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AD
December 7, 2016 at 6:58 pm
My boyfriend had a problem with my best friend(male) n asked me to choose between him and my best friend and I chose him. And now he wants me to Not make any male friends in future because it makes him feel bad. He doesn’t feel good when I meet my friends and wants my life to revolve just around him. He says that he cares about me that is why he doesn’t want me to hang out with guys coz they have ulterior motives. And he tells me that our thoughts don’t match n we are two different people n should remain single. Still he keeps telling me every now and then that he loves me but the conditions are not good. Except for his insecurity he is a really nice guy. What should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 11, 2016 at 12:18 pm
Hi AD,
It will base on your standards. Talk to him first. As they say, we train people how they treat us. If you keep allowing him to do that, he will keep doing it
amelia
December 7, 2016 at 10:41 am
All November I have been turning the cold shoulder and being rude to my now exboyfriend. At the time, I was annoyed and my best friend pressured me into dumping him. We are doing a LD relationship because of college and recently I called it off. I felt immediate guilt rush over me. After going through months without him, I lose him 10 days before he comes back. It sucks. I told him about the situation and he replied back very kindly saying how he knew we would end like this since we are such different people. Both of us really wanted it to work out. We decided to be friends and still snapchat on a daily basis. He says that he is content with where our relationship stands at the moment because we were good friends to begin with. It’s heart breaking to hear the breakup is mutual and I want him back. What do I do? I still love him and it seems he wants to stay friends. I feel like he only feels this way is because I have been inconsiderate prior to the breakup and now I am back to how I used to be towards him. He is returning soon and I don’t know what to do.
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 10, 2016 at 7:59 pm
Hi Amelia,
So, you’re friendzoned.. Do you want to try the no contact rule?
Bekka
December 5, 2016 at 4:15 am
So my ex and I have been split up for about 4 years. There was a large amount of time that we did not talk. We actually live 18 hours apart. I’ve spoken to him a few times in the last year. I’m still not sure what the reason for us splitting up was, I guess I don’t really care. I love him more then life, our conversation are positive and he is always encouraging when we talk. My heart was so broken when we split up and the last 4 years I’ve thought about him every day, cried about the good and bad times together and been sick over trying to figure out if the happy will come back. Life isn’t bad but I notice the last few times we’ve talked my heart feels light again and I still cry but they are more happy tears. He makes life better again, he doesn’t even have to say much, just a simple hey how’s your day or what you doing can change the worst day into something only describe as a gift from God. My question is do I just jump back in or just let him go?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 5, 2016 at 12:31 pm
Hi Bekka,
when was the last time you talked? Does he know you still have feelings for him? How old are you both? How long was the relationship before?
Eunice
December 3, 2016 at 8:57 pm
I met my ex at the mall while i was applying for a job. He works in my one of the stores at the mall. Now at the time i was with my friend who also works at one of the stores at the mall. So he asked her for my number but i did not have a phone at the time. 2 weeks pass and got a phone n started texting him so we texted for 4 days. Before we saw each other again. I went to hang out with him abd his friends and friends gf at his house. He had been drinking and i had not drank anything. So one thing lead to another and we had sex. i was a virgin the next day when text ed him he was acting funny so i ignored him. when i went to the mall the next day to met my friend there. He just looked at me and turned the other way. i texted him we got ibtoba fight n he den told me that he felt bad how he behavioured but does not regret what happened. My friend that set us up sent him a messafe telling him what a bad person he is. He goy angry and He then suggested we be friends i ddnt want to so we stopped contacting each other. a day later he calls me to tell me that my friend is bad mouthing him at work. we have been talking ever since but i always start the conversation and make a effort during the conversation so what should i do? and does he still like me?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 4, 2016 at 2:49 pm
Hi Eunice
did your friend stopped bad mouthing him? Dont sleep with him again.. Are your conversations always positive?
