantages in trying to get your long distance ex back is social media. Use facebook to show him what you’re up to, but don’t totally overdo it, either. Post about things you know he’ll find interesting, and see if you can link your conversations to the posts you make (this will also give you a sense of if he’s checking your profile). Use jealousy tactics on social media sparingly, especially if your guy is super sensitive and doesn’t respond well to jealousy. Overall, show your ex via social media what a blast you’re having. You want them to start thinking “does she even miss me?”

Long Distance and the Other Woman

If your ex is in a new relationship with another woman (almost certainly a rebound), and you are trying to get him back, I would recommend using all of the above, but I would also recommend adding the Being There method.

The idea behind this is that you stay present in your ex’s life, trying to slowly drive a wedge between him and his new girlfriend.

A good way to do this is to utilize the concept of vulnerability. Guys have a hard time being vulnerable, but they typically feel more comfortable being vulnerable around women. I suspect this is why so many guys jump into rebounds – whether it be purely physical or also emotional. They seek connection on both levels. So if you can stay in your ex’s life as a person he feels comfortable being vulnerable with, you will automatically have the power.

Meetups

Unfortunately, your biggest frustration in your relationship (the distance) will also be your biggest frustration as you try to get your ex back. Setting up a meet up is hard. Especially if you guys are very far away or his job keeps him from being able to leave.

Rapport is probably the biggest thing to make a meetup happen. After all, it is going to involve a lot of effort on both of your parts, so he is going to have to be relatively invested. I think the closer you are to rekindling a romantic relationship, the easier it will be to get him to meet up. If there is flirting, vulnerability, and positive rapport, it may be the right time to suggest a meeting.

It may take time, though. After all, you guys won’t have seen each other since before you broke up, most likely. And it could be that there are other things that are keeping him from being able to see you, too, like his job, his rebound, or other obligations. Tread carefully, here, as you don’t want to spook him.

It should be mentioned though, that skype and/or facetime is a great substitute for meetups. If you’re communicating regularly face to face that way, I think you’re on the right path. Building positive rapport and keeping the lines of communication and vulnerability open are absolutely key. Keep chipping away at that block of ice that is your guy’s stubbornness, and it’s likely he’ll melt eventually.

Getting an ex back is hard work, but it’s even tougher when you’re so far away from one another. There is a lot of emotions that play into the decision, and you have to communicate to make sure that you’re on the same page.

Willow and Tara are one of my favorite couples in Buffy. They break up for a period of time in season 6, but eventually reconcile. Tara points out to Willow that the process of rekindling their relationship will take time and effort from both sides:

“There’s just so much to work through. Trust has be to built again on both sides. You have to learn if we’re even the same people we were. If you can fit in each other’s lives. It’s a long and important process.”

Emotional Cool

It is always important to keep grounded emotionally when trying to get an ex back, but I would say it is especially important in a long distance situation because so much of your communication is via text or phone, where you can’t sense tone or body language. Because of this, it is very important to stay in control of how you feel and not blow up or get emotional when things get tough.

Your time with your ex is even more limited and precious in this situation, so it is doubly important to keep all communications positive between you two. That obviously doesn’t mean that things can’t get serious (vulnerability is often serious), but you should try to keep an eye on the big picture and not sweat the small stuff.

At the end of the day, the only person’s actions that you can control are your own.

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The Journey

The process of trying to get a long distance ex back is a frustrating one. But if you are successful, imagine how much stronger your relationship will be once the two of you are back together. You’ll have re-established intimacy on an emotional level and will have spent a lot of time deepening your connection.
You’ll learn more about yourself and your relationship as you work through this process, and ultimately, that is what matters.

131 thoughts on “If You Had a Long Distance Breakup Here Is How You Get Back Together”

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    Frances J

    March 6, 2019 at 5:52 pm

    I dated the kindest (and shy) man, long distance, the last 20 months. We were friends before but then fell in love. I made most of the effort and was able to afford the trips, he could not, and the distance took a toll on both of us. It brought out the worst in me and the conversations got more and more intense as time went on. He purchased a home without dialing me in, which upset me. I wanted to be a part of the process and also deciding what city we’d settle in. We had some arguments and three days after these arguments on facetime he broke up with me. I feel so much regret not being more calm in discussing our future. I just wanted him to help make a plan for moving me out to him. It all went haywire. I know he is the love of my life and I want to move and be with him. My heartache is so intense I am not myself. We haven’t talked in 2 1/2 weeks. I am seeing him soon when I fly out for work. I am panicked we wont be able to work through it. Help!

