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123 thoughts on “How to Make Him Regret Taking You for Granted”

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    Chantelle

    May 25, 2020 at 6:11 pm

    He disrespected me.. blow hot and cold.. asking for Space saying it has nothing to do with me.. then would say we could spend weekend together and then change his mind on the day..saying he wasn’t turning his back on me… but I couldn’t take it anymore and I walked away….

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    Alyssa Gurdon

    May 22, 2020 at 9:44 pm

    I just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years due to his lying and deception on his social media, and him generally taking me for granted. I stated that I was uncomfortable with him following and commenting on “sexy” Instagram pages of women he doesn’t personally know . He said no problem and unfollowed all these types of pages . But the issue has come up twice , and both times he has gone back and continued to follow these pages . At this point , it was less about social media and more about the fact that he disrespected the relationship by going back on his word on somethings that clearly made me uncomfortable. Since he clearly didn’t change his behavior the first two times I politely asked, I broke up with him to indicate that he cannot break my boundaries and keep getting away with it. He took full responsibility for breaking his word, and said he understood my decision .

    Everything else about the relationship was great , but I fear the fact that he couldn’t do something as simple as not follow these inappropriate pages for the sake of our relationship will spell out trouble in other areas in the future. I would
    Love to continue the relationship if this issue was permanently fixed , but is it just wishful thinking on my end to think he can change if he couldn’t do it the last few times? For now I am implementing no contact, do I continue to leave him alone until he expresses interest in reconciling and proving to me he can change BEFORE we consider getting back together ?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 29, 2020 at 4:30 pm

      Hi Alyssa, so if you had the conversation with your ex and he continues to do so then he is not showing you respect or taking you seriously. So I would suggest that you complete a longer No Contact of 45 days where you work on yourself and show him what he has lost while he was too busy looking at other women. When you work the Ungettable information you also show your ex that you will not tolerate the way he has been treating you. I do suggest that you date casually too so he sees that you have other options. He needs to place more value in you and your relationship than he is at this point

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    Cara

    May 22, 2020 at 3:34 pm

    My ex boyfriend doesn’t have social media. He has no Facebook and has no Instagram. We only contact each other through messenger. How do I show him that I’m doing okay with my life, being the Ungettable Girl, and how will he regret losing me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 29, 2020 at 4:18 pm

      Hi Cara, so if your ex has no social media you are going to have to be sure that you use the story mode on messenger, you still need to be sure that your social media is showing you are UG as any mututal friends that you share is going to feed information back to him also. However, when it comes to him the important part is that you are UG when you are texting him and phone calls telling him your stories and what is new in your life

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    Puleng Phelane

    May 19, 2020 at 10:40 am

    Hi there DEE here
    I have been in a so called relationship I’m not even sure what to call it any more, I meet this guy 2 years back whom i love so much but I cant seem to have him all to myself because when we meet he had someone and I also had someone I’m seeing besides him ,we happen to start something since we both were seeing other people, then It happened i stopped seeing the person I was dating before him and with him it became more difficult to continue seeing him since well I knew It me and the other lady in the relationship I stopped talking to him and I stayed single for one year then I bumped to this man again after the whole year he told me he still wants us to make things work but he is still seeing the same person he was seeing when we meet and I left him for the first time because I wanted him to be mine alone and now again it’s very clear I cant have him but the sad truth is that I love him with all my heart and since we were together everytime we meet we get intimate and enjoy each other’s company I can spend 2 to 5 day’s with him but still he never gave me anything talking about taking me out, to dinner, sports events or buy gifts or give me money nothing at all I always make efforts to go see him and look good for for myself all the time to show him I love taking care of myself.
    He can even call me to ask me clean the house and was his laundry but he doesn’t ask nicely he tells me. So since I’m feeling hurt,disappointed, angry to myself, I’m always Indoors locked I dont want to see anyone I feel like I’m angry to the world, I feel used and taken for granted, because I feel that I allowed him to do that to me. Please I need help and advice….it hurts because I searched for love but I seem to attract the very same people like him and I feel that I should stop finding love because I’m always the one to left hurt, I dont have a child I’m a 29 year old female full time college student and he is 39 Male with one child. What do I do with this situation I find myself depressed and feeling like I should just kill myself nothing seems to working out well for me I’m tired. Please help .

