How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous

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Make no mistake about it, jealousy is a very powerful emotion. If it is used correctly it can be the driving force behind getting your ex boyfriend back. There is just one problem, most people have no idea how to correctly use it. I was reading a relationship article about jealousy the other day from a pretty well known relationship coach. His article basically went on to say that you should never use jealousy to try to get your ex back. The truth is, he is talking about using jealousy the wrong way to get your ex back. If you use jealousy in a smart way it is almost guaranteed to bring up previous romantic feelings that your ex had for you.

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What This Page Is About

I want you to view this page as the “ultimate guide” to making your ex boyfriend jealous. Now, I can’t guarantee that the tactics on this page will make him jealous because lets be honest, your boyfriend is a human being and most human beings are impossible to control. With that being said, I have seen many of the tactics outlined on this page work for many of the women I communicate with. Here is what we will be covering today:

  • Why jealousy is so powerful.
  • I am going to give you a gameplan to make your ex jealous.
  • How the NCR works with jealousy.
  • Specific text messages that can be used to make your ex jealous.

So, that is what this page will be covering. BUT I do feel it is important to mention that if you came here looking for a way to get your ex boyfriend back you aren’t going to find it. This page is aimed specifically at making him jealous and nothing more. Sure, I have built in the idea of “getting him back” on this page but I don’t go into the amount of detail that you are looking for. IF you are looking for in-depth details and step by step guides to getting an ex boyfriend or husband back I would like to point you towards Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, my E-Book. I will just let it speak for itself..

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The Power Of Jealousy

art-thou-jealous

Most men aren’t as complicated as you would believe. A married friend of mine once told me a little about the psychology behind a mans thinking and I happen to agree with him. It goes like this, most men forget how good they have it when they have been dating or married for an extended period of time. This usually means that the man will ignore his woman and her needs. Here is the kicker though, if a couple like the one I am describing (a man who is comfortable and not tending to his woman’s needs) go out to a bar and the woman starts flirting with other guys the dynamic will completely change. The “comfortable” man will no longer be so comfortable. All kinds of thoughts will be going through his head: anger, worry, jealousy, insecurity. The man will feel the need to protect his “property” and while he may be initially angry, if you play your cards right his behavior will completely change and you will start getting paid attention to.

The end lesson here: women have ultimate power over men!

Now, the “mock” situation I talked about above doesn’t apply to your situation perfectly (since your boyfriend is now your ex) but I guarantee that if you play your cards right bringing up those “protective” feelings in your man is very possible.

A Word..

Before you even attempt to make your ex jealous lets talk a little about what you want your ultimate goal to be. If you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous for the sake of making him jealous then I don’t think this is the page for you. I wrote this page with the intention of helping women use jealousy to win back their exes. So, if you want to make him jealous to bring out his protective and romantic side then this is the right page for that.

That is really what you are trying to accomplish here. You don’t want to make him jealous to rub it in his face. You want to make him jealous to remind him of what he is missing out on.

Your Jealousy Gameplan

What I am going to do now is give you a brief overview of how to properly use jealousy and then I will talk about each aspect in-depth. Reference the graphic below to understand your jealousy gameplan!

jealousy plan

The No Contact Rule

The no contact rule is a must if you want to make your ex jealous. In fact, it is essential if you want to get your ex boyfriend back. I don’t want to go into too much detail here about it because I have done multiple in-depth posts about it already like this one. However, I will give you a short synopsis of how the no contact rule is supposed to work.

The No Contact Rule- You are not allowed to contact your ex in any way after the breakup for a minimum of 30 days.

How The NC Rule Works In Tandem With Jealousy

Alright, now that you have an idea of what the no contact rule is I am going to talk a little bit about the things you can do during the no contact period that can will your ex jealous. Ideally, after a breakup you need to give your ex some space (which is kind of what the no contact rule is for.) However, I don’t want to give you the impression that you are going to sit around during these 30 days of no contact and count your fingers (your not going to make your ex jealous that way.) Instead, I am going to ask you to do a few things.

