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289 thoughts on “The Things That Women Do That Can Cause Boyfriends To Lose Interest In Them”

  1. Kaya

    June 25, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    Hey, Chris!
    First of all – big thanks to you for your website and the fact that you don’t stop working on it and touch upon other relationship’related topics(i.e. how to keep a boyfriend and others).
    I was dating a guy for 3 month and that period was really good, he seemed to be really into me and he was trying to win my attention,was very open about himself, interested in me and was imaginative in where to take and how to spend time. But recently he became reserved and said that our relationship became sluggish( in a way it is true because we are students and writing our theses). At some point of our relationship he told me he loved me, but that day he said he doesn’t know how he feels about me and in other cases he would have walked away.I was upset, but he said that he would try to fight and make things between us right. But I walked home anyway, I was too upset. He ran after me but I pushed him away and said it was unnecessary. Next day I called(initially I wanted to apologise for my outburst) but he said that he is busy and I am not his priority right now.I said well, he’s not mine then,I have thesis to write.
    I wasn’t sure that this is goodbye but- finding your site I decided to apply the no contact rule.
    So the question – was NC applicable in this situation?

    I was following your advice about improving myself, at the beginning for him and I feel that NC and working on myself saved me from making all stupid mistakes you’ve listed on your site.I still have feelings for him, I like him as a person. But I am afraid he wants to get his ex girlfriend back and I am in his way. They were dating for 5 years, he wanted to marry her but she cheated on him, he was absolutely devastated.
    I sort of broke the NC(well, it’s almost the end of it)-I DIDN’T call or text him, I checked his social media activity and after his thesis he engages in every possible activity. He also befriended his ex again(maybe it’s her who tries to win him back, not sure).
    And yeah- he never called or texted or anthing during the NC.
    Then I called him after my exam – and actually there was a date. It went close to your article how to have the 1st date with an ex. He said after me he tried to date another girl but told me not to worry about her, they broke up.He actually offered to date again. But he seemed unsure – at first he offerred to stay friends then proposed to date.And said not to disappear this time.
    We haven’t had the 2nd date yet. I call him sometimes when I have something important. But I feel it makes him distant only. Is he playing games and what should I do?

    1. Chris Seiter

      July 16, 2015 at 6:23 pm

      You didn’t break NC. You can check his profile and everythign as long as you don’t communicate with him.

  2. Mac

    June 25, 2015 at 7:21 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I’d been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months. We’d known each other for two years and we decided this year we’d give each other another shot. Our relationship started off well, we spoke to each other constantly, saw each other when we could. It wasn’t until two months ago he started to lose interest. He ignored my messages, he only saw me when convenient and never seemed as invested as I was. When we saw each other in the past two months, things were great. It’s only when we’re apart he seemed fake and distant. We talked about our communication and decided that perhaps we needed to put a touch more effort into keeping in contact. Now he’s decided to end the relationship for a variety of reasons: distance, work, school, accepting his sexuality and that he only now sees me as a friend. What I don’t understand is how he suddenly lost interest, and I feel like I shouldn’t be to blame for that but I can’t help to think that that’s a possibility. Did I message too much, did I message not enough? Did he lose physical interest in me? Could he have met someone new? He says he can’t help the way he feels. But I don’t understand why they changed. Was they chase no longer worth it? Maybe I gave everything up all at once.

    Advice please,

    Mackenzie

  3. Kristen

    June 7, 2015 at 1:40 am

    A few years ago I was 2 years out of a 6 year relationship. I was still dealing with heartache but certainly was out in the dating world. I met this guy who fell pretty hard. We were having a great time but he was just too serious for me, so I broke it off. For about a year following we stayed in touch but often I found that communicating just left him heart broken. Well during this year his brother died and I felt compelled to offer my support- I tried to maintain boundries but… we both were in other relationships but it was obvious we still had feelings for one another. We never crossed a physical line during our year and a half apart. So anyway while he was mourning he traveled to Hawaii well vacation turned into living. I began to miss him … alot. I was finally ready to get seriously involved with another so I asked him to come home and give us another try. He was skeptical but with in a month he returned. We moved in together. We almost ran away and got got married but I chickened out (I’m a bit of a commitment phob). Then within the first three months I got pregnant. Our son is now 3 months. It’s been a whole year. We’re doing okay but we’ll since the conception of our son we don’t have sex- we don’t kiss anymore nothing. He knows how much I miss it. He even makes promises that he’s going to make love to me but then “falls asleep” super early. He says it’s bc his brother died but like the many other excuses I just don’t believe him. Am I being too hard on him? Should I give him more time. I life without intimacy is just not how I want to live. I miss the way we used to be so much. We were that couple that couldn’t take there hands or mouths off eachother. Now nothing. Please give me insight! What can I do to get the passion back

