What To Do If You Get The Dreaded "No Response" After No Contact

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Sam

November 11, 2017 at 10:49 pm

Hi Amor,
So after 21 days of NC, I reached out to him and said congrats on a work thing and that I hoped he got to celebrate- he never replied. I also friend requested him on FB and he declined. This is the same guy who I had been talking to for 3 months and who seemed into me, but then asked for space. I had sent him that angry text, then apologized and he blocked me from instagram and snapchat. I’m not sure what to do..I feel heartbroken and feel like he absolutely despises me. I feel horrible. What can I do? Will any amount of waiting or anything help at this point? If so, what would I say..? He seems to not want anything to do with me and I’m sure he’s interested in someone else..

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 13, 2017 at 1:30 am

In reply to Sam.

Hi,

it’s still here, I just haven’t reached it yet.. Well, you’re not supposed to send a friend request if there’s no rapport, unless you don’t have any way of contacting him than that.. Other than moving on, try nc for one last time and do it for 45 days..

Tee

October 15, 2017 at 11:17 pm

hey there I’m on day 23 of no contact.
my ex and I dated for about 2 months it was awesome cos he was so sweet and treated me like a princess he introduced me to all his friends and family. But at one point I noticed he started pulling away and after a while he broke up with me and told me he wasn’t feeling that way anymore. I then found out there was another girl in the picture
He told me he had feelings for her I got hurt and cried in front of him after that I started the no contact rule. But then I broke it twice cos he was always upset that I was ignoring him. I realized replying him always got me nowhere so I started to take the no contact rule seriously during this period I started working on my self. I changed my look focused on adding weight cos I’m quite slim, cleaned my teeth changed my perfume and body wash and updated my instagram I noticed he kept liking all my posts on instagram but I never liked any of his back he would post pictures that I took of him on our first dates probably trying to get my attention. This is my problem now, his birthday came up during the NC all though during this period he didn’t bother to contact me till a day to his birthday of course I didn’t pick then he sent me a text inviting me to his party I didn’t reply, on his birthday he sent me an angry text saying “U didn’t even have the decency to wish me a happy birthday” I know he was upset some minuets later he sent another text saying “But I made sure you were happy on yours”,
I told u he treated me like a princess he made my birthday very special. I feel really bad that I didn’t reply or say happy birthday or even attend the party even when his brother kept calling me to come for it. I really didn’t want to end up in an awkward situation especially if the girl was there I never followed up on her but she keeps liking my posts on IG, plus I wasn’t ready to give up on my no contact I’m on day 23 and all this happened yesterday I feel like when I’m ready to initiate contact he might ignore me the way I ignored him or say something offensive to me. please what do I do I’m really scared cos I really still do love him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 16, 2017 at 10:13 pm

Hi Tee,

If you need to extend to 45 days that’s ok.. After what he did to you, he should be the one questioning his decency of having the guts to just invite you, talk to you, and be angry with you as if he didn’t hurt you..check this one:
How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact

Mathilda

October 4, 2017 at 11:59 am

Hi. Sorry for this really long message but I really need some help and sorry if it doesn’t really make much sense…I’m not good at story telling or explaining but here it goes…
I met this guy in May. He was absolutely amazing. Confident, funny, sensitive, sexy, loving, kind, romantic, and has a heart of gold. We would talk every night for hours over text for an entire month…we live 15km away from each other and barely saw each other…so it was kinda long distance. Early June he started changing. I still sent him messages frequently trying to convince myself that it was all in my head and that nothing was wrong. Eventually I received a text from him saying that something happened to him and that it was personal and that he didn’t want to talk about it. He had to go to a shrink though so it had to have been bad. I waited a week and then sent him a message. Things started getting sort of back to normal but he was still off and we didn’t talk as often as we used to. He came to visit me on 15 July and things got out of hand. It was difficult to contain ourselves. Let’s just say some “stuff” happened. After he left that day he sent me a text saying that he “regrets” doing what we did because he wasn’t ready. We sorted it out and talked like normal that day…until later that evening. He ask me a question and I answered it but he didn’t read it even though he was online. He ignored my message for 2 days. That’s when I sent him about three texts asking him if everything was okay. He said it was and that he was just busy but I could tell that he was lying. I gave him some space. On the 22 July I asked him him if I could come and visit him one evening and he said no he isn’t in the mood. I explained to him that I didn’t mean that evening but one or other time later that week or so. He said he doesn’t want me to come at all. He was never this cold toward me before so I asked him if he even wanted anything to do with me because it really doesn’t feel like he does. He replied and said that he does want a relationship but that he is working on some of his own issues and trying to become the best him that he can be and that he just needs time and will eventually become himself again. Eventually we decided to break up…it was mutual…but we decided to stay friends. I waited two weeks and then asked him on about the 6 August if he wanted to hang out with my friends and I on Saturday because we were all going to the city. He first declined but after I sent one more message telling him it would be fun he eventually agreed to ask his parents. On Wednesday he sent me a message telling me that he can’t come with because he has a geography project that he has to work on. I ended up having to cancel the trip because my uncle came that weekend so anyway. He started to send me messages telling me that he regrets the break up and wants to wok on “us”. We spent 3 days discussing the situation and eventually decided to take it slow. He told me that he is still working on his issues and needs space but that he doesn’t want to lose me again and that he is crazy about me. We weren’t talking very often and he avoided some of my texts by saying that he is gonna go to sleep even though I knew that he was lying because I could see him online for a long time afyerwards but at least we were talking. Then on the 23rd August his friends mother died in a car accident. He started acting really cold and I got insensitive. On the 25th I sent him a message telling him to forget about me and move on. He replied to that message by saying that it was for the best and that time would take away the pain. He blocked me on the messaging app that we were talking on and I was devastated. I immediately started crying and sent him 28 texts and called him 30 times. He hanged up on every call and ignored every text. I begged him to give me a chance to explain why I sent that message. He got really irritated and called me. He said that he can’t talk because he is busy but that he unblocked me and that I should message him my explanation. So I did. I explained that I have been in a very difficult place for the last 2-3 months after the death of my aunt and that I couldn’t even look at food without feeling sick and that I had barely been sleeping because I would wake up terrified and out of breath from the nightmares of things that had happened in my past along with a bunch of other things that were going on with me. I told him that if he needed me to explain everything that I would because I don’t want to lose him over my problems and that I was just going through an emotional rollercoaster and had no idea how to get off but promised that I would figure it out. I told him that I didn’t want to tell him about this because I didn’t want him to think that I am emotionally damaged and think I’m a freak because he is the most important thing in my life and I didn’t want to lose him. I begged him not to block me again because I would do anything to fix us. He sent me a message back saying that he doesn’t want to hear everything because he can’t help me with this and that he feels bad because he can’t and that he needs alone time for himself. He waited for my reply and once I sent him a message telling him that it’s okay and that he must take as much time as he needs and that he mustn’t feel bad because I would figure it out…he blocked me again. I was planning on innitiating the no contact rule and working on my own issues before contacting him again, but on the 28 August I didn’t have a choice but to contact him. I had heard some horrible things about him from my aunts who heard it from another lady. That lady was accusing him and I of doing horrific things…these things were so bad that my aunt wanted to take him to court and sue him. I immediately after hearing this tried to contact him. I asked my two friends to contact him for me and tell him that he had to call me as soon as possible. I even sent him a text. Later that evening he unblocked me and while I was explaining what was happening he called me. I told him I can’t talk because my aunts were in the next room an if anyone found out that I had warned him them we would both be dead and then he asked me if we could fix it. I replied with maybe. We ended the call and I sent him the message explaining the situation. He said he didn’t do it and I was continuinly freaking out because this affected me more than him because I could get put back into the foster system. We were talking about this situation for about 10 minutes when he asked me if he could call. I told him he couldn’t because my sister was in the room with me and my aunts were close by and that I would tell him when he could call. He ignored me and said that he wants to call now. He called three times and after I didn’t pick up the phone he blocked me again. I tried desperately to contact him by sending him 30 texts and calling him 30 times all of which he ignored. This was serious and to this day I wonder what would have happened if I had just picked up the phone…maybe we would have sorted out the situation and maybe we would be talking today. I hate myself everyday for everything I’ve done.
I had a very difficult past where I was starved, beat up, cut, sexually abused, locked up in a room without food or water for 4 days, and a hell of a lot more for 8 years of my life…all of the terrible things that happened to me in my past were done by my drug addicted parents and their “friends” hence the reason I am in foster care. I am extremely damaged…I’ll never be perfect…hell I doubt I’ll ever be normal but I never told him any of this. He only knows that I had a difficult start to my life, but thats all he knows. I blame my past for making me so insecure and clingy and…weird. I used to cut myself to feel something before I met him and when we were together I didn’t harm myself once but now that he’s gone I cut myself to get rid of the pain…now I cut myself more than ever because I feel like the more I cut th more the pain over him will go away and I feel like I deserve to be hurt. I haven’t contacted him in 33 days. During that time I have been working on myself and moving on from all th bad things that have happened to me. I have forgiven my parents and everyone else for what they have done and I am a completely different person because of it, but he won’t ever find out because I don’t have any form of social media. I stay far away from that because it is easy for the human traffickers and my parents to locate me on social media…so I can’t post pictures or anything. I set him a text for the first time yesterday that went something like this:

