Today we are going to be talking about the signs that your ex boyfriend isn’t coming back.
I know it’s a scary thing to think about but it’s an important thing to understand so that you can properly diagnose your situation.
In all, there are going to be five signs that I am going to be talking about.
Each of these signs were chosen because they are the things that tend to contribute to a failed “get your ex back” campaign.
5 Signs That Your Ex Isn’t Coming Back
It’s interesting, so often you’ll see experts out there writing articles on signs that your ex is coming back but I thought I’d be a bit different and write an article about the signs that your ex probably isn’t coming back.
So, I went into my private “think tank” and came up with five signs that make it likely that your ex won’t be coming back.
- Your Ex Has Been Dating Someone New For Over Six Months
- You Can’t Get A Conversation Started At All
- Your Conversations Consistently Lack Substance
- Your Ex Is Getting Married
- It’s Been Longer Than 8 Months Since The Breakup
Now, I want to be clear about one thing before I start dissecting.
If you find yourself in a situation marred by these signs it doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t ever get your ex back.
Believe it or not but I’ve had success stories from each one of the signs above except number four.
What it means is that if you find yourself in a situation with one of these signs (minus number four) your chances of success are significantly lower.
Ok, now that we have that out of the way let’s begin!
Sign #1: Your Ex Has Been Dating Someone New For Over Six Months
Rebound relationships are something that I talk about a lot here on Ex Boyfriend Recovery.
A few months ago I got curious and asked myself a question that I wanted an answer to.
I wonder how long rebound relationships typically last?
The problem was that no matter how hard I looked I couldn’t find a legitimate answer.
In fact, no one even dared to attempt to answer it.
I decided to buck that trend and compile all of my internal data with a lot of external data to come up with a loose answer.
That resulted in me making this video,
In it I theorized that the average rebound relationship will last for around 5.2 months.
Ahem… That’s 5.2 Months For You Skimmers (I know you skipped the video.)
So, what does this mean?
Does this mean that if your ex has been dating someone new for at least six months you have zero chance of ever getting them back?
What it means is that at that 5.2 month mark your chances begin to plummet.
That’s why it’s important for you to implement the strategies here to set yourself up for success.
Sign #2: You Can’t Get A Conversation Started At All
A big deal is often made about tactics like “the no contact rule” and “playing hard to get” when it comes to winning an ex back.
However, an often overlooked thing is the importance of conversations.
In fact, I’d go as far as saying that conversations are the lifeblood of any successful campaign to get your ex back.
So, what happens when you can’t get a conversation with your ex started at all?
The answer is that it’s not a good sign.
You see, the way I look at it is that there are two parts to conversations with your ex.
This particular sign is looking at “quantity.”
Quantity focuses on investment.
So, the more conversations your ex agrees to have with you the more likely they are to invest themselves emotionally into you.
I can already hear the naysayers out there spewing criticism like,
What’s the big deal? It’s just a conversation?
There are very few limited resources in this world if you really think about it.
Sure, humans like to make a big deal about “scarcity” but if you really think about it you can always get more of something.
Lost your favorite book?
No problem, here’s another.
Went through a breakup?
No problem, there are a lot of other people you can meet.
Resources that are truly limited are big deals.
Time is one of those resources.
No one knows how much time they have to play with.
So, what they do with that time is a big deal. They may not be aware of it but on some level we understand it.
So, if your ex is investing their most precious resource into you it’s a good thing.
If they aren’t… well, that’s bad.
Sign #3: Your Conversations Consistently Lack Substance
Where sign number two was all about quantity this sign is all about quality.
Let’s pretend for a moment that you and your ex have been text for a month.
They respond at a good clip but their responses lack substance.
Instead of getting engaged and excited responses you get short and tired ones.
Notice how it skirts the line between being rude and being indifferent.
If you consistently get responses like this.
It’s not a good sign.
Now, the obvious question you have at this point is,
Wait, what can I do if I am in this situation? How can I turn it around?
Quite frankly, the best thing you can do is check out my book because I have an entire section in it dedicated to turning things like this around.
For now, let’s move on.
Sign #4: Your Ex Is Getting Married
Can I be honest with you for a moment?
Clients who come to me in this situation break my heart.
Well, perhaps that’s not entirely accurate.
It breaks my heart to break their heart.
Above I made a pretty telling statement.
I said that if you find yourself in one of the situations I am covering in this article it likely means that you’re chances have been significantly lowered. However, I have had success stories in every single situation so there is hope.
The one exception to that rule was sign number four.
Well, guess where we are?
I have yet to have a success story in a situation where your ex is getting married.
I want you to think about that for a moment.
Do you realize how many people I’ve had come through this website?
To date over 13 million people have visited this website,
Think about that for a moment.
Out of the 13 million men and women to visit this website not one has admitted that they got their ex back when their ex was getting married (or already married.)
I can’t even say that your odds are 13,000,000 to 1.
All I can say is that according to my research they are 13,000,000 to 0.
Sign #5: It’s Been Longer Than 8 Months After The Breakup
I am about to lay some serious truth on you.
And it may not be easy to hear.
Are you ready?
Contrary to what everyone will have you believe there is a point of time where your chances plummet to get your ex back no matter what you do.
Now, what do I mean by that?
It means that you have a window of opportunity where your chances “peak” and after this “peak” your chances probably won’t go up.
It looks kind of like this,
Now, is this a set rule?
No, there are always outliers but for the most part this is true.
Notice how the graph kind of makes an interesting looking triangle.
That is why I call this my “triangle theory.”
Most people fail to get their exes back because they attempt to make their moves in two distinct areas,
They either try too soon or too late.
Here’s where things grow complicated.
Everyone has a “different triangle.”
If I’ve learned one thing over the years it is that no two situations are alike.
The “peak” of the triangle is different for everyone. However, when I consult my vast knowledge of success stories I do notice one interesting trend.
Usually the “peak” occurs around three to seven months after the breakup,
How did I come to that conclusion?
Simple, most of our success stories occur around then.
Therefore, if we just consult some simple math and assume 8 months pass by since the breakup we can also safely assume that we are on the downward trend of the triangle arc.
In other words, right here,
And what did I say at the beginning?
One big mistake I see is people waiting too long to get their exes back.
Waiting eight months can significantly hamper your chances going forward.