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242 thoughts on “What Does It Mean When My Ex Randomly Texts Me?”

  1. Cat

    January 10, 2017 at 3:04 am

    I was dating a guy long distance for about 6 months. He suddenly dumped me a little over a week ago saying he hasn’t liked me for the past month and a half. I was devastated. I’ve been doing NC for the last week. Every Monday he used to send me a song of the week. He didn’t last week and I didn’t expect him to since he dumped me and I’ve been heartbroken and upset with him. And then today after not hearing anything for a week he just sent me the name of the song and the artist and nothing else. He didn’t even ask how I was doing. I’ve been doing things to improve myself and I do really miss him and still like him. What should I do and what does it mean that he texted me that?

    1. Cat

      January 12, 2017 at 10:56 pm

      Ok thanks! Also I got a Snapchat message from him last night. I’m curious what he said but I also don’t want to open it because then he will see that I saw it. Any suggestions on what I should do. It’s been 2 weeks since we broke up and he said he was going to delete Snapchat for a while since he used it against me. But he’s already downloaded it again. He views my stories but I am working hard to not view his.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 13, 2017 at 12:09 pm

      Nothing.. You just ignore it and continue being active in posting. I know it’s easier said than done but that’s the better approach than waste your efforts in the past days.

    3. Cat

      January 12, 2017 at 2:57 am

      Ok thanks! I’m trying really hard to stick with no contact. When he broke up with me 2 weeks ago he said he was deleting his Snapchat since he used it against me. But I saw this weekend that he redownloaded it and has been posting stories. I am working to not look at them because then he would see that I viewed it. I can see that he has viewed my stories. I also got a Snapchat message from him tonight. But I don’t know what it says because if I open it he will see that I saw it. What should I do? It is only 8 days into no contact for me.

    4. Cat

      January 10, 2017 at 10:03 pm

      So do you think it was just a test? It hurts that he just sent the song and didn’t say anything else to me to apologize or ask how I was doing. I have been working really hard at improving myself and am going to go on a vacation soon. It’s long distance and I really want him to miss me and want me back. I am trying really hard to stick with the no contact but I don’t want him to forget about me. I also wrote a letter to him a week after he broke up with me, talking about how heartbroken I felt and all the good times we had together before I found out he’d been lying to me and leading me on. Do you think this is ok to send to him after the 30 days?

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 11, 2017 at 11:17 am

      nope dont..that would be like chasing..

    6. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 10, 2017 at 9:38 pm

      Hi Cat,

      just ignore it.. he pobably did that because he’s wondering why you’re not texting. Since it was what he usually sent, its safe to do it again

  2. EBR Team Member: Amor

    January 8, 2017 at 3:57 pm

    Hi,

    do you want to try the no contact rule and start improving yourself? You would have to make your posts public, better if you can unblock him. You dont have to add him, just make it easier to see your posts

  3. EBR Team Member: Amor

    January 8, 2017 at 3:57 pm

    Hi,

    do you want to try the no contact rule and start improving yourself? You would have to make your posts public, better if you can unblock him. You dont have to add him, just make it easier to see your posts

  4. See Dee

    December 27, 2016 at 8:44 pm

    Then man in my life was just a friend, a friend of two years. He was confused, thought our friendship was enough. I had to walk away, as he would not commit. After 8 weeks of NC I get a call from him with no message. 30 min later I text and ask was that a booty call or intentional. He responds by saying butt dial. Sorry. And wished me a merry Christmas. I respond with same, and take care… just to call 30 min later and he doesn’t pick up… but sends a text back to me asking if call was intentional or butt dial. I respond with intentional, he immediately calls back. We have a great 20-30 min conversation that ends with him saying I’ll talk to you later… I say take care. What does this mean? Now my head is messed up again after 8 weeks of no contact! He’s 51 never married, no children. Was I led astray? Hoodwinked?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 29, 2016 at 4:16 pm

      Hi See dee,

      why did you ask if that was a booty call, we’re you friends with benefits before? I think he’s starting to be friendly again

  5. Confused

    December 26, 2016 at 12:38 pm

    I broke up with my boyfriend a year and a half ago after dating for 6 months. I found out he was dating other people. I stopped texting in July ’15 and in Aug. sent one text after he texted and called saying stop texting me or calling me. I didn’t hear anything til Christmas Eve and he sent a text wishing me and my family a Merry Christmas and said he was sorry he lies about dating others (our relationship was serious, he asked me to marry him). I didn’t respond. This year two days before Thanksgiving he sent a text from a different cell number asking how I was. I consider that a check-in text. Then on Christmas ’16 he sends me another text from his new number that said hello my long lost friend. He said he loved me and hoped I was having a nice Holiday with family. I haven’t broken the NC in a year and a half. I don’t plan to respond. Just curious of what you think his motives are.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 29, 2016 at 3:46 am

      Hi Confused,

      We cant assume what his motives are but if you dont plan to reconnect, it doesn’t matter anymore..