jayda
December 1, 2016 at 1:58 am
I am confused weather my ex wants to get back to togerther with me or doesnt want anything to do with me beacause i texted him like a few weeks atfer he broke up with me and the text pretty much said y did u break up with me i still dont understand then he said i wasnt showing affections but thats was because i woul never see him because we have different classes in college so it was hard to see him then i said i guess we will never get back together again and he said that not true so i guess thats means we will get back to togethwr but not right now and then one day somethi ng bad happened this boy told me he liked me and he smiles and me ,and touches me ,and hug me ,we are best freineds but the question i have is Does he really like me ? like he say he does
Jayda
December 1, 2016 at 11:42 am
U said to take it slow ? how ?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 1, 2016 at 12:33 pm
Don’t jump into a relationship, or being friends with benefits.. Just be friendly for now. Spend time and observe him..
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 1, 2016 at 11:08 am
Hi Jayda,
Regarding your ex, just assume you’re broken and that he’s just being nice with his reply.. With the new guy.. If you’re not sure about his feelings then take it slow
Jessica
November 28, 2016 at 8:55 pm
So my ex broke up with me a day before our 1 year anniversary. Before that I saw he followed some girl on ig. We made a deal not to follow our opposite sex. So I was very confused when I saw. The day after I confront him about her if he’s talking to her or w.e… I never got a response. I as a crazy ex gf did my investigation and saw that he was talking to that girl. To me it looks like he met her liked her or something and before he could cheat he broke up with me. But the thing is that it happened out of nowhere I didn’t see it coming. Yeah we have our fights and stuff but we always get through it. We have hanged out like 3 tines after that every time I ask him why his answers are different. But what he always says is that he was getting to stressed. But that he still loves me he likes her. He told me I couldn’t be with another guy. That if I wanted to have sex to call him. He suggested we stayed friends, more like fuck buddies. He had good bye sex I guess you can say but we didn’t actually stay to it lol. He came by my house a day ago to get his umbrella. When he saw me he told me why I had no bra on I told him cause I’m at my house. He later kept trying to get a hug out of him. I didn’t. I’m in this situation not knowing if I should let him go, be friends. He says he doesn’t want to lose his bestfriend
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 29, 2016 at 6:00 pm
Hi Jessica,
dont be friends with benefits.. I think he’s in a grass is greener syndrome.. Check the link below.. Do you want to try the no contact rule?
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends
Stella
November 25, 2016 at 12:08 am
hi,
my ex broke up with me because I lend his phone and promising to bring it back after four days. I was very busy that I called him telling him I will not b able to bring it on day four rather I will bring it on day five,he got upset and with that I have to leave what I was doing and went straight outta to his house…when I got there, he was trying to be playful but I really got pissed off about his actions earlier. I left his house been pissed .when I got home he called me if I was coming over the next day to do his laundry and I said no and hang up…months past he did not call me and vise versa….. on my birthday I was expecting him to call me but he didn’t rather he sent a text that I know it wasn’t from his heart…..3 months plus,he called saying he was not feeling better da I should come but I told him I was very busy with my school stuff that later in the day I will show up but he went ahead saying If I can’t come now that I should not bother coming again that he was going out….I went to his house to see him but I found a new girl his dating…that broke my heart the more because he was the guy that disvirgin me.,…I call him and ask him who d girl was and the told me THAT’S MY NEW LOVE ” and he has moved on..I still love this guy like crazy….. what should I do ??? I know he still has d feelings but decided to move on…I want him back
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 27, 2016 at 10:34 am
Hi Stella,
we don’t advise going back to abusive relationships. He’s disrespectful. Love doesn’t treat you the way he treated you.
Jessica
November 23, 2016 at 6:34 am
My ex and I were together for 3 years and lived together 2 of those 3 years. We made each other so happy and he always went out of his way with surprises for me and also did important stuff like helping me find my father etc. It was like a fairy tale sometimes and other times it we made a great team on handling responsibilities. His family ended up being so close to me after the breakup and still are.
When we broke up, we both were broken hearted about it but realized we were so young (24) that we needed to experience other things. Now here we are on and off seeing each other as friends for 12 years.
