The Male Mind During The No Contact Rule- What Is He Thinking?

4,280 thoughts on “The Male Mind During The No Contact Rule”

Vanessa

November 3, 2017 at 8:55 pm

What if ur bf about once a month asks for space for about a week then asks u back again. Hes stubborn. He said to me this week that girls like to b treated like crap and i said not this chick try it. i gave him open window and txt how do ik when a stubborn guy wants 2 c some1? No reply. So now in nc standoff…i wont loose. But when he looses do i pretend everything is fine. Last time he lost he got upset and said not to ignore him haha so i give him chance now.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 4, 2017 at 1:13 am

Hi Vanessa,

check this one:
How To Get An On Again/Off Again Boyfriend Back

Ruby

November 2, 2017 at 11:01 pm

Hello

I was hoping you’d have some insight for me.
I dated this guy for about 8 months. It started as something casual. At some point I started including him in my life, introduced him to my friends. For the most part, I was happy with what we shared. I never asked for commitment or to make things official because I was hoping he’d get there in his own time. I was naive, of course.
Two weeks ago, I asked him for support as my life is particularly stressful right now and I was barely coping. He said he had noticed I was wanting to take things to the next level and he didn’t want to give me the wrong impression that this was more than a friendship. Yes! a Friendship! So I quickly told him he’d need to get himself another friend and that we were done.
We parted ways with lots of sadness and kind words to each other. He kept saying it was hard to end something that was so great. And that I had been so good during the time we were together. But he also said he didn’t see us going much further. I was heartbroken. I still am.
I didn’t ask for anything, didn’t beg. But if there was nowhere to go then I was out. I told him I’d delete his number and not see him again.
To be honest, deep down I was hoping he’d appreciate me once I was gone. I thought, if I meant something more to him, he’d see it better if I was out of the picture. And if not, then this was the way to go regardless.
Somehow I keep finding myself going through information on how to get your ex back although he was never technically my ex. I know he wouldn’t dare to contact me now.
Do you think the amount of useful knowledge in this website and your book applies to my situation as well? I’d appreciate any insight 🙂
anyway, I’ve already learnt a lot here. Thanks for the time spent reading this. I really appreciate it.
Cheers,

Ruby

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 4, 2017 at 12:20 am

HI Ruby,

yes, you can still do no contact rule if you want.

Heather

November 1, 2017 at 4:12 pm

Adding- He is the Stubborn Guy. will the NC rule work? Will he realize what a great catch I am? Will he miss me and our daily routines/

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 1, 2017 at 9:40 pm

Hi Heather,

It’s not a guarantee it would work but it would help increase your chances. Do at least 30 days..

Heather

November 1, 2017 at 4:09 pm

Hello, I need to know what to do.

My boyfriend just broke up with me on Sunday today being Wednesday. This is so fresh and its our very 1st break up that is actually sticking. He said that he loves me and would do anything for me, but just doesn’t feel the same way anymore. My heart broke right then and there.

We have been together almost a year and a half on the 13th of this month. We met online and he lived 45 minutes away at the time. We hung out every weekend and he would come over during the week and stay the night and go to work 45 mins away in the am. It was the best feeling in the world. I knew then that he was the one for me early on. I could not bare the distance and not seeing him all the time so I started to look for new jobs closer to him.

I got a new job very quickly and he insisted that me and my dogs move in with him. At three months I thought was a little fast, but I did. Rented out my house and things were going so well. New job, great guy, potential future . I was in heaven. Then around Christmas things started to spiral downhill slowly, we just starting fighting more and more almost seemed like twice a month until it then became an every weekend fight. They fights only happened when he was drinking weeknights absolutely amazing.

We have had 3 vacations so far together and this past summer 3 weddings and one just last Friday. Then boom Sunday he breaks up with me.

So we are still living together now being broken up as I have no where to go since I sold my home in April and have really no family or friends in this area. I feel really alone during this time. He has been acting very distant the last three months and been sleeping on the couch every night. We were hardly intimate. I kinda had a feeling that something was off, but I didn’t think it was this.

How do I get him back? How can we be happy? I still have to live here until I can find something for me and my dogs since this is his place.I am blessed as he is not kicking me out and he said he will leave until I find a place. I don’t want to leave and I want him back. What and how do I do this.

I want him to miss me and everything that I have done for him since I moved in. I just want him to realize that I am worth the fight.

