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Naf
December 31, 2016 at 5:34 am
After 8 months of our relationship and visiting my boyfriend in his country ,i asked him to let me to come to his country and live together but he said i dont like the time we spend in bed and your touch wasnt good(Im 30 and it was my first experience and it was just 1 night) then we had argue. After NC for a month,he wasnt the beginner for sending me message every day but when i start we spent a good time .some times he mentioned a part of my body that he misses then when i say lets talk in Skype ,he changed the subject .He has doubt whether being close to me or not.Yesterday when i said as a gift for new year lets talk by skype,he said he is starting new relationship for 3weeks with whom lives in his country (which i know it started while i was on NC) he said he wants to forget me and if he comes to skype ,he cant.He said you attract me but the bed wasnt good and he wants to focus in his new relationship to know her better and by seeing me he miss me and turn on and he doesnt want.We can be friends to practice language (which we did before) but not by skype.
Isnt it strange that he forces himself to get in a new relationship to forget me? and is there any chance to get him back? How?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 31, 2016 at 10:46 am
Hi Naf,
follow the advice in this ones:
EBR 015: How To Get A Long Distance Boyfriend Back If He Has A New Girlfriend
Ashley
December 30, 2016 at 8:00 am
My ex we have dated since October 28 2013. A month after I had my baby that isn’t hers since she is a female My parents didn’t like that I was with a female so me and my ex decided to move in together. We lived together for two years and during those two years it was good and bad. A lot of arguments later on in the relationship. We just didn’t feel happy. Then I decided to break up because he would give me signs of not wanting to try. My ex was more interested in doing her own thing and her friends. I still kept contact and we see eachother pretty often but she will make it seem like I wasn’t important anymore. So I tried moving on. After she found out her roommates were going to leave without paying rent I rushed over to be with her and help her come up with a plan for her. (Note: we still saw eachother during this time) later on she started to come back to me. But I was slowly moving on by talking to other guys. It didn’t work out though but I felt that I didn’t want my ex to come back if it was just because she lost everything. I wanted her to come back because she wanted a change. (By now it’s about three months into us being broken up when all that happened) she help me get a job at her work and a guy there always flirts with me. She would get jealous and upset at me but I told her I can’t control how someone is towards me. She asked me back multiple times but I kept telling her that I wasn’t afraid and I don’t know. I never gave her a no but I never said yes. But throughout the next 3 months after(about6 months afternoon he break up) she would sleep over at my place. We would have heart breaking conversation about us. I just didn’t want to I talk about us because I didn’t know where I was going with it. I tried to be a bit distant and give her space. SHe would always be there with me during work and we would bicker like a married couple. But we were always together also laughing, Getting eachother drinks and making sure that if one person didn’t have food, I would buy her food and myself. I know I kept pushing her away but I never stopped caring. Then I guess I was busy keeping myself distractedly and busy we slowly stop texting but we would see eachother and talk while going to work and back. (About 11 months from break up) we hangout every now and then but not as often but we still talk like it’s great. She is still trying to be with me and I keep hesitating. Finally on the day that we broke up one year ago she asked me out again. I didn’t I know what says. I mean I wanted to but I didn’t know if I should because I was afraid that the arguing would still be there because we would bicker even when we werent even dating. We both were still jealous if someone were I talk to the other person. But then She asked me around the 20th what we were. I didn’t have an answer for her and asked why and if she was seeing someone else. She said they are talking but he doesn’t know what they are yet. I was scared so I thought I should try but i was so busy the next day I barely had time to talk to her. I asked her to get rid of the other girl because that girl was the one who he left for me. They never dated. And my ex said they she wanted me not the other girl. I tried the day after but she a started ignoring me. It lead up to three days. She didn’t contact me until Christmas. She would come pick me up to go to her family’s Christmas party and she didn’t want my to talk all about us. So while we were there I asked her to be okay with kissing me and holding my hand and being touchy with me. SHe agreed. But those three days before i have been texting her those past three days and being depressed because I was a scared to lose her. And she ignored me. I thought to let her go because I loved her still. But when we went back to work. I couldn’t help but to begg her for another chance. After declining a few times she finally said yes. But it didn’t feel right. I was a bit happier but unsure if this was fake. We kissed and held hands and I tried to do sweet things. She smiled and said I was cute but she was holding back. We had breakfast because I asked and she agreed. After that she hasn’t responded to me until yesterday. SHe always said she is busy but never explaining but we all know why. I tried to research everything and found out I was so making a mistake. This isn’t the right to way too get her back. So I wrote a message that said I loved her and my daughter loves her and she will always have a place in our hearts. I will respect her choice and let her go but for her to know that our little family bond is stronger than what she think her and the other girl has. I told her when she is ready that maybe door will always be open for her but not meaning I will wait. I was going to get myself straight and work on me. And when she realizes it then she can come meet me to restart. I also said that our friends had broken up and dated other people and gotten back together so there couldn’t be hope for us too. Then the last thing I said be for it went into the no contact I said “If one day you decide to love me again, I will love you the right way and won’t let you go. But until then I’ll be patient and I’ll be here for you. I wish you to be happy and I’m sorry I was too late.” two days later she finally replied thanking me for understanding and she doesn’t really have anything to say. SHe wants to be In my daughters life if I allow it and she is sorry she couldn’t don’t give me her love to me right now and she want she me and my daughter to be happy with or without her. I didn’t respond. Few hours later I see that she isn’t in a relationship(on facebook) with that girl and five hours later she sent me three photos of my and my daughter when we use to live together. We still can see each others post. I still didn’t respond. But what Im nervous about is, I’m sure she is in a rebound relationship right? YEs we broke up for about a year but we never completely detached from eachother until just those days she started to ignore me. So with her in a relationship already isn’t this a forsure rebound even though she told me she likes the other girl a lot. She said to me before when I wasn’t begging her back that she doesn’t know now what they are yet and that she wasn’t ready for relationship. But how could she asked me out Just 9 days before she told be she was talking to someone else? I believe I should leave it alone and let it run it’s course but what are my chances? I know sooner or later I will be okay but this is the beginning and I still can’t get my mind off of it. I know I hurt her feelings by pushing her away but is she really over with me? We’ve been even together for about three years now even counting the year we broke up(which IT didn’t really seem like it)
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 30, 2016 at 3:16 pm
Hi Ashley,
it looks like a grass is greener case..Check this:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends
Gillian
December 15, 2016 at 4:47 pm
Hi, thank you so much for replying to my comment. I guess I figure that if he IS in a rebound relationship, that he still has feelings for me, and might want to try again. I am the one who left him so he doesn’t know how I feel right now. I know he had talked to her before the breakup, they were friends, but he said he wasn’t interested in anyone else (I didn’t directly ask, just told him if there was someone else that that was fine). So I am not even sure how this ame about. Regardless, I I am just wondering if I should talk to him about this since he doesn’t know how I feel. Does getting an ex BACK from a rebound relationship ever work?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 16, 2016 at 4:56 pm
If she is a rebound, the more you improve, the more he will miss you because the other person doesn’t really compare..but honestly for me, it looks more like he may be just using her because he didnt like the way your relationship was too fast but if you talk and ask for him back, it’s chasing already.. If he wants to take things slow then you chasing is contradictory to that..he has to see you understood, and now you’re focusing in your own life because you’re not a doormat.. You’re not going to just accept him.. After nc, you have to slowly build rapport and since he has a gf, it has to be really slow and you have to be careful not to appear like you’re really trying to break them apart..
