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Kylie
February 2, 2016 at 10:08 am
Will any of this work if he wasn’t your boyfriend in the first place? We were in the dating phase when he just went stone cold. He was cheated on and controlled by his ex but that was 2 years ago. I don’t know if he got scared and ran. He said he really likes me and wanted to continue to see me but He had also said he wasn’t sure he was ready to commit to anybody yet. I really like him. We had been talking for 5 months and dating for 2. It’s been 3 weeks without contact now.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 1:59 pm
Hi Kylie,
Yeah, sometimes it can. Why not try?
Raadhika
February 2, 2016 at 7:09 am
Hi ma’am me and my so called bf split apart I initiated the break up because he was not at all serious about me he had no plans for our future he just took it for popularity .We even had kissed each other .ma’am please let me know dis I did right
Raadhika
February 5, 2016 at 2:01 pm
Yes ma’am my bf was not at all concerned for me he just took me for name sake just for kisses and for his desires he was not at all serious about our relationship did i did correct by leaving him or not
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 6, 2016 at 9:49 am
If that is so, yes you made the right decision. Nobody should be treated like that. 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 12:48 pm
Hi Raadhika,
Just Amor 🙂 What do you mean he took it for popularity? He just wants to brag about your relationship?
Sarah
February 1, 2016 at 11:25 pm
Hi,
Me and my boyfriend went on a break a week or so ago after he said he needed space as we were arguing a lot and we both wanted it to stop. I said I wanted no contact and wanted space myself, 2 days in? and he contacts me, just to say he had started the gym. I responded saying I still wanted no contact with him and for him to respect my wishes, he replied ‘alright then’ and i did not respond (We had already planned when we went on the break to meet up after 2 weeks).
I am going out with friends and back at the gym myself, but I want him to miss me and show he cares. When we meet up next week should I ask to get back with him? or play hard to get and make it out like I’m not that interested?
He hasnt treated me too well throughout the relationship lately and had lied about many things, however towards the break he was trying and listening to what I wanted in the relationship, he said I nagged too much. I don’t know if i want him back or not, only if he changes really and puts me first!
Any advice?
Thanks!
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 11:50 am
Hi Sarah,
If he says you nag too much that can mean you’re not communicating your wants in the right way or in the calm way. And about nc, if you had set time and he knows it, it’s more likely that he’ll just wait for it to finish but that doesn’t mean he won’t miss you. He will still miss you but not as much if he didn’t know when your nc will end. If you had agreed to see each other after two weeks, does that mean after two weeks you will try to be more understanding with each other? Was there a goal for the two week break? Or just wanted the break to rest from all the arguments? I’d rather have a serious talk with him, if he was willing to work things out than play hard to get. But I agree with what you said, only get back with a guy if he has changed.
Stella
February 1, 2016 at 7:16 pm
Hi, so my boyfriend and I were together for about 7 months before the first time he broke up with me. Normally the next morning he would text me saying how stupid he was for doing it and how much i mean to him and how I’m the only person in his life that truly cares about him. He would normally break up with me because he “didn’t want to be in a relationship with me” or he “has no feelings for me”. he normally breaks up with me when i say something that he doesn’t like. I always gave him the benefit of the doubt because i know he’s going through things and he doesn’t think before he acts. Two days ago, after I was telling him that he should probably stay in the night and relax because he was sick, he said that he didn’t have any feelings for me and i didn’t make him happy. So we’ve been in contact a little bit these past few days and every time i ask if he’s really happy now he leaves or blocks me. which led me to believe that he really doesn’t feel that way but i could be wrong. Normally we would’ve been back together by now so do you think its really over? Do i have a chance? I’m going to try the no contact thing because i think he secretly likes when i become a text gnat and once he realizes that I’m not trying anymore he might try to get back into my life.
