I figured we would switch gears for this particular podcast episode and answer one of the most asked questions that I get, almost on a daily basis and that is why does my ex view my Snapchat and Instagram stories?
So in this particular episode I’m going to answer many different questions.
- How often do exes watch via social media after a breakup?
- Does it mean anything when they view your Snapchat and Instagram stories?
- When it does mean something.
- the reasons for why an ex will view your Snapchat and Instagram stories.
- And finally how you should be using Snapchat and Instagram throughout the process that we’ve created?
But before we actually start worrying about social media and how to handle it and what it means and if it means something, you need to figure out a starting point with how to handle your breakup. Right?
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Breakups can make us feel many different things.
Some people want to get their exes back immediately. Some people don’t want anything to do with their exes. If you’re in that sort of crossroads, I’ve got great news for you. I’ve put together a special resource, a quiz designed to tell you what kind of chance you have of getting your ex back. So you can make a determination on if you should be trying to get them back or if you should be trying to move on if that’s what you want to do.
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So take the quiz on my website to help determine what you should be doing and it will give you the best next steps for how to approach your particular situation.
Now, there’s many different ways to find out how to take the quiz.
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With that out of way, let’s start talking about why exes view Snapchat and Instagram stories.
And probably the easiest or best way to approach this situation is by tackling the question, how often do exes watch you via all social media platforms after a breakup?
How Often Will Exes Watch You Via All Social Media Platforms?
And contrary to popular belief, it’s actually the social norm.
I’ve done research on this with my own clients and research backs me up. There was actually one very, very fascinating study done by a graduate student that found that over 88% of people after a breakup will Facebook stalk their exes.
Now, Facebook stalking is not so much a thing anymore because there’s so many privacy features on Facebook nowadays. But what’s important is the intent of the behavior. There’s a need, an inherent obsessive, addictive quality to watching what your ex is up to via social media, spying on your ex via social media, and before you sit there and think, well, my ex blocked me. Well my ex wouldn’t care about things like that.
I can personally attest to so many stories I’ve heard of exes going to mutual friends and using their social media profiles to spy on what you’re up to.
So, and it also really makes sense when you’re looking at it from the lens of viewing Snapchat and Instagram stories. If your ex hasn’t blocked you or unfollowed you, then your stories are more likely to show up in his feed. And if that happens, it’s only natural for him to want to watch it. I mean, I would. So this is actually why so many exes will block or unfollow you to begin with.
They can’t stand the constant reminders of your presence. So they actually sit there and block you to A, stop thinking about you, and stop feeling the pain that is associated with the breakup. So it’s important to understand that this social norm, it’s normal, but does it mean anything? And if so, what does it mean?
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Take the quizDoes An Ex Viewing Your Snapchat And Instagram Stories Mean Anything?
So in my opinion, it doesn’t really mean much.
You can quote it, you can put that in bold lettering.
“In my opinion, nine times out of ten it doesn’t mean much.”
There is one singular exception when you’re looking at Snapchat and Instagram stories. But before I talk about that, let’s talk about why I believe it doesn’t mean too much. People read way too much into this and it doesn’t always have to mean something. So I always view an ex watching your Snapchat or Instagram stories as normal behavior, since it is a normal behavior.
So the only difference with Snapchat and Instagram is that it gives you the ability to directly see who’s viewing your stories. Right? This isn’t really possible with a website or app like Facebook or Twitter. Maybe there is, Twitter. I’m not really sure. I’m not real well versed in Twitter. I don’t know how many people really use Twitter for dating. I mean, I’m sure it exists, but most times they won’t let you see who’s watching your stories or your feeds or your post or viewing your profile. This isn’t LinkedIn, right?
So what’s interesting about it is because Snapchat and Instagram gives you the ability to view someone’s stories and make them aware of that fact, it’s getting a light shone onto it.
