The Anatomy Of A Breakup (Part Two)

(If you are interested in reading “Part One” make sure you click this link 😉 .)

Hopefully you already read Part I: The Science and Psychology of Dating.

If not, go read it.

Did you go read it?

Okay, just to be safe, here are some of the things that happened to you during the relationship. Most of them you didn’t even realize were happening until after it was over. It’s okay. Most people don’t.

part-one-during-the-relationship

Just to touch base, these are all the chemicals we discussed.

norepinephrine-facts seratonin-facts dopamine-facts vasopressin-facts oxytocin-factscortisol-facts

And this is a visual representation of the different levels throughout the relationship and after the breakup.

levels-beginning-of-relationship

levels-middle-of-relationship

levels-after-a-breakup

As you can see, after the break up the all of the levels drop except for Cortisol. By looking at these descriptions you can see what that means for you. I’m sure you’re feeling it about now.

Stress.

It’s what caused that feeling of hollowness in your chest right after the break up.

Speaking of, even though I’m quite sure you already know what happens during the time right after a breakup, let’s look.

The Aftermath

LACK OF MOTIVATION

Well, since Dopamine is your personal supply of motivation and it is now in short supply, you are now not only short on Dopamine but also on motivation.

FATIGUE

Dopamine also helps regulate sleep. So, you guessed it. You are about to have yourself some sleepless nights staring at the ceiling wondering what caused your relationship’s untimely end.

MOOD SWINGS

Okay, I’m sure I sound like a broken record right now. But I bet you can guess what chemical controls your mood. I mean if you can’t guess, feel free to look at the cheat sheets I made for you above. If you do, you might n0tice that serotonin also has a hand in this. The lack of both results in highly unpredictable moods swings.

This is why so many girls these days get dubbed “The Crazy Ex.”

MEMORY PROBLEMS

A low level of Norepinephrine and Serotonin results in lower mental alertness. That, paired with the lack of memory and ability to learn created by a lowered level of Dopamine.

INABILITY TO CONCENTRATE

Norepinephrine, also known as Adrenaline, can make your heart race and butterflies reside in your stomach when you are first falling in love. Adrenaline is incredibly useful and can make you more mentally aware and provide you with lots of energy. However, when the level of Adrenaline drops the ability to focus drops as well. Leaving you feeling like you’ve kind of lost direction.

SLEEP PROBLEMS

Have you been having some trouble getting substantial sleep? I bet you thought it was just because you missed your ex. Well partially maybe, but the drop of Dopamine levels can be thanked for your inability to sleep as well.

LOSS OF APPETITE

Serotonin is responsible for regulating appetite. If you find yourself eating simply to comfort yourself and not because you are actually hungry, you are probably just feeling the effects of a level of Serotonin you aren’t used to since you’ve been in a relationship up until the point.

LACK OF LIBIDO

This one varies in most people. Although they still are experiencing a low Serotonin level, they may find motivation elsewhere, making their ex jealous. However, sleeping with someone solely to make your ex jealous or think you’ve moved on isn’t necessarily the healthiest thing to do. You’ll wind up either regretting or realizing how pointless that way of thinking is.

SUPPRESSED IMMUNE SYSTEM

This one is the most important, I think. As soon as I realize that I am feeling the effects from a breakup, I start being super-diligent in taking my vitamins and taking care of myself. Trust me, getting sick AND dealing with heartbreak at the same time is not an easy course.

How to Deal

There is a reason I walked you through the chemical happenings going on within your body. By cutting them down to nothing but chemical reactions, hopefully you now realize that these feelings can be controlled. All it takes is a little determination.

And yes I know that, according to that little graphic up there, you should be lacking in motivation. And I know it is tempting to sit and wallow in your sadness because it’s easy.
Letting your emotions control you will keep you trapped.

glass-cage-of-emotion

However, I know that you are stronger than that.

Why?

I know you.

Heck, I am you!

And I have done this… many times.

It is actually possible to create your own motivation cocktail of chemicals. You’d be surprised how simple it is.

Did you wonder why I kept reminding you that Dopamine is the Ring Leader of the chemicals? Well, it’s because it is. It is very important. You see, in a study, Dopamine deficient lab mice became so apathetic and lethargic that they lacked motivation to even eat. They would let them starve to death.

