The Top 10 Signs Your Ex Boyfriend Is Over You

Every woman that’s ever been through a split reaches a point where she’s not sure if it’s time to move forward or not. What makes it so difficult is that it’s impossible to know whether your ex is going to decide they want your relationship back in the next minute or tomorrow or next week. But why am I telling you? You know this already. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here reading this article. Right?

What Makes it So Difficult?

What keeps us from knowing when enough is enough?

Yeah, that’s right. I said us. I’ve been there more times than you’d imagine. And I assure you that, when I was younger, “when to say when” was something eluded me. I held onto hope for reconciliation a lot longer than I ever should have.

I’ve heard a lot of people talk about the advice they would give themselves when they were younger. And I’m telling you now, I wish I knew then what I know now.

Lucky for you, I may not be able to Marty McFly myself back to torch my entire wardrobe from 2001 and tell myself not to try and even out my bangs an hour before work, but I CAN do is let you in on the lessons that come with having insight into the male psyche. At least then, you can benefit from everything I’ve learned even if high school me can’t go back and stop myself from that… cringeworthy gothic phase.

So, when exactly is when? How do you know when it is?

Well, a lot of the time after a breakup is spent imagining what it would be like if there was a knock on your door only to reveal your groveling and begging you to come back. This kind of thinking that creates blind spots. Your brain will literally reject anything that doesn’t support that train of thought.

In order to recognize the signs that your ex is over you, you have to become your own best friend.

Yes, I guess you could take that to mean that you need to do what is best for you, which is true. But, what I really want you to take away from what I said is that you need to look at your situation from the outside.

Do you ever do crosswords or Sudoku or jigsaw puzzles?

It’s frustrating when you get stuck. Right?

I was a bit of a nerd when I was younger. I’m sure you have noticed. I did competitive crosswords with my grandmother. We were quite the team. We could finish a puzzle in record time. My mother and I did jigsaw puzzles. She taught me to always sort out the edges and do them first to expedite the process.

Now, normally, people see crosswords, Sudoku, and jigsaw puzzles as a boring way to spend their time. But, brain puzzles are a great way to distract and unwind. And the way our family does them they can almost be considered competitive. I said almost. It’s not as crazy as say… Monopoly. I mean, tables get flipped over and entire families fall apart over Park Place.

What I’m getting at with all of this is that sometimes you get stuck. You can’t figure out a seven-letter word for thug or where the puzzle piece that is a slightly grayer shade of blue sky is amidst the 5000 other pieces you’ve already been through a million times.

And when you’re stuck, your gut reaction will be to buckle down and focus so hard that solving the problem becomes almost impossible. According to my mother, and I have to wholeheartedly agree, the only way to move past something you are stuck on is to step back and give it a moment. Then, when you finally return to the problem, the key is to look at it with fresh eyes and from a new perspective.

Now, take that way of thinking and apply it to your breakup.

Whether it’s been a couple of days or a couple of weeks, if you are spending all of your freed time along with most of your not-so-free time looking for signs that your ex is coming back, then you are going to miss any signs that he’s over it.

So, I’m going to help you learn what you are looking for. I mean, you are less likely to find a puzzle piece if you don’t take a look at the picture on the box and get an idea of what it looks like. All I’m asking that you do is take a step back and look at the big picture and get a grasp on what the signs look like.

Making Things Simple

In order to make things simple, I want to lay the signs out for you as a set of guidelines to keep you from putting your entire life on hold while you’re waiting on your ex to come back. So, if you are ready to reclaim your life, we can go through them together.

And the upside is that you have an entire support group here and articles full of plenty of helpful tactics to make things work out however you want them to. And having a support group you can rely on is exponentially important.

So, let’s jump right in!

Reason #1

The number one reason to believe that your ex boyfriend might be “over it” is that he stopped trying to get in touch with you. Now, yes, he could have stumbled across our sister page Ex Girlfriend Recovery and taken on the No Contact tactic.

However, you know your ex better than most, but I will point out that men are far less likely to seek out help or accept it. So, if you know him to be the type to seek out help, then, by all means, disregard this one.

Generally, when someone is pining and they don’t have us reminding them that being needy is unappealing, they end up gnatting, or reaching out in any way possible.

So, the way to know if this is the real deal and he really is over it is whether he was sincerely reaching out before and then tapered off. This, combined with the other signs laid out here, is how you know.

Reason #2

He has stopped flaunting his happiness all over the place. Once you are over something, you don’t feel the need to prove anything to anyone.

So, you stop feeling the need to Instagram that delicious lunch you had, the fact that you had three dates this week, or that you have dropped 13 pounds since the breakup.