But if the real reason was that he found her better when you were being needy, then it still goes back to imoroving yourself but he has to see that you’re independent and that once you’ve reconnected you’re just being friendly
Gillian
December 15, 2016 at 5:12 am
Hi! Alright, so I have a confusing dilemma. I reconnected with an old friend from high school after not speaking for 8 years. He and I had always had a strong “thing” for each other in high school, and after texting for a few weeks we went on a date. We had great chemistry and began an emotionally intense dating relationship. Everything was wonderful for about a month, albeit a little rushed (he gave me a housekey after 3 weeks) and we were talking a lot about the future. We were completely in sync. One night I asked whether I was his girlfriend and he said yes. But then inexplicably and virtually overnight he became distant. Stopped texting as much, stopped initiating contact and making plans, went the entire weekend not asking to see me. I was heartbroken and felt like I was becoming needy. After ditching dinner plans with me one night (that I initiated), I broke up with him 3 days later in a desperate bid for self preservation. When I asked if that was what he wanted, he said he wished we could have discussed it first, said things had been too rushed but then said he really didn’t want me out of his life. He seemed somewhat anxious and upset by the breakup, more than I thought he would be. He said there was no one else. I asked what he wanted and he said he didn’t know. He did mention he wanted us to keep talking. So I left him. Our breakup was sweet, amicable, even weirdly affectionate.
3 days later I texted him something lighthearted and funny. No response. I tried again by asking if he wanted his key back. Nothing. I was so confused. I found out on Thanksgiving he was dating someone new, a girl he had already been friends with, and she had already been to Thanksgiving dinner to meet his family. I’m shocked and confused and angry. He moved on within DAYS of me leaving him. A close male friend of his said he had REALLY liked me, too, so I’m incredibly hurt. Is there a chance this is a rebound?
I want to know whether to message him again to try and fix this. It’s been well over a month with no contact, roughly 6 weeks. I unfriended him on social media bc I couldn’t tolerate seeing pics of him with this new girl. I have so many unanswered questions and I want to know how he feels about us, about trying again. Should I attempt to reach out again? Is there a chance this is just a rebound? It hurts tremendously.
Thanks for listening
Gillian
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 15, 2016 at 12:05 pm
Hi Gillian,
How are you going to try again if he is already in a new relationship? She can be a rebound but she can also be a grass is greener case if they talked before the break up.
Check this:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends
Sally
December 12, 2016 at 3:55 pm
Hi – So this is my second, uh, third time around here with the same guy. Clearly, your techniques work! Let’s just say I have a complicated and ornery ex…
Anyway, I’m back because I would like your thoughts on our third break-up. My ex, we’ll call him T, and I have been together for 2 years. I am divorced with one child and T is legally separated with two children. In the beginning, after one wonderful month of dating, he broke up with me because he wasn’t ready to commit his whole heart to me.
As a side note: I do wish I had met him a bit later, as it seems issues with grieving the loss of being able to give his children the traditional family home continues to crop up as a theme throughout each of our break-ups. It had only been a year after his separation when we first started dating.
Anyway, we got back together readily one month after our first break-up – thanks to your teachings and the 30 day NC! I honestly never really counted that break-up, as it was so incredibly early in our journey. However, after seven wonderful, very happy, and in love months, he randomly decided to break up with me again! Just as we were starting to get deeper in our relationship. This time he cited feelings that things weren’t “perfect” between us. He later told me when we got back together he had a difficult time imagining how we would merge our families into one home seamlessly and thus chose to take the easy way out and just break it off.
During that second break-up, I was crushed and went into NC for nearly 4 months. Well, you guessed it, we inevitably got back together again after reinitiating contact. Even moved in together! Everything was nearly perfect. We were very happy and more in love than ever! I did have a few issues with trust given the break-ups, but we worked through them together as they came up and I did not feel there were any lingering problems. The kids transitioned insanely well and we have all become quite close. We were the perfect, happy, blended family of my dreams!!
In fact, we all fit together so well that I feel this started to cause tension with T’s “ex” wife, to whom he is still only legally separated from. My gut tells me that she started to feel jealous of my close relationship with her children, and how happy T and I were. As a mother myself whose son has a step-mother, I was very careful not to step on toes and made sure to be sensitive that I was not their mother. Nonetheless, I still think this started to bother her over time. In fact, even when it was her weekend with the kids, the kids regularly requested to come over to our house to spend time with their dad and I. Something that never happened vice versa…
Anyway, unbeknownst to me, about two months ago, T’s ex-wife had a messy split with her bf and a few weeks later ended up contacting T – on the rebound – to ask him if he wanted to try again with their marriage. What?! So disrespectful of her, in my mind!
Moreover, her contacting him with this proposal to get back together was totally and completely out of the blue. In other words, it did not come about after weeks of them starting to talk more and actually develop interest. T rarely talked to her and when he did it was only ever about the kids. I feel pretty confident that T was not and is not in love with her in the least. There is no way that she could be in love with him, as they have had basically a neutral and co-parenting only relationship for the last two years at least.
Well, T (being a guy) didn’t see anything wrong with her bring this up despite him being happy in his relationship with his live-in girlfriend. He thought about it for a few weeks without talking to me (which he says now he deeply regrets). Ultimately, he came to the decision that we should break up so that he could give it one last shot at reconciling the marriage “for the kids”.