And it sort of creates all of these questions on if it means something and what does it mean? But ultimately it’s just a difference of visibility, right? The normal behavior we know, close to 90% of people will spy on their exes after a breakup.
They have many different ways of doing this.
Some people use Snapchat and Instagram, some people use Facebook, some people use any other dating apps or WhatsApp or things that they’re sort of looking at after the breakup. Or was the norm throughout their relationship.
But when you take that behavior, the only difference between Snapchat and Instagram and a website like Facebook or an app like Facebook is that it just gives you visibility on who’s spying on you. Right? Facebook doesn’t do that.
So I mean your ex could be spying on you through Facebook just as much, but since it doesn’t give you the ability to see if they’re spying on you or not, you would never know. But Snapchat and Instagram does. So obsessing too much about the meaning of what I consider to be a normal behavior can lead you to look extremely insecure and desperate.
Don’t be the girl that asks your ex, “Hey, why did you view my story?” It almost proves to them that you’re thinking about them and you ultimately lose your value. And I actually have a personal story to share with this.
My Embarrassing Personal Story
So when I grew up, Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, they weren’t really in existence. They didn’t exist. The big social media platform that everyone used was Myspace, which isn’t even a thing anymore. But Myspace was famous for having these profiles that you could create much like Facebook, but anytime you would go onto someone’s profile, you could also have music accompanying that profile, right.
And so when I was a high schooler, right, I wasn’t really savvy with the normal dating behaviors of today and didn’t sort of grow into the human being that I am right now. I would obsess about this anytime I would like a girl. Right. So I remember there was this one specific girl who was named Dani, right? D-A-N-I, right. She was this very, very beautiful blonde girl. And I had a huge crush on her, right. And her brother and my brother were both friends. They were both younger brothers for both of us.
And my brother one day came home from their house and said,
“Hey, so-and-so’s sister said that you look hot.”
It was the first time a girl had ever called me hot and I just, it blew my mind. So immediately I friended her on Myspace and just started sort of chatting back and forth. And what was fascinating about this was I became so addicted and obsessed about trying to win this girl that I would obsess about everything that she was posting on her wall, everything that she was posting, even from music. And I remember one specific thing.
When her and I first started talking, I was so obsessed and maybe so insecure because I had never had a girlfriend in my entire life. She ended up, like a day or two after we started talking, she ended up changing her music accompanying her Myspace profile to the Red Hot Chili Peppers song and Dani California.
Well, I took this to mean, oh my God, it has to mean something about me when in reality her name is Dani and the song is called Danny California. And she looked just sort of like some California model would. Right?
And so it made me, when I actually started approaching her about it, I said, “Hey, but you changed your music. It has to mean something related to me.”
She never talked to me again ever. I mean, that was it. Super embarrassing. So here’s my point. Don’t be that girl to your ex. You lose your value completely. Now I did mention something about, well there’s one specific situation or scenario where it does mean something if your ex is viewing your Snapchat and Instagram stories, and I’d like to talk a little bit about what that situation is.
The One Exception Where An Ex Viewing Your Snapchat Or Instagram Stories Means Something
In my opinion, the only exception when I think an ex viewing your Snapchat or Instagram stories means something is if they watch every single story that you put out over the course of like a month. Right?
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Take the quizBut I don’t think this says anything about them, like they have to have you back.
I think it says more about their addictive nature and ability to obsess about what you’re up to.
In essence, you’re winning the breakup if they’re obsessing so much that they’re watching every single thing that you put out. So now that we kind of understand, well okay, it means a little something.
They’re sort of obsessed with thinking about you, they haven’t gotten over the breakup yet. I think that’s ultimately what it says. Now that we know that, what are some of the reasons exes will view your Snapchat and Instagram stories?
Legitimate Reasons Exes View Your Snapchat Or Instagram Stories
In my opinion there’s three reasons exes will view your stories on social media.
- Curiosity
- Anger
- Habit
Let’s look at all three of those reasons and dig deeper.