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    Patry

    February 15, 2019 at 11:41 am

    Hi!

    My ex broke up with me just a few days before we agreed to meet in person and left me heartbroken (not that he did not sound sad/upset with the situation). He told me the reason it came down to was the distance, he brought it up before during the relationship that the distance is really tough for him and that he needs to have someone physically there with him. I personally understand and accept his reason (not sure if there was something else that he did not want to tell me) and we had a “as painless as possible” breakup.

    With this said, i still feel like he is worth getting back because of how he used to treat me while in the relationship (initiating, chasing me for quite a long time, being honest, always letting me know what was going on, where he was and kept his promises, etc.)

    He texted me on Wednesday (we broke up on Tuesday) just to check in on me, I want to use the No Contact Rule, which I have done since we have officially broken up (i usually try and stay away for a period of time for my sake even in previous relationships), but I always feel this overwhelming desire to text him back.

    I gave him a short message saying “hey,, just got back from the Hague, been a tough time, but it’s going okay” and he replied (quite quickly might I add) asking how it was and that he knows it’s been tough and if I want to talk or scream at him i can, he’s there if I need him.

    Should I answer him or just leave the message for a while and get back to it after a couple of days ?

    When we broke up he said he still wants to talk to me, find out how my life is, hear me complain and other things we used to do together.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      February 16, 2019 at 12:48 am

      Hi Patry!

      I hope you are tapping into my Program as there is just so much to say, and so little time. I do think you would benefit by employing No Contact and not respond to his last text. You have already touched base.

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    Ava

    February 5, 2019 at 4:00 pm

    hi. I really like your articles.
    me and my boyfriend we together about 2 years and after he went back to his country and found out his dad got a cancer so he need to be there for 2 years this is a long distance relationship between us. we talk everyday. I very clingy and needy during our relationship because we far away and I really missing him. after his dad pass away he need to come back to my county but 1 week before he told me if we can be friend to start with he is not ready in relationship. I beg him for one more chance. he said I do nothing wrong. just because he can’t handle relationship now. I understand he probably really sad and grieving for his dad. but I feel that is an excuse I think he just not love me anymore he seem happy with everyone with everything. I feel he want to break up with me and still want to hold me as a friend. what should I do?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      February 6, 2019 at 1:31 am

      Its unfair to you to for him to just put you in the friend category, unless you are willing to do that for a spell, but more often than not it does not end up well. Sometimes a clean break helps in the long run which is one of the ideas behind No Contact.

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    CK

    January 29, 2019 at 4:50 pm

    Hello, I and my ex have known each other for 3 months. He also broke up with me last week. It was long distance relationship.
    I was with him during Christmas and New Years eve, it was very good and we said like we fell in love to each other and we will be together for real one day. But during the period that I was with him, there was a guy whom I was meeting on Tinder always texts me. So my ex didnt like it and I decided to text that guy that I have someone in my mind and I cant feel it with him too. then, I promised to my ex that I would never text the guy anymore. He also moved on with another girl too.
    When I came back to my country, we didnt have good conversations as before but we still loved each other. then, that guy texted me to ask how I am but those days I got depression. I just felt like I needed support and encouragement. that guy called me while I was sexting to my ex (OMG this is a shame.) for an hour. when I went back to my ex, he was so angry and asked be what I did so I decided to say just I was talking to a friend. then, he asked me to send the screenshots of the call. I decided not to lie and send the real screenshots. He was so mad and kept saying that he’s done with me.
    I tried to recover right away but it was like he didnt care about my words anymore. So I gave him the space but it was only 5days and I asked him that how he feels. He still answer the same that I crossed the line and betrayed him so we are over. When I tried to talk about sth else, he suddenly got annoyed and said that we are over, he is done with me and tell me to move on. He was saying like I should have decline the call from that guy and call back later too, not just leave him like that.
    So I saw that he was mad. I just told him that I can give him the space for longer time. He said he won’t think about it, he doesnt need more time and his answer can’t be clearer. Now, I decided that I will fly to apologize him in a person and leave him to think about it with NC rule!
    Do you I make it right and ok? or I should do sth else? or just admit that it’s really over?
    Thank you very much

