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Jennifer
August 5, 2013 at 5:24 pm
Ok so I have been in NC for 24 days. Broke up on June 3rd.
I was doing great and really working on myself even went to counseling.
Last night I a mutual friend called me to tell me that he had talked with me ex. Apparently my ex referred to our relationship as extremely bad. He said the biggest problem is he never felt good enough for me and though he tried he couldn’t make me happy in all four years.
He also met a girl a week after our breakup on an online dating site and they have been going out every Saturday night and all day Sunday. He told the friend he really really likes her. They aren’t official on FB or anything yet though.
I’m wondering if this even qualifies as a rebound…apparently he felt that he had been needing to end our relationship for awhile now even though we had just gone on an amazing week long vacation.
1. Is this a rebound?
2. Should I break NC since he obviously doesn’t care (has not even tried to contact me at all, broke all ties with me)
3. Help! Lol
admin
August 6, 2013 at 3:27 am
I think that she could be a rebound but I can’t guarantee it.
I would say stay in NC for the 6 days you have left. Your ex is still right off the heels of your breakup and he might still be remembering all the bad times.
Jennifer
August 5, 2013 at 7:21 pm
Sorry broke up on July 3rd
Yesenia
August 5, 2013 at 3:21 pm
Okay this is my story. I was with a soldier for two years when he got his orders to Germany. He reported for duty there in early march and I saw him for the last time in February when he came to Florida and spent the weekend with me. Before he left he promised me that he would come back and not even lay eyes on another woman. We started having issues about three weeks into him being in Germany. For the simple fact that he wanted to go out and stay out until five in the morning and not text me for four or five hours at a time sometimes even more, leaving me worried about him. We argued even more when he threw a party in his room, after he told me he wanted to get off of the phone because he wanted to go to bed. A party Which girls were invited. We had broken up a couple times since he’s been there but it was never for more than a couple hours. About 10 or 12 days ago he went out to another part of Germany with some friends and met a german girl named Carolyn. He didn’t tell me that same day, he only told me after I asked him if e had gotten anyone’s number that night. I wasn’t happy and it definitely brought out a lot of jealousy but he said he just wanted to have friends and that if wasn’t a big deal. A night later he texts me early in the morning saying I have something to tell you, and I replied tell me. So he called me, and told me that he had a dream that he had sex with that girl Carolyn. I got really angry and cried and pushed him until he deleted her number, and told him I didn’t want him talking to her because I didn’t feel comfortable with it. That night I asked him if they had talked and he said yes. She texted me a couple times hey and I responded. He also said “I told her that I could no longer talk to her because I have girlfriend and she doesn’t feel comfortable with it.” I then asked him what she said and he responded “she said she didn’t understand why, because she knows I have a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend.” That was the end of their conversation according to him. I then told him to ignore her and never talk to her again. He agreed. The next day we really didn’t talk much, but when he got home from work he called me, and told me that he had that sex dream with Carolyn in it again. I was so hurt, I felt so betrayed. I asked him if he had still been talking to her and he said yes, they had been texting and he said he saw nothing wrong in them texting so he wasn’t going to stop. I wasn’t happy about if but there was nothing I could do about it. That weekend he went out with some friends, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday to another part in Germany he and I barely talked that weekend. When he came home that Sunday night he called me and we talked about everything he did that weekend, he told me that he had hung out with that girl Carolyn, but it wasn’t just her it was a couple other friends to. To say the least I was pissed so we had the biggest argument. I didn’t think it was fair, because I’ve had guy friends that I knew years before I knew him that he made me stop talking to because he didn’t feel comfortable. We made it almost all week, still upset at each other. I was mad at him because he did that and he was mad at me because he didn’t see anything wrong with it. During that week he told me that his feelings changed. that the distance was getting to him and that he didnt want fo be with me Anymore buf we worked through it. i barely spelt rhat week thinking about everything he said to me. That Friday, early in the morning like three or four his time, I called him and told him that I couldn’t be with someone who thought doing what he was doing was right, let alone someone who wasn’t even sure of their feelings. So