  4. R

    June 5, 2015 at 8:02 am

    Hi Chris,
    my boyfriend of 9 months recently broke up with me because he felt like he was trying to force an emotional connection that just wasn’t there. He said it never felt like we needed each other. As far as I’m aware, we had no other problems. He himself said he enjoyed my company and being with me made him happy, he just wanted more out of a girlfriend. We’re still good friends, I’m just struggling with the fact that I may be emotionally unavailable. I thought we were connecting and he didn’t. Do you have any advice for building an emotional connection with him now that we’re friends?

    1. Carly

      June 27, 2015 at 2:49 am

      I’d like to know this also as a similar situation happened with my ex! Where I felt really connected he thinks he didn’t?! Though he has admitted to naturally being a bad connector himself.

    2. Chris Seiter

      July 16, 2015 at 6:24 pm

      In other words, you felt connected while he didnt?

  5. M

    May 26, 2015 at 1:57 am

    Hi Chris,
    I came across this article when searching for answers to the problems in my relationship with my boyfriend. I would appreciate it so much if you could answer my questions and provide some insight into what’s happening. I will start off by saying that I am a confident, self-assured gal who really doesn’t tend to get jealous or insecure. This might help with your interpretation of the following:
    Ok, so I’ve been seeing this guy for just over a year – we had our first anniversary recently. He’s fantastic – pretty much everything I want in a man. He has a few quirks that bug me occasionally but I can overlook these as I know we all have our irritating habits, and that nobody is perfect. Trouble is, he seriously is the closest thing in my eyes. For the past year we have been extremely happy – all our friends have commented on how each of us is benefiting from being with one another. So…everything’s going fine right up until around January this year. He works at a club and consequently there are plenty of other girls there, flirty and drunk – you get the picture. He’s basically offered it on a plate. Before the following incident, I trusted him implicitly. In fact, others have picked up on the fact that I am generous, forgiving and trusting – almost to a fault. I just don’t see the point in being clingy or possessive – you shouldn’t need to be and it will only push a guy away, no matter how much he loves you. And my boyfriend adored me…at least I thought. One night at work, a drunk girl comes up to him and offers him her number after obvious flirting and hitting on him. He accepts it, and INITIATES the contact by texting her the next morning. Throughout the entire situation he deliberately neglected to tell her about me – his girlfriend of nearly a year. I know about all of this because he called me up guiltily the next morning to tell me what he had done. It hurts that his defence was ‘She was really hot…and it took me by surprise that a girl could be so forward and come marching up to me to offer me her number’. It wasn’t even like he was out drinking with his friends – he was fully sober, in control of his actions, and at work. He should have been, in theory, thinking rationally. I can’t even blame the girl in this situation because he was at fault for deliberately not mentioning me. It’s fine that he started talking to another girl – I don’t, in any way, think it’s anything to be concerned about if he has female friends. But he clearly saw this as something different – I just feel like he was trying to hook up with her. I’ll never know whether or not he did, he’s never admitted as much. It hurts me to suspect him of anything because I love him, but his actions have scared me and started making me doubt himself – when I know it cannot be me that’s pushing him away because I’m chill, easy going and although I say it myself, uncommonly attractive – all of his friends say he’s punching well above his weight with me and that he’s lucky to have me. I get a lot of attention from other men, but I NEVER flirt with them in return because I am loyal to my boyfriend. I see it as a matter of respect for your partner. Anyhow, at first I gave him the benefit of the doubt – since he never tried to hide it from me, but after he asked me to call someone in his contacts list while he was driving, I stumbled upon her number STILL ON HIS PHONE FOUR MONTHS LATER. This is after he said he had deleted all of her texts/her/everything. I was pissed. I can’t stand being played for a fool – I have too much pride and self-respect for that. I think you can see where this is going. I can’t get over this betrayal of my trust, although I know everybody deserves a second chance and though I do not have any concrete proof of his cheating. I ask myself, ‘Why would he cheat?!’ and all I can think of is that he is young (We both are) and doesn’t understand how to behave around his gf/other women. I am considering breaking up with him because this situation is just making me miserable. He might not have physically cheated, but he’s sure as hell emotionally cheated.

