How To Get A Long Distance Relationship Ex Boyfriend Back

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Paula

September 8, 2016 at 10:40 am

PS Re previous comment about long distant relationship with the guy I met online.

Having read the article on the Male Psychology I definitely think my ex boyfriend fits into “The Super Committed”.
He was crazy about me, said he loved me early on in the relationship. He was always spoiling me with gifts and flowers. So I understand now why he is feeling super hurt & angry. I just don’t know how to approach getting him back or how long to do NC for.
Paula

September 8, 2016 at 10:11 am

Hi Amor.

I was in a long distance relationship for 4 months with a guy I met on an online dating app. We are both early 50’s. 2 weeks ago a bouquet of flowers were delivered to my home. As my ex used to send me a lot of flowers I assumed they were from him and sent him a photo of the flowers and a message thanking him (as I always did when he sent flowers). When I opened the card I realised they weren’t from him as the card said “hope you change your mind”. They were from a guy I had a few dates with last year and I had bumped into him in a pub the night before the flowers arrived. He asked me on a date and I said that I had met someone that I really liked and that I’d been seeing him since may so there would be no date.

Of course world war 3 broke out with my ex on whatsapp and he more or less accused me of cheating. I sent a long whatsapp explaining how things had been (basically told him the truth). No reply so I sent another whatsapp saying that he obviously didnt trust me and that that was a huge issue for me, and wished him all the best. But he ignored my Whatsapps for a full week. (He finally read them 4 days ago) So 11 days ago I went into NC and haven’t broken it. I changed my profile pic on Whatsapp yesterday and then he blocked me on whatsapp. He is obviously still very angry. I don’t think I’m blocked on email and we are not friends on FB but I see he has changed his profile pic there in the last day or so. We dont have any mutual friends.

Please help me. I bought the Ex Boyfriend Pro book but it doesnt really cover my situation and I don’t want to blow my chances with him.

2 Questions:

I dont know whether to do the 14 days (as advised if you are accused of cheating) or 21days or 30 days. I’m at day 11 now.

What should my initial contact be about? Should it be light and interesting or should I go straight into evidence that I didn’t cheat. (I sent the guy a text asking him not to send me flowers again as I am in a relationship), I also deleted his no from my contacts and blocked him. I don’t have any other evidence except logic that the card says “hope you change your mind” …and not something like “thanks for a great evening”

PLEASE HELP
Ana

September 7, 2016 at 11:17 pm

Hi, so my boyfriend and I mutually ended ou 2 year LDR we started dating in highschool but began a LDR when we went off to college about 1 year in. He says he doesn’t want to lose me and wants to still be friends and is even asking to meet up with me this Sunday. I am very confused because he made it definite that we were not getting back together now (he said maybe in the future after college) but now he is doing this? I was thinking of doing No Contact but now he is asking to meet and I do not want to regret it ha. SO anyway I was wondering what could all this mean? Does he really only want to be friends? Or is there a possibility of something else? Also, should I meet with him or not?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 9, 2016 at 9:45 am

Hi Ana,
when did you break up?

J

September 7, 2016 at 5:07 pm

So how am i supposed to go about building rapport when i cant get him to start convos! im sick of starting my own convos and being the only one talking. i cannot do NC with him either..

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 8, 2016 at 3:01 pm

That means you need to rest from texting him and also, you haven’t really given him the chance to miss you because you didn’t complete no contact. Maybe he’s getting bored of talking to you now and there’s nothing to be interested anymore. And also, skipping no contact means, not improving yourself too.. Let’s say you did improve yourself while you’re talking to him, but you’re just there. You’re always present, so there’s no mystery therefore no desire. Don’t be too available.