we decided to break up. And not see other people until he was sure a out how he felt. he promised he wouldnt talk or be with someone else until we had exhausted every option we had to keep us together. So this last weekend he traveled to the part of Germany this girl Carolyn lives in and spent the weekend with her and her six month old son(which btw is the son of an American airman who was once stationed in Germany) he ignored me pretty much the whole time he was with her. When he got home again Sunday night I asked him if we could talk and he said yes and called me. I tried poring my heart out to him about all our history and plans of the future and for a little bit I thought I actually made him think about it but then he told me that he didn’t want to leave her because he didn’t want to be the man to break her heart. During this conversation he admitted that the only reason our relationship went sour was because of the distance and that he still very much loved me. He also said that he knew the day he came home and saw me face to face all the emotions would come rushing back and he would fall in love with me. I told him if that how he felt he should stop this and just be with me, his reply was “she’s been through a lot, I don’t want to hurt her. And besides I really like her and want to be with her” i told him to not come back to me right away but to stop talking to her and take time to figure out what he really wants. he then told me that hes not just talking to this girl but is in a relationship with her. i honestly felt my heart break and my world fall apart but i didnt want to lose him, so i didn’t give up I kept insisting I told him that I would tell her how he truly felt about me and he said how will you do that? I told him I would write her on Facebook. At first he kept saying no no no and then he told me okay you can do it but I want to see exactly what you send her. I’m going to call my mom for advice and then call you back. So I wrote the girl on Facebook, and he called me back and said what his mom said just confused him even more. And that it was getting really late so he’s gonna go to bed. Early this morning he calls me and yells at me for writing her, I told him that he told me I could. He said no I didn’t and then hung up on me, he later called me with her on his cell phone and me on his house phone and told me that he didn’t want to be with me, he wanted her. And then he hung up. Later he blocked me on Facebook and told me to never talk,text, or message him ever again…. I don’t know how to deal with this! He was my first everything and he even proposed to me, I was his fiancé at one point. We were pregnant but unfortunately I had a miscarriage. I just don’t understand why he would put a girl that he met a 10 days ago over someone he almost had a child with, proposed to, and planned a future with…. Thanks so much for taking the time out to read this. ❤
admin
August 6, 2013 at 3:56 am
Ok, you made a classic mistake, contacting him too much.
For now, give him his space.
ann
August 5, 2013 at 9:34 am
My boyfriend and I broke up about month ago,we started dating at the beginning of this year and we were really inlove and happy but them I started hearing stories about him messing around with other girls I was cool about it but then I got tired so we broke up after a while of ignoring each other. Now he is dating one of my friends but he still tells me he misses me…I want to be happy for my friend but I can’t because I still love my ex very much
admin
August 6, 2013 at 3:12 am
Why don’t you try the stuff on this page?
Heather
August 5, 2013 at 7:04 am
My ex and I were together for 2 and a half yrs. we broke up last Oct and he started dating someone else in Dec. We all work at the same place. Him and I did not speak for a long time. His girlfriend and I don’t really speak but don’t have a problem with each other either. Recently he has started joking around with me and talking to me a lot at work when we are alone like he has to say something to me every time he sees me. I still do not talk to him outside of work though. I still have feeling for him and want him back. I’m just not sure if he still has feeling for me anymore and am trying to figure out if maybe his joking and playing around and talking to me so much recently may be a sign that he does? What should I do?
admin
August 6, 2013 at 3:05 am
Don’t read too much into the joking. I think if you want him back giving him space and going on a NC rule is the way to go.
Veera
August 5, 2013 at 5:39 am
is it good or a bad sign that i think my ex has started to break free from me. He finally came to pick his bike from my jard (its been 6month). i blew my last nc and contacted him too early. Now i have one week to go. i just want him back. now im more certain than ever. and i think that now i can think clearly what to do.
One thing more. do you think new girlfriends are jealouse about exes? this sounds stupid, but do you think than can be used somehow?
admin
August 6, 2013 at 3:01 am
New girlfriends are always jealous of exes hahaha.
And I don’t think its a good or bad sign. I just think its in the middle somewhere.
