By Rachel

So, in  the beginning of the relationship things were wonderful and magical, and you could never imagine a day that he wouldn’t look at you with adoring eyes. Unfortunately, this happens a lot in relationships today.

It’s a hard truth that after you’ve been with someone for a while. Maybe you’ve gotten used to him. Perhaps he doesn’t dazzle you the same way they used to. Personally, I don’t really mind when this happens in relationships… to an extent. To me it just means you’ve entered another level of trust and affection. It means you don’t need to put on a full face of makeup before leaving the house because you know he doesn’t need to see you all made up to love you and be attracted to you. It’s a comfortable companionship and friendship, and the longest lasting and most successful relationships are based on those two things.

But why I added the “to an extent” caveat earlier is because even if the two of you fall into a comfortable companionship, that doesn’t mean that respect, affection, and appreciation should go out the window. But so frequently, it does.

Once you’ve been with each other for a while, it’s not unusual that someone gets taken for granted.

Let me tell you something: Recovery isn’t always about getting an ex back. Sometimes, it’s also about figuring out what you deserve. And, sometimes that means realizing that you deserve better than you’ve been getting. Sometimes, in our Facebook Group Here women make their “I’m finally moving on!” posts:

“He never valued me or the things I did for him.”

“My ex never respected me or the work I did in our relationship.”

“He never acknowledged my worth.”

“I deserve better.”

It’s a pretty common to realize an ex boyfriend that you’ve been putting on a pedestal actually didn’t value you and what you did for them as much as they did in the beginning. It’s empowering to realize that we deserve better that what we’ve been running after.

But why is this such a common problem? And what can we do about it?

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Why Men Take Their Girlfriends, Wives, Or Partners For Granted

I hesitate to say this, but I do think it is generally true that men tend to take their female partners for granted more than women tend to take their male partners for granted.

I have a theory about why this is.

Historically, men’s primary job in the family order was to go out into the world and provide. As cavemen, males were the ones to go out and hunt to provide food for their family. As time progressed, men continued to be the ones to go out and work to make money to provide for their family, while the women were left home to tend to the household duties and children – which brings me to women’s expected role. Women have historically been considered to be the more social of the sexes. Their relationships with other people – their husbands, children, and friends, were their primary purpose. Women were responsible for the relationship side of things, while men were responsible for providing.

It’s no wonder, based on this centuries-old social construct that women generally tend to put in more effort into relationships than men do. Even now, when we have broken through most of the “expected roles” with more women than ever before as part of the workforce, and men are doing more stay at home parenting, there is still a certain level of expectation that women will keep the relationship running smoothly.

It is no secret that you have to continue to date and fall in love with your partner everyday. This means two weeks into your relationship or 20 years into your relationship. A little bit of effort goes a long way, but as time goes on, that seems to get forgotten. We get comfortable and begin to feel like we don’t need to try as hard. I’m not saying that a man should cook his wife a five course dinner each Saturday night, although, I’m sure that would be appreciated. I am saying that a little thoughtfulness and acknowledging a partner’s thoughtfulness will go a long way.

And this doesn’t just go for men. Just because this may generally come more naturally for women doesn’t mean we don’t sometimes need the reminder, too.

  • Remember to say thank you.
  • Do small things to show him you’re thinking of him.
  • Tell him what you like about him.

If you haven’t read up on the Five Love Languages, I suggest you do so that you can get an idea of how you tend to express love, and how you receive it. Because, not everyone needs to be loved in the same way.

Here is a quick breakdown of the love languages to get you started:

  1. Quality Time – spending time with your partner doing things together that one or both of you enjoy.
  2. Physical Touch – cuddling, hugging, physical intimacy. Showing love through physicality.
  3. Words of Affirmation – Being told that you’re loved, or having someone tell you how wonderful they think you are and why.
  4. Acts of Service – Having your partner do something you don’t want to do or that needs to be done as a way of showing love
  5. Giving/Receiving Gifts – Pretty self explanatory, but feeling someone’s love for you based on physical gifts or experiences they offer.