He confessed to me that it was destiny for us to be together and I confessed to him. Even our friends and family see this and love us together. He likes my daughter even though it’s not his. We are getting so close, but he is scared of commitment. What do I do? He said he only wants to date me and no one else.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 25, 2016 at 8:23 pm
Hi Jessica,
you’ve been on and off for 12 years now? If he doesn’t want to date anybody else, why doesn’t he want to commit?
SHAYLA
November 23, 2016 at 2:16 am
I only known this guy for 2 weeks but we talked days/nights non-stop and spent a lot of time together, we had sex twice. The chemistry was amazing and totally clicked. He is cancer sign and super sensitive type.
So I got freaked out and told him I am scared cause we are moving to fast and afraid I might get hurt since I just recently got off from a long distance relationship (about 2 months ago). He got really mad and said I kinda gave up on us and we barely even started the relationship then he wrote take care. Since then he cut me off from Facebook, would not respond to my text or messages, even blocked me on Facebook. I tried texting and calling fro 3 days straight but he would not answer me. I am not sure what to do at this point, and I miss him badly. Any advice would help? my heart is broken
SHAYLA
November 23, 2016 at 2:18 am
PS: I basically called it off with him and asked if we can just be friends but I realized I made a mistake and want to explain it to him.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 25, 2016 at 3:38 pm
Hi Shayla
give him space.. Try doing a 1 or 2 week nc
C.M.
November 22, 2016 at 11:21 am
Hi,
So for 1 and a 1/2 years I had an off and on relationship with my ex, but it never was officially exclusive because we were in two different places in our lives so we just dated here and there. During our off periods he would get with a random girl then come crawling back to me a couple of weeks later while I would be working on my career and finishing school. He was with a total amount of about 8 girls in between everything and he would never go out with any of them, but he was someone who I could talk to and I did not know what was going on during these periods of times until later. Even though I was slightly suspicious I wasn’t clearly looking for anything official at that moment so it didn’t bother me. Things would get weird here and there where it seemed like we were official and he would get a grin on his face and point it out which made both of us retreat. We both had a lot of pride. So about a year after being in this complex equation I realized he hadn’t text me in a couple of weeks and found out he was in what seemed to be a really happy relationship. I got a little bit jealous, but then I realized it was really nice to see him really happy. A week after that though they broke up and I had found out a couple weeks before he was asking my friends how I was doing. So then after that he became really cold to me. He text me one night claiming he never wanted to see me ever again and that he was moving on with his life. Mind you I hadn’t talked to him in over a month. So I told him I was happy with his decision and I would be moving forward with my life too. All seemed well until he started talking about me foully to every mutual friend we had. I went on with my life and about a month after I got a text and a FaceTime call from him telling me he wishes he would have dated me, that he missed me and started talking about the future of us possibly getting married then he told me he loved me. I looked straight at him and confessed that I didn’t love him because I didn’t know him that well and time would tell the rest. I know it was cold the way I said it but I didn’t understand why he was saying it to me when a month before he said we would never officially date because we were two completely different people. So we stopped contact again and started dating a month later. Things were going better than ever with us before and we were spending more time together. Plus I had found out a friend of mine had been being harassed by him because he noticed I spent more time with the friend than he did with me and I text him more than I text him. It was only because our families were friends though. Our happy days lasted three months until about a week went by and he wasn’t answering any of my texts or calls so I resorted to really getting down to the bottom of it and I found out that he was seeing someone else to try to make me jealous so hurt I decided to lie to him on Valentine’s Day when he text me that I was no longer single and I did not wish to continue whatever we had going on. I then proceeded to go on a date right after with someone else which didn’t end well because we were not compatible. I met up with him to give him his birthday present I had spent a lot of money on and vowed to myself I would never be linked to him again. I kept my NC and after two weeks he text me in complete denial of me seeing other people and everything then continued to talk bad about me to everyone I knew that he knew I was friends with. All of his talk came back to me and put me with a terrible taste in my mouth. I kept myself completely single while I traveled to Asia and around the US and finished up the semester. Then as I was moving ten states away 7 months later I met the most amazing man I’ve ever met in my life who is now my best friend, my boyfriend, and my business partner. He continues to teach me so much about love and life every day and all I get asked is if he has a brother because of how chivalrous and amazing he is towards me. We started dating and then became official while I was moving. All during this my ex enlisted in the military and dated over 5 different girls. Everything was going great in my LDR and it was shortly going to be a live in relationship while I started getting texts of screenshots of my ex blasting me all over the internet. It became really bad so we continued to ignore it and one day I got a snapchat from none other than him asking me how I was. Mind you I hadn’t talked to this guy in over a year. I sent him best of luck to being deployed and had a little conversation with him. I also sent him a picture of my boyfriend and I on our last trip so then I got a huge reply asking why I never told him I was moving and all of that and not saying a word about my relationship. Later finding out he was posting all over online that it was unfair how the girl he wanted was happy in a relationship. As I’m happily focusing on the positive and tuning out the negative there’s all these allegations about me from him online. At this point my boyfriend tried to get involved because of how bad it got and I told him not to because I knew he wanted a reaction. 