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 9, 2020 at 11:34 pm

      Hi Puleng, I am so sorry how you are feeling it is really important that you seek advice locally from some type of womans aid. When you next go into college you MUST speak to someone who is going to be able to help you there are systems in place to help people who are feeling the way you do and they can help you. In this program we work to get an ex back, but we also want you to work on yourself which we call Ungettable. This is focusing on making you happy and living your best life, stick with a No Contact where you do not speak to him at all for at least 45 days and show him what life is like without you

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    Melanie

    May 15, 2020 at 6:45 am

    I enjoyed reading bf recovery . Had some good advice

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 15, 2020 at 5:05 pm

      Thank you for your comment

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    Brrrrrit

    May 10, 2020 at 11:24 pm

    Ok…
    I met him and started dating him after he was fresh out of relationship work his child’s mother(10 months old)
    We dove in head first in love.

    Got pregnant and engaged in the first couple
    Months. He promised me he didn’t love her and he was grossed out by her. No one could
    Compare to me.
    So he said….
    Toward the end of my pregnancy – things were off.
    The tension build extremely high when my son was a couple months.
    We got in a huge fight and I realized he was still in love with her and was wanting me and my son to just disappear.
    To this day I don’t know if he sexually cheated; but for sure emotionally cheated.

    We’ve been apart for 2 months and recently we met up to trade off my son. When I dropped my
    Son off I appeared happy and wearing a mans oversized sport shirt ( not dating a SINGLE SOUL, keep in mind)he caught it immediately.
    When he dropped him off 5 hours later..
    I made sure to look STUNNING. He was so angry from thinking anoit me with another man from
    The drop off earlier – he was so cold and dropped him off so fast.
    I felt victorious for the first time in our entire relationship.
    For the first time he was going to lay his head down at night and mourn me-
    Not his ex ( for all I know- they may be together.. I don’t snoop.)
    We see each other again I’m two weeks. Where to go from here? Worried I pissed him off to the point of no return .. Never seen him so angry
    Thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 20, 2020 at 10:10 pm

      Hi Brit it sounds as if he was bothered at the thought of you being with someone else but if he is caught between you and his other ex then he is going to be stuck knowing what to do. You need to work on the Ungettable and show him he has lost someone great in you and know that as long as you can co parent civilly that is the best outcome for you at the moment, while you work through the program

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    Shelby

    May 2, 2020 at 8:17 pm

    My boyfriend broke up with me 3 days ago now. We had been together for a little over 1 1/2 years. The first year or a little less of the relationship was amazing. We are both in college. Once we got back for fall semester last year something started to change. We started to fight and argue about little things (he would blow them up) and then not talk to me for 2-3 days. He slowly stopped putting in effort into the relationship and a few times would talk to me about how he felt something was missing from our relationship that we used to have. He didn’t know what it was but didn’t want to give up on us and kept trying. For 6-7 more months he keeps trying and it felt like we would have an argument about how he doesn’t see a future but doesn’t want to give up yet about every 3 weeks. I started to put in most, if not all of the effort into the relationship. I was the one planning the dates, getting together just to hang, cooking meals, surprising him, etc. He slowly just stopped or did very little. Three days ago he realized how unfair it was for me to be with him when he wasn’t fully in the relationship and didn’t feel the connection we once had. I was heart broken. I spent months working and trying to get him to see and feel what I did. He said he doesn’t not want me in his life though and really wants to work to be friends. He said he still wants to be there to support each other through everything. I’m worried he is doing this to keep me in his back pocket for when he needs me. We share some of the same friend groups which is a reason for this I believe I well. We really had something special at the beginning and I truly saw a future with him and I know he did too for a while. I think he doesn’t want to totally loose the strong connection we do have. I want him to want to change and want to try for me more than anything in this world. How do I get him to see what he lost and make him realize he wants/needs me in his life?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 7, 2020 at 7:26 pm

      Hi Shelby, so the way to hopefully get your ex to realise he made a mistake walking away from you is to work on yourself to be the best version of yourself. What we call becoming Ungettable there are articles on this website and videos explaining this process. So make sure that you are doing this while also completing a full 30 day No Contact

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    Aditi

    April 29, 2020 at 9:01 am

    Actually we were together 5 years but he cheated on me last year it was a long distance relationship but i forgive him but then he was frustrated because of fights and then ended it as an abusive relationship from last 2 years i have been far away from him even if its his fault i have gone to him to say srry so he took me as granted and yeah he never told me he never shared thishe was so frustrated but in the end all blame to me