I think as an added motive, T did not much like having these random sketchy men his ex-wife was dating around the kids, thus, getting back seemed like a simple and effective solution to him.
He completely blindsided me with the break up speech last week. The kids were shock as well.
I do think I understand his motives (even though I wholeheartedly disagree). He wants to protect his kids. He has said about where he sees it going: “I know I will never love her as much as I love you, because I never have. Our relationship is so much better than even the best times I had with her. But I have to do this for my kids.”
I am left devastated. I spent the last week gathering up my shattered emotions, packing my things, and moving out. T and his ex are planning to start by going to a marriage counsellor. I feel like he will try this, see that he doesn’t love her any longer or that they are not compatible (they’ve been separated for 3 years now) or that he flat out despises her presence, and that he will very likely come back to me.
Honestly? I do believe with everything in me that we will be together again. I’m a jerk, I know, but for some reason I believe that. I think this is the final thing he has to do to clear his conscience in order to finalize his divorce once and for all and then fully commit to me.
I guess, I just wanted to get your thoughts. We were so love. And even through the break-up process, he has stepped up to take care of me every step of the way to try to buffer my pain, as I have been packing and moving out. He told me repeatedly how much he was hurting and regretted his decision even before the words ‘I want to break up’ came out of his mouth. I don’t know.
We’ve ended on great terms. I fought it initially, but have since just allowed him the freedom to go. We just finished moving all my stuff out of the house yesterday, so as of today, he is in Day 1 of NC….again for the 3rd time! Part of me thinks he is going to figure out this little game eventually! He has already texted me at 5:00am this morning to remind me of something trivial, which I thought was very odd, as he never gets up that early. Humph. #ignore
In the meantime, I have big plans of bettering myself even more yet again. Last time I worked on physical appearance, this time I’m tackling getting rid of the last of my debt once and for all. Then possibly opening my own private practice.
I won’t wait for him, that’s for sure. I jokingly told him while we were packing my things at the house that he would need to show up with divorce papers and a ring for me to even consider seeing him again. I guess I wasn’t really joking that much.
So, yes, I have hope that we can and will get past this little ex-wife interference to come back together and be a happy little family again at some point in the future. And goodness, this time forever… What are your thoughts on this? Any insight to share? Reactions? How long should I keep him in NC, given that last time I kept him there for 4 months…? My thought was to start with 30 days and not rush anything. If it felt right to continue NC longer, then I would do it.
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 14, 2016 at 7:03 pm
Hi Sally,
If it’s really just the kids, and if you don’t chase him and keep improving, there’s a chance he will want to get back but if that happens, you have to lay down the conditionals because if you take him back easily, he will repeat the same pattern of being wishy washy or on and off with you.
Kat
December 9, 2016 at 3:21 pm
Alright so, I initiated taking a break from my ex at the beginning of the summer. I didn’t feel like myself and felt really claustrophobic. I admit, I made mistakes and hurt his feelings. I left for a couple of weeks after proposing that I wanted a break and I contacted him on and off while I was gone to check in on him because I knew how he can get severely depressed. When I had returned I met up with him to talk about it. He said he found another girl and that breaking up was the best idea. I was very confused and hurt, but decided since I wanted the break that I could respect his decision. I later heard through mutual friends that he was drinking heavily and talking about me repeatedly when he was with his friends.
I knew the girl and I felt like he may have moved on a little too fast to not be considered a rebound. I also was aware that he probably was seeking her out while I was trying to talk to him about taking a break. I don’t know what happened with their relationship after that because I stopped talking to him for 2 months. When I did contact him I made the mistake of drunk texting him. Certain things triggered me to text him. I asked how he was and he said he was doing good. I got angry and threw a temper tantrum and said things I didn’t mean. I didn’t text him in the morning because I was at a loss of words for my behavior. After a month of trying to repress what had happened I reached out and apologized for my behavior and wished him the best of luck. He said he really appreciated to hear that from me.
I’m not exactly sure how to handle this since I am the one usually broken up with. I just go about my business and assume he’ll text me when he wants too. But I keep forgetting that I initiated the break and he probably was hurt badly from it. I don’t know what to say or do to get him back since he is with a different girl. I was his first love and we dated for a 1.5 years. I find rebounds hard to deal with so I stick to myself. I’m not exactly sure how he’s doing since he always seemed to push his true feelings aside especially if something traumatic happened. He’s stubborn and I know I broke up with him, but I hope he contacts me soon.
Any chance this girl is only a rebound?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 12, 2016 at 8:08 pm
Hi Kat, What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)
She can be a rebound, but they are 2-3 months now right? The longer it goes, the more serious the relationship gets. Check this one:
Andrea
December 1, 2016 at 8:49 am
Hi, my ex and dated really briefly about 3 months to be exact. I’ll admit I didn’t give him much off a chase but nevertheless I did develop feelings for him. Towards the end we fought so much, he broke up with me. How ever the next day he was already with someone else. He made it public on Facebook and everything it hurt cause he never did that for me. I know I had an impact on him and meant something to him. But is there a chance that I can get him to miss me. So this relationship of his something serious? Please help.
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 1, 2016 at 12:22 pm
HI ANdrea,
where did he meet the girl? When they did start talking? Do you want to try the no contact rule?
Azemina
November 30, 2016 at 9:45 pm
My ex and I were together for almost 3 years. We had a very good intense loving relationship. We were very loving to each other always affectionate and loving towards each other’s kids. He was always telling me how in love he was with me, that he never felt so good, loved or cared for, that I was the love of his life and etc. We had a few bumps in the road in 3 years but we really didn’t fight. He has an ex wife who is very vindictive and does things just to get under people’s skin. She actually was barely around when we first met and was only a mom when she wanted to be. She would purposely do things that she knew would upset him and has always used the kids as a ploy. After 2 years we moved in together and then she decided she wanted to be a mom so she started doing things which I know we’re to get in the middle of our relationship. Now he is scared to put his foot down with her with a lot of things bc she is bat shit crazy. She cares about Noone but herself not even her 2 kids.