“Heyy muscle man, how are you??
I’ve been thinking a lot about everything lately and I realized that I was never the best ” friend” to you and I hate that. I have been working on myself and have improved myself a great deal. I believe that life is to short to be enemies with anyone and was wondering if you’d like to be friends again because I believe that now that I’ve changed I would be a much better friend to you. However, I will let you see how much I’ve changed on your own and then you decide for yourself.
So what do you say??”

He completely ignored it. He hasn’t sent me anything and I am still blocked on the messaging app that we used to talk over…I know I am still blocked because I can’t see his pfp. I am still terribly heart broken over him because I have truly grown to love him…he is the most amazing guy ever. He even cares for the homeless. I haven’t sent him anymore texts even though I wanted to last really badly…I was not in the right state emotionally to make any good decisions. I was devastated, I couldn’t stop crying, I could feel my heart being ripped into pieces. I even took a blade to my left arm and cut “I’m sorry”. I am not like other people. I don’t deal with things the same due to what happened to me. Once I love someone I love them with a passion and I never fall out of love. This is the reason I never give my heart to someone freely, but strangely he had my heart 5 days after we met. I will not lose him. I don’t care how long it takes I can be patient. Will someone pls tell me what I should do next?? Pls someone help me fix things with him…even if he is only my friend in the future because being a part of his life in some way would be better than not at all…someone pls tell me what to do.

Mathilda

October 17, 2017 at 9:06 am

We never saw it as necessary to exchange emails…so I guess I’ll send him a letter for closure. I just need him to know why I did what I did even if he doesn’t understand. I would like to hear from him that he forgives me but if I don’t hear anything from him then that’s okay…I just need him to know. I don’t want him to think I’m the crazy stalker ex…I need him to know that there is a reason for everything that I do and that I am grateful that I had the privilege of knowing him even though it was for a short time. He taught me how to be happy again after I thought I never would.
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 17, 2017 at 9:50 pm

That’s good..if just one email is all you need to do to move on, send it..
Mathilda

October 6, 2017 at 7:35 am

I don’t need a phycologists. I used to have one of those after I got out of my parents care and into the foster system. They helped me for two years but then the therapy stopped. The only main reason I started cutting again was because about two months ago I was walking around in town and I ran into someone from my past. He looked at me and smiled. I ran away and burst into tears because after 8 years half way accross the country and he still found me. I wasn’t afraid for me because I know how to handle him but I was afraid for my friends and my boyfriend. I pushed all of them away to protect them. I haven’t seen that guy from my past again so maybe my friends will be safe. I started rectifying things with some of them because those that know about most of my past understood. But I have no idea how to explain to my ex that I pushed him away to protect him. I hurt him to protect him from that man. We all have issues…some of our issues come back to haunt us. I wanted to explain to him why I pushed him away and when he gave me the chance I didn’t take it. I told him about the minor things instead of telling him that the guy who locked me up and raped and sexually abused me every day for 2-3 years was back and that man has threatened the people I love before. Distancing myself and making everyone hate me felt like the best option. I immediately regretted it and tried to fix things. I want to tell him everything but I don’t think he even reads my texts and I have no way of seeing him and most importantly I am scared that it’ll be to much for him to handle and he’ll turn tail and run. I regretted cutting myself the minute I had done it, but I hate myself for having to make the man that I love hate me to protect him and now he won’t even talk to me. Just pls help me. I don’t know what to do and I have no one left to ask.
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 8, 2017 at 9:09 pm