Do Something During The No Contact Period… Anything

I get a lot of emails every single day (random fact- I have 9 unanswered emails in my inbox just from today) and one of the most common mistakes I see from women is the fact that they don’t do anything at all during the no contact period. Here is how it usually goes, they tell me that they can’t wait to start the no contact period one day and then two days later they email me back saying something like:

“Well, I broke NC and texted him.”

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Here is the problem I have with this. When I ask women “what did you do during those two days?” they usually tell me that they didn’t do anything. Look, if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous I seriously want you to spend those 30 days NOT thinking about him. I want you to go down the checklist I am about to provide and address all of the things on it.

Disclaimer: Some of the things on this list WILL make you uncomfortable but I am not in the business of being nice for the sake of being nice I am trying to give you advice that will help make your ex jealous and hopefully put you in a position to where you can get him back.

  • Get in the best shape of your life.
  • If you have acne I want you to get medicine to treat it
  • If you are uncomfortable with your teeth (they are bad) I want you to go to a dentist.
  • I want you to go out with your friends and have a lot of fun (take pictures, lots of pictures they will come in handy later.)
  • Buy the sexiest outfit ever (not too revealing though.)
  • Get a sexy haircut. I want you to look at yourself in the mirror after this haircut and go “OMG, I look like a goddess.” (too corny?)

No Contact Facebook Jealousy

facebook your doing it wrong

Disclaimer: This method will only work if you are still friends with your ex on Facebook. If you are no longer friends with him then don’t try to friend him… yet.

It’s amazing how big Facebook has gotten. I can remember back when I was in high school no one was talking about Facebook. All the rage was with MySpace. Funny how quickly that changed though. Anyways, I am going to give you the Facebook breakup jealousy rules now. I have found that the rules I am about to describe are the most effective at making your ex a little jealous.

  • After the breakup get rid of 95% of the pictures with you and your ex boyfriend. Pick out maybe one or two that your really like and keep them (you don’t want your ex to think he doesn’t have a chance at all to get back with you.)
  • Remember when I told you to take lots of pictures of you having fun with friends? Post those pictures.
  • If you have taken any pictures with guys while you were out having fun post those too. DO NOT post a picture of you kissing a guy. Trust me, this will hurt your chances of getting your ex back big time.
  • If your ex “likes” one of your photos or status updates do not do anything, just let it be.
  • Do not “like” any of your ex boyfriends updates or pictures. Just leave him be for now.

Dating During No Contact?

dating bear

If you are an avid reader of this site then you may be aware that I am very much in favor of going out on a date with someone new during the no contact period. Actually, if you reference the “Ex Boyfriend Jealousy Plan” above you will notice that I put “Dating” as the last little bubble. When I said dating in the bubble above I meant dating other people. I am actually talking about it in this section because I believe that going out on a date (even if you have no intention of actually dating the person) is best to do during the no contact period.

Now, I will say that this is a completely optional step but it can be very effective. Especially if your ex boyfriend catches wind of it. I want you to take a moment and imagine how you have felt when, in your previous relationships you caught wind that your ex went out on a date with a new girl. Now, imagine your ex feeling that very emotion. Sure, he will be angry and sad but I promise you at the end of the day he is going to question why he ever let you go.

Building Rapport With Your Boyfriend

texting

Now, if you followed my no contact advice above perfectly then I would imagine your ex has already gotten jealous but in the case that he hasn’t, don’t worry, we haven’t even gotten to the best stuff but we are about to! Eventually your no contact period of 30 days is going to end. The question is, what are you supposed to do then? Well, now it is time to open communication with your ex via text messaging. Why text messaging, well I wrote a whole article on it here.

Now, I am aware that you are looking for an exact step by step method for what you need to say to your ex but I am not going to get into that here because this page is supposed to only be about the ways you can make your ex jealous (I actually put together a guide about how you can use texting to get your ex back already.) What I will do is give you a few ground rules that you need to follow when contacting your ex.

