6 Signs That Prove Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship (And What To Do With Them)

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EBR Team Member: Amor

September 26, 2016 at 10:32 am

You’re welcome 🙂
Melissa

September 25, 2016 at 1:26 pm

I was with my bf for 2 years, living with him for a year. I broke it off because I was going through a stressful time and I didn’t feel I was getting the support that I needed. (I look back now and I feel my expectations were too high). We were very respectful and amicable about the break up. A week later I decided I didn’t want to break up and told him I wanted him back but there were certain things he needed to work on. He said that he didn’t want to get back together, but stated he had a great respect for me and would always love me. When I moved out he pulled my father aside and told him he’d always love me and that he was sorry for the way things worked out. About three weeks later he called me and said he wanted to talk. I said I needed time as I was still upset over his rejection and although I did want to get back together knew we both needed to take some time apart and evaluate the relationship. I messaged him 3 weeks later and said I was ready to talk. He said he wasn’t sure he wanted to talk anymore and that he was conflicted. I was so confused, but took that as a good sign that he was really reflecting on things. 2 days later I found out he was seeing someone else for about a month. So essential a few weeks after we broke up. I’m sooo hurt by this. It has to be a rebound. He was still texting me and asking how I was doing, and being very friendly while he was seeing her. He hasn’t told me he’s seeing anyone. Once I found out. I just told him I was done and that I wished him well. But I still want him back. I’m just not sure I can get over the hurt of him going to another girl. Is this a rebound, will he see the error of his ways?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 25, 2016 at 6:01 pm

Hi Melissa,
yeah, it looks like a rebound.. Hmm.. it’s likely that he will but why not try to influence that by starting no contact?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 25, 2016 at 9:25 am

Ok, I’ll forward that to Chris. Thank you! If it was his last chance of recovery then that means he’s moving on right? Then to have a higher chance, he has to think that you’ve moved on too. So, that he wouldn’t think you’re chasing him and wouldn’t avoid you. That way, you can have a restart.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 24, 2016 at 1:09 pm

Thank you too!! And thank you for the suggestion! I think it’s not over confidence.. I think you can see that you’re better than the other girl which is good!
By the way, what other topics about gigs do you have in mind?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 22, 2016 at 6:19 pm

Approach it like he’s already taken. Just be friendly, nothing flirty. Nothing that indicates you want him back. Use the tactics on the first article you posted in.. And yes, I do agree that maybe gigs is the reason that he broke up with you but that doesn’t really that he is with the girl because of gigs.. She can still be a rebound. You know, you were together for a long time, so he maybe he wanted to experience life first. After initiating that, he needed somebody to make him feel less lonely, thus making her a rebound.
Rosario

September 20, 2016 at 11:22 pm

Hi!
I was in a relationship for five months with a guy who eventually broke up with me saying that he likes me more than he ever thought he would, but he is just not ready for commitment. Maybe ten days after our break up he met this girl that is 5 years older than him, and she is extremely beautiful. Thanks to facebook I saw that he is very interested in her, and that she is interested in him as well. I did not speak to him for about 40 days (NC), but I am worried that he really is into her, and I am afraid of possible relationship. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 22, 2016 at 7:21 pm

Hi Rosario,

focus more on how he would find you interesting to talk with. Let’s say he is with that girl, then you just have to be careful in starting a conversation. If he is with her, check this one out and follow the advice there:What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 20, 2016 at 7:03 pm

Hi Lost and heartbroken,

There was only one pending comment in the same email address, if it’s that, I just haven’t reached it yet. Sorry about that! It does look like a rebound because it’s too soon. That’s good that you’re not going to stop seeing your friends, because it’s your right to keep seeing them.

Anyway, if all you have are fond memories, that’s good! Why? Because when he sees you’ve improved, he’ll be attracted to you and remember the good times, and he’ll miss that more when they’re over the honeymoon period and start to have fights..
Kristen

September 18, 2016 at 8:09 pm

Hey there-

I was dating my ex for 8 months. Our relationship was rocky cause I was only in town for less than a year and we knew that starting out. We fell in love, he asked me to move in, to marry him, start a family with him. When I left to do a 3mth contract, he even asked me up to the airport to come back to him. I did tell him that we weren’t right for each other but that I loved him and he was my best friend and that I would always be here for him. My flight left at 4 am…I found out after that he went on a date that night, slept with her that night and is now madly in love with her. This was three days after his date. He said that she gets him and supports him and that he didn’t want to be alone so he found someone else. He told me he loves her and that she’s the one. They’ve now been together a little over 3 wks and he keeps saying how happy he is. But he also Facetious me, calls, texts about 2-3 x per week.