It’s ok if it’s not a psychologist.. Having a licensed therapist or counselor is better because they know you personally and they can see your progress..we can’t.. The only other advises I can give you next to it, is to send an email to your ex or leave a letter and have your own life , love and respect yourself and to focus in improving yourself..
And most importantly, go to the police and ask them what you can do protect yourself and your family
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 5, 2017 at 7:37 am

Hi Mathilda,

Stop cutting yourself.We’re not the right people to advise you right now because it would be better if you get professional help from a licensed counselor or psychologist..

Liz

September 28, 2017 at 10:49 pm

Hello
My ex and I broke up over a month ago. I did no contact and during that time he got a new girlfriend. After a month, I texted him and received nothing. Help?

Liz

October 4, 2017 at 2:39 am

He left for a different country in August for abroad (where he met the new flame)
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 4, 2017 at 12:23 pm

Ah, why not social media apps like gb messenger? Try it, after a week or two
Liz

October 3, 2017 at 6:17 pm

I would say I was pretty active in posting pictures and looking happy! Meanwhile, I found out during NC they were dating only 2 weeks after we split. We ended on bad terms and then 3 days after I went into NC they began the relationship. I stuck with NC till the end and sent out a light-friendly email about a good memory we shared. No response.
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 3, 2017 at 10:14 pm

Why did you use email instead of text?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 29, 2017 at 8:55 pm

Hi Liz,

How much did you improve and how active werr you in posting during nc and now? When did they meet and what was the text you sent?

Anne

August 25, 2017 at 9:42 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago after being together for six months and knowing each other for one year. I went through a job loss during this time so it ruined my self esteem and confidence that he was attracted originally. We remained friends on social media, but he never called or texted once breaking up. I practiced NC for 7 weeks and then texted him a very short text “Hello, just wanted to say hi. Hope you are well!” He replied engaging and asking two questions. I then replied without any questions. He replied to that text and didn’t ask anymore questions. He is very respected in the business world so I’m sure he doesn’t want to burn any bridges. I haven’t heard from him since. I have been regularly posting on social media vacation pics, being out happy with friends etc. It’s been two months since the breakup and i still really want him back. There is a chance he is already in a new relationship. Is there any hope of getting him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 26, 2017 at 12:53 pm

Hi Anne

if you’re trying to build rapport, choose a different kind of text and initiate more. One text is not going to do it. check this one:
Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules)

Anny

August 21, 2017 at 3:17 pm

i told him to make a break,he begged me not to do and the next day he broke up with me for the exact same reasons i told to him the day before.i begged him but he didnt change his mind. 2 weeks after it was his birthday and i send a typical message and i had i typical response. 1,5 month after NC he was unstoppably published posts on fb (20 in a month from1-2)i called him,he didnt respond and after 10 minutes published another post. for another 1,5 we published things like spoillers for our relashionship. then he made to cant show me his future posts n fb (new update on fb) and i contact him from another phone to apologise for 2 things and he was very angry with me.(after 3 months from break up).2days after he posted sth that show that he respected that move and then deleted.i went for holidays and posted it on fb and then some hours later he deactivated his account. i tried to connact with him with 3 calls and to messages and no response in 2 weeks. it is a long distance relatioship for about 1 year.(we have broke up again before in the 1st month of our relathionship for 1,5month).please help. 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 22, 2017 at 9:50 pm

Hi Anny,

Restart nc, do at least 45 days and do it properly.. Be active in improving yourself, be active in posting but don’t post things literally to tease him.. read this ones to know how to do the no contact rule properly and what to do after it.

