The 5 Biggest Mistakes Women Make When Trying To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back (Video)

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Anyways, today’s video is all about mistakes. Particularly the most common mistakes that I see women making when trying to get their ex boyfriends back. Check it out!

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The other week I was searching the web and I came across the most peculiar story. Apparently a woman was arrested for texting and calling her ex boyfriend in total of 77,000 times. The story got me thinking, “What are some of the most common mistakes that women make when trying to get their ex boyfriends back?” Well, that’s what this video’s about.

Alright, today we’re going to be covering the top 5 mistakes that women make when trying to get their ex boyfriends back. Aright, so what I’d like to do is cover the top 5 mistakes that women tend to make when trying to get their ex boyfriends back. The first mistake is coming in with no plan. The second mistake is being too desperate or needy. The third mistake: gnatting. The fourth mistake is moving too fast and finally the fifth mistake is trying to get an ex boyfriend back in a pretty helpless situation.

So, what I’d like to do now is go right through it with the first mistake: trying to get your ex boyfriend back with no plan.

Mistake #1: Not Having A Plan

One of the things I love to teach women to do on ex boyfriend recovery is trying to get an ex boyfriend back within a plan, within a template. Now, you don’t have to stick to that plan a hundred percent of the time because getting an ex boyfriend back is kind of a complex process. There’s no one plan that you have to stick to a hundred percent of the time. Nevertheless, I have found that having a plan when it comes to getting your ex boyfriend back, raises your chances exponentially. Take a wedding for example, you wouldn’t just go try to get a wedding–a ring–throw in a wedding. You have to have a plan. In fact sometimes, you have to hire wedding planners, same principles applies here. You’re going to fall flat on your face if you try to “wing” trying to get an ex boyfriend back. On the other hand, if you have a plan, well it’s going to raise your chances exponentially. Okay, next up is desperation and neediness.

Mistake #2: Desperation/Neediness

It’s often said that neediness is the opposite of attraction. Therefore, if you are needy towards your ex boyfriend, he’s less likely to find you attractive. One of my wife and I’s favorite shows to watch is The Bachelor. We watch it for “research” purposes of course. But we noticed there was a contestant on there, Lace,  and she was really desperate and needy towards the bachelor when she was trying to win his affection. Now, at first he thought it was cute and liked it.  But after a while, he didn’t like it so much, in fact he found it annoying and he found it unattractive and she got kicked off. Now the last thing you want to do is be desperate, needy and annoying to your ex boyfriend because I guarantee you, if you’re desperate and needy to a point that’s crazy, he’s going to find you annoying and trying to get him back, it’s not going to work if you’re approaching this from a position of weakness. You need to approach this from a position of strength, from a position of attraction.

Mistake #3: Gnatting

Now, you may be wondering what gnatting is. Gnatting is actually an acronym for GNAT-Going Nuts At Texting. I see a lot of situations everyday on ex boyfriend recovery and one of the situations that keeps popping up even now is, women who go a little crazy when it comes to texting and calling their ex boyfriends. I’ve been trying to find a way to put it for women to make them understand how annoying this is and I thought what better way to explain this than having a bunch of gnats fly around your head. Think about it. You’re walking down the street one day, when all of a sudden a bunch of gnats fly around your head and no matter how many times you swat at the gnats to make them go away, they don’t. They just keep buzzing around. You swat they buzz. Nothing gets them to go away. You run around, they follow you, you swat again, they buzz around. Well in this analogy, you’re the gnat and you’re ex boyfriend is trying to swat to get you away. Let’ me give you another example, this is what a gnat looks like when it comes to texting. Do not do this to your ex boyfriend. Trust me. It won’t work out.

Mistake #4: Moving too fast

Moving too fast is a huge mistake. I want you to imagine something for me. Imagine that you have a blind date next week. Well, a week passes and you go along this blind date and you meet this guy for the first time. Pretty good looking guy but he asks you to marry him. Would you say yes? No, of course not. There’s a process to getting married. It takes time. Well, getting your ex back works the same way. There’s a process to getting your ex back and if you move too fast, too soon, you’re going to shoot yourself in the foot and ruin any chance you’ll have of getting him back.

Mistake #5: Trying to get him back in a helpless situation

One of the fun aspects of my job is that I get to see a lot of interesting situations. A lot of interesting relationships, and the one that always sticks to my mind is, a woman who came to ex boyfriend recovery and she wanted her ex boyfriend back more than anything. The problem is, her ex boyfriend was engaged and was about to be married. Well, to me, I kept telling her, this is a pointless situation and you should probably move on but she just went havoc. She just kept trying to get her ex boyfriend back and pretty soon, it got to the point where her ex boyfriend had to file a restraining order against her. The point I’m trying to make here is you shouldn’t waste your time trying to get your ex boyfriend in a pointless situation, a situation where you really have no hope. Now, this bags an interesting question, what kind of chance do you have in your particular situation? Well, that’s why I want to encourage you to visit my website: www.exboyfriendrecovery.com . On there, you’ll be able to find countless articles of me talking about your situation. In fact, we’re even going to have a quiz really soon. That gives you an in depth report on what kind of chance you have in your particular situation.