Anyway after dealing with her crap for so long she did something one day that interrupted our plans once again and I was just fed up. He doesn’t put his foot down where it needs to be and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I ended up telling him I was done and I said some VERY hurtful things to him. For the first 3 days he was saying he didn’t want us to end and etc but I was being stubborn and pushed him away. After that I realized I was over reacting and decided I didn’t want to be done. By then he had changed his mind, said we can’t be together bc of what I said he can’t forgive and get past and etc. We lived together and I stayed in the house for 1 month but it was just to hard so I decided to leave. I had not moved my stuff out yet. In beginning of oct I found out he was dating someone. I confronted him about it and he said that it started after I left the house and that that had been dating couple week and that i shoulsnt have said what i didetc. I ended up getting some closure from him the beginning of October right after that, at some points he was VERY nasty to me, told me that I hurt him deeply with what he said that you don’t say that to someone who has been cheated on a lot ( by exes) and that he can’t get past what I said. Then always Then he changed it a little bit said he should have handled things differently with his ex and that he turned something really nice into this and all this other stuff. Then he was saying that I treated him badly the last few months of our relationship ( I knew this was a lie) I finally moved my stuff ( couches, bed etc) out Nov 5th. That very night he put himself on Facebook as in a relationship. That next morning he messaged me saying that he read our letters ( my daughter and i wrote letters to his 2 girls, and each wrote one to him, the one to him for me was just a thank you letter with no feelings) anyway said the letters made him cry and that we will always be in their hearts and that sorry he can’t get past the words I said to see my true feelings he thought I resented him and hated him) for him and the girls. That he misses me and my daughter alot and I am and always will be the love of his life and I’m a wondeful woman and he hopes I find what I deserve. Mind you before this message and I moved my stuff out in about 1 1/2 weeks time he had sent me other messgaes telling me I’m wondeful and amazing he hopes I find what I deserve and looking for and find happiness and etc..
When I looked back to see when he started this new relationship it was like a month after we broke up and about 1-2 weeks after I left the house. This is also his best friends niece. She is opposite of me in a lot of ways and they don’t make sense in a lot of ways one of the big reasons is she wants kids and he can’t have anymore. Plus a bunch of other things just don’t make sense. She is also not very attractive at all.
Can you tell me based off all his up and down behavior, feelings messgaes and time frame of how this new relationship stated. Is she a rebound? They have also been together about 2 1/2 months now. It started a month after we broke up and about 2 weeks after I left the house and no this is not something that started before hand
Azemina
December 2, 2016 at 8:57 pm
I do not think he thinks she is better in any way. He was still sending me messages about how great I am and telling me I am the love of his life he is a very broken man and has VERY low self esteem and I guarantee she threw herself at him and he went for it bc it made him feel good. They have way different view points on big things and want different things and I have been around her since she is family of a friend and he never even wanted our 3 girls around her or others with the way they act, way the drink and etc. There was numerous occasions we left parties bc of that reason and she was part of that.
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 3, 2016 at 2:39 pm
That’s good.. That sounds like she is rebound.. If you want him back, the best you can do on your part is not give him benefits of a boyfriend.. And if he tells you he loves, ask him why is he still with the other girl if he’s telling the truth
Azemina
December 2, 2016 at 5:07 am
Ok so I read the GIGS. I can tell.you right now I set the bar really high in our relationship. Even up to the day we broke up he was always telling me how wonderful I am and how good i was to him I also know there is a 2nd high bar for the way I was to his kids.
Being that this is GIGS can the girl he is currently with still be a rebound?
I know she cannot hold a candle to me in any way. I actually know this girl and he disnt even like out kids around her family much bc of how crazy they get. This is also another reason why their relationship makes no sense.
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 2, 2016 at 6:55 pm
If it’s a rebound, more likeky he will realize later on that you’re still better because rebounds are used to get over somebody, but the longer their relationship goes, the less chance he would leave her
If it’s gigs, it cant be a rebound because that means he sees something better in her..so, even if you’re different from her, there is something about her that makes him think he would be happier with her..
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 30, 2016 at 10:43 pm
Hi Azemina,
it looks more like a grass is greener case.. check this:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends
Alanna
November 29, 2016 at 10:05 am
My ex and I broke up on the 31st of August after dating for a year. On the 12th of November he blocked me on everything out of the blue and is now seeing one of his friends ex’s. He went to high school with her and she lives five minutes down the road from him. They only ever spoke occassionally while him and I were dating and it was only ever about her relationship with his friend. I don’t know whether it’s a rebound because it happened two months post breakup or if it’s somethjng more because he’s hiding it from not just me but everyone and the two of them have always known eachother…I really miss him and want him back but I’m scared it’s too late, what should I do??
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 29, 2016 at 9:06 pm
HI Alanna,
did you keep talking to him after the break up? if you did, do you want to do the no contact rule? if you did the no contact rule, how did you do it? How much did you improve?
bri
November 29, 2016 at 4:21 am
We split up on fathers day and he was with his ex the next day.. He was distant all that weekend when we had both agreed that Thursday that we were doing so well again after having our duaghter, he went back and forth since June until october. We’re now going through court but I can’t help but think he still has feelings for me, they just got approved for a house and he rubbed that in my face and they’re all so talking about marriage and he does tell me she’s the love of his life but their lives are focused around mine, the relationship I have with our daughter and how they plan to take control of that, she is always involved with our child and has been ever since the second week of them dating again, before us they dated for a year then we got together almost five months after.. I can’t help but think he’s rushing his whole life too fast and I don’t want to watch it fall apart for him.. But she’s always so jealous of his and my relationship always try to break us farther and farther apart, I fought for him for months.. I just need advice please..
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 29, 2016 at 7:52 pm
Hi Bri,
Why would he make things complicated? If he loves you, then why not just go back to you? Are you chasing him? Because what if all they want is for your ex to have a relationship with your child and for you to move on?
Alyssa
November 24, 2016 at 6:02 am
I need answers, please. My world has collapsed. My boyfriend, of almost three years, and I broke up in August. We had a fight over spending time with one another. I thought we could use a break, some time apart. I never stopped loving him.
After about two months, he reaches out and we start texting and calling each other again. I was under the impression we were patching things up.
I had been frustrated not knowing what we were and what the status of our relationship is. One day he comes over and starts to talk things over. He starts by saying I shouldn’t be so anxious and that he’s just going through a tough time with work and all.
We start to get intimate, but right before we do, he pulls away saying he’s seeing someone else. This devastated me and blew my mind.
