The Male Mind During The No Contact Rule- What Is He Thinking?

4,271 thoughts on “The Male Mind During The No Contact Rule”

Ruby

July 16, 2014 at 8:47 pm

Hello,

So I completed my NC today and my stubborn long distance bf didn’t contact me even once. Now I am clueless what to send him. I can’t think of any of those emotionally exploitative messages 🙁

admin

July 18, 2014 at 3:06 pm

Well, run some messages by me.

What do you have so far?
RUBY

July 18, 2014 at 8:23 pm

Sent a funny message that we both used to laugh at. I also wrote I miss him. The message is ‘seen’ by him but no replies. Should I wait for another 15 days if he doesn’t respond? Apparently He’s angry.
admin

July 21, 2014 at 3:49 pm

Don’t say I miss you again….

That maybe was too much too soon.
Ruby

July 16, 2014 at 9:22 pm

Also, I am not sending a text message, but an FB message because he is in Germany and I am in another country and sometimes the messages don’t go through. Should i send an FB request alongwith the message? Please help!! 🙁
Also, can the message be about something funny?
admin

July 18, 2014 at 3:07 pm

No wait a bit before you friend request him.

Dara

July 16, 2014 at 6:02 pm

Hay Chris,
I broke up with my bf about month or so ago because I felt he always made decisions without me. Like taking a job 3 hours away ex. I explained everything to him and even emailed explaining that I need more from Him. A few weeks ago I did crack and email him. But I regrated it straight away. I’ve been NC rule since. But I’m freaking out that his friends and family are convincing him to move on and that I’m A bad person. Is this ever the case?

admin

July 18, 2014 at 2:56 pm

How are you a bad person for wanting him to communicate and involve you in decisions???

Bea

July 15, 2014 at 8:04 pm

Hi Chris,

Finally successfully started initiating no contact to an ex with a rocky break up after 3 weeks of back and forth no contact (on for a bit then someone would contact the other). He is really not being a nice ex and actually sent me pics of him with another girl the other day (in which I didn’t respond to). He then texted me asking if I was dating someone new, and then apologized for asking saying he loved me but couldn’t date me and that he was being an ass for trying to hinder me dating (never apologized for the pics however). So I haven’t responded and he texted me extremely mad that I had not responded to his apology about asking if I was dating. So why is he so mad, and what’s going on in his head? Will this be the last time he contacts me since he’s mad at me?

admin

July 16, 2014 at 2:51 pm

Hes mad because he isn’t getting his way.
Bea

July 16, 2014 at 3:11 pm

Is this a good thing or a bad thing- is this the reaction that I want, or is it bad that he is upset? Along the lines of trying to get him back.
admin

July 18, 2014 at 2:53 pm

What reaction specificaly do you want to know about?
Bea

July 19, 2014 at 2:05 am

He texted today and said he saw I found someone new (I didn’t but I followed your social media tactics!!) and I am happy for you that’s great but we are too close to not be friends I want to be friends with you. Text me back, seriously.

So where is he at now with his feelings?
admin

July 21, 2014 at 3:59 pm

He is trying to get information out of you.
Bea

July 18, 2014 at 3:40 pm

Him getting mad- will this be a problem with trying to get him back with no contact? Or is it good thing and common?
admin

July 21, 2014 at 3:02 pm

It depends on how mad he gets and if he becomes so angry he won’t be willing to listen.

Generally speaking though men don’t get mad for no reason and usually that reason is that they care…
Bea

July 16, 2014 at 3:25 pm

And is this the last I’ll hear from him since he is mad? Or not.
admin

July 18, 2014 at 2:53 pm

I doubt its the last youll hear from him.

Becky

July 15, 2014 at 4:40 am

So yesterday I messaged the EX for the third time writing to him hoping that the city he’s in is treating him well (this is well after 1.5-2 months no contact). He asked me if I hated him and I said playfully: “Never ;)”
He then said the city was interesting. I didnt respond until the next morning, where he didnt reply to my question: “How do you like it so far?”

Should I try recontacting him again? If so what approach should I try?
Being ignored by him seems like he’s trying to get back at me since I did ignore him during the no contact phase.

Let me know, I’d like some insight.