Sandra

September 7, 2016 at 2:11 pm

Hi,
Me and my serious boyfriend dated for a year and a half and everything seemed great. I recently had to move 3 hours away for college but before I left we both seemed committed to making it work. We stayed in contact everyday but suddenly after only 1 week he calls me up and dumps me claiming the distance was just too hard and it just wasn’t the same. He told be that when I come back for break in January we can talk about having a relationship again. It’s one week later and he already seems to have moved on. Hours after our breakup he deleted everything indicating we were dating from social media and is already texting other girls regularly. I don’t understand how he completely switched his feelings since we were so close to each other. He always told me he loved me and I truly believe he did mean that while the relationship was happening all the way up to the day I left. This breakup was not only was very out of the blue but also just seemed very out of character for him in general. He’s a very sweet sensitive guy and always seemed to be super devoted to me and making the relationship work. I love him and feel like we should be together and want to use the no contact in order to try and get him back but I’m not sure if there’s even hope. What do I do?

Sandra

September 8, 2016 at 3:25 pm

Why would he delete everything indicating we were dating and start texting girls every second of his free time the day after the relationship ended? I thought he cared more then that. He’s been communicating with this other girl seemingly as friends all through our relationship and now that it’s over they’ve been communicating a ton. Did he break up with me over her? If so is there even a chance of getting back together?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 9, 2016 at 3:34 pm

he can be just doing that to make the break up easier for him..I think there’s still a chance.. make the most out of nc to improve yourself and doing new things.. show him that he made the wrong choice
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 8, 2016 at 2:07 pm

Hi Sandra,

I think he worried too much.. Use the no contact rule to make him miss you. Use this time that he will still probably miss you and do 30 days. Be active in social media and be active improving yourself.

J

September 6, 2016 at 8:58 pm

I feel like building rapport is so hard with him
Tho. I always initiate convos and if dont he wont reply back because he has nothing to say. Please help how do you build the attraction again. Ive got less than 3 months to do this!! He said hes not sure if he has feelings for me anymore because its hard to tell now. Is it over? Ik he doesnt want a ldr while hes in the army cause its too hard on both of us but we also broke up because i suffered from anxiety which took a huge toll on him mentally and stressed him oht and he wants me to work on myself and for now since hes overseas he cant keep up with a relationship etc. but we talk everyday still but i still love him but doing nc now especially when theres very lil time isnt an option. Is there any other way? How do I build this attraction when im the only one talking half the time? He doesnt seem interested.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 7, 2016 at 10:45 am

I think you rushing things and acting like the relationship has a deadline is one of the problem. First, you’re putting pressure on yourself and therefore making you anxious again.

If you don’t get back together before he goes to the army, then so be it. What matters more is what he thinks about you when he lives.

Do you want him to think that you’re forcing him in a relationship because you can’t handle it on your own? No right? That’s the last thing you want him to think because it screams responsibility on his side. You’re making him responsible for your happiness.

Alyssa

September 6, 2016 at 4:07 pm

Hi,
My ex and I broke up two weeks before she left for the military. We have had virtually no contact in almost six months until the last few weeks. It started with texting and has now moved on to both Snap Chatting and Skyping in a matter of weeks. I let her initiate the social media and Skyping since she was the one that decided to end it.
I feel like this is moving rather quickly after not having any contact for a while. What are some signs I can look for to see what her true intentions are?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 7, 2016 at 9:27 am

Hi Alyssa,
if she gives more time than usual, and if she schedules more time to talk to you those are good signs.. And if that keeps happenin, she’ll probably say what she feels later on

A

September 5, 2016 at 7:08 am

Hi,

I’m A from the Philippines. I don’t know where to start my story and which details I should include, so forgive me if this will be lengthy.

I have been going out with this guy for almost 4 years. We met at our first job, which was far from where we both originally reside (he’s from the northern part of the country, while I’m from the South).

When he was initially courting me, I turned him down by telling him I wasn’t interested. But he was persistent; well, not in an aggressive way, he tried to become one of my friends at work. Six months after rejecting him, I’ve finally allowed him to date me. After a month has passed, I asked him if he wanted us to become exclusive and if he wanted to commit, and I got an affirmative answer.

Since we were both living far from work, we decided to stay nearby. I ended up staying in an all-girls dormitory while he stayed in an apartment with our other male co-workers, who also live in the same province as him.

We were doing fine at the start of our relationship, but it started to crumble when I left our first work for another job opportunity. This happened two years ago.