We had a long talk where he described everything–how they met, how long they were seeing each other. Apparently, they started just DAYS after we broke up. And they slept with each other.
He said he needed to break things off with her first before we restarted anything.
Ok, he wants to do good by her, but I felt horrible in that he actually rejected me.
He actually seems to be sending mixed signals. On one hand, he apologized and said he was weak–he was stressed with work, family, and his health. She offered comfort.
He said it was a mistake… but on the other hand he doesn’t hurting me and is aware of the fights we had in the past. Plus, he obviously has strong feelinglys for this woman if he seems reluctant to leave her and is suggesting maybe we move on.
He said he would break it with her. I haven’t brought up the subject since (three days ago) but he continues to call and text me like usual.
I am waiting for his response. I know sooner or later I should confront him, but I don’t want to be too forceful or seem needy.
This situation totally sucks. I’m in a position where he could potentially choose her over me, leaving me rejected. How should I proceed and how can I boost my chances of getting my man back?!
Alyssa
November 26, 2016 at 11:54 pm
I’m just angry and in disbelief that there’s another woman already and that he would choose her over me.
I’ve done no contact before, particularly during this breakup we just had. I was hoping it would work–maybe it did because it got him talking to me again, but still, while he was talking to me, he was seeing her (and still is).
I know no contact is probably best for this situation too, it I’m afraid of losing him. I’m afraid of losing my attraction over him. I’m afraid he really will hang on to her a bit tighter.
Am I at disadvantage on GIGS? We have a history, but it had its share of fights and breaks. Maybe he’s tired of all that and wants something new? How do I, and others like me, overcome this and not let it dampen our chances of getting our exes back?
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 28, 2016 at 4:33 pm
Actually the memories are your edge, but if he only remembers the bad one then that’s more reason to aim to be the ungettable girl..because he has to see that you’re not the old you anymore
Alyssa
November 24, 2016 at 6:14 am
I am struggling to understand what he is thinking.
How deep is their relationship?
Why even tell me about her if your relationship with her means anything? Why not just avoid contacting me and move on?
What do I do from here?
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 26, 2016 at 6:58 pm
Hi Alyssa,
even if you didn’t talk before, do you want to try the no contact rule now? You should check this too:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends
Markus
November 23, 2016 at 10:28 am
Hi, i need some advices please. I had a long distance relationship with my ex, for one year and half. One month and half ago she was looking for work near me to be more close, and one of the last days she was with me we had a discussion and i said her she’s good at nothing. I’m so sorry, i had other problems and i got angry with her for stupid reasons, i didn’t mean it. She felt bad and we talked less and more far. After 2 weeks she began to chat with another man and after another week she said she want to be only a friend to me. I didn’t expect it and i ran to her to fix it, she behaved like she was undecided (we kissed, hugged, and get more physical) but she couldn’t decide. After one day an half of this, i was exausted because in some moment we were happy, and the moment after not and when i said “do you want to left me?” she cried, and on the other hand i said “do you want to retry?” she didn’t accept. Then i said to decide, and she choosed to leave me after looking down and hugging me hard, and she didn’t want to try to fix our relationship because she “thinks about the other man” and “don’t love me anymore, and she cannot come back because of this”. I left and went back home, and after a pair of days i sent a letter where i said what i feel for her (not praying to get back). Now another week passed and she saw him at his house and i think they get very close, and in facebook they seems very happy, sharing little hint and placing likes one to another. Is it lost forever? since the letter i followed the no contact rule. Thanks
Markus
November 27, 2016 at 11:24 am
it’s my 13th day of no contact, and between them it seems that all is going good. He removed the “single” status from facebook (she was already not specified after our break up) and probably they see each other every weekend for 2/3 days. She seems to go on on facebook (and i think also for real at this point) and they are in contact for 3 weeks and half now. My question is, she is supposed to miss me in some way in this period of no contact? it’s normal that their relationship seems so good on internet? I don’t know what to think, sometimes i have hopes and i think it’s hard that she forgot about me in so little time, and sometimes that she moved on and i have no chances.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 27, 2016 at 4:29 pm
don’t social media stalk her.. Be more active in posting in your own account. Yes, you can initiate after the no contact period but it would be useless if you didn’t make the most of it to just focus in yourself and in improving and healing.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 24, 2016 at 5:29 pm
Hi markus,
I think there’s still a chance..It looks like he’s a rebound.. Be active in improving yourself.. You’ve done enough.. It’s time to put yourself first this time..
Markus
November 22, 2016 at 3:08 pm
Hi, i know that this site is for ex boyfriend, but if you want i’m looking for an opinion about my ex girlfriend..
I had a long distance relationship with my ex, for one year and half. One month and half ago she was looking for work near me to be more close, and one of the last days she was with me we had a discussion and i said her she’s good at nothing. I’m so sorry, i had other problems and i got angry with her for stupid reasons, i didn’t mean it. She felt bad and we talked less and more far. After 2 weeks she began to chat with another man and after another week she said she want to be only a friend to me. I didn’t expect it and i ran to her to fix it, she behaved like she was undecided (we kissed, hugged, and get more physical) but she couldn’t decide. After one day an half of this, i was exausted because in some moment we were happy, and the moment after not and when i said “do you want to left me?” she cried, and on the other hand i said “do you want to retry?” she didn’t accept. Then i said to decide, and she choosed to leave me after looking down and hugging me hard, and she didn’t want to try to fix our relationship because she “thinks about the other man” and “don’t love me anymore, and she cannot come back because of this”. I left and went back home, and after a pair of days i sent a letter where i said what i feel for her (not praying to get back). Now another week passed and she saw him at his house and i think they get very close, and in facebook they seems very happy, sharing little hint and placing likes one to another. Is it lost forever? since the letter i followed the no contact rule. Thanks
Markus
November 25, 2016 at 11:21 am
Thanks for your reply. 10 days passed since the begin of no contact, i’m training every day and i see some improvement, and i cut my hairs and bought some new clothes. I unfollowed both of them not to get hurt (i’m still a friend) and i went out with friends (i also put some photos on facebook). Last time i saw their profile it seems they are happy, and sometimes i feel sad because i think i have no chances. What should i do? after 30 days should i break no contact or go on? by the way, he also is far from her (me 4hrs, him 3hrs). I try to not think about them and keep positive, but sometimes it’s hard and i think she just forgot me and went on with this guy.