So oddly enough, the primary way that I like to receive love is words of affirmation. I love hearing someone gush about how wonderful they think I am. Nothing makes me feel more loved. However, one of the best ways I know how to give love is through gifts and acts of service.

You may find it’s a different mix with different partners. You might need to express your love differently within different relationships.Part of showing someone you care is to put in the effort to learn a new love language to mesh with them. But if you haven’t, I do recommend you look into these 5 love languages. It offers a lot in the way of learning how to communicate with your loved ones. This will be helpful in any relationship you’re in – if you get back with your ex, or you move on to someone new. You can even use it in friendships and in interactions with your family.

So, now that we’ve covered why your ex may have taken you for granted, we are going to discuss…

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How Can I Make Him See My Worth If We’re Already Broken Up?

What’s the best way to make someone realize what they’re missing? Disappear from their life completely so they face the reality of a life without you.

That’s right – No Contact is the first step. Shocker, huh?

Your ex is used to spending time with you on a pretty regular basis. So when a relationship ended it’s likely that he was not fully prepared for the reality of what a life without you would be like. So instead of being readily available the best thing you can do is make him live with the consequences of his actions. Go full No Contact

Think about it – if you were his girlfriend, you offered him a lot. It’s likely that you did things for him that he didn’t even think of on a daily basis. Instead of sharing the duty of washing dishes or walking the dog, he now has to do those by himself.

I’ve mentioned before that men and women handle breakups differently. Women tend to mourn right away, while men tend to not understand the full gravity of the breakup until later on. Taking their partners for granted tends to be a part of that. But as time passes, and you do more and more things alone that the two of you used to do together, it makes sense that a sense of loneliness and regret might set in. I know in all of my breakups, I’ve done a No Contact period, though it was before I found EBR so I didn’t call it that, and it wasn’t to get my ex’s back, but rather to take the time and space to heal. And guess what? Each and every time, I’ve gotten some version of an “I miss you” communication some time shortly after.

So though it may seem counter-intuitive, the best thing you can do it cut off contact and let the time and space work its magic. It’s true that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Now, don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t just happen. You can’t just sit and wait for him to come crawling back to you. There is still work you have to do. Time and space is absolutely needed, but, if your goal is to get your ex back, there are other things that will help to push the process along.

Using No Contact To Show Him What He’s Lost

If you haven’t taken some time away from your ex to heal and improve, then I have some SHOCKING news for you… You might be REINFORCING his tendency to take you for granted if you try and stay connected with your ex as if nothing happened.

Here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery, it is no secret that you should use distance and time to create a feeling of loss and regret in your ex. You are probably not new to the term No Contact. In fact, I’m betting if you are searching for answers to this problem on the web, we are probably not the only site you’ve landed on. So, I am certain you have probably seen this term already in your endeavors. But I am betting that you haven’t seen No Contact laid out the way our team does No Contact.

Check out the way WE do it HERE before you do ANYTHING else!

During your No Contact period, you should focus on working on improving yourself and your life. Do things that you didn’t have time for when you were in a relationship. Take that pottery class you’d been thinking about signing up for. Now is the time to put that time and energy on yourself. And post that stuff on social media for your ex boyfriend and his sphere of influence to see! Show off the fact that you are doing things you’ve always talked about wanting to do. Showcase the things you know he liked and appreciated about you And definitely show that you are off going out and having fun! I’s important that when he decides to check in on you that he doesn’t get the impression that you have just been wallowing in self-pity since the break up.

No one wants someone who makes one person their entire life. That’s a lot of pressure and it’s not attractive. And, there is truth that people don’t want something easily attainable. But, by creating the space between you and your ex and showing that you are happily living your life, it will automatically make them view you as unattainable.