9 months went by and I get another message so I wrote the most honest, heartfelt letter to him and we agreed we taught each other a lot. I did this with my boyfriends knowledge to not cross lines and my relationship got stronger and stronger within time. I am so happy with my boyfriend because even though everything isn’t perfect we make each other better people overall and we’ve learned a lot about everything together. The only issue is here I’m still sitting here and I thought everything would be fine but my ex’s page has become a diss page and I don’t understand because he’s been with so many girls after me. What do I do? Can I do anything? I listened to the NC rule and it backfired once I moved on.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 24, 2016 at 4:21 pm
Hi CM,
you cant control other people.. Why not ask your ex why he’s doing it? Other than that, you just have to move on.. If he didnt respond well to your question, then you just have to cut all ties with him and move on
Katee
November 21, 2016 at 1:29 am
Hiya,
I just need some advice. My bf and I were dating for nearly 6 years (about 2 years ago, he had broken up with me cause of family pressure and I went crazy running after him but when I stopped he came back to me after a few months) and we’ve been strong ever since! About a month or two ago, we started to argue a little more than usual (were normally a really good in sync calm couple) and started to be weird with each other and he started to text me less and even stopped texting me for a whole week cause he needed ‘space’ (which I gave him) and then all of a sudden he said he wants to end it and said it’s cause he doesn’t love me anymore.. and I just don’t believe it, I can still feel he loves me. When he broke up with me, i did not beg him or run after him or anything this time around. I’ve been applying the NC rule for about 15 days now, on day 7 of the NC rule he accidentally liked something of mine on social media and on day 12 of the NC rule he texted me (it was a nice text, asking me how I am and said I didn’t have to reply to his msg and that he just wanted to text me) and I did not reply..
Did I do the right thing? Should I have replied? What should I do differently? Do I have a chance to get him back? How many days of the NC rule should I apply? Am I on the right track?
Please help! Thank you in advance xx
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 22, 2016 at 12:34 am
Hi Katee,
I think you should do 30 days.. Yes, that’s right that you didn’t reply to him and if you are actively improving yourself, you’re on the right track
Priya
November 11, 2016 at 9:53 am
I had a relationship with a cancer man who loved me alot and we wer in a long distnc relatnshp bfr that we wer in the same city and wer best frnds.. wen I moved this relationship started and then fr 1 yr 10 mnths we met few times n talked on phone but not much.. n he was pretty sure of us.. more than me he used to talk about our future but wen I came back I became insecure n he seemed casual but still used to talk about our future.. for 5 months I kept on reacting that he needs to rethink whethr is he sure but he didn’t react much n wenevr we met he showed that he wants us to be together in future but unfortunately I wanted him to spend time with me go out with me bcz we couldn’t share those moments because of long distance so I used to react alot and used to feel insecure.. so one day in aggression I wrote a mail n told him to rethink I can’t take it this way if u don’t feel like spending time with me then what’s the point… n aftr that when I called him he said that I don’t want to think about any relationshp and don’t message me again.. n then aftr a week wen I messaged him asking him to meet me once he said that ok we wil n said that we will be friends so that we can work properly.. n then wen we met I couldn’t talk about the fights instead I just talked to him casually.. n then when again I asked him he said no I can’t think of a relationship. N still he used to call me up and asked me to meet.. its been two months he broke up and still it feels that he does feel for me but he is not ready to accept.. infact wen we talk on messages he replies nicely like a friend and wen I asked him to meet me he said I will be busy so I won’t be able to and then wen I told him that i don’t know what’s there on your end but I m falling for u more.. then he responded okay I will meet u in the morning.. but again bcz of his work he couldnot.. n since last one week we haven’t talked.. one week is just okay with me bcz being In a relationship also sometimes we used to talk after a gap of 10 days.. please tell me what should I do.. I think that he still think of us but just not ready to invest his time in a relationship… what is ur view and advice me …
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 14, 2016 at 8:06 pm
Hi Priya,
I just want to make it clear first, he used to ask you before to be in a relationship with him but you dont want to because for you, you havent spent much time together?
