The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Desperate ex gf

November 14, 2016 at 3:02 pm

My boyfriend and I broke up about two weeks ago. We had only officially been dating for 5 months, we had been together for a year all together. We had a major argument where i was harsh with my words and became offensive. He became fed up with it and broke up with me. The last text he sent me was that he thought it would be best if we did not talk and that he thought I deserved better.

In the beginning after the break up he still bothered to reply my texts but gradually he dint reply. I tried the no contact rule for 1 week before succumbing only to find out he doesnt even read my messages now. Does it mean he has given up on me?

Desperate ex gf

November 18, 2016 at 3:05 am

Yah i guess i hv to restart the full no contact period..i don’t want him to give up on me during this period
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 14, 2016 at 10:33 pm

Hi Desperate,

it can be, it can be that he got tired. Are you going to restart the count and do a full no contact period?

Tiffany

November 14, 2016 at 1:49 am

My ex and I had a fight 3 weeks ago, and we both said that there was a lack of communication in our relationship, and he said that I wasn’t very affectionate with him. The tension was really high so he said that we should sleep on it to cool down. He texted me to meet up 2 days later. When we met up, I told him that I know that it’s hard for me to be affectionate by giving compliments or initiating physical contact in public, and it made him feel unappreciated. But I show that I care through other things like going to his work functions or making him small gifts when he’s stressed or taking care of him when he’s not well. And he said that he could see that, but he also needed the other things too, and that maybe he’s too needy for me, and if being affectionate is hard for me then he doesn’t want to change who I am. Then he suggested that we take a break, and I asked him to define this break because it could lead to a lot of misunderstandings and confusions if we weren’t on the same page. And he said that we’d stop seeing each other romantically but remain friends, and it’s ok if we date other people, but we can still get back together in the end. It wasn’t the end, and that the attraction was still there but he needed space to think about what he wants. And I agreed because I felt like the conversation could have ended in a break up, so this wasn’t the worst of it.

However, after spending time to think about it, I decided that the break made me feel like a back up so that he can date other people and if those dates don’t work out, then he would still have something to come back to. So I texted him to meet up and talk about 1.5 week later. We met at a dog beach, and we spent sometime to catch up, and he mentioned that I missed his workshop/presentation a few days ago, and he’d still tickle and call me innocent every time I gushed about a puppy running past like he used to do while we were dating. Then he asked me what has been bothering me and why I wanted to talk. So I told him about how I felt like a back up, and he assured me that that wasn’t what he meant, and he didn’t know that I’d feel this way. Then I told him that I agreed that maybe we need to have a break to take some time and space apart because so much happened, and if anything we could start over on a clean slate, but I need to know how long this would last. It was either redefine the break or break up. And he told me that he doesn’t know how much time he needs, and I said that I can’t do that because I don’t want to waste my time waiting around indefinitely, so he said then we should just make it a break up. He told me that the reason he wanted a break and not a break up was because he needs space but he’s not ready to break up with me and he still enjoys my company, and that . And he said that he hopes we can still be friends because we were close friends before we started dating. Hopefully, he can still come over to my place and watch TV shows, and we can still go to the movies and concerts and grab food together.

I’m very confused because on the one hand, it seems like he doesn’t want a relationship, but on the other hand, he still wants to be with me. From my perspective, the problems that we fought about like our lack of communication could be fixed because the 2 times we met up to talk, we both opened up and were very honest. And I could work on being more affectionate. But it takes both sides to put in the effort, and I’m not sure if I should pursue getting back together.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 6:08 pm

Hi Tiffany,

do you want to try the no contact rule so you can think?

jinna

November 14, 2016 at 12:07 am

hllo..
Now m not getting any response from his side .Now restart nc period is also finished. During the last previous days i got 3-4 msges from him but i did’nt replied them. they were seen by me.Now i saw his status that “knw one understand my feeling”….two months completed now. I think he is trying to get my attention nd response.But he is not texting me.This time may be he don’t.Now i am little bit upset. now what to do ..suggest plzz? is he stopped thinking about me…? i really don’t know now days whts going on his mind?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 5:46 pm

