My Ex Wants Nothing To Do With Me- How Can I Make Him?

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November 24, 2017 at 5:33 pm

Sorry in advance for the long story.
So me and my ex were toghter for 2 years . (off anf on) longest was for a month.
We had a horrible break up, i know part of it was my fault because he wanted a break (begginging of october) and i wouldnt allow it , i guess because of my own insecurites. so he ended things for good . but he also made up two lies about why the break up was for good. saying i made up lies about him and saying he was back with his ex(who he knows i always had suspesions about) he said it once before to hurt me then apologized.
i was hurt so i didnt conact him for 3 weeks , then one day a mutral friend(we only have one) told me that they were both lies. then the next day i seen him(he didnt see me) and i conacted him basically confronting him abput the lies , he still stuck to i was saying bad things about him . then stopped responding . i made the mistake of still texting even though he wasnt responding.. then i stopped for a couple days and then i comfortended him again ( i really just wanted him to admit he lied, to take the blame off me) and he told me to “Leave me the F* Alone” that was on whatsapp i read the message and didnt reply . That was 4 days ago, i feel like our realationship is over , because i havnt seen him since oct. 4 and he hasnt made contact first since oct. 16th but then again im not 100% sure because we were alwways so off and on and often fought and said mean things to each other but then end up coming back … He was my first loved and helped me and taught me so many things , even though im living my life without him , ive been working on myself, got a new job, haing out with friends and even lost a few puonds. Theres part of me still wants our realtionship back .

Shoud i ever reach out to him again ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 27, 2017 at 5:20 am

That depends on your standards.. But if you are going to try again, accept that the relationship is over..come from a point that he has moved on..

Sarah

November 18, 2017 at 9:46 pm

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend and I dated for about 2 years. I found in his phone a few months back that he had been texting 4 girls, which he never met up with. One girl was married, with a kid, and one on the way. These texts were explicit. As disturbed as I was i did find out from the girls they never met up. We chose to work through it and give it a second chance. I am insecure about his social media and I went through his phone to find he was searching for his ex and other friends that were girls. He seemed to think this was not a big deal. I wouldn’t have cared as much if we didn’t go through what we went through. He ended up saying that he wasn’t happy and needed a break. He then sent me a text that said how much he loved me, how beautiful, I was, but how it wasn’t fair for him to drag me through his rut. He is about to turn 30 and I am taking it as he is very nervous to turn 30 and realize the responsibilities that come with 30. He has never been like this and I think he is having a mid-life crisis at 30. I did mention a short time before this what we planned for a next step aka move in together, 5 year plan. I think he freaked out from this convo, but didn’t freak out in that initial convo. He sent this about a week ago and I haven’t heard from him since. He also had been adding back these girls on his account because he claimed they were friends from school and he was embarrassed I had him remove them from his account. He also blocked all my girlfriends probably thinking I would expose what he did, which I haven’t, but didn’t remove my family, myself, or any of our pictures, that are his most recent pictures on his profile, that have captions that he loved me. I feel so confused and am not sure what to do.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 20, 2017 at 3:22 pm

