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Kara
March 7, 2017 at 2:27 pm
So, I was with my ex for 2 years and weve been friends since we were 5. I’m 19 and he’s 18z I was his first EVERYTHING, including his first serious relationship. Our relationship was basically perfect and he would do anything for me, and I would do anything for him. We were best friends. About 2 months ago I told him I needed some space and time (I was just dealing with some stuff and changing as a person) so it basically got blown out of proportion and we ended up breaking up. A few days later I slept with another guy and I told my ex the next day (guilty conscience). Since then I have basically texted him a lot and drove him crazy, about a month ago I had a pregnancy scare and he was very supportive of me and took care of me and he was there for me. And when we met up he broke down and told me he was confused and he would always love me and care for me but he felt like he still couldn’t be with me. He’s also leaving to play football in college in the fall about 3 hours away. I am so close with his family and he is so close with mine. I have been absolutely heartbroken and it seems that it is not even bothering him whatsoever. Any type of contact is initiated by me. He’s also going on his first spring break ever with his friends in about two weeks. Sorry that’s all so jumbled I just wanted to get all of the information out there. I’m not sure what to do. Thanks
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 10, 2017 at 10:58 am
Hi Kara,
do you want to try the no contact rule?
Michelle
March 6, 2017 at 4:19 pm
My boyfriend broke up with me last Sunday because of stress in our relationship. It was totally unexpected. We ended things stating that we both still love each other very much – both of our families are sad about this breakup. We were living together and have had to see each other several times in the past week to move out all of our stuff. I was an emotional wreck for the first few days, but have since accepted it. Yesterday he came over to pick up some of his things and we were pretty cordial, but he seemed distant. I’m just trying to figure out how to deal with this situation. I love him and I want him back (as of now), but I’m still very confused because I feel like he abandoned me.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 10, 2017 at 1:53 am
Hi Michelle,
are you going to do the no contact rule?
ally
March 1, 2017 at 4:40 pm
i dated my ex for two years and we broke up before last year (he left me). he ended up coming back because i said is change and he missed me etc. we dated for almost another year and then a few months ago he told me he didn’t love me anymore and lost feelings for me. then he spent the next day doing really fun things with me that we used to do and we slept together, the next day he came by and broke up with me and i was so confused. he continued to see me after his and would do couple things with me like dinner, watch movies together and cuddle, and we continued to sleep together. then about last week he called it all off and i over reacted and we had a really big fight. i acted aggressively, even though i really am not, and i think it was the worst fight we have ever had. i ended up going to his house that night and he felt bad and said sorry for everything and he slept with me again. we spent the next day together and went to breakfast, and did fun things all day and he would kiss me and tell me i was beautiful and stuff. a few days later he said he didn’t ever want to do that again and it was a mistake on his part. he never wants to date me again because he sees what kind of person i really am ( even though i just acted out and he did too because of the heat of the moment) and that he has no feelings for me. the other night one of my friends contacted him and said to leave me alone because he had confused me ( because he was still talking to me) and he called me and said he wants talking to me anymore but i turns it around and said that i needed time away from him and i would contact him when i was ready to talk in persons i have begged and done just about everything wrong in order to get him back and although we dated two years and i feel like we have a good connection, we fought a lot due to a lot of how i would handle things. i really want to work in myself and change before i meet up with him again. is it possible there is any chance of him coming back? i’ve started the no contact rule ( i’m only a day in) but am not really sure how to go about it because i feel like this is exactly what he wants. thank you!!