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    gabby

    January 26, 2019 at 8:52 pm

    Hey Chris, thank you so much for your reply. I was trying to back off like how you advised on Oct. Its now Jan 2019 and i still havent hear from my ex bf. I guess he will never return again right? The last time we met was last jan 2018 and the last time we ever spoke was the last day of april. I wonder if he ever loved me or actually not so much like he claimed he did? What can i do to actually make him talk to me again?Or is he gone forever?

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    Sammie

    January 1, 2019 at 11:02 am

    Hi Chris,

    My boyfriend of just under 2 years broke up with me a few days ago. He’s been in China for the past few months and we were talking everyday and it came out of nowhere when he broke up with me. He said that he loved me but not enough to carry on with the LDR yet he’ll be sad to see me move on with someone else. He said he still wants to check in with me somewhat regularly to see how I’m doing and that he thinks I’m a wonderful person with amazing qualities. He’s quite changeable in himself as far as his decision making goes. He said he’s sure of his decision but doesn’t know how he’ll feel if we meet in person.

    I’m starting the NC rule today but his mother got in touch with me last night and said that I should just give him time and let him do what he needs to do but that she’s still there and would like for us to stay in touch and for me to pop in some time to see her.

    My ex and I were absolutely fine with LDR when we were in the same country and I’m positive it’s just the fact he’s in China that’s done it because he still checks my social media everyday and I’ve noticed he’s a lot more active on the sites than he was before we broke up.

    What do you think I should do apart from the NC rule? What should I do about his family? Do you think there’s any chance for us to reconcile and get back together?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      January 1, 2019 at 5:32 pm

      Hi Sammie!

      I think you got good advice from the mother. Giving him some room to realize over time your value is often the best medicine. Check out my 245 page eBook, “The No contact Rule Book” as you may find it helpful!

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    Nicole

    December 11, 2018 at 1:46 pm

    Hi! I started a long distance relationship with someone from my hometown that had mutual friends in our town. When we began talking he was already in a different state in the military. The connection was immediate. We began texting, snapchatting, and FaceTiming. After two months, almost three I went to visit. I stayed for three weeks, no planned but it was amazing. We are both young but spoke of how this feels different. I went back a few weeks later and stayed for a week. We began to talk about a future and how in love we were etc.

    We stayed long distance over the next few months. Had plans to go there for Thanksgiving and again in December to take a road trip back home with him for the holidays. He began to show signs that the distance was hard, new opportunities in the military were happening and our plans were starting to look like they were changing. I showed nothing but support and love for whatever he needed to do and I believed we could get through the distance, deployments etc. after a couple weeks of going through a weird patch I thought we worked through fears, etc… then he broke up with me two weeks before my visit. I was devastated and confused. He said it was nothing I’ve done at all. He was stressed, needing time alone, couldn’t do a relationship and had to focus on himself and figure out what he was doing with his decisions and life. We didn’t speak for almost three weeks after some texting back and forth, mostly me trying to understand.

    Several weeks later I reached out and said Happy Thanksgiving, he responded saying he was about to text me. We had a brief text. He then asked a few days later to talk. We FaceTimed and he explained the break up and feelings since the original break up was via text. I felt better even though I didn’t get the outcome of getting back together. It gave a bit of closure. Asked if there was someone else and he reassured it was nothing like that. We began to just snapchat. I never responded right away. I showed on social media having fun with friends, preparing for my new EMT classes etc. the Snapchats were good for a while.

    I then noticed he bagan making a lot of comments not flirty ones but comments on his best girlfriends posts. It felt like what he used to do when we first started talking. I finally asked if he was interested in her and he replied he didn’t know. He tried to convince me he didn’t think anything when we were together. He’s been friends with her since they were young. He said they always talk and kind a do this when they are single and it is nothing and will turn into nothing. I was again crushed. He said he wanted to see me when he came to town for the holidays I said I wanted it alone after the break up and not seeing him for almost three months I didn’t want to see him in a group. He agreed. Since we spoke a week ago our Snapchats have dwindled, he doesn’t like anything I post, and I’m wondering if seeing him will even happen.

