Well, I’ll go back to one thing I said it’s happening for you. And one of the biggest lessons we’re all here to learn is that our happiness, our fulfillment, our sense of safety, our sense of security, love, does not come from an external source. And one of the biggest wake up calls that we have, I think especially women but I think just as much as men in a lot of ways is heart break.
Because we put so much into that and we often without even realizing attach so much of our worth and our happiness onto being in a relationship, being chosen, being with somebody and it becomes so much of an identity. So, what I say people especially women is, first of all, there’s a massive sea change happening right now and women are really coming into our power more than any other time. And I say this with absolutely zero againstness towards men.
I love men! Men are amazing! And men are supporting women more than ever and I think we need to keep that conversation positive but one of the things that I think women are learning, myself included is not to source our okayness or our worthiness in relationship. A lot of teachers that teach masculine and feminine say that men prioritize purpose and women prioritize relationship.
And as a woman I have to say that I prioritize equally, purpose and relationship. And this is a time when so many of us are really stepping into our purpose and sometimes we may need, like a break from relationship to be able to do that. So, I know you ask me just how people deal with expectations
in general but I really wanted to talk about the relationship side because I think so many women really deal with that. So, what I’d say is, you know, you’re part of a shift in consciousness.
You’re really being in ask to go in and become a wonderful partner to yourself, to find that inner masculine inside of you that provides you a sense of safety and a sense of security and also to connect with your feminine. So, that you connect with that voice of compassion and unconditional love. And yes, cry your tears. I’m very much into– a part of expectation hang over, it’s a very holistic plan and the first part of the treatment plan is the emotional level. Let you have yourself have your emotions about it but don’t identify with them and don’t judge your process.
It’s like we have our emotions but we need to have compassion and we need to also not indulge or identify with them and to come back to that place of love. You know one of the biggest, I guess I could call it mistakes, people make when dealing with an expectation hangover especially in terms of heartbreak is they end up closing their heart. They think that just because the relationship is over, love is lost. And that’s not true, I relationship may end but love is infinite and love is our essence.
And so, how can you keep your heart open instead of trying to get through the expectation hangover by forming walls around your heart? Because it’s a misunderstanding that we need to protect ourselves from love. Yes, we need to be discerning about who we choose to be in relationship with, for anything from romantic to friendship, even to family relationships. However, we do not need to close down or protect our heart. Keeping it open is how we feel more into that love and how we attract more love in our life.