Becky

July 15, 2014 at 4:12 pm

He messaged me this morning and added: “I hope we can still be friends”
I don’t know how I feel about that.
Should I go for more NC?
admin

July 16, 2014 at 2:38 pm

Your currently in NC correct?
Becky

July 16, 2014 at 3:03 pm

I already did a month and a half of no contact. Just recently these past two weeks did I send him a message about random memories we’ve had. He has responded. And yesterday morning he messaged me saying he hopes we can still be friends.
I didn’t answer yet. I don’t know what to reply or if I should reply to that.
admin

July 18, 2014 at 2:52 pm

Respond and say you hope so too. However, keep building attraction.
Becky

July 27, 2014 at 11:00 pm

So after I told him, I wish we could be friends I sent 2 messages in the past two weeks and got no response, so Im considering doing NO contact for another 30 days. What do you think?
admin

July 15, 2014 at 3:22 pm

Yes but wait a few days before you try again.

Laurel

July 14, 2014 at 4:35 pm

Hey Chris, so what do I do if I’m trying to be in the middle of no contact and we both still have things of the other person’s? I have a few things of his and he has a few of mine. Should I just keep his stuff till NC is done or should i contact him and give them back before then? We don’t live in the same town, however he’s back in our hometown often. He broke up with me two weeks ago and we’ve done no contact the entire time except he did text me the other day out of the blue saying something about our song and how he still couldn’t listen to it. I know he’s going to be in town for a few days soon and I don’t know if I need to give him his stuff back yet or keep doing NC and wait? Or even what’s going through his mind since he texted me first? What do I do? Thanks!

admin

July 15, 2014 at 2:42 pm

You are actually allowed to break NC to give him his stuff back
Laurel

July 16, 2014 at 7:59 pm

Ok why would he have texted me the other day if he’s the one who broke up? It makes it so much harder to do NC cuz I don’t know how he’s feeling now.
admin

July 18, 2014 at 3:02 pm

He is checking in on you and thats not a bad sign.

Jennifer

July 13, 2014 at 4:00 pm

Hi Chris,

Thanks for the wonderful website! I have a question. What if my ex find me in person in my working place or in front of my door during No Contact? What if he uses others phone to call me and I picked up by mistake? please help me! Thanks again!

admin

July 14, 2014 at 3:22 pm

Just be calm, if you are forced to talk try to keep a conversation short but be very pleasant.
Jennifer

July 14, 2014 at 9:50 pm

Thank you so much! Did I break the NC rule in this case? I talked to him shortly today because he tried different numbers to call me. I only said to him “sorry I am busy”.
admin

July 15, 2014 at 3:14 pm

Yup you did.
Jennifer

July 16, 2014 at 10:43 pm

Today is one week of NC. He called me at least 5 times. I didn’t answer. Am I too rude? Then he started to send me msgs. He said if I continue ignored him, it would be me who kill our love. He said he never begged anyone in his life. But now begged me to come back.

What to do now? Should I continue stay in NC until the end of 30 days? Will he be hurt too much? Thanks!
admin

July 18, 2014 at 3:09 pm

No.

But I would say you can shorten your NC to 21 days.

Remember though, don’t be blackmailed by him.
Jennifer

July 13, 2014 at 9:09 pm

Also, I did something hurt his feeling badly. Although its not sleeping or kissing other men, its still kind of “cheating” to him. Because I betrayed him for my benefit. So he said his feeling towards me changed and he couldn’t commit to me right now. That’s why I broke up with him. I remember in one of your guide you suggested if cheating, the NC period should be 15 days instead of 30 days. Should I do 15 days or 30 days? Should I write down a letter to apologize after NC? Now its only the 4th day. he told me he desperately miss me and tortured by the feeling. I didn’t reply his text message. He said he gonna find me next week. Please help me.

jacintha

July 8, 2014 at 10:34 pm

Hi Chris,
i have been going out with this lad for 7 years. i moved overseas for 8months and came back recently, we ended on great terms as i had to go overseas. now that im back i though we could rekindle our relationship, turns out he has been seen this gurl two weeks after i left and is currently stil seen her but not “official”. the girl had a row with me out clubbing a few weeks ago and he totally took her side. she was calling me nasty names for no reason, my ex rang to apologise the next day. i really want him back but havnt heard from him since nor have i texted him. do u think i have a chance or should use the NC ?

admin

July 9, 2014 at 2:20 pm

So, why is it that you want him back?
jacintha

July 10, 2014 at 12:40 am

because i love him and never stoped loving him? and im pretty sure he stil feels the same hes just on a rebound. should i leave it go or try make this work?

Kelly

July 8, 2014 at 9:51 pm

Chris help!