Jaye
August 5, 2013 at 4:24 am
So, I have known this guy for over 10 years, he’s a friend of my brother’s and graduated with him. He’s in the army, stationed in Texas, and I’m in Indiana. He is waiting to get promoted so he can move to Kentucky and he wouldn’t be as far away from me as he is now.
I saw him when he came home last month on leave, we exchanged phone numbers. We had been talking for about 3 weeks, we were NOT exclusive, when a couple of days ago he told me he was making out with his friend’s girlfriend’s friend when they were waiting to find a ride home for her after an outing. She was coming to pick him up and take him to her place the next day, and I knew what was going to be going on – he was having a bit of fun, it didn’t change his feelings for me; he wasn’t exclusively seeing me because of our distance. He was with her the whole day. I got a text from him that night right before I went to bed telling me that he has someone now (this girl) and he was sorry it wasn’t going to work out with us. He didn’t want me to be mad at him and hoped we could still be friends, but he wanted to see where this relationship takes him. I was extremely hurt, it felt like my heart had been taken out, thrown on the floor, and shattered into a million pieces.
I am trying to understand how he could just want to start dating someone on a whim like that, having just met her and hooked up with her pretty much that same day, and kick me to the curb – me, whom he’s known for probably 13 years, and whom he’s had a crush on since high school. AND, we had been talking for almost a month.
I am on the no contact rule, one reason being I am angry with him for doing this to me. I don’t see this “relationship” lasting very long and I see him trying to make amends with me and possibly try to start talking like we did again.
Is that possible? I’m wondering if she is just a substitution to fill his emotional and physical needs since I can only fill one need right now. Or maybe something else. What is going on? Can I get him back?
admin
August 6, 2013 at 2:46 am
Hi Jaye,
Have you read the post I created on rebound relationships? I think that might apply to your situation a little bit.
Maddie Thompson
August 5, 2013 at 3:28 am
My ex and I were together for 5 years! I went to visit some family for 2 weeks and we broke up while I was visiting my family! He told me that it was because we grew apart! But when I got home I found out that he was dating a new girl! We are really young! All of my friends keep telling me that when he realizes that his new girlfgirlfriend is not good for him that he will come back to me! I do not know if he will or not, but the last few times we broke up it did not take him this long to come back! I know that him and I are young, but I just do not know what to do! Do you have any advice?
brianna
August 5, 2013 at 5:54 am
oh girl , im going through the same exact thing you are. its been about 3 weeks, everyone tells me he’s downgraded and that he will come back to me. but ive tried getting him back, and he kept pushing me away. we were together 2 & a half years. maybe he wanted something new :c
admin
August 5, 2013 at 3:47 am
Well, try the NC rule. I bet that you didn’t do that before.
SAm
August 5, 2013 at 1:19 am
Hey my name is sam. Do you think he moved on or should i try again? in 2 days its going to be a month we broke up
My ex boyfriend and I are friends, it’s gonna be a month we broke up in a few days, he was really nice to me as friends we even thought about getting back together but i ruined it by fighting about things and i started a conversation and told him i accepted the break up and his choice of being friends is right, even though i have feelings for him. He jokes around like sam? would you like a kiss? from hersheys? i went to the library and i went to his house after to met his cat his cat wasn’t home and i was standing in front of the steps the whole he just opened the door and talked to me he didnt even come down the stairs i was mad at that so i didn’t talk to him that night like around 4am he asked when was the next time i’m going over to the library if i wanted to hang out with him afterwards…because maybe he thought it was weird for ex’s to hangout because last time we hung out after the break up we kissed…And we were going to get back together and i started a fight so we never got back together. so around 1:30 pm that afternoon i replied i told him the dates i was going over to the library and we could hangout afterwards he didn’t reply on that topic but he replied about like 10:30 at night he was like why what happened why don’t you talk to me anymore when i was the one that sent the last message. but for the last two days for the first time he started to curse while talking to me he never cursed when we talked. It was like 4 at night and i was hungry so i went to get food, and didnt reply him he said “well ok fu*k you for leaving, gd night” he usually playfully says fak you not the real thing and then we were talking and i sent an emocon, emoji whatever you call it, and he said “WTF is a emoji?” he never ever said wtf to me before. and then he says I skated with a new girl today she even plays x-box i have never in my life seen that before. i told him how i am learning to skate and i play x-box also and he just said no she is a good skater and really good on x-box too. i asked him “do you like her?” he said she is cool then the next sentence was but older.. i remember when we were dating and his mom asked him if he likes me he said she’s cool. he only says “that person is cool” when he likes them, or else he says “they’re alright” he was saying how they got split up in two different trains cause they were with friends, and he met another girl who is in the same school as him next year cause he graduated. i said oh you found someone and he says yeah. i was joking saying child and things and Then he started saying how i am too young, im a child a little kid (im 2 years younger than him) i just said ok and he didnt reply after that. He really isn’t good looking, he’s really chubby, looks really weird, im not being rude or anything, hey i loved him once, i still have feelings for him the thing is that he is really funny and i guess i like talking to him.
