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783 thoughts on “How To Get Over Your Ex Boyfriend”

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    Joyce

    July 6, 2017 at 8:53 am

    My husband died a year and four months ago. I began working out and joined a gym. Last June, I saw an attractive man and developed an infatuation with him. Then four months ago, he showed up at my church, and I developed a definite crush on him. I’m 59, and I have no idea how old he is. We haven’t spoken two words to each other until July 4, when we ran into each other at the gym by the vending machines. I did discover today, however, that he’s married! Well, the door to any possible relationship closed right then. How can I move on when I will still see him at the gym and church? I can go to another gym for a few days a week, but I’m in choir, and I can’t leave my church. I’ll have to see him in the audience, so I can’t just “have no contact” with him and completely eliminate him from “my view.” This seems totally silly, being 59 and infatuated (and seriously attracted) to a man. Thanks!

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      Melissa

      July 12, 2017 at 3:52 am

      Hi Joyce,

      Kinda going through similar situation. Sucks so bad. My boyfriend and I have been together for 13 months. I lived with him for about 3 months. Everything for the first like 10 months was PERFECT…..thought he was my soul mate. Loved him with all off my heart….then he started hanging out more with his friends than me…only asked me over or to go out when it was convenient for me. But I fell hard for him so stupidly I’d always make myself available…well we got in an argument about 2 weeks ago and he’s ignoring me. Haven’t seen him since then….this is how he deals with things…shuts me out and ignores then will say he misses me after a few days and like an idiot I run to him. He is 39 and I am 46 by the way. This time never got the “I miss you” or wanting to see me. So I am assuming this is a break up where he doesn’t have the courage to at least give me closure. I’ve done SO MUCH for him financially and supportive this past year too..a year of my life wasted. I’m trying really hard to do the “no contact” rule but he’s texted and called me. I’m trying to move on but honestly I’d probably take him back if I could…would never tell him that. I told him that I have enough friends so I didn’t need another friend in my life. I also have a TON of my items at his house I have to get back at some point….ughhhhh….I feel your pain. But every day gets better. I keep busy with my two kids, friends and family. Good luck!

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 6, 2017 at 7:53 pm

      Why not befriend his wife?

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    Kylee

    July 4, 2017 at 6:15 am

    Hello!
    I was in a relationship for about 9 months, and although that is not very long, I really did/do love him.
    He comes from a very religious and very strict family. So Our problem is that his mother told him that she “doesn’t think God wants us to be together.” And he, of course, listened to her opinion… keep in mind, we are in highschool.
    we talked on and off after we broke up until about last month (we broke up a year ago) because his mother told him that him contacting me is giving me the idea that he still likes me.
    Which is crazy because he does still like me, he’s told me, but his mother keeps pushing him away.
    I’m not the only girl that his mom does this to, she does it to his twin brothers girlfriends also and makes them feel terrible about themselves.
    And the weirder thing is, I have done nothing to make Her not like me. She even likes and comments nice things on my Facebook photos sometimes.
    But this boy… I have never felt this way about anyone before… and I know he’s trying to move on with another girl but he just recently admitted to me that he “thinks about me every day” when I ran into him when he was picking up his little sister from school.

    If both of us really still like eachother, then why can’t we just try things out again and if it works out, then it’s meant to be. But If it doesn’t, then it’s not.?

    I’ve tried everything. Bible studies with his mom, talking to her, everything. Nothing works.

    I really love this boy and I cannot get rid of my feelings for him. I have gotten better since when we first broke up, because then I literally felt like I was dying and had no purpose to live. But I am better, but I still feel so empty and depressed without him…
    I want to get over him, but it’s just impossible and I really don’t think I can…
    maybe you can give me some ideas or advice that I’m not seeing and could work…?

    Thanks.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 5, 2017 at 4:49 pm

      You’re young.. It’s normal that his parents wouldn’t want their child to date or doesn’t think he should be because you’re both young, especially if they’re religious.. Like being overly emotional, that indicates you can’t handle a relationship yet.. If you really want to prove you’re a responsible kid.Be responsible. Focus in learning and improving yourself in as many aspects as you can because you have the time. Don’t rush things.