How To Make It Through No Contact Period

What To Do After The No Contact Period

Zeeland82

August 1, 2017 at 6:15 am

Just sent 1st text after 34 days Nc. No response,….NO RESPONSE! I’m totally freaking out. I think he’s still mad from the messy breakup, thanks to his friends who make it public. Literally! Idk what to think right now…

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 1, 2017 at 5:09 pm

How much did you improve and how active were you in posting during nc?

Lauren

May 20, 2017 at 11:16 am

I had been dating for two months when I noticed him starting to pull back. Then one day he told me he needed some time to himself. This is what I got out of it when he explained how he was feeling: He feels like he’s not in the best place in his life. he’s totally consumed with becoming a better person, the perfect version of himself. He’s also not over his ex that left him over a year ago and still is deviated by it. He started having dreams about her again and as a result he feels like he can’t give me the attention and love I deserve and feels guilty about it. I understood and told him to take his time thinking that he would get back to me like he promised. Over the next month and a half progressively started to ignore me and blow me off more and more. I got scared and started gnatting. I finally decided to end things with him and sent him a break up text and when he didn’t read or reply to it I called him twice and left a voicemail, which he never replied to and I assume never listened to. After that I initiated NC. It’s been a week of NC so far and I was wondering how long it should last? We both got out of classes for the summer (we go to college together) and I have a class with him in the fall. I was thinking of Doing NC over the summer, so my other question is how I would I go about breaking NC when I see him in the fall?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 22, 2017 at 5:45 pm

The longest we recommend is 45 days.. if that’s within the vacation, that means you have to initiate communication to slowly build rapport.

Lauren

May 20, 2017 at 11:11 am

I had been dating my ex for two months when I noticed him starting to pull back. Then one day he told me he needed some time to himself. This is what I got out of it when he explained how he was feeling: He feels like he’s not in the best place in his life. he’s totally consumed with becoming a better person, the perfect version of himself. He’s also not over his ex that left him over a year ago and still is deviated by it. He started having dreams about her again and as a result he feels like he can’t give me the attention and love I deserve and feels guilty about it. I understood and told him to take his time thinking that he would get back to me like he promised. Over the next month and a half he progressively started to ignore me and blow me off more and more. I got scared and started gnatting. I finally decided to end things with him and sent him a break up text and when he didn’t read or reply to. I called him twice and left a voicemail, which he never replied to and I assume never listened to. After that I initiated NC. It’s been a week of NC so far and I was wondering how long it should last? We both got out of classes for the summer (we go to college together) and I have a class with him in the fall. I was thinking of Doing NC over the summer, so my other question is how I would I go about breaking NC when I see him in the fall?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 22, 2017 at 5:45 pm

The longest we recommend is 45 days.. if that’s within the vacation, that means you have to initiate communication to slowly build rapport.

Bobby Joe

April 25, 2017 at 6:20 pm

Hello,
I could really use your help. My boyfriend and I broke up 45 days ago. I did the no contact rule and didn’t break it once. I made sure to post doing fun things on snapchat so it didn’t seem like I was still hung up on it. I wanted him to see what he was missing. I thought he was the one and he thought I was the one. He even told his parents that I was the one. We even talked about a future and we were both so excited. To my knowledge, the reason we broke up was because he was really stressed and overwhelmed with his job and he didn’t want to have to worry about pleasing anyone because he could hardly please himself. (I’ll be honest it almost seemed like he was going through depression) and me trying to help or constantly wanting to see him just drained him. He said he needed space and time but that he wanted to stay friends. For my own hearts sack, I couldn’t be friends. I still was in love with him. So, I decided…. No contact was good. My initial no contact time was going to be 30 days… I ended up making it to 44 days of no contact. Just so he could realize that I respected his space and time, also I wanted to try and make him miss me. Anyway, I had just texted him a very casual text…. Not hey or anything but asking if he remembered a time when we had went on vacation that it was pretty cool. It seemed that he read it and didn’t respond. What do I do know? I am still so much in love with him and deep down feel he is for me to…. He is just going through a rough patch – How can I get him back into my life? How can I get him back as my boyfriend? There has to be a way.