Hi Jinna,

you can initiate now. Follow this one for your first contact text:
EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message

Emily

November 11, 2016 at 10:08 pm

Hey, I need advice. My boyfriend and I were together for over a year and he always told me he was going to marry me and that I was his perfect girl and he loved me and would never leave. Throughout our relationship we started to argue more but they were always solved and didn’t last long and we always had a great time together and were very active. We had a fight on Wednesday when I said something I shouldn’t have and he wouldn’t let me fix it or stop the argument no matter how much I apologized and he kicked me out and broke up with me. I saw him two days later to exchange things and he refused to get back together with me after I explained and clarified everything that happened and how I really felt. He kept hugging me and holding me and telling he was sorry and he got really close and held me and out his forehead to mine and his eyes got watery like he was about to cry. He still insists he doesn’t want me back because all we do is fight and I hurt him and when I walked away that was it. That isn’t true we don’t always fight and I walked away because he broke up with me and kicked me out of his house! Even before the fight he was holding me and telling me he loved me and bought expensive items from Sephora then while we exchanged things he said if I fixed it during the fight we’d still be together but I lost my chance. I love him so much and I thought I was going to marry him. How do I get him back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 14, 2016 at 8:44 pm

Hi Emily

do you want to to try the no contact rule, the advice above?

Sab

November 10, 2016 at 4:44 pm

Hi , I have been with my bf 6.5 years we split few times over his daughter as she doesn’t like me she stopped talking to him for a year as they fell out but she now back in touch with him do when we fell out he said its for good this time as he cant see a future for us ,he says he loves me really does but says his heart not in being in a relationship anymore . I feel he only doing this as his daughter (15) back in his life and he doesn’t want to risk her being upset about him being with me ? We live in the same building across the hall from each other . Is there still a chance I can get him back ? I’m 45 he is 54

Sab

November 23, 2016 at 1:48 pm

Hi Amore I have no way of contacting her and doubt she would listen anyway ,we haven’t been getting on for about 5 years out of 6.5 years . We tried solving our issues but always ended up falling out again . So this isn’t something that just happened . I know it’s tough on my ex but he doesn’t get on with my 27 year old daughter either . So we have both been seeing our kids on our own . Tho his daughter stopped seeing him and contact for a year after they both been on holiday , and fell out . It had nothing to do with me . But now she has seen him and is back in touch , I feel he is doing this to not upset her and stop seeing him ? Oh and I’m on day 8 of no contact but bumped into him yesterday on way out to work (we live in same building ) I said hi and carried on walking , does that mean I have to start no contact again from scratch ? And do you think I still have a good chance for him to change his mind and come back to me ?
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 24, 2016 at 8:29 am

Nope you dont have to restart but avoid it as much as possible to avoid initiating conversations.. I do think you have a chance.. Just give them space for now.. Improve yourself too.. Now is a good time because he can still miss you
Sab

November 22, 2016 at 10:23 am

Amor , she wants nothing to do with me hasn’t done for years . We had a few fall outs . He used to keep us desperate and would spend weekends just with her .
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 14, 2016 at 6:13 pm

Hi Sab,

have you talked to his daughter?

Sara

November 10, 2016 at 3:12 pm

If he “fell out of love” and I’m trying to get him back (after 30 days no contact), how do I tell if he’s responding cause he’s open to ‘us’ again or if he’s just being a nice/civil guy?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 14, 2016 at 5:19 pm

Hi Sara,

yes, it’s just to get a feel.. If you want, try group dating and you have to slowly build rapport.Text first, and then calls and then meet ups. Check this one too:The 6 Ways To Know If You Are Close To Getting Your Ex Back?