Curiosity
The first one I think is pretty self explanatory. They’re curious. Curiosity, right? It’s sort of like you go through this breakup, you’ve poured your heart and soul into maybe this relationship and you’re just kind of curious to see what they’re up to. Even I, now, even my wife gets curious about what her ex is up to.
And I remember the other day I was thinking, I wonder what my old ex is up to. And of course I had blocked her and she still remains block to this point, but every once in awhile I kind of wonder what she’s up to. If she got married, if she has any kids like I did. I’d want the best for her.
I’m just a nice guy like that. My wife kind of thinks about that sometimes. How can you not? I think it’s human nature to be curious about something like this, but it’s not the only reason for why exes will view your Snapchat and Instagram stories.
Anger
The second reason is anger. Have you ever been so angry? There’s like this, when you’re obsessed and addicted to watching someone’s Snapchat and Instagram stories, you’re almost as obsessed to the feeling of anger. As weird as this sounds, some men will literally get into the habit of watching her Snapchat and Instagram stories because it makes them angry and they like to feel like they have the moral high ground, right?
I can’t tell you how often I’ve heard exes say something when they’re at complete fault for the breakup. But they like to paint themselves as the victim because their ex made them feel this certain way, and it’s their fault and they kind of like to get sort of angry.
They like to be angry for the sake of being angry.
I can also attest to doing this. There was a breakup I had where I literally would watch their posts on Facebook and get angry just because. Not sure I even have a reason or can even peel back the layers. Is that a healthy thing to do? Absolutely not. Absolutely not. But it’s also not the only reason for why an ex will view your Snapchat or Instagram stories.
Habit
There’s a third reason and that’s habit. Let’s say that you’ve opened up a Snapchat, Instagram story two or three times, right? And that curiosity just kind of keeps you coming back for more and more and more. Next thing you know, you’ve gotten into the habit of watching their stories because you can’t stop the habit essentially.
In my opinion, those are the main reasons for why exes will view your Snapchat and or Instagram stories, but how should you be using Snapchat and Instagram? Where does social media stuff like this fall in the overall process that I and my team have created? Should I say my team and I, that’s a better way of putting it. Makes me sound less important, which I like.
How Should You Be Using Your Snapchat And Instagram Stories After A Breakup?
So if you didn’t know, we are really, really trying to push this new way of looking at things. Right? And that’s always using the no contact rule. If you don’t know what the no contact rule is, hop by our website and read articles about it. Or if you bought a product or did a coaching session with me or one of my coaches, you should know what the no contact rule is. But essentially there’s three phases throughout the sort of get your ex back, or get over your ex process.
That’s before the no contact rule, during the no contact rule, and after the no contact rule. So where does social media fall or Snapchat and Instagram fall throughout the process, the overall process that we are famous for creating?
Well it’s going to fall in two areas: during no contact and after no contact.
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So you should be using social media like Snapchat and Instagram stories in a specific way during the no contact rule and after the no contact rule. So the obvious next question is, well, what is that way?
How should you be using Snapchat and Instagram stories? Well, I want you to use it as a way of determining if your ex is keeping tabs on you. Think of the technology that Snapchat and Instagram has created as a scientist would. You can perform different experiments to see what types of things your ex is watching.
You can chart them and then do more to get his addictive side working. Right. This is especially important for people who want to get their exes back, who want to stay relevant during a no contact rule when they’re so worried of an ex not remembering who they are. Which is an irrational fear to begin with because you just went through a breakup and you’re doing a no contact rule. They’re not going to forget you in 30 days. Right.
But if you’re worried, one way that you can sort of stay in touch with them indirectly is by using Snapchat and Instagram and posting stories, just to see if they are watching those stories. And what’s interesting is I’ve actually had people in our private Facebook support group who do this, who literally use Snapchat and Instagram as a way, as a litmus test of figuring out what things their ex is interested in.