Is this for real? Could this relationship really last? I told him that she’s just a rebound and he told me to stop being so selfish and to be happy for him. I want to think it’s just a rebound but I don’t see how he could possibly have true feelings for this girl…??

Kristen

October 6, 2016 at 12:47 am

Hi there – following up on my story – I haven’t heard from my ex in over a week. Although he did like my FB post today. Is this normal behaviour? I feel like he’s given up on me. 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 7, 2016 at 4:34 pm

yep.. some don’t even reach out in the whole no contact period..
Kristen

September 29, 2016 at 11:35 pm

Hi there- So I’ve been in no contact with my Ex since Sept. 13. Despite multiple attempts on his part to contact me. On Sunday I read his FB messages to me – I think he switched to FB so that he could tell whether I was reading them. His last message said ” I can only believe that you’re hurting which is why you would be hurting me by not answering my messages”. I don’t understand why he’s still writing me. He told me that he met ‘the one’ and that she’s perfect for him, but won’t stop reaching out to me. Is he really interested in being my friend or does he want me back? To refresh your memory – this girl is the one that he ‘fell in love with’ the day I moved away for 3 months.
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 1, 2016 at 1:50 pm

He misses you which is a good sign.. Stay strong in nc..
Kristen

September 21, 2016 at 11:10 pm

And another FB and Text today asking if he did something to lose my friendship.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 22, 2016 at 7:40 pm

That’s good that you started no contact.. Be active in social media.. Show him you’re moving on and that you’re not into being friend zoned
Kristen

September 21, 2016 at 12:49 am

Yup – doing NC since last Tuesday (13th) when he called me through FaceTime. He started talking to someone off camera and I realized it was his new gf so I ended the conversation immediately. Since then he’s Facetimed me 3x, called me once and sent 3 FT messages. Today he texted me first thing in the morning and said that he’s starting to get offended that I’m not responding.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 20, 2016 at 5:45 pm

Hi Kristen,

well, things were fast with you two.. But it is too fast with him and her but, I also think that pointing out that she is rebound will make him prove to you that she isn’t. I do believe she’s a rebound.. Are you going to do no contact rule?

maria

September 15, 2016 at 1:38 am

Hey Amor,

Hoping to join in on this relationship advice forum.
I was with my ex for 4 years. I got along with everyone in his family perfectly. He said I was the love of his life. We traveled together. But we met in college. He is two years older so he got situated in a teaching job. Long story short, for the past year we have been a little rocky. Not fighting or arguing but just weird energy because he either feels I can be “better” career/financial wise. I just graduated with two degrees, I am working and applying for grad school to a medical program. I’m even taking EMT classes to boost my CV. He told me he wants to focus on his career/family. His dad is much older and very sick, which causes a lot of stress since it seems like he may be dying in the next year or so.
His mother told me that he feels free now because I was suffocating him. Yet he never expressed to me that he needed space. So its been about 1 week and half. I didn’t beg him or plead. i just returned to him all his photos and gifts. I know he has already slept with two girls almost right after our breakup. This past Saturday we had to work together and he offered me a ride home. I didn’t mention the relationship or break up. Just talked to him about his first week back teaching and everything great and new in my life. I kept it positive and light. I made him laugh and we got a long great. I felt like he missed me but maybe I am imagining things. I told him how I am running every morning and he even asked if guys try to talk to me in the street (i live in nyc). I didn’t kiss him or invite him up. But he did want to stay in the car and chat for a while.

But we never fought. His family loves me. I was there for him during his Dads surgery. I have been supportive. So I feel like despite my clinginess for the past summer, maybe I can still get him back. How do I successfully complete NC for this case?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 18, 2016 at 11:12 am

Hi Maria,

did you mean how would you complete nc while working together? If yes, listen to this one: EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Ally

September 12, 2016 at 2:10 pm

Hi Amor, thank you for your opinion. He is 26.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 14, 2016 at 1:15 pm

You’re welcome!