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 1, 2017 at 10:11 pm
Hi Ally,
check this:
The Ungettable Girl
Stella
March 1, 2017 at 1:23 pm
Hello,
I need some serious help. My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago. I did some really crazy things after the breakup, went to his house, waited outside his class (which he was really angry about), I even followed him in my car. After all the crazy things I did I apologized to him but he said that he doesn’t think that we could ever be together again. We were together for almost two years and he broke up with me because he said he was not happy, and hadn’t been happy for a while, but I never noticed that anything was wrong! I began the no contact rule and I’m on day 14, a few days before I began the NC, I messaged him asking him to meet up so that I could get my things back, and on the day we were supposed to meet up, I cancelled on him (which I think made him wonder about me because I was very vague about why I cancelled). Right now I’m on day 14 and he has not contacted me at all since then… I feel like he doesn’t want to get back together with me because of all the crazy things I did.. begged, pleaded. 🙁 I have no idea what to do.. I was considering doing 45 days no contact but I’m not sure what to do. I’m worried he wont contact me still, and even if I do the 45 days, should I contact him to meet up to get my things? I don’t even know how to approach this.
Thank you.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 1, 2017 at 8:59 pm
Hi Stella,
It’s ok if he doesn’t contact you during the no contact period. You can initiate contact after and slowly build rapport. The most important aspect of the no contact period is improving yourself and being active in posting in social media. Yes, I think you should do 45 days.
Sabrina
February 28, 2017 at 10:39 pm
My ex just broke up with me 2 days ago. It was hard because I didn’t know anything was wrong, yes we have little fights but nothing major, I just usually get emotional. His reasoning for breaking up with me was that he was scared of upsetting me and scared that we’d continue to fight. I was his first serious relationship so I understand he doesn’t have much experience. He’s also very immature emotionally and doesn’t know how to communicate and that was a big issue through out our relationship. I asked him today if there’s any chance for us and he said I don’t think so, but he admitted he is still in love with me, he just can’t be scared anymore. Is there anyway I can get him back?
Sabrina
March 2, 2017 at 3:26 am
So earlier I impulsively texted him and said I missed him. He replied saying I’m sorry then I asked if he misses me or if this isn’t bothering him, he said yes he misses me and this is hard for him. When we broke up he said he thinks this is permanent and he said it again the next day, do you think it is?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 2, 2017 at 4:53 pm
There’s no guarantee that it will work but it’s better to do it and improve yourself to increase your chances than to chase him. Open this link:
The Ungettable Girl
Sabrina
March 1, 2017 at 9:51 pm
Yes. Do you think it will work? He’s very clueless and is also very scared of rejection so I’m worried that even if he does decide to come back he won’t tell me. I don’t think he thought this through and if he did I never knew about it because things were fine.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 1, 2017 at 7:52 pm
Hi Sabrina,
Do you want to try the no contact rule?
Sofi
February 28, 2017 at 4:38 pm
Hai dear. I just need to have closure. I was with this man for almost 2 months. He pursued me, called me almost everyday then he went missing for a week, breakes my heart!. Then he called me saying he was so busy and couldn’t find the time to call me, which was funny he could’ve just sent me a text..right?. I stayed aloof but then when i really fell for him, he started to stay away, asking me to stop contacting him through whatsapp, which i did and blocked him after. Now he’s a top officer of this department and i didn’t want to disturb him during their busy days so i didn’t call or texted him. But what freaks me out was when i actually did text him..after 4 days..he called me up and started to rant on me. I was so taken aback because he never showed this side of him before. He said rude things that hinted i was stupid and not clever at all, which i took as a joke. But when he said when he talks, never talk back to him, he doesn’t like that at all. I was surprised..what is with him?, i never said anything remotely rude to him..ever. Before i went home i texted him saying i am not playing with him and he’s always in my heart. His reply..stop calling and texting him..just wait till he calls me..what!!!..i almost fell from my chair..and told me to tell my boss to invite him for any of our department’s functions. Honestly, i’ve analysed those words up till now but it just doesn’t add up. What is wrong with him??, really..i gave up last 25th Feb and decided to go NC..for my sake..he hasn’t called me since but frankly i really don’t care. What gives him the right to do this to me..to anyone for that matter..i really really liked him and missed our talks on the phone. I just need closure..been through this before and i don’t want to be the doormat anymore. Tq for your advice dear.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 28, 2017 at 9:27 pm
Hi Sofi,
you’re doing the right step of moving on from him. Whatever his reason is, what he did is enough reason for you to stop talking to him.
