How to Make Him Regret Taking You for Granted

So, in  the beginning of the relationship things were wonderful and magical, and you could never imagine a day that he wouldn’t look at you with adoring eyes. Unfortunately, this happens a lot in relationships today.

It’s a hard truth that after you’ve been with someone for a while. Maybe you’ve gotten used to him. Perhaps he doesn’t dazzle you the same way they used to. Personally, I don’t really mind when this happens in relationships… to an extent. To me it just means you’ve entered another level of trust and affection. It means you don’t need to put on a full face of makeup before leaving the house because you know he doesn’t need to see you all made up to love you and be attracted to you. It’s a comfortable companionship and friendship, and the longest lasting and most successful relationships are based on those two things.

But why I added the “to an extent” caveat earlier is because even if the two of you fall into a comfortable companionship, that doesn’t mean that respect, affection, and appreciation should go out the window. But so frequently, it does.

Once you’ve been with each other for a while, it’s not unusual that someone gets taken for granted.

Let me tell you something: Recovery isn’t always about getting an ex back. Sometimes, it’s also about figuring out what you deserve. And, sometimes that means realizing that you deserve better than you’ve been getting. Sometimes, in our Facebook Group Here women make their “I’m finally moving on!” posts:

“He never valued me or the things I did for him.”

“My ex never respected me or the work I did in our relationship.”

“He never acknowledged my worth.”

“I deserve better.”

It’s a pretty common to realize an ex boyfriend that you’ve been putting on a pedestal actually didn’t value you and what you did for them as much as they did in the beginning. It’s empowering to realize that we deserve better that what we’ve been running after.

But why is this such a common problem? And what can we do about it?

Why Men Take Their Girlfriends, Wives, Or Partners For Granted

I hesitate to say this, but I do think it is generally true that men tend to take their female partners for granted more than women tend to take their male partners for granted.

I have a theory about why this is.

Historically, men’s primary job in the family order was to go out into the world and provide. As cavemen, males were the ones to go out and hunt to provide food for their family. As time progressed, men continued to be the ones to go out and work to make money to provide for their family, while the women were left home to tend to the household duties and children – which brings me to women’s expected role. Women have historically been considered to be the more social of the sexes. Their relationships with other people – their husbands, children, and friends, were their primary purpose. Women were responsible for the relationship side of things, while men were responsible for providing.

It’s no wonder, based on this centuries-old social construct that women generally tend to put in more effort into relationships than men do. Even now, when we have broken through most of the “expected roles” with more women than ever before as part of the workforce, and men are doing more stay at home parenting, there is still a certain level of expectation that women will keep the relationship running smoothly.

It is no secret that you have to continue to date and fall in love with your partner everyday. This means two weeks into your relationship or 20 years into your relationship. A little bit of effort goes a long way, but as time goes on, that seems to get forgotten. We get comfortable and begin to feel like we don’t need to try as hard. I’m not saying that a man should cook his wife a five course dinner each Saturday night, although, I’m sure that would be appreciated. I am saying that a little thoughtfulness and acknowledging a partner’s thoughtfulness will go a long way.

And this doesn’t just go for men. Just because this may generally come more naturally for women doesn’t mean we don’t sometimes need the reminder, too.

  • Remember to say thank you.
  • Do small things to show him you’re thinking of him.
  • Tell him what you like about him.

If you haven’t read up on the Five Love Languages, I suggest you do so that you can get an idea of how you tend to express love, and how you receive it. Because, not everyone needs to be loved in the same way.

Here is a quick breakdown of the love languages to get you started:

  1. Quality Time – spending time with your partner doing things together that one or both of you enjoy.
  2. Physical Touch – cuddling, hugging, physical intimacy. Showing love through physicality.
  3. Words of Affirmation – Being told that you’re loved, or having someone tell you how wonderful they think you are and why.
  4. Acts of Service – Having your partner do something you don’t want to do or that needs to be done as a way of showing love
  5. Giving/Receiving Gifts – Pretty self explanatory, but feeling someone’s love for you based on physical gifts or experiences they offer.