  6. Lam

    December 9, 2016 at 8:19 am

    After 3 days of NC, my bf sent me a text hoping that I am fine, understand his decision and not to be too angry with him. He said it wasn’t easy for him either and also told me a big news in his job (he is a very career focused person and used to talk about his job with me a lot). We broke up because his feeling faded a lot since we moved in. He has been struggling with our relationship, not comfortable with it anymore. We actually said that we would be friends after the break up and take it from there. But I secretly hope that he would miss me and be back with me. I feel like he is missing me with this message, but still believes that he made a right decision. Should I just continue NC in this case?

    Also, a common fd of ours that we are both close to will be in town next week and we may meet in the small group night out. Should I even go?

    Thanks! xx

    1. Lam

      December 9, 2016 at 8:22 am

      When we broke up, he said he still likes me and care for me, but he needed to have this make up so.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 12, 2016 at 7:43 pm

      Hi Lam,

      It’s natural that he will miss you, because he’s used to you being around. How long did you talk to him after the break up? If you really wanted to increase the chances of him missing you, improve yourself, make it seem like you’re starting to have your own routine now. You can attend the event, but if you can avoid it and just meet separately with your friend, better. If you are going there, just be polite and casual. If he asks why you’re ignoring him, tell him you need space to move on.

  7. Sara

    December 6, 2016 at 9:32 am

    Hello,
    I had a relationship for 3 years with my ex, and we broke up for 1 year & 4 months. He texted me 5 days ago, saying only 3 words “can we talk?”. I didn’t reply, but I want to understand why he texted me after all this time. I don’t want him back either, I don’t want to get hurt again. We used to break up a lot, but the last time was the longest. also, I can’t be friend with him, it’s not easy for me to be friend with someone I love.
    I’m confused and I can’t stop thinking about him since I saw the message.

    What should I do? should I text him back? and what should I say?

    Please help!!
    Thank you!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 10, 2016 at 11:30 am

      Hi Sara,

      if you don’t want to be friends then don’t talk to him..

  8. Suzy

    November 19, 2016 at 11:46 pm

    Hi,my ex BF left me 3 months ago; I was devastated by the breakup especially that we were talking about the getting engaged. He called me one night to tell me that he couldn’t picture himself being married for now and that he has a lot of affection for me but it wasn’t love,I freaked out and began crying and telling him that I couldn’t go on in my life without him and that I was in love with him,he told me he was sorry and that was all.
    After that I didn’t call him and went into a NC (thanks to your website) he tried to reach me 3 times but I didn’t respond during all this period, then I started posting beautiful pictures of me on facebook and he started to react.
    First he just commented on a picture of me smiling : I’m glad you seem that happy, I didn’t even liked or responded.then after two weeks he sent me a message telling me that he was thinking about me and that he hopes I’m doing fine , I took some hours and responded with a simple thank you I hope U okay too. he responded with some compliment about my whatsapp profil picture…then nothing during 3 other weeks.
    recently I posted another beautiful picture, he didn’t react for a while then one night I was online and it was late he told me : what are you doing still up aren’t you working tomorrow? I told him that I was going to sleep in a few minutes and he told me good night. the day after same situation he told me : why are you still up , he even called me like he used to call me while we were together (I had a special name) and when we were saying goodnight he used another name he used to call me to make fun about how nerdy and smart I am… and then nothing since almost a week.
    I think that I followed your advices and I’m doing good so far , but what’s the next step,how to understand what he wants and how to push him to react openly.
    PS: he lives overseas so the only way of communication is through social media and phone.