Mariah
February 22, 2017 at 7:22 pm
I and my husband are married for a year. We stay in California and 2 days back we had this big brawl after which I got quite emotional and out of anger told him that I am packing my bags and going home (Boston). Initially my husband was a bit hesitant and made all possible excuses to stop me from going. However the next day his behaviour completely changed. He started becoming aloof towards me and stopped replying to my text msges and calls. I am feeling like he is giving me the silent treatment. I feel he is giving me the silent treatment because I challenged his opinionand decision and therefore wants to punish me by giving the silent treatment. I have waited for a day and got all emotional. I have just messaged him twice in the last 2 days with no reply and hence have stopped messaging him now. I spoke to his sister and a couple of our common friends and all of them agree that my husband was at fault. I dont want to go and approach him again since he is the one at fault and needs to apologise. I want to know if would be right if I go into NC at this point of time? We stay in the same house and I work from home. My husband comes home in the afternoon. Should I go into a NC with him after all of his drama?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 23, 2017 at 12:19 am
Hi Mariah,
give him a week, if he doesn’t cool down, start the no contact period. Check this one:
EBR 027: What To Do If You Live With Your Ex Boyfriend
HKBMMB
February 19, 2017 at 8:46 pm
Hello!
So the situation is next… I have been with this guy in a LDR for 4 month. We were exclusive but never really official. Anyway, we have seen each other many many times. He invited me to his house (where he is living with his dad and brother).. I have spent there 4 days.. He introduced me to every friend and we had a really good time. Later we met few times more in different city, it was all good for two months. He was constantly texting, skyping, seems like he is really into me. Then one time we met for a day and he just freaks out, he says he is afraid, he has never liked a girl this much, he hasnt been in a realtionship for 6 years, he wants to travel, try different things, he is afraid of distance, he is afraid I will hurt him and all that. We had a loong talk then and I managed to calm him down, saying he doesnt know whats gonna happen, just let it be. And it seemed to work, for next three weeks it all went the same, he traveled a bit, kept in touch every day, every hour basicaly and yea, it all went good until we meet again. It is like every time we meet he get some sort of pressure in his head and again after introducing me to his other friends in other city, to his mum (his parents are divorced) he does the same. He doesnt want to fall in love, he is scared, he wants us to not be serious (and we never actually were officialy, never asked him about it). I said OK. And again after letting him be a few days everything went back to normal. To be honest, I was a bit angry cause every time we see each other I am expecting some kind of show from him but basically every time I need to go home it happens. And now, few days ago he invited me again to his home in his country. I went there and again the same. He just changes when he sees me, like he gets scared. He tells me he is scared of realtionship, he wants freedom and yet I spend time with his dad, all of his friends in his house and he invites me, its not like I just show up from another country. And yea, he is like I am not used to having a girl, I am not used to sharing a bed, we are far away, I cant even think about having some one nigh stand because I have you in my head. He says he is falling so hard for me, it never happend, he cant concentrate on anything else and he doesnt want it. All his friend told him how amazing I am, his family and he says you are the nicest, the most beutiful girl I have ever been with. And he is jealous.. If I am texting he asks later who was it, since we live in a different countries so he doesnt really now my friends. (I can travel a lot, he cant that much). Anyway, he gave so mixed signs, he posted a picture of us on Instagram story saying: you see I have noone else and taking me out to a doubledate valentines dinner with his friends. And I said on that dinner something like noo, we are not a couple we are just friend. He got offended. And the last day again, on our way to airport he said lets not talk bla bla, I dont want to hurt you. I was mad, I just left. Then he texted have a safe flight <3… I said 'please leave me alone'… later that night we texed and he says he likes me very much, but wants a break, he feels pressured cause I want a realtionship, I said: ok, sorry if I made you feel that way, nicce knowing you 🙂