So oddly enough, the primary way that I like to receive love is words of affirmation. I love hearing someone gush about how wonderful they think I am. Nothing makes me feel more loved. However, one of the best ways I know how to give love is through gifts and acts of service.

You may find it’s a different mix with different partners. You might need to express your love differently within different relationships.Part of showing someone you care is to put in the effort to learn a new love language to mesh with them. But if you haven’t, I do recommend you look into these 5 love languages. It offers a lot in the way of learning how to communicate with your loved ones. This will be helpful in any relationship you’re in – if you get back with your ex, or you move on to someone new. You can even use it in friendships and in interactions with your family.

So, now that we’ve covered why your ex may have taken you for granted, we are going to discuss…

How Can I Make Him See My Worth If We’re Already Broken Up?

What’s the best way to make someone realize what they’re missing? Disappear from their life completely so they face the reality of a life without you.

That’s right – No Contact is the first step. Shocker, huh?

Your ex is used to spending time with you on a pretty regular basis. So when a relationship ended it’s likely that he was not fully prepared for the reality of what a life without you would be like. So instead of being readily available the best thing you can do is make him live with the consequences of his actions. Go full No Contact

Think about it – if you were his girlfriend, you offered him a lot. It’s likely that you did things for him that he didn’t even think of on a daily basis. Instead of sharing the duty of washing dishes or walking the dog, he now has to do those by himself.

I’ve mentioned before that men and women handle breakups differently. Women tend to mourn right away, while men tend to not understand the full gravity of the breakup until later on. Taking their partners for granted tends to be a part of that. But as time passes, and you do more and more things alone that the two of you used to do together, it makes sense that a sense of loneliness and regret might set in. I know in all of my breakups, I’ve done a No Contact period, though it was before I found EBR so I didn’t call it that, and it wasn’t to get my ex’s back, but rather to take the time and space to heal. And guess what? Each and every time, I’ve gotten some version of an “I miss you” communication some time shortly after.

So though it may seem counter-intuitive, the best thing you can do it cut off contact and let the time and space work its magic. It’s true that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Now, don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t just happen. You can’t just sit and wait for him to come crawling back to you. There is still work you have to do. Time and space is absolutely needed, but, if your goal is to get your ex back, there are other things that will help to push the process along.

Using No Contact To Show Him What He’s Lost

If you haven’t taken some time away from your ex to heal and improve, then I have some SHOCKING news for you… You might be REINFORCING his tendency to take you for granted if you try and stay connected with your ex as if nothing happened.

Here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery, it is no secret that you should use distance and time to create a feeling of loss and regret in your ex. You are probably not new to the term No Contact. In fact, I’m betting if you are searching for answers to this problem on the web, we are probably not the only site you’ve landed on. So, I am certain you have probably seen this term already in your endeavors. But I am betting that you haven’t seen No Contact laid out the way our team does No Contact.

Check out the way WE do it HERE before you do ANYTHING else!

During your No Contact period, you should focus on working on improving yourself and your life. Do things that you didn’t have time for when you were in a relationship. Take that pottery class you’d been thinking about signing up for. Now is the time to put that time and energy on yourself. And post that stuff on social media for your ex boyfriend and his sphere of influence to see! Show off the fact that you are doing things you’ve always talked about wanting to do. Showcase the things you know he liked and appreciated about you And definitely show that you are off going out and having fun! I’s important that when he decides to check in on you that he doesn’t get the impression that you have just been wallowing in self-pity since the break up.

No one wants someone who makes one person their entire life. That’s a lot of pressure and it’s not attractive. And, there is truth that people don’t want something easily attainable. But, by creating the space between you and your ex and showing that you are happily living your life, it will automatically make them view you as unattainable.

