Make Your Ex Regret Taking You For Granted

123 thoughts on “How to Make Him Regret Taking You for Granted”

Lissa

January 11, 2018 at 4:31 am

Over Christmas, my older, successful man (I’m 40, he’s 57), told me he loved me and that I was the 1st woman since his ex wife (15yrs ago), and that he really wanted things to work out for us. Then he left on a 3 week vacation and disappeared. No response.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 11, 2018 at 7:28 pm

Hi Lissa ,

check this one:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Ghosted You

Dejahvu Henry

January 10, 2018 at 12:36 am

Hi!
Me and my boyfriend were together for about a year and we broke up 2 months ago. In the beginning of our break up I gnatted and begged to get back together and we eneded up hanging out a few times before he told me he doesn’t want to work things out, after that I started no contact and as of today I have not contacted him in any way shape or form for 30 days. On the 29th day of no contact however I received a text from him saying that he misses me so much and that this break up is really hard for him because I was his queen and his vision of a wife and mother to his future kids but then at the end he added that we just won’t work out and eventually I will see why, he also said he can’t follow me on Instagram anymore because it is too hard for him (I don’t follow him but he continued to follow me). I haven’t responded because I am scared I will do or say the wrong thing, but my no contact period Is technically over…I’m just confused because even after he sent that text he hasn’t unfollowed me on Instagram and still continues to look and like my post….I am confused on how my approach to this situation should be.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 11, 2018 at 4:59 pm

Hi Dejahvu Henry,

That’s good that you didn’t reply right away.. It looks like you are active in posting.. Continue that and improving yourself while slowly building rapport. You could do an indifferent reply to that and to start a convo at the same time for your initial text.. Like,
“awww.. I’m touched! I understand and thank you for everything too! Been very busy lately (use your supposed topic for your initial text)

Eli

January 8, 2018 at 6:32 am

My ex boyfriend and I have been in a roller coaster realtionship for two years. As of 3 weeks ago we got in a discussion reguarding New Years plan, I said I’ll talk to you later because I was getting anxious. The next day he was in town and no word from him, haven’t heard from him since and he has blocked me in all social media and has also deleted some of our old photos of when we 1st fell in Love i which he never deleted when we’d break up before. How do I move on without answers etc..

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 9, 2018 at 10:02 pm

Hi Eli,

check this one:
How To Get Over An Ex Boyfriend When You’re Still In Love With Him

Eva

January 6, 2018 at 12:51 pm

My ex boyfriend clearly takes me for granted and doesn’t value me. Beside the fact we have a long distance we both have add.
We had kind of a no contact fact we both needed just a bit space and I got a better version of myself. I was less nagging more k and mire calm. It qorked. He put in effort he contacted me we had better talks. Yet we again fall back in ild pafterns where he clearly disrespects me by putti g me down telling he is bot ibterested ib me and stuff like that. He sais that because he is jealous and controlling. Mostly I manage to end the call in a calm way and tell him we can talk when we are better . He apologised shortly after and I feel slight changes in his behaviour. But as soon as we have more contact and if it’s about commitment he get in old patterns.

What should I Do? How can I get more valued? I don’t want to be treated like that and I am tired of walking in eggshells. Heck I even start to ask myself if he is the right person?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 9, 2018 at 5:26 pm

You need to stick to the routine you started in nc and to invest more time in it than in him..

Nat

January 5, 2018 at 1:33 pm

My ex and I dated for two years and lived together for 14 months. We had been dealing with some stuff but were trying to work things out until one day he broke up with me with just a letter and left the apartment before I got home. I flew to see my family since I didn’t know a lot of people in the city. Two months have passed and he continues to try to hurt me. He also tells me he wants me out of his life forever but asks me if I ever cheated and if I still keep all our pictures.

At this point all I am trying to do is get my belongings sent somewhere else since I am out of the country but he says he is no rush to take them out. I personally still love him but understand I need to move on and the sooner I get my stuff the easier it will be for me to block him and move on.

I would just like to know why he continues to be mean when I am being civil and I wonder if I am wrong for still loving someone who hurt me so much. Thanks !