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Aaliyah
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Hi Chris I am currently in a really difficult situation I have broken up with my ex boyfriend again. We had broken up almost 2 weeks ago. It came out of nowhere he had told me he was not happy with me and that he didn’t see a future with me and didn’t want to be with me however I had seen him just days before and we had been talking about marriage and children he had even admitted he was happier this time around but seems to of changed. I am aware he is having financial difficulties and has… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Aaliyah,
if hea confused then give him space to think about it and to sort his problems

Aaliyah
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Hi Chris I am currently in a really difficult situation I have broken up with my ex boyfriend again. We had broken up almost 2 weeks ago. It came out of nowhere he had told me he was not happy with me and that he didn’t see a future with me and didn’t want to be with me however I had seen him just days before and we had been talking about marriage and children he had even admitted he was happier this time around but seems to of changed. I am aware he is having financial difficulties and has… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Aaliyah,
if hea confused then give him space to think about it and to sort his problems

Rachael
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The ex and I’s breakup was mutual. We ended on great terms both of us cried. He was moving back home to start school and i needed to stay where I was to finish. Although we were together for 3 years this September. Im not exactly trying to win him back but I dont understand how he has not contacted me at all in the week he has been gone. It has been 7 days and weve been doing he NC and he has added girls on social media like crazy. Is he just over it that quick. Im in… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Rachel,

you said we’ve been doing nc.. you talked that both of you will do it?

Rachael
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The ex and I’s breakup was mutual. We ended on great terms both of us cried. He was moving back home to start school and i needed to stay where I was to finish. Although we were together for 3 years this September. Im not exactly trying to win him back but I dont understand how he has not contacted me at all in the week he has been gone. It has been 7 days and weve been doing he NC and he has added girls on social media like crazy. Is he just over it that quick. Im in… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Rachel,

you said we’ve been doing nc.. you talked that both of you will do it?

Mary
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Hi 🙂

I have a big doubt. Should I break nc to say happy birthday?

Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mary,

nope..that’s not allowed during nc

Mary
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Hi 🙂

I have a big doubt. Should I break nc to say happy birthday?

Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Mary,

nope..that’s not allowed during nc

Charlene McKenna
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Hi! I am super worried that I have made some terrible choice in the month since my ex and I broke up. For starts I broke up with him because he wasn’t show his regular affection and I began to feel like he started to like someone else. After that we didn’t speak for 4 days and at that time he sent me a long message explaining how he felt and I immediately called him. Then I went to hI’m and asked for him to take me back and we’ll work it out. He said yes and I thought everything… Read more »
Charlene McKenna
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Also one time I showed up late at his house and we talked and got no where but me in tears and in his arms. He said he’s here for me and I don’t have to worry about losing him, he kissed my forehead and cheek and made sure I got home safe. We were together for 2 years and planning big things. I really can’t lose him even if it means we just becomes friends for the rest of our lives but I would love to have him.back more than anything.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Charlene,

that is before you are in active nc right? If it is gigs, then yiu really need to improve yourslef massively

Charlene McKenna
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Yes, right now I’m in nc, and I’m starting to work out and better myself. I’ve read the love languages and I understand his love language and mine. NC is 30 days right?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

yes 🙂

Charlene McKenna
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Hi! I am super worried that I have made some terrible choice in the month since my ex and I broke up. For starts I broke up with him because he wasn’t show his regular affection and I began to feel like he started to like someone else. After that we didn’t speak for 4 days and at that time he sent me a long message explaining how he felt and I immediately called him. Then I went to hI’m and asked for him to take me back and we’ll work it out. He said yes and I thought everything… Read more »
Charlene McKenna
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Also one time I showed up late at his house and we talked and got no where but me in tears and in his arms. He said he’s here for me and I don’t have to worry about losing him, he kissed my forehead and cheek and made sure I got home safe. We were together for 2 years and planning big things. I really can’t lose him even if it means we just becomes friends for the rest of our lives but I would love to have him.back more than anything.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Charlene,

that is before you are in active nc right? If it is gigs, then yiu really need to improve yourslef massively

Charlene McKenna
Guest

Yes, right now I’m in nc, and I’m starting to work out and better myself. I’ve read the love languages and I understand his love language and mine. NC is 30 days right?

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

yes 🙂

Confused
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Hi! I’m confused and I need help! My ex and I were together for six months, going on seven. We really loved each other and thought that we were going to be together forever. So my ex and I broke up earlier this month because I was upset about him going to an event with a friend and I wanted time with him. But we were working things out after the break up until I said something that I thought was a joke but he took it seriously. (This happened last week) so he broke up with me officially the… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Confused,

are you in nc now?

Confused
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Yes, I’m in nc right now.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

you need to focus on healing and being more emotionally stronger and independent because when he moves it will be harder

Confused
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Hi! I’m confused and I need help! My ex and I were together for six months, going on seven. We really loved each other and thought that we were going to be together forever. So my ex and I broke up earlier this month because I was upset about him going to an event with a friend and I wanted time with him. But we were working things out after the break up until I said something that I thought was a joke but he took it seriously. (This happened last week) so he broke up with me officially the… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Confused,

are you in nc now?

Confused
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Yes, I’m in nc right now.

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

you need to focus on healing and being more emotionally stronger and independent because when he moves it will be harder

To Nhu
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HI AMOR I will tell u my story short enough for u to understand, so u can help me darling. I am a 26 yrs olds, sensitive, quite good looking, smart doctor. I have first met my first love 6 months ago on a duty night shift. He is also a doctor and works together with me in same hospital. We felt in love each others so quickly. We had so much happy memories, i know that he loves me a lot when he started to chase me at first days Iam a classical asian girl, he doesnt have sex… Read more »
To Nhu
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Dear Amor, i forgot to mention, he is 31years old, the reason I coundt let it go is that, i feel like i can take him back if i keep trying harder, he had promised me a lot about future…. And at this stage, should I delete his Facebook ? I should wait untill his birthday to text him again, or just 30 days ? Cause it has been 15 days

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi To Nhu,

I think you became clingy.. And it’s still apparent. Showing up at his door at 12 am? Are you serious or is that a joke? Cause that shows that you want to smother him.. which by this time is not appropriate anymore because you’ve broken up.. That’s chasing him. You have to aim to be the ungettable girl. Read this post so, you can have an idea of how to be an ungettable girl:
The ungettable girl