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    Jennifer

    June 29, 2017 at 12:17 am

    Hi,

    I have been in a “relationship” on and off for 7 years. He started by being very charming and I fell for it he has been the only guy I have ever been with. At first I was in love with him with time and everything he has done to me love has faded, but I haven’t been able to leave him. About a year ago when everything was going well between us my friend saw him at a club making out with another girl, my friend didn’t tell me anything after 8 months later. I was mad when I confronted him I stopped talking to him. After 30 days he started calling me again, I finally answer he denied everything. After that we saw each other in a club I was drunk and left with him on our way home we got into an argument because I was drunk and I brought up what my friend had saw. I got out of his car and he left me there stranded not caring waht could have happen to me. After two weeks he called again and we started talking again. I have caught him In many lies, he would still go out to eat with his ex of 7 years. I would be the one initiating to see each other and worst he never would want to have sex. I am not ugly or have a bad body… I finally decided to break up with him. He told me I was over reacting and told me I always believe other people he made me feel guilty and I said let’s talk in person and let’s try to work things out he didn’t reply or answered my calls. 2 days later I went out with a friend and we got into an argument because I called him an asshole the following day he called me to insult me he did say he knew he had fucked up so many time and mistreated me. I don’t love him I know he is not the kind of man I want to be with but I don’t understand why I keep going back. I feel emotionally drained. I feel used by him. Please help!!!

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 30, 2017 at 11:26 am

      Hi Jennifer,

      Did you mean you want to know how to move on?

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    Alyssa

    June 24, 2017 at 8:34 am

    Hi my name is Alyssa im 18 and my boyfriend is 24 well im still with my boyfriend. I also live with my boyfriend. I was wondering if you could help me to get over him, because i know that the break up is coming and i wont be able to handel it like i want to.His problem is he is constently texting his ex. Well they do have a kid together but the conversations are never about the kid. I want to confront him but everytime i try to talk about it he never wants to talk about it. Please help me i love the asshoe but dont know what to do. Please and thank you

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 28, 2017 at 5:25 pm

      Hi Alyssa,

      Do you mean you want to break up ans move on?

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    Amanda

    June 16, 2017 at 3:55 pm

    I was in a relationship for around 2 years and my ex broke up with me because we had frequent fights in the end. I thought that maybe he needed break and we will be back together after a while but that didnt happen. Seems a girl had been feeding bad thoughts in his mind about me. A month later i find out about that they both are dating. I was shattered and lost all my self respect and begged him. After few months he dumped her and we again dated for around 6 months and again he dumped me. And history was repeated and he started dating her again. She is a possessive girlfriend and she forbid him from talking to me. I tried talking to him few times but I never got closure. Its over a year now since we broke up last time and we are in no contact. For my studies i moved to another city and right now I am back in town. I cant help but think about him. It is still hurting. I badly want to move on but I am not able to. I would really appreciate some help.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 18, 2017 at 6:49 pm

      instead of waiting closure from him, give it to yourself.. and dont beg again.. if you mean how to move on, check this one:
      How To Get Over An Ex Boyfriend When You’re Still In Love With Him

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    amy

    June 14, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    hi im actually in a very difficult situation. when i was kid my family was friends with a family. we lost touch for 12 years and got in touch again last year. i met their son through our parents. they introduced us in hopes of a relationship. we started talking and gradually started to like each other. but the thing is we didn’t meet face to face, we talked on the phone. we kept on talking for 8 month and in between our parents thought of getting us married. honestly i was ok with it because i fell in love during that time. but the guy wanted to meet me so i flew all the way from Pakistan to Canada to meet him. we met and developed a connection. we went out a couple of times and things seemed to be going ok. i went back after 1 month.
    but he didn’t treat me all that good. even though it was a long distance relationship i did my best and never backed out. he wanted to back out couple of times saying he was not ready and he couldn’t deal with the wedding being in Pakistan( im a muslim and my whole family is in pakistan) he always created a fuss, never opened up to me. i used to beg him to open up and tell me whats going on in his mind.
    he would say he loves me and misses me sometimes but never stood up for me either. then there were some issues between our families regarding the date of the wedding, and i told him to stand up for me as i did for him. he never did, i cried and begged him to do something so we can be together. instead of fighting for me he ended up breaking up with me.
    im a 23 year old and this was my first ever serious relationship and i am head over heals in love with him.. i called him more then 15 times asking him not to do this and we can work it out. he never picked up my calls and ignored me.
    later his sister told me that he dosent feel anything for me and that he doesnt like the fact my family is strict.
    now being a girl form Pakistan( we are both musims) we do things differently, i still went out of my way and tried to be his level of modern.
    after everything, after spending 1.5 year together talking he left me hanging. he doesn’t even feel sorry. hes out laughing and having fun with family and friends. and i am here crying and feeling like my heart has been ripped out.
    i dont know what to do…….was he cheating on me?
    P.S sorry for the mistakes english is not my first language