I’m not asking how to get him back or anything just that..
1) Do you guys think he moved on?
2) Do you think if he moved on the other skater girl will like him.. He isn’t good looking but really funny
admin
August 5, 2013 at 3:45 am
I think it is more likely that the skater girl will dump him.
admin
August 5, 2013 at 3:44 am
Have you tried a NC rule?
Angi
August 4, 2013 at 1:56 pm
He broke up with me in Oct. we work together. he has been round mine on and off ever since. He tells me we never will get back together again and has no Feelings for me. He last came round mine tuesday last week. a week after he tells me saturday he met someone new. the 2 weeks before he told me this it was going great, we were texing more again and there wa a nice positive vibe going between us. I didn’t react to his News so he ended up saying things about it a further 2 times. in 1 text he said: you called me hero and superman, I am not a child but a ordinary grown man and now I found someone who treats me like that.It also turnes out he is upset because I told a co-worker he still Comes to see me. but this is something I said back in April(I know it was wrong).but why bring it up now? Of course I apologized as soon as he text me this but haven’t heard from him since. A day later I sent (best of relationship )text, as it might have been a bit full on, in the evening I texted something neutral and nothing to do with us to lighten the Situation and Show him that I am being positive. I have been doin NC since 1st August. What is the best way to turn this around?
admin
August 5, 2013 at 3:26 am
Keep doing NC. You are really early in the process.
What do you plan on doing during NC to evolve?
Angi
August 5, 2013 at 3:55 am
I have done NC twice already but this is the 1st he has a new love interest. So a bit more nervous now. I like to read and trying to lean to paint
admin
August 6, 2013 at 2:44 am
How about any physical changes?
Rachel
August 4, 2013 at 6:02 am
Hi,
He broke up with me in dec last year. We had fights coz of one girlin office. I tried the o contact rule. he came back this june and told he wants to work things out and get back. but that lasted only for a month. ow he doesn call or msg or meet. I have that girls no so i found out they were talking and when i called he told he was talking to his sis/frens. How do i know if he is seeing this girl. We were supposed to get married this year. Please help. How do i get him back if i dont meet him. Im back to no contact now.pls help me….
admin
August 4, 2013 at 11:58 pm
You don’t know if he is dating someone new? Can’t you check on Facebook?
Rachel
August 5, 2013 at 12:28 pm
o no…m out of facebook…and he really isnt the facebook kinda guy…
Rachel
August 9, 2013 at 12:35 pm
Hi Chris,
You never replied. How do i find out if he is dating this girl. Ad wil I ever get him back,,,is there any other way beside NCR? We were in a relationship for 7 years..is it possible for a guy just to forget everything just like that..fall out of love…a not think or miss a girl he was with for 7 years….I just want to know if he will ever come back or m i just waiting in vain…please helpme Chris…
admin
August 10, 2013 at 2:59 am
Hi Rachel,
I am sorry for not replying. Your message maybe got lost in the fray somehow.
So, I think the NCR is the best option honestly. What is your other alternative? Beg for him?