Sara

November 10, 2016 at 3:08 pm

After my boyfriend of 4 1/2 years broke up with me, I am currently on a successful day 16 of no contact (other than necessary contact since we lived together and shared bank accounts). During the no contact period you recommend that I go on a date with someone else; Isn’t this a little soon after 4 1/2 years with someone? Or is this just to feel what it’s like, not to actually search for someone new?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 14, 2016 at 5:19 pm

Hi Sara,

yes, it’s just to get a feel.. If you want, try group dating and you have to slowly build rapport.Text first, and then calls and then meet ups. Check this one too:The 6 Ways To Know If You Are Close To Getting Your Ex Back?

Charlotte ASPLAND

November 9, 2016 at 10:08 pm

My boyfriend split up with me last week because he said he wants his space and to be his own person and doesn’t feel like that anymore , he blames our constant arguments and me being very insecure , I found out he went on a date lastnight with a girl I think he’s been talking too for a while , he said to me that he had a really good time and that it was nice to be out with someone who was so thankful for him taking her out and said she was genuinely nice and for once it to hang out with someone who enjoyed his company , I picked my stuff up from his today we hugged and I cried and begged a little and left I don’t know what this means for us I’m scared of him and this other girl but I have started the no contact rule and really just want him back he’s the love of my life and I want it to work out so bad .

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 13, 2016 at 7:51 am

Hi Charlotte,
it looks like a grass is greener syndrome..check this one:
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

Carolina

November 9, 2016 at 9:10 am

I broke Up with my boyfriend almost two years ago, we lived together for a year, we shared 3 years together. I left him because the relationship was very monotonal. He smoked weed and I couldnt take It annymore, because It afected our sex Life. He had no drife and It became a huge problem. After the brekup i started doing Sports , i was very fit, he calles and beggeed non stop for year. I had yo get my self sometime to be myself again , so we. Met a lot as Friends. Then one. Day he disapeared stoped calling me annd I went nuts, I hve beggeed to get back but he. Justo pushes. Me back, he. Seems very hurt and parties a lot
We still Talk from time to time, mostly because I call and he always says he wants toove on, because I Will leave him again. I dont know what to do.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 12, 2016 at 2:44 pm

Hi Carolina,

So, does that mean you’re willing to take him back now even if he didn’t change? Or you’re just missing him chasing you?

Carolina

November 9, 2016 at 9:08 am

I broke Up with my boyfriend almost two years ago, we lived together for a year, we shared 3 years together. I left him because the relationship was very monotonal. He smoked weed and I couldnt take It annymore, because It afected our sex Life. He had no sex drife and It became a huge problem. After the brekup i started doing Sports , i was very fit, he calles and beggeed non stop for year. I had yo get my self sometime to be myself again , so we. Met a lot as Friends. Then one. Day he disapeared stoped calling me annd I went nuts, I hve beggeed to get back but he. Justo pushes. Me back, he. Seems very hurt and parties a lot
We still Talk from time to time, mostly because I call and he always says he wants toove on, because I Will leave him again. I dont know what to do.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 12, 2016 at 2:44 pm

Hi Carolina,

So, does that mean you’re willing to take him back now even if he didn’t change? Or you’re just missing him chasing you?

cherry

November 9, 2016 at 5:53 am

My bf broke up with me last November 2, 2016 (his birthday). we are only in a span of 5 months.But he already asked for a space last October 29, 2016. I was so upset because we just had celebrated his birthday in advance last October 21-22, 2016.of course I asked him the reason why..He told me the cliche “It’s not you, it’s me”.Then, He said he wanted to be selfish this time.He wants to have more time with his family because he is the bread winner..He wants to have more time with himself.He said he wants to be selfish this time..Because we’re like LDR even if we’re in the same country..because he works at night as a call center agent..while I work at day..so, i’m texting him at day and he will replied me at night and vise versa..I’m blaming myself because I left the company where our relationship began..what can i do? I was so stressed then..also, last October 27, 2016 (at night) I was quarreling him because he can’t even say to his dad my happy birthday greeting..(because his parents don’t want me for their son for some reason) and he felt like he can’t even defend me with them that’s why he felt he’s not worth with my love..I also did text him that I will die if he will left me (and I’ve just read here that, that was a NO!NO! urgh!) we had a heart to heart talk on November 2, 2016 because I surprised him for his birthday but he officially end up our relationship..he said that he also doesn’t have any other girls but his love for me already fade (he said).. (that is what my friend told me to) until now, I’m so in love with him and want to win him back.What is the perfect method for me? Thanks! 🙂