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 16, 2017 at 8:16 pm

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    pamela

    May 16, 2017 at 6:14 pm

    I have been in no contact for 9 MONTHS i started the journey thinking i would do 30 days initially but after completing 30 days realised i was and am better without him after 3 months of him trying to contact me and deciding i really didnt want this guy in my life ever again i changed my number and blocked hime on litterally everything including email! He has tried to find out about me through other people but it no longer bothers me at all as im completly uninterested in him. I went on a better journey learning more about myself what i enjoy and i grew to enjoy my own company and it has been the most enlightening experience ever. If he came back now even turned up on my doorstep i would tell him im no longer interested. I wouldnt worry about burning that bridge he handed me the match i just decided to use it. Something more powerful than having an ex back is learning to love yourself be comfortable in your own skin thats when u find true happiness….. dont put your happiness in someone elses hands right now its in yours and i assure you can be happy and will be happy without him x

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    Amanda

    May 9, 2017 at 11:47 pm

    I met this man at work. And he and I began talking, we talked all the time, day and night, and eventually we started hanging out. It was always at night. Quickly that blossomed into sleeping together, and I ended up pregnant very quickly. Well it turned out, he was married and cheating on his wife with me. He told her about the affair and that I was pregnant and she obviously kicked him out of the house and wanted a divorce. During the course of time of their divorce, about two months in, they had a court date and at this hearing they had reconciliation papers given to them, he was talking to his ex about ending the divorce. She caught him talking to me, and never reconciled the divorce. Of course, he had lied to me about this cuz he told me he wasn’t trying to get back with her and wanted to be with me. SO when she found out I was talking to him she and him only from them on talked about their son, nothing else. Him and I dated for a few months, his children and him stayed at my house, as he was waiting to get his house back. Per the divorce, she had been granted 6 months to try and refinance the house. He cared deeply about me during these few months, treated me amazing. SUddenly he was wanting to go stay at his dads and break up. He said it was because I didn’t treat him well. AFter a bit, I began to realize how much I wanted to I Be with him, and tried to get him back. He wanted to act like we were in a relationship, but not actually commit and be in a relationship. I one time caught him talking to his ex wife like a lot.he said it was innocent, they were just friends, but when I i looked at his phone, I saw he and her had a little sexual like and they talked tons. HE also called me crazy to her. :somehow I stayed with through that and they slowed down talking. He would tell me when she wouldn’t text or call him and what was said. We still remained together without a label. Then he got to move back in his house, but guess what? She moves into the house right next door to him. Fucking awesome. So that is difficult to deal with, but I try my best to try and get over it. I spend the night with him n hang out n talk on thephone a lot. One night he asks her If he can have a baby stroller from her. SHe said yes and brought it over. I was on the phone with him and he hung up with me and she sat there for two hours with him. I was upset. But again, like an idiot i stayed. Now, basically I spend the night like twice a week with him and we are in Constant contact, we have sex, basically we’re dating with no label. HE talks to his ex and she asked him to go to her cousins funeral with her. I told him I i think that’s A boyfriend or husband thing to do not an ex husband thing to do, And if he did it I was gone. He chose to go with her and now I feel it’s time to get over him. But we work together, we have a child together, am Having a very hard time

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 11, 2017 at 7:50 pm

      Hi Amanda,

      if you’re going to do the no contact rule check the links below:
      Get Your Boyfriend Back If You Have A Child Together
      EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend

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    Esra

    April 29, 2017 at 6:58 pm

    Dear Ex-Boyfriend Recovery Team,

    Brace yourselves, it’s quite a story! I stumbled upon this website after once again being remembered of all the bad things my ex boyfriend has done to me. I am a 20 year old girl and my boyfriend was a year younger than me. We were in a very good relationship with each other for 6 months. He was always very sweet to me and very considerate. In the past months, I have dealt with minor depressions due to stress my university course has given me, but he was always very helpful and said he would help me through it all and would never leave me. We have broken up 2 weeks ago, very suddenly. See, we spent the day before the break-up together and had a very nice time. He stated how he really loved me and said we looked very happy together. The next day, he suddenly wanted to break up without stating a reason. At first he was a little bit mean to me, saying I should deal with problems by myself, but after that he started crying and saying that he was going to miss me so much. He wanted hugs and he said he really loved me, but he still broke up with me. Something made me feel it was not entirely his own decision. It left me heart broken and my depression, which was going much better, totally came back again… We talked the first few days, and he said he wanted to help me get over it. Then he saw me walking with another guy, which was a friend of mine, and he started texting me and being very frustrated. He sent me pictures of us saying those were his favourite pictures and that he did not feel like deleting them. I was being friendly and asked him to just stay friendly with each other and he agreed. 2 seconds later he blocked me on everything and I was again confused. We haven’t talked since, but I am so confused that I cannot seem to get over it. I feel like I need an explanation and contact him… I don’t want him to ignore me howerver. What should I do? I found out he made the decision based on what his friends thought, they said he changed and this made him freak out and made a very adhoc decision.. The confusion makes it hard to get it over with, because I do not know what he wants or means… What do you think is the best solution to this?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 30, 2017 at 12:24 pm

      do you want to try the no contact rule?

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    Natasha

    April 28, 2017 at 9:54 am

    Hi, i was in a relationship for 11yrs, we had our ups and downs but got to a great place where we were communicating really well and were prepared to work through everything.
    Last year we lost 2 very close family members and one was my partners teenage sister who battled with cancer for 2/3yrs. Whilst grieving my partners ex added him on facebook to say hi and since he has been developing feelings from seeing her posts on his timeline. He says there has been no further communication, she is a singer so prob seems glammerous to him, grass is greener type of thing. Now he is unsure of our relationship so we have split, however we share a 5yr old child together so its hard for me to have no contact and move fully on, everytime i see or hear from him it ruins my day, i cant eat or sleep and have stomach problems because of the stress. Im not sure if he is no longer in love with me because he is greiving and confused of if hes like many other selfish a**hole’s out there, either way i feel as if i do not know him any more. Im devastated.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 30, 2017 at 11:27 am

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    Sarah

    April 24, 2017 at 11:13 am

    Hi,

    Hoping some of you lovely readers will help me gain clarity on my situation.

    I’ve been seeing this guy for six months, for the first couple he was the most utterly perfect boyfriend, although he did sometimes fast forward and future fake. But i kept him at bay and enjoyed every moment. As christmas came around, his ex girlfriend got in contact, and badgered him with texts and phone messages every day. One afternoon he went round to see her, and i didn’t hear from him for two weeks. Eventually he got back in contact with me, full of apologies, He hadn’t realised he wasn’t fully over her, But now he didn’t want to be with her and wanted us to take baby steps to slowly regain what we had had before. However he did admit he was still confused over his feelings about her and understood if i didn’t want to see him anymore. I agreed to keep seeing him, that we should also see other people, and take things very slowly. Fast forward another four months, he was virtually living at my home most nights of the week, had done many home repairs to my house, took me out on amazing dates, and generally spoilt me rotten. We have never said we are anything but friends, never claimed commitment or anything. He has however also admitted that although he loves me, he also still has conflicting feelings about the ex. The weekend past, he told me that he’s going to visit his brother, and then disappears again for two nights, when he reappeared he admitted he had gone back to the ex, as she had been repeatedly asking him to for a week. Now he is back with his ex and they are trying yet again, i believe they have been together off and on for four years, and every time it ends badly. I love him very much and i can see the situation is causing him great pain. He is also trying to maintain a friendship with me, but part of me thinks this is just as a back up plan as he’s not really sure this round of being with the ex will end well either. What should i do? He has admitted that had we met at another time when the ex was truly out of the picture we would have been the most perfect couple, and i do believe he is sorry for hurting me and dragging me through it all. It seems that she has broken him down so much, he doesn’t have the will to deny her anymore. For info, although i don’t know if it has any relevance the ex has several mental health issues, which she refuses to take medication for.
    What should i do? Should i try to move on? Or do any of you think eventually he will tire of her games and be ready to date healthily. When we are together we get on brilliantly, and he seems so happy and carefree, as soon as she gets back in contact a cloud comes over him.
    Many thanks for any insights you can provide, i’m going round in circles on this one, i think he’s worth it, but don’t want to waste months or years in a possibly never ending cycle.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 29, 2017 at 8:18 pm

      Value yourself Sarah… If a guy keeps treating you like a back up, don’t let it and treat yourself as a priority by walking away.