Maybe they make their story about one thing, they chart to see if he watches and then they do the same thing with a different topic, chart to see if he watches. And if they start to notice patterns developing, hey, he always seems to watch when I’m doing sort of some makeup tutorial or something like that. Or he always seems to watch when I’m doing one of those vlog type situations. I don’t know what you should be using your Instagram stories are.
I’m sure we can come up with specific things you can do.
But ultimately you should use Snapchat and Instagram as a way of charting your ex’s behavior to see what’s getting him to obsess, right. And then making more of that type of content so that you can indirectly stay in touch with him during the no contact rule.
You can also do this after the no contact rule to constantly be on his mind. So ultimately that, in my opinion, is the deal with Snapchat and Instagram stories.
Krystal
September 8, 2022 at 2:43 am
Hi,
My ex broke up with me August 10. We last spoke pleasantly on the 17. Then I ended up mailing him a letter confronting him that probably arrived on the 26 or 27 (after finding out shocking info about his female “best friend” that I believe triggered our breakup. In short- she asked him to marry her during a mental breakdown, knowing he had a partner (me). She said they couldn’t be friends anymore if he didn’t marry her. He has told me several times over the past 3 years that he is not romantically interested in her.
Anyway, he finally sent me a negative, ugly text for “closure” on September 5. I did not reply. I posted an Instagram/Facebook story that same day and noticed that he had viewed it. We do not follow each other and see not friends on either platform. The next day (Tuesday) I posted another story about being at the beach, he also viewed that one. Then I received a Snapchat from him a few hours later. I have not opened it yet. He has accused me of Facebook stalking him during a past breakup in 2020, so I’m surprised he is viewing my stories as we are not friends or following each other and he knows I can see that he viewed it.
I’m trying to stick with no contact, but I’m not even sure what day it technically would have started. Really curious what the snap message is, but I am on vacation and I’m almost anxious to view it, worried it may be something hateful or upsetting and will ruin the healing/recovery that I’m struggling through. We have seared 5 times in the past 3 years- he always asks me to be his girlfriend after I usually reach out as a friend. Then he has broken up with me every time. I think this program would suggest moving on as he has wasted so much of my time and the reasons for leaving seem to be the same every time (we are too different, he didn’t like my mild political views, religious, physical, mental health- anything you can think of, he ends up criticizing even when I know we are not drastically different) but they also fluctuate from the positive things he always says about me at the beginning and for the first 2-3 months that he likes me. I suspect he is a narcissist, but he is in therapy for anger and other issues.
I think it’s odd that he is going to my page and viewing my stories after the hateful text he sent in which it seems he is largely defending himself and also criticizing me by telling me all of the things he doesn’t like and why he doesn’t want to give me what I need or want. Any insight? Maybe he’s just angry, but he’s also very prideful so I’m surprised he would even look.
Coach Shaunna Nicol
September 8, 2022 at 8:40 pm
Hi Krystal, your ex sounds as if he is a DA, this would mean that he would begin to miss you and place you on a pedestal where he thinks you are this amazing person, then when he has you back he starts picking at your faults to justify him distancing himself from you (ending the relationship). The other woman in question is possibly a factor too as she clearly wants more than friendship to be proposing to him. Do not open the snap message while following NC.
I would suggest that you follow a 45 day NC at the minimum, and during that time, as I tell my clients during their coaching sessions is the time to be completely selfish. You do not think, consider or allow him to take up the space in your mind during this time. Right now this is for you, what do YOU want. I would ask my coaching clients to take some time to generate a list of what they want to achieve in their life outside of relationships, a list of what they desire in a partner and a romantic relationship. This time is for you so use it to be sure that you are creating and living a life you love and are happy with.
Renee
August 14, 2022 at 10:39 am
My ex bf dumped me about a month ago. I unfollowed him on Instagram but he still follows me and is usually the first person to view my Snapchat and Instagram stories. He also liked a photo on my Instagram that I posted a week ago. We haven’t spoken since we’ve broken up. What does this mean?
Coach Shaunna Nicol
August 15, 2022 at 7:58 pm
Hi Renee, there is not much to go on to tell you much other than he is observing you.
Jemima
August 10, 2022 at 4:25 pm
My ex is still friends with me on Facebook and watches my stories. He also found my tik tok page and looked at my page every single day (a numerous amount of times a day) for 2 weeks until he suddenly blocked me. Just to clarify, we weren’t following each other on there and his username wasn’t his actual name (it was some gamers name) so I don’t know if he knew that I knew it was him or if he thought I thought it was a random stalker, but before I had tik tok he had sent me a couple of his videos, hence how I knew it was him. Anyways, I posted a video about green flags, he’d seen my profile 3 times that day until I posted that and then suddenly he blocked me, why do you think that is? Did he get offended? Is he trying to break his stalking habit? Do you think he knows that I know it’s him?
Coach Shaunna Nicol
September 5, 2022 at 6:37 pm
Hi Jemima, I would say that his reaction to block you would have been either he realised that you could see his posts, or that you could see he was checking yours and wanted to stop. Or that something he had seen has upset him.
Annie Rosser
April 21, 2021 at 12:37 am
I’m not sure if NC will work in my case. We only went out for just under two weeks but he asked me to be his gf after just one date. Then he ended it saying he didn’t want to be in a relationship. I know he is watching my WhatsApp stories. But he won’t answer any of my texts because we had a big row and I had a go at him for wasting my time and told him not to try and come back. I keep pining for him though as he really was my perfect guy in so many ways. And I miss him terribly. I just don’t know what to do now or if I even have a shot at getting him back. He originally said he was in two minds about the break up but because I was pushing to keep in contact and discuss it he seemed to go the other way very quickly. Now he’s gone back to online dating sites even though he originally said he wouldn’t 🙁 I was so upset when I found his profiles. I think he was hoping I wouldn’t find them so I would keep on waiting for him 🙁
Aza
April 12, 2021 at 9:11 am
Hello,
Does sending Snapchats to ex break No Contact? I’m not opening his snaps, since I had started the NC (April 4th), just send mine to keep the snapstreaks and show him that I’m not hurting or whatever. I don’t post on Facebook and I don’t use Instagram, so it’s the only Social Media I can use to show that I have “moved on” and don’t care about the breakup. I’m working on becoming an UG and I think that I’m doing pretty good job working on myself, my mindset is way more positive, am happier, often go out and all. I still want him back, but now he doesn’t even want to talk to me.. Will all of this work? Please give me some advice of what should I do.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 21, 2021 at 9:02 pm
Hi Aza, yes opening snapchats is breaking no contact. You are supposed to not have ANY contact with your ex for the solid 30/45 days… It only works if you read and follow the advice.
HeartbrokenF
February 28, 2021 at 9:26 pm
Hi,
My ex dumped me almost 5 months ago after a wonderful 8 month relationship. I was and still am, madly in love with him however I became needy I believe and he lost attraction. I was in no contact for 10 days and had to reach out for a favour..we stayed in pretty regular contact that was positive on the whole from November – end of December. Replies from my ex were dwindling and I felt losing value (value chain went from text to gaming and voice chatting) plus I felt I was getting too hung up on replies. I last messaged him NYE.
I have been in no contact ever since. I noticed last week that he has had a girl loving his new profile pic on Facebook and he has loved hers in return, so I suspect they are dating and potentially have been since January. The day after his profile pic change, I changed mine and changed my privacy so only friends could see likes/comments. I noticed that he then did the same, later that day..so concluded that he must have checked up on my profile and as a reaction, did the same to his as I had.
Prior to finding out he was dating, I was getting ready to reach out and text. Does him checking my social media whilst dating someone new mean anything and should I extend no contact due up finding this out (I’ve been in NC for 58 days now – which I know was a long time) I’m not sure what to do!
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
March 9, 2021 at 10:06 pm
Hey HB so you still need to reach out after 45 days of solid NC if you want to try follow this program, if he is on dating sites thats fine – it does not change the program steps.
Katherine
February 23, 2021 at 8:53 pm
Does watching Instagram stories count as breaking no contact?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
February 25, 2021 at 10:12 pm
Hey Katherine, yes this does break the NC rules
Sarah
January 29, 2021 at 3:07 am
Hi,
I’ve tried the NC, but unfortunately found social media too tempting to keep myself dedicated to the rule. I’ve now deactivated both of the social media platforms that myself and my ex used to stay in touch.
Is it likely that he’ll notice?
We’ve broke up this time last year and he reached out late last year, and only at the start of this month did I acknowledge his reaching out- I wasn’t mentally ready to speak to him as I was unfortunately still suffering from the break up- will this affect my chances? I’ve read the EBR program and nothing touches on it and it’s making me somewhat anxious.
Thank you in advance.
Sarah
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
February 3, 2021 at 9:48 pm
Hi Sarah, it is good that you have taken the steps so that you follow the no contact rule correctly this time around, be sure that you also work on your holy trinity and being Ungettable during this time.
Lauren
December 1, 2020 at 4:32 pm
My ex blocked me a few months ago after an argument and called me some hurtful names. He has now unblocked me and likes my post and watches my stories.What could this mean?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
December 2, 2020 at 5:14 pm
It means that he is no longer angry with your or at the situation
Ben
November 17, 2020 at 3:31 pm
My ex never watched my stories during the relationship because she said she didn’t like them. Now she watches them very often. Is there any significance
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
November 18, 2020 at 8:18 pm
She is likely just wanting to see what is going on in your life – this is her window. Use it how you will
Stephanie
August 4, 2020 at 10:04 pm
My ex gf blocked me after I reached out to her best friend to let him know that it had nothing to do with him but a boundary issue for me because I felt i wasn’t able to post freely with him as a friend. He immediately ran and told my ex gf that I messaged him. Prior to the my ex was looking at my snap stories and instragram stories off and on and we had access to each other. She has since blocked me on IG and removed me from snapchat. But after she deleted me on IG my friend noticed that she put up on her IG story a saying “I want you back but imma shutup and let the universe decide i’m tired.” Tired of what? I have been giving her her space and I was the one who kept the relationship afloat. It was me putting 100% effort into fixing us, not her.
Selena
June 25, 2020 at 7:10 pm
Hello!
I broke up with my boyfriend five months ago but we were still hanging out a few times. A few weeks ago, he said that he still could not forgive me for what I did to him even though sometimes we were talking happily like nothing happened. I tried my best to rebuild his trust. And then suddenly, he brought back the old stuff, my mistakes, said that he still could not get rid of those bad memories. He blocked me but then unblock me again a few days later and we did talk a little bit. Then, we haven’t talked for a week right now but I noticed that he always login into my Facebook every day because he knows my password.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
June 27, 2020 at 9:14 pm
Hey Selena, so first thing you need to do – CHANGE YOUR PASSWORD! Then you need to start following your No Contact rule for at least 30 days
J
June 14, 2020 at 12:27 pm
We broke up a few days ago and I asked him if he wanted us to remove each other on social media and he said no. Since then, he’s looked at every single Instagram story I’ve put up, and he never ever posts on his own Instagram or Snapchat story but he shared an Instagram story today at 6 in the morning of him from a party, and checked my story in the early hours of the morning. Last time we broke up for a week (in April), he did the same, posting a Snapchat story of him drinking, and watching every single one of my Instagram stories, private Instagram stories, and Snapchat stories. He also has started posting more frequently on his Facebook, something he did last time he ended things. I feel like this means something and I’m really struggling not to reach out to him.