To Nhu
Guest
Dear AMOR, thank for your advice, in last 2 days, Some things has happened, and look liked I have done the stupid thing again. My DAD was ill and had to be checked up in the hospital for serious health problem. Im so worry for him, and in the weak moment, I texted my ex to tell him the situation. He did text me back, but only with really minimum cool answer like strangers, instead of calling me to comfort me, which is normal reaction that normal friend would do!! . Im so disappointed about his attitude, cause when i… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

don’t do that.. he probably thinks you’re still chasing him.. if you’re invited of course you can go.. but it’s better if you build rapport first.. and focus on aiming to be the independent and being the ungettable girl

To Nhu
Guest
Think about my previous behavior, i feel so ashamed about myself, how can I be blinded that much …. I dont know why I text him that last message with angry and said he was bad person… He is not my boyfiend anymore, he dont have to care about me or my Dad like old days, that s not his mission, right ….? Now I feel so awkard …. If i suddenly met him, just dont know how to hide my face… In last 2 months after breaking up, I beg,cry,talk text so much, he might be tired a lot… Read more »
To Nhu
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HI AMOR I will tell u my story short enough for u to understand, so u can help me darling. I am a 26 yrs olds, sensitive, quite good looking, smart doctor. I have first met my first love 6 months ago on a duty night shift. He is also a doctor and works together with me in same hospital. We felt in love each others so quickly. We had so much happy memories, i know that he loves me a lot when he started to chase me at first days Iam a classical asian girl, he doesnt have sex… Read more »
To Nhu
Guest

Dear Amor, i forgot to mention, he is 31years old, the reason I coundt let it go is that, i feel like i can take him back if i keep trying harder, he had promised me a lot about future…. And at this stage, should I delete his Facebook ? I should wait untill his birthday to text him again, or just 30 days ? Cause it has been 15 days

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi To Nhu,

I think you became clingy.. And it’s still apparent. Showing up at his door at 12 am? Are you serious or is that a joke? Cause that shows that you want to smother him.. which by this time is not appropriate anymore because you’ve broken up.. That’s chasing him. You have to aim to be the ungettable girl. Read this post so, you can have an idea of how to be an ungettable girl:
The ungettable girl

To Nhu
Guest
Dear AMOR, thank for your advice, in last 2 days, Some things has happened, and look liked I have done the stupid thing again. My DAD was ill and had to be checked up in the hospital for serious health problem. Im so worry for him, and in the weak moment, I texted my ex to tell him the situation. He did text me back, but only with really minimum cool answer like strangers, instead of calling me to comfort me, which is normal reaction that normal friend would do!! . Im so disappointed about his attitude, cause when i… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

don’t do that.. he probably thinks you’re still chasing him.. if you’re invited of course you can go.. but it’s better if you build rapport first.. and focus on aiming to be the independent and being the ungettable girl

To Nhu
Guest
Think about my previous behavior, i feel so ashamed about myself, how can I be blinded that much …. I dont know why I text him that last message with angry and said he was bad person… He is not my boyfiend anymore, he dont have to care about me or my Dad like old days, that s not his mission, right ….? Now I feel so awkard …. If i suddenly met him, just dont know how to hide my face… In last 2 months after breaking up, I beg,cry,talk text so much, he might be tired a lot… Read more »
Tina
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Hi Chris! My husband broke up with me. We have been together for almost 18 months, and maintaining a long distance relationship (different countries) for 7 months. We have a beautiful and strong story together. I was actually preparing to move in with him again, and he was excited! He suffered a lot with the distance and used to beg me everyday to move in, and I just couldn’t at that time. Now that everything was ready, he just started to remember all the difficults moments we faced together and called me to say he felt we should start over… Read more »
Tina
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Should I remove our pictures from social media as well? I know he will be looking at my Facebook, but should I be in the pictures with the wedding ring on?

Tina
Guest
I think he still loves and wants me, because during one of the times I was begging over Skype I was wearing a dress he really loves on me, and he stared at me with a “desire look”. The problem is: his friends and family come between us a lot, and he only broke up to me after meeting several times with this friend that told him he should build some self respect… and after his mother telling him to take in consideration that one day if we had kids and got divorced, I could come back to my country… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tina,

I don’t get it, what caused him to lose trust in you and why does his friends and family think you’re going to divorce him someday?

Tina
Guest
Hi Amor, He moved to my country with me months ago, but he did not adapt well. So he came back. I could not come back with him at that time because I needed a visa first (what would take months to get), and I had to get my degree first. When he moved with me, he gave up on his car and his job. So when I decided to get my degree first, instead of moving right way, he, his family and friends thought I didn’t love him as much as he did. The thing is, I come from… Read more »
Tina
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I am on day 5 of NC. He did not text me yet, but seems pretty mad I think. First, he unfollowed me on social media, so he couldn’t see my posts… Today he didn’t unfriend me, but protected his posts from me. I remember that in one of my past relationships I got really mad with an ex boyfriend, and blocked him everywhere. When I calmed down days later I unblocked him, since I still liked him at that time. That could be what is happening with my ex husband? (We did not file the divorce yet). If that… Read more »
Tina
Guest
Hi Chris! My husband broke up with me. We have been together for almost 18 months, and maintaining a long distance relationship (different countries) for 7 months. We have a beautiful and strong story together. I was actually preparing to move in with him again, and he was excited! He suffered a lot with the distance and used to beg me everyday to move in, and I just couldn’t at that time. Now that everything was ready, he just started to remember all the difficults moments we faced together and called me to say he felt we should start over… Read more »
Tina
Guest

Should I remove our pictures from social media as well? I know he will be looking at my Facebook, but should I be in the pictures with the wedding ring on?