  • You should aim to be in control of the conversation at all times.
  • If he doesn’t respond then DO NOT text him again. Wait a few days and try again.
  • Patience really is a virtue. You need to be very patient and realize that this is not going to happen overnight.
  • If you get angry or upset simply bow out of the conversation.
  • Don’t try to fix your broken relationship over a text message, it won’t work.
  • Don’t ask to meet up with your ex boyfriend.
  • Do not use texting as a booty call (you’d be surprised.)

Showing That You Are In Control Of The Conversation

control freak

This is so important that I gave it it’s very own section. Showing that you have control of the conversation is very important for a number of reasons. In college, I began to notice a pattern between the girls I liked and the girls I didn’t like anymore. You see, I will admit that I am a little complicated. I can see a pretty girl and like her immediately. However, if she doesn’t challenge me, intellectually or emotionally, I will lose interest. One thing that I noticed between the girls that held my interest and the ones that didn’t was that girls who allowed me to be in control of the conversation didn’t interest me as much.

For me, and most other guys, it is a case of “Oh, I can have her anytime I want because I can tell she is trying too hard to get me.” Of course, the flip scenario goes like this. A girl who dominated the conversation literally can have men wrapped around her finger. I am not afraid to admit that I have been reduced to feeling pathetic by some girls because they felt they “could have me” anytime they wanted. I have named the phenomenon I described her as being “ungettable”

The “Ungettable” Persona- A type of persona that a girl can display. She basically has so much confidence that she reduces a guy into thinking that he can’t get her which really turns 85% of guys on. Achieving this persona is essential if you want to get your ex boyfriend back.

Achieving the ungettable persona is not easy. However, one thing that all “ungettable” girls have in common is that they dominate any conversation they are in with the opposite sex. So, I suppose the question now becomes, how do you dominate a texting conversation?

Well, luckily for you I have been on the receiving end of quite a few ungettable girls so I can tell you some of the tactics that they were able to use on me that proved to be pretty effective.

Ungettable Texting Dominance Example 1

The example below is an exact conversation I had with an unnamed “ungettable” girl. Notice how in this particular conversation she ended everything with a simple “hahahaha” and never responded to my texts after that. Now, this tactic was risky and only really worked on me because I clearly had feelings for the girl. Nevertheless, I was the one putting more effort into the conversation which meant she was in control.

jealousy text

Ungettable Texting Dominance Example 2 (What Not To Do)

I wanted to include this example, even though it is personally very embarrassing to me. Remember, I am just going through my phone in the last six months and pulling out conversations with girls who I really really really liked. A couple of things to note: this girl was probably the most attractive girl I have ever met. She came up and asked to dance with me at a local bar. Anyways, she dominated the conversation so much that I literally felt like I had no chance so I just gave up even though I really liked her. So, this is kind of an example of what NOT to do.

example 2 not to do

There is a lot more to the story but as you can see she dominated the very first conversation we had. I really liked her so I texted her the next day but I could never find my groove. I always felt like I wasn’t good enough and she would simply bow out of the conversations whenever she would like.

Bowing Out Of The Conversations By Not Responding- This is a pretty effective way to establish control. However, if you do it too much the guy will think he doesn’t have a chance with you. That was what happened above. So, I say if you are going to use this tactic make sure you use it sparingly.

Ungettable Texting Dominance Example 3 (Recommended)

I think that this example is really the perfect way to “control” the conversation. This is another example out of my phone with a girl who I liked once upon a time. I actually sat next to her in a college class and we developed a friendship. Once again, she wasn’t too beautiful but she definitely had the “ungettable” persona. Now, I want to note a couple of things: Notice how she had me hooked in the conversation. Also, the way she ended the conversation first was perfect. She sent the last two texts really closely together so I didn’t even have time to respond before she “had to go.”

example 3

Jealousy Texts

Since we are on the subject of texting lets talk a little about the most important type of text if you want to make your ex boyfriend jealous, the jealousy texts. Using jealousy via a text message is a subtle art. In a way, you want to make your ex aware that you are out having fun with other guys that aren’t him but it won’t go over too well if you straight up text him “hey I was out on a date last night and I did blah blah blah.” Yeaaa…. you need to be really subtle at the way you work jealousy into your text messages. I am going to give you two really clever examples below that demonstrate this point. Now, there are thousands of ways to work jealousy into a text message but you are going to have to get creative because I am just going to give you these two examples (I am getting a little tired of writing to be honest haha.)