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    GiGi

    April 17, 2020 at 5:46 am

    I don’t know what will happen in my case. I have done no contact for two months. Mine just flat out ghosted me. But I’m feeling good so far. Many new accomplishments with my schooling has been going on.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 17, 2020 at 3:03 pm

      Well done Gigi keep going 🙂

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    Me shana

    April 9, 2020 at 7:19 am

    We broke up because of the long distance he lives in another country but did his university’s years in my country so that’s how i got to meet him. We stayed together for almost a year. We both were very respectful and loyal to eachother. But the thing is i was showing way more effort and doing small things to remind him that i love him and he means a lot to me. For ex i used to get him meaningful gifts,letters,romantic nights. And he never did the same, he’s very closed to himself but still he could have made some efforts. Now making him regret taking me for granted while being far away is hard i don’t know what to do!! We broke up like 2months ago and honestly i stayed in contact with him and showed him that i was sad because of our situation (long distance).i felt like maybe he didn’t even care about me at all. I really don’t know what to do i love him he’s a great guy but i believe that he doesn’t know my worth!

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    Daphne

    April 9, 2020 at 2:45 am

    It’s a long distance relationship…. My boyfriend tend to be too busy for me and stuff he calls once in three weeks and stuff … Anytime I call he talks like his tired…. He Neva texts me… Niwauhe snubs my text … He takes me for granted I support him financially he doesn’t appreciate my efforts… I broke up with him due to anger and I begged him BK cause I didn’t mean to… He came BK…. And started acting all strange he told his friend he didn’t know when he came BK or why he came back to me… I called to check up on him he didn’t pick my calls…. And it’s been a month he hasn’t called… Am trying to move on because it’s like he is tired already…. I love him a lot … Buh I want him to regret treating me like I don’t matter

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 9, 2020 at 10:00 pm

      Hi Daphne the most important thing is stop being financially supportive! NOW. He has clearly been disrespectful ignoring your calls etc. Stop providing for as if you are a parent to him. Let him stand on his own two feet. Complete a 45 day NC and work on yourself in that time, especially your self esteem

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    Sophie Humphries

    April 6, 2020 at 2:27 pm

    I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years in August. I felt unloved and like he didn’t care anymore. He didn’t put up a fight. I implemented no contact for one month and then went round to visit him. He told me he had a new girlfriend at work.

    I then implemented indefinite no contact. After 3 months, I started to receive calls from him. He said he was sorry and I deserved so much better.

    I explained I felt that I had also taken him for granted and that I would like to meet up to discuss trying again. We have met up various times and he says he misses me but he still hasn’t left the new girlfriend. He says it is complicated because they work together.

    What is the best step going forward. I don’t want to cut contact because I would be open to reconciling in the future. However, because he still has contact, I wonder if he is trying to have his cake and eat it.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 13, 2020 at 8:45 am

      Hi Sophie it does sound as if he is “keeping you there” and is too scared to end things with the new girlfriend for now. But I would suggest that you decide if this is the type of person you want to be with in the sense that he is emotionally cheating (telling you he loves you while with someone else). If you decide you do want to get him back then you need to read about the being there method, making sure you contact him when you know the girlfriend is going to know about you being back in your exes life

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    maddy

    March 30, 2020 at 10:14 am

    My boyfriend and I’s breakup was very sudden, but expected. We had been dating for a year and a half, and the first year was perfect. We actually talked multiple times about our lack of qualms, and how if something did come up, we’d always talk through it. 10 months in, we had just finished our first year of medical school, and exams were quite rough for him. He said he needed to manage his time differently, and I respected that. I suddenly became less of a priority, and that was ok. However, I soon came to realise that I was putting in most, if not all the effort in the relationship. It got to the point where if I didn’t message him, or ask to see him, we’d see/talk to each other once every two weeks. Significant events, such as not asking to see me after not having been in the same country for a month, and not doing anything for our first anniversary really upset me, and I brought it up with him multiple times. I told him I did not feel loved or appreciated, and he tried to make more of an effort by messaging me more and seeing me after studying. The last straw was when I experienced a traumatic event, and him being the only person who knew, didn’t even as me how I was the next day, let alone asking to see me. I got incredibly angry with him over text, and he ended up dumping me because he didn’t want to hurt me anymore. We had a conversation the next day and left it on a hopeful note. We were going to take a break until he figured stuff out. Due to the pandemic, I’ve had to leave the country and go back home, as it’s safer there. We started talking when this was happening, as it felt normal. A few days ago, I realised how I was still letting myself be taken for granted, when I’d message him to ask how he was during lockdown, etc. I cut off full contact and essentially said that a break would not work, and we were over. He left me on read. I regret what I said. We are most probably not going to be in the same country for at least 6 months, and I don’t plan to contact him until then. He told me he knows he took me for granted, and that I couldn’t have been a better girlfriend. He didn’t deserve me, and I deserved better. I still love him deeply, and think there’s a possibility for us to start again, though I think I messed it up even though I wasn’t the one who made mistakes. I don’t know what to do.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 8, 2020 at 11:59 am