So, the absence of happy posts, or really posts at all, can be a sign that your ex doesn’t feel the need to flaunt his life in your face.

Reason #3

He’s left your mutual connections behind. Now, there are a few exceptions to this rule, like truly meaningful friendships.

But if he’s still hanging out with your weird cousin that you know he could hardly stand to be in the same room as, or perhaps he’s reaching out to your mother as if they were BFF’s when you know he thinks she sounds like an annoying chipmunk, then you know he’s pulling out all the stops he can to stay connected to you.

However, if he was doing all of these things and suddenly stopped, then it’s safe to assume that he’s trying to move forward with his life.

Reason #4

He’s dating again and the new flame is nothing like you. 

Everyone has been through at least one breakup, and a majority of men go for the rebound approach. You know what I mean, distract from the pain by replacing the relationship with another one as similar to the one that was lost.

Now, if he is dating someone who is nothing like you, then it’s likely that he’s at least attempting to move forward.

Reason #5

It is normal to run into your ex from time to time, especially if you share a zip code. However, if when you happen to run into each other, your ex also happens to have no reaction to your presence  Even if someone is an impeccably good actor, they can rarely hide all emotions completely.

So, if he has no problem looking you in the eye and making normal and casual conversation without looking like he’s going to wet his pants or run away, then it’s likely that you aren’t affecting him the way you did when you two were together.

Reason #6

When you do run into each other, your ex doesn’t feel the need to reminisce about the past. In circumstances where an ex continuously brings up the past, then that is a surefire sign that they are hung up on it.

How do I know?

Well, I went through a breakup last year. If you were to ask anyone I encountered following the breakup what I couldn’t go four minutes without bringing up, then they would say my ex. I would bring up random facts as if it were completely normal.

The truth was that I was trying to act like talking about him couldn’t bother me less, when, in fact, it hurt me to even think about him at the time.

Reason #7

If you do have reason to reach out, he doesn’t feel the need to respond in a timely manner. You no longer hold priority. That’s a sign that he’s got other priorities now.

Reason #8

He used to find your silly little quirks adorable, suddenly, when you happen to bump into each other, he clearly finds them grating. Basically, he’s outgrown seeing you through the rose-colored glasses of love. That’s what happens when you start to get over a relationship. In fact, this is one of the first signs that your ex is getting over it.

Reason #9

He doesn’t go out solely for the purpose of finding someone to hook up with. Let’s face it, right after a breakup, most guys start cruising bars for someone to distract them.

Reason #10

He’s stopped blaming you for the problems in the past AND any problems after the breakup. If you have ever been in a breakup in the past, then you know how hard it can be to achieve this one.It would be one of the final stages in moving on.

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How to React

Well, I’m hoping that you started reading an article about the signs that your exboyfriend is over you at least slightly prepared to entertain the possibility that he may actually be moving past the breakup. I also realize that there are some people that find themselves looking for hand-holding when they go looking on the web for help understanding. I realize that that might be the compassionate thing to do, but I would be a disservice to you if I didn’t advise you to at least consider the possibility.

So, the fewer signs he displays, the more likely it is that you can use the tactics laid out in the ExRecovery Program to get him to reconsider the relationship.

What you’re going to do is take off those rose-colored glasses and get to looking at your situation with new eyes. I know that it is the best course of action for you right now.

 

However, I will advise that, if you still care for him in any capacity and he has found a way to stop blaming you like I mentioned in #10. The reason I say this is because that is an incredibly difficult accomplishment, especially if he was invested in the relationship. A lot of the time when you blame someone for something it isn’t even because of something they did.

Sometimes it is simply to avoid admitting that you are, in some ways, culpable for the pain you are feeling, even partially. So, if someone has crossed that bridge of forgiving you, it means that they have done some serious soul-searching, which takes times, energy, and acceptance of their own short-comings. Anyone who has tried to understand matters of the heart knows that this is no easy feat. So, in saying this, I am merely asking that you taking into consideration the effort your ex would have had to put into reaching this point, not to mention the emotional strides he would have had to make.

So, if your intention is to get your exboyfriend to come crawling back to you, I ask that you remain aware of the position he is in if he is displaying some of these signs if not all of them. And in starting the No Contact period, I would suggest 30 – 45 days of No Contact, the more signs, the more time spent in No Contact.

But, I don’t want you to think that that means things are impossible. It just means that you need to decide where you priorities lie and then follow the Program without wavering. Anything is possible.