Please help…
Andrea V

October 29, 2017 at 9:25 pm

Hello, so my boyfriend and I broke up two months ago, but since we broke up I still see him every week, we intimate and everything. But we barely talk, is not like if we still dating, he says he loves me and that he doesn’t want to lose me. I stopped talking to him for a week because I was done with him and he told me we needed to talk so he told me that he loves and blah blah blah, but when I try to talk about our relationship he ignores me or tells me we will get back together but he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now, he texts me every week just to go over his place, but I’m getting tired of that, I’ll apply the NC, you think that would work?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 1, 2017 at 11:12 am

Hi Andrea v,

It’s not a guarantee that it would work. It can only increase your chances

anu

October 29, 2017 at 3:50 pm

Long distance, he stressed about financial instability, not sure if he would marry, keeping me hanging, only words less action, but a connection. He called and said he slept with someone which was unimaginable, that day iw as crazy and kept on asking about our future, he was confused. Then I just stopped tried calling one more day but he never picked and i dropped and all the best message and told him i will wait. More than 2.5 months and he has not contacted. I too have given missed call to hear his voice twice because it is difficult. Now I am clueless if it will be ever be sorted or not.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 31, 2017 at 9:37 pm

Hi Anu,
Check this one:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Ghosted You

Lauren

October 29, 2017 at 5:58 am

Hi, my name is lauren. I don’t really know what to think about my situation. My ex and I were together a year and 10 months, we’ve broken up a few times over this year. This time we had a big fight over something so small. Everything was fine that day, football game about to come on, blunt rolled beautiful Sunday. Well, I asked to get a shower with him, and out of nowhere he got a attitude and got a rude tone about himself and said “no, you took one last night. You don’t even need one!! You’re already clean!!” And in shock I was just like “what’s the problem?? All I did was want to get a shower with you! Why are you being a jerk??!!!” He went n took his shower, came in the room and I asked why he did that and why the all the sudden attitude? Told him he hurt my feelings and he just kept being such a asshole! Well things escalated quickly we started screaming at each other and he said a rude thing and I pushed him (we were on the bed and I fell on top of him) he pushed me off n he said “you got one more time n you out this house” well we kept screaming at each other and I broke the mirror, blood and glass fling and he says get out. Tells me to pack and leave, well after that his mom, my mom and his brother tried talking to him. But he kept telling them he didn’t want me to leave but turned around and told me he’s completely done with me, like move on to another person done with me. Said he wanted me gone. That 1st week I was a gnat texted, I stopped and started no contact. Well then I get screenshots from a girl and its a convo between my ex and her. Well she initiated linking up n sleeping together w him. He ended up saying fuck me, I bet you’d fuck better than my ex too, I wish I could fuck you too, it would’ve been one great fuck. This is week #2
I don’t think there’s a chance of him coming back

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 31, 2017 at 9:06 pm

Hi Lauren,
You mean he’s cheating on you?

christine

October 20, 2017 at 2:50 pm

My bf broke up with me when I was 3 months pregnant. He said bad things to me out of pressure and I think because he is somehow scared and he didnt know what to do so he blame me for everything. In response to him because Im also hurt I said some hurtful words to him like I dont want him anymore because of how he treats me but after some days I apologize to him but he seems angry and he take what i said very seriously, like i just said that because im hurt but for him its big deal. many issues came after that like I heard that he’s talking with another girl. My mistake is I believed on a stranger rather than him so my initial reaction is I got angry and said another hurtful things w/o hearing his explanation. And made him very angry and really doesnt want to fix us then i found out that all of that is not true that they’re just friends. He’s image is ruined to all our friends because of me crying to all of them with the false information. And I tried to beg him to start this over again, I defend myself that Im just being too emotional, but he is so angry. I stopped chasing but then again after 2 weeks we talked again but all is about our baby and nothing else then I begin to plead him to fix this for our baby. He said he just dont want any romantic thing between us FOR NOW (he’s kind of repeating that everytime everytime im begging for him to fix us maybe he said that just to shut me off, idk) Now we just talk about our baby but I always say to him that Im still here for him, that baby and I love him so much. He just doesnt respond about that instead he will just ask something about baby updates because Im still pregnant. This is so tiring, loving someone so much and doesnt being appreciated. I leave a message for him saying that ill give him space to think about everything, on whats really his plan for us. I just started NC for 1 week i think and he just texted me for 3 times asking about vitamins for baby, the last message he texted me is like he’s angry at me for not replying still I didnt reply. I didnt go online also. I dont know if NC will work between us. I think he’s choosing his anger rather than looking back to our good times. But I still want to give this a try and I also dont stop praying for us.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 23, 2017 at 10:41 pm