So, if you combine the concept of time and space and showing off all of your positive improvements on social media, then you’ve mastered the No Contact period. Soon your ex boyfriend should feel your absence and begin missing you if he hasn’t already. Not only is the goal to make him feel like he’s losing you,  you need to emphasize that by making him feel like he’s also missing out on the person you are becoming and the future you are creating.

And you can bring that same tactic into the interactions that you have with your ex boyfriend once you make your first contact. Don’t be too available and answer his texts or calls right away – or sometimes, even at all. When you interact, be sure to show off your positive qualities – especially the things you know he liked about you.

One of the most effective parts of getting an ex boyfriend back is making him regret taking you for granted. And the key to that is using your No Contact period correctly.

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In Conclusion…

So maybe this Buffy quote doesn’t exactly line up with taking things for granted… in a relationship, but the overall sentiments are still the same. Plus, it’s funny:

“You know … you take the killing for granted. And then it’s gone, and you’re like, ‘I wish I’d appreciated it more’ … stopped and smelled the corpses, you know?” – Spike, “Where the Wild Things Are”

The main point is, you don’t realize what you have until it’s gone. That’s how it works with losing anything… a job, a friend, or a relationship.

As I mentioned, men tend to take their female partners for granted. They also have a tendency to process breakups differently, not fully understanding the weight of the loss until they’ve been without it for a while.

So what do you do about it?

Implement the magic formula: Time + Space + Change. The time and space that the No Contact period offers will automatically create the natural setting for your ex boyfriend to miss you, simply by forcing him to face the reality of a life without you.

And by making improvements and focusing on yourself over the No Contact period, you accomplish healing – which, honestly, is the most important part of the Ex Recovery process. No one wants to be miserable forever. And by indirectly reminding your ex boyfriend of your positive qualities, that, in conjunction with the reality of not having you anymore, is the perfect recipe to get him back into your arms.

The appropriate next question should be…

“Will No Contact alone make him regret taking me for granted AND come back?”

and the answer is… no!


I know right?

That’s frustrating, I know. But the truth is yeah it will probably make him regret it, since you’ve put effort into creating a life that will peak his interest. However, if you want him to come back or not go right back to taking you for granted… you have to be able to create a functional back and forth style of communication. And, if you want to do that in a way that has been PROVEN to work, you should follow it up with the steps laid out in Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro. Or, if you aren’t quite sure yet about diving headfirst into a program that works (check out these EBR Success Stories), you should read this article, “What To Do After No Contact.

Alright, so now that you know how to make your ex regret taking you for granted and you have the resources to know what to do AFTER No Contact, let’s talk about YOUR breakup in particular. I mean, we have written articles on almost every situation we have ever come across and, for the most part, every person that comes here thinks that they are an exception to the rules or perhaps that we haven’t touch on a specific situation that they are dealing with already.  And you know what, even though we have dealt with a LOT of situations, you may have something unique that we haven’t covered. And we don’t want to leave you in that situation. We want to help! So, In the comments below, tell me about your breakup and we’ll help teach you how to make him know your worth and realize what he’s lost.

I want to know:

  1. The details of your breakup. Exactly HOW did he take you for granted.
  2. What you’ve done since the breakup.
  3. And what actions you are going to take after reading this article.

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122 thoughts on “How to Make Him Regret Taking You for Granted”

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    January 9, 2021 at 6:28 am

    Is no contact effective if throughout the relationship he is the “master” of no contact and has been the one doing no contact on you whenever y’all argue when y’all were together and now that he has broken up – he also does the same to you?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 11, 2021 at 7:02 pm

      Hi E, when in a relationship (not broken up) no contact is actually causing more damage to your relationship than helping. It is called stonewalling.

      However, if you were the one to reach out and try to reconcile after an argument then yes you following the rules of no contact is going to work.