Hi Sarah,

Check this one:
EBR 039: Dealing With An Ex Boyfriend Who Cheats

WW

November 18, 2017 at 12:39 am

my ex of 6 years broke up with me because he said he was unhappy. hard for me to believe since he stayed in it for so long. i found out i was pregnant after the break up and then i miscarried. i didn’t tell him until after the fact because i was unsure of what he might say or do. i did some things that i’m not proud of. i incessantly called and texted him, drunk called him, and showed up at his house unannounced and uninvited to give him stuff back. he has blocked my number again and will not unblock me. i haven’t spoken with him in over 4 months. i wrote him a letter about 4 months ago saying something about the pregnancy and miscarriage but i am not sure if he even read the letter, so i didn’t get a response. then i messaged him two weeks later saying that i was sorry for my behavior and that i would like to talk before i move. then i messaged him a few weeks before i moved to a new city saying that i’d like to talk again and give him some things of his back, again no response. i have been messaging him on social media since he has blocked my number. i know that i haven’t acted right but he hasn’t either and i want a chance at reconciliation. i messaged him a few days before i left for school saying that i would like to give him his things back and that i would like some closure and would like to discuss the pregnancy and miscarriage. but he won’t even acknowledge me and i just don’t think he is being fair. he says that he knows what he wants in the future but no one knows what he/she wants in the future, not even him. it’s unfair of him to say that. his demeanor changed when i got into grad school in the same place where he wanted to go to grad school and he got wait listed. he broke up with me 3 weeks after i got into grad school where he wanted to go. i want to work things out, i want him back, and i want him back now. i found out he is seeing someone else and i lost my cool and i got his family involved and i just wasn’t thinking very clearly and i was just so upset and angry. i have since then cut off contact with them and i have been in therapy for quite sometime and will continue to be in therapy. i cannot handle the fact that he may never talk to me again. he does not get a free pass to act like this and things need to be discussed. i want him back. I am not sure if he is still with this new person, I am too afraid to look on social media to see if he is because I do not want to have another mental breakdown. All I want is him back. That is all. I am tired of people telling me to take care of myself, I have done that and I want a second chance. I have since this apologized to his mom but not his sister. As for him, I have tried to apologize but I am continuously ignored. I heard that he wasn’t seeing the new girl anymore and I want to reach out to him but I don’t know how to reach out in a way to get him to respond to me. I want to rekindle things. I haven’t reached out to him since I moved to a new city for school which was over 2 months ago. I want him back and I need your help. i texted his mom thursday and said “i hope that your son and i can talk one day too and wish him well” and she didn’t respond either. i messaged him last week via txt and my number wasn’t blocked because the message went through. all i said was “hope you’re doing well. i was just thinking about you.” no response. i understand that he may not know what to say to me or he may be doing other things but 6 years is not a freaking joke and i just want him back. i know he’s not acting right. i cannot explain why i want him back, i just do.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 3:11 am

Hi WW,

We can’t say we can give you what you want, just because you want it.. That’s like saying yes to a spoiled brat, which I know you know you’re not.. Yes, you are desperate, yes, you want him back badly, but ask yourself too, if he blocked you and his mom is not responding, does it look like continuing chasing him is attractive? No right? That’s good that you’re in therapy, keep attending to it and be honest with your therapist even if you know you’re not going to hear what you want to hear.. Yeah 6 years is long, he still might have feelings for you but continuing chasing him is pushing him away because desperation is never attractive.

Barbara

November 16, 2017 at 1:09 am

So my ex and I go to college together and we have to see each other every week. He broke up with me because he said we both had to work on our personal issues but there was no cheating or anything grave involved. I tried to ask him back but he said no and he’s not in love with me anymore. We stopped talking for about 2 weeks, and then we talked again recently because we were in an event with our friends. He approached me and said thank you for everything. He said he wanted to be friends and didn’t wan’t to lose me in his life because I’m one person just can’t ever forget. He also said thank you for everything so in a way he said it was closure for him. He recently told a friend of ours that he doesn’t see a possibility of us being together in the future, despite saying he did see a possibility before that talk. What can I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 2:20 am

Hi Barbara,

don’t mind what he said to your friends, because that can be out of ego.. are you going to do the no contact rule?

Barbara

November 16, 2017 at 12:48 am

My ex told our friends “i don’t see a possibility anymore for us being together in the future” after we had a talk which he took as “closure” we agreed to talk after a month and this is what he told our friend. What can i do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 2:20 am

Hi Barbara,

don’t mind what he said to your friends, because that can be out of ego.. are you going to do the no contact rule?

