Using Social Media To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

378 thoughts on “EBR 024: Using Social Media To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

Alp

August 4, 2020 at 8:56 am

I blocked my ex on Instagram. After 30 days nc can I follow them back or must I do more nc before? How do I get them to follow me if I blocked them

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 4, 2020 at 9:12 pm

Hi Alp, ideally we say not to block your ex if you want them back. You need them to be able to see what you are doing on social media as a window to how well you are doing since the break up

Pille

July 13, 2020 at 9:27 pm

My ex has checked my stories on Instagram. I haven’t posted anything on Facebook though. He never likes anything, so he probably won’t do it anyways. I figured my best bet of knowing that he looks is stories.
Should I do more though? What does it mean that he does look at my stories?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

July 14, 2020 at 4:35 pm

Hey Pille, dont over do the social media, you need it to appear natural for you and your activity

Rachel

June 25, 2020 at 6:47 am

I put a picture up of a sunset I went to see with my bro and sister in law, included a selfie with my bro. It clearly says in the description I’m with my brother and sister but could this come across the wrong way like I’m trying to make him him jealous?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 27, 2020 at 8:47 pm

Hey Rachel, if he knows who your brother is, then no it is not going to make him jealous

A

June 9, 2020 at 6:26 pm

i have blocked my ex in all social media so what should i do right nw

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 9, 2020 at 10:04 pm

If you want your ex back then you need to unblock your ex. This way they can see you getting on with your life without them in it. Work on your Holy Trinity and stick with your No Contact for at least 30 days

unkown

June 9, 2020 at 6:23 pm

iam blocked my ex so should i unblock him after no contact rule or should i unblock him now

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 9, 2020 at 10:07 pm

If you are wanting to get them back then yes unblock them and continue with your No Contact

Anonymity

June 9, 2020 at 7:58 am

My ex boyfriend broke up with me 3 days after our 25th monthsary (March 24, 2020) he fell out of love. He always say “luv u” to me because he loves me as a friend. But do friends keep on saying “luv u” to each other?? Idk?? Then recently, I stopped talking to him. I said to him that I’m tired and I’m done. But he still do watch my Instagram stories. After the break up, he deleted our pictures together. I don’t know, there’s this still feeling of hope that he and I will get back together. I don’t know what to do
Anonymous

May 24, 2020 at 4:28 pm

I broke up with mine 3 months ago and about a week ago he started to like all of my pics on social media and comment below them with emojis. I ignored this at first and now I’m not sure if I did the right thing but I want him to directly message me, and to do so I’m trying to get his attention by posting positive profile pictures on social media and etc, but don’t know what else I should be doing.
Jo

May 21, 2020 at 12:14 am

About 5days after breaking up with me he messaged saying sorry, hope you are okay.
I didn’t reply and have remained no contact.

About 2weeks in I posted on Instagram, just an arty portrait. He hasn’t liked it. Is that positive? Or does he dislike me or think I dislike him because I didn’t respond? Maybe he’s giving space so I don’t get any hopes up?
I noticed he has been actively liking this girl’s photos that are pretty sexy..(even when we were together, they have met maybe a few times) but he has hardly liked any of his best mates or none our mutual friends photos.. Can’t help but feel a tad hurt. Thoughts?
Ugh such a shame 🙁

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 1, 2020 at 10:49 am

Hi Jo I wouldnt focus on the things that he is liking or disliking on social media. For now keep with your No Contact and Holy Trinity and then from there you need to prepare your first reach out text.

Anonymous

April 21, 2020 at 9:11 pm

Hi, does watching his snapchat stories count as breaking no contact even though your not contacting him directly and vice versa?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 21, 2020 at 10:56 pm

Hey, ideally we would suggest not to watch stories as they can see you are still viewing them

Carly

April 17, 2020 at 5:28 am

Hi EBR Team,

I have broke up with my boyfriend after a 5 month relationship with him. In the beginning of the relationship everything was awesome. He always wanted attention from me, we had a blast together until our honey moon stage died and he started to distance himself away from me. We started to only hang out with friends and our conversations became like a routine. As I confronted him, he told me if we lost sparks that we could be great friends because he loves me too much not to let me go. As the quarantine came, he lost his job and he turned to gaming. I tried to give him space and only talk to him in the morning or before I sleep. As I tried to reach out to him to spend sometime together, he felt annoyed. Then we got into an argument and I felt we distanced so much that maybe being friends is a better idea. I had indirectly broken up with him and he just agreed to be friends.

I did not know about the No Contact Rule so I contacted him 5 days after we broke up to ask him back. Of course, he told me no because he was still angry. I read all the other articles here after (sadly) , and I feed him all 3 expectations he had of me. So I didn’t contact him again to do another No Contact Rule but he started using social media in a way he didn’t before. He would post an IG and FB story with words that seems like it’s targeted to me or his situation which he never had before in our 5 month relationship. He always only posted food, which he still did after the break-up.