I also, wrote a new post that I think you will really resonate with: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-complete-guide-to-understanding-your-boyfriend/
Lolah
August 2, 2013 at 2:18 am
Should I ask my ex boyfriend if he is seeing somebody? He broke up with me, and was with somebody else right after but he is still calling me and texting, we even slept together…help!! what should i do? I do not want to be the side chick.
admin
August 2, 2013 at 2:33 am
No you shouldn’t b/c that proves you are desperately wanting him back.
Joy
August 1, 2013 at 9:26 pm
Dear Admin 🙂
My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago, there wasn’t any specific big issue but very small problems that led us to break up. I became paranoid bcz of a girl i thought he liked and she was very annoying, she wouldnt stop texting and leaving comments on facebook. after we broke up He accused me of stealing his passwords (gmail, instagram..) well, i did, but i denied, he became very upset and i think that made me ruin everything. he used to text me everyday after we broke up,see each other but ever since he found out about this password thing, no more texts and calls. I tried to fix it by calling him and inviting him to a couple of parties but he did not show up.
I’m in the NC period, 2nd week. It’s very hard and painful… I just found out that he’s going out with this girl, i saw her pictures, she’s very beautiful and attractive.. it feels like a knife just stabbed me 🙁
when we used to go out after we broke up, he would become very weak and treat me as if i was still his girlfriend, when i ask him why are you doing this and let’s get back together, he would say no, not in the meantime… how come he can’t have a girlfriend and he just started seeing someone? 🙁
I’m very upset, sad, and i really miss him so much..
will we ever be back together again?
Please help,
Joy.
admin
August 2, 2013 at 2:31 am
Ok Joy,
Take a deep breath everything is ok. I want you to read these two articles:
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-know-if-your-ex-boyfriend-is-in-a-rebound-relationship-how-long-will-it-last/
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/warning-signs-that-your-ex-boyfriend-wants-you-back/
brenda
August 1, 2013 at 5:09 am
I need a lot of advice can ya text me o something xxxxxxxxx
admin
August 1, 2013 at 5:48 am
Hi Brenda,
I am not comfortable texting with my personal numbers I tried that once before and I don’t think i could do it again for Free at least. Besides, I blocked out your number b/c it’s not smart to post it on the internet.
You can email me via the contact form for additional advice though as I am happy to help.
Maya
August 1, 2013 at 4:00 am
Such a great page! Okay, so I am only 4th say of no contact rule…I been dating this guy for nearly 3 months ( long distance , he is a soldier ). During this time I have to say I messed a lot things up cause in the end I was showing wayy to much of caring , now I started to understand a lot of things I am willing to change. etc ( he is deployed since 22sec of july to afghanistan for 3 months ) been talking abt visiting me after he comes back on his leave. This monday i asked him abt a girl that left him a comment on fb and he admitted he met someone he cares about and met a couple of weeks ago ( honestly, I think he just knew her for a couple of days, i saw he just added her to fb page, I know he is fast with emotions, its been the same way with me ). But I figured smth was going on before, I been a little bit needy and pushy and i know its not attractive at all. Sunday i told him i am looking forward to see him he said he too. But yea when I asked him abt that girl he seemed to be serious with it…..also, i had allready prepared a cqre package to send him, he doesnt have an adress yet but when he will he will give me and i am sure he will continue talking to me….and here my strategy is i am not gona respond him at all during these 30 days, I am gona change my appearance ( change of hair colour, lose weight which i already lost 15 pounds ) he knows I am very attractive and guys look at me walking down the street, i will want to post fb pictures during these 30 days…sounds like a good plan? Any tips? Could it possibly work? While we were spending time together we had fun, also I know he thinks I am pretty good in bed ( thats just a bonus to keep him remember I think. Thanks for your response 😉
Maya
August 1, 2013 at 1:16 pm
Yes I did read, its awesome! still have to wait 😉 its been just 4 days now, wns the problem at my case is that my first msg will be thu facebook chat cuz he is overseas, still should be working?
Oh and once I asked w very interesting question on forum and it made ppl wonder. So on fb when u write to someone u can see if the msg was “seen” or not, so my question is, if he possibly contacts me first, should I leave it as seen? (To read it ) or not….lol he will prob write me some nothing text like hey or what r u doing, he was always starting conversations like this 😉
admin
August 2, 2013 at 2:10 am
I think you can do whatever you want as long as you don’t break NC and respond to him.