    Thank you so much for any advice you can give me.

    1. Chris Seiter

      June 2, 2015 at 2:35 am

      Emotional cheating often leads to physical cheating and thats based off my own experience with dealing with a lot of relationship problems…

      Use that information how you want.

  6. nj

    April 8, 2015 at 3:39 am

    I am distressed at reading about your response to the ex girlfriends parents yelling at you and the constant arguments turning you off completely. If a guy leaves a girl because of that and the girl realizes she was like that and what she did wrong does no contact even make any difference? He’s probably glad to have no contact! where is the sliver of hope??

    1. Kendra

      April 27, 2015 at 1:34 pm

      I would love to hear the answe to this because I too have the same type of question. Mine doesn’t involve the parents yelling but my ex and I fought all the time because I was too emotional. Would this NC rule just make him realize that losing me also helped him lose the extra stress I cause? Also how do I show him I am wiling to change? Or when I do change how do I demonstrate that?

  7. Candice

    March 26, 2015 at 12:38 am

    Hi. My boyfriend and I were seeing each other for 5 months before we started dating, however we might as well have been dating the whole time, we did everything couples did. Anyways we started dating, everything was perfect, he was a virgin and we ended up having sex and I basically showed him what to do, I introduced him to his first beer, and I introduced him to a lot of things, he was really unexperienced with anything. We had so much fun together, and all of our friends have never seen us so happy. Anyways eventually I moved away for school so we only seen each other on weekends and when we did see each other we were just doing homework. I moved home for two months for my internship and we were still arguing and not having as much fun because we were both stressed out and doing homework and the sex stopped. He just didnt want to do it anymore. Then I moved away again and we fought a lot, I got cheated on before so I had a lot of trust issues so I was always questioning who people were and he didnt like that, and i was still annoyed about no sex, and he paid more attention to some game on his phone then he did me. I did a lot for him, usually its the guy spoils the girl but it was opposite for us, I always surprised him with different things. I should also mention I was his first girlfriend in a long time, he chased after some girl that had a boyfriend for 3 years before me. He never once bought me flowers, he didnt like to have sex, he didnt make out, he didnt even like kissing, he didnt come up and hug me from behind, he didnt hold my hand, he only wore shorts and a tshirt, never dressed up, he never paid for me whether it was for the movies or supper, BUT although some of this bothered me I never lost feelings for him. However, he claims he started losing feelings for me in Jan and after one fight in Feb he ended it with me. Instead of being calm and backing off I begged for him for a month and it got to the point he blocked and deleted me off everything. However, after two days of blocking my number he unblocked it. He tells me he has no feelings left for me at all and basically he’s not gonna try again, he believes if they meant to be they will come back on their own.. Is it really possible for someone to lose all feelings in 2 months that they had for someone for a year?? Is there any way to get his feelings back??

  8. Briana

    March 5, 2015 at 3:17 am

    Hello my boyfriend an I broke up 2 months ago, we were in a long distance relationship, because he is taking some courses outside the country. We were in a relationship of 2 and a half years. When he left he started ignoring me, until we broke up. DISTANCE TORE US APART. He broke up with me, telling me it was to painful to be in a long distance relationship. He started contacting me once in a week after the break up, until I told him to please to stop contacting me. He hasnt text me for almost 2 weeks now. Im really worried about he moving on, and not wanting to contact me anymore, since i told him not to do it. Please help, he is coming back home in 3 months.

    1. admin

      March 7, 2015 at 5:33 pm

      Distance is tough.

      Did you read my long distance articles?

  9. Bonnie

    February 25, 2015 at 7:20 am

    Hi, not sure why I’m reading this – I am a woman in a strong 10 year relationship. My partner and I are often asked for advice. I don’t think you will ever be happy with someone you have to work to “keep interested” in you. Long term commitment is hard work, doesn’t always feel great and is a process of trust, honesty and courage. If a guy is looking for some exciting ideal – let him go… He’s not a keeper. If a guy wants you to be thinner, less emotional or more permissive of his behaviour, then it’s time to think about whether you are looking for a partner or an abusive parent. Stop searching the Internet kidding yourself that you don’t know why he left. He left because he gave up and because he lacks substance himself. I bet he thinks he can easily come back too. Get a grip on yourself, build some character and self esteem and move on.