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 12, 2016 at 2:26 pm

Hi Cherry,

There’s no perfect method. Well, it was a short relationship, and then you had no time for each other, and then his parents didn’t approve you. So, it looks he really did got tired and the feelings faded. The best you can do right now, is to follow the advice above. Do 45 days no contact rule, focus in healing, improving and being more independent before initiating contact again.

Alex

November 9, 2016 at 2:29 am

My boyfriend and I broke up about three days ago. We had only officially been dating for a short period of time, we had been together for a year all together. It was not until recently that we began fighting over petty things all the time and he became fed up with it just recently and broke up with me. The last text he sent me was that he thought it would be best if we did not talk and that he thought I deserved better. He was so angry with me that I think it was an impulse break up. He texted me the next night and all he said was ^Hey^. I did respond about 12 hours later but my response was very rude and I have not heard from him sense. I really want him back because I do love him very much and I honestly think the break up was not meant to be. My question is what should I make of him texting me the day after we broke up and is it even worth continuing to pursue

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 12, 2016 at 12:25 pm

Hi Alex,

how short is short? Maybe just give it a week, for both of you to cool down before talking again.

Maureen

November 8, 2016 at 2:59 pm

Hi! My fiancé/boyfriend broke up with me on Sunday November 6. He said he wanted to talk that day and I said okay. So when I got home from being with my sister, he called me and told me that he saw us going in two different paths and since his job promotion he would work on a Sunday to make extra money and I completely understood that 100%. But he also told me that he started to fall out of love with me before I had my second cancer surgery. And that I was willing to make it work, he even saw me when I came back to my sisters house to recover. He said that he was sorry and that he didn’t mean to hurt me, he said I think we should be friends. I don’t understand why he would be like this. I think his mother influenced him to do it because she didn’t like me at all from the beginning.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 10, 2016 at 5:01 pm

Hi Maureen,

do you want to try the no contact rule? Check this one too:
EBR 054: My Exes Mom Made Him Break Up With Me

Anxious Anonymous

November 8, 2016 at 5:26 am

Hi Chris,

It’s been a while. How are you? Here’s the deal I lost my boyfriend once before and I successfully used your guide to win him back! Your advice worked better than I ever believed it could and I’ve used different bits and pieces throughout our relationship. Now several years on, your website is sooooo different, we moved in together and now have a child.

Unfortunately things have gone sour again and I’m in a very complicated situation. I desperately need your advice.

About a month ago he told me he was thinking of moving out, I didn’t confront the situation because it gives me anxiety attacks, instead I researched and made changes to improve the relationship. I had post natal depression for a very long time after my first child, I got help whilst pregnant with my second as I was high risk of getting it again. Now I’m at a point where I can say to myself, I no longer have depression. However (and it’s stupid I didn’t realise this before) the years I had depression have taken their toll on him. I never understood how much of an impact me having depression must have had on him and because he’s been putting so much energy into me he’s forgotten about himself and ended up getting depression and anxiety himself.