Ive Sent you comments before. Now im becoming more worried ..I finished no contact 2 weeks ago and did the full 30 days but didnt hear from him. I found out through a friend hes on a dating site and I cracked it at him. We had a talk after I calmed down and he admitted he misses me sometimes but also keeps insisting it won’t work.

I was with him 14months and we have been broken up for 2months. Im extremely jealous and dont want him falling for another girl.

This situation hasnt gotten any better.

admin

July 9, 2014 at 2:19 pm

You shouldn’t have “cracked it at him.”
Kelly

July 9, 2014 at 8:20 pm

Well what do I do now? He understood that I was hurt and said he would delete it and it was the first conversation we had in a while. Now hes gone again.

Cat

July 8, 2014 at 3:58 pm

Hi

I have just read this and it’s amazing, I’ve been seeing a guy for a year and a half but he seems to be afraid of commitment but yet we get on brilliant and really connect, we even call each other best mates. But I’m sick of his lack of commitment so 4 days ago I thought forget this I’m not talking to him for a while and it really upset me that I had to do this. Everytime I’ve said I’m never talking to him again we end up talking but this time I’m keeping my foot down. What’s really hard is that I’m worried I’ll never hear from him again and we’ll never speak again but I have to do this if I want my man. Reading this has given my spirits a lift and that there really is hope and light at the end of this tunnel. I just hope I don’t crash and burn during this 30 day no contact rule. And I really hope it works.

Wish me luck 🙂

admin

July 9, 2014 at 2:13 pm

Good luck!

Stick with it and I think good things will happen.

Caitlin

July 8, 2014 at 12:47 am

Hey!
My ex and I dated for about 8 months and it was really great. However we started to fight a lot and he dumped me. It was devastating. However he continued to still talk and snap chat me. would sometimes call me babe randomly, would get super jealous if i was with another guy, and say i miss you sometimes. It’s been 5 months since we broke up and this has been a continuous thing. we would talk almost everyday and still hook up from time to time. I want to be with him but every time I would bring us he would tell me he isn’t ready for a relationship, doesn’t know what he wants, wants to be happy and do him right now but doesn’t want to lose contact with me because he still wants to see me as an option later on. oh and my personal favorite I love you but i’m not inlove with you. HAH! i know I should just leave now i know but we are so good together and I can’t help but think what could be. So i decided to implement this no contact period for 30 days and told him that I was working on me right now and would contact him when I was ready. well a week into it now I get a text from him saying basically “So I guess were done talking, you saying we will talk later is you saying goodbye to me. hope you have a good semester at school.” I want to get through this 30 days but he basically just said goodbye to me….should I respond or keep going? Thanks so much!

admin

July 8, 2014 at 2:30 pm

What were the fights usually over?

Becky

July 6, 2014 at 12:39 pm

Hello there!

The ex boyfriend has reached out during no contact. When I sent my first message reminding him of this place we used to go to that closed down he responded coldly: “so now you decide to reply”. Then a week later I sent him a passage from a book that was specific to our old conversations saying it reminded me of him. He replied again: “stop acting so strange”
So I think he’s mad at me for not having responded when he reached out to me. What do I do now? Do I go back to no contact for 30 days? Or Try again in a couple of days?
thank you any advice is great!

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:58 pm

No… just a few days and then try sending a really innocent text.
Becky

July 8, 2014 at 1:16 am

what could be considered innocent? any suggestions? I find it impossible to try a friendly conversation
admin

July 8, 2014 at 2:31 pm

How would you talk to one of your friends? Generally that would be innocent in these cases.
Becky

July 9, 2014 at 3:39 pm

Yeah, I’m afraid if I do that. He might not respond thinking I’m phoney and the message could be considered I’m trying too hard since it appears he’s mad at me for ignoring him and I feel like he’s trying to get back at me and do the same.
admin

July 10, 2014 at 2:15 pm

Usually they will be a little mad at first but come to their senses.

Hannah

July 4, 2014 at 5:06 pm

Hey Chris. I’ve written on here a couple of times, but just need your advice on the current situation. Me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up 3 months ago. We have always been LDR but he just took a placement year in America. I saw him on Tuesday and he was like ‘you think I don’t want to be with you? You’re wrong I do’ but he says not right now. He said I’m the person he wants to marry and have kids with. We have a trip booked in August and he said he still wants to go on it. This morning he text me and said I really believe you are the person I will marry, I just want to enjoy my placement and after, if you are no longer there that is when I will fight for you. I believe you are the one but I just need to be completely sure. So I replied saying in that case, it’s over, I will not wait around for you and will start to move on. I thanked him for an incredible 2 years together and said I would always love him but I now know this is over.
What do I do from here? Do I go back into NC? His placement ends in February and I just don’t think I can wait that long, I want him back before then 🙁

Please help Chris! Thank you!