And now, you’re the one asking but he doesnt want to anymore?
San
November 5, 2016 at 5:04 pm
Hi……my ex boyfriend and i dated a year ago we broke up and 6months later he came back we dated for 5months and he broke up saying am too disrespectful and nagging.I made the mistake of begging later i started NC he called m sure other was a mistake becuz texted him that i saw his miss cal wassup but he didn’t reply.As we broke up as i begged he told me he has move on.Presently i restarted the nc don’t know if i have a chance with him again.I am 21 and he is 28…..Please advice me
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 6, 2016 at 11:47 pm
Hi San,
the best you can do right now is to make the most of this second nc in improving yourself and making it look like you’re moving on..
Isabel
October 27, 2016 at 3:07 pm
Hi, I’m not native english speaking (I’m from Switzerland) so I may have some errors in this text… I’m sorry for that.
So my ex broke up 4 months ago. I stayed a weekend at his house and went with him for dinner to his grandmother on sunnday (on his invitation). I noticed the whole weekend that he acted odd… kind of. Like he didn’t look at me often during the evenin at saturday (we had a grillparty with friends) and he didn’t talk too much with me or his friends… not in an antisocial way but he’s normally very very open so it was still odd. So at the end of that weekend he drove me home from his grandmothers house and kissed me in the car (not as good as normally) and drove home. In the evening I asked if he was now finished with the cleaning of the house (I helped of course to do most of it) but he has a very picky mother so it kind of became a running gag. He answered really short and wished good night but not still not as nice as usual. So I asked him if everything was right between us and he said he doesen’t know and that he has some problems at work at the moment and that he’s a bit confused… so we said that we meet on friday to talk about it cause he thoght it would be to impersonal over texting. On friday he told me he just didn’t want a girlfriend at the time cause he wanted to spend his time with his friends and wanted to find out who he really was himself (spending his time with his friends because he just finished his apprenticeship and has to go to the militay… which is very time intensive). Between my crying we had sometimes fun at this conversatio which is kind of cruel I guess… and between he sad he may wants to get back togther after some time (about 6 moths) which is also a little cruel cause… who the hell does this??
On that very evening of this conversation he tried to call me twice, but I didn’t hear it and didn’t pick up. In the morning I texted him why he’d call me… I didn’t get an answer ever and that was the last contact we had… exept that I talked with three of his closer friends on a party but not about him.
I kind of feel like I just was the first thing he cut out of his life when he hadn’t much time on his hands. Now my question is does it even make sence that I want him back? I mean our relationship was the best I’ve ever had I’ve never done this much stuff with anyone and we never had a serious argument ever, but it kind of scares me that if we get back together and we sometime have not much time for each other (what certainly will happen… I’m going to study and have to focus on education from time to time) he will break up again. Or maybe he just played me as he said he wanted to get back together later… what would be evil as fuck cause he talked about that one hour.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 28, 2016 at 11:37 pm
Hi Isabel,
He probably just said that, in hopes that in 6 months you would have moved on and not want to get back with him yourself.