Facebook should work.
Maya
August 1, 2013 at 2:05 pm
Oh and as i thought he wrote me today on fb, simply “hi” i feel kinda happy by not responding it!
admin
August 1, 2013 at 7:07 pm
Power rocks!
admin
August 1, 2013 at 5:45 am
Hahaha I like your attitude. You are confident and I like that in a woman.
Have you read my detailed guide on Facebook? I think you can get some good ideas on how to buff up your Facebook.
Ashlee
July 31, 2013 at 8:08 pm
Thanks this helped a lot and now my ex and I are happily married! (:
admin
August 1, 2013 at 5:25 am
NO WAY!
Can I use you as a testimonial in a success section?
naina
July 29, 2013 at 9:06 am
i told u d whole thing in order to mk u understnd d complete relation and circumstances.he was a loving ,caring and emotional guy and use to love me like crazy over a year initially but over a few fights he said he dnt wnt to be in a relation any more as we r completely contrasting personalities.. .As i cant afford to loose him, i cried ,begged but was of no use.,We r still friends..talk over phone ,meet sometimes but that spark is absolutely missing,Also i realised i cnt hold myself back lovin him n cant stay as frnd.i love him like crazy but when i show it to him he starts getting rude saying he just wannna b friends now.he knows he wont get a girl like me in any aspcet be it money ,looks or class..m way better than him..we are in long distance relationship as he is in merchant navy and meet for few days after 2 months or so..no girl involvement scene.yesterday he has gone back to ship and i m missing him terribly. now when im d kind of girl he wants to be he does not feel for me the same..Is there any possibility that he could come back to me d same wa??i have already done so much.i sometimes feel he still cares for me,he is a pisces and i m libran,,dnt know what should i further do?? do he still feel for me??n is there any chance he would call me from ship? i m dying to talk to him..i want him to miss me terribly for the time being he is on ship as and rushing back to me when he would be back.He dnt wna loose me as frnd but nt ready to take as gf . pls help.
admin
July 30, 2013 at 1:39 am
I already talked to you on Facebook hahahaha!
I KNOW WHO YOU ARE!
naina
July 30, 2013 at 3:26 am
yess…;)
beverly rodrigues
July 28, 2013 at 5:23 pm
Hi I’m was in a relationship with my guy for two years and I really live him slot I never wanted to leave him and I wanted him as my life my husband forever but a day came where I found that he’s cheating on me and going on with another girl I was really hurt tl hear that… I love him so much that I can forgive him accept him back baby please come back I need you so desperately.. please help! What should I do?
admin
July 29, 2013 at 3:40 am
Have you read the advice on this site? I lay out everything here: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back-if-he-cheated-on-you/
shonisani
July 28, 2013 at 2:49 pm
My ex n I broke up last month we whr 2geda 4 2yrs, I broke up with him bcos he ws ignoring me nd I thnk he was also cheating… After a week I tried to tok to him so dat we can fix thngs n he tld me he wasn’t interestd anymre so diz wik he text me asking him to buy hm lunch nd bring him to his room, aftr an hour he said sum1 was cumin n I shuld leave I tld him dat I wantd to mit hiz gf bt he said NO . I tld him I won’t bother him again (calling,texing,toking to him) he’s respond was” arg u shuld move on bt I care abt u nd if u nid help with anythng I,l help u nd if I nid help I expect u to do da same: I was lyk, WTF… Du u thnk I stand a chance to gt him bk? I love him with al my heart n soul
admin
July 29, 2013 at 3:29 am
Hahaha you must have typed this comment with a phone am I right?