annie
February 1, 2016 at 3:27 pm
Hello, what would you suggest I do to avoid my partner we are still currently sharing the same house as I can’t afford my own place yet and don’t graduate until next year and my current wage would never cover the costs of independent living. It is difficult for me to cope with the breakup as he was the one that ended it. Even though he spent my money beat Me up for my cheek, stared at other girls and left me on 2 occasions for 6 weeks. Let me walk the streets early hours in the morning contributed to my miscarriage. Why is it so difficult for me? I study, I work I cook I clean and spend my time looking after him yet he only notices my faults, and gets mad when I get attention from other men….which isn’t my fault I don’t instigate it and sure ain’t a flirt if anything lack of experience as I have only ever been with my ex partner.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 8:18 am
Hi Annie,
You’re in abusive relationship. If you can’t leave now, go out as much as you can and spend that time looking for a place to transfer. Leave him. Value your worth girl. Find organizations, friends, relatives that can help you start over.
annie
February 1, 2016 at 3:31 pm
By the way I have been with him for just over 4 years.
kellymarie
January 31, 2016 at 7:14 pm
Hi, I split up with my ex almost 7 months ago after 7 months when he made me the happiest I’d ever been. BUT, I pushed him away with my securities and he found my depression and anxiety too much to deal with. We are in contact and have met up once (mistake). I thought we’d eventually get back together because the connection was so strong.
All of my feelings have desperation have returned as I’ve just discovered he has a new gf. I’m devastated all over again! Things have got messy with arguments, blaming etc. But I know that he still cares about me.
I’m going to start no contact right now. But my question is: Is there a chance this method may work after us being apart so long? I will have to see him once in the next month due to work, but apart from that, and work emails, I’m going full non contact. Is there hope?
kellymarie
February 1, 2016 at 1:31 pm
Thank you. No contact will prove very difficult, but I’m going to stick at it!
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 1, 2016 at 10:52 am
Hi kellymarie,
I think it will because you recently went back to talking again.. It disregards your long time apart
Samantha
January 31, 2016 at 6:04 am
My boyfriend and I just broke up and I am completely devastated. We had never had any fights or arguments in our two years together. I really thought he was “the one.” He claimed he is unhappy with his weight gain and has bothersome symptoms of depression. He felt that he couldn’t fully love and support me if he doesn’t even fully love and take care of himself. It makes sense looking back on it, but at the time, I felt blindsided and acted irrationally. I screamed, swore, pushed him away when he tried to comfort me. I am afraid my actions have ruined any possibility of getting back together, and those thoughts/regrets are driving me crazy! He has gone NC, blocked me from every form of communication. I broke down after a week of NC and texted him, but didn’t receive a response. I’m pretty sure my number is blocked. It’s only been two weeks, but I am terrified of losing him forever.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2016 at 7:03 am
Hi Samantha,
I think what he wants is for the both of you to be more rationally. Don’t think too much. Both of you just need to let the negative emotions subside. YOu’ve had a good two years right? He’s human too, it’s not like he’s going to move on that fast. Make this NC productive for you too and once you get to talk again, show him you understand and don’t be pushy about getting back together because he might not be ready yet if he still feels low about himself.
Janet
January 31, 2016 at 4:03 am
Me and my ex were in a LDR for almost 3 years now. We were the Internet to person LDR lol. Things were going great, we’ve both met each other’s family and we have talked a lot, I mean a lot about the future. We share common interests, however he decided to end things because we are both in final years of uni and he has goals to achieve. We had a lot of arguments lately as we couldn’t spend too much time online with each other due to the workload being in uni. Another reason was due to the uncertainty of what the future holds as we are both studying in different countries now. We both decided to migrate to Aussie eventually but the circumstances of the uncertainty of when will it happen has led to my ex ending it. We ended this in good terms and agreed to be there for each other in a casual way. I love him a lot and miss him so much. I don’t know what to do.
Janet
January 31, 2016 at 7:27 am
However we have definitely spoken on ways to make it work in the future. The arguments I guess were just a trigger to end it for now so that we could focus on studies
Janet
January 31, 2016 at 7:25 am
This happened yesterday and I last spoke to him today. Well arguments were based more on petty issues only. We couldn’t discuss much about the future as we were both unsure of it
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2016 at 5:14 am
Hi Janet,
when was the last time you spoke to each other? Could it be more because of the arguments? If you hadn’t argued much, would you have talked about ways to make the relationship work in the new chapter of your lives?
