You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed... I'm Here To Fix That

922 thoughts on “You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed… I’m Here To Fix That”

Jill

February 18, 2020 at 11:48 pm

Hi, if you work with this person and you were seeing each other casually on and off and the decision not tp be tohether was his because you kept blocking him out, getting angry or not talking to him. If he doesnt want to be with you because you had been off, would No Contact mot just make him more annoyed and cement in his mind that negativity?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 19, 2020 at 9:36 pm

As you work together you would have to follow a limited no contact where you would only speak with him for professional reasons. Otherwise try to avoid being around him or having conversations

Shalin Jahagirdar

December 27, 2019 at 7:22 am

we just broke up after a year and a half. he just couldn’t stay committed he said. I am left completely broken bc all I ever did was love this man with all my heart. although, we remain close friends. we text a lot and said he can give it another try just not now (Idk how much of that to believe). we still talk the way we used to just without the lovey-dovey parts and the name-calling. I miss him so much and I’d do anything to get him back. idk where to start. we decided to meet after he comes back from holidays so in the next couple of weeks and I am only spending my bday with him. when I see him I want to tell him that ill wait for him and we can give it another chance after our big exams finish next year in december. am i doing this right?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 3, 2020 at 12:40 am

Hey so if you want him back then you are not doing it right I am sorry, you need to go into a No Contact and not be his friend if you want him in your life as more than a friend.

Clara Cepeda

December 26, 2019 at 12:04 pm

Hello! I’m obviously super desperate here. My ex broke up with me two month ago saying it just didn’t feel right . I begged him back on and off the whole two months. At first he said maybe we have a future And he needed space and but i kept pushing and we tried talking as friends but I kept trying to push the relationship to the point he told me it’s not in the cards to be with me again and we need time to heal now. I heard from his friends that he has been having a hard time but feels it’s best to go our separate ways. I still tried to reason with him and he recently said he didn’t want me in his life anymore but after talking to him all day about the relationship he left it at “we talked today now let it be at least for awhile “ and he gave me “tips” to get over our relationship…I obviously fed his ego..I want to try No contact but I dont know if it’ll work anymore since I feel like I killed it.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 29, 2019 at 11:09 pm

Hi Clara, you can do No Contact but you have to stick to it!

Destiny

December 20, 2019 at 8:53 pm

WOW. Thank you. I left my husband 4 months ago and I’m seeing now that I made a huge mistake. I tried to get back with him, but he feels that our upcoming divorce is a good thing. He’s moved on and enjoying this new freedom while I sit and cry and my choice. I did beg. Said all the things that I would do for just one more chance. This article is great and I wished I’d seen it sooner. Anyways, I’ve only been crazy person for one week as that is when I realized he was on the divorce band wagon as I was ready to jump off. Well, he offered to let me stay with him and the kids next week, Christmas week, so that I wouldn’t be alone and well, for my sanity. I think now that it might be a bad idea unless he sees something next week that shows him that I’m worth another chance. Please give me your advise on next week. Should I back off and not go?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 21, 2019 at 10:58 pm

Hi Destiny, so during that week you need to be the most happy cool and calm person around, show him you are the person who he fell in love with originally and be amazing with the kids while keeping complete emotional control through the situation. I would advise not to sleep with him if the opportunity comes up because you do not want to get the situation confused. Always look good and try not to put too much pressure on the household while you stay there this week

Ainsley

December 7, 2019 at 7:13 pm

Hey so I have been with my ex for 4 years…
We don’t argue often but when we do he always tells me the relationship is finished and says really horrible things usually within a few days it’s fine. He has really bad anger issues and can’t deal with arguments. We had an argument and He said the same as he always does but this time he appears to mean it I have behaved really badly and let my emotions take over… I have begged and pleaded for a month and he just keeps telling me to leave him alone.. I know I need to do this but somehow I just can’t. The day before we argued he told me how much he loved me and now he’s saying he doesn’t feel anything for me anymore.. I’m just very confused how something can change over night as there was no signs.. I would like some advice please