However, Dopamine production can be manipulated. And by manipulating it, you can increase its levels. This is where we can use the fact that Dopamine and Norepinephrine go everywhere together. By raising one we can raise the other, meaning you’ll be one step closer to getting things back to normal.

Doesn’t that sound great?

As with all things that are worth doing, it won’t be easy.

Don’t worry. I don’t expect you to do it all on your own.

Let’s Get Started

If you’re like college me and a majority of other women going through break ups, you shut down after a break up and lose all motivation.

I know that my apartment and my hair always got the short end of the stick for the first few weeks after.

I’d be looking like Elle Woods after Warner dumps her and she holes up in her room, for a week eating chocolates and watching soap operas.

legally-blonde

Okay I didn’t watch soap operas, but I did watch Legally Blonde. That in and of itself wasn’t a terrible idea. I’m not ashamed to say that watching someone else regain their confidence and get over a crappy ex was sometimes exactly what I needed to get off my butt and do something.

If you read the first part of this article, you already know what I’m about to ask you to do. My guess is you’re not really looking forward to it, otherwise you would have done already.

So here’s the first step.

Take a shower and get dressed.

It’s funny, but I realized a long time ago that if I wanted to accomplish something I couldn’t maintain a steady level of energy and motivation if I was still wearing what I slept in, especially if I hadn’t put on real clothes in a week.

Give yourself the boost you need to take on this goal I’m setting in front of you.

Clean your living space.

Whether you live in an apartment, a house, or you mother’s basement, the space you occupy reflects your mind. If there is chaos outside, there is chaos inside. And how exactly will you regain control of your life if you can’t make heads or tails of your thoughts.

This is the perfect opportunity to rearrange your space as well.

My ex, Will, spent a lot of time at my house. Most of the time he would just sit on my bed, play my guitar and sing me John Mayer songs. Now, even though I wasn’t super attached to Will, when we broke up it still hurt. Every time I looked at the place he used to sit, I would miss him and suddenly have the urge to listen to John’s song “Heartbreak Warfare.” See?

Even a relationship lacking love can leave you heartbroken and wallowing while listening to sad songs.

I spent a week or two dealing with a pang of loss every time I walked into my room and saw his usual spot vacant and my guitar in its stand, untouched.
My solution to this one is an easy one. Rearrange!

By the time I was done, not only was “his spot” history, my room was much more open and nice to hang out it. (perhaps because I had cleared out the ghosts of my exes)

But I digress.

Change things up. Get some artwork and hang it on the walls.

I always like to find motivational artwork to hang around.

My favorite one that I have currently is pictured below.

motivational-wall-art

Clean up your Forms of Contact

  • Put his number on Do Not Disturb
  • Unfollow him on Facebook (Remember, unfollowing is different than unfriending.)
  • Fight the urge to drive past his house and check in on him
  • If you do see him, be cordial. As I tell my friends, “Keep it Short, Sweet, and to the Point.” It cracks me up. A couple of them have started to use it like a mantra for moments when they aren’t even actually faced with having to talk to an ex. Any time they’re tempted to text their ex, they shoot me a text instead that solely says “SSttP.” And I respond with a little positive reinforcement telling them how strong they are for not giving in. It seems silly but a there are a few times I don’t think they would have made it long without doing something drastic without a little outside encouragement
  • That being said, ask your friends to hold you accountable.

I even struggle with this one from time to time. I hear a song I think my ex would like, or something else I think he should know.

But then I find myself looking at my screen on my phone.

Change the way you eat.

Yes, what you put in your body determines the type of energy you produce. My old roommate used to show up with tons of carb-heavy junk food thinking it would help me feel better.

Wrong!

Carbs and greasy foods will just make you feel heavy and more lethargic. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to cut them completely out. You just need to limit them.
Here are some foods known to increase Dopamine production.

fruit2 green-veggies other veggies

By adding these foods to your diet and decreasing the amount of junk you eat, you’ll be giving your body ample amounts of the Amino Acid Tyrozine. Tyrozine is what is used to create Dopamine.

Even though sugar can increase Dopamine levels temporarily, and has a negative effect when it wears off. It could end up leaving you with less energy than you started with.