    1. Suzy

      December 4, 2016 at 10:12 pm

      I started the No Contact right after the breakup, I disappeared for at more than a month ,before starting to show my pictures on FB etc, and that’s the moment he started reacting,I never initiated a conversation, it was always him the one to start and I kept my answers short and cold,now I don’t know what to do, I’m afraid to push him away with my distant attitude.
      Yes I continued improving myself but honestly I’ve been so busy with work to perform a big change, but well I lost some weight, cut my hair etc, read tons of books.
      The big news is that he contacted me few days ago sending me a picture of his plane ticket coming home in 3 weeks for Christmas with a message : Just not to be surprised if you cross me in the street, I’m coming home soon.
      Why did he send me such a message? do you think it’s a good thing ? do you think he will ask me to see him ?what to do in this case ?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 5, 2016 at 12:26 pm

      it is a good sign, but don’t overthink. and start building rapport, that’s ok now..

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 22, 2016 at 5:25 pm

      Hi Suzy,

      wait, uhm.. It’s supposed to be a full 30 days of no contact.. And then after 30 days, you can initiate texting to build rapport..so, in your case you responded in week three right? How many weeks has it been since you first started nc? Are you still actively improving yourself? By this time, you can start slowly building rapport.. Check this one:
      EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message

  9. Therese Lopez

    October 9, 2016 at 10:55 pm

    Hi Amor,

    Its been my 40th day since the “no contact rule” I implemented on my ex last August 30. I follow your advice to make it 45 days instead of 30. As of the span of days not talking to him, I received messages from him last September 5 asking how am I doing and he noticed that something has change in me the way I talked to him the last time (Btw I beg him for us to reconcile and it was not a good idea). For update, I also received a text from him last September 30 asking how am I doing and if I do have the time he wants us to talk even for a bit. I was so tempted to make a reply but I remember doing this without finishing my no contact rule will adhere me and put me into a situation to start over again the process. I just want to ask if this is a good sign? I know Chris stated on one of his articles that it should be texts first before phone calls.

    Thank you so much

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 11, 2016 at 9:54 am

      Yup Therese! It’s a very good sign!

  10. Mia

    October 6, 2016 at 3:29 pm

    I’m very confused and I need some advice.
    My ex boyfriend and I were together for about a year. Our relationship was pretty serious. We’re in different classes. I used to be in the same grade as him, but my parents made me skip to the next grade.
    Anyways, he cheated on me with one of the most popular girls in school. Her name is Sabrina but they didn’t last that long. It might have been a rebound.
    Nowadays we don’t talk to each other, but recently he sent me a text message. It says, ‘Hi Mia, sorry to disturb you at night. I just wanna say that several players just now played soccer rough. They tackled me and I fell. Now I have a bruise on my hand and the skin is torn near my elbow, and it’s painful. Just wanna say that’. (BTW, he wrote it exactly like that. With almost proper grammar and everything.)
    I find it strange that he feels inclined to tell me about his injuries. Does he expect me to care? Is he missing the way I sympathized with him?
    I’m really confused. I think I still like him, but I want to know if he still likes me. I was never good at reading the signs… Any advice?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 9, 2016 at 12:41 pm

      Hi Mia,
      Sabrina might be more of a grass is greener case for him.. I think he’s just checking what you feel about him..if he really has an injury that is very painful, texting would be the least of the things you would do

  11. ryan

    October 4, 2016 at 6:40 am

    Hey my boyfriend broke up with me (gay relationship) because i was texting sometimes to guys but I told em i have a boyfriend now so please do not contact me. But my boyfriend said i had intension to hook up with them so he decided to brake up. When he moved to his ex boyfriend in 2 days and started to date him. My boyfriend said he still loves me and doesnt want to pick up his clothes from my apartment and i said are we breaking up and he said he does not want to answer. Hes ex living in different state so they talking to each other via facetime. 3 weeks after breaking up with me he started to like my pics, each of them right away after 1 min of posting them. Then he send me text “sorry for being rude to u i just dont want to hurt you”. Then i posted pic with my friend he texted me “i dont know why you already hanging out with other guys”.Then he contacted my roommate and said to her “i just want to say hi”. He never did that before and he prob thought what my roommate gonna tell me about that message. 2 days after he texted me “do you hate me?” But i did not respond. He still liking all my pics on instagram and he never did that when we were dating. I also know he has some money problems and his ex prob offered him money whats why he prob switched from me to him in 2 days. But almost 3 weeks later he started all these likes and messages. I dont know whats his intensions, what is he trying to do or to say, should i reply to him or just move on. Please help