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 8, 2019 at 10:21 pm

Hi Ainsley, so if he has a problem with arguing and anger issues, then its likely he has problems controlling other emotions too so if he is upset and doesnt want to see you right now, telling you he doesnt feel anything for you anymore is just the height of his emotions where more than likely he does still love you just had enough of fighting. So the best thing for you to do right now is give him space and do a No Contact where you a basically allowing him to have time to calm down and realise his feelings for you. A relationship with constant arguments and bickering takes it toll on people who cant deal with things like others who let go easier

Ouma

December 6, 2019 at 1:56 pm

My ex boyfriend dumped I begged him for 6 days an then stopped contacting him now is 2 weeks of no contact rule..do I still have a chance of getting him back?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 6, 2019 at 5:16 pm

Hi Ouma yes following the program will give you your best chance of getting your ex back, but you do have to do the work to get him back by reading and keeping to it

StillHoping

November 28, 2019 at 7:05 pm

Hi Chris!

I’m not sure how to apply what I’ve read here to my situation: initially I definitely reacted with anger, expressed my sadness and heartbreak, and my disappointment at him breaking up with me. I tried to reason with him with logical arguments as to why we should give it another chance to which he even verbalised it that I’m “trying to convince him” to stay and that I should stop doing that (which I did). But I have never done any of these: texted, emailed, called several times a day or per week saying “please, please, please give me a chance / take me back”, and neither showed up at his home or place of work. I guess I’m asking if what I did do comes across as badly as texting, emailing, etc.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 28, 2019 at 9:16 pm

Hey there SH – so you havent “gnatted” as we call it, but you did beg in the initial break up so you still have to follow a no contact rule, if that is what you were going to ask. But no you havent made your situation any worse. Leaving him alone and giving him the space after a break up is a good move!

Sara

November 23, 2019 at 8:26 pm

would you also help with texting? I would like private, individual help.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 23, 2019 at 11:12 pm

Hi Sara, this is a list of all of the products we sell. Including a texting bible, and one to one coaching

Help

November 7, 2019 at 10:49 pm

Hi Brad,

I only came to know about no contact rule after a month of me and my boyfriend breaking up. We were together for nearly 2 years. I texted and emailed him a lot and begged him to stay with me, no reply from him ofcourse. The night before we broke up he said he loved me soo much. We had a fight the next day over something soo silly and now he says he doesn’t see a future with me. What should I do? He’s blocked me on all social media and my number, but I have his email I think, unless he’s blocked me on that too. I started no contact rule a week ago.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 8, 2019 at 9:24 pm

Hey There, so Brad is a different coach. But if you are looking for advice from Chris Seiters program then. I suggest reading some more articles on this website and getting to know what you need to know about No Contact, how to be Ungettable and working on the Holy Trinity, all of this information is on this website for you.

Natasha

October 21, 2019 at 12:03 pm

Hello!my boyfriend broke up with me because for the last 2 months i was “cold” and i did not show any interest to him(we were together for almost 4 years)..we generally had communication problems . after we broke up we didn’t talk to each other for a month ,in September i initiated contact with him,we hang out together once but only as friends ..i continued texting him but he told me he doesn’t want to get back together ,he wants to be alone . I don’t know what to do because i really wanted that second chance ..now it’s already 3 months since our break up

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 21, 2019 at 8:34 pm

Hi Natasha you need to make sure youve done a no contact where you havent spoken for 30 days and you have worked on yourself in that time. You need to reach out as a friend and talk about his interests not yours and try to get a positive conversation between you both a short one at that. And build it up slowly. adding flirting as you go.

Cy

October 12, 2019 at 3:33 am

Hi .
Me and my boyfriend lasted more that a year . He broke up me just this oct 10 ,2019. He said he got tired cause we always argued and he felt bad about himself. There were moments in the relationship I broke up with him but always went back to him cause he was the one clinging to us and it was my way of feeling my value to him . But this is the first time he broke up with me. The reason of our arguments was about time. Cause we were in an LDR relationship. We never thought of a solution to it . And when he broke up with me that’s the time i realized to value the time he spends with me rather than arguing with him.