Romantic Movie

The romantic movie jealousy text I can’t take credit for. A guy named Michael Fiore really came up with it but I actually think it is really clever. Basically, you text your ex that you went to see a romantic movie with a friend (you don’t specify if the friend is male or female.) The fact that the words romantic and friend are placed so close together in the text will make your ex boyfriend wonder a little bit.

romantic movie text

Was That You?

This is another text that I can’t take credit for. Again, Mr. Fiore deserves all the credit. Basically, in this text your are going to send your ex boyfriend a message saying something like “was that you at (place you frequent) last night.” If you want to get really aggressive with it you can add in “if it was, you looked really good ;)”

jealousy (did I see you at)

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190 Responses to How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Jealous
  1. Curious
    July 20, 2014 | 9:50 pm

    Hi there, Chris!
    Can you still make an ex jealous if it’s been 6 months since you broke up and he’s currently with the person he left you for? We have no contact with each other but I want him to regret leaving me…or at least miss me. I have started talking to other people and was thinking of posting pics of a guy friend that I hang out with.

    • admin
      July 21, 2014 | 4:13 pm

      I suppose its not out of the realm of possibility but its more unlikely to happen in this case I think.

  2. Abbie
    June 3, 2014 | 4:03 pm

    Hey Chris,

    My bf and I dated for 8 months and things were going really well. We had promised each other we were right for each other and had completely invested ourselves in staying together for good. I thought things were going great until one night we got into a fight. It wasn’t terrible, we were just talking about how we didn’t treat each other the same anymore (meaning the “butterflies” were gone) we both admitted that that was the case and were able to resolve it. He told me after the argument that he wouldn’t forget this quickly, but he seemed fine afterwards and I thought everything was fine. Well, about 2 weeks later, on Memorial Day evening, we were on the phone messing with each other, and I teasingly said, “Do you wanna break up?” And instead of him laughing like he usually does he said “I don’t know”. I was devastated, he starting saying that ever since the fight he’d been thinking, that he didn’t know if we were right for each other anymore. And that he wanted to be done and be single. He said he still loved me, I didn’t deserve this happening to me, and that he was sorry. He’ll answer his phone if I call him, so I think that’s a good sign. I decided to start NC three days ago, and I was just wondering if you think there’s any chance of him coming back? Thanks

    • admin
      June 5, 2014 | 5:33 pm

      I think there is yes.

      • Abbie
        June 6, 2014 | 12:15 pm

        I was on the phone with him last night and he told me he was done for good, so I think that’s my answer ):

  3. Roxy
    May 22, 2014 | 4:48 pm

    So I’ve been in NC for two weeks now, working out & doing great. Today I instagrammed a photo of myself with another guy, which has shown up on my ex boyfriend’s newsfeed for sure (as he’s following me). I noticed my ex boyfriend imitate what I did & uploaded a picture with a girl today right after. This is amusing…my question is:

    Is that a good thing? Did my post work in making him jealous?

    • admin
      May 23, 2014 | 5:10 pm

      Definitely did and he definitely tried to make you jealous.

  4. Alice
    May 20, 2014 | 3:38 am

    My boyfriend broke up with me 6 weeks ago, I followed NC for 30 days since the beginning. And now I have started the texting, I’ve done the first recommended texts and today I sent the jealousy text about “was that you at (place) if it was you, you looked really good” and he answered 10 minutes after my text saying that of course it wasn’t him that I must have liked someone else and that he didn’t went out in the whole weekend.
    By the response, do you think that the jealousy text worked? I mean, why make the remark that he didn’t went out and that it was another guy that I liked? Is this a good answer? should I keep moving forward to the other recommended texts in your book, how much to wait between the jealousy texts and the other texts? I can’t see this anywhere in your book

    • admin
      May 20, 2014 | 9:22 pm

      I think it did! Hes just hiding it really well.