Today he wrote me a letter. The worst letter I have ever had to read. He wants to move out early next year. He said he loves me and the kids and that things have been amazing for the past month after he told me he was thinking of moving out. ( I followed advice about how to help a depressed partner, being loving and supportive etc) However in his mind it was already too late, it had taken him a long time to do it because of the implications breaking up would have. He’s very depressed and anxious. Thinking of being loving and supportive, I stupidly suggested that we maintain the relationship whilst he’s still here. Neither of us want to loose our family so I thought if we’re on a time limit lets just enjoy the last few months of our little family and make them the best times we’ve ever spent together. He agreed, he said he would prefer that to being like two exes living together and being really awkward. I asked what would happen after that when he moved out and he said it would end, he didn’t think it would be a stable environment to have a relationship in. So everything all the love and cuddles, sex would all just stop on the day he moved out. I’m not being funny but that to me seems a little cruel, why let him have the best of me knowing it would ultimately end in him rejecting me, making me feel even worse that he can’t be with me even at my best, However at least knowing I’d tried. So I spoke to him again and said how about we have the best time over the next few months and then decide when he’s moving out if we should also break up or just continue our relationship in separate homes. He also agreed. As much as it kills me inside and I want him to stay in the family home, I don’t want to try and stop him from moving out. Elastic band theory, give him his space to do what he needs to do, helping a depressive partner, again space to do what he needs. I’m terrified it will be permanent but I don’t feel I have a choice. Now I’m full of ambivalence, I want to enjoy the last few months we have together and if we’re going out go out with a bang, but at the same time I’m terrified I’m just making it too easy for him to leave, setting myself up for failure. I hate him for doing this to me, but I understand why (when I told him I understood how things had gotten to this and how hard things must have been for him, he cried to a point of not being able to talk, he never cries).

Now I’m wondering, what should I do? and hopefully this is where you come in. I’ve put myself in a situation where I’m in constant limbo, my own doing I know. We’re together but there’s a time limit where he moves out and we may or may not stay together. The moving out is a 100%, it would be a miracle if he stayed. Have I just set myself up for failure? Am I making it too easy for him to leave? I have conflicting advice, Depression advice tells me to be supportive, but your advice tells me NC, which is the opposite of loving a supportive. I have the option right now to save myself a lot of heartache and just end things myself, start NC whilst he’s still here, or I can carry on pretending everything is fine and enjoy our last few months as a family living together showing him what he would be missing when he left. I was thinking I could show him the best of me and our family, our relationship whilst we’re still ‘together’ and then when he moves out if we stay together continue doing so, but if he decides he wants to break up as well THEN start NC. Is this a good idea? What should I be doing right now. Supportive and loving or NC?

Sorry this is an essay, it must be a pain to read such long messages but I thought it would be best if you fully understood the situation. Thank you for taking the time to read this and responding in advance.

Kind regards
Anxious Anonymous

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 11, 2016 at 2:25 pm

Hi Anxious Anonymous,

I think your thought on being supportive, only applies to people who actually want you to stay.. Because for me, you’re still being supportive by doing nc. Why? because that’s what he wants. Right now, you’re the only one who wants a relationship. He wants the family, that means being amicable with you and keeping the relationship with his children, which you can do in limited nc. But not being in a relationship, because if that’s what he wants, he should have been more clingy on you, seeking happiness through you but it looks like he wants space..