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 7, 2018 at 11:20 pm

Hi Nat,

We can’t know for sure why he’s still mean.. It can be because he thinks you did something wrong, or he thinks you’re still hoping by not finalizing to get all of your things, or that can be just his expression of authority.. It’s normal that you still love him but it’s good that you’re moving on

TT

January 4, 2018 at 3:56 pm

January 4th, 2018 10:03 am
My ex and I have been together for a year then we broke up because I know he was on date with another girl younger than him 10 years old (19yrs) while we were a part by argument. Although he and I been for a year but we just kiss, cuddle, and do “BJ” for both nothing really called make out.He sent video of him and her when I worked at night and texted me rude words. I cried because i trusted him never replace me by anyone. after a year he never show me to his friend or any person around him, i was mad and block his social media but then i unblock it. we had argument at the night he sent me the video without her knowledge about sending to me. I saw her picture on his screen phone and i understand what i tried for our relationship is nonsense for him( because he was disappear on valentines and my birthday). he said: “ you always get mad and keep silence then. i can’t handle you.we can try again. if you don’t change yourself, i will be back to that girl.” stupidly, i accepted try again because i loved him and i think i just did that because i was ignore him. then, the day after, he asked me go out at night to the hotel after work. i missed him because we didn’t talk for two months. at that night, he tried push me to do sex for real, but i think of why he with new girl and send video to me. i push him back and he really angry and didn’t want to look at my eyes. i went home with a sorrow and wonder why im so weakness. i also know while we start to try back again he still contact with that girl every sunday night at same place we met before. i texted him after to let him know my feeling and what he did was rude to me. he replied me that Im fucking stupid and fuck my school, my dream. He texted me that He was free so he can sleep with anygirl he wants. then, I stop texted him. I feel that it’s time for silence is better than his conversation in messages. after a week he sent me a picture he drink wine at bar and some girls, i had no answer. he still scoffed at me by rude words. i advised him should go home and don’t drink much. he still angry. he went home at night and texted me that im not the girl he wants, that girl she couldn’t sleep last night and wait until he was ok to reach home. he wanted to break up because i cannot be a girl he wants. (i didn’t have sex with him and he was mad). i let him decided because i just have school, work and him. i told him i never been with another guy at 12 am in car as he did. he still keep rude in his words and done. i really sad and i blocked his phone number and his social media. we have no contact for a month , then he found another app i use for my parents, he sent me a message say hi bla bla. i ignored them because i think he would send me a hurt message again. then he sent me 3 days after, i replied him as good morning how was everything? he texted he want to make me jealous about young girl and he couldn’t have another relationship because of me. i don’t trust him because he used girls as his game and he offended my honor. but he again want me back and fix everything but his sound seems to blame false to me. New year coming and his birthday on 1/1, he invited me to go the restaurant we met a year ago, i prepared cake, candle, gift for him. he appreciated it, then he booked a room we just sleep and cuddle over night. in the morning, he told me what he done to make young girl trusted him, i know they still contact untill now. he told me she is just his sister. i can’t accept he brought a girl while we are apart (her picture on his screen phone) for sister just 2 months. and she doesn’t know about me. i feel be played by his game again. i was mad and cried. he said he and her just friend. but he said her mother prepare a gift a him. I told him play the game is so far and i cannot take it back. i went home alone and he didn’t check me up if im ok because he saw I got serious coughs at night. at the wnd of that day, i send him a message that we should a part for time because i don’t feel safe from him and his relationship, i worked more for this relationship and i just received sadness and rude from him. and if you can, please step out of my life. TT is died since today. he didn’t reply until the following day, he sent me 2 phrases: Life with you is too hard. Ok let stay in your life and i will not bother you anymore.
after a year, what i did and hope for him is exchanged by 2 conclusions and I didn’t cry.
i want to know why this guy so complicated and what should i do?
he used to ask me for marriage and live together but i refused because i cannot imagine if oneday he bring another in fron of me and say rude to me again. I need advises please.
TT.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 11:54 pm

Hi,

There are really people who will use us because they can see we allow them.. It doesn’t matter what kind of person he is because you will move on from him.

Ashley

January 4, 2018 at 3:19 pm

My boyfriend stopped responding to my text and calls 3 days ago. On day 2 he said he needed time and space. Day 3 he called at 1am I didn’t answer so he texted me saying he is a piece of shit and he needs me in his life. I responded the next day inviting him to a movie premiere we went to the movies tonight and I dropped him off at home. I think he takes me for granted because he always places the blame on me when we fight or have conflicts and he doesn’t take ownership of his role. I’m unsure what my actions should be since I went to the movies with him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 10:37 pm

Hi Ashley,

but did you ask him about your relationship status?