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my ex broke up with me before xmas but i was in denial and trying to fix things and we lived together. we continued to sleep together but things were tense. fast forward he came home late one night (4am) drunk and said awful things then left for good. said he went to london, but actually saw him in a bar with a girl, very into her and he wouldn’t even look at me. i made a fool of myself. we fought over text and he told me to get out of the apt. (gave me 5 days). i begged/pleased/tried… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Noel,

it would be better to move out and start nc..

noel stickels
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my ex broke up with me before xmas but i was in denial and trying to fix things and we lived together. we continued to sleep together but things were tense. fast forward he came home late one night (4am) drunk and said awful things then left for good. said he went to london, but actually saw him in a bar with a girl, very into her and he wouldn’t even look at me. i made a fool of myself. we fought over text and he told me to get out of the apt. (gave me 5 days). i begged/pleased/tried… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Noel,

it would be better to move out and start nc..

Hopeless
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I read that and we haven’t hardly spoke. Christmas Eve, he called and then on Christmas. He talked for 2 hours about what he has been up to and life. I listened and talked some. But nothing personal about us. I just don’t know. I want hope so bad! I don’t talk about the past to him. I just feel so lost and hopeless.

Hopeless
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I read that and we haven’t hardly spoke. Christmas Eve, he called and then on Christmas. He talked for 2 hours about what he has been up to and life. I listened and talked some. But nothing personal about us. I just don’t know. I want hope so bad! I don’t talk about the past to him. I just feel so lost and hopeless.

Hopeless
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EBR Team Member: Amor

December 20, 2017 at 9:11 pm

Hi Hopeless,

let’s say he has, what’s your plan?

My plan? I do not have one but so broken right now. I just pray to God. I do not know how to to what to do. Do you think he has?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

ok, then tell him you understand his deicision and you respect that he can’t forgive you now but you’re not going to keep asking for it and being friendly is not workable for now and thank him for everything and talk about co-parenting plans and check this one:
How To Get Your Ex Back When You Have A Child With Them

Hopeless
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EBR Team Member: Amor

December 20, 2017 at 9:11 pm

Hi Hopeless,

let’s say he has, what’s your plan?

My plan? I do not have one but so broken right now. I just pray to God. I do not know how to to what to do. Do you think he has?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

ok, then tell him you understand his deicision and you respect that he can’t forgive you now but you’re not going to keep asking for it and being friendly is not workable for now and thank him for everything and talk about co-parenting plans and check this one:
How To Get Your Ex Back When You Have A Child With Them

hopeless
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I was married for 20+ years. Then one weekend I messed up after 3 years of him and I talking and taking steps to divorce. After I moved out and we were divorced we seen each other for over a year. Then all the sudden he stopped coming around, calling and etc. But still ask our kids and others about me. He is not on Social Media at all. He hates that. He is a private person. He has blocked me for texts and calls. But he calls we talk for a good while. At times personal. We have 2… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hopeless,

let’s say he has, what’s your plan?

hopeless
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I was married for 20+ years. Then one weekend I messed up after 3 years of him and I talking and taking steps to divorce. After I moved out and we were divorced we seen each other for over a year. Then all the sudden he stopped coming around, calling and etc. But still ask our kids and others about me. He is not on Social Media at all. He hates that. He is a private person. He has blocked me for texts and calls. But he calls we talk for a good while. At times personal. We have 2… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hopeless,

let’s say he has, what’s your plan?

krystle
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Hi, my now ex fiancee and i have been together 4 yrs and on nov.18 2017 i came home from work and he said he couldnt do it anymore and moved out. I did get a little beedy texting him so i stopped. He wont respond most of the time now.but since we broke up he said he wants to focus on himself and getting himself happy with accomplishing something. Hes thrown himself into work day and night and no days off . he said he hasnt been in love with me since the begining of november.he said it was… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Krystle,

do you want to try the no contact rule?

krystle
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Hi, my now ex fiancee and i have been together 4 yrs and on nov.18 2017 i came home from work and he said he couldnt do it anymore and moved out. I did get a little beedy texting him so i stopped. He wont respond most of the time now.but since we broke up he said he wants to focus on himself and getting himself happy with accomplishing something. Hes thrown himself into work day and night and no days off . he said he hasnt been in love with me since the begining of november.he said it was… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Krystle,

do you want to try the no contact rule?

Sarah Hagerty
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Hi, my bf broke up with me about a month ago! We were together for 4 1/2 years! Everything was fine until he said he didn’t love me anymore! We weren’t always a happy but we had our amazing times! It’s left me devasted because he’s completely cut me off although he broke up with me. We have a mutual group of friends and parties to go to. I’m heartbroken and don’t know whether to pursue him or let fate takes it course?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Why not try the no contact rule?