Tina
Guest
I think he still loves and wants me, because during one of the times I was begging over Skype I was wearing a dress he really loves on me, and he stared at me with a “desire look”. The problem is: his friends and family come between us a lot, and he only broke up to me after meeting several times with this friend that told him he should build some self respect… and after his mother telling him to take in consideration that one day if we had kids and got divorced, I could come back to my country… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Tina,

I don’t get it, what caused him to lose trust in you and why does his friends and family think you’re going to divorce him someday?

Tina
Guest
Hi Amor, He moved to my country with me months ago, but he did not adapt well. So he came back. I could not come back with him at that time because I needed a visa first (what would take months to get), and I had to get my degree first. When he moved with me, he gave up on his car and his job. So when I decided to get my degree first, instead of moving right way, he, his family and friends thought I didn’t love him as much as he did. The thing is, I come from… Read more »
Tina
Guest
I am on day 5 of NC. He did not text me yet, but seems pretty mad I think. First, he unfollowed me on social media, so he couldn’t see my posts… Today he didn’t unfriend me, but protected his posts from me. I remember that in one of my past relationships I got really mad with an ex boyfriend, and blocked him everywhere. When I calmed down days later I unblocked him, since I still liked him at that time. That could be what is happening with my ex husband? (We did not file the divorce yet). If that… Read more »
Jasmine
Guest
Me and my Exboyfriend broke up about 3 weeks ago. During the three weeks i was constantly begging and pleading for him to realize what he was doing and the risk he was making and etc. Until i found out he left me because he wanted to mess around and I guess he kind of grew apart from me because of the distance we were facing and how hard it was, since we were so used to seeing eachother everyday. He now has told me rudely that he’s done with me on so many levels, he wants nothing to do… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jasmine,

I think she’s a rebound. How is your nc doing?

Jasmine
Guest
Me and my Exboyfriend broke up about 3 weeks ago. During the three weeks i was constantly begging and pleading for him to realize what he was doing and the risk he was making and etc. Until i found out he left me because he wanted to mess around and I guess he kind of grew apart from me because of the distance we were facing and how hard it was, since we were so used to seeing eachother everyday. He now has told me rudely that he’s done with me on so many levels, he wants nothing to do… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jasmine,

I think she’s a rebound. How is your nc doing?

Psycho!
Guest
Oh boy have I made the biggest mistake and I don’t know how to recover :O So my ex basically broke up with me just over 2 months ago and we were together for almost 2 years. We are in our late 20s. After 30 NC and me initiating texts, we got on really good terms and we met up. Hooked up. Mistake I know, but that isn’t the worse thing I did… Anyways for 2 weeks he was all about seeing me and hooking up with me. Then I find out another girl is in the picture. He doesn’t… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

The truh is, he would likely not care or not notice if you nc because he has a new girl.. the goal of the nc is for you to be more emotionally stable and to start establishing that you’ve moved on and to build more attraction by going out more and being more attractive.. it’s like making him miss you not because of your absence but because of your progress

Psycho
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What tips can you suggest to help get my ex back if he recently has a new girl in his life (less than 2 months after his break up to me, where he said he couldn’t be in a relationship right now because he needs to work on himself and get his life together alone). Keep a texting rapport and try to see him every so often? (without doing drive bys!). It’s been so hard because this week he seems to not want anything to do with me. Where as before he would still text and ask to meet up… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you can’t keep hovering if he knows your intentions. Either he’ll take advantage of you or protect his current relationship. You have to stop for now, and whenever you have an interaction like bumping into each other in town, be nice.. But it’s better if you initiate contact again after some time. If he texts, reply and make it fun again and end the convo, but for now don’t initiate.

Psycho!
Guest
Oh boy have I made the biggest mistake and I don’t know how to recover :O So my ex basically broke up with me just over 2 months ago and we were together for almost 2 years. We are in our late 20s. After 30 NC and me initiating texts, we got on really good terms and we met up. Hooked up. Mistake I know, but that isn’t the worse thing I did… Anyways for 2 weeks he was all about seeing me and hooking up with me. Then I find out another girl is in the picture. He doesn’t… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

The truh is, he would likely not care or not notice if you nc because he has a new girl.. the goal of the nc is for you to be more emotionally stable and to start establishing that you’ve moved on and to build more attraction by going out more and being more attractive.. it’s like making him miss you not because of your absence but because of your progress

Psycho
Guest
What tips can you suggest to help get my ex back if he recently has a new girl in his life (less than 2 months after his break up to me, where he said he couldn’t be in a relationship right now because he needs to work on himself and get his life together alone). Keep a texting rapport and try to see him every so often? (without doing drive bys!). It’s been so hard because this week he seems to not want anything to do with me. Where as before he would still text and ask to meet up… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you can’t keep hovering if he knows your intentions. Either he’ll take advantage of you or protect his current relationship. You have to stop for now, and whenever you have an interaction like bumping into each other in town, be nice.. But it’s better if you initiate contact again after some time. If he texts, reply and make it fun again and end the convo, but for now don’t initiate.

Stephanie
Guest
Hello, My situation is sort of different as we were just “casually dating” or even borderline friends for 4 months. He and I started to text almost on a daily basis and met up only a few times as we were both busy and long distance. He admitted that he was a bit of a loner and had troubles forming friendships. He also opened up about being hurt in a past relationship from 4 years back and having childhood pains when his parents got divorced. Overall, he seemed like a sensitive guy. Recently, he started an online course to pursue… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Stephanie,

you can still do no contact.. actually that’s what you should because you’re friendzoned… you should check this post out too.
EBR 012: How To Get Out Of The “Friend Zone” With Your Ex Boyfriend

yes, he’s not your ex boyfriend but that can still apply.. 🙂

Stephanie
Guest

Thank you Amor 🙂

At this point, I am not sure if I should even try. He laid out his long term study plan until next spring – that is when the course is finished. He basically said that he doesn’t have enough time to be committed to another person and that he will go back to being a lonesome guy.