Umm… I think you have as good a chance as everyone. Go For IT!
naina
July 28, 2013 at 12:59 pm
hi chris,
firstly ..i really appreciate ur human soul who still care to feel about people”s emotions,soo selflessly..seriously from core of my heart. Its just that i accidentally fall into ur page yesterday afternoon and in love with it and almost read 6- 7 posts as i m badly shattered.here it goes…
I am a libran girl and met this pisces man in last feb who is in offshore merchant navy.it happen to met him through facebook and then when we met the first day, he was totally driven away by my beauty and fallen for me. i was by then a very stone hearted ,rude,stubborn,carefree girl probably because of my bad past relation experience.i already had locked that door to my heart n never wanted to be in relation again.but i dont know gradually with his love,his so loving words and care subconsiciously started weaken me again.n he use to like every bit of me.and how much i started loving him ,this i realized when he went back to ship again after a month with me.to be honest i already had been intimate with him by that time but never knew that i started missing him so much as there is hardly any connection possible when he is on ship.He sparked that extinguish flame of love in me i realized.anyways we got in a relation by that time.we were two contrasting people but still and sometimes i use to panic coz of long distance r/ship and coz of very little communication.sometimes we use to fight and then things got alright.we use to see each other for few days after 2 or 3 months .i m a very impatient girlbut i compromised wheresoever i can.it happened almost for a year until one day when after a year he was about to come back for good 4 months as his contract was about to get over.since he could not come directly to the city we both reside,he sent me d tickets for the place he had to stay for a month.i sometimes use to feel he had a great complex from me n is jealous f me sometimes as i was sound in all aspects be it looks, status or whatever.i still use to keep overlooking his this thing thinking that his love is what matters most to me.when i went to see him.i agree things really dint go pretty well between us and though it was a 5 day trip including his brday..we stayed together but there has to had a fight on small things.he on his brday told me that he want to break up. though i use to say it sometimes but he always knew its merely a words when i m saying that.but by god grace on his brday night he said i l give u a chance ..i had cried for soo long before that in d same room but he seems to be completely unaffected.I was not always my mistake.but still i use to apologize just to be with him as shortage of time was one thing always on my mind.and when i came back from there thinking that everything is fine now..and which was,,after two or three days he asked me if he should get his butt job done and i said i dont know because i told him people in my community are well built so i never got a chance to knw about such things.and thats the fact.he got so offended and nxt day he called me up in the night saying that he had it enough n now he finally want to break up.i was shattered …coz it was d time he was so adamant on his decision.again i had a ray of hope that i would sort out the things when he will be back in town n thereby said nothing and hang up the phone without any arguement.and when he was back i went to see him all the way from other city to our city as i am in hostel out of the town ..to sort out the things..but ..damnn he was so adamant this time and told me that we are poles apart n it does not give him piece of mind to be with me. what a weird excuse! which he dint realised over an year when i was stubborn and realized when i was so much changed already for our love in last few months..wtf..wat a stupid reason.. i cried like hell and asked him to give our relation a shot again but he was just not ready in any case.. i strongly felt that he was commitment phobic but alon that felt he loves me too..anyways after so much of tears and all to,.he was like we could be frien ds..we broke up in this march.since i was not ready to loose all the contact with him…i got ready to be his friend again..thinking that i would overcome it or he will melt off..BUT..things starts gets worsen up..i have realized that i could not take him as friend ..i still use to call him and if i ask him now like where are u or whom u talking to he says what i m suppose to do with that..i sometimes specially came up to see him in the town but he really treated me unwell.but later on he at least stopped mistreating but yes till this time .he is rude if sometimes i ask him something or ask him to meet.he was d one who use to beg me to meet and now vice versa…i can”t take it.yes we been to a hill station for 2 days and he treated me well n when we came back d same thing happened.i heard pisces are very moody so again trying to cope up with it..iand when i ignore him a little.i feel he gets back lil on the track,,, i m feeling so frustrated.we still meet but that love do not get off my mind.and when he senses that he start reacting weird.he does not talk to me for long on phone any more.very little conversation.i tried to dive in my creative side,,,changed so much for him in order to connect wd him n he knows that but dont