we didnt talk ever since, he looks at my instagram stories, he send me something on snapchat the first day of NC (two days ago).. I never opened it, I countinued with my life.. I don't know, I need someones perspective on all this. I am OK, but he really is a nice very nice person, but it seems like he started feeling something and he gets scared. How do I deal with this.. I am OK, I will survive without him but I still want him back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 21, 2017 at 9:04 am
Hi Hkbmmb,
if he’s just not serious, then you should really stick to nc.. he has to feel that you’re not waiting for somebody who isn’t sure
Jane
February 16, 2017 at 1:31 pm
Much younger than me, he is in a relationship. He approached me and after a while I agreed to go on a date with him. I like him and we see each other but then it turns out that he has a girlfriend but they ‘have troubles’ and he ‘cannot leave her because she’s going through a harsh moment’. At the same time, he says that he cannot help not seeing me and that, despite we having met in the wrong moment, he is really into me and can’t help it. I am not usually a naive person, but he truly makes me feel special with his words and actions. After four days of NC I tried to play cool and said that I did not mind about the gf for as long as he was giving me all the attentions that I was looking for (we were basically dating). Then things cool down a little bit after a month, I get scared and start ignoring him. When he notices it, I decide to face him and say that I like him too much and I am getting dragged into something that I cannot handle. He tries to convince me that everything is ok but I tell him that we can resume when he breaks up with her. I also tell him that, in order to protect myself, I will close all our channels of communication and that he has to understand that. So I have blocked him on Whatsapp and freezed my FB account. I have seen him once since then and he put up his ‘puppy eyes’ and started a conversation that I very politely declined. I also found out that he approached the only common person that we know, God knows why. To me, he was behaving exactly like he did with her. I am persevering in the NC treatment but is very hard…he could have called and he did not. Should I go on? I do not know in which of the categories above he falls as he seems just to have accepted my decision. He is not coming back to me, right? Thank you for your help.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 16, 2017 at 8:38 pm
Hi Jane,
assess your standards, and stick to it. Because when you said that it’s ok for you that he has a gf, that’s like a nail in the coffin. He will keep thinking about that for now that you’re just confused and he could convince you. So, if you really want a guy to treat you certain way, don’t allow him to treat in a way you don’t want to. If he’s still with his gf, no matter how big his puppy eyes is when he’s talking to you, it should be a no from you.
Amanda
February 16, 2017 at 10:35 am
We were together for 3 years and a half. We loved each other very much. Our relationship was almost perfect and we were best friends. However, these past 3 months have been a blur. We didn’t get to spend much time together because he was busy with law school. The communication was getting less and less. I just tried to be a supportive and understanding gf. I exerted more effort into our relationship so that I wouldn’t lose him but it seemed like he’s taking me for granted. He broke up with me last week because he wanted to focus on himself. I wasn’t satisfied with what he said so I asked him if he still loves me, he said that he’s fallen out of love 🙁 I couldn’t believe how he’s feelings has changed over the past month when I know that what we have over the years was really special. I can accept the break up if it was for him wanting to have more time for himself. I could give him the space that he wants but I couldn’t get over that fact that his feelings have faded completely. Could it be that the stress and pressure that he’s getting from school are masking his feelings for me? Would the NC rule work in my situation? Maybe once he feels that I’ve disappeared from his life, he would realize that he truly loves me until now?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 16, 2017 at 8:31 pm
Hi Amanda,
the nc rule is not a guarantee it just helps increase your chances especially if you are actively improving yourself…
Addy
February 15, 2017 at 8:01 pm