Thank you very much for your support and suggestions.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 24, 2016 at 5:29 pm
Hi markus,
I think there’s still a chance..It looks like he’s a rebound.. Be active in improving yourself.. You’ve done enough.. It’s time to put yourself first this time..
Jane
November 22, 2016 at 8:27 am
My ex moved on within three weeks but he’s now messaging me after I unfriended him asking why we can’t be friends since he cares so much for me and we get on so well. I will stay in no contact but I’m terrified he’s going to get engaged and I wasn’t good enough.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 24, 2016 at 4:07 pm
Hi Jane,
engaged? What do you mean? He has a gf now? If he moved on just 3 weeks after the break up, that means he fell out of love long before breaking up with you. You ignoring him will not be the reason for his engagement, and being friends will not stop from being engaged to somebody else too..
Christina
November 17, 2016 at 3:56 pm
Hello, so my ex broke up with me after being together for 4 and a half years. We were perfect for eachother and he always reminded me that I was the night of his life and that he would be so lost and lonely without me. Yes we did argue about little things and big things like any other couple would, then we would make up almost immediately after. I had never been so happy with someone in my life. We had 2 beautiful babies together that I unfortunately lost both in miscarriages 🙁 Our families loved us being together and I was growing such a strong bond with his mother who now I miss so much 🙁 well I went over his house one night, he has his own home, and we got in a argument, it was really bad and it took us most of the night to be okay.. but then we cuddled, watched movies and had sex twice and laughed the rest of the night.. the next morning we woke up and I went back home while he was leaving for work. I got home and not even an hour after he texted me saying he made it to work okay, he said he was done and that he couldn’t be with me.. at first I didn’t believe him but hours went by where he was so persistent and he told me that he didn’t want to do it but he had to.. for the next week I hadn’t seen him and I was mind blown that he was still going on with the whole thing.. I didn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep.. I finally got ahold of him and said look, we were together 4 and a half years, you’re not going to break up with me over a text message.. so he agreed to let me come over so we could talk, but he made it very clear that he wasn’t changing his mind because it’s something that needed to be done. Well it had been a week and a half since he texted me in the first place and said he was done.. so that night a week and a half later I went over there and saw him for the first time. I walked in the house like I usually would, I went into the kitchen where he was and I put stuff that I had brought him (not sure why…) on the table.. I’m trying to explain what I brought hI’m while I was holding back tears.. he walked over to me and tried to hug me, I stepped back and said no, I can’t right now because I didn’t want to cry harder.. we were quite for a good 15 minutes before he said he was starving and wanted to at least have dinner together. So he was taking something out of the freezer to thaw when I said that will take too long it’s already getting too late, so I offered for us to run to the store together and I would buy us a nice steak dinner, he agreed and went upstairs to get changed. I sat downstairs in the living room crying my eyes out.. when he was coming down the stairs I could hear him sniffling as if he had been crying too.. I look at him when he comes down with tears pouring down my face and he immediately walked over to me and hugged me as tight as he could while we were both hysterically crying.. after about 10 minutes he said okay we have to go to the store, let’s be strong.. we got up and took my car to the store we laughed and joked around the entire ride and the whole time in the store. We got home and made dinner, which I could not eat because at that point I was so depressed from the week and a half before and I had already lost 14 pounds from constantly being too nauseous to eat. Then after we watched our favorite show and sat on the sofa together when he insisted on cuddling, at this point I’m like this is some mind game or something I don’t understand. I then jokingly asked if he was going to make me a bed in the living room floor for me to sleep because it was getting late and it takes me over an hour to get back to my house. He said we are both adults we can sleep in the same bed, we can be mature about this. I said okay.. well we went upstairs and started watching TV in bed when he proceeded to put his arms around me and pull me close.. we ended up having sex (I know I was weak and stupid) then I was laying in bed after just thinking about everything and started crying, he looked at me and tried to calm me down, it was already 9pm and he had to be to work early in the morning so we were trying to get ready for bed, when HE starts crying uncontrollably, and in the 4 and a half years we were together I’ve never seen him cry that hard.. so I started crying again too.. I finally calmed down and held him and kissed him and tried to calm him down.. he didn’t stop crying until 2am! Then we were both so exhausted from it and we passed out.. the next morning I woke up to him crying overtop of me tucking me tight in the bed which he only did for a couple of months after we first got together then it stopped. But anyway I started crying and he said please don’t rush to get your stuff out of the house take as long as you need today, I’m not going to rush you, then he went downstairs to make his coffee like he did everymorning, I ran downstairs and just sat there staring at him completely broken bawling my eyes out, after 5 minutes of that he said he had to go before he was late and I fell to the floor broken and destroyed, he came over to me hugged me while he started crying again. And told me that it would be for the best because we weren’t right for eachother and promised me it would get better then kissed me on my forehead and told me that he will never forget me and that he will always love me and he will never find another that treated him as good as me.. it took me a good bit of the day to get as much as I could packed up of my stuff.. he was texted me being nice and said not to rush, to not get myself too worked up. I texted him finally and said I had too much stuff there to get into my tiny car and that I would have to come back and get the rest one day, he agreed and said that was perfectly fine, I went home and cried all night long.. we waited 2 days after that to put we were single on facebook but made sure to make it private so people couldnt see the status update when we changed it so we could have time to heal well days went by and I hadn’t heard from him, we agreed to make the break up civil and still remain friends. I would text him just to see how he was but he would just ignore me or be super short with me.. it had now been 3 and a half weeks since the 1st day he told me he was done, and I get on Facebook to see he was in a relationship already!!!! 