Sarah Hagerty
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Hi, my bf broke up with me about a month ago! We were together for 4 1/2 years! Everything was fine until he said he didn’t love me anymore! We weren’t always a happy but we had our amazing times! It’s left me devasted because he’s completely cut me off although he broke up with me. We have a mutual group of friends and parties to go to. I’m heartbroken and don’t know whether to pursue him or let fate takes it course?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Why not try the no contact rule?

Astrid
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My situation is a trust breaker but doesn’t fall into the categories outlined. I was dating a co-worker who is very reserved, quiet and shy. To make a long story short, we became very close and I was the first person he told about a serious issue he has which prevented him from dating. When the relationship went sour due to his fear of getting close, being hurt (he hadn’t dated in a certain amount of years) and his problem – I felt lead on and hurt. I tried remaining friends but he started avoiding me. I ended up venting… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Nc is the right way to give him time..he’s just emotional..focus in improving yourself

Abigail
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Hi, This might have nothing to do with the article but I’m devastated like most of us in here. I’ll try to make a long story short. My ex-fiancé and I were high school sweethearts. We were together for 7 years. We never broke up and we’re inseparable. It was all perfect and everyone would gush over our relationship. 3 years into our relationship he got into a real bad car accident that left him with a broken back, shoulder, and partially paralyzed stomach. He lost a lot of opportunities (full ride to college on a football scholarship and his… Read more »
Astrid
Guest
My situation is a trust breaker but doesn’t fall into the categories outlined. I was dating a co-worker who is very reserved, quiet and shy. To make a long story short, we became very close and I was the first person he told about a serious issue he has which prevented him from dating. When the relationship went sour due to his fear of getting close, being hurt (he hadn’t dated in a certain amount of years) and his problem – I felt lead on and hurt. I tried remaining friends but he started avoiding me. I ended up venting… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Nc is the right way to give him time..he’s just emotional..focus in improving yourself

Abigail
Guest
Hi, This might have nothing to do with the article but I’m devastated like most of us in here. I’ll try to make a long story short. My ex-fiancé and I were high school sweethearts. We were together for 7 years. We never broke up and we’re inseparable. It was all perfect and everyone would gush over our relationship. 3 years into our relationship he got into a real bad car accident that left him with a broken back, shoulder, and partially paralyzed stomach. He lost a lot of opportunities (full ride to college on a football scholarship and his… Read more »
Jessica J
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Sorry if I posted this twice. Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months . (On and off )Broke up the 26th because for 3 weeks before then I’ve been very emotional and confused, I kept breaking up with him every like 4 days and then would come right back the next day .& just kept starting arguments between us , I think it was because I was upset about something I found out and month ago and was holding it in and it finally started bothering me . Finally on that day he said he’s tried of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

do no contact to heal and improve.. if after no contact you want to build rapport go ahead while continuing to improve yourself.. if it doesn’t work, move on

J
Guest

How long should I do no contact ? Is 21 days long enough ?

Jessica j
Guest

How long should I do no contact ?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

do at least 30 days

Alessia
Guest
Hi, I need advice on what to do regarding my ex because we are in a very tough situation. Me and him met in high school and dated for a total of about 1 1/2 years. We were very compatible and really become each others best friends. Although we did fight frequently during our relationship it was always just over stupid things and these things never actually felt threatening to us staying together. Also during the time we dated we went through some really tough times together and if anything they made our bond closer. Currently we’ve been broken up… Read more »
Alessia
Guest
Thank you so much! I found these 2 articles very helpfully only question now is that if I create myself into the “ungetable girl” how do I get him to actually see that? Like I mentioned even though will be home in the same place we don’t do the same activities or have common places wed have to see each other. The only way I feel like he’d get to see the new and improved me (besides accidentally running into each other) would be to actually make plans to see each other. He’s barely ever reached out to me since… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you have to be active in posting in social media. If you’re blocked or unfriended, make the posts public

Alessia
Guest

Okay so just to clarify it wouldn’t be a good idea to reach out to him? I should just do the social media thing and wait for him to make a presence…right?

Thanks so much by the way this has all been really helpful!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yes, set a limit until when you would wait for him to initiate

Alessia
Guest
Hi you were really helpful with the advise you gave me above! I have been home back in the same place as my ex for almost a week and I’ve been trying to post pictures of myself a lot more on social media to be the “ungetable girl”. A situation has arose and I’m not sure what to do about it and I feel like it could possible have a big impact on everything. A few weeks ago with summer break coming I applied for summer jobs at a ton of places. I applied to where my ex works kind… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

don’t ask him if it’s alright to work there.. unless he owns the company… check this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Alessia
Guest
okay so I just show up one day and start working there?…wont that shock him since we haven’t talked in months and then one day I just randomly show up at his work? I really just want to get him back. If if comes down to it Id much rather just look for a different job if taking this one could hurt my chances for getting back together with him. Do you think taking this job and working with him is a bad idea? I really just want to do what will give me the best chance of getting him… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you have to set your priorities.. if you can find a different job do so, but if this is the only job and you already got it, he should’t be running your life.. if you have to set him aside the first day, or text him to clear out do so..