Amythest
January 30, 2016 at 4:56 pm
Good morning I need help, 24 years ago I dated a boy in high school and we were a hot item for several months and then I moved away. We didn’t staying contact. I got married had children he got married had children in our lives past and crossed pass without us knowing many times. When I would come back to my hometown and see my family I would ask every once a while about him. One late June afternoon I got a friend request on Facebook from him and I excepted it. Within a matter of days we were talking on the phone and texting each other. We decided to see each other and that was the beginning we were in me separated from my husband him still married. It was like 24 years had passed in an instant and we were back with the same passion we had before. He was born he was the one I was supposed to be with and he knew that too he would bring it up saying that he knew he was cheating but we as a couple felt so much more natural. We started having dinners at my house he would bring his child to play with mine ( the girls became fast BFF) it was as if we’ d
Been married all this time he would say. That he doesn’t get treated half as nice by his wife. I told him that’s sad. We both agreed that we never wanted to get married again or live with each other. We scripted it all out. We would have a commitment ceremony and then we would live in his house. All the while our girls are saying that they are sisters and even though we tried to hide the affair part the girls saw through it. During our 7 month affair we took many take it slower conversations.
I told him that I had cancer and he started crying, he didn’t ever want to loose me again. He promised to be by my side every step of the way. Well he was and came by my house 3 times a day for 6 months and nearly everyday off he and his girl were at my house. We bonded with each other’s kids. Shorting this love affair , one Sunday afternoon he was at work and the girls were at my house, I decided. To take a rest and the girls were watching a movie……I got up an hour or so later and His girl had received a text message from her mother asking the girl if she thought daddy was having an affair? She asked me what AFFAIR meant. I asked her why would her mom ask that? Well I let my phone out in the living room and her dad text. Me while I was asleep. His girl snap shouted ALLL of the texts communications we had , had to each other AND to add to the drama the opened up my Facebook messenger and snap shot all of our messages . All these were sent to the wife. So it confirmed what she was already thinking. He freaked out said he would come by in the morning. He did and he was crying saying how could he have done this to her and that she was always a good little house wife and the mother of his children. I reminded him that this was the same woman for 20 years who told him regularly that he destroyed her life bc she got pregnant and they had to get married. He went on to work and he came over for lunch and he was still shaking and he told me that he was staying with his parents for a few days to let her decide what she wanted to do. Well few days went by and he told me that he was going to try and get his marriage back to the way it was before ( this was the “O” crap moment for him) we got together. Of course I was devastated but he said he would still call me and come by a few times a week, and when the dust settled the girls could hangout again. Well few weeks later a county Sheriff’s Deputy was on my door step and told me that my daughter and myself were not to contact them ever again….or I would go to jail. I was more that shocked. I called the husband and he had no idea that this was going to take place bc he was at work when it happened. Well that no contact order went from me and my girl not contacting his girl or calling the house to everyone. And the no contact order now included him no calls ,text,emails,Facebook messages no contact at all. His girl has been consistently breaking this order as well as my girl. The wife found out and took all phone,iPod and house phone access away from her girl. The Deputy once again was on my door step warning me that next time he had to come back I was going to jail. I explained that it was the girls and I didn’t know until you showed up. I was home alone and I was hysterically crying bc I was taking all the blame for the affair and the girls were being punished and he hasn’t even contacted me to tell me what’s with us. If there is an us last I heard was I will call in tomorrow and be there for coffee that was 3 months ago. The Deputy sat there with me for an hour listening to my tale and sorrow and he agreed with me that this guy needed to call me and finalize the end ing of the relationship. He got a new number, deleted his Facebook,changed his email and he sent message to via my eldest son that if I went to his work that the police would be called. I told the Deputy everything…. His remarks were it sure sounds like he is making a boundary around himself to protect himself from having to be confronted by you in any man or. I didn’t understand , he said that it was him