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    mary

    April 21, 2017 at 11:04 pm

    I am walking away (moving out of the shared flat) from an 8 year relationship… my first real love… I am 34, you do the math. Anyways, I cannot decide whether I want to work on getting him back, or rather, him wanting me back and seriously rethinking & reevaluation his behavior, or just getting over him.. moving on. Obvs. my friends and family (even his), who have seen this sad and hurtful affair over the past years (7 out of 8 where constant drama and hurt for me) are cheering at me and push me to move on. I am all over the place. Super confident and strong one second, emotional scared and full of heartache, but also love the next.. and then moving on to hate and bitterness.
    He is the emotional cool type of person (even his family confirms that) and I have a big fluffy heart that needs to be watered regularly… it has not been cared for and shriveled up now. I somehow do believe him, when he claims he’d like to continue and work for this relationship – if i would just change my attitude and see that it is all in my head. Gimme an effin break, I can already feel the rage creeping up again. THIS is excatly the reason i need to walk – I won’t delve into more details.
    Anyways.. PLEASE don’t even every so slightly suggest this will take me another 8 years to get over this…. I will be in my in my 40s!!!
    I am so torn between trying to win him back with NC and all that (potentially just lengthening this painful progress) or just emotionally and mentally completely call it off and dropping off the earth. He was saying smth about hoping to stay friends – which would be a ll fun and games, until he has his next partner… and then I’d be devastated all over again. I am not walking into more pain. I dragged it our long enough – I want the pain to stop… but honestly, I also want him.
    So… what do you advise?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 27, 2017 at 10:51 am

      Try the no contact rule first… Heal and improve and then slowly build rapport after… If it doesn’t work,move on..

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    Andrea

    March 23, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    Hi Amor,

    I have asked your advice a few times through this breakup, which I appreciated very much, and I have realized that it’s best to move on completely and forget all about him. Easier said than done, but time does help – if only I would just stop thinking so much about him. The realization came when I thought back to our relationship; about 2 years we were together, yet we weren’t fully comfortable with each other (mostly him, and I got influenced by it), it felt somewhat superficial. I have accepted that he is not ready for a relationship, that we aren’t meant to be together, and I know now that I do deserve better. Even though I still miss him and kind of want him back, I know it’s for the best, because right now he is not good for me and might get in the way for someone who is. So, I decided to move on. We exchanged our stuff, and that made it more final. I will see him one more time in a month’s time because we have tickets to see a musical that I am dying to watch, the good thing is that we are going with two of his coworkers and their significant others. I am planning to going back to NC after the event, but how do you suggest I proceed with this interaction? Can I join them for drinks after the play, or should I just go for the play and leave right afterwards (of course, being polite)? And one more question, about the social media pictures, should I delete the group friend pictures that he’s in?

    Thank you.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 26, 2017 at 7:57 am

      Hi Andrea,

      if you’re moving on, do whatever makes you feel better.. if it’s avoiding him, do it..

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    Sammy S.

    March 7, 2017 at 6:40 pm

    Hi I made a couple of comments on some posts and my ex told me he needed a month of space and throughout that time he deleted our pics on fb and posted things about starting fresh. I realized that He never intended to talk to me about ending it and didn’t care about me so I decided to move on so I sent his things after the month was over. I also sent a txt to him after I left the post office saying I get the hint you don’t want anything to do with me so I just want uou to know I sent your things, I will be fine I wish you well. Then all of a sudden he texted me saying Its not that I don’t want anything to do with you alot of things happen and I think that its best to just stay as friends. And I couldn’t do that to myself I was already feeling the pain I told him No and I wish you well Take care. And he wouldn’t say bye he kept telling me hes working alot to save for school in the summet and doesn’t have time for himself, for right now friends thats it.

    I didn’t reply to it and He still has me on fb. My question is why would he decide to respond to me after what I sent him he had a month and decides to talk to me when Im saying goodbye and wont accept me saying it he wants to be friends I dont understand it.
    Oh and he never claimed his package so ots being sent back to me

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 10, 2017 at 12:27 pm

      Hi Sammy,

      because he’s seeing what he should have seen during nc or at least near the end of it, that you are moving on and not going to chase.. that way he’s more open to being friendly…

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    Emma-Louise

    March 5, 2017 at 1:01 am

    Hey, I’ve commented on a few of theses posts when I thought I had a chance with my ex..
    basically we split up nearly a year ago this month, we stayed in contact because we were together for 3 years and thought it would be a shame to just walk away so we stayed friends and half way through our break up we tried seeing each other and that didn’t work. So we went back to being friends.
    In September he told me he was seeing someone else after I admitted to still being in love with him I felt like a mug..
    we stopped talking and I achieved no contact for a month.
    He got back in contact with me he told me he missed me he wanted me in his life etc. So behind his girlfriends back we spoke and met up every now and then as friends.