So, if you combine the concept of time and space and showing off all of your positive improvements on social media, then you’ve mastered the No Contact period. Soon your ex boyfriend should feel your absence and begin missing you if he hasn’t already. Not only is the goal to make him feel like he’s losing you,  you need to emphasize that by making him feel like he’s also missing out on the person you are becoming and the future you are creating.

And you can bring that same tactic into the interactions that you have with your ex boyfriend once you make your first contact. Don’t be too available and answer his texts or calls right away – or sometimes, even at all. When you interact, be sure to show off your positive qualities – especially the things you know he liked about you.

One of the most effective parts of getting an ex boyfriend back is making him regret taking you for granted. And the key to that is using your No Contact period correctly.

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In Conclusion…

So maybe this Buffy quote doesn’t exactly line up with taking things for granted… in a relationship, but the overall sentiments are still the same. Plus, it’s funny:

“You know … you take the killing for granted. And then it’s gone, and you’re like, ‘I wish I’d appreciated it more’ … stopped and smelled the corpses, you know?” – Spike, “Where the Wild Things Are”

The main point is, you don’t realize what you have until it’s gone. That’s how it works with losing anything… a job, a friend, or a relationship.

As I mentioned, men tend to take their female partners for granted. They also have a tendency to process breakups differently, not fully understanding the weight of the loss until they’ve been without it for a while.

So what do you do about it?

Implement the magic formula: Time + Space + Change. The time and space that the No Contact period offers will automatically create the natural setting for your ex boyfriend to miss you, simply by forcing him to face the reality of a life without you.

And by making improvements and focusing on yourself over the No Contact period, you accomplish healing – which, honestly, is the most important part of the Ex Recovery process. No one wants to be miserable forever. And by indirectly reminding your ex boyfriend of your positive qualities, that, in conjunction with the reality of not having you anymore, is the perfect recipe to get him back into your arms.

The appropriate next question should be…

“Will No Contact alone make him regret taking me for granted AND come back?”

and the answer is… no!

What?

I know right?

That’s frustrating, I know. But the truth is yeah it will probably make him regret it, since you’ve put effort into creating a life that will peak his interest. However, if you want him to come back or not go right back to taking you for granted… you have to be able to create a functional back and forth style of communication. And, if you want to do that in a way that has been PROVEN to work, you should follow it up with the steps laid out in Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro. Or, if you aren’t quite sure yet about diving headfirst into a program that works (check out these EBR Success Stories), you should read this article, “What To Do After No Contact.

Alright, so now that you know how to make your ex regret taking you for granted and you have the resources to know what to do AFTER No Contact, let’s talk about YOUR breakup in particular. I mean, we have written articles on almost every situation we have ever come across and, for the most part, every person that comes here thinks that they are an exception to the rules or perhaps that we haven’t touch on a specific situation that they are dealing with already.  And you know what, even though we have dealt with a LOT of situations, you may have something unique that we haven’t covered. And we don’t want to leave you in that situation. We want to help! So, In the comments below, tell me about your breakup and we’ll help teach you how to make him know your worth and realize what he’s lost.

I want to know:

  1. The details of your breakup. Exactly HOW did he take you for granted.
  2. What you’ve done since the breakup.
  3. And what actions you are going to take after reading this article.
		

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Chelsea
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He was definitely taken aback and seemed like he was processing things. He asked if that meant we would only talk to each other in groups and I said I would have other people to talk to, so not even then. It was mainly to protect me from him stringing me along without realizing it.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s good.. The only way that he can realize what you had with each other is what’s important is if he doesn’t get to experience it anymore..

Chelsea
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He was definitely taken aback and seemed like he was processing things. He asked if that meant we would only talk to each other in groups and I said I would have other people to talk to, so not even then. It was mainly to protect me from him stringing me along without realizing it.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s good.. The only way that he can realize what you had with each other is what’s important is if he doesn’t get to experience it anymore..