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    December 23, 2020 at 4:42 am

    My ex always text asking what I’m doing but didn’t talk to me in person. He was always wanting attention from other girls. I told him that I wanted us to be closer a few times, but he never changed. Together a year, we’re hanging together in the start, then covid prevented us seeing each other. When we did finally see each other, he continued texting daily but didn’t try to talk to me. Finally, my friend shows me that he has been texting and calling her, I explain to him that it is not right that i feel invisible and I have given him so many chances and why doesn’t he talk to me, not even saying hi. His response was he is to nervous to talk to me and that he doesn’t want us to break up to give him another chance he will do anything, that he loves me and will love me forever and that he won’t hurt me. The next day I responded by asking if he was ok and he said yes so long as we are friends. Then the following day he tells everyone that he is single and flirting with all the girls, he sends me a message saying that he isn’t trying to hurt me and that he ‘likes me as a friend’. My friend sent him a message requesting that he stop contacting her. Then he contacts telling me he needs to as me something, I said sure. Then he sends another message saying are you there? I went no contact after this message as I felt the question was about why my friend sent that message and it had nothing to do with me. Two weeks later he has moved on with another girl, who been nasty to me and who liked my ex and is all over her and he was giving me mean stares. She is the opposite of me loud, physically bigger and unfit and is not a nice person. 26 days into no contact and I have heard nothing. Its holiday season now and I haven’t seen my ex for a week. I have been extremely loyal to him, proven time and time again when other boys have approached me and not flirted and said I had a boyfriend and even lost a friend who told lie about my ex and I stuck up for him. I am focussing on my sport and friends and trying be my best again.

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    October 31, 2020 at 1:48 pm

    actually, he’s just kinda my ex bf because we never got “official”. I would do things for him especially when he asks for favors since we’re co-workers. I would receive a thank you but that’s when I pointed out that he is not saying thank you. then I believe he is flirting with this woman ever since. (this woman posts almost nude or sexy pictures and he would react to most of her posts than other girls but I believe they don’t meet in person these days and months)
    and then due to the feeling of being used and being taken for granted, I decided (after many months) that I’m leaving and I kinda told him thru text that if he wants to make amends, he can talk to me but he never did come up to me and talk, and he just acted like he didn’t read that long message I got with him. I was so stressed back then when I sent him that and I also told him that.
    I’m also not good at opening up in person at that time I sent him the text; we were also apart.
    he acted as if he didn’t read it but he started to give me attention again of which I didn’t believe will last so I kept on ignoring him as much as possible even though we’re co-workers. I saw that he still reacts to that woman’s posts after I’ve sent him that text (which contains me telling him that he is flirting with that woman so basically telling him I don’t like it) rather than on mine so it really pushed me to really ignore him, implementing the no contact rule.
    then after that text, he was giving me more attention than he used to but it’s that I could still see that he likes the other woman more than me so I didn’t believe his subsequent actions towards me, so, after one month after that text and his subsequent “sweet” acts, he unfriended me on Facebook.
    the woman has also stopped posting (in FB) since the day I sent the text and she also made her account private in IG afterward, which both confirms on my part (I believe) that he is just stringing me around to use as a puppet at work.
    so, yeah, he unfriended me on FB and that’s that. of course I got sad when I learned about that but I think it’s a good thing because I didn’t have to do it myself. I just want to know now if my hunches were right or wrong. what do you think?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 31, 2020 at 4:18 pm

      Hi Valerie, I would agree that there is something between your “ex” and this woman because of how she changed her account settings once you told him. I wouldn’t say they were involved in anyway, just online flirting it seems. I hope you find the strength to move passed what he has done and work on yourself to show him what he has lost.

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    September 30, 2020 at 11:15 pm

    Hi EBR… My boyfriend who I’m so in love with recently told me that I deserve better and he doesn’t think that he’s the best man for me.
    Not to mention, early this year he mentioned that he would love for me to meet his parents, he was the one saying that no matter what, we’ll make this relationship work. He made me feel wanted, beautiful and appreciated. We talked a lot about the future and all positive things. I don’t understand why all of a sudden he wants to give up on us. He did mention that one day he will regret his decision.
    I don’t understand, I’m hurt.