      • Alice
        May 21, 2014 | 12:14 am

        Thank you! I thought that I messed up with the text, it seemed like he was angry… I’ll keep moving forward and let you know how it went

  5. Alyson
    April 11, 2014 | 3:27 pm

    There’s this guy I was with for almost a year. He was kind of dark, he always talked about suicide and things like cutting. It scared me and eventually I broke up with him. And now that he’s got someone else (several someones)I realize how much I love him and want to be with him. I don’t know what to do…please help…

    • admin
      April 12, 2014 | 3:58 pm

      Dang… are you sure you want him back. He seems a bit negative.

  6. Sydney
    March 30, 2014 | 3:54 pm

    I just got out of a bad toxic dark relationship about 2 month ago and I don’t want him back, but since then I found this amazing boy that pulled me out of my dark state after that breakup that I do want back. He was not a rebound and can out of nowhere because I was ready to not talk to another boy for a long time. He is exactly the perfect person for me. He is a breath of fresh air and makes me the best person I can be. I know I don’t need a boyfriend and that I’m good on my own but I really like him and it’s hard for me to find people I have that connection with. We’ve only been on 7 dates but after the first he was head over heals with me saying he doesn’t remember the last time he was this happy because of me. He is a workaholic and is a fisherman that works at a marina on the off season. This is his first time working at this marina for his internship and he is beyond busy and doesn’t have a lot of time. One thing I really liked about him was that he can be alone and likes to be alone sometimes because I do to. Recently because he’s been so busy I confronted him about it(nicely and appropriately). He said he doesn’t have time and wouldn’t be fair to me to be in a connoted relationship and that he needs to figure things out and work on him self. So we kinda broke up or just not talking right now, but I want him back. I’m fine with him not having a lot of time I just want to see him once or twice a week. Please help.

    • millie
      April 3, 2014 | 9:50 pm

      You need to show him subtly that you have a life without him and that you are desirable to other males. Men are competitive and this will elicit his jelousy and his lust he had for you at the beginning. Worth a try.

    • Artemis
      April 14, 2014 | 8:48 pm

      I was in a similar situation. Its hard when you are getting out of a toxic relationship and actually find someone who isn’t just a rebound. I found who I want to spend my life with, but I just wasn’t healed from the toxic relationship I had before. We’ve been broken up a month and I feel so much better about myself and have a feeling deep down that once I heal he will find me again. Even if you don’t think you need the space and time, sometimes you do.

      • admin
        April 15, 2014 | 4:14 pm

        Agreed.

  7. Tiffany Carter
    March 30, 2014 | 12:43 am

    yes I have an ex boyfriend who has another girlfriend but I don’t know if he really has a girlfriend the thing is he could be putting me through a test to see if I would go out and find another guy cause last summer i had another boyfriend and he was mad about that and he didn’t like my ex boyfriend Jonathan and now he went out found him self a girlfriend is he trying to pay me back ?

  8. sw
    March 22, 2014 | 7:57 pm

    Hi
    I and my boyfriend brokeup fews days back..we were together for last two years ..he proposed to me.. we were in a distance relationahip but we used to meet aftr evry two month.he proposed to me..i ws elder to him..we were so close but after an year he started ignoring me n lying to me as well..he stopped calling me that time ..i askd for the breakup but he dint let me go that time.after sometime he again started putting his efforts to make this relationship work..i tried to make him jealous so many times but he never got jealous..and now he said that he cant appease his parents for the age issue so its better to finish it here ..i wasnt able to leave him so i forced him to continue this relationship..at the end he said he wants to quit as he doesnt love me anymore..pls help me out what to do now…

    • admin
      March 23, 2014 | 4:51 pm

      How bad were his lies when he started lying to you?

      • sw
        March 24, 2014 | 5:49 pm

        We used to talk on regular basis but that is hardly for 15 mins in a day..he used to say that i am busy…he had been with another girl for a month which i came to know later but at that time he said he wanted to be with me..