      Hey Maddy what I suggest if you are unsure what you want to do is to stick to the No Contact rules until you are sure that you do or do not want them in your lives. Either as a friend or as a partner. If you chose you do not want them back then you stick with a indefinite NC and leave him be. If after 30 days you don’t think you want them back then keep going. IF you do then start the texting phase. Working through the Holy Trinity information is going to help you make those decisions

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    Camila

    March 26, 2020 at 3:59 pm

    My boyfriend broke up with me last weekend, and I’m confused. Everything was fine, but with a week of trying to do long distance, he told me he didn’t feel the same as before, which didn’t motivate him enough to put effort into the relationship and trying to make it work during long distance. We broke up once before, and within a week he told me he wanted to try again, as he realized that he missed me and really wanted to be with me. After we broke up this time around, I feel confused. I miss him so much, but I don’t miss how our relationship took a turn in the last week; it was a very low point for me. I’m not going to see him for a few months, and I’m scared I’ll move on during this time and when I see him again all of those feelings will end up coming back. I obviously want to become close to him again because before dating we were best friends but I don’t know how long should I be in this so called “No contact” time period. I honestly don’t know whether or not I want him back, but I don’t know how one figures these types of things out. I know time heals everything, but right now with the world situations we are currently facing, I can’t really distract myself at home. I mostly think about him and those times we had together, and every night I feel a strong urge to call him just to hear his voice. I need advice because I’m feeling stuck. I don’t know what to do 🙁

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 5, 2020 at 12:20 pm

      Hi Camila, so this “no contact” is where you take some time for yourself and you can then decide at the end of your 30 days No contact if you want to get back with him or not, if you do not want him back then you just keep on with your NC and focus on moving on and getting over the break up

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    Rachel Doliska

    March 8, 2020 at 3:51 am

    My boyfriend broke up with me on Valentines Day at 2am drinking with some friends hes never really hung out with. He blamed everything on me and told me he lost hope in me. It was only last Sunday where I had to block him because he kept bringing things up and said he found someone better then me. I was always there for him. Through his potential “baby scare” from a women before me, to colds. When he was sad i would bring him his favourite snacks and just be there for him. However, when i needed him he wasnt there. When i was focused on school (and not giving him my full undivided attention) he would get angry. And that is why he broke it off. Yet he contacted me up until i week ago. Ive been pretty heartbroken but ive been working on self-care ( getting my hair done, doing yoga and walking my dogs every day). I know i can move on without him however I still love him and I know if we communicate our problems and work together we could fix it. He said he still loved me but had no reason on why he didnt want to work it out.