What are the chances here? pretty low right?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yeah, it looks like that’s what he is trying to say

Stephanie
Guest
Hello, My situation is sort of different as we were just “casually dating” or even borderline friends for 4 months. He and I started to text almost on a daily basis and met up only a few times as we were both busy and long distance. He admitted that he was a bit of a loner and had troubles forming friendships. He also opened up about being hurt in a past relationship from 4 years back and having childhood pains when his parents got divorced. Overall, he seemed like a sensitive guy. Recently, he started an online course to pursue… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Stephanie,

you can still do no contact.. actually that’s what you should because you’re friendzoned… you should check this post out too.
EBR 012: How To Get Out Of The “Friend Zone” With Your Ex Boyfriend

yes, he’s not your ex boyfriend but that can still apply.. 🙂

Stephanie
Guest

Thank you Amor 🙂

At this point, I am not sure if I should even try. He laid out his long term study plan until next spring – that is when the course is finished. He basically said that he doesn’t have enough time to be committed to another person and that he will go back to being a lonesome guy.

What are the chances here? pretty low right?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yeah, it looks like that’s what he is trying to say

Hailey
Guest
I have a question on what can be done if you messed up after the no contact period. My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me to work on himself and he doesn’t see a future with us. I went into NC for 30 days, to which he never contacted me. I initiated the contact and all was going well. He began texting me almost every day. It has been about 2 weeks for this. But then something happened this week (just over 2 weeks after 30 days of no contact). As were were chatting via text, he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
HI Hailey, I don’t know if you’re the same person but you’re story sounds so similar with the other commenter. Actually in those instances, for me it’s ok to point it out that it’s not nice but it’s better if you do in in a way that is humorous, like, “Oh!, too bad I’m all set and ready. Sighs.. I’m soo ready to go out.. ok, have fun staying at home but next time please be more decisive. it’s not nice to make someone do the effort then change your mind. I’m a have fun now! Ciao! Something like that..… Read more »
Hailey
Guest
I have a question on what can be done if you messed up after the no contact period. My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me to work on himself and he doesn’t see a future with us. I went into NC for 30 days, to which he never contacted me. I initiated the contact and all was going well. He began texting me almost every day. It has been about 2 weeks for this. But then something happened this week (just over 2 weeks after 30 days of no contact). As were were chatting via text, he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
HI Hailey, I don’t know if you’re the same person but you’re story sounds so similar with the other commenter. Actually in those instances, for me it’s ok to point it out that it’s not nice but it’s better if you do in in a way that is humorous, like, “Oh!, too bad I’m all set and ready. Sighs.. I’m soo ready to go out.. ok, have fun staying at home but next time please be more decisive. it’s not nice to make someone do the effort then change your mind. I’m a have fun now! Ciao! Something like that..… Read more »
Broken
Guest
Hi team.. My ex and I were together for 8 years and have 3 children.. He is 28 and I’m 27.. He cheated almost 5 years into the relationship.. We were going through a tough and stressful time.. I forgave him and we worked things out. Things improved until a year and a half ago.. I felt unappreciated and alone. Tried talking to him but never seemed to have an impact at least not for long. We started arguing and have been on and off ever since. He’s had a few one night stands/flings and so have I but we… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Broken,

I think you need space to have a clean slate.. to start over.. let him be with his new girl for now.. But work on yourself so, you won’t be too emotional and be more independent from him.. So, that next time you would be more rational.. Focus and improve yourself because you only got 30 days to do that before trying again.. BUt if you can talk to him before doing nc.. to clear everything out that would be better.

Broken
Guest
Thanks for the advice. It all happened beginning of last month and we had spoken up until last week when I decided to start minimal contact because we just kept arguing. I told him how it was from my point of view and he did the same. His family get involved alot too which makes things worse for me. He has sent messages asking how I am which I haven’t replied to and I know he checks my Facebook to see what I’m up to. He made excuses not to see the kids too even tho I had asked him… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

okay take it slow.. give it time and let him think..

Broken
Guest

Ok I will do. Is 30 day minimal contact best? Or should I do 21 or longer?? Again, thank you very much for your advice

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

the shortest is 21 days…but I think you should do 30

Broken
Guest
Hi team.. My ex and I were together for 8 years and have 3 children.. He is 28 and I’m 27.. He cheated almost 5 years into the relationship.. We were going through a tough and stressful time.. I forgave him and we worked things out. Things improved until a year and a half ago.. I felt unappreciated and alone. Tried talking to him but never seemed to have an impact at least not for long. We started arguing and have been on and off ever since. He’s had a few one night stands/flings and so have I but we… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Broken,

I think you need space to have a clean slate.. to start over.. let him be with his new girl for now.. But work on yourself so, you won’t be too emotional and be more independent from him.. So, that next time you would be more rational.. Focus and improve yourself because you only got 30 days to do that before trying again.. BUt if you can talk to him before doing nc.. to clear everything out that would be better.

Broken
Guest
Thanks for the advice. It all happened beginning of last month and we had spoken up until last week when I decided to start minimal contact because we just kept arguing. I told him how it was from my point of view and he did the same. His family get involved alot too which makes things worse for me. He has sent messages asking how I am which I haven’t replied to and I know he checks my Facebook to see what I’m up to. He made excuses not to see the kids too even tho I had asked him… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

okay take it slow.. give it time and let him think..