Rile

September 11, 2016 at 2:45 am

My ex boyfriend broke up with me not even 2 months ago and just the other day my friend told me that he was tagged in pictures with some other girl. Obviously they were hanging out and have been talking for a while for the girl to even put pictures of them up, which makes me think that it’s so fast and that I feel a bit betrayed that he can moved on that fast. We were with each other for almost a year and a half. We fought a lot but we also had good memories until the very end . Throughout the relationship, he has repeatedly told me that I am the one he wants to marry and the last girl he wants to be with. His parents even thought that I was the one for him. Even when he broke up with me, he broke up with me through text and said what meant to be will happen in time, we can’t force it. I did not text him after that and haven’t talked to him. I don’t even want to anymore. But after seeing him with the other girl, I feel like what he has told me in the past was nothing but lies. How can he move on that quickly

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 12, 2016 at 3:35 pm

Hi Riley,

I actualky answered your first comment..I’m going to that answer here too and I think he moved on before breaking up with you

Hi Riley,

yeah, looks like he chose to move on.. I’m not saying he already has but he chose to continually move on.

Liz

September 10, 2016 at 10:30 pm

I am Devastated. My ex has moved on and told me he is in love with the new one. He blocked me from most things except we can still email and are Facebook and Instagram friends. She’s his sister’s close friend, they are all from the same country/culture and he seems totally smitten. I ran into them together holding hands, she’s in lots of pics his family posts online, and friends. He was calling her my love and catering to her. Just like he used to for me. Packing her lunch. It’s been a month since we officially broke up. He left me bc he said we didn’t work and he didn’t have feelings anymore. He was friends with her first. Is he truly in love so soon after?? Is it possible it started before we ended or at least an emotional affair? Her husband had left her I think she’s going through a divorce. Help me bc I’ve been crying nonstop for a month even while doing so many things to self improve and her in great shape. Nc was supposed to end sept 14 and now I already saw him when he was with her and asked him if he loved her. I feel like I have no chance now. I’m in horrible shape.

Liz

September 12, 2016 at 1:59 pm

Do you think he is actually IN LOVE with her this soon? How can he jump right into that? He really loved me, and I know it. Do you think he is just infatuated or in puppy love? I wonder if it will last… I can do 45 days, and reach out as a friend. He unfriended me on Facebook last night. I have begged twice, once on August 12, then did NC till Sept 9, then I got really upset again because I found out about her. I never would have suspected it was her, he always told me she was married and not to worry about her at all. I can’t believe it!
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 14, 2016 at 1:10 pm

He’s in a grass is greener case. That means he found something about her that he thought would be a better experience for him…I dont know if it’s love but they are in love.. they’re still in the honeymoon stage.
Liz

September 10, 2016 at 10:31 pm

We were in a rocky relationship two years but with much love and good times too
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 12, 2016 at 10:56 am

Hi Liz,

it’s possible that he fell for her before he broke up with you since they already know each other for long time. I think you should do 45 days and you have to set your expectation. First, he chose her. If you approach him like you’re chasing him, he’s going to avoid you because he’s going to be protective of his new relationship. Second, you have to accept that he has moved on, so don’t beg. When you start talking to him, you have to come from a friendly perspective only because that’s what he needs to think. Listen to this one: What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

Ally

September 10, 2016 at 2:59 pm

Additional information: I am pretty sure that he is seeing someone. According to the article in my previous message, I am confused, if it’s a rebound or a serious date. 🙁
He kept saying and texting me: for sure, I will call you and want to see you again, just give me time. Well, I love him, but I am not sure, if I can forgive him a rebound. My pride is very strong. And maybe he wil not contact me at all. On the 45th day of NC will be his birthday and I plan to ignore it.
Ally

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 12, 2016 at 8:04 am

Hi Ally

I agree with the article you posted.. It explained clearly why some ex seems to move on fast.. Are you asking if that’s what happened with him? It can be.. How old is he? He may have gotten tired of what his friends and parents are saying to him

Ally

September 10, 2016 at 2:43 pm

Hi Chris,
I am from Europe and I love your exboyfriendrecovery.com. 🙂 I am on NC the 13th day (very actively working on becoming again the ungetable girl), we were dating nearly 7 months, then he asked me for a break in August. Of course, first I did mistakes (crying, begging, etc.). After 10 days of NC I texted him that it’s over, I am not a Waity Katie and the break for me is just not suitable. We talked on a phone twice and texted for 7 days, he was replaying immediately. He repeated over and over that he needs alone time and think about our relationship: age gap, he is younger than me and unfortunately his mom and one of his male friends are against our relationship. We live 60 km from each other in 2 different countries, but it’s not a big deal, also his parents live 60 km from my city and his city as well, it’s a special triangle of 3 cities. :)))
I unfriended him and his best friend on Facebook, I couldn’t stand seeing him online. 🙁
I found one article on Internet and I think this is what happened in our relationship, please Chris, be so kind and write me your opinion about the article.
Thank you very much for you help, you and your team are really awesome! 😉
Many greetings from Europe,
Ally
“What a dumpee must recognise is that, though it seems like it’s happened “over night” for them, for the dumper it’s been a more gradual process. The end of a relationship, for them, doesn’t necessarily take place when they break up with their partner – rather it is likely that for weeks (possibly months and maybe even years) before they actually end the relationship/marriage, they’re emotionally detaching and distancing themselves.