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    Just me

    March 4, 2020 at 12:03 am

    I had been dating a guy from work. Obviously we had to keep our “relationship” secretive, which created more tension (in a great way) between us. I was planning on leaving for another position with a different company and expressed my concern that because I was no longer going to be a part of his everyday life and being able to see each other the way we would, scared me. Needless to say I have since left and feel like I was right and slowly he is forgetting me. The calls have dropped and the morning texts have ceased. I did bring it up to him when we did talk that I feel neglected and pushed away as if there is no longer interest in me. His response was “not at all, I’m not trying to avoid you, I’m not trying to push you away, I’m just super busy with work and his kids etc… which I understand but he’s not making me any type of priority in his life. So I texted him basically a goodbye text saying that he means a lot to me, I wish him the best, and that I am his biggest advocate for him to continue doing what he needs to do and I’m not going to stand in his way, and ended it with take care handsome.” His response was “I don’t even know how to respond to that, what did I do?” Not thinking clearly through the tears and pain that I just sent that text, I broke down and told him that he never makes time for me, i feel neglected and not important. Blah blah blah and still ended it on a positive note that I just want him to be happy. So I removed myself from the relationship. I regret letting him go but I don’t want to be a “When it’s convenient For him” girlfriend. I have not talked to him for 4 days as of today and getting the anxiety of whether or not I even mattered to him. We were together for 9 months. His birthday is coming up in 2 weeks. So with the 4 days in to NC and going 2 weeks more, can I use his birthday as my initial contact day to just reach out with a simple happy birthday? Nothing more and kind of start that push pull theory, being the ungettable girl? Not to play a game but to reestablish our communication and not have him on a pedistle and priority mentality as I did? I realize I came on strong I was a little clingy toward the end of things because of my anxiety of thinking he’s going to forget me, while not realizing I was making him pull away. I just want to show him the real me and let him see I AM THE COOL CALM COLLECTED And VALUABLE woman he first met and fell in love with.

    Being that I broke things off, how do I go about getting him back? I read all types of articles about the process of getting your ex back when you are the one being dumped but not when your the one who did the dumping.

    Beautifully broken

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 17, 2020 at 11:38 pm

      Hey there so the process of getting an ex back when you ended the relationship – is the same as if your ex was the one to end things. You start with a No Contact to give you both some space. Let your emotions settle down and give your ex time to miss you. You need to spend your NC assessing if the relationship is going to work if nothing has changed between you both. It broke down for a reason. What are the chances of that reason being the cause of another break up? The No Contact is also going to give you ex some time to think if they did not make time for you – they will if they want to be in a relationship with you. Read the Ungettable posts and use that information to apply to your life too

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    Amy

    March 1, 2020 at 11:05 am

    Hey,

    My ex and I broke up (Out of the blue) a month ago after a year and a bit of dating. The reasons he gave for ending things were that I was more invested in the relationship and he didn’t see a future with me anymore, this is true as he never appreciated me. I also definitely lost myself quite a bit in the relationship so accept my role in the breakup. He definitely did love me though and I know it’s not been easy for him since. I met him 2 days after the breakup to give him back his things and since then have been in no contact. However we go to school together and are in the same friendship group. I have managed to avoid physically talking to him (he is avoiding me also) but I still see him everyday. A mutual friend told me he is broken up by the whole thing. However, I am doing well and enjoying my single time. He texted me during NC to ask to meet for drinks and I replied (not replying is too much of a game to me) saying I needed more time and space and that I would let him know when I was ready to talk. Since NC ended (a few days ago) we have arranged to meet however I’m unsure how to act – I’m worried he will try to friend zone me. We’ve never been good at texting/phone calling so that is not an option for building rapport. I definitely do not want to be in the same relationship where he doesn’t appreciate me but I love him a lot and I know we work very well in the moments he does make the effort.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 7, 2020 at 9:22 am

      Hi Amy, so ideally you would have been texting for a couple of weeks before moving on to phone calls and then meet ups. Just to work up the value chain. But as you have arranged a meet up you just need to make sure that you do not stay too long, that you flirt a little but not too much and do not mention the relationship, the break up, or ask if they have met someone else. Keep it casual and short for the first meet up. Do not meet up in hope that you are going to get back together as this is setting you up for an emotional time

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    Lish

    February 22, 2020 at 1:43 pm

    My baby daddy ghosted me for 4 months after he did that WhatsApp me back to say how he wants to fix things and he was rng etc right after I agreed to the re union he went cold turkey after numours attempts to get a response from him he then told me we are still over of which this was never communicated I asked then asked him does he want to or is there still a chance to fix us he advised will tlk some ather time ….Im not going to lie I love this guy with my whole being and there’s no 1 I want ather then him this is the second week iv just stopped texting and calling him it sucks I dnt even know if we stand a chance or not his just not contacting me and my kid is missing his dad …iv Even been thinking of killing my self I can’t live without him it’s hard

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 22, 2020 at 10:24 pm

      Hey Lish I am not doubting that you love this guy but think about what is going to be best for your child. If you have reached a point where your mental health is being affected you need to seek help so that you and your child have a better quality of life and you take care of your baby.