Any information and help would be beyond appreciated.
Thank You So Much!
–Bobby Joe

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 29, 2017 at 9:42 pm

did you improve yourself and were you active in posting in social media during nc? You should wait a week before trying again.

OLIVER

April 20, 2017 at 8:16 am

so I and my boyfriend broke up more than a month ago, he said I liked him too much and he didn’t like me as much as I did, he said he liked me still. On the day of break up, he told me that he would text me in the near future, he told me a story about how his brother and his ex is still talking. I don’t get his point. why would he mention that to me?
I texted him the second day after the breakup, and I sent a very emotional text, and I bombarded him on facebook messenger he read a few but didn’t read the rest, he didn’t reply, and the week after I sent him an email saying its ok that we broke up but can we still be friends, he still didn’t reply. so I stopped all contact, it’s now more than a month since the email was sent.
He hasn’t contacted me since the breakup. has he forgotten about me? I secretly used his phone before when we were dating and I can track on his dating apps, I can see that he hasn’t been online since we started to date, he is not looking for someone new, does that mean we still have a chance? should I really just give up on him? should i wait for him to contact me in the near future?
I honestly think that the breakup reason was so lamb and nothing too serious, and I really like him, we had amazing times. SHOULD I TEXT HIM NOW?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 26, 2017 at 1:57 pm

if the past month was not focused in improving yourself and in being active in postinf, restart nc.. if you did that, initiate contact and slowly build rapport

Tammyz

April 20, 2017 at 5:33 am

Hi…..I was dumped in January out of the blue for whatever reason after I didn’t take a video.he says he had trust issues and it wnt work.I begged for answers but got nothing but a lame excuse I didn’t understand.surprised me how horrible and selfish people can be.he said he didn’t want to talk to me and blocked me.I left it as it was,heart broken…..again.two days ago I text him saying I ran into a few of his stuff and he came to mind.and I hoped he was good.20mins later he responded saying he was good and it’s good to hear from me.I didn’t know what to say.so only responded hours later as I busy as well.and just said it’s great to hear and I’m doing good as well.he text anything after that.I wish I could just wipe this guy of my mind as I did with my previous partner.this attachment sucks really because now I’m here wondering why didnt he text and I’m too afraid back as I may look desperate.what now?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 26, 2017 at 2:24 pm

if you didnt improve in the past months and were not active in posting in social media, do that first.. if you did slowly build rapport..check this one:
Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules)

Oliver

April 20, 2017 at 12:48 am

so I and my boyfriend broke up more than a month ago, he said I liked him too much and he didn’t like me as much as I did, he said he liked me still. On the day of break up, he told me that he would text me in the near future, he told me a story about how his brother and his ex is still talking. I don’t get his point. why would he mention that to me?

I texted him the second day after the breakup, and I sent a very emotional text, and I bombarded him on facebook messenger he read a few but didn’t read the rest, he didn’t reply, and the week after I sent him an email saying its ok that we broke up but can we still be friends, he still didn’t reply. so I stopped all contact, it’s now more than a month since the email was sent.

He hasn’t contacted me since the breakup. has he forgotten about me? I secretly used his phone before when we were dating and I can track on his dating apps, I can see that he hasn’t been online since we started to date, he is not looking for someone new, does that mean we still have a chance? should I really just give up on him? should i wait for him to contact me in the near future?

I honestly think that the breakup reason was so lamb and nothing too serious, and I really like him, we had amazing times. Is he just trying to be tough for his ego?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 26, 2017 at 1:57 pm

if the past month was not focused in improving yourself and in being active in postinf, restart nc.. if you did that, initiate contact and slowly build rapport

Denisha

April 19, 2017 at 2:28 am

What to do when you would double text and now he’s not responding at all. I did 30 NC before and it worked he was saying how much he had missed and we were talking just fine and all of a sudden he started to not respond and i became sort of a text gnat texting more than once. What I should I do now?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 25, 2017 at 6:19 pm

Rest from initiating for at least a week

D

April 15, 2017 at 6:49 am

I did NC for 3 months. And I texted him asking how he has been doing..he said he was out at the moment and would text me back but its been 12 hours. I can see he is online but not texting me. I feel like I lost my power and broken. What do I do

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 16, 2017 at 11:41 am

Use an interesting topic in your next text..Hi, hello and how are you texts are not good first contact text because it’s not interesting.