Me and my ex fiancé had been engaged since June and we’re supposed to be getting married in four months. All of a sudden we started arguing a lot the last couple of weeks and then he ended things with me roughly 8 days ago and just said he was done. He said that he needed space and that he needes to focus on himself. I know he felt like I was clingy and smothering him. We met yesterday after a week of not seeing each other and very little contact, we talked about a lot. I asked him if he wanted us to be done forever and he said no but that he still has to do this for himself. He told me that he didn’t want to be in a relationship right now because he feels like he lost himself and like he needs to focus on himself and feels like he can’t do that while in a relationship. He also said that when he’s ready for a relationship he would come to me first to try again, but obviously can’t promise that things will work out unless things have changed. I apologized for being clingy and for all of the things that I realize I had done and he said that he believed me but that he doesn’t want to jump right back into the relationship since it’s only been a week. This is killing me because we lived together for over a year and I had to move back home an hour and 15 mins away. He also had a daughter that He had full custody of, so she was with us a lot and I took care of her most of the time when he was at work, etc. and I really miss them both so badly. He says that he still loves me, but keeps saying that he needs space and he needs to do this for himself. Help?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 16, 2017 at 1:25 pm
Hi Addy,
are you going to do the no contact rule? if yes, check this one:
EBR 059: How To Get Him Back If You Were Engaged…
Shannon
February 14, 2017 at 7:12 pm
Is there an area anywhere that states what to do if your ex is none of these types of men during no contact? My ex left because he didn’t feel the same way and didn’t love me anymore, and he wanted to be friends. So I implement NC seven days ago, and so far I have gotten one text of him which a friend told him to send, and that friend also told me my ex is very very happy. So is there even a point doing NC on someone who does not care whether I talk to him or not and is happy either way? Because I feel like all of these outcomes, the type of guys, show that they still care about you. So what about an ex who doesn’t care about you and has no feelings for you? Is there even a point in doing no contact with him?
Shannon
February 14, 2017 at 7:18 pm
May I add, that my ex since leaving me, is happy to have all this freedom. Doing everything he wants. He is care free and doesn’t have to worry about me. He hasn’t reached out, hasn’t checked up on me, nothing to show he still feels anything other than that ” I’m used to having you around ” friendliness. No contact isn’t going to make him suddenly feel for me again, and with just how little he cares about me, I wouldn’t be surprised if no contact came as a sweet relief for him. So what do I do with this uncaring ex? I just wish he could see that my silence was because I hurt, but even if he did notice it I don’t think he would care. Plus he is a really smart guy, he knows I’m ignoring him on purpose and is probably thinking ” if she wants me, she will come to me. “
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 14, 2017 at 9:48 pm
Hi Shannon,
dont do nc for him, do it for yourself.. if he has moved on, then accept that. If you want to move on of course you can but if you want to try to rebuild attraction, the first step is focusing in yourself and not chasing him…
swathi
February 14, 2017 at 3:11 pm
I was in living relationship with this guy for past 7 years.out of sudden,he call me and told he don’t want to be with.He is not happy with me and he not ready to settle down and all other bullshit reason.I was keep on calling him everyday and texting him everyday but there no reply from him.Both of us were so happy and we just cute together.Will he come back to me again and what should i do ?
swathi
February 15, 2017 at 12:14 pm
Hi, yes we was staying together for 4 years.I don’t know why suddenly he behave like this ? I did’t talk to him for past 4 days.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 15, 2017 at 7:35 pm
but you don’t live together now do you? if you are, check this one:
EBR 027: What To Do If You Live With Your Ex Boyfriend
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 14, 2017 at 9:25 pm
Hi Swathi,
we cant guarantee that he will get back to you.. did you mean you live together? dont chase him..are you going to do the no contact rule?
shonali
February 14, 2017 at 12:26 pm
Hiii
I had a relationship past 4yr and he broke up with me 2month ago….he block me from everywhere whatsapp fb unfollow from instagram…..i was try very hard to slove the matter but nothing works…..after breakup 1month ago he call me and we talk each and every issues…..and last he said i can’t keep rltnship anymore but we made frnds….nd i said no i don’t to keep frndship nd cut off the phn.