Get Moving

Exercise is one of the best things you can do for your brain. It improves blood flow which aides in the creation of new brain cells. Another side effect is that it slows brain cell aging. The major function of getting up and doing something active, aside from looking and feeling better, is that it helps form new brain cell receptors, which results in raising

Dopamine levels substantially.

Running has even been known to result in “Runner’s High” which stimulates the release of endorphins, a natural pain-killer.

Do you remember how we discussed heartbreak causing actual physical pain? Running and getting active can help with that as well. Not to mention, from my own experience, it is a great way to clear your head.

If you don’t necessarily want to go to a gym or be around people, there are plenty of trainer that put information out there on the web. ZuzkaLight and Emily Skye are two of my favorite. They both post what I call min-workouts that you can do from home.

I also mix this one with the next point I’d like to make by getting out on the roads with my bike. Nothing beats the freedom of feeling wind rush past my face as I race down the back roads a few miles outside of town. The sun alone is a great source of Vitamins that help revitalize you and helps you feel more alive and less like a zombie.

Cultivate Interests

Pick back up an old hobby or choose a new one. Focusing on something that takes effort is a great way to calm the mind. Aldo, completing projects creates a great sense of accomplishment and raises the levels of Serotonin in the body.

Back in college I picked up crocheting after my ex and I split. Not only did I keep my mind focused, I wound up with a pretty awesome blanket that I gave to a friend as a gift. It was huge and took me about four weeks to finish.

When I handed it over wrapped in audacious wrapping paper that only a college kid would buy and along with it I handed over everything that was weighing down my heart.

I know how tempting it is to curl back up in your comforter and hide from the world and your problems, but clearly if you are reading this you are looking for that kick in the butt telling you to get up and do something about it.

Yes, you owe it to yourself to take a moment and be sad, mourn the loss of your relationship, if you will. I usually tell myself that I have ONE NIGHT to let my emotions overwhelm me and take over.

After that, no more!

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You may feel like isn’t enough time, but I am telling you right now, if you don’t get up and do what needs to be done to make you happy, then you are going to miss so many great opportunities that are out there just waiting on you to go and get them.

This is just the first step in moving past a break up.

Yes, I know I basically just asked you to get up of your butt and re-enact an inspirational 80’s montage, but hey, if that’s what it takes!

Now, go grab life and make it your own!

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Anon
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Hi! I’ve posted before. Amor, you have been really helpful and patient with me! Refresher: I was the one with the boyfriend who went to rehab a few months after our daughter was born, he decided never to come back home, and we still kept in contact for some reason. I had done 30 days no contact, started texting and phone calls and got good results. I just couldn’t move up to dates since we were so far apart. But then I got panicky one night and we fought. When we hadn’t actually fought in months it was still pretty… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Anon,

You’re actually doing good.. Just keep doing that, be with your daughter, have fun and take things slow. It looks like he is testing you out..

Anon
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Thank you, Amor! You are the best. I’m just so nervous about scaring him away or him leaving again. I tried to keep it light and fun. Well, as much as I could with the situation! Not seeing your daughter for months is pretty heavy. Do you think I’m at the point where I can ask him to hang out with us? It’s been about 4 days since I talked to him that day. I thought about giving him a week to adjust to being back home and being around us.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

it’s ok to let him adjust.. why not make it an open invitation.. like “I was planning to take daughter to this place this date, if you’re available, it’ll be fun to come with us.”

Anon
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Okay good that’s what I thought I should do. I planned on texting him next week since I want to take her to a pumpkin patch soon.

He texted me today asking if we could sleep together. He said it in like a joking way. I haven’t responded. I thought about responding back also in a funny way but still making it clear that I’m not going to sleep with him. Or is it better to just ignore that text?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

it’s ok to reply to it as a joke but just make sure that you make it clear that you’re not up to it..