Jessica J
Guest
Sorry if I posted this twice. Me and my boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months . (On and off )Broke up the 26th because for 3 weeks before then I’ve been very emotional and confused, I kept breaking up with him every like 4 days and then would come right back the next day .& just kept starting arguments between us , I think it was because I was upset about something I found out and month ago and was holding it in and it finally started bothering me . Finally on that day he said he’s tried of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

do no contact to heal and improve.. if after no contact you want to build rapport go ahead while continuing to improve yourself.. if it doesn’t work, move on

J
Guest

How long should I do no contact ? Is 21 days long enough ?

Jessica j
Guest

How long should I do no contact ?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

do at least 30 days

Alessia
Guest
Hi, I need advice on what to do regarding my ex because we are in a very tough situation. Me and him met in high school and dated for a total of about 1 1/2 years. We were very compatible and really become each others best friends. Although we did fight frequently during our relationship it was always just over stupid things and these things never actually felt threatening to us staying together. Also during the time we dated we went through some really tough times together and if anything they made our bond closer. Currently we’ve been broken up… Read more »
Alessia
Guest
Thank you so much! I found these 2 articles very helpfully only question now is that if I create myself into the “ungetable girl” how do I get him to actually see that? Like I mentioned even though will be home in the same place we don’t do the same activities or have common places wed have to see each other. The only way I feel like he’d get to see the new and improved me (besides accidentally running into each other) would be to actually make plans to see each other. He’s barely ever reached out to me since… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you have to be active in posting in social media. If you’re blocked or unfriended, make the posts public

Alessia
Guest

Okay so just to clarify it wouldn’t be a good idea to reach out to him? I should just do the social media thing and wait for him to make a presence…right?

Thanks so much by the way this has all been really helpful!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yes, set a limit until when you would wait for him to initiate

Alessia
Guest
Hi you were really helpful with the advise you gave me above! I have been home back in the same place as my ex for almost a week and I’ve been trying to post pictures of myself a lot more on social media to be the “ungetable girl”. A situation has arose and I’m not sure what to do about it and I feel like it could possible have a big impact on everything. A few weeks ago with summer break coming I applied for summer jobs at a ton of places. I applied to where my ex works kind… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

don’t ask him if it’s alright to work there.. unless he owns the company… check this one:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

Alessia
Guest
okay so I just show up one day and start working there?…wont that shock him since we haven’t talked in months and then one day I just randomly show up at his work? I really just want to get him back. If if comes down to it Id much rather just look for a different job if taking this one could hurt my chances for getting back together with him. Do you think taking this job and working with him is a bad idea? I really just want to do what will give me the best chance of getting him… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you have to set your priorities.. if you can find a different job do so, but if this is the only job and you already got it, he should’t be running your life.. if you have to set him aside the first day, or text him to clear out do so..

Phoebe
Guest
Hi Amor, My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago, he said he wants to be alone, missed being single, thinks our relationship is like a chore now. I was blindsided and took it in without really knowing what made him decide this decision. I called him a few hours later asking him to work it out, trying to acknowledge my wrongdoings and apologzed for them, he said he knows I have a timeline (for getting married) and that he said he doesn’t really know if that’s what he wants and that I should respect his decision. A week… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

did you went in the party?

Phoebe
Guest
Hi Amor, My ex broke up with me 4 weeks ago, he said he wants to be alone, missed being single, thinks our relationship is like a chore now. I was blindsided and took it in without really knowing what made him decide this decision. I called him a few hours later asking him to work it out, trying to acknowledge my wrongdoings and apologzed for them, he said he knows I have a timeline (for getting married) and that he said he doesn’t really know if that’s what he wants and that I should respect his decision. A week… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

did you went in the party?

Saron
Guest
Hi! Just want to know your opinion. I’ve been doing no contact for 20 days. He is the most emotional man I’ve ever dated – very sensitive about things normal people wouldn’t react to. When we were arguing during the time leading to the breakup, I told him that I understood we had some differences and that our relationship will only succeed if we both make an effort to make it work – he had a tendency to just always be the victim and never take responsibility for our misunderstandings. I asked him if he wanted to try again and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s ok even if you only have 3 mutual friends, just keep being active in social media..check this one:
EBR 048: My Ex Boyfriend Unfriended Me On Facebook…. What Does It Mean?