  9. Jamie B
    March 16, 2014 | 12:43 pm

    Hi Chris,

    My boyfriend and I were together for 4 years (we even lived together) and we broke up 3 months ago (his doing). I have since done everything you have outlined here, gone no contact for 6 weeks, and dated other people. I even started to move on! He initiated contact due to a picture he saw of me and another guy last week…and was clearly annoyed by it. Since then we have talked via text on and off…I have initiated conversation on two separate occasions and he has once. All of the conversations are relatively flirty and seem to just “flow.” Unfortunately, our most recent conversation made me wonder why we were talking again. He is not coming out and saying he misses me or is even considering “us” again…Where do I go from here?

    • admin
      March 18, 2014 | 5:03 pm

      What are his actions saying? Forget words for a moment. Are his actions good?

  10. Maggie
    March 14, 2014 | 5:09 pm

    Hey Chris,
    I need some advice. I dated this guy for a short period of time, a little over two months. We hit it off really well and I ended up letting myself fall for him pretty hard. I went out of town for a weekend and when I come back one of his friends meets up with me to tell me that my boyfriend said he wanted to hook up with this chick at her place, he apparently never did which I believe. But when I heard this I got so infuriated and felt so hurt and emoional I decided to go and break up with my boyfriend over the phone and not let him say a word. I told him he wasn’t worth my time and that everyone was right when they told me I was out of his league (ouch). He was pissed… And when we talked over the phone about it a few days later just to clarify everything, I asked for a second chance and he denied me. He said we weren’t compatible and my outburst was unnecessary and he doesn’t have time to deal with my bullshit as well as fixing a broken relationship. Im on day 5 of the NC period, and I’m just wondering if me trying this is even worth it? This guy has a god complex and I’ don’t want to make myself look like a bigger fool than I already did. I see snapchats of him partying that his friends send me and ugh it’s getting to me.

  11. Curious
    March 12, 2014 | 3:18 am

    So we’ve been broken up for about 3 months, were together for almost 8 years. I’ve given him space and I want him back, obviously, but I’m being stubborn about contacting him. Sometimes it’s out of fear, sometimes I feel like he should be contacting me (I know, bad), sometimes I feel like I might come off as too needy if I tried. But in the end, I think that we’re BOTH being really stubborn about contacting each other. And yes, he is definitely one of those really stubborn guys. Sometimes I feel like he doesn’t really care anymore but then there’s other things that he continues to do for me regardless. IE – not kicking me off the cellphone plan we shared even though the contract ended months ago. He also paid for my game subscription, which automatically renews, and probably would have continued without saying anything but I put a stop to that because I didn’t feel it would be right.

    Now I feel like he might possibly be trying to make me jealous on Facebook. We have the same circle of friends and I’ve noticed he keeps name dropping some other woman on mutual friends’ statuses. I know who she is but I’ve never actually met her. Knowing how he, I had a feeling he would be hanging out with her after the breakup. I don’t know if they’re just friends, dating, or what, but I guess he’s also introduced her to our circle of friends. I’ve also noticed that she’s been invited into the same FB groups we both are in and pretty sure into our MMO’s guild.

    I guess the questions are pretty obvious: if he doesn’t want to be with me, then why is he doing things for me? And is he trying to make me jealous or am I reading too much into it?

  12. beti
    March 10, 2014 | 7:14 pm

    hey chris i broke up wiz my bf and i really want him back he told me that he broke up wiz his girlfriend and i know that he told me the truth but he make up wiz her and dumped me he always told me that he love me i really need ur help chris i don’t know what to do

  13. Jay
    March 9, 2014 | 11:01 am

    hey, my partner of 6 years split up with me a week ago. She said she’s been unhappy for some time and I’ve chosen to ignore it. She tells me she doesn’t love me anymore and wants to see other people. I’m obviously hurt and upset over our breakup and want her back but I’m really confused. I’m trying to move on with my life and take my mind off things but on a night out with friends I made a mistake and text her while I was out which she came across jealous in them. Her best friend also said she doesn’t know if breaking up with me is the right move either. And on my birthday a month ago she put a huge effort into it and we are supposed to be doing an activity day at the end of March which I’m reluctant to go to because I’d feel awkward. Have you got any good advice on winning her back?