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:47 pm

If he really wanted to be with you he would be with you.

NC definitely.
Hannah

July 10, 2014 at 6:14 pm

Hey Chris. So we are back together! He turned up at the bar I was at on Monday after texting me every day for 5 days and me refusing to reply, told me he couldn’t do it anymore, was in love with me, wanted to be back with me. So we got back together. However now I’m so so nervous. We saw each other Tuesday evening, watched a film, stayed over together, we hung out yesterday, and then have agreed to hang out tomorrow. But he’s not texting me. Yes we are back together, and so I know I should just chill out, but I’m a bit scared to text him that I’ll push him back away. But now we are together all I want is to be with him all the time. To hear from him all the time. But I need to make sure he’s not thinking damn she’s annoying she texts me all the time this is why I broke up with her in the first place… Gah I thought when we got back together things would get simpler! Haha!
admin

July 11, 2014 at 1:57 pm

I wrote something about keeping him once you get him back. You might want to check that out.

Jessica

July 3, 2014 at 2:06 am

Hey Chris, my ex and I were together for 2 years and 7 months and he didnt really give me a reason why he brokeup with me, which it was a very bad breakup.for about a month i was needy and desperate and did everything to get ahold of him because we were the true love kinda couple,we planned a future and career and were very happy and in love. A month later after the breakup I did the no contact rule for 2 weeks and he tried to talk to me a few times and I didn’t respond. Then he messaged me that he’s very dissapointed with me and I responded:I’m sorry I haven’t been answering you, it’s been hard and I’ve wanted to message you back but I don’t want things ending badly again. And he responded with:Yeah that sure makes it better. Just pissed me off tryin to be nice and talk and you ignore me. It’s cool blew that chance. Have fun with your plan. And then I said:I don’t have a plan. I told myself I would give you space. I didn’t mean to piss you off. Then he said K. And I said:George, you dont understand.Besides its only been 3 hours since you messaged me. I wasn’t really ignoring you. I was trying to give you the space you wanted. And it’s not like it’s been easy. And he said:The other day. But me being nice and tryin to talk to you but I’m just. Nvm bye and then I said: Look, I’m sorry. I was trying to respect your decision. I didnt want things to go bad again. Of course i wanted to respond to you. You ignored me for like a month and you’ve said things that hurt me. I didnt mean to hurt you or piss you off. Thank you for the compliment on my hair, it made me smile. I see you changed your hair too. Thsys it that was our conversation.So he’s been going through a lot, friends and family dying and he says hes changed and I feel like I screwed up. I feel like we’ll never be okay again.

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:19 pm

So, what would you like my help with specifically?
Jessica

July 8, 2014 at 2:26 am

Well we are friends now. But he’s definitely changed into someone else. I don’t love him, I love who he use to be. But he wants to hangout as friends in stuff & I think i might try to start dating again but secretly i hope in the future we will be together when he is ready for a serious relationship. Is that weird?
admin

July 8, 2014 at 2:35 pm

Not weird at all. I undersatnd where you are coming from I guess what you need to be asking yourself is if he is the best for you long term?
Jessica

July 8, 2014 at 10:03 pm

I knew he was the one but hes changed now, he wants to do whatever he wants because he is young, whenever he is ready for a real relationship like we had I’m hoping he will come to me. I know I’m his familys favorite because I’ve met everyone and they all loved me.
Jessica