Saron
Guest
Hi! Just want to know your opinion. I’ve been doing no contact for 20 days. He is the most emotional man I’ve ever dated – very sensitive about things normal people wouldn’t react to. When we were arguing during the time leading to the breakup, I told him that I understood we had some differences and that our relationship will only succeed if we both make an effort to make it work – he had a tendency to just always be the victim and never take responsibility for our misunderstandings. I asked him if he wanted to try again and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s ok even if you only have 3 mutual friends, just keep being active in social media..check this one:
EBR 048: My Ex Boyfriend Unfriended Me On Facebook…. What Does It Mean?

Unknown
Guest
Dear Amor, please help me decipher my ex’s behavior: – It was a very messy breakup. His reasons were because all my fault, and that we always fight + different mindset. We had a fight during the breakup. He verbally + mentally abused me. And not until we ended it completely did he tell me that he couldn’t face me, he regret choosing me because he felt like he always hurt me, that he doesn’t deserve my love. I still don’t understand, he broke up with me because of me or because his insecurity? – He said he have no… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

he sounds like he’s fed up.. just keep posting and improving yourself.. avoid social media stalking him..

Erika
Guest
Hi Amor I’ve been following your advice for almost 2 years since I broke up with my ex. (we only dated a couple of months, an broke up after a weekend away as “he realised he couldn’t do a serious relationship just now”, and had commitments to the two kids he was looking after (they have both nearly left home this year and are 18 and 21). I Did the no contact got his interest back, shut my mouth and not nag about our relationship. But when is enough? so we see each other every couple of weeks to catch… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s normal because you’re hoping but you’re friendzoned.. that’s just it. YOu need to move on if you want more than that and if he says he wants to get back with you, don’t be easy. Let him prove it first.

Unknown
Guest
Dear Amor, please help me decipher my ex’s behavior: – It was a very messy breakup. His reasons were because all my fault, and that we always fight + different mindset. We had a fight during the breakup. He verbally + mentally abused me. And not until we ended it completely did he tell me that he couldn’t face me, he regret choosing me because he felt like he always hurt me, that he doesn’t deserve my love. I still don’t understand, he broke up with me because of me or because his insecurity? – He said he have no… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

he sounds like he’s fed up.. just keep posting and improving yourself.. avoid social media stalking him..

Erika
Guest
Hi Amor I’ve been following your advice for almost 2 years since I broke up with my ex. (we only dated a couple of months, an broke up after a weekend away as “he realised he couldn’t do a serious relationship just now”, and had commitments to the two kids he was looking after (they have both nearly left home this year and are 18 and 21). I Did the no contact got his interest back, shut my mouth and not nag about our relationship. But when is enough? so we see each other every couple of weeks to catch… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

that’s normal because you’re hoping but you’re friendzoned.. that’s just it. YOu need to move on if you want more than that and if he says he wants to get back with you, don’t be easy. Let him prove it first.

Rachel
Guest
Hi there! My ex boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago and made a pretty big mess of it all but after a few bumps and giving each other space and no contact, in the end after he reached out to me again, we remained very close and friendly, he lives in another country so the closer we got to our goodbye after 2 years together we probably became more sentimental. We even started telling each other we wanted to end up together later in life, he brought it up once and so did I and he said… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

try a 30 day nc, be active,post in social media..use it for yourself.. so that you can reflect on if you still want to build rapport after nc

Rachel
Guest
Hi there! My ex boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago and made a pretty big mess of it all but after a few bumps and giving each other space and no contact, in the end after he reached out to me again, we remained very close and friendly, he lives in another country so the closer we got to our goodbye after 2 years together we probably became more sentimental. We even started telling each other we wanted to end up together later in life, he brought it up once and so did I and he said… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

try a 30 day nc, be active,post in social media..use it for yourself.. so that you can reflect on if you still want to build rapport after nc

Lizzy
Guest
Hello! What to do if your ex seems to move on and get over you fine? He dumped me suddenly after convincing me everything would be fine between us a few days before When I asked about us Because lately we would be dysfunctional and he was a bit harsh sometimes in the end, but it could switch between sweet and sour. We was about to move in and come visit that week. We were in a LDR. Then something, Maybe a irritation at the moment perhaps, or things that ha maybe had thought about a long time triggered a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lizzy,

that was just a week ago? Nobody moves on in just a week.. Either he started moving on before breaking up with you or he just said that out of emotions.. Stick to nc, be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media.