    They eventually split and he said he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship with anyone right now so we talked about just seeing where it goes between us.

    On Friday he told me he hasn’t been honest with me, he has been seeing someone else and only told me because she doesn’t want to see him anymore. I phoned him and we talked and he told me he lied to me because it was easier than telling the truth and hurting me.

    He’s admitted in the Past that he loves me and still has feelings for me and wants to try again at one point when I asked him about that on Friday he said at the time he meant it but now he doesn’t want too.

    He’s said we either stay friends or not be in each other’s lives.. he’s honestly my first love and I’ve been so hung up on him for a year and I want nothing more than us to try again but he’s saying he can’t I don’t know what to do anymore I feel like I did at the start all over again constantly crying..

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      Emma-Louise

      March 6, 2017 at 8:47 pm

      Hi,

      I’ve done one month back in September when he got with his new girlfriend and he was the one that admitted he missed me and wanted to talk to me so we started talking and meeting up again in December he split with her.

      But all the time he was with her he was texting me meeting up with me. He admitted to still having feelings for me whilst still with her.. they eventually split in December and we got closer than ever but I still heard the same thing I’m not ready for a relationship blah blah

      Now a few weeks later he tells me he doesn’t love me and he doesn’t have feelings anymore and that he was seeing someone else whilst seeing me every now and then.

      Any ideas?!
      Thanks in advance

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 10, 2017 at 2:51 am

      either you move on or do one last nc of 45 days and start dating others during it too

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 5, 2017 at 8:53 pm

      Hi Emma,

      how many no contacts have you done? How long was it?

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    Samantha

    March 1, 2017 at 7:38 am

    Hi
    I haven’t gotten any reply yet from Chris. I’m really depressed. I don’t know what to do. I’m scared of his other girl. There’ve known each other for 11 years and lost contact at some point and he finally got her contact two years back before i even met him last year. He is now dating her after threatening me he is going to give her a chance.I can’t seem to move on. I’ve tried and I’m still hurting. I love him but he only wants to be my friend. He texted me yesterday after we got into a huge fight on Saturday. He said he doesn’t even want to be my friend but yesterday he said we will always be friends. I gave him space because he said he wanted it and we will never be together even if i was hurting. He ignored every text of mine on Saturday and he never seemed to care. I talked to him yesterday and told him i needed space to heal and move on because he has a girlfriend and he said he’ll avoid texting me. It’s possible he would never text me during no contact. I feel really bad. If Chris would help me,i would really appreciate.
    Will he reply here? If possible he can advise me on some of the topics i could read on ex boyfriend. Please help me get his advice

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      Samantha

      March 9, 2017 at 6:58 pm

      Hi
      How will i get my reply? I contacted Chris. You adviced me to do so.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 10, 2017 at 7:05 am

      Oh Leah handles the emails.. I assume you used the same email here. But I also forwarded your comments here.. So, I’ll update you again tomorrow.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 1, 2017 at 8:40 pm

      Hi Samantha,

      I’ll touch base with Chris today. If you want, you can also try to email here:
      Contact

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    Samantha

    February 25, 2017 at 8:28 am

    Hi’?
    It’s me again.. If possible can you advise me on what to do then if Chris is busy.. He left me for another girl and he knows i love him. He told me the girl had asked him if they can date and he had told her it’s complicated coz he was planning to date me.. I still love him and i want him back but we figure today and he said it’s over between us and i should get that. Please help me Amor.together with what i posted this week.. I’d really appreciate your advice.. I love him and i would want him back.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 25, 2017 at 10:04 pm

      Hi Samantha,

      Honestly, I don’t think you’d want to hear my take, because for me, you should move on. Don’t worry, I’ll update Chris next week. Remind me a week after this if I don’t update you.