This is often shown in a change of behaviour towards their partner and the relationship; like spending less time together, refusing sex, and lack of communication, possibly even secrecy regarding their whereabouts and activities when they’re not with their partner.

As the “dumper” is emotionally detaching themselves from their partner, they have the space and distance needed to come to terms with the demise of the relationship. They’re having time to deal with their romantic feelings for their partner, and sadly, in some cases, they have time to get over their partner with that, so when they end the relationship, it’s likely that they’re leaving it with a lot less emotional baggage than the person who’s just been broken up with.

This is often why, when the relationship is over, the dumper’s ready to move on and date. In a lot of cases, the ex will immediately start dating some one right away or begins playing the field.

When there is seemingly no down time at all before they’re in another relationship, it leaves the dumpee to feel like it’s happened over night.

This can be a very baffling and painful experience for the person who’s been just left. More often than not, they assume that their ex didn’t care about them, or were cheated on, that the relationship meant nothing, or that their ex doesn’t care about the pain they’re in.

Surprising as it may seem, this is not actually the case (in most instances). It’s merely that the ex has had time to come to terms with this new path in life, and the dumpee is hurt/heart-broken and left to pick up the pieces.

The dumper assumes that because they’ve moved on emotionally – over the time they’ve had to make their decision to end the relationship, then they can date again – but the dumped person assumes that this is a completely new situation for both parties and not knowing that their ex has already been detaching from them for some time, views their ex moving on (seemingly) fast as something that’s wrong, hurtful and insensitive.

But the ex has been able to deal with their feelings regarding the breakup, during that detachment phase – and that’s why they can move on so quickly.”

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 12, 2016 at 8:04 am

Hi Ally

I agree with the article you posted.. It explained clearly why some ex seems to move on fast.. Are you asking if that’s what happened with him? It can be.. How old is he? He may have gotten tired of what his friends and parents are saying to him

Kari

September 7, 2016 at 6:48 pm

Hi Amor,

I was in LDR relationship for about 4 months with a friend I have known for over twelve years. We broke up in July…initiated a no-contact phase until August and slowly built up communication since then. Things were off to a great start (I was keeping in line with all the strategies in Chris’s book). We were making great progress., there was a strong level of attraction and desire building within us again. We eventually reached a point where we both agreed that a meetup in person is soon due (we are aiming for end of September). This would have been the first time we touch on many difficult topics about our relationship for the first time since the break-up.

This past long weekend, my female instinct took over. I got vibes that there was another girl in the background. I could tell by his lacklustre and delayed responses, his disinterest in chatting much for the weekend. Plus, seeing a few pics online from common scenery between his profile and another girl’s, it was just too easy to figure it all out.

We had a phone chat last night, and I was able to confirm that there was in fact another woman behind the scenes…a girl that has been interested in him for a while (from what my prediction is based on how active she was on his social media all the time). I’m about 99% sure they had sex. I’m sure he knows this is rebound sex/ or a rebound relationship. I could hear guilt and confusion in his voice as he confessed this to me. He also confessed he’s still got feelings for me and doesn’t know what he wants but would still like to keep our meeting in September to discuss everything that’s happened since July. He’s seen pictures and spoken with me enough times to see that I’ve only gone up the career ladder once again and have gotten in even better shape than I was in before. He claims that he is normally the one to have confidence in all of his decisions (leaving a relationship, a job, a friend, etc). but for the first time he feels as though he doesn’t know if leaving me was the the right choice.

Amor, I can’t tell if the rebound sex is what made him feel this way or if it had truly been the two months of separation that has caused him to confess these things. He says he misses me and our talks. He says all he has done is give me stress and I’ve been the most selfless person he has ever known. He also said “perhaps I met the right person and the wrong time” type thing. ….I can go on for hours about what all he relayed to me…I guess my question is…Is someone really in love with you if they were able to sleep with another woman a month and half later? Is rebound sex really not that meaningful to men in comparison to how it comes across to the ex-girlfriend who has just found out?