Hi Christine,

It’s ok to talk to him regarding thr baby but stop telling him that you still love him and that you’re still there for him..check this one:
Here’s How To Get Your “Baby Daddy” Back

Lettice

October 19, 2017 at 9:02 am

Hi 🙂 i would like to ask about my situation. I did 8days NC now i continue but on the day9 we call together because there was some accident while we were before breakup and police had to be coinvolved, my ex was helping me to sort out problem so after I resolved I just wanted to let him know How things are going, i wrote him messege and he called me. Does it count as breaking NC or can i count it as NC. Now its again 5 days we dont communicate so i would like to know if I can include these 9days also or I just count days after we called.
Thank you!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 22, 2017 at 7:06 pm

HI Lettice,

If you only talked about the incident with the police, then it’s not breaking nc but if you talked about each other, your relationship and your feelings then it is breaking nc..

Marie

October 14, 2017 at 3:05 am

Hi so me and my ex are 17 and the relationship had been falling apart but he still wanted to hang out and made plans to see each other and then he said something really rude and we got into an arguement and I had said maybe we shouldn’t be together but at the end of the day I said this was too important to lose and we talked it out and things were fine well that week I didn’t got to school and he said he needed time alone well after a week and I went back to school he said we should break up and he just didn’t feel the same after that arguement and I begged and pleaded but nothing three times after the break up he wanted to talk and work things out but each time I got too clingy and it’d end with we aren’t getting back together well I saw he was talking to another girl and he said it was a joke then blocked me on every social media platform I sent some mean things when I found out but now I’m doing nc and friends of his would ask about me for example one of his friends asked if I was a good kisser and he said to go find out. I’m worried that since my ex is jealous and talking to other girls that we really are over and by not saying anything he will be more unattainable

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 14, 2017 at 12:04 pm

Hi Marie,

Focus in improving yourself.. Check this one:
The Ungettable Girl

Barbara

October 11, 2017 at 8:02 pm

Hey. Me and my boyfriend broke up 2 months ago. 2 weeks after our breakup I find out I’m pregnant with his baby. My pregnancy has not been easy, so we have had some contact. But the last week the pregnancy has put me in and out of the hospital and my ex has been really been stressing me out. I asked him to leave me alone for a while and don’t write and that I would write to him when I’m ok again and feel better. So I think this means I started the no contact phase right? But he kinda knows it because I told him to leave me alone… is that alright ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 12, 2017 at 6:20 pm

HI Barbara,

kind of.. check this one:
How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If You Are Pregnant

Ann

October 4, 2017 at 1:52 pm

Hello.. I asked my BF of 1y9m for space and began NC immediately. Its because we were distant..he was stressed and withdrawing, I was stressed and needy. I said we would reconnect and hopefully reconcile.
From your post I see like my BF falls between ”caller turned ignorer” and ”stubborn” guy.. based on the fact that after a month on NC by text and he replied. But when I called, he ignored them and doesn’t return the calls. I see like he is still upset.
What’s the way forward if I want to hopefully reconnect?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 5, 2017 at 7:42 am

Hi Ann,

How active were you in improving yourself and in posting during your nc and now? If you were not active, restart nc.. And how long did you rebuild rapport through texting first before calling?