he was keeping away , he wasn’t keeping you away, he’s afraid of what he will do if he has to see or talk to you. Bc he’s confused and he is trying to make his marriage work. The girls are still in communication under fake accounts and I get updates about her dad and her mom, like he’s not sleeping on the floor anymore ,and I found a box of condoms ( she said she took most of them ) in his room. It’s been now November 15 of last year to current that I haven’t heard from him. I tried texting his new number with no reply. He and his wife swapped phones and she answered the phone and screamed at me to stop calling…..I haven’t tried to text or call again. His girl disclosed that he told her that (dust has settled) we will see about going to visit but would have to keep it a secret from mom. They got new phones and new. Numbers. I haven’t been stalker lady or off the hook texting or even calling. I’m hurt of course I want him back as well as his girl,I love them both as my family. I’m not sure how or what to do to make this happen? He doesn’t have a regular hangout or friends that we both have in common. His daughter says she knows he loves me bc he told her that he had to stay with mom bc he loves her and he would loose everything if they divorced. Now at their house when my name is mentioned he goes from zero to 100 in anger . He won’t even allow his girl to go to the library bc she will contact my girl. So his girl e,ails me and my girl while at school. He went from crying that he never wants to loose me again and that he F’ed up 24 years ago and he wasn’t going to repeat that mistake to cone of silence zero ability to contact him. He knows all my contact info. I need steps on what to do.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2016 at 3:26 am
Hi Amethyst,
I don’t want to say you have to let go but I want to ask, if he gets back, would you dynamic by like this forever? He has a job, so if he really doesn’t love his wife anymore, why wouldn’t he just divorced her? By law, he still gets to his children and provide for them right?
jmgh
January 30, 2016 at 2:12 pm
hi
i am in a very complicated situation..there is this guy who have been always around (atleast once a week) and he has shown me so much respect and feelings , until the day of my birthday,,which he throw a party for it and invited some of his friends over,,and gave me a little golden jewlery. after that night i guessed things changed(maybe i fell for him eventually!) .what makes me sad is that he is going to leave the country fot 2 months in 20 days..and a wek ago he invited me to his place..but i had some suspicion on him about a latest guest he was having the day before(i doubted if it was a girl) and he did;nt answer a call either(for the first time) .so i got really cold!i didnt return his hugs,the day after,i asked him to go walking together,so we did.we even held hand! 2 days later he called me and we were laughing and…3 days after i texted to know if he was doing ok , and he answered,,,and now it is 4 days that there have been no calls or texts..and over a week we havent met..(i thought because of the matter that he is leaving he is going to invite me over for the weekend but…) . i am pretty shocked but havent txted him(thank god) and i wont! can u plz help me out with this? :/
jmgh
January 31, 2016 at 9:56 am
well, he used to text or call me first( except for this 2 weeks and after the whole birthday thing) . and he used a lot of love stickers specially before sleeping.but now he doesnt even ask if i am doing alright! he tends to show so much logic in every situation and i guess he thinks i am emotional(i guess the only situation that i have acted over-emotioanal have been the night i suspected him and showed him coldness) ,but was that really how he loved me after all of those good times and him chasing me even when i had a boyfriend ? should i answer him when he calls to say goodbye and leave the country? should i really be expecting him to do so?
thanks for your time .
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2016 at 1:59 pm
You can’t help it if that’s what you really feel. But if he does call you, for me you should answer him.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2016 at 4:05 am
Hi Jmgh,
Actually once a week is not a lot. But did he text everyday that time? Because in the end of message, he seemed to be texting in 2-3 days apart. So, if he’s not texting at 4 days, could it be that’s he’s busy preparing for his incoming trip?
Em
January 30, 2016 at 1:06 pm
Ok..I met my ex about 8 months ago, we hit it off instantly. Chemistry was incredible and undeniable. We went to dinner, movies, sport games, traveled out of town, I met his friends and he met some of mine. Now I should say we started out saying we would have fun and whatever happens happens. I started to really invest in what we had. We laughed and was goofy together. I should also say, I am 45 (do not look 45!) And he us 28. He had been married for 8 years and has a son out of state and is divorced. He works and goes to school full time but we made time for each other at least 2 nights a week. Sex was incredible too.