3 and a half weeks after our 4 and a half YEAR relationship!! With a girl that he has known for years which is also one of his good friends sister!! When him and I first got together he told me he went over his friends house and his sister was flirting with him, I just laughed then he reassured me that she wasn’t attractive, that she was fat, full of herself and not his type at all.. and now he’s in a relationship with her 3 and a half weeks after we break up… I was heartbroken more than I could ever even imagine! I immediately texted him and accused him of cheating on me, he texted me and said he was so sorry and that he didn’t know it would happen that fast and promised me he never cheated.. I kept texting him back but he wouldn’t answer me so I figured she was with him… the next morning 5:09am to be exact my phone vibrates, I look at it and it’s him, he sent me a looong message about how he was so sorry, he didn’t want to hurt me and his intentions weren’t to hurt me at all then explained that after she “HEARD” we had broke up, she texted him to see if he was okay, then they started talking, apparently went on a few dates then she asked him out and he said yes.. I was crushed.. I texted him back and was like she “heard”?? No she was scoping you out and I said I am so freaking embarrassed right now that you could move on so quickly after we were together so long. He just kept apologizing to me. I just stopped talking to him, and blocked him and her from everything social media because I didn’t want to see pictures or anything! Well 2 days later my friend told me thank God you blocked him because she put up a picture of them two together but told me she looked happy and he looked depressed, washed out and it looked like a half ass fake smile.. which made me feel better I guess.. I’m just hurt more than anything that he could move on so quickly.. our friends and family didn’t even know that we had broken up so everyone was in shock when he put on Facebook that he was with someone completely different. I’ve never meet this new girl in person but I know shes very stuck up and really not his type at all.. and even my family reassures me that this picture of them two, he looks miserable and not like himself at all.. in my mind I feel like this is a rebound, but he texted me yesterday and said he’s moving on and that I need to as well.. but I’m sorry it’s way too soon for me to start dating someone else when that man was my absolute world! Today it has been exactly a month.. I am completely strung out just as badly as the day it’s happened.. I’ve lost 29 pounds in a month and the only thing that is making some of the pain go away is me running 3 times a day which isn’t good because I’m not eating at all.. I have to force myself to eat and even then it’s a bite or two because I’m severely nauseous.. I always have the worst anxiety and I cannot sleep at all because I keep getting flashbacks of when I fell to the floor in his kitchen and begged for him to stay and he just left.. nothing is putting my mind at ease.. 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 18, 2016 at 9:28 pm
Hi Christina,
she can be a rebound but if the real reason he broke up with you is to experience a nee relationship then she can be a grass is greener case. Check the links below:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends
EBR 060: “Dating Yourself” During No Contact With Veronica Grant
Kate
November 15, 2016 at 9:27 pm
So my ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago, and I immediately implemented no contact. Now all of a sudden he has a new girlfriend. Should I make first contact in about 2 weeks when our 30 days is up, or in 30 more days starting now. Again, I have not contacted him in any way yet! Thanks!
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 15, 2016 at 10:53 pm
Hi Kate,
how did you know he has a gf now? Does he know that you know? Did he know the girl even before you broke up? How much did you improve yourself and why did you break up?
Becca
November 15, 2016 at 7:13 pm
My ex and I were together for a year and a half, but had known each other 7 years previously from college. I knew all his ex girlfriends and that he was bad/inexperienced at committed relationships. When we started dating, a few years had passed and I assumed he matured. He always told me he was terrible at relationships and had no idea what he was doing. Things like meeting the parents or spending holidays with each others’ families was a big deal for us, and something that we took our time getting to. We were each other’s first serious adult relationship post-college, and neither of us had been in a relationship in 3+ years. He broke up with me out of the blue when he freaked out about how serious we were getting and his feelings and overthought and sabotaged our whole relationship, not a week after telling me he couldn’t live without me. He was very very emotionally dependent and needy, and very insecure in general.
We broke up a few months ago but I found out he got a rebound a bit after we split. From what I’ve heard, it sounds like things are moving pretty fast eg taking her to his brother’s wedding after around 3 months. The whole thing is completely out of character for him, as he rarely if ever really commits to someone and always, deliberately moves slowly, even with previous girlfriends. I mean so slowly as to be scared to ask someone to be his girlfriend properly, even if it’s what he wants, because he’s that freaked out by commitment. All our mutual friends seem really surprised and have told me it’s because of his insecurity and selfishness and probably because he emotionally needed someone to take my place. Even though it looks serious on the surface, it just feels very out of character and left-field for him, especially after coming out of something as serious as we had. Is this a rebound?? Do rebounds move seriously because it’s real or because it’s a filler?
Becca
November 15, 2016 at 10:50 pm
Bluffing the parent meet up? So it is a rebound? I read somewhere that people try to move things along seriously to get to the same level of intimacy they had with their previous partner. Could that be it? I think this all started like 1.5-2 months after we broke up.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 15, 2016 at 11:05 pm
Yes, it can be like that. And yes, it’s a rebound if they just met after the break up. And also, if they’re still in the honeymoon period, it can be just the rush of emotions.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 15, 2016 at 10:40 pm
Hi Becca,
well, even if it’s out of character, for the other girl, it’s a good sign because it shows that he’s serious. If he’s really a commitment phobe, bluffing the parent meet up is too much. It will be a lot of explaining later on. Maybe it’s because they’re still in the honeymoon stage.
Kelly
November 13, 2016 at 9:23 pm
Hi there,
I was in a relationship with my partner for almost five years. We lived in separate states and decided that I would move in with him because there was a room available in his complex next to him. In the beginning it was really great, we played video games a lot and we were always together. I really thought we were meant for each other.
For about two years now I would say, he started getting into drugs and bad friendships; parties and alcohol, and we slowly drifted apart. I figured that it was only a phase and hoped eventually he would get out of it. But as the phase continued, I realized that he would purposely try to not include me because he didn’t want tethers, and I sat home alone more and more. He would still come home and say he loved me, that I was beautiful, hold me, and every now and then say and act like if he couldn’t do it with me, he couldn’t do it with anyone, because I was so respectful and understanding.
Eventually I began to think about the single life and what I was missing because I didn’t want to be a part of the hard drugs and alcohol. I felt stuck but since it has been so long, I still tried to make it work. I tried to make plans with him, such as going to parties, concerts, festivals, trips to hotels and beaches, other states and countries, and if his friends weren’t a part of it, usually he didn’t want to put in the effort, and if he attempted to invite me to something, it was always last minute, which pissed me off.
Finally, we decided that it would be better if we split. I moved back home and we both decided to stay in contact every few days and live separate lives. I wanted to go to school and he wanted to continue his phase until it either swallowed him or he grew out of it and “ran back to me begging for another chance”.
Almost immediately though, he didn’t want to hang out. I started asking a lot of questions because it was still fresh and I was nervous, and he wanted nothing to do with them or me. That lead to me calling him more, which he considered to be “smothering”. Eventually I told him that I wanted to go on a no talk break. It lasted a week until he texted me and asked me for the wifi password.