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    September 26, 2020 at 2:22 pm

    My boyfriend and I were together for 3.5 years. He is american and I am from Spain. We started with some lies from his part as he had a girlfriend at a time, well, according to him they were broken up, but they were back and forth. The more he met me the more he liked our time together and our connection. Deep inside I knew I had to stop it, I had to value myself and leave, but I couldn’t, I was getting attached. 5 month later I told him I was going to Spain for the summer and once back I didn’t want to have anything to do with him. I left, we kept texting and he told me he bought a flight to come see me. After a while he told me he came because I gave him an ultimatum which I really didn’t. I just wanted to take care of myself. I went back to the US, dated, I had my apartment, he had his, and when his lease was up, a year and a half later he moved in with me. We play tennis together, we play lots of tournaments, we like restaurants, we do a lot together, but maybe it is true that chemistry wasn’t too strong because he is stressed, depressed at times. My visa was expiring last June and he did nothing for me to say, I guess it wasn’t easy as the easiest solution would have been to marry. As he did nothing we knew it was gonna be over. To my surprise I got a visa extension and could stay one more year, but I thought, if he didn’t fight for me whats the point of staying if he doesn’t value me enough to fight for the relationship.
    So, I left. I regret it to this day. I’ve been missing him like crazy, he texted me for a while, he told me he missed me, we were best friends, I need space and time. My job is good but the rest, need to figure things out. I was the one texting less and less, to put distance. Its been hard, cause I want him back.
    I want him back in my life, but I don’t have a visa to go back, no idea if I will ever get him back.
    Solutions? What should I do? I am dying for him to come see me or meet halfway or marry him one day. The relationship had his ups and down but we had fun together.
    I just cant get over him and regret leaving, because the last months were so good

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    September 15, 2020 at 2:32 pm

    My ex and I broke up almost a month ago and at first I wasn’t aware of the no contact rule, so I begged and pleaded with him, when I told him I was moving my stuff out of the house he asked for me to come stay with him and he was very apologetic (I had been staying elsewhere for about a week), so I did but we were still “broken up”. We were hot and cold until about a week ago and I found out he had been talking to other women so I moved all of my stuff out and have started no contact. We have both said some hurtful things to each other. I was the girlfriend that went out of her way to make him happy, we had a lot of intimacy in the relationship that wasn’t sex, but towards the end we weren’t seeing eye to eye and he wasn’t acting like himself. I have reconnected with my friends since the break up and especially so since starting no contact. I am not going to keep my hopes too high that we will get back together so I am going to really start focusing on myself again but I am still hoping that we can reconnect.

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    September 11, 2020 at 2:04 am

    My now ex went on a vacation with his mom, his kids, his ex girlfriend, her husband and kid .. they do not share kids. Apparently the ex is super attached to his mom. We were dating for 15 months. I was close to his kids. I was not invited and made a big ugly scene about it. He insists it’s nothing but it hurt like heck. I’m now blocked. I wish he’d fix it but WHY did this trip happen in the first place?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 11, 2020 at 9:14 pm

      Hi Amelia, so it sounds as if he and his ex are just friends, especially if her husband is there. It is rare, but sometimes people can remain friends after a break up, especially if his mother and the ex have stayed friends.