Next day he unblock me on whatsapp nd send me ur couple pic which we were take when we r in rltnship after that we talk little bit…..but after that we don’t talk to each other……..few day ago i saw him in my work place i ignore him and he ignore me nd next day we will saw again and then we ignore eachother……and then i cut off all the contacts from him but not from insta frndsgrp……after brkup he nvr see my post or like my post on that grp but when i cut off all contact he suddenly like my post nd second day i share new post nd he snd me hrt on that post…….nd after that i save his no.on whtsapp nd see he will again block me……..”plzzzz tell me what i do to get him back…..why he ignore me or why he behave like this….i can’t understand what he want?????”
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 14, 2017 at 9:09 pm
Hi Shonali,
do you work together? because if you do, follow the advice on this one on how to do no contact:
EBR 032: What To Do If You Work With Your Ex Boyfriend
Saron
February 12, 2017 at 3:11 pm
I was dating this guy for one and a half months. The feeling is really strong from both of us but occasionally we would misunderstand each other or more like he would misunderstand me and often misinterpreted some things that I would say. Anyway I told him that if we were going to continue this relationship successfully we would have to make an effort to learn about how we communicate. That we obviously like each other so much and so we should purposefully take time to make sure that our love doesn’t get lost in translation. I said that he felt like I was giving him ultimatums and while trying to discuss further what I meant by my idea or by my solution to save our relationship he just cut me off and when I tried to call him on the phone He ignored me and then messaged me to say that he didn’t want to talk to me again. So I wished him well and stopped all contact. Then 11 days into no contact, he messages me asking if I would do him a favour – if I would proof read his article and check it with a fresh eye though he did he asked his friend to also. I was very brief, I said he could send it, I checked and sent it back and he thanked me profusely with kisses and smileys. I didn’t say anything more or even tell him he was welcome for what I did. I wonder if answering his message was correct. I wanted him to make contact yes, but not to ask for a favour. I thought he’d apologize and want to try again. So I’m confused what his contact was really about.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 13, 2017 at 9:50 pm
Hi Saron,
actually nc was broken when you answered.. But since it was only month,I think you should restart the count and do just 2 weeks but be very active. Improve yourself and be active in posting in social media
BC
February 12, 2017 at 9:49 am
Hi, my situation is a bit different. I was dating this guy for 4 months and he was open with me that he was also seeing other people but I didn’t expect he will get serious with anyone soon. However, a few days after our last date he texted me a long message saying that he has gotten serious with another person the night after seeing me, we agreed to be friends and I told him i won’t wait for him but hope that some day if we’re both open we can try again, we both still have feelings got each other and we made it known. We were still talking for a little bit after that but I decided to try a no contact rule on him after his last text, do you think it will work in this situation?
BC
February 13, 2017 at 4:01 am
Thank you Amor, I’m just wondering if it would work at all. When he told me he’s getting serious with that person he said he couldn’t see me romantically anymore but wants to be friends with me. And then one night he accidentally sent me a voice message st mid night on WhatsApp of that girl talking, that seems to me he was either looking at my chat or wanted to text me when he was with her. And his last text was after I posted pictures of me and a girl friend having a good time he asked if I had fun hanging with her. That is why I decided to try NC because his actions tell me that he might still like me, even though he says to just keep things platonic.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 14, 2017 at 12:01 pm
yeah, with those signs, there is a chance because he’s still curious about you
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 12, 2017 at 9:18 pm
Hi Bc,
it’s not a guarantee but your chances can increase if he sees you’re better than the girl he’s currently with.. part of that is not being too available. If he says he’s seeing other people and you dont want that, then you have to walk away..So, that you’re consistent with your standards.