Layla
October 20, 2016 at 11:10 pm
Hi,
So my first ever bf brokeup with me through a text 1 day before school started. A week later he sent me a text and we had a pretty normal conversation up to the point were he asked me if I looked any1 I said no. He then told me that he still liked me, but before he could ask me to get back together with him I told him to stop cuz I couldn’t do that again (PS for a really long time I had mixed feelings I wanted to pinchhim kiss him ect). We dint talk for about a week were I texted him saying that I really needed to talk to him but not throughout a text I needed to see him. He responded by saying that he had nothing to say to me and that if it wasn’t for me we would still be together. When I asked him what I did wrong he avoided the question and said that whenever he would call me pretty or well just anything nice I would symplie respond with a aww or a me too. I told him that I did that beacous I was scared (I was scared of making promises I couldn’t keep cuz he made a lot that he didn’t like how we would still be friends after we broke up ect while all the promesisi made I kept but I didn’t tell him taht part). He ended the conversation by saying that this was all!a waste of his time and I replied by saying that if that was how he felt then I didn’t want to waste anymore and that this was the last time I would say this but goodbye. We didn’t talk for a while and whenever we saw each other he would lower his head and wouldn’t look at me. Like a Mont after that happens we wore our sweaters that are the same color on the same day by accident, and the hole day when he thought I wasn’t looking he looked at me and smiled when lunch ended he walked throughtthe little path that me and my friends sit in and looked at me but i dint look back (usually he takes the other path). Even though he usually takes his sweaters off during the midle of the dayhe dint take it off all day. The next day even thought we were wearing completely different things he did the same thing. (If it helps the reasons I would be scared to get back together with him is beacous I don’t wanna be another 1 of those couples that breakup and get back together and if I got back with him his sister would hate me and not to mention she’s in my grade while he’s a year older than me. And I am also on the same buss as him every friday but we don’t talk or even look ate each other).
Layla
October 22, 2016 at 10:12 pm
Its just that whenever I look at him I just get all of this deferent feeling’s and no matter how hard I try I just can’t get over him.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 24, 2016 at 8:20 am
So, you want to move on but whenever you see him, all the feelings come back? hmm… check this one:
How To Get Over An Ex Boyfriend When You’re Still In Love With Him
Layla
October 20, 2016 at 11:19 pm
If I liked any1*
I wanted to punch him kiss him ect*
Cuz he made a lot of those*
Like how he promised we would still be friends once we broke up*
While all the promesis I made*
This was all a*
Like a month after that happened*
He walked through the*
Look at each other*
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 22, 2016 at 5:11 pm
hi layla,
so, do you reallt want to be back together or not?
Rivea
October 18, 2016 at 5:54 am
Hi. Me and my ex boyfriend broke up in May and we have been having sex on and off for the past 5 months. I still love him like a lot… and I don’t know I really deep down think he loves but but I don’t know if I’ve given each of us enough time to realize it. Like, we broke up in the first place because of simple little things that he just thought he couldn’t do as a boyfriend. And I’m worried when he says that he doesn’t feel the same way I do, that he means that he actually just is kind of freaked out by the whole thing. Because honestly, it was a bad time in my life and I was a little insecure and kind of crazy. I’m different and I think we could work but I don’t know how to go about it. He still asks me to hangout all the time and when we do we talk about everything we used to when we were in a relationship. PS he hasn’t been with anyone else, or likes anyone else… but I have. And me still loving him is ruining all of my chances at finding a relationship again
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 19, 2016 at 10:46 am
Hi Rivea,
dont sleep with him again, because if you’re not yet friends with benefits in his mind, you will be if you sleep with him again..do you want yo try the no contact rule first?