Should rebound relationships be overlookable to the person who wants their ex back? Is it excusable? Does it look pathetic to go back to someone like that? I just don’t know. He claims a few things for our september meeting. He says he wants to “figure out how feels for me and he needs to see me physically in person to do that” he also says “i want to talk to you about some things that happened or come up in my life in these past two months and I want to see how these things fit into your life and to see if you are okay with them” ….can’t tell if letting me decide if i want in or if he’s coming here to see if HE wants in.

I am hurt that he slept with another woman, though we were not together. He says he has never cheated on me. I believe him but I am still grossed out about the rebound. He’s messaged me today to make small talk. I am trying my best to reply neutrally but i find that he has lost so much respect..and all the work and playfulness I put in during the “texting strategies” phase seems wasted. I don’t know if this worth another push after now hearing what I heard.

I am happy for the progress my ex and I have made thus far. At one point I didn’t even know if there was a chance at getting him back. Using the EX boyfriend recovery PRO, that became possible again since he admitted to still having feelings for me. But now, the hurdle of the rebound relationship has surfaced…and I’m wondering..do i keep pushing? Or do convince myself that I deserve more worthy love?

Please help.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 9, 2016 at 9:02 am

HI Kari,

Yeah, it is easier for guys, especially if he already decided then to move on..
He didn’t expect you to improve this much, and it helped in attracting him back..

He didn’t cheat but this all depends on what you want. It depends on your standards.. You don’t have to rush. Take it slow and if you’re still undecided then get back with him..

Mariana

September 7, 2016 at 5:30 pm

Hello EBR team. I will tell you my situation to see if you can give me a proper advice

My ex and me were together for more than year and 1/2, we meet at work and we were working and even living together (on a ship) for most of that time. Because I start getting sick often I had to quit my job and he decided to stay for a while to being able to save more money and meet each other in his country at the end of this year. Everything was going “well” until he broke up with me about two months and a few days ago because he didnt feel the same way about me anymore.

Of course, I got angry and told him that he never really cared about me and all this staff but I started talking to him two days later with more calm and he let me know that he wasnt going to cut off the comunication with me because “he hadnt gave up on me” and “still consider me like a wonderful person”… During the first month of the break up we talk sometimes through email (I didnt beg, but I did make the mistake of apologizing for whatever he felt the reason of the break up) sometimes he replied, sometimes he didnt.

I started reading articles about break ups and I found this website around a month ago, and I decided to start the NC the august 8th. After a few days I realized that he was flirting with a girl through facebook and she started posting pictures of them going out together.

He hasnt even try to contact or ask about me until now not even once, that would be almost the end of the NC and she keeps posting pics of them and flirting in them like he never did with me. I feel right now like a ghost, like that time between us never existed for him.

His family and friends were telling me during our time together how happy he was, how he was talking about me constantly and how I was “such a massive part of his life”…. but his recent actions make me doubt if he really ever cared about me.

To be honest I do not know what to do now, I still love him and I still want to be with him but he doesnt seem to care at all about me.

Do you really think that can be a chance? or should I lose all hope?

Mariana

September 21, 2016 at 7:33 pm

Sorry Amor, didnt see that you have replied.

Yes, she works in the ship as well. We do not live in the same country and I know that that makes things so much worse, even when they do not live in the same country either.

I am at 6 days to finish the NC; I have decided to make it longer because his birthday is today and mine is in 3 days and I felt that if I had sent him a “birthday message” that would be too predictable.

Its just that I do not not what to feel, he hasnt reached out to me not even once. but I will still try an atempt of contact next week to see what happened.

If your ex hasnt cared to contact you for almost 50 days, do you think it is a lost cause?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 23, 2016 at 10:57 am

It’s ok! Well, it’s probably because he has a new girlfriend.. So, that means you need to be careful. You don’t want him to think you’re trying to break them apart
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 9, 2016 at 8:38 am

Hi Mariana,

she works in the ship as well? If she works in the ship too, it looks like a grass is greener case because it’s easier to be in a relationship with her. Do you live in the same country too?