    1. Carly

      June 27, 2015 at 2:54 am

      Where’s the “like” button 😉

    2. admin

      February 25, 2015 at 9:40 pm

      Wow Bonnie!

      High five for your strength!

  10. Hamaliya

    February 23, 2015 at 11:44 pm

    Hey,

    I just read this post and I wanted to ask a question

    Recently my boyfriend and I were out at a brewery hanging out and playing a game and these two girls come up to him and ask to play with us. Keep in mind this game is called cornhole in which you stand feets apart and try to make a hacky sac into the whole. So yeah, he says yes they can, which didn’t bother me. During the game, though, he was talking to one of the girls on his side and I see her take out her phone and he gives her his number.
    I felt as though it was extremely rude and disrespectful. I wanted to confirm what just happened before my eyes so I asked. And he said “yeah. She rides bikes and wanted to ride sometime.” I was upset because he did that. I know his intentions were not to cheat on me. I completely trust him but it is a matter of respect for me. And then he ended getting mad at me because I didn’t just let it go when he said sorry. I still had that anger inside of me. How could I?
    So what are your thoughts? And any advice? Please

    Thank you,
    Hamaliya

    1. admin

      February 24, 2015 at 9:24 pm

      I think your reaction was normal to be honest he was rude to do that to you.

      Have you two broken up?

    2. Hamaliya

      February 24, 2015 at 9:45 pm

      Not yet. He wants to take more time off to think of he wants to be with me. I don’t know if I should stay with him or leave?

    3. Ames

      March 1, 2015 at 8:14 am

      Holy crap hunny… you shouldn’t even need to wonder. He needs time to decide if he still wants to be with you?? If he’s your boyfriend, he should already know. I think what’s most likely happening is that he wants to take some time off for Miss Hacky Sac to go riding and it’s not on his bike. I give him a teeny bit of credit for at least keeping your relationship on a back burner versus totally faking it and doing anything behind your back like many would do..but either way, it’s so wrong. If someone wants to be with you, they’ll be with you. They’ll work together with you to fix any issues…and it won’t be “I”..it’ll be “we” because you’re in it together. You’re a team. When you hear a lot of “I” and me me me, that usually means they’re not concerned with the team anymore. I agree that what he did was disrespectful. When I’m with someone, I’d ask him first and even bring him into the conversation out of respect for him, if I even let it go that far to begin with. Maybe I’m just old fashioned but I find it rude of her too. I would never have asked for his number. What you should do is just work on yourself and do things that make you happy. Stay positive and don’t wallow. No one can tell you what to do. That’s up to you and only you because only you know your own heart. I can say if it were me, I’d want to be with someone who loved me enough to work through any issues together. Someone who didn’t have to take time to think about if they wanted to be with me or not. Life is too short to waste on the wrong people. Best of luck xo

  11. Mikayla

    February 23, 2015 at 9:26 am

    Hi Chris,
    My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years (we have broken up twice and I have had previous relationships.) I am currently in college and he works full time. Since I quit my job last year, I have had more free time so I’ve been more clingy. When we argue, he yells at me now and he is also finding excuses not to see me. I don’t want to break up with him because I want to marry him one day, but I feel that he is losing interest. I want to get a part time job to make my own money and not be so bored, but he doesn’t want me to work. Also, he has never been with another girl. (And believe it or not we are both virgins) he says he wants to marry me but it’s taking him pretty long…. I would appreciate your help.

    1. admin

      February 23, 2015 at 9:44 pm

      Well, I think you need to talk to him. Like really talk to him communicate that you are sorry you are being clingy and you will work on it.

      But also be stern if he keeps standing you up.

  12. jessica

    February 20, 2015 at 8:55 am

    Vampires do not, can not, have sex! Hate to burst your bubble.

    1. admin

      February 20, 2015 at 11:54 pm

      I can name a few vampires that can!

  13. Jen

    February 18, 2015 at 6:15 pm

    Bf says he lost feelings for me. We have been going out for just over a year and been having a lot of fights in recent months (mostly caused by me being too sensitive and all). He says his feelings are reducing evrything time we have a fight. Now we are back together to give our relationship one more shot. Fights are reduced and we both r trying very hard but he says his feelings arent coming back. Do i have any options here but breaking up with him? I want to try more but not sute it will work. Advice please! Thanks lots

    1. admin

      February 18, 2015 at 10:11 pm

  14. Gira

    February 17, 2015 at 7:22 am

    This makes men sound like real assholes. Women are wired to be hormonal, emotional creatures. I didn’t do that nature did. If a man thinks tears or a little insecurity is a problem then he’s a douche. Of course huge insecurity i scrappy and ruins everything. But feelings should not be shoved to the side because it makes a man uncomfortable. Grow up! Yes we get teary and sensitive and dramatic when we have our periods. Go bang a robot if you want some self suppressed shell to date.