Monique
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago because he said that i took him for granted and my family didn’t like him. Since then, we have been on and off but I’ve still acted like his girlfriend. We have been intimate, we hangout from time to time, etc. HOWEVER, he acts nice only when he wants to and he takes everything i do for granted. He ignores me whenever he wants to, puts me on the back burner, isn’t there when i need him, etc. sometimes he will go days without speaking to me. And i have… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Monique,
If by intimate you mean sleeping with him. Stop it.. Of you’re not officially together, that means you’re friends with benefits..are you going to do the nc rule?

Monique
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me 7 months ago because he said that i took him for granted and my family didn’t like him. Since then, we have been on and off but I’ve still acted like his girlfriend. We have been intimate, we hangout from time to time, etc. HOWEVER, he acts nice only when he wants to and he takes everything i do for granted. He ignores me whenever he wants to, puts me on the back burner, isn’t there when i need him, etc. sometimes he will go days without speaking to me. And i have… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Monique,
If by intimate you mean sleeping with him. Stop it.. Of you’re not officially together, that means you’re friends with benefits..are you going to do the nc rule?

Chelsea
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My ex broke up with me two years ago and I went through no contact and wave theory and all that. I do believe that the comfort level we reached towards the end of our relationship worried him to think that maybe he didn’t like me as much as he thought. That’s why this idea of him “taking me for granted” really caught my eye. Not only do I think that happened at the end of our relationship, but I think that happened post breakup. Immediately after the breakup, he acted as though nothing had happened and was buddy buddy… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chelsea,

What did he say when you confronted him?

Chelsea
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My ex broke up with me two years ago and I went through no contact and wave theory and all that. I do believe that the comfort level we reached towards the end of our relationship worried him to think that maybe he didn’t like me as much as he thought. That’s why this idea of him “taking me for granted” really caught my eye. Not only do I think that happened at the end of our relationship, but I think that happened post breakup. Immediately after the breakup, he acted as though nothing had happened and was buddy buddy… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Chelsea,

What did he say when you confronted him?

Jess McMillan
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He’s Brazilian, I’m Australian. I wouldn’t say we were boyfriend and girlfriend, but he made me feel wanted and desired. It was my first serious head-over-heels. I tried to support him when he was feeling homesick and tired. But along the way I got clingy and he distanced himself. I was terrified of losing something good and I did. We met late September and parted ways in October 2017 though we ‘stayed in contact’ through texting. He avoided meeting in person but he told me he wanted to be friends. I agreed at first but later said said ‘nope’ because… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jess,

Don’t respond because no matter what you say to him, if you keep responding then he will keep thinking you’re friends.

Jess McMillan
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He’s Brazilian, I’m Australian. I wouldn’t say we were boyfriend and girlfriend, but he made me feel wanted and desired. It was my first serious head-over-heels. I tried to support him when he was feeling homesick and tired. But along the way I got clingy and he distanced himself. I was terrified of losing something good and I did. We met late September and parted ways in October 2017 though we ‘stayed in contact’ through texting. He avoided meeting in person but he told me he wanted to be friends. I agreed at first but later said said ‘nope’ because… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jess,

Don’t respond because no matter what you say to him, if you keep responding then he will keep thinking you’re friends.