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    HSBXY

    February 24, 2017 at 3:37 pm

    So..after five months of moving my life a long long way back from a location I’d moved to for my ex after he didn’t think we were right for each other any more..I’ve decided today once and for all that instead of focusing on ways of having him back in my future (something tells me we are right for each other) I am no longer everrr going to contact him again.
    He came back to apologise to me and I stupidly fell back into talking to him for sixteen days which I now regret.
    He wants to date in his own country for ease, as we can now not fix the distance.
    I’m gonna use this time to completely get him and my whole experience out of my system! Any tips on how to do this even speedier than planned?!

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      Maria

      March 24, 2017 at 4:28 am

      Hello,

      I was in a long distance relationship for 1 year and 6 months. My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago and I honestly can’t get over him. He said his feelings changed. However, the other day he texted me “I love you” and the next day he treated me like trash by giving me the silent treatment. I miss him very much and I just don’t know what to do. We keep talking on snapchat to get our “streak” going but it hurts me that I’m not able to call him mine anymore. I just need help because I wish I could get over him already. I tried the NC advice and it only worked for a few days. He texted me the other night “hey” and “what’s up” but i don’t know what to do. It’s really hard even though it shouldn’t be but I still feel the same. I’m trying to talk to other guys and it doesn’t feel the same and that’s what sucks the most … any deeper advice ? Please it would be really helpful.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 26, 2017 at 9:50 am

      Hi Maria,

      what do you mean that nc only worked a few days?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 24, 2017 at 4:07 pm

      Hi HSBXY,

      don’t rush. It’s a process. Just live day by day of choosing yourself.

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    Samantha

    February 19, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    I can’t even stop stalking him at instagram and whatsapp.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 20, 2017 at 10:13 pm

      Hi Samantha,
      I’ll forward this to Chris. I can’t promise he’ll answer immediately though.. but this will reach him…

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    Samantha

    February 19, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    Hi?
    I am really depressed and I’m having a hard time moving on. I don’t even know if i can do it. My ex broke up with me last year because i cheated. He has been using me for sex but i decided to not do it with him anymore. I tried no contact only to fail it on the 17th day… After that we begun talking but in every conversation he brought up sex even after telling him we won’t have sex unless he commits. He agreed but he kept on talking about it. We then decided to meet at his place and we had sex and i remember i got mad at him and told him he only thinks about sex..well i couldn’t resist him too but i said mean things and got angry. I have been telling him I’ll forever see him as a fuck boy coz he thinks of sex more often. We then talked and we agreed we’d only meet in public places. He would sometimes send an emoji of something that looks like a dick just to make me mad. I then texted him yesterday asking him if he doesn’t want me in his life he should just tell me.. But that’s something he’ll never say. I also asked him y is it that i start conversations always and he would say he has nothing to talk about. We talked until late at night where he said it’s time he got a chiq if all i think is he’s using me. He also said that he wouldn’t date me because I’m emotionally unstable and he’s aware of the fact that I love him and i would do anything for him. I told him every time he always comes up with a different reason of not taking me back like i have trust issues.. I text too much and I’m annoying and now I’m emotionally unstable. He just texted back and said sorry. I suggested to him i need space for a while to heal and stop loving him then he said he’s my friend and he’ll be there for me. It just kills me because i don’t think i can get a guy like him ever. Hope you understand that the breakup is still fresh and i just feel that way. I love him so much and i can’t even stop myself from crying. I’m just wondering why he would hurt me that much instead of leaving me the moment he found out. I’ve proved to him so many times but along the way i ended up failing and doing the wrong things that an ex shouldn’t do. I am not that social and I’m not good at making friends so i am just on my own and dealing with my own problems. I can’t even stop thinking of the memories we had and how much i’ve fought for him. I don’t even have the appetite of eating anything. I am still hoping for him to come back but every time i do that i get hurt and find myself in the same place. What can i really do at this point.. I’m too scared and want to try but I’m even more scared he’d reject me. The times i was with him he would say we won’t date right now so i hoped he would love me in future but he changes every time and now he wants a girlfriend. I am scared of him having a girlfriend coz i can’t stop thinking of him having sex with the girl he’ll get. Can you please tell me what to do coz I’m having a hard time moving forward. I wanna attract him back but then he’s hard to convince and have him back. I want to move on but then i don’t know if i can manage. Amor? Can you please talk to Chris too about my situation coz he’s a guy and he would know better. I need help and guide me on how to do it. Please

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      Samantha

      February 21, 2017 at 4:57 am

      Hi
      How long will he take..

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 21, 2017 at 11:13 pm

      I’m not sure.. I can’t promise anything because it depends on how busy he is.. remind me after a week, if there’s no follow up..

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