The job was in another city and closer to my home, but instead of moving back I stayed in the dorm so my ex-bf and I could still see each other. My shift was also different from his; I was working in the graveyard shift (9pm to 6am), while he stayed in the morning shift (6am-3pm).

So suddenly, everything was new to us because initially we would see each other every day and do a lot of things together, but after the job change, we could only see each other for three times a week, and for roughly 30 mins. to an hour only. I would sacrifice my sleep to see him and he would sacrifice his time with his friends to see me. This occurred for six months before my request to stay in the morning shift was approved. The problem, however, was I got so preoccupied with my work, it felt like I was taking him for granted.

So during that year, things got really bad. I didn’t know he had built a lot of resentments towards me. He said it felt like he was in an LDR, and that he doesn’t feel the same way anymore. I asked him why he never told these things to me before because it was the first time I was hearing it. All the while, I thought when he said we were okay, there were no problems in our relationship. A few weeks after, I also learned that he was attracted to someone else from their office and so we broke up.

Our first breakup left me in a mess. For months, I couldn’t work properly, and everyone thought I was always in the verge of an emotional breakdown. I only got better when my ex-bf and I began to hang out again.

We did get back together at the same year. It was him who said that he wanted to work things out. I told him that it wouldn’t be easy since my trust has been tainted. I also told him that I needed him to be completely honest with me particularly if it’s concerning our relationship, so we can fix our issues rather than build ill feelings with one another.

I thought that was clear, but there were times that he still kept things from me because he thought such things were unimportant. And although I don’t want to admit it, I became overly jealous and paranoid. It didn’t help when he decided to move back to his hometown and work there instead over a year ago.

We tried to make the LDR work. We would see each other on weekends. Usually, we’ll meet halfway, but there are times when I would go and visit him and his family, and I’ll stay there overnight.

I really thought that setup was working. Little did I know that he wasn’t really happy about it.

The split happened a month before our fourth anniversary. We were having a fight when we said he wanted to end things through a text message. But I didn’t agree so I went to their place during the weekend and I tried to change his mind. At first he said he wasn’t sure with his decision, but come Monday he said his decision was final and there’s nothing I could do to make him change his mind.

The reason for our second breakup is very similar from two years ago; that he doesn’t see that the LDR will work out in the long-run and he just doesn’t feel the same anymore. He even said that there are times he doesn’t feel happy being with me. He also thinks that I “deserve someone better”, someone who can give me what I need in a relationship. And yes, he does fancy another girl from their office!

The differences between now and two years ago are that we live miles apart and he is no longer willing to meet me, even halfway; and that he seems very firm with his decision. On my part, I wasn’t as emotional as I was two years ago.

I started NC two weeks after the breakup. During that period I kept myself busy with kickboxing, hiking, and singing. He never tried to contact me; it’s as if he was fine without speaking to me. Maybe at the back of his mind he’s thinking that I could not give him the kind of convenience that he wants.

Anyway, it’s been a week since I started contacting him again. I don’t think I’m building much rapport since he has never really initiated texting me unlike two years ago when we first broke up. I know the present breakup is a different thing, but I guess I’m just getting tired of being the first one to approach him and I don’t want to make him feel like I’m needy and desperately seeking his attention.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 6, 2016 at 8:37 am

Hi A,

If he asked you back before, there’s a chance he might do that again now because the difference now is that you’re improving yourself and you’re active in social media.

The biggest challenge is the distance, because once you get back, you have to agree on living closer to each other..but actually for me your set up was already good.. What you really broke you apart is him seeing the new girl as a grass is greener case and maybe the relationship got boring for him

A

September 5, 2016 at 2:27 am

Hi,

I’m A from the Philippines. I don’t know where to start my story and which details I should include, so forgive me if this will be lengthy.

I have been going out with this guy for almost 4 years. We met at our first job, which was far from where we both originally reside (he’s from the northern part of the country, while I’m from the South).

When he was initially courting me, I turned him down by telling him I wasn’t interested. But he was persistent; well, not in an aggressive way, he tried to become one of my friends at work. Six months after rejecting him, I’ve finally allowed him to date me. After a month has passed, I asked him if he wanted us to become exclusive and if he wanted to commit, and I got an affirmative answer.