Lizzy
Guest
Thank you for the reply Amor! That’s the thing, I think that maybe he had these thoughts of breaking up for a longer period.. we had some problems at the end But he always ignored them and assured me we would do fine and that it would begome better when he moved in. So he led me on in that way, and then suddenly switched after that last dysfunctional joke/conversation. Like he had enough and had made up his mind or something. Not sure. But I know lately he had trouble in his life. He is going to court in… Read more »
Lizzy
Guest
Hello! What to do if your ex seems to move on and get over you fine? He dumped me suddenly after convincing me everything would be fine between us a few days before When I asked about us Because lately we would be dysfunctional and he was a bit harsh sometimes in the end, but it could switch between sweet and sour. We was about to move in and come visit that week. We were in a LDR. Then something, Maybe a irritation at the moment perhaps, or things that ha maybe had thought about a long time triggered a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lizzy,

that was just a week ago? Nobody moves on in just a week.. Either he started moving on before breaking up with you or he just said that out of emotions.. Stick to nc, be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media.

Lizzy
Guest
Thank you for the reply Amor! That’s the thing, I think that maybe he had these thoughts of breaking up for a longer period.. we had some problems at the end But he always ignored them and assured me we would do fine and that it would begome better when he moved in. So he led me on in that way, and then suddenly switched after that last dysfunctional joke/conversation. Like he had enough and had made up his mind or something. Not sure. But I know lately he had trouble in his life. He is going to court in… Read more »
Alexis
Guest

Hi my boyfriend of 13 years broke up with me last Friday and I havent heard from him at all. I know that he has been spending time with a girl that he had a crutch on sinc high school. What do I do I texted him once just saying that I respect the decision to break up but i don’t know what to do.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alexis,

do you want to do the no contact rule?

Alexis
Guest

Hi my boyfriend of 13 years broke up with me last Friday and I havent heard from him at all. I know that he has been spending time with a girl that he had a crutch on sinc high school. What do I do I texted him once just saying that I respect the decision to break up but i don’t know what to do.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alexis,

do you want to do the no contact rule?

Cece
Guest
Thank you so much for all this advice this is very help full but I think my case is a little different and I really need help coping with the pain. Weve been broken up now for a month after a year’ long relationship and well I guess I broke the no contact rule literally a week later I texted him but it was only to tel him that I wasn’t mad or hurt anymore and id like to be friends knowing that that wasnt true but I wanted him to think that I was over him. But we haven’t… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Cece,

you have to be clear first. Do you want to try or move on?

Cece
Guest
Thank you so much for all this advice this is very help full but I think my case is a little different and I really need help coping with the pain. Weve been broken up now for a month after a year’ long relationship and well I guess I broke the no contact rule literally a week later I texted him but it was only to tel him that I wasn’t mad or hurt anymore and id like to be friends knowing that that wasnt true but I wanted him to think that I was over him. But we haven’t… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Cece,

you have to be clear first. Do you want to try or move on?

Jane
Guest

Hi Amor, what does it mean when an ex no longers sees your snapchat stories and then he unfriended you ?

Jane
Guest

Hi Amor, what does it mean when an ex no longers sees your snapchat stories and then he unfriended you ?

soni
Guest

He broke up with me about a month ago.Then after 14 days I tried to apologize him and beg him not to leave me.But he told me he is not angry with me, don’t love me anymore and I should move on and should start a new life. I love him alot. What to do to get him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Soni,

do you want to try the no contact rule?

soni
Guest

He broke up with me about a month ago.Then after 14 days I tried to apologize him and beg him not to leave me.But he told me he is not angry with me, don’t love me anymore and I should move on and should start a new life. I love him alot. What to do to get him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Soni,

do you want to try the no contact rule?

CT
Guest
Hi there, I wanted to ask what your thoughts are about my situation. My boyfriend and I, of 3 years recently broke up. His decision, basically because he didn’t want to spend time with me anymore (“would rather be alone”), he wasn’t overly happy with me, and it’s pretty much because we argued a lot. Little arguments, but there were plenty of them, and sometimes, immaturely, I would tell him that we shouldn’t be together (which I obviously stopped doing and would take it back right after…. but I know, screams UNSTABLE/EMOTIONAL). I am only 23, I am learning and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi CT,

I erased your previous comments..do bc for yourself not more for him
do at least 30 and start the count after this..be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media

CT
Guest
Hi there, I wanted to ask what your thoughts are about my situation. My boyfriend and I, of 3 years recently broke up. His decision, basically because he didn’t want to spend time with me anymore (“would rather be alone”), he wasn’t overly happy with me, and it’s pretty much because we argued a lot. Little arguments, but there were plenty of them, and sometimes, immaturely, I would tell him that we shouldn’t be together (which I obviously stopped doing and would take it back right after…. but I know, screams UNSTABLE/EMOTIONAL). I am only 23, I am learning and… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi CT,