Now just this week, he came and broke it off. Stating it was getting to serious on his part. I would have welcomed it and had hinted to this as well but could tell he wasn’t into serious at the moment.
Now he also stated he wants to still be friends, hangout, and go skiing or movies etc. But just friends. He also stated for now he can’t be alone with me as he doesn’t trust himself.
I am so confused first of all. But more importantly, how do I get this man back? I don’t understand when we had so much in common. Help!!
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 30, 2016 at 4:00 pm
HI Em,
He doesn’t want commitment. He still likes you but he doesn’t want to commit. It depends on you if you’re alright with that. But if not, you have to be prepared if he leaves because that’s how standards work. Either the person stays to be worthy of your standard or they leave because they don’t want to work for it. Honestly, a guy more likely commits when he doesn’t want something so good to be gone. If you’re just there after the breakup, pretty much he really wouldn’t commit because he doesn’t need to.
Emily
January 30, 2016 at 10:27 am
This is tricky as moved so fast , my boyfriend of 3 months who until Tuesday was absolutely besotted with me has said he has never felt so rubbish as he does now he needs time to think and that he 75% sure he wants to end it not 100% though. He would send texts that’s his previous relationships he was trapped with people he didn’t love but he loved me more than he thought possible I made him happier than ever he would text me every day on his way to work and way home how much he loved and missed ne even though I was living at his house right up to the tuesday . The hard part is I have a little boy now from day one he known this and he was waiting to meet him he even told my little boy he loves him and made his spare room into a room for him so we could spend time together he says he feels his life out of control now but he was the one who wanted all this I never would of let my little boy meet him if I knew this would happen but he always reassured me this we and I is everything he had ever wanted and never letting me go. He also said Tuesday that he wants more time wi ne just us as a couple I suggested child free date nights but then he said he needs time to think. He has messaged me most days I wait for him to message first and I went out with friends last night he was asking what time etc so I said why you bothered he just said he happy im going out. He is a very jealous person and if he thought about ne with a ex he would go in bad moods which he said he never did with anyone else but he loves ne so much this is totally out of the blue im really confused and im really scared to do the no contact rule cause there still the 25% he doesn’t want to split up which im scared if I ignore him cause of his jealousy etc he’ll tell me it’s def over please help
Emily
January 31, 2016 at 2:09 pm
well he asked me to see him today and he ended it for good he said it’s not what he wants anymore it was all to fast and he got carried away in the moment he did say he does still love me though and was touching my arm etc he was also dressed up going out to the pub he said he couldn’t sit about his house on his own I didn’t cry I just said fine thanks for the closure I can now move on with my life shall I do no contact now for a month to see if he will genuinely miss me? He said I can text and ring him whenever I want he doesn’t want to fall out so if I don’t conact it will shock him? I can’t believe this has happened this time last week he wa on about marriage he was the one rushing everything!
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 1, 2016 at 5:41 am
Yeah, with that kind of attitude he’ll probaby change his mind again midway your Nc. The good thing is that he’s open to communication. So, you wont have a hard time starting to text again. The only thing you have to do is if you decide to do nc, stick it until the end. Because the more you do nc, the less it’s effect.
Emily
January 31, 2016 at 8:23 am
hi we never had a single fight we literally used to cuddle every night on sofa watching telly and every day he text me even though I lived there saying how much he loved and missed me which is why im so confused by it all he literally just changed over night im scared of no contact as he technically isn’t my ex as he having time to think but im scared if I leave him the 75% he wants to finish will be 100
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2016 at 1:50 pm
Maybe just be careful on aggravating the situation. Don’t annoy him and don’t pressure him. But it sounds like he’s acting like he’s previous relationships. He was trapped before, now he’s trapping you. It’s unfair.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2016 at 3:43 am
HI Emily,
I just want to be more clear, he suddenly changed? DId you have a lot of fights before this?