He broke up with me through phone but I went up to him and begged . He even said he doesn’t see a future of me in it . Harsh words were definitely said . But i asked him if he still loved me ,asked him to tell me he didn’t . He said it’ll be a lie if he said he doesn’t. But it was “no longer about love ” he said. After that i went home still broken and this day oct 12 i decided to let him go to just cut the contract to give him the freedom he wants. Despite all that , i still want him back . When a person who broke up with you despite the fact that they love you , will they ever come back ??

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 12, 2019 at 11:26 pm

Hi Cy, it is possible that exes come back when they still have feelings you just need to make sure you do the work to get yourself prepared and to make yourself the best version of you.

Alli

August 14, 2019 at 5:55 am

I was with someone 3/4 months who I spent a lot of time with and went on road trips, camping, bike rides, out to eat. He was maybe 6 months out of a toxic 5 year relationship. I was probably his rebound but I fell really hard for him. He wanted to take things slow and it wasn’t some whirlwind romance. It was us spending a lot of time together getting to know each other but also me now having a clue how he really felt. This lead to some fights at the 2/3 month mark after he told me he is moving to be closer to his daughter I wanted to know what we were doing. I think this pushed him away. He still tried to discuss the he wanted to take things sloe and even continue seeing me after he moved but I don’t know now if it was all just b.s. I became more ad more needy as he became distant and he broke up with me this past week saying I was “too much” for him and that we are emotionally incompatible but also that he realized he didn’t want a relationship. Yes all cards against me. I also begged and he told me I need to stop. I unfollowed him last night and plan to do no contact to heal. While I begged he said we are not getting back together. All obvious signs to never have hope. I am having on because I feel I was falling in love with him and even though everything is against me I hope one day he may remember the good times we have. I feel very desperate and dumb for begging him to reconsider. I think I am holding in to false hope, but its the only thing that gets me through the day right now.
Kacey

August 7, 2019 at 10:23 pm

Hi Chris!
I have been in an amazing relationship for 6 years, Christmas I fell out with his mum then in January my ex asked me for space and ghosted me.. I chased him hard, going to the pub he works at (Im a regular there) to constantly begging him to try with me. For 6 months we carried on going on dates twice a week and still sleeping together, I was stupid and said I will be here for when he is ready to comitt.
Last month I found he had taken an older woman away for his birthday weekend and they have been sleeping together for a while. It ended nasty, police involved and he blocked me on everything because of how I re acted. I was SO hurt. Everyday after I got friends to message, rang his work, constantly begged. 2 weeks ago I saw him and he held me for ages and said he loves me and wants a future but he needs time and to give him time. I said if you want me gone I’ll go for good and he said no. I went 1 week no contact till Saturday gone and he unblocked me, messaged me but we ended up arguing drunk and he blocked me again. Yesterday I messaged him saying I’m sorry for pushing you Ive been in the wrong etc.. I love you to pieces but if you want me to I will let go its gone on far too long.. we both need to be happy and this arguing is breaking me, that I wont contact him and he knows where I am when hes ready.

I am terrorfied Ive lost him for good, I cant see my life without him. So Ive started NC again and Ive joint the gym and arranged outings with friends, but oh my god this pain.. I feel such a failure and I’ve ruined everything!
Sarah

July 14, 2019 at 5:25 pm

What if we work at the same company? What If I see him everyday and the point system doesn’t work because I see his face everyday, how to shock him and do something not usual?
Adriel

June 28, 2019 at 5:55 pm

Omg you write so well. Thank you for this ❤️❗️

Chris Seiter

June 28, 2019 at 7:41 pm

Your welcome Adriel

Lami

May 8, 2019 at 6:15 am

Everythng was going well. But my got to higher studies and is super stressed. He said he lost his feelings and doesnt even realise he is ina relatiosnhip. So he said lets stop it . i cried a lot. Because its just a few days of stress and i didnt wanted tht stress to make him say this. He said he needs time and he needs me as a best friend and not as a gf. I agreed. But i later worsened the situation by crying over phone. And he kept saying give him time. Now we talk daily like usual but not like gf bf.
Mev