Since we were both living far from work, we decided to stay nearby. I ended up staying in an all-girls dormitory while he stayed in an apartment with our other male co-workers, who also live in the same province as him.

We were doing fine at the start of our relationship, but it started to crumble when I left our first work for another job opportunity. This happened two years ago.

The job was in another city and closer to my home, but instead of moving back I stayed in the dorm so my ex-bf and I could still see each other. My shift was also different from his; I was working in the graveyard shift (9pm to 6am), while he stayed in the morning shift (6am-3pm).

So suddenly, everything was new to us because initially we would see each other every day and do a lot of things together, but after the job change, we could only see each other for three times a week, and for roughly 30 mins. to an hour only. I would sacrifice my sleep to see him and he would sacrifice his time with his friends to see me. This occurred for six months before my request to stay in the morning shift was approved. The problem, however, was I got so preoccupied with my work, it felt like I was taking him for granted.

So during that year, things got really bad. I didn’t know he had built a lot of resentments towards me. He said it felt like he was in an LDR, and that he doesn’t feel the same way anymore. I asked him why he never told these things to me before because it was the first time I was hearing it. All the while, I thought when he said we were okay, there were no problems in our relationship. A few weeks after, I also learned that he was attracted to someone else from their office and so we broke up.

Our first breakup left me in a mess. For months, I couldn’t work properly, and everyone thought I was always in the verge of an emotional breakdown. I only got better when my ex-bf and I began to hang out again.

We did get back together at the same year. It was him who said that he wanted to work things out. I told him that it wouldn’t be easy since my trust has been tainted. I also told him that I needed him to be completely honest with me particularly if it’s concerning our relationship, so we can fix our issues rather than build ill feelings with one another.

I thought that was clear, but there were times that he still kept things from me because he thought such things were unimportant. And although I don’t want to admit it, I became overly jealous and paranoid. It didn’t help when he decided to move back to his hometown and work there instead over a year ago.

We tried to make the LDR work. We would see each other on weekends. Usually, we’ll meet halfway, but there are times when I would go and visit him and his family, and I’ll stay there overnight.

I really thought that setup was working. Little did I know that he wasn’t really happy about it.

The split happened a month before our fourth anniversary. We were having a fight when we said he wanted to end things through a text message. But I didn’t agree so I went to their place during the weekend and I tried to change his mind. At first he said he wasn’t sure with his decision, but come Monday he said his decision was final and there’s nothing I could do to make him change his mind.

The reason for our second breakup is very similar from two years ago; that he doesn’t see that the LDR will work out in the long-run and he just doesn’t feel the same anymore. He even said that there are times he doesn’t feel happy being with me. He also thinks that I “deserve someone better”, someone who can give me what I need in a relationship. And yes, he does fancy another girl from their office!

The differences between now and two years ago are that we live miles apart and he is no longer willing to meet me, even halfway; and that he seems very firm with his decision. On my part, I wasn’t as emotional as I was two years ago.

I started NC two weeks after the breakup. During that period I kept myself busy with kickboxing, hiking, and singing. He never tried to contact me; it’s as if he was fine without speaking to me. Maybe at the back of his mind he’s thinking that I could not give him the kind of convenience that he wants.

Anyway, it’s been a week since I started contacting him again. I don’t think I’m building much rapport since he has never really initiated texting me unlike two years ago when we first broke up. I know the present breakup is a different thing, but I guess I’m just getting tired of being the first one to approach him and I don’t want to make him feel like I’m needy and desperately seeking his attention.

A

September 8, 2016 at 6:12 am

Amor, thank you for responding.

You are probably right. He may think that the other girl is a better catch.

I’m actually tempted to just move on with my life as I don’t see any progress in our communication. Either that or I’m just too impatient.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 9, 2016 at 11:05 am

You’re welcome.. Take your time.. if you still feel you want to move on later on, of course move on
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 6, 2016 at 8:37 am

Hi A,

If he asked you back before, there’s a chance he might do that again now because the difference now is that you’re improving yourself and you’re active in social media.