Broken
Guest

Ok I will do. Is 30 day minimal contact best? Or should I do 21 or longer?? Again, thank you very much for your advice

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

the shortest is 21 days…but I think you should do 30

jojo
Guest

Hi! Thanks for all the fantastic info!

I wish i had found out about this sooner.

Is there any advise on having after break up sex with your ex boyfriend? I know, big mistake.

: (

jojo
Guest
OH, god i just read that back and it didn’t come out the way i wanted it to!! I meant is there any advise on how to make a way back from having after break up sex with your ex boyfriend. When it happened, he was really affectionate after and stayed for a good few hours. He said he wanted to stay the night but had to be up early. Whilst arranging the meeting he (in no context with sex) said he was really looking forward seeing me (as we haven’t seen each other in a month). He told me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jojo

You should check this blog post out 🙂
How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back If You Slept With Him

jojo
Guest

Hi! Thanks for all the fantastic info!

I wish i had found out about this sooner.

Is there any advise on having after break up sex with your ex boyfriend? I know, big mistake.

: (

jojo
Guest
OH, god i just read that back and it didn’t come out the way i wanted it to!! I meant is there any advise on how to make a way back from having after break up sex with your ex boyfriend. When it happened, he was really affectionate after and stayed for a good few hours. He said he wanted to stay the night but had to be up early. Whilst arranging the meeting he (in no context with sex) said he was really looking forward seeing me (as we haven’t seen each other in a month). He told me… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jojo

You should check this blog post out 🙂
How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back If You Slept With Him

Serena
Guest
Hi, My ex broke up with me about two weeks ago because he decided he didn’t want to be in a committed relationship. (He is a year younger than me, and I am 19, so he said it was just because he was too young for this…) However, we always got on SO well and I really feel like the relationship shouldn’t have ended. Is there a possibility he could change his mind? After two weeks of No Contact, I caved and called him and even though we argued for a minute, he started a conversation like the ones we… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Serena,

yeah it looks like he missed you.. if you’re going to continue, be more active for yourself

Serena
Guest
Hi, My ex broke up with me about two weeks ago because he decided he didn’t want to be in a committed relationship. (He is a year younger than me, and I am 19, so he said it was just because he was too young for this…) However, we always got on SO well and I really feel like the relationship shouldn’t have ended. Is there a possibility he could change his mind? After two weeks of No Contact, I caved and called him and even though we argued for a minute, he started a conversation like the ones we… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Serena,

yeah it looks like he missed you.. if you’re going to continue, be more active for yourself

Ashley
Guest
Please help me out at here… I will copy what he wrote me tonight.. What does it realy mean? I beleive that he just wants to take it slow coz i was abit fast but im not sure… This is what he said: “Thank you for your texts and messages. I can see that you have made lots of effort and that you are a really sensitive and nice person. I am not looking for a serious relationship at the moment but don’t want to lead you on or leave you hoping I will be able to be what you… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ashley

that means he doesn’t want to get back with you and he sees that that’s what you want..

Ashley
Guest
Hi again… I didnt explain it very well… We were already together and everything was ok but later i started to txt him a lot, which is my mistake, a few days later that is the message that he wrote… But i believe, he says that he want to take it easy by sayin ‘I enjoyed the time we spent together very much but I am not in the right headspace right now to see you again regularly as I don’t want things to get over serious too soon.That doesn’t mean I wouldn’t like to see you again though so… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

If you’re still together try to takw it slow first instead of doing nc.. cut back in texting and let him text you first

Danielle
Guest
Hi. I and my ex have break up for 5 month. Since break up I keep begging him to come back. 2 month of begging I decide to start NC rule for 30 days, in this period my ex never call or text me. After 30 days I start to contact him, he told me that he want to be friend with me and I agree. We exchange texting (2 or 3 times a week, and I’m the person who start texting him). But most of the time I keep talk about the past which he don’t like or begging… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Danielle,.

I think it’s realky what you need..but don’t do it for him..do it for you because once he doesn’t show the reactions you expect, you will end up being more clingy.. do it because true love is not needy.. the relationship is just an addition to you

Ashley
Guest
Please help me out at here… I will copy what he wrote me tonight.. What does it realy mean? I beleive that he just wants to take it slow coz i was abit fast but im not sure… This is what he said: “Thank you for your texts and messages. I can see that you have made lots of effort and that you are a really sensitive and nice person. I am not looking for a serious relationship at the moment but don’t want to lead you on or leave you hoping I will be able to be what you… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ashley

that means he doesn’t want to get back with you and he sees that that’s what you want..

Ashley
Guest
Hi again… I didnt explain it very well… We were already together and everything was ok but later i started to txt him a lot, which is my mistake, a few days later that is the message that he wrote… But i believe, he says that he want to take it easy by sayin ‘I enjoyed the time we spent together very much but I am not in the right headspace right now to see you again regularly as I don’t want things to get over serious too soon.That doesn’t mean I wouldn’t like to see you again though so… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

If you’re still together try to takw it slow first instead of doing nc.. cut back in texting and let him text you first

Danielle
Guest
Hi. I and my ex have break up for 5 month. Since break up I keep begging him to come back. 2 month of begging I decide to start NC rule for 30 days, in this period my ex never call or text me. After 30 days I start to contact him, he told me that he want to be friend with me and I agree. We exchange texting (2 or 3 times a week, and I’m the person who start texting him). But most of the time I keep talk about the past which he don’t like or begging… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Danielle,.