Be active in improving yourself during nc and after it while slowly building rapport witg him.. check the advice on this one too:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)
SB
February 8, 2017 at 11:41 am
What happens if you were only dating 2 months. I fell hard for this guy as we spoke a lot about future, I thought he’d fallen for me too. His mum is unwell with dementia and now living with him so he acts as her Carer, but also runs a business. He started sending mixed signals saying he really likes me but needs to take it slow for now… I think I then pushed him and we last spoke 3 days ago where he said he really appreciates that I’m trying to understand the situation with him and his mum, etc, he just doesn’t have time at the moment. We haven’t spoken since.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 8, 2017 at 5:10 pm
Hi SB,
since it was only 2 months, I think you should only do 21 days or 30 at max.. Be active in your life and in posting in social media, to show him that you’re not a responsibility and that you have a life.
Humz
February 6, 2017 at 11:11 pm
Hi, i was in a long distance relationship with a guy who suffered a spinal injury&ended up in a wheelchair when he was 17 (hes now 24). We were madly in love he had given me a key to his house i saw him every week for 8 days…we even filmed for a catch up for a tv show called the undateables to show he had found love. This was all initated by him including him wanting me to move in April. Then he just got cold feet before christmas. I did make the mistake of begging until i found this website. Im currently on day 8 of no contact. The thing is he is extremly stubborn (not sure if his condition has to do with it) but i was his first serious relationship since his accident….i did alot for him emotionally&physically…but find it very strange that he went on being mad on me to just shutting me down…
Humz
February 9, 2017 at 5:04 pm
Ahh right okay thank you Amor…
Currently on Day 12 of no contact and feeling very liberated…he hasnt text or anything but i honestly think thats because he has been used to me always chasing him…
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 9, 2017 at 9:00 pm
lets’ say that it is because of that, then that’s all the more reason for you to be more active.. He has to think you’re moving on, has a life, and improving massively, for him to feel regret.
Humz
February 7, 2017 at 8:10 pm
And how would i do that? We’re still friends on all social media platforms…&ive posted photos and stuff of me and my friends whilst being out…im going quite strong with NC at the moment. All my friends have told me not to text him full stop until he messages me…but ive read the article about the stubborn guy that says i would probably have to make the first move…his mum has rang me a few times saying he keeps looking at a photobook of us i had got him for christmas but hes been very cool throughout the whole thing and hasnt really given anything away…
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 8, 2017 at 12:15 am
that’s good that your friends in social..be active in your life and in posting..your posts are your indirect way of showing that because he’ll probably check it
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 7, 2017 at 6:28 pm
Hi Humz,
if he’s stubborn then he has to see that you’re moving on..that you’re nit going to further allow him to act out and treat you the way he treated you by moving on without fully moving on during nc..
Sammy S.
February 6, 2017 at 8:19 pm
Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and its a long distance relationship. Everything changed when he moved with his brother for a better job and our communication was great before he moved. But during the first week he told me how strict his brother is and how much he has to do.since the two weeks hes been there, his texts and calls have been less and less. I asked him if everything is ok and noticed how our communication and he told me he thinks he needs a break for right now and to focus on himself and makr himself better. I panicked and asked if he wanted to break up he said I dont know right now I need time and I said whatever it is we can work at it and he told me if wr want to fix this you have to give me the time Im asking for. He asked for a month of space I told him I respect his request for space, its been two weeks so far. I don’t know what hes thinking now or if hes gonna come back Im lost. I don’t know whats going to happen.
Sammy S.
February 8, 2017 at 12:37 am
Do you mean start tbe NC rule after he contacts me (if he does)? He asked me to give him space til the end of feb and he told me this jan 23.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 8, 2017 at 12:45 am
nope.. as in after you read this..so, that’s today..
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 7, 2017 at 5:55 pm
Hi Sammy S,
I think you should start the nc rule after reading this and the be active in improving yourself be active in posting in social media too
Gloria
February 5, 2017 at 6:13 am
What if he didnt think of anything about me or he got no feelings during the no contact rule period?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 5, 2017 at 9:40 pm
Hi Gloria,
Hmm…what’s your background?