Maureen

November 7, 2016 at 9:49 pm

Hi! My boyfriend/fiancé just broke up with me yesterday. We we’re together for 4 years, we met at work. Since we went out on the first date we had the best of times, but when my mother decided to move to Florida I said to her that I can’t lose him and after that I told him what was going on and he would have to talk to his mother and see if I can move in with them. And I was moving my things on my vacation. He was so excited that I was moving in with him. We had are moments of pain and other things but we always said I Love you. After three years he proposed to me and I said yes. That day was something special to us that this was the first day of the rest of our lives together. Then I went to a checkup and my doctor was shocked to discover something that shouldn’t be there. After 2 months of testing and minor surgery I was given the news that I had CANCER! I was in shock and so was he, but I had to be strong to beat this and I was going to be. After I finished chemotherapy treatment I got sick and a high fever and ended up in the hospital. He was there almost every night and he said that I love you. When I got out of the hospital I had to get surgery to remove the cancer. And I began the road to recovery after my surgery, with physical therapy. I had to get a another scan to see if anything was amiss and it was, the CANCER came back after three months after my surgery. I told my fiancé again that it came back and he seemed upset. But I had to be strong again to beat this and I was, after six rounds I was ready for another surgery. Before my second surgery he told me that he was offered a promotion and that the interview was the day of my surgery and I was upset but I told hi, I’ll be fine because of my mother and sister will be there. So I was done with surgery after 12 hours and the cancer was out again. And my sister said that you can recover from the surgery at her house. Three days after my surgery he came and visited me to see how I was. He seemed happy to see me. He told me that day that he got the promotion as manager and I was happy for him. Two weeks later he came down to see me and he told me that his mother doesn’t want me in the house and I was in shock. But then I told him I had to get some warm clothes because of the winter coming up and he said it felt weird between us when I went to get some more clothes but I didn’t want it to be weird because I didn’t want his mother to cause a problem with me. So after three weeks of not seeing him he called me and he wanted to talk about us and where are relationship was going and he said it was going in to two different directions and that he said that a coworker asked how I was and he said I didn’t know. SO I begged him not to do this and that I wanted to make it work and he said I can’t see us other than only friends and that he was so sorry. I know it only been a day but I’m lost with out him and I need him back in my life because I love him so much. What do I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 10, 2016 at 5:02 pm

Hi Maureen,

do you want to try the no contact rule? Check this one too:
EBR 054: My Exes Mom Made Him Break Up With Me

Lol

November 7, 2016 at 9:26 pm

Hello, on friday i wrote my ex text, after NC. I followed rules above. I sent first contact text (one text to remind him about, what suprise i made for him), his text back was really positive, and then i sent again one text with words, that i have to go on dinner with friends now and bye 🙂 . Than i followed rules above and did not contact him for two days. I wrote him today (monday) with text to remember her the good times, he text back, that he remember this night and send me one qusteion from another topic, then i replay, but i did not get anything back for 2 hours, so i wrote him, that i have a meeting now i that it was nice talking to him and smiley, like in rules. And my question now is, what do do next? Do i use jelousy text now or do not text him for one day or what?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 10, 2016 at 4:53 pm

Hi,

why did you only do 10 days? when and why did you broke up? How long were you together?

Amanda

November 7, 2016 at 3:08 am

I’ve broken up with my boyfriend, but when we keep in touch as usual. Recently, my ex boyfriend said he still accept me as his girlfriend and he admitted that being stupid decision when broke up with me. He also said he was in dillemma because in the same period he has immediately have new relationship with his best friend. Although he has expressed frustration because too fast having new relationship but he hard to forget about me. He also said let the time decide everything because he already make sex with her new GF and so difficult if he stop his new relationship immediately. Although he has expressed his frustration with his new GF but lastnight I was found condoms in his bag, this mean he was having sex with new GF yesterday, although he aware that he has done mistakes. What should I do? Throughout our relationship we have never because it’s sex will be valid only after marriage

Amanda

November 8, 2016 at 6:53 am

honestly I still love him and hope he comes back to me like the first, I also hard to stay away from him because we work very close and he always asked me to lunch or breakfast together. He also treated me as usual and the only difference he was in a relationship with his best friend. What should I do now?
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 11, 2016 at 4:13 pm

that’s normal to feel that way because you always see him… ask yourself, how much do you really value yourself? if it’s ok with you to be in that situation, then dont change things.

I think you want to ask how to make him change his mind? First, you cant force other people to change. Second, in his perspective, he’s already comfortable.Why he would he bother to change things and make it difficult for him?

This is going to hurt, but frankly, we all know that a person who’s in a relationship only does that when he’s inlove and falling hard to another person and has to do those actions when he knows he will lose the person if he doesnt leave the first one..
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 7, 2016 at 6:54 pm

Hi Amanda
he’s trying to keep you both.. You have to decide. Move on or settle in that kind of situation?

