By Chris Seiter

We live in the age of speed. Never before have we been able to get the answers to our questions so quickly. So, it makes sense that you would almost expect that there would be a quick way to get your ex back.

According to Google there are 1,430,000,000 pieces of content out there that seem to cover the elusive topic of getting an ex back quickly.

And yet you want to know what all of these pieces of content have in common?

They don’t really answer the query. The people who go to Google to find out the fastest way they can get their ex back are sorely disappointed when they are greeted with articles that simply try to push them to buy a product or give the barest amount of information that really doesn’t tell them anything of value.

I plan to remedy that problem.

I plan on writing an epic article on the quickest way to get your ex back.

But first, in order to do that I need to talk about a big misconception I see out there.

The Misconception Of Getting An Ex Back Quickly 

Above I mentioned the fact that we live in an age where people expect answers quickly.

The same can be said about results.

I’ve been doing this for over half a decade now and the one thing that continually strikes me is how people fall prey to the “quick results” scams out there.

You know what I’m talking about.

“Everyone has seen that one “guru” talking about how you can get your ex back easily in a week if you just buy this one thing….”

And therein lies the main thing I’m going to have to get you past.

I need you to shift your paradigm.

Oh, and in case you were wondering,

Paradigm = a typical example or pattern of something; a model.

Basically I want you to shift your way of thinking on this for a moment.

You see, your currently belief system has you thinking that it’s possible to get an ex back in a week. That’s what my peers will have you believe and I’ll concede that it is possible in some cases.

But those cases are rare.

And most likely, from a statistical standpoint, you aren’t in that type of a situation.

However, since you’ve seen it is possible to get an ex back very quickly like that you hold everything to that standard.

To you, getting an ex back quick is the same as getting an ex back in a week.

This is the pattern that your brain has developed.

It’s also wrong.

Changing Your Paradigm

I’m a big fan of philosophy and history.

I believe you can learn a lot about the human condition by spending some time studying these areas.

So, with that in mind I’d like to tell you a story that combines both principles.

Plato was one of the greatest philosophers who ever lived. I don’t think anyone can doubt that. However, what if I were to tell you that he made a major mistake in one of his thoughts.

Plato’s Mistake

The morning was just like any other.

Plato woke up, crust still in his eyes and let out a yawn.

“I don’t want to get up” he thought to himself.

And yet the day called to him. Grudgingly, he rose and was immediately struck with interest by this big yellow ball in the sky that seemed to rise in the east and set in the west.

No one knew a lot about our sun in those days but Plato had a theory.

You see, he believed our planet revolved around our sun,

This was a revolutionary theory back in the day and it soon became the predominant one. After all, it makes sense that this big yellow hot thing in the sky that rose in the east and set in the west was revolving around our planet.

But as we all know now, it was a mistake.

You see, Plato’s paradigm was flawed. He didn’t take into account the fact that it was actually our planet that rotated around the sun.

And this is kind of the problem I see so many of my clients in today.

You see, to me if you get an ex back in 1 – 3 months you have gotten them back fast. However, they look at that like a failure because their paradigm has them believing that 1 week is fast and when you compare 1 week to 2 months things look a bit lopsided.

That’s why in order for this to work I need you to shift your paradigm.

I need to reorder your way of thinking on what is fast to get your ex back.

But before we even touch on that I’d first like to explain a pretty basic concept that I have seen proven time and time again.

Getting Your Ex Back Quickly And Your Chances

As a general rule of thumb the more quickly you try to get your ex back the worse your chances are of succeeding.

However, the opposite is also true as well. The longer you wait to try to get your ex back the worse your chances are of succeeding.

Here, I put together a quick graphic to explain this concept for you.

Now, I want to point out that everyones situation is unique and not everyones graph will look this way. But generally this is the arc that you can expect most “graphs” too look like.

There’s a few things I want you to take note of.

Notice how there is a very clear plateau line,

This is the point where I find most reconnections happen. In other words, this is the point where most of our success stories come.

How Long Does It Take For Your Chances To Plateau?

This is a common question that we get from our readers after they have taken the “Ex Recovery Chances Quiz” and my answer is always the same.

It depends on the situation.

Some people can get their exes back in a matter of weeks while for other it takes years.

In my experience with coaching individuals I tend to err on the side of caution.