    I need advice. I want to see him because he has maintained with everyone he still loves me. He said the distance made it hard. The military made it hard. But he’s very hot and cold.

    Any advice would be great.

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    Gina

    December 1, 2018 at 2:17 am

    My ex and I have developed great rapport over the last few months thanks to your books- I told him about my last relationship after him (where I got cheated on) to build jealousy and empathy. I let him initiate texts and this week he told me that when I’m next in the country I have a place to stay with him. It’s now been more than a year since we broke up, and I may be moving back to Europe (not the same country as him, but closer than North America). This past summer he’s drunk texted me so I know he still thinks about me romantically. Do I bring up the idea of us getting back together the next time we Skype? Or do I wait until I may be back in the next few months and do it face to face?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      December 2, 2018 at 2:49 am

      Hi Gina! Think slow steps.

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    Carine

    November 12, 2018 at 7:15 pm

    Hello Chris my ex just started ignoring my calls and texts after we had a little augur mentioned. Then I texted him two days later that I needed money to follow up some important docs but he didn’t reply. I called him four days after he didn’t pick up . We are in a long distance relationship, I just relocated. Then when I went visiting I found out he was with another woman with whom I have been suspecting but he kept on refusing. And she came in from another town too. They are also in a long distance relationship. I just walked away and till now (two weeks) he hasn’t contacted me. I even send him a text last week to ask him why he treated me this way. But still no reply till now and he owes me money. Please what should I do? I have started moving on though hard, please help me

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      November 12, 2018 at 11:34 pm

      Hi Carine!

      Best to keep the primary focus on your healing and recovery and finding those positive moments that are fulfilling. Depending on your timeline with the important documents, best to put it in a circling pattern for now as you have made good faith efforts to reach out about it.

    2. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      November 12, 2018 at 11:34 pm

      Hi Carine!

      Best to keep the primary focus on your healing and recovery and finding those positive moments that are fulfilling. Depending on your timeline with the important documents, best to put it in a circling pattern for now as you have made good faith efforts to reach out about it.

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    Louise

    November 6, 2018 at 9:20 pm

    hi, im trying to get back a guy i spoke to for two, nearly three months, it was long distance, he decided that once we’ve met we would decide what we wanted to do for us, and I went to meet him lst week on monday and it was going well, a few days later after him calling me alot giving me good signs he called me up one night, thursday night explaining he wanted a relationship but took advice from his friends and realised the distance wouldn’t be good for us, he spoke about what could go wrong and i didnt want to make him mad so i agreed, now i think back theres ways around it. he said to sty friends and for two days after it we breifly texted but today i started the no contact rule and im not sure if theres a way i can get him back, i feel like he spoke for his friends not himself.this was about 4 days ago and i met him in person exactly a week and a day ago.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      November 6, 2018 at 10:24 pm

      You might want to picked up my 247 page Guide, “The No Contact Rule Book” as it can help you in implementing your strategy!

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    Gabby

    October 17, 2018 at 7:49 am

    Hi Chris, do you think we still can get back together if we didn’t talk from May til oct. Our last meet up was in end of jan where we traveled to Europe. It was half fun, another half getting into disagreements and arguments and I think I planted the idea of break up into his head by asking if that was meant to be a happy or break up trip. Our last phone call in April was messy and angry, I was too hurt and unintentional attacked him verbally and crushed his ego. I still miss him but he wouldn’t reply to my two different texts that sent out in july. Does it mean he is done with me forever ?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 18, 2018 at 11:36 pm

      Hi Gabby!

      It seems like you guys are going thru an up/down period. I doubt that everything is over. Just back off a bit and give each other some room and tap into some of the tools and resources I have on my site….check out my Home Page.