Angie

January 4, 2018 at 2:48 pm

Why my post not showing

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 11:12 pm

Hi Angie,

this is the only comment I can see in this email.. Have you used other email addresses?

Susanna

January 3, 2018 at 9:37 pm

My ex and I broke up 12 days ago. I was crying a lot during the breakup, and that evening he sent me many texts and called me and left me a voicemail, saying he wants to know if I’m okay and that he is sad too. All of which I ignored. Since then, Christmas and New Year’s has passed, and he has not attempted to contact me back or watched any of my Snapchat stories which he used to do. How did my ignoring him make him feel? Has he given up on me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 9:38 pm

Hi Susanna,
he’s probably just respecting your space.. have you been active in improving yourself and in doing posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours?

Renee

January 1, 2018 at 7:23 pm

I’m lost , I’ve done NC ex text me soon as I finished we small talked til I started using the text methods on him had him engaged initiating convo even talk to him on the phone once good convo cut it real short he even planned on hang out til the time came he was sick I knew from speaking to him the day before , day came I texted him hope your feeling better nothing no reply i was lost I didn’t send nothing else 2 days went past no hear frm I was confused I text him a happy new year he replied with in a few a wished me the same with love and Health and he wasn’t feeling well I kinda felt like he was telling me somthing in that text but I said thank you get better no reply wat do I do seem like we came far to nothing

If ur wondering we broke up bout a month ago dating for four mons I slipped up and lied to him about something petty told him the truth but haven’t move on from it help plz

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 4, 2018 at 6:41 pm

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Renee

January 1, 2018 at 2:25 pm

I’m confused!! I’ve done NC ex text me soon as I finished we small talked til I started using the text methods on him had him engaged initiating convo even talk to him on the phone once good convo cut it real short he even planned on hang out til the time came he was sick I knew from speaking to him the day before , day came I texted him hope your feeling better nothing no reply i was lost I didn’t send nothing else 2 days went past no hear frm I was confused I text him a happy new year he replied with in a few a wished me the same with love and Health and he wasn’t feeling well I kinda felt like he was telling me somthing in that text but I said thank you get better no reply wat do I do seem like we came far to nothing

If ur wondering we broke up bout a month ago dating for four mons I slipped up and lied to him about something petty told him the truth but haven’t move on from it help plz

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 4, 2018 at 6:42 pm

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Renee

January 1, 2018 at 2:19 pm

I’m confused, I’ve done NC ex text me soon as I finished we small talked til I started using the text methods on him had him engaged initiating convo even talk to him on the phone once good convo cut it real short he even planned on hang out til the time came he was sick I knew from speaking to him the day before , day came I texted him hope your feeling better nothing no reply i was lost I didn’t send nothing else 2 days went past no hear frm I was confused I text him a happy new year he replied with in a few a wished me the same with love and Health and he wasn’t feeling well I kinda felt like he was telling me somthing in that text but I said thank you get better no reply wat do I do seem like we came far to nothing

If ur wondering we broke up bout a month ago dating for four mons I slipped up and lied to him about something petty told him the truth but haven’t move on from it help plz

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 4, 2018 at 6:41 pm

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Shaila

December 31, 2017 at 11:45 pm

My ex and I broke up over a month ago. My ex wants to remain friends. I’ve been in no contact for 10 days. He reached out to me in the beginning and when I didn’t reply he called my best friend asking her why I was ignoring him and she told him to give me some space. He did..but a few days later when I was with this friend he texts her telling her to tell me to text him because “he had something important to say”. I refused. This angered him, to the point where he told my friend that if I couldn’t value him enough to respond to him when he said it was important then he wanted to cut me out of his life. He said by me not responding, he got a clear picture of who I really am and thinks it’s best if we don’t try to be friends. Does he really mean this? Or is he just angry that I wouldn’t respond to him?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 2, 2018 at 6:21 pm

Nope it’s just emotions and even if he means being friendly after that is going to be worse for you

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123 thoughts on “How to Make Him Regret Taking You for Granted”