    1. admin

      February 17, 2015 at 12:53 pm

      Whoa…

      Haha I sense some anger in you.

      Yes, women are a bit emotional but so are men I have found. You’d be surprised how alike we both are.

  15. sabrina

    February 12, 2015 at 7:26 am

    i don’t mean to sound all perfect but i can’t identify with anything you said! i was actually more dolled up by date 50 then date 1 ( when i met my ex i was getting over a sirious eye infection and wasn’t aloud to wear any makeupr or contact lensses. by date 50 i sure was able to and i did put makeup on and lensses when he would come to see me. i’m not high maintenance, i really didn;t care what car he had and who treated whom out, it takes me half an hour to get ready (shower makeup and everything!).
    about the drama out of the both of us HE was the drama queen our fights were mostly initiated by him. yes i would cry on aucation when he was being mean or hurtfull…
    i might be the oposite of what you have discribed on women that let themselfs go. i was always working out (i’m a belly dancer), watched what i ate, went to remove hair by laesure, got my hair and nials done every once in a wail bought sexy clothes and loungere (and wore it for him only).
    and again i wouldn’t bother him by controlling him i litteraly never tried to use sex or guilt again him if he did something i wasn’t happy with. if he were to do something that would upset me i would excplain it calmly after the fact, i didn’t care if he would hang out with freinds and if they were girls present.
    anyway the more i read the more i’m confused as to why he would break up with me… i always made an effort to look good for him even when he would say it wasn’t nessacery and that i was more beautiful withoug makeupa dn in my pjs, treated him well and complamented him. and made sure i wasn’t a phone gnag.
    i remmember he used to tell me that he would tell his friends about me and that they would believe the stories (they didn’t think a girl like me existed and if it’s true he should keep me and never let me go because if he does he would make some other guy a lucky bastard)..
    anyway, why would he dump me with everything i have said? (i alsow didn’t cheat)
    maybe you could shed some light for me about his behaviour?

    thanks again,
    Sabrina

    1. admin

      February 16, 2015 at 10:11 pm

      I think in this case HE is more of the problem than you.

  16. Terri

    February 11, 2015 at 10:04 pm

    oh no I have done the drama/emotional/insecure thing! in fact that’s me one quarter anyways…maybe I should try some self love and not try to get him back. I don’t want to hurt him.

    1. admin

      February 16, 2015 at 9:55 pm

      Sometimes taking a step back is the best way to improve your chances of getting him back.

  17. Kathy

    February 10, 2015 at 6:39 am

    Thank you for posting such helpful insights on a male’s view on relationships. I just had my new boyfriend break up with me and I am curious to know in your opinion if there’s a decent chance of reconciliation. We dated about three months and developed very strong intimacy in that time. I know in my heart I am a good woman and have lots of prospects but I really want to get this one back because we shared a lot of similar interests and beliefs, eerily almost,than previous relationships. We genuinely had a drama free, easy going connection with lots of laughter.

    I recently got laid of and in that time of sadness, I probably got too comfortable in our bond and let my insecurities out too much. I also feel that I overextended my energy and affection with him. I know it’s important to be authentic, but in retrospect there were some inner struggles I should have not have brought up and mulled over alone. I should have let him chase me more but I was so scared of being vulnerable then rejected,being played, I pushed instead of letting him take the lead. He’s more of a shy guy than an alpha so at first, my initiative was desirable to him but maybe got old.

    So when he told me was having doubts about whether or not he wants to be in a serious relationship, that he’s scared & also feeling differently lately but still very attracted to me (his words), I sent him away. I told him I only want to be with someone who wants to be with me,and certainly not have someone feel trapped or obligated. That I also have felt bad because I am giving more than getting back and want to feel chased. I was visibly upset because he crushed my heart but I didn’t fight or beg him to stay and asked him to leave my apartment. He idled for about 10 mins wanting to hug me but I couldn’t even bare to look at him. We were both upset. I have not reached out to him since that incident a few days ago but he has not either. Since my overextending probably lowered his attraction towards me, do you think no contact rule might work in this scenario?