Sam
October 17, 2016 at 9:21 pm
Hi,
Me and my ex broke up a few weeks ago and we have been on and off with talking and hanging out. He told me that he still misses me and loves me but is adamant about not getting back together. Last week he told me to stop talking to him, so I did and then a few days later he texted me asking if im okay. I don’t understand what to do. Yesterday I asked him if he wants us to just try to be together again and he said no and I got angry and stopped texting him. I do not understand him. What should i do? i still love him and I want to be with him.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 18, 2016 at 7:56 pm
Hi sam,
are you ready to stick to no contact rule this time and focus in improving yourself?
Ace
October 16, 2016 at 7:46 pm
Hi, so after my ex sent only pics to me on the app and said nothing else about a week later he texts me with words this time lol about 10 texts. I didn’t reply but I did open the msgs and he would be able to see that I did. In the texts he was basically asking me to talk to him and he also said he changed (mind you he broke up with me) at the same time trying to be funny and saying he knew that made me laugh. What do you make of that? And should he actually say he wants me back what do I do and say? I wouldn’t want to reply just as he says he wants me back as if I was just waiting for him to say that, let me know what you think. I’m day 19 of nc.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 18, 2016 at 10:42 am
if he says he wants you back, you can break it but most of the time, they just say that and then they take it back because he say he just missed you but not ready to be with you again.
Anastasia
October 15, 2016 at 10:11 pm
Hi
I am curious to know where my ex is at and would love your feedback. He broke up with me a few months ago. It has been a roller coaster relationship, but I have also had the most wonderful times of my life. We met dancing (partnered dancing) and we shared an amazing connection on the dance floor. People loved watching us dance together. Anyway, after the last break up a few months ago. He told me to not contact me again. The he contacted me asking for his (dancing) jacket he gave me years ago. He collected it.
About a week ago I messaged him and he was rejecting, he told me the only reason he wanted me to contact him was if I was going to dancing so he knew not to go. He hadnt been to dancing for nearly 3 months. A month when we were together and then 3 months we were apart. I couldnt dance due to injuries.
I told him in a message, my leg was better so I planned to go to all the dance parties.
I returned to to dance for the first time in months last night. I put it on facebook. I gathered he could see, although has blocked me, there are ways. I wasnt going to message to tell him I’m going. One message was enough.
He turned up.
He didnt not approach me, he did not say hello. It was rather awkward. A close male friend of mine said he was going over to him to speak to him about it. I said no. I though the whole scenario was childish, I said I’d go. I went over in a playful way, dancing. We shared eye contact and his eyes softened and smiled for a brief moment. Then he changed and said “What are you doing”…
Following that he was rejecting towards me and became angry.
I touched the side of his arm, wished him well and walked away.
He looked angry and after that he didn’t stay long.
I am confused about where he is at. Did he show up because I was there? If so, why did he behave that way? He was happy for a brief moment, but then stopped and told me he wasn’t going to engage with me.
Did he really want his jacket (it’s an old hoodie) , or was it an opportunity to speak to me and to come to my place?
I am feeling confused and rejected right now. I am perplexed by the whole situation.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 16, 2016 at 8:57 pm
HI Anastacia,
It looks like he was there because you were there, but he acted like he was pissed at you.. Why did you break up?
kate
October 15, 2016 at 8:48 am
Hi me and my boyfriend broke up a month ago. His reason for the breakup was that i was clingy. After we broke up i didnt apply the no contact rule because he was my first boyfriend, we dated for two years , we were now at a point in our relationship where he actually proposed marriage to me and we have known each other for four years, so it was pretty hard for me to stay away from him. Immediately after our breakup i wished him luck on finding someone better than me and he said ‘ noone else will ever have me’ , i was a bit confused by that statement. I kept texting him , sometimes he would answer wth excitement and sometimes he just didnt answer. Two weeks after we broke he said we should set a date to meet up and talk and i did. When the date came i asked him if he was still up for it and he said ‘sorry no’. Our relationship was a long distance one. I would like to know do you think there is a chance he might still love me and would maybe want me back in the future because the way he is acting now is like he never loved me .
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 16, 2016 at 3:38 pm
Hi Kate,
I think it’s just too soon for that talk. We can’t guarantee that you will have him back for sure, but I think it’s the right time to try doing the no contact rule now.. Check this one too:
The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship