Today, I’m going to attempt to teach you what your actual chances of getting back together with your ex after a breakup are.
This is a question that I personally receive more than anything.
There’s always some variation to it, whether it’s,
“Hey, what kind of chance do I have of getting my ex back,”
“Hey, do you think I have a chance?”
Well, this presentation is meant to answer those questions.
A Quick Word Before We Get Started
If you want to fast forward and get a really quick idea of where you’re standing with your ex, I would actually recommend that you not watch this video, or finish listening to my podcast. Instead, I’d recommend that you go here and take the special quiz I’ve put together there for you.
It’s a simple two minute quiz that will teach you what kind of chance you have of getting your ex back by asking you all sorts of questions about your breakup, what your relationship was like before the breakup, and it is one of the things I’m most proud of.
We run your answers through an advanced algorithm that will spit out one of four types of answers.
Let’s get started.
Creating A Baseline
I figured the smartest place to start was to create a baseline by looking at what the standard chances that anyone who is going through a breakup would have?
I did this by looking through the internet and through the historical documents that I have saved over the years and identifying four very legitimate studies on breakups.
But what defines legitimacy?
Well, oftentimes, these are going to be big type brands, whether that’s Associated Press or accredited universities.
I’m looking for actual legitimacy behind the numbers, so that we can actually create a baseline.
Then, we can compare how my strategies work as I will tell you about some of the experiences that I have had coaching and teaching people.
Here are the four studies that we will be using to create our “baseline.”
- WE-TV Associated Press Breakup Study
- University of Texas Study
- Kansas State University Study
- Study from The Journal of Adolescent Research
Let’s take a minute to look at what each of these four studies said about breakups and your overall chances of getting back together with your ex.
1. WE-TV Associated Press Breakup Study
The first big accredited source that I would like to talk to you about today is the Associated Press.
A few years ago, the Associated Press came out with a really interesting poll that they did on the WE-TV channel. I believe the WE-TV channel used the Associated Press to poll their subscribers and ask them all kinds of questions about exes.
One of the questions that they asked was, “Hey, how often have you ever tried to get back together with an ex?”
Over 2,000 were polled, and 41% of people admitted that they have, at one point of their lives, tried to get back together with an ex.
41% Of People Admitted They Have Tried To Get Back Together With An Ex.
2. University of Texas Study
The second one is actually a study that comes out of the University of Texas.
A woman, or professor, by the name of Rene Dailey found that when she studied over the course of maybe a year, all the college breakups that were going on in the University of Texas, she found that 65% of those relationships ended up getting back together.
Now, I actually think the reason it seems so high because, to me, 65% of getting your ex back seems kind of high, and I think the reason why that’s high is because this is only focused on university students.
It’s not focused on the world abroad, if you catch my drift.
65% of University of Texas college breakups tried to get back together
3. Kansas State University Study
The third study that we’re going to be using to build our baseline comes out of the Kansas State University Research Department.
A woman by the name of Amber Vennum found that 37% of couples that were living together in Kansas State University ended up getting back together again.
37% of couples who live together tried to get back together
So far we have three baselines.
We have 41%, 65%, which I explained the reasons why I think that’s a little bit high, and 37%.
But there’s only one more study that I trust and think is legitimate enough to use to create our standard benchmark.
4. Study From Journal of Adolescent Research
There is a study that came out of the Journal of Adolescent Research that found that 50% of people actually tried to rekindle a broken relationship, and 57% tried to have sex with their ex.
I think there’s an important distinction to make here before we go any further. This number isn’t based on 50% of couples actually get back together.
No, we’re talking about people in general, and the intent of wanting to get back together.
50% Of People Tried To Rekindle and 57% Tried To Have Sex With Their Ex.
Coming Up With The Baseline
When you take those four legitimate studies and average them all together, you’re looking at roughly 48.25% chance that your ex may want you back at some point in the future.
48.25% Of Individuals Want Their Exes Back After A Breakup According To Research
Now, I do want to point out that this number is based on other research, so do not expect your results to perfectly align with this, especially if you’re using the strategies that I’m going to teach because now we’re going to do something really fun, we’re going to put me on the hot seat and figure out what my results look like.
How do my results compare?
How Our Results Compare
In 2018, me and my wife took on a total of just 10 clients.
Now, we don’t take on clients very often because when we take on clients, we like to look at it as a three to four month process where we’re giving our undivided attention to this one person.
Well, out of the 10 people that we worked with all of last year, seven of them ended up getting their exes back. Though, it really should be eight because one ex asked for one of my clients back and she said no, so I’m not technically going to count that.
7 Out of 10 Of Our High End Clients Got Their Ex Back
Now, I want to take a minute to really talk about what sets us apart because, when you’re looking at 7 out of 10, again, that’s not a huge sample size, right, because we’re giving our undivided attention to these people with our high-end coaching, and many times, these people are paying us over thousands of dollars throughout the course of all of the coaching sessions that they do with us.
But what sets us apart, because, when you’re looking at a standard benchmark of 48.25%, and you’re looking at some of the results we’re able to get when we put all of our full force behind someone’s situation, you’re looking at an almost 20% difference there.
What creates that 20% difference and how can we use that for your personal situation to help you out to get you to see great results?
The Benefits Our High End Coaching Clients Have That You Don’t
Well, I want to start off by saying that these results are not typical.
Look, these 10 people had the benefit of a lot of extra attention through;
- Facebook Messenger
- Phone calls
- More than one coaching session with either me or my wife.
Usually, when they would have a question on the fly, we would be there to answer them.
Not all of our product purchasers or customers get this kind of attention.
This is really high level coaching.
You cannot expect your results to be the level that I’m talking about here without some of these kind of things happening.
We also did not count if they stayed together as part of their success.
An Unfortunate Drawback To Reuniting
This is one of those unfortunate things that no one talks about, and a lot of other gurus sweep under the rug. Roughly around half the people who end up getting back together break up again, and that is exactly what we saw.
Out of the seven people who ended up getting their exes back, three of them ended up breaking up again.
So, a lot of what you need to understand is, it’s not just about trying to get your ex back.
It’s about trying to get your ex back and having a long-lasting relationship, and that’s something that a lot of people really struggle to get.
The Big Takeaways
What are the big takeaways here?
Well, the big takeaway so far from everything that we’ve talked about are the success rates that you can expect to get, right?
The standard benchmark between success rates that you can really expect to get throughout the course of your attempt to try to get your ex back ranges anywhere from between 37% to 65%, though, I will say, we have been blessed in the fact that our success rate is actually significantly higher than the average for a lot of different reasons that I’m going to get to in a moment.
Also, it really seems important that you have a very strong game plan, because if you do have a strong game plan, it can significantly increase your chances of success. Again, there are no guarantees to getting your ex back, even a great success rate over 65% to 70% has a lot of failures to it, right?
How Did My Clients Beat The Benchmark?
What are some of the things that our clients did to see these kind of incredible results?
Well, the first thing is that they were high end coaching clients, right, so they got a lot of extra attention.
Oftentimes, most of the people who want to see results will buy our program, right?
But sometimes it takes more than just buying the program, which, ironically, is the number two thing that I’ve seen a lot of success rates do.
They actually buy our program, but they just don’t buy it, they know it inside and out.
When you pair the fact that, look, they’ve got a grounded knowledge of what they’re supposed to be doing to see success, and they’re high end coaching clients of us, so that we’re giving a lot of our undivided attention to their situations, they’re getting a lot of extra attention through Facebook, email, Skype, just getting on the phone with them, answering their questions on the fly, they’ve got all of that going for them, and they’re actually really active in our private Facebook support group.
If you didn’t know, we actually have a special thing that we actually let all of our Ex Boyfriend Recover PRO Purchasers into our private Facebook support group.
This is kind of a special service that we give where we connect all of the people going through breakups to each other, so that they can ask questions of each other and also see how difficult this process is on other people. But it really creates a really cool community.
You have other people that are taking photos to make their exes jealous, for example, and they’re saying like, “Hey, anyone can use this photo,” so we have like a huge accumulation of photos in this group where you can like take a photo that someone else took and use it for your situation.
You’re also going to see people who are trying to, let’s say, get their ex to respond to them through text messages, you can see what some of the more successful text messages look like. Anytime you’re having a tough day, you can just come in and say, “Look, I’m having a tough day, can you guys help me out? What should I do in the situation?”
Because we can’t be everywhere all the time, me, my wife, Anna who’s another one of our coaches, all of us cannot be together to help you out every single second of the day. Well, the private Facebook support group is kind of our version of creating a resource for you that can do that.
Finally, the number four thing that I’ve seen a lot of our clients do to see incredible kind of results is that when they coached with us, we actually acted as a force to hold them accountable. A lot of times, there’s a couple of things that you need to understand about seeing success. There’s the implementation aspect of it and the understanding aspect of it. Usually, people are good at one thing. It’s the people who are good at both things, or at least create an environment that makes them good at both things, that they actually start to see incredible successes.
You can see, there’s a lot that goes into upping your chances from the standard baseline, and even then, there are not guarantees. But we like to think that we do a really good job of helping you guys do that.