Alice
January 29, 2016 at 8:53 am
Hi, just ordered the complete package off the website but honestly my situation is a little weird. First off and formost my ex and I broke up a year ago and went 8 months with no contact. I dated someone and it went well but when he looked at me the way my ex did I realized I had made a big mistake and despite our chemistry the connection with my ex is undeniable. I tried contacting my ex but I was blocked on social media and he changed his number. I finally got ahold of him and he said he’s met someone and they have crazy chemistry. We talked for a few hours and then both went on our way agreeing to be friends. Should I start no contact again? We were together for several years but we were never on the same page developmentally until now.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 29, 2016 at 2:21 pm
Hi Alice,
If he agreed to be friends to be friends I think you should start building the connection and attraction back.
akridon
January 29, 2016 at 4:35 am
Hi – thanks so much for being here… so my story is long and complex; too long too much to go into here. I’ll try to shorten it …
Me and my “ex” boyfriend had dated many years ago in high school, broke up then, reunited again after marriages, kids, both of us separated from our spouses. Anyway it was really going well, I thought, our connection is phenomenal, lots of love despite ups and downs… it’s very complicated of course, but Jan. 8 he broke up with me using many lame excuses, only to finally say he wanted to “find himself”. Ok, so I didn’t take it well, and it wasn’t pretty when we tried to talk. So then I say, ok, I’ll give you your space. I want us to have time apart, to heal, to stop hurting… I tried “no contact”… but he has texted me several times, and if I don’t respond, he gets mad saying I’m ignoring him, and gets huffy. So I have responded respectfully to his texts. Not a lot, but just so he knows I’m still alive. How can I go no contact with someone who acts this way? It’s very very hard for me to do no contact, as I would like to get back together with him someday. I really do love him… But I know, ultimately, if he doesn’t get back together with me, I’ll be ok… but he won’t stop contacting me… so what should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 30, 2016 at 7:13 am
Hi Akridon,
actually, that’s a common reaction . it’s like his version of a tantrum. so, you have to let it pass because the truth is, it’s his way of saying he’s thinking about you and wondering why you’re not contacting like you used to.
Brit
January 28, 2016 at 5:19 am
About 2 months ago, I officially stopped seeing my ex altogether. He and I worked together and I had found out from multiple of our friends that he went back to seeing his ex in November. Our break up was extremely messy, our coworker’s had gotten involved and they all took his side and I was currently pregnant at the time, I’m no longer pregnant due to complications in my first trimester. His ex made fake social media accounts of me and she texted me telling me that I was stupid and worthless. Now that it has been almost 2 months, I still think about him often. I’m also stuck in a little dilemma, I have to go see him to get some papers from my old job, and I’m not quite sure what I should do. I am not planning to see him until mid February which will officially be 2 months since we’ve seen or talked to eachother. How do I communicate with him to show him that I’m no longer upset or mad about our precious relationship and make him want me again?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 28, 2016 at 4:57 pm
Hi Brit,
That’s an exception in the no contact rule because you really need to see him. It’s like when you have kids. You still see each other but you don’t talk about emotions, the relationship or simply don’t have a small talk. Well, work on your remaining days to be more physically attractive, ’cause that’s the first thing he’ll notice. But I think this post can help you more with your tactics.
Chase Theory: How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Chase You Again
Ashlee
January 28, 2016 at 3:12 am
Good evening,
My story is a little complicated.. Because I was the one in the relationship that knew he wasn’t right for me, so, in turn I wasn’t the best girlfriend ever. We broke and he did some hurtful things to me.. We finally stopped talking for about three weeks. I had him block me etc. I couldn’t handle that though? Not having him around made me sad.. But I wasn’t happy with him when I had him? So I am struggling with confusion.. Anyways, we kind of starting talkin again and it really wasn’t going anywhere.. I wanted to see him and he said it’s not a good idea. That only made me want to see him more. It also made me hurt more. Today we talked again for the last time, as I am going to do the NC thing..but today in conversation he just asked me not to contact him anymore because our conversations weren’t helping (which I agree). Do you think this could work for my situation? I guess I realize now what I’ve lost? If that makes sense.