Mary
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I’m considering me and my bf broke up because he’s been ignoring me the last couple of days. On Monday I confronted him about not having his phone on him during the weekend and he got upset and seemed to turn the situation around and make it seem like I was the bad guy. He told me to be mad if I want and that’s the last I heard from him. I wasn’t mad to begin with just concerned and worried and since then I haven’t heard from him. I tried contacting him eveyday since then but I still haven’t… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Mary
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I’m considering me and my bf broke up because he’s been ignoring me the last couple of days. On Monday I confronted him about not having his phone on him during the weekend and he got upset and seemed to turn the situation around and make it seem like I was the bad guy. He told me to be mad if I want and that’s the last I heard from him. I wasn’t mad to begin with just concerned and worried and since then I haven’t heard from him. I tried contacting him eveyday since then but I still haven’t… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Lissa
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Over Christmas, my older, successful man (I’m 40, he’s 57), told me he loved me and that I was the 1st woman since his ex wife (15yrs ago), and that he really wanted things to work out for us. Then he left on a 3 week vacation and disappeared. No response.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Lissa
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Over Christmas, my older, successful man (I’m 40, he’s 57), told me he loved me and that I was the 1st woman since his ex wife (15yrs ago), and that he really wanted things to work out for us. Then he left on a 3 week vacation and disappeared. No response.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor
Dejahvu Henry
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Hi! Me and my boyfriend were together for about a year and we broke up 2 months ago. In the beginning of our break up I gnatted and begged to get back together and we eneded up hanging out a few times before he told me he doesn’t want to work things out, after that I started no contact and as of today I have not contacted him in any way shape or form for 30 days. On the 29th day of no contact however I received a text from him saying that he misses me so much and that… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dejahvu Henry,

That’s good that you didn’t reply right away.. It looks like you are active in posting.. Continue that and improving yourself while slowly building rapport. You could do an indifferent reply to that and to start a convo at the same time for your initial text.. Like,
“awww.. I’m touched! I understand and thank you for everything too! Been very busy lately (use your supposed topic for your initial text)

Dejahvu Henry
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Hi! Me and my boyfriend were together for about a year and we broke up 2 months ago. In the beginning of our break up I gnatted and begged to get back together and we eneded up hanging out a few times before he told me he doesn’t want to work things out, after that I started no contact and as of today I have not contacted him in any way shape or form for 30 days. On the 29th day of no contact however I received a text from him saying that he misses me so much and that… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dejahvu Henry,

That’s good that you didn’t reply right away.. It looks like you are active in posting.. Continue that and improving yourself while slowly building rapport. You could do an indifferent reply to that and to start a convo at the same time for your initial text.. Like,
“awww.. I’m touched! I understand and thank you for everything too! Been very busy lately (use your supposed topic for your initial text)

Eli
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My ex boyfriend and I have been in a roller coaster realtionship for two years. As of 3 weeks ago we got in a discussion reguarding New Years plan, I said I’ll talk to you later because I was getting anxious. The next day he was in town and no word from him, haven’t heard from him since and he has blocked me in all social media and has also deleted some of our old photos of when we 1st fell in Love i which he never deleted when we’d break up before. How do I move on without answers… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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Eli
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My ex boyfriend and I have been in a roller coaster realtionship for two years. As of 3 weeks ago we got in a discussion reguarding New Years plan, I said I’ll talk to you later because I was getting anxious. The next day he was in town and no word from him, haven’t heard from him since and he has blocked me in all social media and has also deleted some of our old photos of when we 1st fell in Love i which he never deleted when we’d break up before. How do I move on without answers… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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Eva
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My ex boyfriend clearly takes me for granted and doesn’t value me. Beside the fact we have a long distance we both have add. We had kind of a no contact fact we both needed just a bit space and I got a better version of myself. I was less nagging more k and mire calm. It qorked. He put in effort he contacted me we had better talks. Yet we again fall back in ild pafterns where he clearly disrespects me by putti g me down telling he is bot ibterested ib me and stuff like that. He sais… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You need to stick to the routine you started in nc and to invest more time in it than in him..

Eva
Guest
My ex boyfriend clearly takes me for granted and doesn’t value me. Beside the fact we have a long distance we both have add. We had kind of a no contact fact we both needed just a bit space and I got a better version of myself. I was less nagging more k and mire calm. It qorked. He put in effort he contacted me we had better talks. Yet we again fall back in ild pafterns where he clearly disrespects me by putti g me down telling he is bot ibterested ib me and stuff like that. He sais… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You need to stick to the routine you started in nc and to invest more time in it than in him..