Nancy

March 31, 2017 at 7:52 pm

I ended things with this guy I’ve been dating, over text. He was out partying when we haven’t spoken for 2 days after I told him I was upset and needed to talk to him. After the NC rule, I texted him a ‘supportive’ message, as he has a big event coming up that he’s been working on for months.

He replied 2 minutes later, saying: “Thanks nancy. That’s so nice of you”. While his reply was fast, it felt cold and formal. Should I just move on and forget about him? Or was his response a good thing in disguise? What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

April 2, 2017 at 2:48 pm

Hi Nancy,

he’s being nice.. leaning to a positive.. after that, send an ending text.. and then initiate again after 3 days

Karen

March 31, 2017 at 3:20 am

He haven’t contact me while nocontact. So after the no contact, I texted him ask a question about a place we spent time and I enjoy. Then he respond me quick and said he enjoy that day too 🙂 and answer my question. How I can respond? Because I dont know how to respond, after 2 texts. I said Thank you and have a good day and he said’ yeah, you too.’
So is it a good sign or not? Did he get over me so act like a friend or?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 31, 2017 at 9:19 pm

Hi Karen,

that’s the right response.. end the conversation.. Initiate again after 3 days and end it at high point

Kevin

March 30, 2017 at 5:51 am

So I’ve completed 32 days of no contact. He never reached out to me during the no contact and blocked all my social media. On the 3rd week, he unblocked my instagram for 2 days and was actively looking at my instagram stories then blocked me again. (I showed that I was happy and out with friends on my stories.)

Fast forward to last night. I messaged him for the first time since no contact. My text saaid “I saw something crazily amazing yesterday night and couldn’t help but think of you”. He only read it and didn’t reply.

My question is, how long should I wait until I initiate contact again? Is he still angry at me? Before I went no contact he did tell me to stay away from his life.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 30, 2017 at 6:32 pm

Hi Kevin,

wait a week.. I dont think he’s still angry because he checked on you.

Synthia

March 29, 2017 at 2:02 am

I went No contact for almost 60 days ( recommended for on-again, off-again)
I texted him.
He replied positively. ( I’m so happy to know you are well).
I texted right away in very emotional way knowing he moved in with someone else, I was heart broken.
He ignored.
I turned into text gnat!! : (
He keeps ignoring me.
I messed up big time 🙁
Did I lose him forever?

Synthia

March 29, 2017 at 7:56 pm

Isn’t there anything I can still do?!!
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 30, 2017 at 4:19 pm

you can still try, but for me it has to be the last and since you did 60 days before, this time you can’t nbe angry and emotional and you have to double your effort in making it seem like you’re moving on.. send a clean slate message.. apologize and tell him he’s right, you understand and you’re moving on and then do nc for 45 days
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 29, 2017 at 2:09 pm

Hi Synthia,

yes, honestly it’s a really small chance after that.

Rachelle

March 25, 2017 at 12:13 pm

After 4 years, I walked away from my boyfriend and went home 5 weeks ago because he was speaking to me disrespectfully and wouldn’t stop even after I asked. I heard nothing from him during the following week. He gets angry and withdrawals. A week later I reached out to him via text “I’m sorry for my part of the argument.” And he simply replied back texts like “what? does that mean?”. So I sent him a break up text “I don’t want to be with someone who wont try to work things out after an argument”. It’s been a month with no communication. We used to text all day everyday ☹️ We were planning a family. We were planning on marrying. I’m confused as to whom is doing no contact- is it me who should reach out after a month of no contact or take his silence as he has given up on us. Not sure if it’s better to just give up on him and move away or if there is still a chance for us. What does one do if he doesn’t reach out at all? Social media: I don’t have any except SnapChat with my girlfriends. I’m a private person

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 26, 2017 at 1:20 pm

Hi Rachelle,

if you didn’t improve yourself and weren’t active in posting, that’s not a no contact period. Do that first.You dont have to add him, but add mutual friends.. at least twice a week of posting is ok..

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