know what does he want.i sometimes still feel he somewhere loves me.. donot know why..he use to be really possessive ,caring,loving.. n i badly miss all of that i at any cost want him back.also to tell u…he left for the ship again today for two months and only i know how i m feeling today..feeling totally broken..today i m regreting that i should had poured my heart all ove again and should have asked him once again n should have tried my level best to agree him so that i should not have regret it 🙁 :'(.but in d fear of loosing him completely even as a friend.. i did not said it again.. thinking that he would realize it now when he is going back to ship now i want to melt off his heart with my love.i dont know if that i iwas or i m right …After all who on this earth wont want a girl who loves him like anything.yes ,,he met me two days before spending two hours.and my eyes were teary all d time and when yestrday again i asked him to meet he refused saying that he cant see tears n all stupid things,,,n dint meet me..he use to be the one who calls like crazy before he leaves and today its me who called him and yet he kept the words short..he keeps on telling me that i m d most caring n loving grl he had n will ever met and his frnd says that too..and now when i m a more mature person.he is altogether different.i never cheated him as unlike his past relations so loyal n deserving.though he did soo much to me i still love him like crazzy some were his mistakes..some were mine…today”s night he has his flight for ship n ask him my heart is sinking…while writing it to u…i called him him a while ago to ask if he reached his connecting flight place safely or not but he dint answer..i hope i could make u see n feel a part of my feelings now or may be not..chris.my friend,,, i actually love him and want to see him rushing back to me after two months…n only u can help me. i m very depressed so actually looking forward for some good or may be out of the league ways to get him back..we still talk sometimes meet but i want him to be d same again..d only souce of contact when he is on ship is facebook..being pisces he is very sensitive.i no, dont want to play any wrong card.n i dont want how to handle the things further.i m broken n shatterd.feeling completely hollow widout him.cant concntrate on any other thing.be it family or work or watever..no matter how hard i try.:(i strongly need ur help to get him back to me.longing for me..whe he feels he sometimes shower some drops of love and sometimes like fish completely hide himself..i m so sooo shattered chris.pls help me..looking for ur answer.
admin
July 29, 2013 at 3:20 am
Hi There,
I am happy to answer any questions you have as long as they are super specific. General questions like “how can I get him back?” won’t be as effective. My brain is yours. Ask whatever you want as long as it is specific.
jessica
July 28, 2013 at 10:18 am
Hi my ex and I were together for almost two years we broke up in February and have been still talking to eachother and having se$….after we broke up I found out that he was talking to another girl I was devastated.but I still couldn’t seem to let go of him…so he started talking to both of us….he told me he still loved and cared about me but he liked her at the same time it broke my heart….so I recently stopped talking to him for 2weeks and the same day I decided to pick up the phone when he called I found out that I was pregnant…he came over the next day…we talked about everything I cried he wiped my tears away. I told him that I couldn’t do this with him anymore bc it hurt to much and he said he was sorry for putting me through this…that nxt day I found out that be took the girl that he was talking to to Florida for a few days….when I found out all I saw was RED!!!! How could he do this to me after all the things we had talked about the night before….I feel stupid bc I still love him and want to be with him very much is it too late for me to save my relationship???? We’re going to be having a baby soon…I don’t want to be single and alone…I want to be a family an for him to be there for me throughout my pregnancy. I have never loved anyone the way that I love him…help me plz.
admin
July 29, 2013 at 3:13 am
Hi Jessica,
I am really sorry this happened to you. I truly am!
I think this article may be helpful for you: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/get-your-boyfriend-back-if-you-have-a-child-together/
jessica
July 29, 2013 at 12:44 pm
I loved your article. But I’m only 5 weeks can I still go nc or should I stick to the link you gave me
admin
July 30, 2013 at 1:39 am
I think you can still go NC! For sure!
jessica
July 30, 2013 at 3:40 am
Maybe you’re right…but wouldn’t me going nc push him into her arms since I’m gonna be ignoring him??? How long am I going nc anyway?
admin
July 30, 2013 at 5:48 pm
The NC period is supposed to last 30 days.
And actually by you contacting him you would be pushing him to her arms even more.
jessica
July 30, 2013 at 1:59 am
I’ve considered having spiritual work done…i’ve never even thought about taking it this far with anyone…I really do love this man…should I consider getting help(spiritual) or just do nc…do you believe in spell, magic etc.??? Do you think he’ll come back??
admin
July 30, 2013 at 2:28 am
LMAO you would be wasting your money. Spells hahahaha do the NC rule.