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    gabby

    October 9, 2018 at 10:40 pm

    hi, if my ldr ex bf broke up with me after a heated, name calling, messy argument and we stopped talking for 5months, do we have a chance to get back together? I reached out on the 3rd mth with good memories text twice but he din reply. Part of me is wanting to move on, another part is missing him and hoping for reconciliation. How do i go about this? Should i delete him off social media to live better?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 10, 2018 at 2:05 am

      If it gives you peace of mind

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    Ceri

    October 7, 2018 at 1:01 pm

    Hey Chris and team,
    So I’m now about 6 months into my long distance break up, there was a time when it was going well where it felt like we were going to get back together but couldn’t because of the distance and work, then he said we were never getting back together. I’ve asked about this before and did complete just over 20 days no contact before he asked if I was ignoring him and I felt this defeated the point of no contact. But now I’m not sure whether to keep trying as for some reason I just can’t quite let go or continue trying to get him back. What would the next steps be? Thanks, Ceri

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 7, 2018 at 9:56 pm

      Hi Ceri!

      NC seemed to work in the sense that he noticed your communications shutting down and reached out. One could assume he was more than just simply curious. You should execute the NC program in the way I teach it. I know its complicated in some respects if they are reaching out and yes, it may be appropriate to respond given the specifics of your situation. So why not explore what his frame of mind is. Just take things slow to gauge where he is in his feelings.

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    Gina

    September 21, 2018 at 10:49 pm

    So my ex and I had our skype chat and talked for a while. I mentioned I was struggling with work visas and he jokingly offered to marry me…but then said he would honestly do anything to help me. He also referenced a lot of our past things we used to do as a couple, etc, and texted me after our chat to tell me how nice it was to talk to me. Where do I go from here?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 21, 2018 at 11:36 pm

      HI Gina!

      Things moving in the right direction. Just go it slow. Let the attraction build slowly. You don’t want to blow out the flame. And by golly, go learn more about my program so you are up to speed on all the nuances and tactics.

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    Gina

    September 17, 2018 at 9:21 pm

    Well as I said in previous messages, he’s offered to Skype with me and chat. So all I have to do is tell him I want to take him up on that, I’m just wondering if there’s anything extra that will make this chat count.

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    Gina

    September 17, 2018 at 7:29 pm

    Anything in particular I should do/mention? It’s been a year since we broke up and I;ve only seen him once in person since then…last time we video chatted was after he broke up with me and I demanded he call me to explain face to face.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 17, 2018 at 9:12 pm

      Hi Gina…are you interested in reaching out to him…initiating contact?

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    Gina

    September 17, 2018 at 2:58 am

    So my ex texted me today and we actually ended having a pretty good chat. I’m struggling with the idea of moving for a job and he suggested we Skype and just have a chat. This is the first time he’s suggested anything like this, even when we were dating long distance. Do I initiate?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 17, 2018 at 3:53 am

      Hi Gina!

      Glad to hear the chat was positive. Go for it. A little Skype convo can create some more positive deposits for the trust bank.

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    Dolly

    September 12, 2018 at 4:11 pm

    So today after gym I receive a call from a number I don’t know, turns out it’s my ex. I’ve already picked it up and I can’t hang up the call because it will be rude. He asked me how I was doing and also said he thought he should call and check how I am doing since he didn’t reply the last text he got from me (remember I talked about it) and I was just calm and collected not rude at all but also not too friendly. Any idea why this might have happened? Does he miss me or he was genuinely just checking me?‍♀️

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 17, 2018 at 9:55 pm

      I think its both..he misses you and checking up on you. My advice is to get up to speed on my ex recovery program so you can maximize all the moves you make.

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    Dolly

    September 10, 2018 at 10:54 am

    Hi Chris
    I don’t know if I understand you but, by saying it would be wise if he reconnected with me you meant that I should wait for him to be the one to make contact first after NC?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 11, 2018 at 12:52 am

      I am hopeful he will reach out to you during the NC period. But my program calls for a progressive and tactical way for making contact with your ex after NC is concluded.

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    Gina

    September 9, 2018 at 2:59 pm

    The thing is, I’m in Europe and he’s in North America, it’s not like I can invite him casually since it’s a pretty big thing for either party to fly anywhere. He’s still initiating texts but I don’t think he’s gonna push to get back together

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      September 9, 2018 at 6:45 pm

      I understand Gina. Just keep putting little breadcrumbs so he will keep initiating. Also, maybe a little jealousy can give him an awakening.

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