Elizabeth
May 22, 2020 at 2:13 am
My ex bf broke up with me less than a week ago and right after the break up I hid our photos on Instagram and unfollowed him (I did this for my own well being and voiced that to him). He still follows me, however, after five days of no contact he is not watching my Instagram story, as well as my friends’. He is always on social media so it would appear that he is purposely trying to avoid them?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 29, 2020 at 10:29 pm
Hi Elizabeth, if he is choosing to not to watch your videos, or your friends then maybe this is nothing personal and he is just not watching at the moment. People go through emotions after a break up regardless if they were the dumper or the dumpee. Keep to your No Contact and work your holy trinity
Limmy
May 17, 2020 at 3:35 am
Hi,
My ex and I have already broken up twice (almost a year ago), we only dated 3 months in total but it was intense. We did not end in good terms but he has started watching my FB stories since Dec, followed them religiously. Why is he still doing that? (he never did it whilst we were dating or after the break up in August last year)
FB algorithm shown he is one of my top followers, means he probs checks out my profile too.
Stille
May 5, 2020 at 12:09 am
Heyy
Why ex boyfriend made fake profiles to stalk me if he told me he doesnt believe me and doesn’t want to be together? He keep watching my every story on Instagram.
I honestly want him back but I’m confused how he act. He block me on his real profile and it’s already been 4 months.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 5, 2020 at 10:51 pm
Hi Stille how do you know it is your ex that is watching your stories? Do you have proof that it is him on the fake profile?
Carla
April 22, 2020 at 9:55 pm
Hi Chris,
Would it be an exception if he doesn’t even follow me anymore and has a girlfriend but views my stories from time to time and recently made a fake account which views me stuff almost everyday? (I know it’s him, he almost made the account a little too obvious).
Carla
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 25, 2020 at 10:15 am
Hi Carla, it would show that you are on his mind still that he went to the extreme of making a fake account to view your things – if it is him. I would say that if you want him back even though he has a gf, once you have completed a NC of 45 days reach out and start following the being there method
Md
April 1, 2020 at 1:43 am
I posted a story on my Instagram today and was shocked that someone I was seeing 9 years ago had watched it- all the way through. We’re not friends on social media either.
First of all he was the one who wanted to stop seeing each other.
But really?? I don’t understand this because I haven’t had a thought about him in years.
Wtf is this guy tryina do?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 2, 2020 at 4:22 pm
Hi MD sometimes people think about us and use social media to check what we’re doing with your lives
Tina
March 27, 2020 at 4:12 pm
Hey, my ex broke up with me four days ago and since then iam doing the no contact rule. After two days he changed his profile picture, which is one that I liked most and he deleted all of our pics on instagram. Should I delete them too? I am not sure, bc I want to talk to him why things didn’t work out he wanted to. And if I delete everything from him maybe he thinks that Iam okay with what he said.. I don’t understand his break up reasons.. Also I changed my picture on whatsapp and yesterday he asked me how I am feeling, but I didn’t answer!! What should I do with our instagrma pictures?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
March 29, 2020 at 12:31 pm
Hi Tina so do not delete photos etc, if your profile is of you both then change that to something else not of him. But do not remove anything on social media
Jax
March 9, 2020 at 12:09 pm
He ghosted me 2 days ago after we’d been dating for 3 months, I immediately went into what I was before we met, started focusing on myself again even though it hurt. I post on fb a lot and he has liked some of my posts but not all. He isn’t a big phone or social media person but he viewed my story yesterday. He hasn’t done that in a month. Not trying to think anything of it and just keep doing me but it did make me pause for thought. I have implemented no contact into this. Am I doing this correctly?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
March 12, 2020 at 11:29 pm
Hey Jax it sound as if you are doing great keep going with your No Contact and if you want you ex back you can learn about the texts that Chris suggests to break the ice