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 6, 2016 at 1:01 pm

      Hi Ryan,

      yeah he’s showing signs that he misses you.. there’s only one way too know. You have to talk to him.. but take it slow.. just talk casually, let him be the one to tell you if he really wanted to work things out

  12. STGirl

    October 2, 2016 at 5:31 pm

    Hi there, I am having some serious relationship trouble and would love advice. My ex and I dated for 6 months. I had many warnings from friends not to get serious with him because he had a history of being a player. At first, I held him at arm’s length. It was fun, but I didn’t push anything and didn’t ask anything of him. Eventually though things got serious. He saw me every day, texted me every day to say how much he loved me and how lucky he was to have me, did things like fix stuff my car and things around my home. I met his entire family (grandparents and all). So eventually when he started calling me his girlfriend, I gave in.

    Things were great. Honestly never had a better boyfriend. His own sister came up to me crying one night telling me how he’d never had a better relationship and that he loved me and how happy she was he had finally found someone great. I had so many of his friends tell me how surprised they were at his behavior towards me and that they couldn’t believe the change in him. So, I believed it. I fell into the whole “he just never met someone like me before” trap. Then, during our 6th month together, he stops returning texts and phone calls as much. I can tell something is up. Every time I ask him though, he has an excuse for why he is busy and tells me he loves me. One day, he doesn’t answer my calls at all. I go to find him and he essentially breaks up with me. Doesn’t tell me why, just “I don’t know” and “I don’t know what I want right now.” I ask him if it’s someone else and he vehemently says “No!”

    So I don’t talk to him for a few days. Then, through the grapevine, I find definitive proof that he was in fact cheating on me for at least that 6th month we were together. I lose it. I spend a day calling and texting him a million times, crying, just wanting him to talk to me. He basically ignores all of it. I send him a message at the end of the day telling him he’s banned from the bar I work at. He finally responds to that, saying it’s nice to know what I really think of him. I don’t respond and go full NC.

    Four days later, he sends me an apology message. Doesn’t mention he wants to talk or get back together just an apology for the way he treated me. So I ignore it. Two days later, I’m at my bar (not working that night) and a bunch of his friends approach me. They tell me he tried to get in but was turned away at the door, so instead they went to the bar next door. Apparently he was really drunk and started being a total jerk to his friends at the other bar, so they had abandoned him to come here. There are no bad feelings between his friends and I. They tell me that while they still love him, they believe what he did to me was wrong. We all have a good time, drinking, and end up going to an after-party at my ex’s cousin’s house. I wasn’t even going to go but a girl I’ve known for two years wanted me to, so I caved.

    My ex finds out I went. It’s 2 AM that night and sends me “Thanks, you really took this to a whole new level.” He also writes a sarcastic message to his cousin thanking him for having his back. It’s almost 2 days later and I haven’t heard anything from him since. I didn’t respond to the message and am still in NC (now day 7).

    I don’t know what to do. I do still love him. I don’t know if I should have responded to his apology or tried to explain why I went to his cousin’s house. I don’t know if I should un-ban him from my bar. He is still seeing the girl he cheated on me with. She is 20 and he is 27. I am 26. She is definitely prettier than me. Even if I worked my ass off, I would never look like her. But she is also his ex and cheated on him before. She actually had a boyfriend too when he started seeing her again while he was with me. I also know that they are not exclusive and that he is sleeping with other people now in addition to her.

    Please help!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 5, 2016 at 1:11 pm

      Hi Stgirl,

      dont say that you’ll never be prettier than her.. that will just hurt your confidence.. unban from your bar, but dont inform him.. let him find out on his own.. and then focus in healing and improving yourself.. do 45 days no contact..
      and check this out too:
      EBR 060: “Dating Yourself” During No Contact With Veronica Grant