Jackie

October 2, 2017 at 7:44 pm

Hey
I was with my ex for a year. We lived together in the US, he is American I’m French. He always loved the fact that I’m international and started learnig French and wanted to move to France with me after my internship ends. I never asked him to move to an other continent but he wanted it soo badly so I was very happy. We truly and deeply loved each other, we were the perfect couple of the century, everybody loved us. A few days before my departure back home (my visa expired and had to come back to finish my school) he became depressed and freaked out. Literally, he was so stressed he picked up fights about every little things e.g. Why we have 3 types of sponges in the sink.. stupid stuff. He was crying so badly and cuddling me not wanting me to leave him even if he said he’d move here and teach English a few month after me (he needed to save some more money, sell his car etc) so he found a good English teaching class in Paris where he could get a visa etc. So everything seemed to be perfect. After I left he totally freaked out, started sending me voice messages and videos of himself, crying, listening to sad songs etc…. he was deeply depressed and guess what, after 1.5 weeks he stopped talking to me. Like he sent a message a day about stupid stuff like the weather there.. thats it for the whole day.. after a couple of days I called him( he didnt even want to call me towards the end…) and told him I think it is bad for us and asked him if he wants to break up, he said no and will call me back later. So he did, everything was ok, we talked for like an hour. The following 2 days he didnt reach out to mee.. of course I was pissed and super sad. After 2 days he tried to call me but the wifi connection was bad so we couldnt talk and he dumped me in a text message.. what an asshole!!!!! It was a super long message about us, about how much he loves and cares about me, that I”ll always have a piece of his heart and I could contact him anytime, he will be there for me etc etc bullshit bullshit bullshit but now he has to listen to his mind insted of his heart. (He knew that I could go back to the US for an other year within a few month). I replied like: hope the best for you, take care, bye. It’s been 28 days ago…. no contact and thats it. I cant believe this happened… after a week i changed my profile picture and my friend called me and told me my ex was crying and run to the mens room when he saw it at work.. a lot of people texted me since the break up about his behavior, that when he was asked how he was doing he said terrible.. and turned away. I really dont know whats going on or i dont even know if i want him after this, i lost my trust i think… i talked to his mom bc of sg i had to, i was short but she told me how much she loves me etc and still she likes my photos on fb.. its been 28 days and im not sure if he will contact me, what should I do???? Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 2, 2017 at 11:28 pm

Hi Jackie,
Check this one:
How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact

s_ds

September 27, 2017 at 4:30 pm

Hello

My ex broke up with me saying he didn’t feel the same way as before..that he wished he could change it bla bla bla.. i just told him i saw him as someone i cared a lot and thought he was someone who really was good for me and i would do anything for him but for now i need to do the same for me,and that i didnt have anything more to say. he then said again he wished i could change it and wished the best for me bla bla..i didnt replied.
he deleted all of me from social media but didnt unfollowed.
Let’s just say we were long distance for 2 months and then a month before I was on his house for a couple of days..a month later he tells me this ,saying he didnt know if it was because of the distance or because of all of the work( BS)..well.
later that day, i received a job offer to his city,i accepted.
Didn’t post anything about it,my fb and instagram were desert for 5 days until i posted i was in his city.. he sees everything i post now (instagram stories) so he knows i’m here but don’t said a word,and neither did i.
And i won’t..

What are your opinions?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 11:22 pm

HI S ds,

if you’re not going to message him because you’re moving on, it doesn’t matter if he doesn’t message you too right?

Rachael

September 23, 2017 at 2:22 am

Hi,

I bought your books using different email address (as this place is still a bit public to me) and after reading those, I would like to raise some questions.

I’ve been dated a guy for more than a year (long distance; 15 hours difference). He cared about me a lot and even helped me solve plenty of obstacles during the past few months. However, he has commitment issue because his past relationship was completely a mess. We never made it official but we contacted everyday (voice call, messages, etc) and saw each other every a few months. He admitted our “relationship” meant a lot to him but it’s hard for him to move forward as he was used to feel that girls tended to be too demanding and will push him into marriages no matter what (ex-girlfriend trauma). He’s not ready to settle down. I didn’t believe him so I pulled off at the beginning when I realized his situation. He made efforts to earn me back and did lots of works to make it work. He was nice to me and is willing to help me through a lot of troubles but when it comes to “relationship” talk, he’s not the nice person anymore.

We had an argument last month since i found out there’s more limitations than I expected (holiday celebrations/going vacations together are becoming too symbolic for him now, even though we did do some together when we first started). I cried a lot and he apologized at first but still can not make any changes. He knew i was hurt. When I tried to end our “relationship”, he said he still likes me (even though he really felt that my crying was too scared for him) but he doesn’t know what to do and he doesn’t want to say goodbye. After then I tried to continue the “talk” but he didn’t respond to my messages since he didn’t want to continue “the talk”. We stopped talking/messages since the beginning of the month; it was the first time that we didn’t contact each other on a day to day basis. A week later he left the places I live (we agreed not to see each other during that week) and he texted me like nothing happened. I didn’t reply to him because I wasn’t ready to talk to him yet, and four days later he sent me another message but nothing important as well. I didn’t respond to him ever since as I really need some time to process, to heal and to think about what to do.

My question is:
1) does the NC rule apply in my case?