I think it’s realky what you need..but don’t do it for him..do it for you because once he doesn’t show the reactions you expect, you will end up being more clingy.. do it because true love is not needy.. the relationship is just an addition to you

Kristen
Guest
Hi Chris and Amor, I could really use your help. My ex boyfriend and I broke up last fall. After trying everything and failing I did NC. Then I started to text him, it took a while but we finally met up and then we started hanging out regularly for two months. We weren’t back together but when we’re together we acted like a couple. I felt like we were seeing each other. My ex is sick and decided last month to move two hours away to be near family and for treatment. He’s going to be fine but he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kristen,

Let’s wait for a week first if he still doesn’t text and then proceed nc

Kristen
Guest
Hi Chris and Amor, I could really use your help. My ex boyfriend and I broke up last fall. After trying everything and failing I did NC. Then I started to text him, it took a while but we finally met up and then we started hanging out regularly for two months. We weren’t back together but when we’re together we acted like a couple. I felt like we were seeing each other. My ex is sick and decided last month to move two hours away to be near family and for treatment. He’s going to be fine but he… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Kristen,

Let’s wait for a week first if he still doesn’t text and then proceed nc

Cortney
Guest
This is a long jumbled story but here goes. I met and started dating my now ex in Oct 04. About a year and a half later he put me in a dangerous situation and I left but he stayed so I broke up with him. A few months later we were randomly on the same bus that ended up getting in an accident and we watched a man die on the side of the road. Needless to say we got back together and in January of 07 we moved into an apartment together. Everything was pretty smooth until last… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yes, start with no contact because it seems like yiu really need a fresh start each other

Cortney
Guest
This is a long jumbled story but here goes. I met and started dating my now ex in Oct 04. About a year and a half later he put me in a dangerous situation and I left but he stayed so I broke up with him. A few months later we were randomly on the same bus that ended up getting in an accident and we watched a man die on the side of the road. Needless to say we got back together and in January of 07 we moved into an apartment together. Everything was pretty smooth until last… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yes, start with no contact because it seems like yiu really need a fresh start each other

Riri
Guest

Hi I posted a comment last week and I would really like some help on my situation. I’ve noticed that all the other comments have been answered exactly a day afterwards so I would really appreciate it if my comment could be answered as well.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Riri, Sorry for the late reply. I went on Holy week break so, just starting to catch up.. The other recent comments probably has previous comments too, so when filtered their latest comments were answered as well.. anyways, that means you have to have your own life. To have balance. If he’s being cold or indifferent it depends on the situation. Maybe you’re just used to him being around and you have nothing else to be busy with so, you notice when it’s an off day for him and you get easily affected. But if you’re really busy and… Read more »
Riri
Guest

Hi I posted a comment last week and I would really like some help on my situation. I’ve noticed that all the other comments have been answered exactly a day afterwards so I would really appreciate it if my comment could be answered as well.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Riri, Sorry for the late reply. I went on Holy week break so, just starting to catch up.. The other recent comments probably has previous comments too, so when filtered their latest comments were answered as well.. anyways, that means you have to have your own life. To have balance. If he’s being cold or indifferent it depends on the situation. Maybe you’re just used to him being around and you have nothing else to be busy with so, you notice when it’s an off day for him and you get easily affected. But if you’re really busy and… Read more »
Nina
Guest
Hi. I have a huge dilemma. My ex and I started a friendship and it ended up in a serious relationship. But, I had baggage and eventually did get rid of it. I straightened myself up in every way. He also brought baggage. He is going through a divorce and he gets confused and has gone back to her for a week and decided it was me he wanted. He told me he was 100% in and loved me. Over the weekend we spent it together but we both felt tension between us and couldn’t figure out why. We still… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s right.. if he really wants you back, let him earn your trust first..don’t give in to the smiles and stares

Nina
Guest
Hi. I have a huge dilemma. My ex and I started a friendship and it ended up in a serious relationship. But, I had baggage and eventually did get rid of it. I straightened myself up in every way. He also brought baggage. He is going through a divorce and he gets confused and has gone back to her for a week and decided it was me he wanted. He told me he was 100% in and loved me. Over the weekend we spent it together but we both felt tension between us and couldn’t figure out why. We still… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

That’s right.. if he really wants you back, let him earn your trust first..don’t give in to the smiles and stares

Olivia
Guest
Hello! I am debating on purchasing the package but wanted to get a bit of pre-advice first. My boyfriend’s name is David. We have been together 3 years, and have been living together for a little over a year. We have three dogs together (1 is mine and 2 are his). We got into an explosive fight 3 days ago. I started the fight, I pushed him to the edge, and I recognize it was my fault and apologized profusely. However, now he says he just doesn’t want a girlfriend anymore. He “doesnt want to do it anymore”. Obviously I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Olivia,

has he cooled off and have you tried to have a calm convo now?

Olivia
Guest
Hello! I am debating on purchasing the package but wanted to get a bit of pre-advice first. My boyfriend’s name is David. We have been together 3 years, and have been living together for a little over a year. We have three dogs together (1 is mine and 2 are his). We got into an explosive fight 3 days ago. I started the fight, I pushed him to the edge, and I recognize it was my fault and apologized profusely. However, now he says he just doesn’t want a girlfriend anymore. He “doesnt want to do it anymore”. Obviously I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Olivia,

has he cooled off and have you tried to have a calm convo now?

Nora RoY
Guest
Hi Chris, My ex boyfriend broke up with me coz of long distance relationship. He wanted to move on but after our break up we are still in touch and sometimes he goes like he still likes me and sometimes he says he don’t and want to move on. He never calls me or text me, I am the one who always texts him or call him 1st. Now there is this girl at his work place and he is interested in that girl. He said he wants to move on and to do that he have to start dating… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Nora,

The question is, if you continue talking, do you think you have a greater chance?