I knew immediately that he had another woman in the apartment, because he told me that the person it was for was someone who was a father with a newborn baby who wouldn’t have time to come over at 10 at night. He was lying and I decided at this point that I wanted to talk to him a few times, ask a few more questions and go on my way. Eventually this led him to tell me I was “crazy” for wanting answers from someone who I was with for five years. One day though he lied to me about the time he was going to talk and I sent him some angry messages because I was upset that he was most likely talking to the other girl and avoiding me instead of just nutting up and telling me about her. He finally answered the phone and screamed that we were done and that was it, but he still texted me and we fought for a few hours before he stopped replying.
That night I got in my car and drove up there and found out that there was another girl, but she was just staying over sometimes, not all the time. He tried to tell me that it was just because she broke up with her ex and had nowhere to go during the day. He swore on everything that they had not had sex. Then, he tried to have sex with me, and like an idiot I went with it, and ended up throwing up because I was so nervous and messed up from driving seven straight hours. It didn’t seem to bother him though and he said it would be a funny story down the road. The next day I saw him texting bad things about me to the new girl, and when he saw, he took my keys and told me that this was it. I got really upset and I told him that we were completely done and to never ever think he could get back together with me in the future. This made him follow me to my car and finally talk to me a little and give me some answers that I had been trying to get for a few weeks. He promised me that the initial break up was only because he could see the bigger picture and thought that as he was now we were incompatible/he would ruin my life/he wanted his single crazy life and no tethers. We hugged, he teared up, and I went home.
Clearly, as he is now, no one in their right mind would want to be in a relationship with this person. But it is still fresh in my mind and if anyone could answer a few retarded questions that I had, I would really appreciate it.
1) Do you think this is a rebound relationship? He can’t stand the girl and even told me when I was there that he wasn’t physically attracted to her at all.
2) Do you think he was just trying to avoid talking about the relationship because it hurt too much? Hence the possible rebound relationship and continued avoidance.
I will probably never take him back unless he made a full 180, and even then he’s hurt me so bad I don’t even know, but:
3) Do you think I went too crazy and ruined any chance of him thinking of me and all of our time together in the future? He told me and other people that I was crazy, but I hope that anyone could understand that I was with him for five years and that stuff like that was bound to happen.
4) Do you think me puking would affect him wanting me back in the future if he realized that he made a mistake?
5) Do you ever think he would eventually realize that he made a mistake and feel bad about how he treated me?
Thank you very much and I apologize for the book. I always write way too much.
Kelly
November 15, 2016 at 9:16 pm
Hi Amor,
Thank you for your reply. Yeah, I understand that the parties and drugs are more important, which is why I ultimately left. I don’t understand the drama part though. I know there was some drama, but I’m not one of those girls to beg someone back, I’m a girl who wants to know what I did wrong, and he would never sit down and take the time to tell me without trying to leave, which he knew made it worse. He knew that I wasn’t coming back, that he would have to make that step one day when he was ready if he truly wanted us to work, and we told each other that if we found someone else, we would just tell each other and part ways. So I feel like he was the one who caused the drama. He should have just sat me down and said “I’m sorry, I found someone else,” Instead of lying and making me think I did something terribly wrong for weeks until ultimately finding out myself. He’s a chronic liar and I know him very well, I’ve been with him for five years, so he should have known that I knew something was up and just told me. Then he sits there and tells everyone that I’m crazy. I don’t think that he has a right to call his ex of five years crazy for just wanting answers. He should have just told me the truth.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 15, 2016 at 10:52 pm
Oh, it’s not really drama in your part. It’s being confronted.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 15, 2016 at 5:08 pm
Hi Kelly,
Yeah, she’s more likely a rebound and I don’t think he’s avoiding talking to you because he’s hurt. It’s more of because he doesn’t want drama. You know, whatever you do, it doesn’t matter, because right now, what’s more important for him is how he party and do drugs. If he really wants you, he would have changed.
Barb
November 11, 2016 at 3:39 am
My ex and I broke up 7 months ago. I followed the recovery system (delayed start 1 month) and my ex and I were talking all the time and we met up a handful of times. He had a rebound right away. I thought things were going well and I had my chance when his rebound failed. My ex and I had some very emotional emails back and forth and then we got together for coffee 2 months ago. He told me he still loved me and that’s why he wanted me in his life “as friends” and when he looked at me his eyes teared up. We had never discussed anything besides friends up to this point. So I asked if he ever saw us together again and that when he told me he had been seeing someone for 1 month. This was at the 5 month mark of our breakup. After that conversation I wrote him an email and told him how I really felt. After that we texted a bit. He never responded to my email but told me over text he “had not figured out how to respond”. So then I told him we should just go back to friends and I would move on. Then 2 weeks ago he told me we needed to go our separate ways since he ‘felt guilty’ when we talked since it was disrespectful to his current relationship. Should I just restart no contact or is there no chance now?
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 14, 2016 at 7:36 pm
Hi Barb,
I think you should let go. It’s been so long since your break up and he friendzoned you
april
November 8, 2016 at 11:10 am
Hello, so me and my ex have been off and on since 2012, this is the worse breakup we’ve ever had. He has a tattoo of the year we got together, we had promise rings everything. We had made so many great memories together..we decided to get back together October of last year & i broke up with him July of this year due to him taking me for granted. The thing is, this time around was the best it’s ever been between us, we even lived together of course toward the end we started to have our normal arguments which relationships have. The same week we broke up, he saw me out at a party and was very upset and wanted me to go home. He swore i kissed a guy in front of him(which i didn’t kiss anyone at all)…now he won’t talk to me, he says hes not mad, has nothing against me but wishes to not speak to me..it’s never been this bad. After breaking up, he had a new girlfriend weeks later. Out of all people to date he chose a girl that i’ve disliked since highschool and he also dislikes her ex due to them having confrontation. When i broke up with him, i did say some really hateful things out of being hurt that i didnt mean at all & we ended terribly with a huge bad argument. His new girlfriend constantly posts him, constantly brags on him and he acts as if their so in love that he doesn’t even want to talk me after 4months of being separated.
april
November 8, 2016 at 11:15 am
*actually a month and a half. sorry, i dont really keep up.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 11, 2016 at 4:51 pm
Hi April,
why did you keep breaking up? How old are you both? Was it because he doesnt trust you?
april
November 8, 2016 at 11:12 am
they have been dating for 3 months now.