July 8, 2014 at 2:30 am

And do you think it’s possible that we could end up together again?
Jessica

July 3, 2014 at 2:11 am

That’s it, that was our conversation. *
Jessica

July 3, 2014 at 8:46 am

George and I were on oovoo for a while and it got a little dirty but it wasnt long. But then we talked about us and I cried a lot! He didn’t remember a lot of things in our relationship like any future stuff. He doesn’t even know if he’s in love or was in love. All he could keep saying was sorry. He has done a lot of things he doesnt wanna tell me because it will upset me and he did people come and go and i said do you care if you loose me? He said I already did. And I said no you broke up with me but I’ve always been here. But he didn’t seem to care if I’m not his life or not, i had to ask him if he wants me in his life and he said yeah and i had to ask him if he always will love me and he said I don’t want to say that and I had to ask him a few times and he just says yeah. everything we were he doesnt remember, and doesn’t feel the same about me. He texts like 4 girls and he says he’s doesn’t like any of them. He says i haven’t heard half of the things he does. But sometime he wants to be friends because he doesn’t have any real friends. And we’ll see where we end up. But it was clear that he doesn’t know his feelings for me. And that he has to figure it all out and put things back together.I wish everything he said was just a dream. I wish that everything he said he was lying lol I secretly hope so. I seriously don’t like my life anymore. I dont wanna feel this way and be in so much pain or cry so much. I wish he really cared about me and still was in love with me.
admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:35 pm

I know its really hard but I think the best thing for you is to find some sanity for now. Getting him back when you are in this highly emotional state is highly impractical.

MG

July 1, 2014 at 6:18 pm

Hi Chris,
So what about the stubborn guy? you explain this guy can act or feel like a “victim” or that he is thinking “she has to call me first” but I was wondering if a guy like this one will contact me soon. I’m on the middle of the NC rule and believe me it is hard to do it, it is hard to control my emotions and keep discipline. I crave a lot to hear from him, to know about him and because I know that he is stubborn, I’m afraid that he won’t contact me anymore. I didn’t do anything wrong, I didn’t cheat him, his excuse to break up with me was the long distance between us (living in diff countries), besides he said he doesn’t want a committed relationship. I know that I can’t force to anyone to love me but from the bottom of my heart I believe that he has feelings for me, even when his mind says no I think his heart craves it. Anyways, I’ve been feeling so sad and desperate because I can seen him online in whatssap and FB and he hasn’t done anything to send me a small text or message. Do you think is possible to change all this scenario? Do you think is possible he changed his mind? Do you think the NC period works for someone like him, according to situation I explained above?

thanks Chris for your attention to this.

admin

July 3, 2014 at 12:57 am

Sometimes you have to be the one to reach out with these guys but if you get them hooked and then suddenly end the conversation you will find that they start to chase.

jordyn

July 1, 2014 at 1:41 am

Hey Chris, so I finally completed no contact with my ex and a few days ago he messaged me. Asking how im doing I told him im good and he said “thats good well you seem busy I dont wanna bother you so ill leave you alone” I told him no im not busy and asked him how he was doing. He said him being with 7 kids all the time is making him go a little crazy and needed someone to talk to. So we talked for a little bit and he then asked me if im happy with my life. I asked him “what do you mean?” He then asked me if we could talk over the phone instead. I said thats fine. He called me and we first talked about passed things we did together and old jokes we used to make together and their was constant laughing between us. Then i asked him what he meant by his last message. And he said ” well are you happy with your new life? Boyfriend? Job? Future plans? Are you happy?” I said “theres ups and downs but…yes overall I would say im happy”. I asked him “what about you?” He said ” well things aren’t what I expected lets just say” I figured he didnt want to talk about it and changed the subject. We joked more and we talked for about an hr till he said “well im sorry but I’d hate for my phone to die on you so what are you up to later? ” I said not sure. He said “well, maybe we can I dont know hangout or talk a little more later. If its ok with you if I text you later?” I said sure. We said our talk to you later and hung up. I havent heard from him for the passed week. So im confused. I feel like he was just playing a trick to see if im willing to leave my new bf. But im not sure. What do you think?

admin

July 3, 2014 at 12:47 am

What makes you feel he was playing a trick on you?
jordyn

July 7, 2014 at 6:31 am

I believe him to be narcissistic. I looked up everything on it and He did everything a narcissist does but this just makes me feel like its a 50 50 kind of thing. Im just not sure on anything anymore.