The biggest challenge is the distance, because once you get back, you have to agree on living closer to each other..but actually for me your set up was already good.. What you really broke you apart is him seeing the new girl as a grass is greener case and maybe the relationship got boring for him

J

September 4, 2016 at 10:10 pm

We broke up in July, do you think I will have a chance getting him back before he goes to military in a few months?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 6, 2016 at 6:50 am

it depends on what he thinks about. If he’s set on not having a long distance relaionship then that means you have to keep building rapport while he’s there but if you have 3 months or more, then there’s a chance that he might want to try to make it work if you can attract him back.

Gina

September 4, 2016 at 9:23 pm

My boyfriend and I got together just before I moved home (across the ocean) when I finished my degree. We had been best friends for ages an just before I left we finally admitted we had feelings for one another. We had one visit in between and always agreed that if the timing worked, one of us would take a job near the other. I got a great job by him, and he broke up with me the week before I moved because he ‘didn’t feel the attraction.’ I was completely blindsided. This guy is on great terms with all his exes but in the 3 months since I moved (still took the job), he’s barely said 2 words to me and sometimes he flinches when he sees me. I haven’t contacted him but I miss him. What gives?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 6, 2016 at 6:45 am

HI Gina,

how long were you together?

Cynthia

September 4, 2016 at 3:57 pm

I was with my ex for 5 months and when I met him I knew he was going to be going away for school but it didn’t stop us from being together. In fact, that made us spend as much time together before he had to leave. We lived life to the fullest that even after a month of dating and a few short weeks of being official we spontaneously decided to take our first vacation out of the country together and that’s when I really fell in love with him and the feeling was mutual. in the short time we dated I opened his mind to a whole new world and allowed him to try new things he’s never done before. I was unbelievably happy and knew I was starting a life with my soulmate. We spent as much time as we could together and we were so comfortable as to how relaxing it was to be with one another. As months went by, the day grew closer when he had to leave for med school in a different state and as it came closer we both became anxious and scared because we were so attached to each other. I helped him move in and the day I left him we both cried, but it really hit me when we I got home that he was gone. For the month he was away I really just wanted a tighter communication than what we had- text after class or before doing something and asking how he was doing. Every day he had unimaginable stress of studying and keeping up with med school while attending meetings. I had a difficult time adjusting to the loss of his presence and he had an even more difficult time balancing school work. It eventually came when he came back after the month and felt he couldn’t balance being a good boyfriend with his school work. He felt stressed all the time and he didn’t want to feel guilty about not being able to be there for me after I’ve been so incredibly supportive. It’s been a week since I knew the break up was coming because he became cold and distant through his texts. He came back for the weekend break and we met up to break up, he told me I was the best girlfriend he’s ever had and i treated him so well which is why he felt so guilty for being an inattentive boyfriend during this time of struggle. I called him a few hours later after I processed his words to tell him that I respected his decision and since I was going back to school to get become a nurse practitioner soon I understood how it is to be stressed. I told him I was incredibly proud of him for his priorities and loved the time we spent together and admitted that I hope that someday in the future when we both felt calmer maybe we can try again. I stressed that I wanted to focus on myself and that he should too. I also told him my door is open if he wanted to talk, but I knew in my heart that I would not reach out to him unless he did (which I don’t think he will because he’s not the type to openly discuss his stress). I cried hard before and after the breakup and I cant stop missing him. I just really wish that we do end up back together again after we finish school or when he has a better handle on school. The last contact was yesterday, I do plan on maintaining the NC rule, I just don’t know the best time frame to contact him or to how to go about it. His birthday is in a month as well and I want to wish him a happy birthday but how would I fit all that after the 30 day NC?

