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Victoria
November 5, 2018 at 8:51 pm
Hi Chris!
My ex broke up with me nearly 2 months ago… he went into a rebound relationship! i did the NC rule and after 25 days no contact he reached out and he said he is sorry and he wants to try and fix things.we were 9years together,work together also. We started to text,slowly then he came and visit me! We will work together again in 2weeks time! So he came and he asked me to try to fix things and he wants to be with me. So i agreed,i said we can fix things during that time when we will work again together.
Now for 2 weeks he is working with his rebound…since they started working together he changed! He is with her again i think,and he said he is confused and we will see if something can happen between us.
I went very upset and we dont talk now.
Why did he do this to me? I dont understand,please give me some advice!
Thank you so much
Chris Seiter
November 5, 2018 at 8:56 pm
Hi Victoria!
Guys do that…slide right into a rebound relationship. He sure is confused and weak and you have a right to be upset. Part of his behavior is driven by chemical hormones associated with the blush of a new relationship. I think you should employ NC in the way I teach it and focus on your own healing. My sense is that at some point in the future, he will have a wake up all as he is close to blowing it with you for good.
Hannah
November 5, 2018 at 5:09 pm
I’ve been reading your blogs and watching your videos since a month and half after my split with my bf. I wasn’t broken up with, I was ghosted. After a relationship where I was his everything, there were rumors about him flirting towards the end and he was beginning to pull away. I was nothing but amazing to him, and he left by not responding to my voicemail “Hey I want to work this out but I also need to know if you want to breakup.” It has been so painful and brutal. I sent him a letter as closure for me telling him how I interpreted his actions and that I was moving on. His mom even has expressed how heartbroken she is and has reached out to me. Did he have the grass is greener syndrome? Can someone I was with for two years really think he can just exit like that and move on? Is he plagued with guilt? What should I expect? Him to crawl back around Christmas (He also creepily sees all my stories really fast, so it’s obvious he’s still keeping tabs but won’t like my pics) Does he just need more time?
Chris Seiter
November 5, 2018 at 9:20 pm
Hi Hannah!
thanks for read my posts and watching the videos. It was mean of him to ghost you. I hate that when guys pull that stunt. Could be a grass is greener. I remember responding to your story earlier today as you sent it to my support email.
Kate
November 4, 2018 at 1:17 am
My ex has told me to ‘move on’and leave him alone
I did break his heart..and then he broke mine and justified that by what i did
Its been a year and I still love him
I think he is over me ,he blanks me if he sees me..
I cant do anything.
But i cant move on either..its a living hell actually
Is this the most hopeless post ever?!
I think at this point i need to stop reading your advice as its all redundant but it helps me nit feel so crappy..
Chris Seiter
November 4, 2018 at 4:31 am
Hi Kate!
I know it can be hard to completely let go and a very small part of you will always have select memories. But you will heal and you will travel different paths. In my eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book” there is a large section that deals with recovery. And also check out some of my podcasts that I have done with experts in the field that deal with personal recovery….you will find it on my Home Page. You are going to be OK Kate!
Anne
November 3, 2018 at 8:19 am
Am in Nairobi Kenya. In this part of the world, being bi or gay is completely unacceptable and people don’t like talking about that kind of stuff. My ex boyfriend is bi. We had a disagreement because I wrongfully assumed that he would turn gay in future. He’s been ignoring my texts but still answers my calls. We’ve set a coffee date next weekend. I love him alot and I don’t want to lose him… Please help me regain his trust… How do I show him that I care about him irregardless of his sexuality?
Chris Seiter
November 4, 2018 at 1:03 am
Just take things slow and try to be open and transparent with your feelings and encourage him to do the same.
Vee
November 3, 2018 at 1:32 am
Hi Chris!
I’d really like a response.
My ex boyfriend and I dated for 9 months. He broke up with me 3 months ago because of my insecurities and trust issues. I didn’t like the fact that he was still close friends with his ex girlfriend despite knowing that she was still very much in love with him and wanted him back, that made me quite insecure and we ended up fighting over that same issue weekly. The relationship was on and off.
He got tired of our usual fights and insecurities and broke up with me.
I did everything that made me looked desperate during the first month of the breakup Just to get him back but he told me to Move on and that he wanted us to be just friends.I have since started working on my insecurities and myself in general.
I stumbled on this site 2 months ago and I read about NC. I did the 30 day no contact and he still didn’t reach out to me. I haven’t texted him either, I know he isn’t seeing anyone yet.
I want to know if it’d be worth it to reach out to him.
Is there any chance of me ever getting back with an ex who CLEARLY told me to move on? I still love him and want him back but I honestly don’t want to give myself false hope
Chris Seiter
November 3, 2018 at 2:15 am
Hi Vee!
I can see that you have been thru a lot. That is part of my program. I discuss in great detail in my 485 page eBook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” and also in select articles on the site. One needs a sensible ex recovery plan to better their chances so there are a few more things you can try. Even if it doesn’t work out, you will know you gave it your best effort.