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    Raticia Dina

    September 2, 2020 at 8:16 am

    He never appreciated my love because he was still stuck to his, I left him but I still love him, I wish to take him back, but I want him to respect me and appreciate me

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    September 2, 2020 at 1:24 am

    Hey EBR,myself shakthi,i am in a love with a guy for 3 years since by end of11th grade now am entering 2nd year college ,mine is a long distance relationship, i knew him in instagram,we used to have casuall fights but past few days he says he dosent want this relationship because his parents will not be okay for a love marriage,but I’ve been loving him so much, i donot wanna loose him i take all sincere efforts and show him all the time how much i love him at end am only taken for grantedit hurts but seriously i cant replace him with anyone eitherI feel he should know my value,how to make him realise?he tells he doesn’t love me but he also says i cant leave you i will be talking to yoy always,am confused too what can I do?please help me out

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 2, 2020 at 5:16 pm

      Hey Shakthi, so you need to go into a no contact as you are broken up and work on your holy trinity and work to being Ungettable during this time. Show him you are not going to sit and wait for him or talk to him when he feels like it! As for the marriage and future, if his culture and parents are what decides who he marries then you need to accept that he will not go against their deicsion, regardless of what you do. Or you work out what it is they deem acceptable for a daughter in law and show them you can be that person. But that would only be if he was willing to introduce you to them, which at the moment sounds as if that is not that case.

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    August 25, 2020 at 9:58 pm

    So I was his girlfriend for 6 months. Throughout the 6 months, we quarrelled about the same thing again and again — him not spending enough time with me. Our routine was to meet once a week. Alternating between me going to his province to have lunch with him for just a few hours and him coming to my house at night, Just to cuddlee, coax me to have sex, and then go home once that is done. He never wanted to sleep over. And that is also Another thing we fought about. Also he never made the effort to call To check in on me either. He does text me a lot tho. One time, he even lied to me about going out to help his female colleague with an assignment. I asked why couldn’t he see me on that day, he said he was busy and rushing around doing errands. I then found out after checking her insta story that he was out with her. I confronted him about that and he assured me that there is nothing romantic going on with that girl. However, I was still cross with him and we did not talk for two days. After that 2 days, he called me up (something he never did before) just to ask me whether I had confronted his female colleague, which I did not do. This made me so upset as the only reason he started talking to me again was to ask about another girl. I then asked for a break up but regretted him and tried to get him back after 2 days. He didn’t want to get back tgt because he said he is tired of arguing and quarrelling with me. And I agree it’s the same argument 24/7 – him not making the time for me. He said he has tried to improve but it never works out the way he wants it to and he is just tired of it. I am devastated and I wonder is there a chance that he will ever regret mistreating me…. if there is a chance that he will come back and treat me right. Throughout the relationship I often begged him to treat me better… and I admit, he was trying, but I guess I wasn’t patient enough and I kept complaining

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    August 19, 2020 at 9:06 am

    I was always last on his priority list. He was the one who was navigating the relationship. I expressed me concern many times but he never did anything about it. He kept repeating the same things which hurt me and when I used to complaint then his reply used to be “ I don’t do anything intentionally . Why do u even pay attention to such small things In a relationship” . Finally, I broke up and took the last chance with him In order to see if the breakup will bring any change in him. He kept coming back but I refused to accept him but I have been accepting him again and again after the same mistakes .

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    August 4, 2020 at 3:49 am

    My bf broke up with me after a year then wanted to be friends I tried for a year up and down of not committing when we were great with eachother then finally couldn’t be a friend anymore and said like many times before but finally ment it this time that I don’t want this anymore and I’ll cherish the good times and my heart and feelings for you are just to much and you won’t hear from me anymore just letting you no without disappearing without an explanation take care I got a response of we did have good times ;( I get it ❤️You too. That made me feel like crap after a year two being his friend when I didn’t even want to try on only tried to hope to take me back

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    July 30, 2020 at 9:05 am