Anon
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Thank you, Amor! I ended up just ignoring the message. He texted me the next day and we talked a little about work but I cut it off short. Then he texted me again the day after and after texting back and forth a little he asked me to hang out with him. But I had already made plans so I told him I was busy and maybe some other time next week. So that was actually yesterday. And I’m a little worried since I haven’t heard from him at all today. Should I have initiated a conversation? Or was… Read more »
Anon
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Oops sorry I typed “next week” when I meant to say “this week.” I told him I could maybe hang out with him another time this week

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

well, it’s just been a day.. dont over think.. maybe he just doesnt have anything to say

Anon
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You were right, Amor. I was overthinking. We hung out 3 days in a row. And it was amazing having my family together! He played with the baby, fed her, helped me put her to sleep even! It was so perfect. He apologized for how he treated me in the past. He told me he knew it woukd take him a long time to make it up to me but he wanted to try to be with me. It was everything I’ve been wanting. We cuddled and held hands while we watched tv. In my mind, it was perfect. BUT.… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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hmm, well it looks like you’re expecting more.. it’s good that you didn’t sleep with him before but then you’re starting to cuddle now.. I know it sounds like I’m blaming you when he was the one who probably initiated cuddling but I think that’s why he’s also the one initiating to pull away.. Things are moving too fast for him.. Next things he knows you’re in love again and willing to sleep with him when he’s not there yet.. Be the one to hold off and to take things slow.. just let him be for now.. and next time… Read more »
Anon
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Yes, he was the one who started the cuddling. I kept resisting and I would just say “What do you think you’re doing??” In like a teasing voice. And he would just laugh, wait a couple minutes and try again. But then I just couldn’t help it and I gave in! I guess I just don’t understand how things are moving too fast for him if he’s the one initiating most everything! He’s asking me to hang out, he’s holding my hand first, he’s cuddling me, how is he pulling away from me? Is it because I was starting to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

No, he’s probably more of confused with himself.. if we are confused by him, he must be confused with himself too haha. Nope, you’re not annoying me. Just ask away,anytime you want! I think you have a good plan.. at least by this time, you kind of get the idea that he might be confused, so, in a way, it helps you be the outsider’s perspective yourself in your situation

Anon
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Ha well I’m glad I’m not alone in being confused by him!!

Okay. I’ll think I’ll give him a few days or a week to think about things. Looking back now, 3 days in a row of hanging out with our daughter is probably a lot for him to handle. He’s been gone a long time. I hope he didn’t actually mean he doesn’t want us to work!!

emma
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I started dating a guy who was one of my close friends. I always had a crush on him and turned out he had a crush one me too. After dating for a while he said he really liked me and we decided to be in a relationship. This only lasted a few months as he started pushing me away and eventually treating me badly. I tried to speak to him about it and he left me with no explanations. So I did NC and he started freaking out he doesnt want to lose a good friend (we kept coming… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emma,

I think you need to have an honest talk with your ex. Tell him that. Ask him why he wants you dump your bf? And tell him why you couldn’t

Anon
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Hi! I’ve posted before. Amor, you have been really helpful and patient with me! Refresher: I was the one with the boyfriend who went to rehab a few months after our daughter was born, he decided never to come back home, and we still kept in contact for some reason. I had done 30 days no contact, started texting and phone calls and got good results. I just couldn’t move up to dates since we were so far apart. But then I got panicky one night and we fought. When we hadn’t actually fought in months it was still pretty… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Anon,

You’re actually doing good.. Just keep doing that, be with your daughter, have fun and take things slow. It looks like he is testing you out..

Anon
Guest

Thank you, Amor! You are the best. I’m just so nervous about scaring him away or him leaving again. I tried to keep it light and fun. Well, as much as I could with the situation! Not seeing your daughter for months is pretty heavy. Do you think I’m at the point where I can ask him to hang out with us? It’s been about 4 days since I talked to him that day. I thought about giving him a week to adjust to being back home and being around us.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

it’s ok to let him adjust.. why not make it an open invitation.. like “I was planning to take daughter to this place this date, if you’re available, it’ll be fun to come with us.”

Anon
Guest

Okay good that’s what I thought I should do. I planned on texting him next week since I want to take her to a pumpkin patch soon.

He texted me today asking if we could sleep together. He said it in like a joking way. I haven’t responded. I thought about responding back also in a funny way but still making it clear that I’m not going to sleep with him. Or is it better to just ignore that text?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

it’s ok to reply to it as a joke but just make sure that you make it clear that you’re not up to it..