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    Yash

    January 18, 2020 at 7:23 am

    So my ex boyfriend and I have been in each others lives for the past 4 years. It has been a rollercoaster. Its like on and off. He was the one that broke up with me first. and its been off and on since. I love this guy so much. And he and his family know that I’m a good girl and they all like me for him. But he is always being off and on with me. at the beginning of the year he tells me he has matured and wants to start off this relationship positively and take it to the next level. I was really happy when he said that. He also said he likes this version of me, the chilled version. A few days later we met and we did get a bit physical. but afterwards he had asked me what i want from the relationship this year and i said to be more serious. and he said he wants it to be chilled and he wants to consider me a close friend. When he said that i started pulling myself away. And i said he shouldn’t be getting physical. A few days after that he takes a girl for lunch and takes pictures with her. My heart broke when i saw this. I asked him about it and he said its a friend. Irrespective of the picture i knew i needed to stand up for myself and tell him how i feel about the situations and that he takes me for granted and plays with my feelings. He tells me he is emotionally detached. Which i don’t get because why would you say you want a relationship with me at the beginning of the year. I told him he is manipulating me and that i don’t appreciate these games. i told him that even though i love him so much i can walk away unhappy if i have to. He then told me i must do what i have to and he will do the same. Later that night i saw that he put the same picture of that girl as his status which broke my heart even more. I do so much for him and he doesn’t appreciate me. I decided to remove him from snapchat and delete him from WhatsApp just to show he is losing me. I still have him on instagram though. I love him a lot and i do want him back. What should i do? I have already started no contact since last night. And i am going to try and be a more better version of myself but I need some advice.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 18, 2020 at 10:33 pm

      Hi Yash, I am sorry you’re going through this it is so tough! But I am glad you are willing to do the work to become a better version of yourself, make sure you make a list of all the things you want to achieve in your life to do this. Have a read of this article about the Ungettable Girl and use this to help you along the way! https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-ungettable-girl/

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    Thabang

    January 2, 2020 at 10:10 pm

    Hey I’m in so much stress was dating a guy 4 9years we leave on the same neighbourhood, we met on social media called ego way back 2010, we were good until I tried 2 cheat on 2012 bt stil my heart was with him he forgave me n we continued with our relationship everything as ok became serious tried 2 get pregnant nothing happened bt we became hopeful dat 1day God wil answer us ,anyhow 2018 problems started he became distant towards me I fought hard 4 him tried everything he just could not talk n say what’s bothering him parents intervene he ws cold n den 1day he decided 2 tel me dat he thought he ws ok dat he gets reminded by de fact dat i hurt him 2012 he can’t 4give me he has anger that I cheated ,he ignored my calls stopped touching me intimate with me4 few months n he slept with me but if I ask wen he done we would dress up n say I wana sleep early n Chase me indirectly, it hurt but cause i love hi kept pushing n pushing stil almost a year we never fixed anything he ws cold as ever 2019 Dec 25 asked 2 c him he like nah wil talk n I send him a message saying ok its fine I get de message u dn’t have 2 c me il stay home hs felt bad said come I went poor me n we were ok until I had 2 go bk home I’m like why u don’t give me closure n say u no longer want me he relied by saying can we please stop talking about relationships its x smas dn’t stress me ok kept quiet n den I start ok y u no longer touch me m asking 4 sex huh he refused n said i can’t my doctor says I must not b intimate 4 7 days plus I am suffering from blood circulation problem. I cried hard hs like go home wen u do call me oh before I could enter my place tried 2 call hs phone says line busy dat day almost fainted .i try n try until he picks up oh lies lies he like sum dude as telling me abt a girl we work with got hit n run by a vehicle.he became rude, ignored me had excuses not 2 c me.i thought we would fix things between us.1st of Jan 2020 told myself I mst let go m being punished 4 my mistake felt like revenge he Is alwys on facebook, girls call him while I’m de. So keptquiet he calls me nw n says hs checking if m ok.i don’t know answering his calls Is best after bad treatment from him I feel his cheating trying 2 keep me as his standby .i wana heal n try 2 move on its hard cause i still love him .i Dd everything bought hs attention with gifts m a female bt its like m his boyfriend. Why do I allow him 2 mistreat me is love ds painful do I deserve ds cause i made a mistake 2012.m matured nw wanted a real commitment from him.i wana accept us gone n move on seem confused .

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 3, 2020 at 1:19 am

      Hey there if you want your ex back then you need to start by following a No Contact period where you give your ex a break. Allowing this space is going to give your ex a chance to miss you and think about you in a more positive light

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