Thank you!
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 28, 2016 at 4:44 pm
Hi Ashlee,
You have to clarify why you don’t think he’s right for you and why you still want him because it’s not going to work if you just miss him but you still think he’s not right for you.
Danielle
January 27, 2016 at 11:10 pm
My boyfriend split up with me the other day and of course I am interested in getting him back. But how do you go about getting him to contact you rather than you contacting him?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 28, 2016 at 9:30 am
Hi Danielle,
Social media can help him get interested and absence also helps.
Anna
January 26, 2016 at 8:54 pm
Hey there.
I have a question and would be grateful if u help me.
I had a relationship with guy for a few month, and we were planning to get married… He had some problems with his father so suddenly without any satisfactory reason we broke up.
After 10 days I called him and he said he is not gonna get back to relation.
I was so fucked up for days and started NC rule till now.
It’s been nearly 1 month after that call, we blocked each other in instagram but we do some spy on each other sometimes, I saw a post if him with conception of feeling regret and want to get back, and another post containing a sentence “what’s meant to be will always find its way ”
We just make eye contact sometimes, but no action!
I really like to get him back but really don’t know what to do?!
Would mind please help me.
Thanks for your awesome website
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 27, 2016 at 11:45 am
Hi Anna
Congratulations that you’re about to finish no contact. All you have to do is follow the next steps. Do a first contact text. I think this will help you greatly. The No Contact Rule (Version 2.0)
Angel
January 26, 2016 at 8:46 am
im sure i already know the advice im gonna get
ok so like the girl above my relationship was totally online we met in a video game had been dating for 9 months i was totally willing to relocate to be with him. heres the thing he’s just turned 20 and im going on 40 but he totally asked me out its just that when we first got together we’d play the game together and talk for hours on end in game on the phone in text we were rarely apart then he got a job and i was totally great with that things would be better for us then our time together went down to 4 hours a night then slowly down to 2 hours a night then less and less and less and he always says its he’s tired from work he doesnt wanna be on the phone that long so i said well just give me sunday then he couldnt even do that and started complaining he wants something “real” which i thought we were working toward then tonight he says he just cant do it anymore and he cant hurt me anymore and that his love for me has dwindled but i dont understand just a few days ago he was showing me he bought a background for his game system cause i reminded him of me my bestie thinks he stopped loving me cause he doesnt think im pretty enough but tbh that thought never crossed my mind till my bestie brought it up but he kept talking all about how we’ll always be friends but i dont wanna be friends i wanna be his everything
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 26, 2016 at 2:14 pm
HI Angel,
He’s new in his job so, the pressures of a new job and maintaining an online relationship must have taken it’s toll. But if you’re really serious about this, you have to stop making him your world because you will appear as a responsibility for him.
Jane Penn
January 26, 2016 at 6:21 am
Hi. Me and my ex broke up around 8 months ago, and he was the one who ended it, because he told me that he was cheating on me with two other girls (all online relationships, nothing in person, but still). We had dated for about 7 months all together, and even to this day I cant seem to get him off my mind.
As of late, it’s only gotten worse. Now I’m even dreaming about him. I want to message him, even if we could just be friends, I miss him so much. However, number 1, I don’t know if he would want anything to do with me, and number 2, I don’t know if I could actually handle just being friends with him.
I should probably add that I am only 16 turning 17, but still- this is a big deal for me. I need help. Should I try to mend things and text him?
Thank you, Jane Penn
Jane Penn
January 26, 2016 at 7:02 am
And the last time we spoke was, well he messaged me on a private instagram not knowing it to be me. But the last actual conversation, about a month and a half ago, and it wasn’t very good. That’s why I think he might not want to talk to me.
Jane Penn
January 26, 2016 at 7:00 am
We currently live around 2 hours from each other. We skyped and facetimed alot, and we were planning to meet at this mall right when all of the news of the cheating came out.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 26, 2016 at 6:48 am
Hi Jane,
Do you see each other in school? When was the last time you talked to each other?