  13. Andrea

    September 29, 2016 at 12:48 am

    I broke up with my ex because he was being hot and cold. We dated on and off for a year. I think he was trying to get over his ex of 5 years that had broken up with him. Anyway, he always contacted me, always made plans with me, we really enjoyed each other’s company and were very attracted to each other. But then he would have these moments where he would either pick an argument or I wouldn’t hear from him for days at a time after having been in contact daily. I had enough and asked him what he wanted. He said “I want friendship is the intimacy too much”? I said that’s not what I was looking for and best of luck. A month later he asked me to go bowling with him and I said no thanks. Then again a month later he would contact me. I asked him to stop trying to be my friend because it was hurting me, let me move on. He wouldn’t respond and then again weeks later he would text me. This went on for a few months and each time I reiterated that I was looking for something serious he was looking for casual and I’d like him to respect my wishes and not contact me. I didn’t hear from him for 2-3 months and then he sent me this message out of the blue “Hey I saw the movie Brooklyn and it reminded me of you. You don’t have to respond to this. Just wanted to say and hope you’re doing well.” I responded a day and half later with “I love that movie, I hope you’re doing well”. And he never responded and it’s been a month. WHat is he doing? Why would he disrespect my wishes? I want a serious relationship with him and if he can’t give me one then I wish he would leave me alone. What is he doing and why?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 30, 2016 at 6:51 pm

      Hi Andrea,

      I think he’s trying to see if he could build rapport or if he could break your rule and still be friends with him.

  14. Mary

    September 22, 2016 at 5:22 pm

    I broke up with my boyfriend last week because I found out he had contacted girls on a friends nearby app asking how they were or saying “hello”. Although none of the girls had responded to him. This was a big deal for me because our families were involved and we had discussed marriage and moving to the next step soon. I gave him the chance to explain why he has that app and his response was “I’m a single guy and can talk to whoever I want!” He got very defensive. This was really hard for me to hear. So I pretty much ended it and left and got in my car. He also never apologized to me in person but texted me few hours later saying “sorry for making you upset, sorry for wasting your time, wish all the best.” This sort of apology didn’t sound very genuine to me so I just ignored it. Five days have passed by and he texts me last night, sending me a video about a drug that makes you behave psychotic and writes “is this what you used the other day” meaning the day I confronted him. Anyhow I ignored that text also and still haven’t replied. I think he is a 30 year old financially independent man who still has the brain of a 10 year old when it comes to relationships. Not sure what his motive is behind this behavior.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 23, 2016 at 3:29 pm

      Hi Mary,

      yeah, he’s consistent on being defensive.. And he doesn’t want to apologize.. How long were you together? Stick to your nc..

  15. Lyne

    September 8, 2016 at 11:15 am

    My story is that there was a guy who was harassing me to see me every day who was pursing me inviting me every single day for a date and was complaining that we didn’t see each other much then when I went for a week on a buisness trip he bought a flight ticket to go on holidays on his own and told me he wanted a break so at first I was really confused called him for explanation but got Notting then I just decided to do the NC rule but recently after exactly a month he started sending me messages from Facebook showing off pictures from his differents trips I was just short on comments and didn’t go into deep conversation with him but then few days ago he started texting me more often while he is still on vacation asking me about when I will be going on holiday the exact date so my question is I am supposed to still be in the NC period but I have broken it off by answering in a brief manner but didn’t completely ignored him so what should I do should I carry on the NC period or do I have to keep replying to him and in case he calls me again should I pick up the phone?

  16. Aimee

    September 1, 2016 at 8:20 am

    So after 3days of NC i get a message saying “So this is it…hope you have a good life and keep smiling x” please note i figured out that he is talking to someone else

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      September 1, 2016 at 2:46 pm

      let him be.. keep strong in nc.. In a way that’s good because he’s trying to get your attention.

  17. CD

    August 22, 2016 at 8:53 pm

    So, my ex ghosted me at the beginning of July. We had been dating for about a year and 1/2. At first he started being distant and then he just stopped responding to me all together. I texted twice to no reply and then I went into no contact mode. We actually had a great relationship and a not so messy breakup. Meaning I didn’t do the normal bad things ppl do after a breakup. I didn’t beg, text or call repeatedly. Although I thought about doing all of them lol. So I completed the 30 days of NC and then we started reconnecting again, talking and even flirting. So I felt like I was on the right track. But this past weekend one of my friends still has him on snapchat and she noticed he was venting on snap about a relationship not working out and mentioned he loved her. Clearly not me, but my guess was he tried to get back with an ex but realized it’s not working out. My friend told me about what she had seen on snapchat and of course I was hurt because I finally realized why he ghosted me. I honestly knew that a strong possibly but I finally had a confirmation. Even though we’ve been talking, we haven’t discussed any of the details of breakup at all. (I was under the impression I wasn’t supposed to until we actually met face to face.)He texted me yesterday and I left him on read. then he sent another message a couple of hours later and I responded with just a hey and then he sent another message but I didn’t respond and left that message on read as well. I was mad at the time and didn’t want to send any angry texts so I felt like not responding was the best choice. I was wondering what my next move should be?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 23, 2016 at 5:26 pm

      Hi Cd,

      sorry, I just had to ask. If you had a break up, when did he ghost you? before or after it? and when did you actually break up?

