Raise your hand if you’ve ever had your ex tell you that he isn’t sure what he really wants.
Most of our clients face this at some point after their breakup, and it can be incredibly frustrating because well, we’re not all mind readers. Why can’t people just SAY what they want?
Now, when your ex says they’re not sure of what they want, they could be talking about the future of your relationship or just life in general.
Today, I will take out all the guesswork from this game so you will know EXACTLY what to do when an ex says that they aren’t sure what they want.
As Steve Jobs once said,
“People don’t know what they want… not until you show it to them”
Keep that in mind as you read this article because it really is the key behind reacting to an ex who doesn’t know what they want. Think of this as the mantra of deciphering your exes confusing thoughts and words if you will.
My job is to tell you what attracts men based on years of proven research on thousands of men all over the world.
- So, what is it?
- What are men ultimately attracted to?
- What do they want?
- What do they even mean when they say they don’t know what they want?
After years of research, we’ve come to one conclusion- they all want ONE thing.
The Ungettable girl.
That’s right. The age old saying of wanting what you can’t have is the basis of how every man operates.
How To Become Ungettable So That You Become Exactly What Your Ex Wants
Every man wants that perfect woman who’s the ideal balance between beauty and brains and is somehow always seemingly unattainable.
So, how do YOU become Ungettable, and therefore exactly what your ex wants?
Buckle up because that’s what we are going to be talking about today.
Well, there’s no “right” answer to this one simply because each man has his own version of what his Ungettable girl will look like.
After all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
But we found certain patterns that are found in most of these ideal Ungettable girls that can instantly make any man interested in them.
I’m going to share FOUR of those patterns that Ungettable girls have with you so you can capitalize on those to make your ex believe that you ARE what he needs even when he’s unsure of it himself.
Ungettable Quality # 1: The book vs. The cover
People have spent years arguing over whether men care more about looks or personality.
Regardless of where you stand on this, let me ask you one thing. When you walk into a book store to buy a new book, what’s the first thing you look at?
The book or the cover?
Be honest, it’s probably the cover.
So, you buy this book based on the cover and then start reading it… It turns out to be absolute trash, and you instantly regret your decision.
What, then, made the lasting impression on you?
The cover or the actual content of the book?
In my opinion, what matters more should be the book itself!
The storyline, the characters, and everything else that gives life and a voice to the book and allows you to CONNECT with the story should be at the center of the book’s value.
But, interestingly enough, it’s often not the way you make your ultimate purchase decision.
In an ideal world, both the book and cover would perfectly complement each other, but we don’t really live in an ideal world, do we?
Honestly, this book vs. cover analogy is the best one to understand the complex dichotomy of the whole looks vs. personality debate.
The Looks Vs. Personality Debate
I often see women obsessing over Ungettable girls by looking at beautiful models on magazine covers, and I always tell them, “that girl is not Ungettable, she’s just pretty.”
There’s a lot more to being Ungettable than merely having ‘the look.’
So yes, while looks DO matter, personality matters just as much.
No man really wants a pretty girl who can’t hold a conversation or intellectually satisfy him.
Ungettable Quality #2: Stability vs. Mystery
As I began my business, I picked up on a trend among my clients- those who were only stable but didn’t provide enough mystery and adventure to their exes became boring; however, those who were only mysterious but didn’t provide enough stability to their exes became scary and unsustainable.
So, what’s the solution?
Well, both of these traits are like the Yin and Yang of being Ungettable.
They must both coexist in the perfect ratios to ensure a health relationship.
You need to show yourself as being incredibly stable yet mysterious and adventurous at the same time. Too much or too little of either just leads to an awkward and unbalance relationship which is not fun for either side.
I’ve heard countless men complain about a lack of chemistry in their past relationships, and this whole notion of “chemistry” often boils down to that mystery factor or the lack of it in long term relationships where couples become too used to a specific routine or each other.
So yeah, being mysterious and having exciting shared experiences is a huge part of any healthy relationship especially if you’re trying to get an ex back.
But being on the extreme mysterious and adventurous side can also be dangerous because it’s financially unsustainable for most of us and we humans just crave a certain “home” feeling that could be lost if there is too much mystery in a relationship.
To become the ultimate Ungettable girl, you must carefully balance stability and mystery to ensure that the relationship doesn’t get too boring or too scary.
Ungettable Quality # 3: First Experiences Together.
The best way to understand this is to think of yourself in a movie theater at a movie premiere.
It’s the first time you see that movie, and your excitement levels are at an all-time high. It quickly becomes your favorite movie, and you might even want to see it again immediately after the first screening.
So, you see it again! It’s still amazing, but it loses some of its wow factor. The jump scares don’t really get you and the big plot reveal is no longer a surprise. You keep watching the movie, and it keeps losing the spark until one day you basically have the whole movie memorized and have no intent of ever seeing it again.
That’s exactly how first experiences in relationships are too.
There’s something incredibly special about first-time experiences and unique one-off dates. If your ex takes you on the same date that he’s taken all his exes on, he might not have the same feelings that you do if it’s your first time on the date.
So, the best way to build a strong relationship with your ex is to go on a date where you’re both experiencing something for the first time!
There is no better bonding experience than seeing something together for the first time because both of your emotions will be at a maximum as you guys will be going through something unique together for the first time.
The shared excitement of a new activity basically feels like a new relationship because you don’t just see a new thing- you see new reactions of the person you’re with too!
Ungettable Quality # 4: They Leave You Wanting More.
Leaving your ex wanting more is ESSENTIAL if you’re going to catch and keep their interest.
So, how do you do that?
Well… it looks a little something like this.
Next time an ex says that he’s not sure of what he wants, you can just skip the whole guessing game because you know exactly what he wants and how YOU can fill that void.
Steve Jobs rightly said that people don’t know what they want until someone tells them so it’s up to you to show your ex what he needs.
- Just keep these four tips in mind to be the ultimate Ungettable girl that’s the answer to all his prayers:
- Be on top of your looks and your personality because both are equally important!
- Strike a balance between being stable and mysterious/adventurous, so he always stays engaged.
- Try out new things together to build shared memories.
Oh yes, and always leave him wanting more.