So, when that inevitable, “how long is this going to take?,” question comes I end up telling people,

If this is done right expect this process to take anywhere from 6 months to a year.

And even then there are no guarantees.

But lets just use these numbers as how long the basic plateau point is going to last.

* I want to make note that this “plateau point” operates under the assumption that you are following our program. After all, I am basing all of my data on clients and customers.

It’s important for you to look at the plateau as the point at which your chances maximize. In other words, your chances aren’t going to go any higher so that is the ideal time to do the “big stuff.”

Are you with me so far?

Ya?

Good!

Now it’s time to change your paradigm.

How To Get Your Ex Back Quickly

When someone says to you,

“Hey, I am going to teach you to get your ex back quickly”

You are probably thinking of specific strategies that you can implement to make this whole process go faster. Heck, I’ve even fallen into that trap before. However, experience has taught me that, that is the wrong way to approach this process.

Are you ready for your paradigm shift?

Instead of focusing on how you can get results more quickly you should be focusing on how you can move your “plateau line” up in time.

Imagine if you plateaued here instead of here,

I’ve written articles and filmed videos in the past in ignorance thinking that you could get your ex back faster but with enough data I have determined that trying to rush the process only causes you to dilute your chances.

What I’ve found to be more effective in getting results quicker boils down to one simple thing.

Discipline

Lets go back and use the graphic I used before where I first showed you the plateau point,

I based this little graph on hundreds of my success stories. In other words, the people who used my program this is how long it took them to see results typically. Now, the really interesting thing about doing things this way is that I got to know many of the people trying to get their exes back personally.

I heard about their struggles.

Experienced it with them.

Advised them along the way.

And perhaps most importantly I got to see if they executed my advice.

Most of them didn’t.

Well, actually most of them didn’t AT FIRST. What I found to be true is that most people are scared to take my advice. So, they try to do things their way at first and when they don’t see results they come back to me and try it my way.

This simple little slip in discipline is enough to prolong the process for them substantially.

How Having Faith And Discipline Can Make All The Difference In The World

I’ve been doing this for over half a decade so I have a lot of experience.

To date, close to 24 million people have visited this website,

I’ve worked one on one with hundreds of people who have gotten their exes back.

Tens of thousands of people have bought my books.

Truth be told I’m a guy with a lot of data and I use that data to do what I can to continually refine my strategies so it leads to your success.

I’m often quoted as saying that getting your ex back is an imprecise science.

And that’s how I look at this whole process.

I am a mad scientist of sorts who is doing everything in his power to turn an imprecise science into a precise one.

One of the ways in which I do this is by employing something called the socratic method.

The Socratic Method 

Above we talked about Plato so it’s only fair that we give Socrates his 15 minutes of fame within this article.

Socrates was obsessed with trying to find “the truth.” The problem is, how the heck can you know something is true?

Well, he came up with a method to understand the truth of something.

The gist goes like this,

  • You ask a question or assert a thesis (hypothesis)
  • You ask questions to determine if your question or thesis is true
  • If you find that it is true 100% of the time then you have probably arrived at the truth
  • However, if you find that is isn’t true 100% of the time you modify your hypothesis to make it true.

And on and on this cycle goes until you have exhausted every possible explanation and can arrive at your truth.

If you are still confused watch this video. It takes me a few minutes to get to it but I go much more in-depth on the socratic method.

Well, what if I told you that for the past six years this is what I have been doing.

I came up with a hypothesis on what I thought the best way to get an ex back was and then had real people test that hypothesis. When they would come back with their results I would take that information and refine my hypothesis.

After six years of doing this you had better believe that I’m confident that I offer premium advice that no one else has touched on before in this industry.

And this brings us full circle to why I believe it takes people so long to get their exes back.

They haven’t been along on the ride with me. They don’t know how much work I’ve put into this website and it’s advice.

Most likely they’ve read one article, like what I have to say and think to themselves,

Hey, I think I’m going to try that on my ex.

The problem is that reading one article isn’t going to be enough. They need to understand the whole picture of getting an ex back and they need to stick to the ideas that I’ve worked so hard to refine.

Think of it like this.

If you read my strategies and understand what I am talking about and what to do but you get distracted or you lose your discipline you really can’t master what I am teaching you.

Master my strategies and you can get your ex back faster.

Falter from them and you haven’t mastered anything.