Jeanee

November 5, 2016 at 7:20 pm

Me and my boyfriend broken up 8 days ago,we met in dating site, he comes to my state for work, and was together for a total of 5 months since summer, it was so happy so different , we see each other almost daily for more than a month then he need to go back to his state for his kids which is 4 hours away so we have long distance relationship, I went there twice coz he picked me up and took me home(I don’t drive yet ) and obviously back and forth it took him 16 hours which makes me feel good inside the effort ! everything is bliss and roses , till like more than a week ago a girl from facebook contacted me and she said she’s girlfriend of my boyfriend and asked me if I knew about her, she told me they were together first one month before me and my boyfriend for together, and she’s paying his bills and send him money , she appears to me more of a sugar mama, I lashed out at my boyfriend and said hurtful stuffs. He admitted and repeatedly said sorry and told me he was trying to break up with her numerous times but won’t leave him alone. He said he will give me
My stuff , He Said everyone is trying to break us apart and he doesn’t deserve me but this came as a relief because he is stressed out having two girlfriends and that he is wrong to hurt me and said he didn’t mean to hurt me and said its me he love and not the other girl and even told me to ask her because he never said I love u to her because he don’t . He told me he will just going to be single . We’re suppose to move in together and he told me he will fix my house for free labor (I bought a house), so I gave him another chance and forgave him, but things are complicated now as he is still need to go back to his 4 hour away state because he has a son there that doesn’t wanna move and his dad is watching him if he moves with me . Like I said things get complicated , the girl is begging me to tell my boyfriend to talk to her one last time but my boyfriend refuse to because he wants ️peace and don’t want me to feel scared. But she still cause problems and posting their old pictures on facebook when they were just friends then not an item and trying to make it look like they were together just the night before . I cracked got mad at the girl messaged her and so she was posting even more upsetting posts and he told me to ignore him. I told him he needs to out my pictures on his facebook or delete his facebook. (All these while he is in West Virginia and im in Ohio , by the way the girl lives in West Virginia). So one day he told me he is sorry and if he ever wants to marry someone he wanted it to be just like me and he still wants to be friends but he is not ready for a relationship yet and that his ex girlfriend baby mama for 13 years messed him up so bad that he needs to fix himself first or everyone is just going to be miserable (we did talked about getting married one day and our goals and dreams together that serious ). I was hurt for him dumping me so I lashed out again said hurtful things. He said when he goes back to West Virginia to be with his son on weekends he feels that it will be just a fight because I don’t trust him like I did before and he is afraid it will be more messier breakup of he moved in with me he is afraid I will just kick him out anyway . I told him im not GONNA beg you or change your mind since im sure you already made your mind up. But the next day I calmed down and said Goodluck but I don’t think being friends is healthy. He said goodluck to me as well. And that was 8 days ago. I love him but I implemented no contact rule. Do you think it’s possible that he still love me but just left me alone? Is it possible that he may want me back? Or I lost him for good? ThanksMe and my boyfriend broken up 8 days ago,we met in dating site, he comes to my state for work, and was together for a total of 5 months since summer, it was so happy so different , we see each other almost daily for more than a month then he need to go back to his state for his kids which is 4 hours away so we have long distance relationship, I went there twice coz he picked me up and took me home(I don’t drive yet ) and obviously back and forth it took him 16 hours which makes me feel good inside the effort ! everything is bliss and roses , till like more than a week ago a girl from facebook contacted me and she said she’s girlfriend of my boyfriend and asked me if I knew about her, she told me they were together first one month before me and my boyfriend for together, and she’s paying his bills and send him money , she appears to me more of a sugar mama, I lashed out at my boyfriend and said hurtful stuffs. He admitted and repeatedly said sorry and told me he was trying to break up with her numerous times but won’t leave him alone. He said he will give me
My stuff , He Said everyone is trying to break us apart and he doesn’t deserve me but this came as a relief because he is stressed out having two girlfriends and that he is wrong to hurt me and said he didn’t mean to hurt me and said its me he love and not the other girl and even told me to ask her because he never said I love u to her because he don’t . He told me he will just going to be single . We’re suppose to move in together and he told me he will fix my house for free labor (I bought a house), so I gave him another chance and forgave him, but things are complicated now as he is still need to go back to his 4 hour away state because he has a son there that doesn’t wanna move and his dad is watching him if he moves with me . Like I said things get complicated , the girl is begging me to tell my boyfriend to talk to her one last time but my boyfriend refuse to because he wants ️peace and don’t want me to feel scared. But she still cause problems and posting their old pictures on facebook when they were just friends then not an item and trying to make it look like they were together just the night before . I cracked got mad at the girl messaged her and so she was posting even more upsetting posts and he told me to ignore him. I told him he needs to out my pictures on his facebook or delete his facebook. (All these while he is in West Virginia and im in Ohio , by the way the girl lives in West Virginia). So one day he told me he is sorry and if he ever wants to marry someone he wanted it to be just like me and he still wants to be friends but he is not ready for a relationship yet and that his ex girlfriend baby mama for 13 years messed him up so bad that he needs to fix himself first or everyone is just going to be miserable (we did talked about getting married one day and our goals and dreams together that serious ). I was hurt for him dumping me so I lashed out again said hurtful things. He said when he goes back to West Virginia to be with his son on weekends he feels that it will be just a fight because I don’t trust him like I did before and he is afraid it will be more messier breakup of he moved in with me he is afraid I will just kick him out anyway . I told him im not GONNA beg you or change your mind since im sure you already made your mind up. But the next day I calmed down and said Goodluck but I don’t think being friends is healthy. He said goodluck to me as well. And that was 8 days ago. I love him but I implemented no contact rule. Do you think it’s possible that he still love me