Cynthia

September 5, 2016 at 6:34 pm

I also wish to send a small card to his parents to say I’m thinking of them and wish them the best- later on. They loved me as a person. Would that be a good idea?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 6, 2016 at 3:38 pm

I want to answer you, but the latest post from Chris would answer your question better: EBR 057: Birthdays And The No Contact Rule
Cynthia

September 5, 2016 at 6:09 pm

Yes it is. It’s exactly right at the 30 day mark. I plan on either texting him or sending him a letter but I also plan on a taking a trip that day so that I can do something for myself
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 5, 2016 at 4:17 pm

Hi Cynthia,

the good thing is that you had good memories with him and the break up is as best as how it could have happened. It was calm and understanding. Did you mean he’s birthday is right after the 30 day period?

J

September 3, 2016 at 10:11 pm

Ive also tried NC at least 2 times and broke it after 3 days its so hard. he might move on..

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 4, 2016 at 8:41 pm

Hi J,

when did you break up.. For me, it’s either you tell him now how hurt you are in the calmest way you can and then do full nc. So, that he would think you’re moving on or do nc and then when you’ve built enough rapport later on, choose the time that he’s really in the best mood and then talk about that calmly.

J

September 3, 2016 at 9:56 pm

For a month ive been talking to my ex as friends everyday and he would text me every morning when he woke up. Lately ive been getting more frustrated because I still love him so much. He is going to the military for a year with no contact and we are in long distance rn. I want to do NC for 30 days but I also want to tell him he fucking hurt me and i cannot talk to him as a friend because i just want him back and it hurts too much. What should I do? Tell him or just ignore him ?
Chris

September 3, 2016 at 12:56 pm

Long story short. We had an amazing relationship. He left to go visit his parents several states away saying he would be back in a week. Then texts and says he’s not coming back. I panicked and after us going back and forth for two weeks he decided he didn’t want me to move because I belong here with my family. He didn’t want me to resent him if I moved. Admittedly he had reason to be concerned. But I was also completely blindsided by what happened and was unable to think clearly. I have since completed 30 days NC and am still willing to move. He has responded to my initial first contact texts. How do I convince him I will move and not blame him for the results of my decision?

Chris

September 6, 2016 at 12:47 pm

Should I go ahead and move further away from family but not to him to illustrate my independence?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 7, 2016 at 7:49 am

not really.. that’s too big of a step. Just have your own life, own activities, go out with friends. Do new thing and meet new ones.
Chris

September 5, 2016 at 12:24 am

The texts are going OK so far but I’m not far into the process. I’ve not tried moving there. I panicked when he left and was very unsure. He didn’t want me to come because I panicked. But I am willing to go. I’m just not sure if I can get him to be open to it again.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 6, 2016 at 7:04 am

You have to take it slow and he has to think you’re more independent now. That panic showed that you’re not emotionally strong enough to handle being away to your family. You can only open about moving there if you are actually back together. So, the first step is attracting him back, being back together while you’re far away.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 4, 2016 at 4:16 pm

Hi Chris,

right now how are your texts? Did you try moving there before?

natasha

September 2, 2016 at 8:51 am

Good day.
I met my bf while we’re on vocation,two weeks before my flight back home!in a month time we decided to move live together!for a whole year we were getting to know each other (lots of small argues),but was a period when we were very very bad and I had a small chat with co-worker,just to get my confidence back( and also he found my skype talk and it was a small chat with old friend that invited me to visiti him(as we both prof players and visited each other from time to time).our chat was in a month time after I met my bf!i could hide and erase all but I showed him all of it. I want to be honest!he said I have to back to my country and not come back.we spoke abt this situation and he was ok,he took me to airport and we kissed and cried but we were kind of hurted but kind of trying pass through,but when I back to my country. He wrote me very rude words,like I cheted on him,full him and his family. I never never physically or mentally cheat him.shall I write him or keep 30 days time out(he is 52 and having 2 kids,im 32 and no kids)thank you for a help

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 2, 2016 at 6:02 pm

Hi Natasha,

I think you should read this: How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Thinks You Cheated But You Didn’t