Nat
Guest
My ex and I dated for two years and lived together for 14 months. We had been dealing with some stuff but were trying to work things out until one day he broke up with me with just a letter and left the apartment before I got home. I flew to see my family since I didn’t know a lot of people in the city. Two months have passed and he continues to try to hurt me. He also tells me he wants me out of his life forever but asks me if I ever cheated and if I still… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nat,

We can’t know for sure why he’s still mean.. It can be because he thinks you did something wrong, or he thinks you’re still hoping by not finalizing to get all of your things, or that can be just his expression of authority.. It’s normal that you still love him but it’s good that you’re moving on

Nat
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My ex and I dated for two years and lived together for 14 months. We had been dealing with some stuff but were trying to work things out until one day he broke up with me with just a letter and left the apartment before I got home. I flew to see my family since I didn’t know a lot of people in the city. Two months have passed and he continues to try to hurt me. He also tells me he wants me out of his life forever but asks me if I ever cheated and if I still… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Nat,

We can’t know for sure why he’s still mean.. It can be because he thinks you did something wrong, or he thinks you’re still hoping by not finalizing to get all of your things, or that can be just his expression of authority.. It’s normal that you still love him but it’s good that you’re moving on

TT
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January 4th, 2018 10:03 am My ex and I have been together for a year then we broke up because I know he was on date with another girl younger than him 10 years old (19yrs) while we were a part by argument. Although he and I been for a year but we just kiss, cuddle, and do “BJ” for both nothing really called make out.He sent video of him and her when I worked at night and texted me rude words. I cried because i trusted him never replace me by anyone. after a year he never show me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

There are really people who will use us because they can see we allow them.. It doesn’t matter what kind of person he is because you will move on from him.

Ashley
Guest
My boyfriend stopped responding to my text and calls 3 days ago. On day 2 he said he needed time and space. Day 3 he called at 1am I didn’t answer so he texted me saying he is a piece of shit and he needs me in his life. I responded the next day inviting him to a movie premiere we went to the movies tonight and I dropped him off at home. I think he takes me for granted because he always places the blame on me when we fight or have conflicts and he doesn’t take ownership of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ashley,

but did you ask him about your relationship status?

Angie
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Why my post not showing

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Angie,

this is the only comment I can see in this email.. Have you used other email addresses?

TT
Guest
January 4th, 2018 10:03 am My ex and I have been together for a year then we broke up because I know he was on date with another girl younger than him 10 years old (19yrs) while we were a part by argument. Although he and I been for a year but we just kiss, cuddle, and do “BJ” for both nothing really called make out.He sent video of him and her when I worked at night and texted me rude words. I cried because i trusted him never replace me by anyone. after a year he never show me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi,

There are really people who will use us because they can see we allow them.. It doesn’t matter what kind of person he is because you will move on from him.

Ashley
Guest
My boyfriend stopped responding to my text and calls 3 days ago. On day 2 he said he needed time and space. Day 3 he called at 1am I didn’t answer so he texted me saying he is a piece of shit and he needs me in his life. I responded the next day inviting him to a movie premiere we went to the movies tonight and I dropped him off at home. I think he takes me for granted because he always places the blame on me when we fight or have conflicts and he doesn’t take ownership of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ashley,

but did you ask him about your relationship status?

Angie
Guest

Why my post not showing

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Angie,

this is the only comment I can see in this email.. Have you used other email addresses?

Susanna
Guest

My ex and I broke up 12 days ago. I was crying a lot during the breakup, and that evening he sent me many texts and called me and left me a voicemail, saying he wants to know if I’m okay and that he is sad too. All of which I ignored. Since then, Christmas and New Year’s has passed, and he has not attempted to contact me back or watched any of my Snapchat stories which he used to do. How did my ignoring him make him feel? Has he given up on me?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Susanna,
he’s probably just respecting your space.. have you been active in improving yourself and in doing posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours?