Anon
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Thank you, Amor! I ended up just ignoring the message. He texted me the next day and we talked a little about work but I cut it off short. Then he texted me again the day after and after texting back and forth a little he asked me to hang out with him. But I had already made plans so I told him I was busy and maybe some other time next week. So that was actually yesterday. And I’m a little worried since I haven’t heard from him at all today. Should I have initiated a conversation? Or was… Read more »
Anon
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Oops sorry I typed “next week” when I meant to say “this week.” I told him I could maybe hang out with him another time this week

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

well, it’s just been a day.. dont over think.. maybe he just doesnt have anything to say

Anon
Guest
You were right, Amor. I was overthinking. We hung out 3 days in a row. And it was amazing having my family together! He played with the baby, fed her, helped me put her to sleep even! It was so perfect. He apologized for how he treated me in the past. He told me he knew it woukd take him a long time to make it up to me but he wanted to try to be with me. It was everything I’ve been wanting. We cuddled and held hands while we watched tv. In my mind, it was perfect. BUT.… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
hmm, well it looks like you’re expecting more.. it’s good that you didn’t sleep with him before but then you’re starting to cuddle now.. I know it sounds like I’m blaming you when he was the one who probably initiated cuddling but I think that’s why he’s also the one initiating to pull away.. Things are moving too fast for him.. Next things he knows you’re in love again and willing to sleep with him when he’s not there yet.. Be the one to hold off and to take things slow.. just let him be for now.. and next time… Read more »
Anon
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Yes, he was the one who started the cuddling. I kept resisting and I would just say “What do you think you’re doing??” In like a teasing voice. And he would just laugh, wait a couple minutes and try again. But then I just couldn’t help it and I gave in! I guess I just don’t understand how things are moving too fast for him if he’s the one initiating most everything! He’s asking me to hang out, he’s holding my hand first, he’s cuddling me, how is he pulling away from me? Is it because I was starting to… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

No, he’s probably more of confused with himself.. if we are confused by him, he must be confused with himself too haha. Nope, you’re not annoying me. Just ask away,anytime you want! I think you have a good plan.. at least by this time, you kind of get the idea that he might be confused, so, in a way, it helps you be the outsider’s perspective yourself in your situation

Anon
Guest

Ha well I’m glad I’m not alone in being confused by him!!

Okay. I’ll think I’ll give him a few days or a week to think about things. Looking back now, 3 days in a row of hanging out with our daughter is probably a lot for him to handle. He’s been gone a long time. I hope he didn’t actually mean he doesn’t want us to work!!

emma
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I started dating a guy who was one of my close friends. I always had a crush on him and turned out he had a crush one me too. After dating for a while he said he really liked me and we decided to be in a relationship. This only lasted a few months as he started pushing me away and eventually treating me badly. I tried to speak to him about it and he left me with no explanations. So I did NC and he started freaking out he doesnt want to lose a good friend (we kept coming… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Emma,

I think you need to have an honest talk with your ex. Tell him that. Ask him why he wants you dump your bf? And tell him why you couldn’t

Kristine Takeda
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Hi, my ex and I dated on and off since we were 12.(currently16) We’ve known each other since we were 7, when we had small school yard crushes on each other. We have broken up for the third time now, because he wants to date other people to be sure that we truly are the ones for each other. He said that in his heart he believes we are, but he needs to be sure before he continues with me. I don’t want to see him with anybody else and I don’t want him to love somebody else. Should I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kristin,

I know you don’t like to hear this but you both are young and that’s the truth.Because of that, he wants to explore. And the more you try to stop him or beg him back the more he will resist. Yes, no contact is the better choice but it’s not a guarantee that it will work. I think you should do at least 30 days. You should read this one too:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

Kristine Takeda
Guest
Hi, my ex and I dated on and off since we were 12.(currently16) We’ve known each other since we were 7, when we had small school yard crushes on each other. We have broken up for the third time now, because he wants to date other people to be sure that we truly are the ones for each other. He said that in his heart he believes we are, but he needs to be sure before he continues with me. I don’t want to see him with anybody else and I don’t want him to love somebody else. Should I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kristin,

I know you don’t like to hear this but you both are young and that’s the truth.Because of that, he wants to explore. And the more you try to stop him or beg him back the more he will resist. Yes, no contact is the better choice but it’s not a guarantee that it will work. I think you should do at least 30 days. You should read this one too:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