Diana

September 1, 2016 at 6:42 pm

It’s giving me some hope, my ex LD boyfriend dumped me last week by a simple phone call.
We’ve been talking through Internet phone etc since 10 months… He came last month to meet me in person for the first time, everything seemed great, during all our following dates he seemed very attracted by me, kissed and hugged me all the time.
He went back home and after like 15days he called to tell me that he was not ready all the boyfriend/girlfriend thing, that he thought that could work with me and was hoping that our f2f meeting would change his phobia of relationships but that didn’t happen… That if we continue this relationship the next step would be moving together (we had already agreed about me going to join him) and that he was too afraid of a lifetime relationship… I told him that this was the aim from the start of our story ge said yes but I tried and I couldn’t… Do you think this technique would work with me 🙁 i really am in a mess… My life has no taste without him.
Ps: i started a NC since the breakup
He called the day after and sent a text to make sur that i was ok ( because i cried on the phone) and this weeked he sent : i hope you’re better now have a nice weekend…. No response from me.
Can i hope for something?

Diana

September 4, 2016 at 4:14 pm

Do you think that we can communicate the ungettable girl attitude to him through social media? Since he’s overseas now.
While i’m reading your article I realize more and more the multiple mistakes I have done during the relationship… I want him to see that i’m evolving.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 5, 2016 at 4:24 pm

Yes you can! By being active in social media, that’s his way of seeing how you are currently.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 2, 2016 at 1:18 pm

Hi Diana,

I think he was not ready for you to move there with him.. He’s afraid it’s going too fast.. It’s like sort of being clingy.. because if you mentioned that that was the goal since that start, it sounds like you were trying to pin him down to commit.. Try to show that you are moving on in this no contact rule.. Have your own life, be the ungettable girl.. Read this one: The Ungettable Girl

stephanie

September 1, 2016 at 4:50 pm

Hello,

my ex broke up with me about 8 months ago, and I did the whole no contact and the gradually trying to establish communication with him. It was a bit difficult at first but we finally have some sort of communication going on mostly through the app snapchat and some texting. I’ve been getting this hot and cold vibe from him. One minute he’s joking about having me visit him, or skyping with him, and then the next he’ll stop communication until the next time we talk. It’s almost as if every time I feel as if we progressed it’s like he’ll step back. It’s causing me to think maybe he’s leading me on, but at the same time it’s like why is he putting in so much effort if he doesn’t still care. Our conversations is usually 50/50 and the topics are pretty interesting when it’s not short. I don’t know what I should do next?

Stephanie

September 7, 2016 at 7:29 pm

Hi!

Sometimes I think that maybe he is doing what you say, but other times it seems as if he is flirting a little. It’s really confusing. He sends me snapchats and random memes and videos on Facebook messenger. He even texted me to invited me to play this online game with him and his friend. And as I said before it’s not always me sending these first, a lot of times he send them first. I’m almost 100% positive he isn’t seeing anyone new either.

I try to keep the conversations light. When he jokingly invites me to visit I joke about him paying for travel fees and he plays along. So everything seems friendly to me, but I could be wrong. But if that’s the case, if he just wants to be friends what should I do? What CAN I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 9, 2016 at 9:08 am

Be less available and make every interaction the best. Continue improving yourself too.. Basically create mystery, to spark interest.
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 2, 2016 at 11:07 am

HI Stephanie,

how is your personal life? I’m thinking, what if he doesn’t want you to hope and he just wants to be friends and he doesn’t see you being “just” friendly to him.

Paula

August 30, 2016 at 3:42 am

had a LDR with a french guy (we never met but I’m stubborn so I’m following this guide) I still have plans to move to his country so is not like we’ll never meet.
One day he told me he met someone else and wanted a chance with her. But even after the breakup we had sexcam and we were sexting a lot until we put an end to it because it wasn’t the right thing to do. Our last messages were sorta of “I’ll never forget you” I applied a 30 days no contact (24 actually) telling him I was pleased I made him happy…he texted me couple of hours later telling me I made him more than happy….I’m applying another 30 days NC

Do I still have a chance?
I can be patient because is not like I want him back right now but until I can go live there in almost a year from now, I just don’t want him to forget me.