Suki

August 28, 2016 at 4:48 am

My BF and I were tgt for 2 yrs.
I’m older in the relationship.
He broke up with me 4 months back.
He said he wanted to be alone and nt in a relationship. I never knew the right reason.
I did became a gnat initially and beg him back but he said it’s not the right time and I was too emotional.
I have anxiety issue prior to this and once had to see a doc, and that already happen when we were tgt.
Found out he started to date someone around 2 months after we broke up.
Went into 30 days NC after that. Met new friends and started healing and moved on from the relationship. Lost weight from the break up + exercising. He never like skinny girls though.
Told myself that we are not at same stage of life.
But I still have a soft spot for him.
I did message him after NC but sometimes he replies sometimes he doesn’t. The replies are sometimes hot and cold.
Maybe I been writing too much while he replies are generally neutral and shorter.
He is still tgt with the gf now.
(I am older, but she is younger)
She seems to be the opposite of me. Is this a rebound or grass greener?
I stop having emotion outbreak from this and just get a little upset whenever I see new feed or photos pop up on Instagram.
(Unfollow his fb but no such option on Instagram)
I am still int in getting him back!

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 30, 2016 at 3:20 pm

Hi Suki,

more like a grass is greener if he has already moved on from you.. Try to watch this one: What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

Nichole

August 25, 2016 at 7:46 am

My ex broke things off by immediately telling me he had already slept with someone else. I don’t not believe he “cheated”. While he was ending things, during an escalated argument he kep saying things like he “still cares” about me, he “didn’t want to hurt me” it was a “mistake” he’s “not in love” and it was “just sex”. Now, he’s still seeing her, when he told me about this and said those things they were supposedly 10 days in. It’s been about six weeks now and the last contact I’ve made with him was over a week ago (he was sick of people approaching him about me, he was angry and told me FINALLY after 5 weeks he doesn’t want to see or hear from me again) confusing I know. It seems he had a hard time letting me go but sources say he’s still see her and its “blooming”. IS THIS A REBOUND?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 29, 2016 at 12:27 pm

Hi Nichole,

if he started seeing her while being in your relationship, that’s more of a grass is greener case.

Kylie

August 24, 2016 at 10:15 pm

I’m pretty sure my ex boyfriend is in a rebound but my mind is wandering like crazy and I’m in denial that he could be.

I dated my ex boyfriend for 7 years. We had an awesome relationship. We had lots of fun together, went on adventures, totally trusted one another, supported one another, talked about everything, and barely fought. We are originally from New York and we moved to Florida together for his job. We stayed in Florida for about 8 months, and then had to relocate to California for his job. Living in California was super tough on the both of us. I was working 7 days a week to make ends meet, and the stress of bills and being so far from friends and family really took a toll on our relationship. We definitely grew a bit distant but I blamed that all on working so much and being a bit depressed from being so far from everyone. But we both knew this move was temporary and we would be back in New York eventually. Mind you, we were only in California for 9 months when everything happened.

My boyfriend decided to go on a guys trip with his New York friends back in June and while he was there, he met a girl and cheated on me. When he returned from the trip, he told me he felt like our relationship became stagnant and he didn’t know if this was a break or a breakup but he just knew he needed time apart. After asking him if this was really what he wanted about a million times (we were dating for 7 years, I just wasn’t going to walk away so easily), I left California and came back home to New York.

Fast foward to now (9 weeks after the breakup) and I find out he is officially dating the girl he met in on vacation. He is 26 and she is 21 years old. He still lives in California and she lives in New York and they have only hung out in person a total of 10 days MAX (he came home for job reasons within these past 9 weeks so they have seen each other then).. Not only did he rush into a relationship only 9 weeks. On top of that, he didn’t waste any time posting pictures of them together on social media. Everyone says this is a rebound but when I talked to him about how fast he moved on, all he could say was he hopes he wouldn’t regret this and that he felt like our relationship was dwindling for awhile now anyways. So I can’t tell if this will last or not but it is KILLING ME INSIDE. I just feel so easily replaceable and I thought me and him shared a deep connection 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 29, 2016 at 12:41 am

Hi Kylie,

he’s in a grass is greener syndrome..Read this one: The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

Chantel

August 24, 2016 at 6:04 pm

My bf of 5+ years broke up with me. I was drifting away and he tried really hard. And when he broke up with me I could tell it killed him. He did everything to try and make it work. I love him and maybe it’s just time or whatever. When he broke up with me he started immediately dating this girl, the next day pretty much. After a week pretty much living there. And is now his “girl friend” after 3 weeks… We haven’t been broken up for even a month. I’m shocked that being with someone for so long can just do that? He’s hurt and still mad at me I know but still. I could be biased but do you think that’s a rebound. I do? (My understand is she doesn’t have a place to live with very little money, he’s a great guy, I also hope he’s not being used)

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 28, 2016 at 5:35 pm

Hi Chantel,

can be..when did he meet her?

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