Sophia
Guest
Hi! 🙂 I’m wondering if you can give me a little advice. So me and my ex have recently started sleeping together. I’m not looking for anything serious to happen just yet because I’m not sure how, or if things will work between us, and I’m also going through a major career change so we have both agreed to take things slow. However after seeing me 3 times he brought up wanting to be exclusive before he left for a business trip 2 weeks ago. He asked me to go with him to a networking event (i used to go… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sophia,

He asked you to be exclusive right? That means being boyfriend-girlfriend again. So, you don’t need more signs, he’s already direct. Did you mean, you’re wondering if he’s really serious or just wanting to show you off?

Sophia
Guest

Hi Amor 🙂
Thanks for the quick reply!
Yeah, I’m a little unsure if he’s wanting to simply show me off like a trophy, or he’s wanting to be more serious.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hmm.. let time help you.. don’t invest too much. Let him prove himself more.. Invest in equal amount as his efforts but not too much that you would be doing more compared to him

Sophia
Guest
Hi! 🙂 I’m wondering if you can give me a little advice. So me and my ex have recently started sleeping together. I’m not looking for anything serious to happen just yet because I’m not sure how, or if things will work between us, and I’m also going through a major career change so we have both agreed to take things slow. However after seeing me 3 times he brought up wanting to be exclusive before he left for a business trip 2 weeks ago. He asked me to go with him to a networking event (i used to go… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sophia,

He asked you to be exclusive right? That means being boyfriend-girlfriend again. So, you don’t need more signs, he’s already direct. Did you mean, you’re wondering if he’s really serious or just wanting to show you off?

Sophia
Guest

Hi Amor 🙂
Thanks for the quick reply!
Yeah, I’m a little unsure if he’s wanting to simply show me off like a trophy, or he’s wanting to be more serious.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hmm.. let time help you.. don’t invest too much. Let him prove himself more.. Invest in equal amount as his efforts but not too much that you would be doing more compared to him

Sara
Guest
Hi! The article above is fantastic and really well written. Me, as a behavioural neuroscientist (I swear I’m not Amy from the big bang theory), did feel much better right after my breakup knowing that our emotions post breakup is governed by neurochemistry. My question is slightly un-related to the article though. My ex dumped me around 7 months ago. He started being an asshole to me. Ditching me for no reason, only wanting to meet at night, not wanting to do anything involving my friends, heck he made wait outside without a jacket for 30 mins in the winter… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sara,

It’s time to walk away. He might be testing how far you will hold out, but for me, you have to stop wasting your time with him

Sara
Guest
Hi! The article above is fantastic and really well written. Me, as a behavioural neuroscientist (I swear I’m not Amy from the big bang theory), did feel much better right after my breakup knowing that our emotions post breakup is governed by neurochemistry. My question is slightly un-related to the article though. My ex dumped me around 7 months ago. He started being an asshole to me. Ditching me for no reason, only wanting to meet at night, not wanting to do anything involving my friends, heck he made wait outside without a jacket for 30 mins in the winter… Read more »
Sara
Guest
Hi! The article above is fantastic and really well written. Me, as a behavioural neuroscientist (I swear I’m not Amy from the big bang theory), did feel much better right after my breakup knowing that our emotions post breakup is governed by neurochemistry. My question is slightly un-related to the article though. My ex dumped me around 7 months ago. He started being an asshole to me. Ditching me for no reason, only wanting to meet at night, not wanting to do anything involving my friends, heck he made wait outside without a jacket for 30 mins in the winter… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Sara,

It’s time to walk away. He might be testing how far you will hold out, but for me, you have to stop wasting your time with him

Sara
Guest
Hi! The article above is fantastic and really well written. Me, as a behavioural neuroscientist (I swear I’m not Amy from the big bang theory), did feel much better right after my breakup knowing that our emotions post breakup is governed by neurochemistry. My question is slightly un-related to the article though. My ex dumped me around 7 months ago. He started being an asshole to me. Ditching me for no reason, only wanting to meet at night, not wanting to do anything involving my friends, heck he made wait outside without a jacket for 30 mins in the winter… Read more »