I felt that I had made his quarantine worse so I didn’t post anything on my social media because I am scared he will be hurt, seeing posts about me. However, is this the right approach? Should I post like I regularly do during the No Contact period?

I don’t want to make another mistake and EBR articles has been making a lot of sense to me but I broke my first No Contact situation, so I am uncertain what to do except focus on myself during second try and period.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 21, 2020 at 10:51 pm

Hi Carly, I would suggest that you post positive things to your social media as this is a window into how you are feeling and doing in your life with out your ex and you need him to think you are doing better than he is. Yes complete a NC for 30 days still, but make sure your social media remains somewhat the same as usual giving that you do not post a lot of selfies etc. Then reach out to your ex after 30 days with a text that Chris suggests

Zelka

April 13, 2020 at 11:09 pm

If your ex sends you snapchats directly during NC should you open them?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 14, 2020 at 8:33 am

Hi Zelka, I would leave them while in NC if you can

Amy

March 28, 2020 at 3:12 pm

Hi there,

I deliberately did not unfriend my ex boyfriend. This is because we always promised to be respectful, kind and understanding of one another. He broke up with me because he claimed to be going through some things and ‘wasn’t ready’ for anything right now. I did not beg or put up a fight, i just wished him well and left him to it.

Before me and my ex got together, and during our relationship, he was my number 1 fan on instagram. It was actually through the liking and commenting that I realised he liked me.
So when we broke up, and neither of us removed each other, it was hard to not notice that he stopped liking ANY of my posts.
Whilst its understandable that exes do not like each others post, I cant help but think at the same time, if we are civil, why doesn’t he like my posts? if we are civil is it such a big deal? I get that he wont like ALLL of my posts, but even just simple scenery ones? It sounds silly, but it is very noticeable that he does not like anything of mine anymore when he used to be a serial liker of my things.

However… that being said. I did carry out a test one day. I posted a movie quote about missing someone. It was a happy-ish but also sad-ish quote. But my scape goat on my caption was that I liked the movie – thats all.
He liked this quote straight away – I was shocked. I did not message him though, nor did he with me.

We’ve been broken up about 3 months, and ive noticed his social media activity has declined further and further.

I am almost convinced that I have portrayed myself as moving on ”too” well. Like although I have posted the odd quote here and there, I have genuinely carried on with my life and posted as normal. Me with my friends, scenic trips away, and I have been nothing but myself really.
I almost get the sense that hes kind of mad that I haven’t shown any sadness.

BUT…. that being said. Ive got no idea.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 30, 2020 at 11:04 pm

Hi Amy it sounds like you worked the Holy Trinity well, but we do also suggest that you try to reach out to your ex after 30 days of No Contact, so I would suggest that you start looking at the texting information that Chris has produced to help you break the ice with your ex, remember the most important thing is that you end the conversation first.

Kiki

March 16, 2020 at 4:05 am

So he was originally posting things right after I’d post making me think he was watching my profile so I didn’t like any of his posts since I’m trying no contact. Even though he watched my Snapchat stories he doesn’t “like” my Instagram posts… do you think this is a bad sign or simply that he didn’t like mine because I’m not giving in and liking his??

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 17, 2020 at 11:02 pm

Hi Kiki I would say that he is watching what you are doing, keep to your No Contact and make sure you do not watch what he is doing on social media!

Sierra

March 3, 2020 at 6:26 pm

Hello, your website has been really helpful for the past couple days to me. My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me not even a week ago and it was very sudden. We have been fighting more than normal lately but things like this have happened before and we usually get out of the rough patch soon after it starts. His reasoning wa s because of the fighting (my clingyness played a part). Since the day we broke up (approximately 4 days ago) I posted a story showing me drinking margaritas with friends on my snapchat and he watched it immediately. We did not delete each other off of social media but he did end up deleting or archiving most the pictures of us off his Instagram (besides pictures that included us and his friends). He ended up posting a picture of him and his friends within 30 minutes of him seeing my Snapchat story…. a picture that I took of them about a month back. I haven’t liked it because I’ve been trying to give him space but I could use any advice on how to go about what’s going on on social media now and how to get him back because I know in my heart that it wasn’t our time to just give up on 3 whole years. Thank you for your time!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 7, 2020 at 8:00 pm

Hi Sierra, so the social media he is just mirroring you which shows that he is watching you, just dont focus on that as its not going to help you through the process. To get him him back you need to complete No Contact and work on yourself so when you reach out you’re happier and more confident version of yourself now.