    Can i have some help please, me and my ex broke up because of I big argument that altered our relationship, after trying to make it work I thought it would be best to leave the family home, after leaving I still tried to make it work but he wasnt interested, he started partying, talking to girls.. I went into no contact and after 20 days he called crying and said how much he missed me, we spoke for hours and the following morning he asked me to meet, which I eagerly agreed to, I ended up staying the night, I left and felt out relationship was getting back on track but he became distant, for about 2 weeks he was on and off with me, one day he was so lovely and the next very blunt, I figured he was still pursuing other options and I was possibly just a back up in case they didn’t work out, so I don’t him this and told him I wouldn’t be hanging around while that was happening, he didn’t fight for me, and neither did he disagree when I said I thought he was pursing other women, so that told me he was, we ended very amicably because I sent him and forgiveness text and he replied saying he never deserved me, and that I was an amazing girlfriend, after he sent me that text I went straight into no contact AGAIN, it’s been 2 days and I was wondering will no contact work even though I was the one that walked away, will it work a second time, will he realise he took me for granted at all? He didn’t fight for me to stay at all, he’s begged me not to block him, but I can’t understand why, I didn’t mention before but when I first went into no contact i changed my life massively, I lost 1 and a half stone in 3 weeks, went travelling and met new people, I felt I was getting somewhere, I would like him back of course but not if he’s going to take me for granted again

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      August 2, 2020 at 9:36 am

      Hey Ali it sounds as if you were on the right track during your first no contact so repeat those patterns, but when you got back with him it all stopped – meaning that he fell back into the old patterns and routines. It happens often but it is important that you do not let that happen to your life again. You work on the UG and stay on that even if you are with him or not. Yes no contact can work a second time, even though you walked away. It is about the impression you leave when you use social media to show him what he has lost

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    Maxwell Yirenkyi Amoyaw

    July 19, 2020 at 3:01 pm

    I had this gal i loved the most, abt a year ago she told me she does me in her life again,i didn’t take her words for serious, now she left n i still loved her i need her badly in my life, i tried talking to her n she told me she dating a new guy nw that i pushed her into that relationship,.
    I have tried whatever i could just for her to understand ma feelings for her to come back to me but it seems she have found love in this new guy, she will tell me to give her time if i call n tried talk to her that i still love her,.what should I do because i love her so much ..please help me bring back my love pls..i this gal n am ready to do anything for her love to be mine pls help….thank you

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      July 19, 2020 at 5:33 pm

      Hey Maxwell, if you want to follow this program and she has a new relationship then it starts with a 45 day No Contact where you work on yourself. So that when you reach out you are the better man and better option. Showing her how you are ready to give her a relationship that she wanted. But this does take time. Read about the being there method before reaching out at the end of 45 days

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    July 2, 2020 at 12:36 am

    I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 months because of trust issues. For starters, he took a screenshot of a chick he dated once and she had on a bikini with big boobs. I accidentally saw the pic in his phone and he kept stammering it’s no big deal. He also told me she is nice to look at and I was pissed at him for saying that to me. He realized that was stupid of him to do that and deleted the pic. Second, he was liking other single chick’s pics and sending friend request to them. Third, he hid his Facebook friend’s list from me so I would not hound him anymore about his shenanigans. Even after we agreed we would not do this crap, he still justified his reasons of no harm done and there was no intent to his actions. I told him I was hurt by his betrayal and he never showed remorse. Also I wanted him to unfriend the chick he dated once but he just ignored me. I finally came to the realization I cannot trust him anymore and dumped his ass. But I do miss him because we had fun and he was good to me…other than the things I shared. I am not sure how to handle this and it’s only been 2 days. When I got my things from his place, he was being cold towards me. I said a few things to him and mentioned you do understand why I am breaking up with you? He replied because of the hidden friends list and I said that’s part of it but that chick April… and he cut me off and said bye and walked away from me. I said good luck in your next relationship and walked out. I don’t know why I even care because he caused this problem not me. I was very good to him and sacrificed my time to help him with his home doing projects. Help me see I did the right thing!