2) if yes, when did the “NC” period start in my case? should it be the time we stopped talking to each other or the time he sent me the messages but i didn’t reply? I’m on 19 days of NC for the former scenario and on 12 days of NC for the latter scenario

3) I haven’t “read” or respond to any of his messages he sent. Would there make a difference between the messages showing “have read” or “have not even read” between NC period? If yes, which one should I act on?

4) I unfollowed his social media because it reminded me to think about him. Lately when I checked his account, it seems he started dating other girls based on the newly added followers (guess most of them are from online dating app). It seems like he’s moving on already (I was kind of sad at first since I am not even sure when did he start contacting with those girls…). Any recommendations, should I just give up on him or still stick to the NC?

5) I’m still not sure if I want to continue this “relationship”, if by the 30 days of NC should i still contact him even if I am not ready? I feel like I can be his friend but not sure if i can continue like nothing happened by then.

Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 27, 2017 at 8:45 pm

HI Rachel,

nc starts when you stopped initiating and replying.. If you haven’t been active in improving yourself in the past weeks, restart the count and do that first. But if you really have different values or needs, move on.

Erika

September 19, 2017 at 7:42 pm

Hi. My ex and I broke up a month ago, I immediately went to NC. When we broke up he said he wasn’t happy and hasn’t been and I told him I understand and I hope he finds someone that does. He then replied saying he doesn’t want to lose contact but I never replied, I was so mad because we had been in a lot of fights recently but I was trying my best to make it all okay. The night before we had a horrible fight by the morning of the breakup he was extremely sweet with me saying I’m his biggest pain in the head but there’s nothing he wouldn’t do for me.. hours later he told me he couldn’t do it anymore… within a week and a half he texted me asking me for my address and I had to break NC because it was to get some money back from his family (I kept it short and to the point) and then a few days later he texted me for my birthday. Which I replied all happy to. It’s been 20 days since, I haven’t messaged him at all in any way, we don’t have each other on social media anymore and I’m scared he hasn’t contacted me. His mother did text me a week ago to let me know she’s sending me the money and it was a very friendly conversation but that was all. a few days ago I posted on my IG acc (I have 2 and he only unfollowed in 1, because in one of them I’m barely active) and so I decided to post a pic on there and he liked it! I’m still doing no contact but I don’t know what to think. Is he the clueless guy? The stubborn guy? The angry guy? I have no clue.

Erika

September 19, 2017 at 7:48 pm

Additional info: we were together for about 8 months when we broke up last year but we got back after 3 months, then we were together for 5 months and he left again. This time was so much better though, the relationship itself and the break up. I haven’t begged like last time or done any of the other mistakes I did. This time I’ve been strong.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 20, 2017 at 11:24 am

HI Erika,

if you haven’t been really active in improving yourself and in posting in the past weeks, extend to two more weeks before initiating contact. Just make your posts public.

Brittney

September 9, 2017 at 12:15 pm

Ive been dating my ex bf for a little over a year while he was incarcerated. He just recently got out july 27 and started talking to other women. I put him out and started NC now of 4 days. I love him so much.
Joanna

September 8, 2017 at 5:34 pm

My boyfriend and I dated for 4 years all throughout college. After we graduated, he moved to a different state for a job while I went to grad school. We planned on doing long distance and I was totally fine with that as long as it meant one day we would be together. I drove 13 hours one weekend to move him in and everything was fine. 2 weeks into long distance (and to me it had been going pretty well so far) he calls me and says he can’t do long distance for 2 years (he was supposed to be there for work for 2 years and then come back) on top of the stress of starting a new job. I was totally blindsided by this because we had talked about the future a lot and we were both on board with doing long distance before this. So we broke up and he said lets be friends and keep in touch. a few days later i realized i didn’t want to be friends with someone who hurt me so badly. so i started no contact and starting going on dates and really enjoyed myself and liked being single. we didn’t talk for 7 weeks and then he calls me randomly and we caught up about each others lives and talked like friends. and apparently on that phone call i sounded really happy (because i actually was happy without him). so then a week after that he calls and says he’s flying back into town and wants to talk and wants to get back together. I considered it for about week but kept going back forth on if i really wanted to. It was easy when he was there in person but then when he left i didn’t feel the same way. so the more i thought about it, i realized i didn’t want to be with him right now and i was a better person now because we broke up. i am happy with who i am and realized we had a lot of problems in our relationship. he claimed he didn’t care about anything of those issues and wanted to make it work and prove to me every day that he loved me. I eventually had to tell him i didnt feel the same way about and i wasnt sure if i wanted to be with him right now (and starting over and regaining trust over long distance). i told him i needed more time to be single and figure myself out before we thought about getting back together one day. he was heartbroken but he said okay if thats what would make me happy. I went from the dumped ex girlfriend to the girl who broke his heart when he realized he made a mistake by breaking up with me. but i just don’t feel the same way he does right now. I feel so guilty and sad about hurting him even though he broke my heart when i was totally blindsided when he dumped me. I don’t want to get back together but I can’t get over this sadness and heartbreak about hurting him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 13, 2017 at 12:12 pm