  14. Deb Al-Hamza
    March 8, 2014 | 1:12 am

    My ex broke up with me a a month ago. We were living together for 10 months. He said he did not love me. We slept with each other 3 times but not the last week. I moved into my own apartment in the same building. I am trying to do the no thing. When I am not contacting him he starts texting me to see how I am. I am very confused. He said he does of love me and does of want to have a relationship with me. Why does he keep contacting me?

  15. Brad
    March 7, 2014 | 2:53 am

    I need more conversation starters in texts im running out and i am to afraid to say hi to her in person because im so embarrassed about what happened in the the past. Any advice?

    • admin
      March 7, 2014 | 7:03 am

      What are you scared will happen if you say hi?

    • Annalee
      April 29, 2014 | 2:11 am

      You are making this about conversation starters? I think that you probably hurt her in the past and acted shady and maybe you are afraid she will reject you. If she has a clue she will run. If you are texting her instead of talking she will still think you are a jerk. When you do that crap to someone the only way to make it better is face to face and being real with your feelings. You sound immature, and she is probably great so give up. Actions matter-not texts. She will end with someone who is genuine with feelings and not playing stupid games. You should be crawling through broken glass if you feel for someone you know you messed up with. You go to them, tell them how you feel and make her feel sure about you-idiot! She would need to trust you again and it sounds like you are playing games still. If some ex was texting me-I would think I was one of many. What you present is a little boy who can’t deal with relationships and there will be a million guys ready to express their feelings. I bet you did this and failed. Probably acted shady and withheld and hurt her. Only being real works.

  16. jonet
    March 6, 2014 | 4:17 pm

    I broke upwith my boyfriend of 3 yrs he wrnt and slept with the ex of 9yrs now he tryin to string us along i have the baby and was the love of his life since childhood. She loves him and he loves her but he is playing so many games. And he is telling me she wants him to choose her and but feels she will never feel like she first cause he has a daughter, she cant have children, i love him but not sure if i even want him back 30 day rule i started only talk about daughter help…..akasha

  17. TABBY NYAMBURA
    March 5, 2014 | 3:42 pm

    thank you so much you really helped me

  18. Luna
    March 3, 2014 | 11:20 pm

    Hi Chris. My bf broke it off the night before Valentine’s Day. This is our second break-up; I fixed the problems I had when we first dated, that he said was why we broke up the first time but then he said those weren’t the real reasons and wouldn’t go into it when we got back together. Turns out his big problem was my jealousy problems which I told him I won’t have anymore. There were a couple other issues as well that I feel are fixable and I already apologized for/explained.

    My situation is slightly complicated because we were living together so all of my things except my clothes are still at the apartment we shared. And I broke the NC rule to text a couple times and last we chatted a couple days ago it was casual but I plan to not text him for a while. The tricky thing is our lease is up this month and he is renewing it with our roommate so I don’t know if they plan to contact me to get my stuff or what. Also we made plans to go to an event together so idk if we are going to go but room separately or what.

    I cannot stress in words how badly I want him back and I want to employ the NC & jealousy method, I just hope I didn’t screw things up worse by talking to him, even though like I said, we were friendly to each other. I just want another chance…

    • admin
      March 4, 2014 | 3:32 am

      Well first things first, just get through NC without any slip ups.

  19. CONFUSED
    February 20, 2014 | 4:49 pm

    hey Chris,i broke up with my bf coz he was being offish & later found out he had gotten back with his ex. This guy has been telling me that he wants to be with me & I should give him time to break up with his current gf, I think my biggest mistake was allowing us to date before he did (Break things off) because he turned me into a side chick & I started texting the girl with his phone telling her I’m with her so called man. when he found out he told me that he doesn’t have a problem with me going through his phone but I have no right to start texting people & that he asked me to give him time to’sort things out’.. now we haven’t spoken for over 5 days & I feel like texting him. Should I send him a text to try & make him jealous?

  20. catrina s
    February 17, 2014 | 6:46 am

    i broke up with my boyfriend 2months ago. he has been quiet but he dedicated a song 2 me and has been telling our friends that he misses me.. question is why hasn’t he called

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