Kylie

February 20, 2020 at 8:03 am

Hi, i was in a no contact rule for like 2 weeks. During those times, he always post sad songs about relationship. When I posted something that I went on a hike (it was just me on the pictures I did not include my friend no one knows who i was with) he posted on twitter “If I could go back I’ll do it all over with you again” after few days he deactivated his FB account. I checked his twitter and saw bunch of tweets about him being sad. So I messaged him. “I saw your tweets. How are you?” He didnt reply but after that, he started posting positive posts and reactivated his FB account. I dont know whats going on with his mind. Help!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 20, 2020 at 10:47 pm

Hi Kylie so you now have to re start your no contact and the reason he was doing that was showing how he was struggling with the break up and he now knows you are watching his posts he is going to make out like he is fine. At the end of 30 days no contact you need to reach out but with a text that Chris suggests not a “How are you?” Text

Meli

January 13, 2020 at 4:59 am

Hi, I broke up with my bf 2 months ago, we hv been together for 1,6 years. I love salsa & bachata dancing (not a professional dancer, just for hobby) before we were together. He doesn’t like me dancing with another guy so I stop dancing (salsa & bachata are a couple dance, involving close body contact).
Now that we aren’t together anymore, I go back to my old hobby, dancing.
Last night, I danced with a guy and had video of us dancing together. Now Im thinking to post it in IG, is that okay? I mean, I want my ex back, will that hurt the chance for me getting him back?
I mean, I remember you mentioned that we have to show them that we are living our lives happily by doing our hobby, hang out with friends, travelling, etc.
Now I go back doing my old hobby but this hobby is a couple dance.. I had fun when dancing, but I also want him back.
Can I post that video or not?
I don’t want to be seem like I was hooking up or something like that. It’s purely just dance.

*You can check what kind of Bachata dance is about in Youtube, to give you a better understanding, if you don’t know.
Thank you.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 18, 2020 at 4:19 am

Hey Meli, so yes you can post this! and honestly you shouldnt have stopped your hobby for him either, it is not something that would be classed as cheating so dont stop if you do get your ex back, if anything its a little worry for him that you are close to anther man.

KD

December 22, 2019 at 7:52 am

Hello coach
My ex dumped me for someone else on 3rd December 2019.The reason was that he got feelings for his girl bestfriend. I knew that they were best friends but I got insecure as it looked like it’s more than friendship. I told him twice or thrice that I feel insecure. The girl bestfriend had feelings for him and she had confessed them to him but he didn’t tell me (I found that out).He told me he rejected her as he liked me .
He was happy with me he said to me that he loved me lot , we were having a great time but then he did this. He prioritised her most of the times over me. They are dating now .We are classmates unfortunately I have to see them everyday. He looks happy with her they both are always together .He doesn’t seem to miss me
He doesn’t text first. He’s lowkey on social media. He doesn’t show what he feels.
How do I make him reach out and chase me?
I really love him and I’m ready to forget the past.I’m in no contact period since 3rd December.
Please help .

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 22, 2019 at 5:59 pm

Hi KD, You’re doing well sticking with no contact make sure you do not reach out until after the new year is over and keep the conversation short friendly and make sure you are the one who ends it.

Kylie

November 19, 2019 at 3:29 pm

He broke up with me…again. I didnt text him like crazy this time. I just accepted it. The last time he completely deleted me off social media and blocked me. This time he left me on. I have been posting normal as usual. He views them right away. Now hes been posting which he never does but I muted his story and I haven’t looked once. I posted a picture of my brother and I eating dinner and I guess he didnt recognize him but messaged me and said, on a date?!!!!! And I waited an hour or so to reply and said, yeah…..with my brother. And he said, oh. I never replied. Question is this, do I view his stories? Or how does that work

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 19, 2019 at 10:16 pm

If you are doing No Contact then you should not have replied to his message, and no you do not view his stories if you’re in NC and when you are in the texting phase you also need to limit the amount of times you view his stories

Kylie

November 19, 2019 at 2:37 am

What about watching his stories on snapchat? Hes never posted till now. I havent looked at a single one. But hes watching mine every time. So do we watch theirs? He broke up with me. He kept me on everything and I did post a picture of my brother and I out eating but I guess he didnt recognize him because he messaged me a week after NC and seen that photo and said, on a date?!!!!! And I waited an hour and replied, that’s my brother. He replied and said, oh. I never responded.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 19, 2019 at 8:10 pm

Hi Kylie do not watch his stories until you have completed a No Contact

mimi

November 18, 2019 at 9:38 pm

i started the no contact about two weeks ago and when I started I unfriended my ex boyfriend on Facebook and I stopped following him on Instagram but he still follows me so I’m using my stories to post me having fun with my friends and so but for about 2 or 3 days now he has stopped checking my Instagram stories does that mean that he’s jealous or upset with me that he doesn’t want me to know that he sees my stories??

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 18, 2019 at 10:56 pm

Hi Mimi, dont over think his actions at this time you should be focusing on yourself and how you can alter your life so that you become the Ungettabel girl, even though hes stopped viewing stories does not mean he isnt checking in on you so keep it up

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378 thoughts on “EBR 024: Using Social Media To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”