Jeanee

November 5, 2016 at 7:35 pm

Also I met his family already in Ohio and they were excited to meet me . They said its the first time he brough home a girl since his ex baby mama for 13 years . Met his other friends too both in Ohio and West Virginia and hung out so im the one he didn’t hide
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 7, 2016 at 1:09 am

Hi Jeanee,

that’s good that you started the no contacttnact rule.. Dont be like the other girl.. I think there’s a chance, especially if he realizes that he’s really losing you because of the other girl..Start healing and improving yourself.. I think you should do at least 30 days

Melina

November 5, 2016 at 7:02 pm

After 6 years, Me and my ex broke up 5 months ago… didn’t start no contact until 2 weeks after. I went 29 days no contact and reached out to him and we met up and he was so willing to start dating but we ended up fighting. So I did 30 days no contact and I reached out to him and he was so polite and nice. We dated for like 2 months but we moved super fast in the beginning(because he wanted to) and then he wanted to slow down and I started to nag and freak out that we started fighting and broke it off… I txtd him 3 days in a row and he just ignored me…. now I’m thinking if I should do 45 days and if he doesn’t reach out to txt him or if it’s a lost cause and I should just move on. Please help!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 7, 2016 at 12:48 am

Hi Melina,

the more you do the no contact rule the less it’s chances of helping you because you’re becoming predictable.. And you should start a new routine during the no contact rule that will improve yourself.. you will continue that routine even after the no contact rule to continue improving yourself.. If you were still the same person before you started no contact, that means it wasnt done right.. If you are going to do a 45 day this time, aim to be more rational…

Jtay

November 4, 2016 at 6:20 pm

Hi there,

It’s been over a year since my ex and I broke up. I moved away out of town after a couple months after the breakup and refused to meet up with him to say goodbye at the time because I was too emotional and blocked him on FB. (I have since then unblocked him.) I reached out via email about 4 months after the move. He was polite but didn’t engage much and took a long time to respond. Then in July, I texted him on his birthday and let him know I was going to be in his part of town a couple weeks later and wanted to know if he would like to meet up. He said that he would like to catch up but was not available then. Lastly, after not seeing him face to face over hearing his voice for a year, I called him 3 weeks ago and left him a voicemail saying that I wanted to catch up. He never responded… Is there any way to spark his interest again?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 6, 2016 at 2:18 pm

Hi Jtay,

go slowly.. try to check this one,:
EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message

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