Susanna
Guest

My ex and I broke up 12 days ago. I was crying a lot during the breakup, and that evening he sent me many texts and called me and left me a voicemail, saying he wants to know if I’m okay and that he is sad too. All of which I ignored. Since then, Christmas and New Year’s has passed, and he has not attempted to contact me back or watched any of my Snapchat stories which he used to do. How did my ignoring him make him feel? Has he given up on me?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Susanna,
he’s probably just respecting your space.. have you been active in improving yourself and in doing posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours?

Renee
Guest
I’m lost , I’ve done NC ex text me soon as I finished we small talked til I started using the text methods on him had him engaged initiating convo even talk to him on the phone once good convo cut it real short he even planned on hang out til the time came he was sick I knew from speaking to him the day before , day came I texted him hope your feeling better nothing no reply i was lost I didn’t send nothing else 2 days went past no hear frm I was confused I text him… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Renee
Guest
I’m confused!! I’ve done NC ex text me soon as I finished we small talked til I started using the text methods on him had him engaged initiating convo even talk to him on the phone once good convo cut it real short he even planned on hang out til the time came he was sick I knew from speaking to him the day before , day came I texted him hope your feeling better nothing no reply i was lost I didn’t send nothing else 2 days went past no hear frm I was confused I text him a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Renee
Guest
I’m lost , I’ve done NC ex text me soon as I finished we small talked til I started using the text methods on him had him engaged initiating convo even talk to him on the phone once good convo cut it real short he even planned on hang out til the time came he was sick I knew from speaking to him the day before , day came I texted him hope your feeling better nothing no reply i was lost I didn’t send nothing else 2 days went past no hear frm I was confused I text him… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Renee
Guest
I’m confused, I’ve done NC ex text me soon as I finished we small talked til I started using the text methods on him had him engaged initiating convo even talk to him on the phone once good convo cut it real short he even planned on hang out til the time came he was sick I knew from speaking to him the day before , day came I texted him hope your feeling better nothing no reply i was lost I didn’t send nothing else 2 days went past no hear frm I was confused I text him a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Renee
Guest
I’m confused!! I’ve done NC ex text me soon as I finished we small talked til I started using the text methods on him had him engaged initiating convo even talk to him on the phone once good convo cut it real short he even planned on hang out til the time came he was sick I knew from speaking to him the day before , day came I texted him hope your feeling better nothing no reply i was lost I didn’t send nothing else 2 days went past no hear frm I was confused I text him a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Renee
Guest
I’m confused, I’ve done NC ex text me soon as I finished we small talked til I started using the text methods on him had him engaged initiating convo even talk to him on the phone once good convo cut it real short he even planned on hang out til the time came he was sick I knew from speaking to him the day before , day came I texted him hope your feeling better nothing no reply i was lost I didn’t send nothing else 2 days went past no hear frm I was confused I text him a… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Shaila
Guest
My ex and I broke up over a month ago. My ex wants to remain friends. I’ve been in no contact for 10 days. He reached out to me in the beginning and when I didn’t reply he called my best friend asking her why I was ignoring him and she told him to give me some space. He did..but a few days later when I was with this friend he texts her telling her to tell me to text him because “he had something important to say”. I refused. This angered him, to the point where he told my… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Nope it’s just emotions and even if he means being friendly after that is going to be worse for you

Shaila
Guest
My ex and I broke up over a month ago. My ex wants to remain friends. I’ve been in no contact for 10 days. He reached out to me in the beginning and when I didn’t reply he called my best friend asking her why I was ignoring him and she told him to give me some space. He did..but a few days later when I was with this friend he texts her telling her to tell me to text him because “he had something important to say”. I refused. This angered him, to the point where he told my… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Nope it’s just emotions and even if he means being friendly after that is going to be worse for you