  18. Mind games cont.

    July 18, 2016 at 8:41 pm

    Hi again,

    Okay… This really sucks. This guy confuses me so much. I have been in no contact for 16 days and he reached out. I choose to break it because it was a really sincere message in text. No only did he say he missed me but that he felt like I was his person etc. I immidiately opened up and we were inseperable texting since. He wanted to jump on the phone and I declined. Now he has been slowly distant again and did not even reach out today. His exact words. Go live your life and be happy when two days before it was I feel like a part of me is dying without you. I’m so lost and upset and can feel myself being needy but refuse to let that happen. What do I do now? Do you think there is someone else? He is acting like I reached out to him completely. I’m so mad and upset. Should I jump back into no contact completely and do 30 days. Should I tell him I need space before since we did not have a break up talk this time around. I thought it was safe to emotionally trust him again. It’s been a year and a half. Some background… I guess I never really comitted because I always felt like he did not actually care about me and only wanted me because he could not have me fully. Please help!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 20, 2016 at 12:31 pm

      yes, restart and this time finish it..

  19. Morgan

    July 14, 2016 at 10:42 pm

    My ex says he misses me–the way that you said means something. So he insists that I hang out with him and the new girlfriend he had left me for. At their place and at mine.

    Like, he said he couldn’t come to collect his stuff at my house unless she’d come with him and help. (And I’d have to drive them both to my house and back because they don’t have a car). When I refused he accused me of being unreasonable and not wanting to “work on being friends.”

    The reason NC could not last is because me “not paying enough attention to him” is why he broke up with me. So I can’t ignore a call from him without feeling that I’m destroying our relationship all over again. Whether or not it’s rational, it gets to me.

    Any advice? Please? This mess is starting to affect other things in my life. I don’t know what to do.

    Thank you

    1. Morgan

      July 15, 2016 at 7:22 am

      P.S. After thinking about it all long and hard, I think there are three explanations to what’s going on.

      One: my ex is playing me and his new girl against each other. I want him back and she wants to keep him, so each of us is trying to make him happy. And what makes him happy is having two women that dislike each other forcing themselves to spend time together and act friendly for his sake.

      The second theory is that he loves her and honestly wants to be my friend, nothing more.

      The third theory is that she was a fling he did not want me to know about. But I found out and went a bit crazy (insecure crazy, which was a bit of a pattern, unfortunately) driving him straight into her arms. Now we both regret it but it’s hard to undo.

      In a way, all three versions are true. It’s the last one that does not let me sleep at night, though. If he was simply a heartless manipulator or in love with someone else, maybe it would be easier. (Then again, maybe not!) But if I’m the one who broke it, perhaps I can fix it.

      I’m just worried that disappearing for a month will only cause him to write me off completely and settle in with the new girlfriend. He is very big on commitment. Once he’s in a relationship, he stays till the bitter end, no matter how bad things would get. I was the only exception to that. And I don’t want to make any more mistakes.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 15, 2016 at 1:45 pm

      hmm..so you make up for your shortcomings when he’s already in a new relationship? Because somehow, that will mean that when he sees you’re paying attention now, he will want you back and leave his current gf?

      but didn’t he say that all he wants os friendship right now?

      If you want a restart.. tell him you’re happy him and her wants to be friends with you but you’re not emotionally ready yet but when you are, you’ll reach out again..

      and then massively improve yourself and your life during nc

  20. Gamer

    July 13, 2016 at 11:40 pm

    My ex and I broke up a month ago. We’d had limited contact until I stopped talking to him 14 days ago. He contacted me today in the game we both play 14 days in to no contact. He sent me a message to tell me about a change to his status in the game. Was that a test message? I didn’t respond to him. Should I keep doing no contact?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 14, 2016 at 6:47 pm

      Hi Gamer,

      yep..that’s right..don’t answer him

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