Nora RoY
Guest
Hi Chris, My ex boyfriend broke up with me coz of long distance relationship. He wanted to move on but after our break up we are still in touch and sometimes he goes like he still likes me and sometimes he says he don’t and want to move on. He never calls me or text me, I am the one who always texts him or call him 1st. Now there is this girl at his work place and he is interested in that girl. He said he wants to move on and to do that he have to start dating… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Nora,

The question is, if you continue talking, do you think you have a greater chance?

Carrie
Guest
Hello EBR team I had been in a relationship with this guy for 2 months (I no not not very long) however, we had known of eachothwr for years but had both been in relationships etc. So we finally went on a date in December and hit it off immediately, it was amazing, everything I had ever wanted and he wanted it just as much. So we became inseparable, then he went away for a weekend & for some reasons some insecurities I had from a previous relationship crept in and I thought he had been up to stuff I… Read more »
Carrie
Guest

Can I also add that if we were only together 2 months and have been split for a month obviously with this contact everyday, does that month apart fall into the 66 day break a habit? Or does there have to be complete silence for the habit to break?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Carrie,

it has to be complete silence. It’s the only better next move. Are you doing it?

Carrie
Guest

Hi

I have started it today, I attempted last week but failed miserably which makes me think once again I have ruined it! There was silence for around 5 days then I see some of his family had done the dreaded delete and block from Facebook, so I asked him why as I hadn’t practically did anything nasty to him since the break etc, he said to not take it personally etc, we then started speaking about us and as usuaky he closed off and started ignoring me again. I just have no idea what this means!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

well, it’s not healthy to talk to him now, so just continue no contact

Carrie
Guest
Hello EBR team I had been in a relationship with this guy for 2 months (I no not not very long) however, we had known of eachothwr for years but had both been in relationships etc. So we finally went on a date in December and hit it off immediately, it was amazing, everything I had ever wanted and he wanted it just as much. So we became inseparable, then he went away for a weekend & for some reasons some insecurities I had from a previous relationship crept in and I thought he had been up to stuff I… Read more »
Carrie
Guest

Can I also add that if we were only together 2 months and have been split for a month obviously with this contact everyday, does that month apart fall into the 66 day break a habit? Or does there have to be complete silence for the habit to break?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Carrie,

it has to be complete silence. It’s the only better next move. Are you doing it?

Carrie
Guest

Hi

I have started it today, I attempted last week but failed miserably which makes me think once again I have ruined it! There was silence for around 5 days then I see some of his family had done the dreaded delete and block from Facebook, so I asked him why as I hadn’t practically did anything nasty to him since the break etc, he said to not take it personally etc, we then started speaking about us and as usuaky he closed off and started ignoring me again. I just have no idea what this means!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

well, it’s not healthy to talk to him now, so just continue no contact

Riri
Guest
Hi! I’ve been on this website so many times and even though my boyfriend and I are still together i feel like he takes advantage of me because I’m always so nice to him even when he’s a bit cold and indifferent to things I say or do and I’m not sure what to do or how to make him change that and I was wondering if the no contact rule for a couple of days could help even though he’s still my boyfriend. A lot of people have always told me that guys always want what the can’t have… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Riri, Sorry for the late reply. I went on Holy week break so, just starting to catch up.. The other recent comments probably has previous comments too, so when filtered their latest comments were answered as well.. anyways, that means you have to have your own life. To have balance. If he’s being cold or indifferent it depends on the situation. Maybe you’re just used to him being around and you have nothing else to be busy with so, you notice when it’s an off day for him and you get easily affected. But if you’re really busy and… Read more »
Riri
Guest
Hi! I’ve been on this website so many times and even though my boyfriend and I are still together i feel like he takes advantage of me because I’m always so nice to him even when he’s a bit cold and indifferent to things I say or do and I’m not sure what to do or how to make him change that and I was wondering if the no contact rule for a couple of days could help even though he’s still my boyfriend. A lot of people have always told me that guys always want what the can’t have… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor
Hi Riri, Sorry for the late reply. I went on Holy week break so, just starting to catch up.. The other recent comments probably has previous comments too, so when filtered their latest comments were answered as well.. anyways, that means you have to have your own life. To have balance. If he’s being cold or indifferent it depends on the situation. Maybe you’re just used to him being around and you have nothing else to be busy with so, you notice when it’s an off day for him and you get easily affected. But if you’re really busy and… Read more »
Marie
Guest
Hi Chris, or Amor. I’ve goofed up multiple times before finding this website. My ex and I broke up at the beginning of February. We were together about eight months, extremely compatible, rarely fought but that may have been because he and I both don’t handle negative confrontation. He said at first it was a lot of issues that in my opinion could have been worked on, then eventually said he didn’t feel romantically towards me anymore. He was the one who wanted this relationship so badly that he would fight with me and cry about it before we started… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Marie,

Being the ungettable girl means having your own life and walking away even if it hurts when you know you’re not being treated right. It doesn’t mean it won’t hurt, it just means you will fight when you know it’s right but you won’t beg. If you grow apart that means you either have no time or you’re interests are a total mismatch

Marie
Guest
Hi Chris, or Amor. I’ve goofed up multiple times before finding this website. My ex and I broke up at the beginning of February. We were together about eight months, extremely compatible, rarely fought but that may have been because he and I both don’t handle negative confrontation. He said at first it was a lot of issues that in my opinion could have been worked on, then eventually said he didn’t feel romantically towards me anymore. He was the one who wanted this relationship so badly that he would fight with me and cry about it before we started… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Marie,

Being the ungettable girl means having your own life and walking away even if it hurts when you know you’re not being treated right. It doesn’t mean it won’t hurt, it just means you will fight when you know it’s right but you won’t beg. If you grow apart that means you either have no time or you’re interests are a total mismatch