Allison

June 30, 2014 at 11:07 pm

I really don’t understand what happened, two days go my boyfriend and I broke up. When I first met him I was not interested in having a relationship it just happened. We were together for 1 year and 6 months. We discussed moving in together in two years after I got my masters and everything. Last weekend he came over to visit me and we has fun. He texted me that evening saying he loved me, I was the best, and that he really had fun. Then it just went down hill he was not texting a lot, he was not calling me at all and I asked him why and he said he had no reason. Finally, this week I had it, I was tried of his constant monthly **** of no communication. I told him we need to take a break for him to appreciate what he has. He replied are you breaking up with me really? I replied are you wiling to change and he said idk. I replied what is your problem honestly he said idk. I said are you really willing to lose me he said no. Then said sorry,we need a break. I immediately flip out and he said I’m sorry,can we just be friends right now. I told him no , I want all the things I ever gave him back, and that we are done. It really hurt because he has broken up with me before almost a year ago and I took him back and he promised he wouldn’t do it again. Just yesterday he posted a status on twitter something’s are not meant to be,that’s life. I lost it after seeing that I texted him three times talking about fixing our relationship and how I didn’t deserve to get my heartbroken. I even called and tried to FaceTime him and he ignored each of them. Help!! I just want my boyfriend back I have some much faith in us.

admin

July 3, 2014 at 12:44 am

Why do you think there was this sudden mood shift in him? Do you have any ideas?

Erica

June 30, 2014 at 12:11 am

Hi my bf just broke up with me cause I activated my Facebook after we had agreed to neither of us having one..he found out I had one and left a comment to a guy that he really dislikes.the comment was not anything bad but the fact that I did this behind his back and to that specific guy he left me and said we were done for good, weve been together for 5yrs and I really love him. He didn’t even give me the chance to explain anything to him he blocked my number so I can’t even get ahold of him, I started sending him emails and he would just tell me to leave him alone and that hes moving on amd started calling me names I didn’t deserve to be called.He now made a facebook and talks to girls on there and I know I can’t do anything about it but it hurts alot..im leaving him alone now but do you think the nc rule will work for me do you think theres still hopes for us to be together again.

admin

June 30, 2014 at 2:44 pm

First off, why did you leave the comment?

I think its kind of dumb and controlling that he broke up with you over that but why did you leave the comment. Did this guy try to hit on you or do something to harm your relationship? Why does he dislike this guy?
Erica

June 30, 2014 at 4:37 pm

His status said (wwhen you try hard and nobody notices it) all i replied was (try harder) and i deactivate it right after idk why i did i just didnt think about it.this guy used to be friends with my bf and my bf is just real jealous in that way he thinks that im gHis status said (wwhen you try hard and nobody notices it) all i replied was (try harder) and i deactivate it right after idk why i did i just didnt think about it.this guy used to be friends with my bf and my bf is just real jealous in that way he thinks that im going to cheat one day but that’s a thought that’s not even going through my head. I love him and i made a mistake but he know hates me cause of that he said hes real hurt and wants nothing to do with me idk what to doing to cheat one day but that’s a thought that’s not even going through my head. I love him and i made a mistake but he know hates me cause of that he said hes real hurt and wants nothing to do with me idk what to do
admin

July 3, 2014 at 12:39 am

Wait, he broke up with you b/c he thinks you are going to cheat??? Seriously, that was his reasoning?
Erica

July 3, 2014 at 12:40 pm

Yes he said he was not going to wait for that to happen to him so he left me i pretty much begged him and he would just blow me off and told me to leave him alone i don’t understand how someone could let 5yrs go just like that.He said he was real hurt but hes done alot worst to me and i forgave him.I just don’t understand anything anymore hes doing things i never thought he would do.Im so hurt I didn’t want this to be over.
admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:39 pm

Throughout those five years did he ever seem to feel like he was just getting bored or something?
Erica

June 30, 2014 at 4:42 pm

His status said (when you try hard and nobody notices it) all i replied was (try harder) and i deactivate it right after idk why i did it just didnt think about it.this guy used to be friends with my bf and my bf is just real jealous in that way he thinks that im going to cheat one day but that’s a thought that’s not even going through my head. I love him and i made a mistake but he now hates me cause of that he said hes real hurt and wants nothing to do with me idk what to do

Becky

June 29, 2014 at 8:57 pm

So I messaged my ex back after a month and half. He said “:so now you decice to reply. I answered back; “now is always a good time. After a week, I messaged him about this book that reminded him of him. He replied “why are you acting so strange. How can I save this?

admin

June 30, 2014 at 2:33 pm

Hmm… ok, maybe try a more normal text for you rather than whats found on the site.

Toya

June 29, 2014 at 12:40 pm

**he has NOT made an attempt to reach out I meant
Toya

June 29, 2014 at 12:38 pm

hi..im 15 days in the nc rule and he has made an attempt yo reach out…what is going on in his mind at this time?? before the nc rule I told him I needed sometime to myself to myself..our relationship has been rocky ever since he has moved away…what is he thinking now??

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