May 5, 2019 at 1:18 pm

Hi
I went through a break up in February and my boyfriend called me desperate, I begged the day after he broke up with me.
I discovered I was pregnant and told him about it he still mentioned I was desperate, later on he called to tell me to remove it.
I went to his family to get them aware of it and was told all sorts of things starting from that I’m a flirt and he denying the pregnancy.
I finally had a medical abortion with the help of my mum. I sent him a message saying it was gone and he can move on with his life he replied me that he knew I wanted to hold him back, and he don’t know where I got the pregnancy from and I should stop texting him. Meanwhile I sent sorry messages to his family members and friends.
His brother sent me a Facebook request after the event but I did not accept it and I received a call from his brothers wife.
The friend met me of recent and said I was desperate too.
Well my issue is that do you think I can get back with him after this event. I love him sincerely.
And if I’m to get him back how do I do it.
Becca

April 23, 2019 at 11:42 pm

Hi.
I recently went through a break up and I am having a difficult time handling it. We started dating and I truly felt like we were yin and yang because of how well balanced we were. Shortly after I moved in with him I started noticing us arguing about small and irrelevant issues. Before he broke up with me I started noticing him becoming distant and few red flags. However, after the official break up we didn’t talk for a few days/weeks then one of us would reach out and we would end up hanging out. He seemed fined for a few days and then he would go back to not having interest in me again. It’s been back and forth like that for two months. I am currently trying no contact and I am only a week in. He has not tried to contact me at all. I will be honest though, I did beg and plead after the breakup and even during the times we hung out after we broken up. I just want him to miss me or come back to rekindle the relationship. Any suggestions or ideas whether he will come back into my life?

Chris Seiter

April 25, 2019 at 3:28 am

Make sure Becca that you are doing No Contact for “you”. Its about you and your healing and growth and finding that emotional balance and other tings in life. Yes, it also has applications to helping your ex realize more fully and appreciate you “value”, but it all begins with an emotionally and physically healthy and spiritually healthy you. Check out my massive ebook, “EBR Pro” for many more details.

Hopelessly in love

April 20, 2019 at 1:41 am

Hello, I’m interested in buying the book. But my situation is … my husband of 5 years left me and my daughter. I did all the stupid begging for 6 months now. Will your book help me? Plot twist, there’s another woman. He acts as if she’s nothing serious. Ugh help me =*<

Chris Seiter

April 20, 2019 at 11:07 pm

Hi there…I think you will benefit at getting some perspective on how to handle things going forward, both as it relates to your healing and recovery as well as things you can do to reinforce your value. My Program is designed to increase your chances. Sometimes the other woman is a rebound or grass is green situation…sometimes not. What matters is have a game plan for the sake of “you” and your needs.

Gretchen

April 7, 2019 at 9:46 pm

Hi, me & my bf have been together for 9 mths & totally in love. He had even mentioned marriage. After bout 6 mths he grew distant although we still talked everyday w/it being less & less.
Finally he admitted that he was scared & wants to protect his heart. He feels that marriage is coming closer. I reassured him we could date for years. He was the one mentioning marriage in the first place. His ex wife really did a number on her w/her lies. He thinks if she could trick him, anyone could. That marriage has been over for 7 years. We both dearly love each other.
We arent officially a couple now but still been out on dates here & there. Now it’s pretty constant texting & he is starting to flirt again & back to asking me to please be careful when I go places just like it used to be. He even mentioned something about another guy which is only a friend, like he was lil jealous…which he hasn’t in a LONG time. Never does a day go by that we dont talk. Do you think my patience during this time is allowing him to see I do love him and not out to hurt him & he can trust me with his heart again?
I know I’m not going out with anyone & wont. We are texting each other for hrs when we aren’t at work so I know he’s not either. I haven’t done anything crazy & giving him time. I feel he is slowly realizing I’m genuine, love him, & will be around for the long haul.
I would appreciate your feedback. I haven’t really begged but didn’t know where else to ask my questions on your sites. Thank you!

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