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    June 26, 2020 at 9:18 pm

    my ex boyfriend and I broke upCos on val day we spoke abt the girl and he told me she will be getting married soon I didn’t say anything dat day but cos I was angry dat Sunday wen I called Baron to ask if he has heard from him but he said no so I was angry and I said no guy wit his normal sense would be dating or going out wit sumone who will be getting married soon so he should stop lying to me I said stuff I can’t remember dem now cos i said demout of anger everything i said was on whatsapp but I apologized I told him I sent some annoying messages and I was sorry he should not listen to dem cos it was already late and I could not delete dem again and he agreed just for him to go online read it and sent me a message dat he doesn’t love me anymore i was in school wen I saw the message I came back home I called him even tho he said I shouldn’t come to his house but I still went I apologized i cried I knelt down and was begging me even wit everything he was telling me comparing me to the two girls I was still begging him but he refused he just said I deserve better and he is tired of hurting me even tho he doesn’t want to lose me but I still love him so much and is 5 month already he has moved on I don’t knw wat to do

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    carick benny

    June 26, 2020 at 9:11 pm

    I and my ex broke up 5 months ago after we had an issue he was cheating on me on Valentinsday we talked abt it and he apologized but the next day he went out with the same girl I tried calling him but he was rejecting my calls I got angry and told him I wanted us to break up even tho I didn’t mean and I told him he was confused and didn’t knw wat he wanted so he got angry and said he was going to break up wit me even tho I apologized for saying wat I said he told me I deserved better and he doesn’t want to hurtme even tho he still doesn’t want to lose me but I love him so much and I still do and miss him too I don’t want to do

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 27, 2020 at 8:23 pm

      Hey Carick, I would suggest that you start working on your Holy Trinity and work on your self esteem understand that you do not deserve to be treated this way. When you work on your Holy Trinity and Ungettable mindset you will realise that the cheating is unacceptable and the fact that he did it again after you forgave him shows that he has little respect for you

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    June 14, 2020 at 3:51 pm

    My ex took me for granted in a way that he will leave me for other girls and come back saying sorry and i take him back this time he took off with another girl and i begged him to take him back he told me he that he’s with this girl will i be able to stand the fact that he will be with me and this girl i said yes coz i really love him and i never followed up with that and told him that i am able to live without him he said ohk then after a month or two i told him that i want to cut contact with him he got angry coz we have a child together and didnt want me to cut contact with him so i said ohk but he ended up saying that he will support me through my healing then i got off all social networks without telling him i still want him back coz i love him so much

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 14, 2020 at 9:21 pm

      Hey Sphokazi, so the reason he keeps taking you for granted and leaving you for other women is because he knows you love him and would take him back straight away. You need to work on your Holy Trinity and being Ungettable, maybe even consider dating when you are feeling better and up to it. Not that you have to get into another relationship but make him realise that if he doesn’t change fast then he is going to lose you.

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    May 29, 2020 at 11:04 am

    I caught him cheating once and I forgave him Jan
    Now I caught him flirting with a Friend and he pecked his ex
    I confronted him jokingly and he called and I didn’t pick his calls… He texted I didn’t reply him. I sent him message to send his account number so I can send his money back.. I expected him to beg me. He sent his account details and he told me to remove the money he owe me and send all his money back
    I asked him if he was throwing the relationship away… I had to beg him..
    I told him we could work things out
    He told me I love him so much than he loves me.. He doesn’t know how to show me he loves me… He can’t keep pretending every thing is fine… He truly wants the relationship , he doesn’t want to throw it away ,he wants me in his life… But I can’t keep forgiving him everytime, I show him more than he deserves that he is already under appreciating me… I deserve some better … He can’t be good to everyone and continue to be a dickhead to me… I told him cheating is everywhere… I was making excuse for him… I don’t want to loose this relationship please.

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    May 25, 2020 at 6:11 pm

    He disrespected me.. blow hot and cold.. asking for Space saying it has nothing to do with me.. then would say we could spend weekend together and then change his mind on the day..saying he wasn’t turning his back on me… but I couldn’t take it anymore and I walked away….

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