    1. admin

      February 10, 2015 at 4:10 pm

      I think there is a realistic shot here.

    2. Kathy

      February 11, 2015 at 4:58 pm

      Thank you for responding. Five days now and I’m questioning whether I would want him back now!

  18. Summer

    February 9, 2015 at 12:30 am

    My boyfriend refuses to go clubbing together, he has never taken me with him. Last night, he had plan’s to go out with his friends and I had plans to go with mine. We both ended up at the same place later in the night and he got mad at me for being around him and his friends. He was also grinding with other people and bending them over right in front of me. I told him that I found it disrespectful to me and our relationship. He said he won’t do it again but I feel that he said it just to shut me up. What kind of compromise can we come to over this whole situation?

    1. admin

      February 9, 2015 at 4:48 pm

      WAIT, is he always the one that clubs or are you?

  19. megan

    February 8, 2015 at 5:35 am

    So I’ve done almost all the things that you mentioned and I can feel my bf drift apart.. And I don’t wanna lose him but I can slowly feel him losing interest in me.. What can I do to make him fall for me again??

    1. admin

      February 9, 2015 at 4:18 pm

      You Have done all the deadly sins????

    2. megan

      February 10, 2015 at 12:05 pm

      Yeah almost all!! How can I fix this ??

    3. Ames

      March 1, 2015 at 8:23 am

      I’d say work on yourself and find out why you’re doing what you’re doing (the sins)…and then work on fixing the issues. Until you do that, you’re just going to keep doing it and ending up here. You have to learn to love yourself and be happy and content with yourself first before trying to make someone else love you.

  20. Ana

    February 3, 2015 at 4:29 am

    Hello there. So I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months. I knew him from high school but things never really clicked with us until we met again after graduation. Before we started going out he would go out of his way to make me happy. I love basketball, swimming, eating out and movies. Thats pretty much what I was about. Even after the honeymoon stage was over he stayed the same. The only thing that changed was that it wasnt as often. I didnt mind because he is all about video games and sports. His views on life are simple and I just couldn’t picture him ever doing anything that would hurt me. I didnt go in the relationship expecting much from it. He was a fun guy and I adored him.

    The last two-three months were hell for me and dont even want to think about what it was like for him. I was on birth control pills and it just turned me into a monster. I started getting more demanding and my jealousy when out of control. I remember this one time where this girl liked a post he posted in facebook(I was stalking his online activities by now) and when I went through her page I found quite a few pictures of them together with other people. I went off on him. I started giving him looks that he said made him think I hated him. I even demanded that he stop letting her take pictures with him. Even though the girl was just some 15 year old that he knew since she was probably nine. He looked at her like a sister. But I didnt see it like that at the time.

    I stopped taking the pills after spending the night crying because I thought he was talking to another girl. But not before sending him the worst txt messages in the world telling him that the reason I was going insane was because of him. Because he didnt know how to properly show love and that I was unhappy in the relationship. It was morning and I just felt so numb about everything. I hadnt seen him in about a week. By then I knew he wanted to break things off. I didnt take my pill and slept the entire day away instead. When I woke up I felt so weird. It felt like I went back to old self. Not the one in the beginning of the relationship. But the one before I even started talking to him again.

    At that moment I just wanted to leave everything behind me and just enjoy being alone for a while. I was so ashamed of myself and didnt even want to think about it. I was being a coward and avoided him for a few days afterwards which wasnt hard since he was avoiding me as well. I was enjoying some alone time but decided things couldnt go on. I sent him a text that we needed to talk and met up with him that same day.

    When we met up,however, I started feeling all the fireworks again. My baby has always had a way to make my knees weak with just a look to his face. I started thinking of all the good times we’ve had. I started feeling sad that things were going to end. At that point I just wanted to apologize, sit on his lap, and kiss him a lot.a lot lot. But I didnt. I asked him what was on his mind and if things were unfixable between us..and he actually got teary eyed and said that he couldn’t change the way he was and if I wasnt happy with him there was nothing he could do. I had made his life shit for months and the only thing on his mind was my unhappiness. I felt like the absolute shittiest person alive. He had talked to me about his exes. I knew they had been manipulative, demanding, and one was downright psychotic. I had been

    1. admin

      February 3, 2015 at 1:30 pm

      I think your comment got cut off at the end.

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