Paula

September 5, 2016 at 5:45 pm

He didn’t answer the last message and posted that he was in a relationship on facebook
What should I do now?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 6, 2016 at 3:35 pm

Stop initiating. Go back to your personal routine and be active again. He has to think you finally got the message, you’re stopping now and you’re not chasing him anymore. That can be his new girlfriend too. So, you’re only chance is to be active in social media, and then later on maybe after 3 weeks try again. If he doesn’t answer again by then, that means you really should move on.
Paula

September 3, 2016 at 1:01 am

Thank you a lot for your help. what should I do if he doesn’t answer?
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 3, 2016 at 6:05 pm

lay low.. stop initiating for a while and keep on living your life.. I think you should read this too:Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules)
Paula

September 3, 2016 at 12:02 am

what should I do if he doesn’t answer?
Paula

September 1, 2016 at 10:30 pm

I don’t know how to start a conversation, having a restart. His new girlfriend made him unfriend me from Facebook. So I’m not sure how should I make the approach
EBR Team Member: Amor

September 2, 2016 at 2:21 pm

of course.. she would be protective of their relationship.. You have to appear that you’re just being friendly.. watch this: What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)
Paula

September 1, 2016 at 10:17 pm

Hi the relationship was for almost 2 years and I don’t really know why I’m doing the no contact again, I’m afraid he won’t answer back or that I bother him
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 31, 2016 at 12:25 pm

Hi Paula,

how long was the relationship? Why are you doing nc again? If you talk to him again.. Have a restart.. do not do online sex again..

Kat

August 29, 2016 at 8:16 pm

Need some insight as to what my ex is thinking. Im going nuts. Met my guy in college we lived in the same city for one year before we found out he needed to move back to his country in south america (we are in the same time zone). We had a really really great relationship. When he lived here we would travel together often and then once he moved we would travel to see each other every 6-8 weeks. We tried to never go longer then that. Everytime we saw each other again it was amazing. Problem came when he learned he wasnt going to be moving back any time soon (after already being LD one year. Total time together 2 years) and he is unsure of his future at the moment- whether its in s. America or here where I am…like any and all LDR it would get hard every now and then after 4-5 weeks of not seeing each other but the hard days would pass and everything would be okay again. We would talk all day thru text and whatsapp and on the phone daily… Finally it got to the point where we had the conversation about him not coming back anytime soon and we had to face the reality of the situation which is are we going to keep having this relationship with ‘no light at the end of the tunnel’… We are both in our mid twenties (same age). Since weve broken up ive done NC .. I havent reached out to him at all, havent check his snaps or anything. He hasnt written to me either but he has checked my snapchats. Its been 2 weeks and I am just wondering if hes missing me as much as I am missing him, what could he possibly be thinking and if we even have a chance at fixing this?? I also decided to go on a vacation this weekend to help keep my mind off it. I was supposed to go see him but instead canceled that ticket and decided to do a trip my gf’s are doing. It will be with girls and guys but I am definitely not interested in getting with anyone. What will he think of this!? Help

kat

August 31, 2016 at 1:11 pm

No of course not I would never do that! I know that would be counterproductive but I do want him to see Im having a good time.. and I told him I would move there if I needed to but the problem is that I will be here at least another 2 years for school and then Id have to put my entire career on hold if I move there bc my medical profession doesn’t exist over there… but in the break up when I told him I would be willing to do that he just said that that wasn’t fair to me and that he can’t predict the future and that since he has not plans for himself right now its hard for him to think so far ahead which I understand.. a 24 yr old male brain doesn’t think like a 24 yr old female brain… yesterday I messaged his sister to wish her a good last semester in college and she wrote back saying how special i was.. and thats something he told me when we broke up so it makes me think that thats what he’s going around telling his family about me post break up.. also in the breakup convo he kept saying that he hopes he’s making the right decision… Im giving him what he wants and hopefully it works in my favor and he misses me. What I don’t know is if he misses me since its been 2 weeks and he hasn’t contacted me. What could he possibly be thinking??
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 31, 2016 at 3:50 pm

he probably misses you but he’s still undecided and maybe he wants you to have your time to yourself first
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 31, 2016 at 10:46 am

HI Kat,

as long as you don’t post anything that’s too forward like kissing a guy or hugging him, it’s ok.. What about you moving there?

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