Hi Joanna,

That’s normal..You’re a kind person.. But you did the right thing because it’s better to do that than to be with him and lie to him and to yourself

Nico

August 28, 2017 at 12:42 pm

Hello, I’d appreciate some advice. It has been 15 days since my bf of 2 years broke up with me by text. We had a misunderstanding (my fault) and he left angry to go away and work for a month. After I realized he was angry, I found out he was on tinder in the new place. I was calm and let him know I knew. He said he would talk but not till he was back and confirmed he was breaking up with me. So extreme since we’ve been making long term plans etc. I left it with letting him know he’s broken my heart. He immediately blocked me on social media. Since then:
– he’s been a mid- caller- emailed me about an item of mine at his house he offered to fix it and bring it round when he’s back (nothing else in the email- no emotion)
– unblocked Facebook (I never blocked him) but put settings on our photos and his posts so I’m pretty sure I am unable to see his activity
– I’ve been really limited with my social posting. Went to a gig with girlfriends, ( no pics) and just liking people’s posts. I’ve been really controlled

My questions are:
– should I reply to the email to acknowledge it?
– should I block him on social media?
– I think he is back this weekend before going away again. Should I contact him while he is here?
– yes I do want him back. I don’t believe he’s a serial cheat. I think he was acting out anger. I want to tell him I miss him. Thank you.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 28, 2017 at 7:28 pm

Hi Nico,

have that last talk when you’re both more rational.. take this time to more rational.. if he still decides to break up with, then proceed to 30 day nc..

Marie

August 21, 2017 at 7:11 am

My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. He is in the Military. We were on LDR due to him changing station to another state sometime November of 2016. When he left for a new station, I still went and visited him before Christmas. He wanted me to move to his new station and I wanted too but I have full child custody and I would need go through court processes before I could move. Story short he got stressed out about it and broke up with me on December 18, 2016 before he left for the ship overseas (deployment). I did the NC rule and he contacted me on January 12, 2017 and wanted me back so I did! He came home in May and we got back to each other though it was only a liberty port to the state I currently live. So we did the LDR and went visit him this July. We pretty had a good time like a honeymoon but after I went back home, his brand new car got wrecked then due to him getting charge of rental car, he bought another second hand car. Last time I seen him is July 16 and last night on our 37 months anniversary he broke up with me for the second time. He told me that he dont feel the same way anymore but he still loves me. He said he still wants to travel alone, he is free spirited and he dont want to be waiting until my 6 year old kid gets to his legal age until he can do all this travelling with me. He said he is not happy with his life and he on debt for what happened to his cars, etc. He also told me that many times he almost get wrecked due to texting me while he is driving. Night prior to this, he mentioned a friend he seen on FB who is already retired and enjoying himself as a single man with a new girlfriend somewhere in Asia. My boyfriend loves Asian women and for 3 years he always tell me he cant commit to what I want him to when I dont even ask for anything. He was also addicted to online dating and gets so impulsive that he tends to break up with me for few times in the past. He also mentioned about being deppressed recently this week and when I asked him its not because of us but because of his unhappiness about his job. I was always supportive to him and even when he broke up with me yesterday, I kept my composure and stayed calm. He was the one who was angry but he said not with me but to himself, how he hate being that way. He said I am the best love he ever had but he cant processed it all. He told me he was totally into our plans of having me to move to where he is currently stationed now. He made a lot of plans for us and I am also set to court processes and now he broke up with me! He immediately unfriended me on FB and IG. What do I do? Is this only his impulsiveness? Will he still change his mind and just stressed out with whats going on with his life right now? He said “I love you” when we hang up the phone and said I can always text him but I am on NC rule which I started today. Will he ever get back to me? Pls help. I need your advice.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 22, 2017 at 9:44 pm

HI Marie,

check this one:
Getting An Army, Military Or Navy Ex Boyfriend Back

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