I erased your previous comments..do bc for yourself not more for him
do at least 30 and start the count after this..be active in improving yourself and in posting in social media

Cara
Guest

Hi again , Can Chris do an article on what it means if your ex apologizes?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

thanks Cara! I’ll forward this

Cara
Guest
Hi, so does it mean he’s over me if he recently texted me to apologize? Most of these points kind of apply BUT he did text to apologize . Does that mean he’s trying to get closure for himself? An experienced friend of mine says men don’t need closure that he’s laying the groundwork for maybe seeing me again . We’ve been in prolonged no contact for various reasons. Long story short, I called him out 6 months ago by text on something wrong he did (going to an ex friend of mine to essentially spy on me if I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Cara,

if he monitors you in social media, that means he’s not totally over you..

Cara
Guest

Hi again , Can Chris do an article on what it means if your ex apologizes?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

thanks Cara! I’ll forward this

Cara
Guest
Hi, so does it mean he’s over me if he recently texted me to apologize? Most of these points kind of apply BUT he did text to apologize . Does that mean he’s trying to get closure for himself? An experienced friend of mine says men don’t need closure that he’s laying the groundwork for maybe seeing me again . We’ve been in prolonged no contact for various reasons. Long story short, I called him out 6 months ago by text on something wrong he did (going to an ex friend of mine to essentially spy on me if I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Cara,

if he monitors you in social media, that means he’s not totally over you..

Sarah
Guest
I did the no contact after breaking it a few times in the first weeks. Now I wrote a “cool text” and then another one that I need his help with something that was work related and asked for coffee. No response at all. we talked once about the vacation we had to cancel. He was ice cold and his voice was shaking – he said he wont talk to me for a long time, take care. Then I did the 30 days and no answer…What can I do at this point? We were 5! years together and both had… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sarah,

if you chased and broke nc many times, it would be better to do 45 days.. during this last nc, how much did you improve and how active were you in posting in social media?

Sarah
Guest
I did the no contact after breaking it a few times in the first weeks. Now I wrote a “cool text” and then another one that I need his help with something that was work related and asked for coffee. No response at all. we talked once about the vacation we had to cancel. He was ice cold and his voice was shaking – he said he wont talk to me for a long time, take care. Then I did the 30 days and no answer…What can I do at this point? We were 5! years together and both had… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sarah,

if you chased and broke nc many times, it would be better to do 45 days.. during this last nc, how much did you improve and how active were you in posting in social media?

Sarah
Guest
I did the no contact after breaking it a few times in the first weeks. Now I wrote a “cool text” and then another one that I need his help with something that was work related and asked for coffee. No response at all. we talked once about the vacation we had to cancel. He was ice cold and his voice was shaking – he said he wont talk to me for a long time, take care. Then I did the 30 days and no answer…What can I do at this point? We were 5! years together and both had… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sarah,

if you chased and broke nc many times, it would be better to do 45 days.. during this last nc, how much did you improve and how active were you in posting in social media?

Sarah
Guest
I did the no contact after breaking it a few times in the first weeks. Now I wrote a “cool text” and then another one that I need his help with something that was work related and asked for coffee. No response at all. we talked once about the vacation we had to cancel. He was ice cold and his voice was shaking – he said he wont talk to me for a long time, take care. Then I did the 30 days and no answer…What can I do at this point? We were 5! years together and both had… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sarah,

if you chased and broke nc many times, it would be better to do 45 days.. during this last nc, how much did you improve and how active were you in posting in social media?

Wendy
Guest
Hi. I broke up with my BF and read the signs you described above. Some of them fit, others don’t so I am not sure how to react. He stopped initiating all contact but noticed he placed a question on the EX GF recovery site saying he was trying to do no contact to get me back but it wasn’t working. Then asking for advice. When I did initiate he always answered very quickly and responded most of the time. On one or two occasions he didn’t but then I followed up later and he would write back. Our text… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Wendy,

if he asked for advice in exbgf, that means he wants you bacm

Wendy
Guest
Hi. I broke up with my BF and read the signs you described above. Some of them fit, others don’t so I am not sure how to react. He stopped initiating all contact but noticed he placed a question on the EX GF recovery site saying he was trying to do no contact to get me back but it wasn’t working. Then asking for advice. When I did initiate he always answered very quickly and responded most of the time. On one or two occasions he didn’t but then I followed up later and he would write back. Our text… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Wendy,

if he asked for advice in exbgf, that means he wants you bacm