Girl123

November 10, 2017 at 1:09 pm

Hi Chris,
Me and my ex have been broken up nearly 3 months but we were speaking for about a month afterwards and during that time we had sex 3 times and slept at each other’s houses twice. He said he wanted me to not wait for him then told me we could talk things out. The first week of NC he was texting me things like ‘hey you okay?xxx’ then I waited 60 days to reply because I felt like I needed some space to move on. I sent him a message and he replied then I replied and he hasn’t sent a message since? He always checks my stories on snapchat but is just ignoring me for everyone else as he is in University now. What should I do? Does he want me back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 13, 2017 at 12:33 am

Hi Girl123,

How much did you improve yourself and how active were you in posting in sites where posts lasts? and why did you break up?

Judy

October 24, 2017 at 4:38 am

I married another man. Ex and I still texted here and there for the last 7 years….recently I told him I was thinking of cheating on my spouse with another man (at this point the ex and I were just friends, was seeking advice). He begins to tell me how I was the one for him, I was supposed to have his babies, he asked to be with me again. I got very upset because I never thought he was serious. I was hot and cold about seeing him and told him off several times, enough to make him leave. I still love him but didn’t want to ruin my life. He won’t talk to me anymore for 9 months now. Will he ever talk to me again? This has caused great pain.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2017 at 6:03 pm

Hi Judy,

If you’re not happy with your marriage, why not end it instead of cheating?

Paige

October 21, 2017 at 5:45 am

Hi, here’s a situation I haven’t been able to wrap my brain around and none of the articles seem to target it. So things were going great with Daniel, we didn’t date for a long time, but we became close very quickly. After about 3 or 4 months of dating, he ended up deciding he did not want to be in a relationship and enjoyed the single life more. This is totally understandable. We did not argue and he asked to remain friends, I denied, and said we should just go our separate ways. But now, he’s being super petty. He’s rude, removed me off all social media except Snapchat and continues to watch my story even though he acts like he hates me. What could be the purpose of this?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2017 at 12:56 pm

Hi paige,

Trying to control you.. If he wouod be angry then maybe you would want to be friends..if you were sleeping with him, then it means being friends with benefits

Curious

October 8, 2017 at 9:21 pm

Does t mean anything if your ex breaks up with you says he hates you and wants nothing to do with you .. but still responds to your text ? It’s in a cold way but he’ll still respond ?

I’m doing no contact now but was just curious as to why he even responds if he wants me out of his life he says .

Curious

October 9, 2017 at 12:52 pm

Yes right after and even a few days later . For ex . Yesterday I texted one simple message and he responded “stop textin “ .
I didn’t respond after that decided to do no contact but seems weird that he would even text .
Curious

October 9, 2017 at 3:32 am

It was about two weeks ago . He only made contact first maybe 3 times but when I make contact he responds.. a time before when he broke up with me he’ll just ignore me .. but now if I text him he’ll text back t won’t be nice but he still texts back .. Idk what to think about that .

If a guy was completely done would he still respond .
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 10, 2017 at 1:55 pm

Yes either he’s just being nice,got nothing to do, or is indifferent
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 9, 2017 at 12:29 am

Did he respond right after saying that? When did he break up with you?

Jessica

October 2, 2017 at 4:25 pm

Hi Chris,
My ex and I broke up 6 weeks ago. In text we fought about something his friend had done to him and forgiving him as I didn’t want my boyfriend making an idiot of himself or being used and it blew out of proportion. I said out of anger “I don’t even know why I bother anymore” I was talking about the relationship but as soon as I said I regretted saying that and told him it was out of anger and I just want the best for him he decided the break up was what he wanted but wanted to get back whenever the timing would be right. We kept in contact for three weeks after the break up but when I made out with another man he decided he wanted nothing to do with me and unfriended me on Instagram and snapchat but not Facebook. We were both at a club this weekend we did not talk but all mine and his friends kept telling me he was staring at me. I really believe we will get back together but I’m unsure on how to make it happen, I really need help.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 2, 2017 at 10:29 pm

Hi Jessica,

Check this one:
Get Your Boyfriend Back After A Fight

Emily

September 21, 2017 at 6:47 am

HI, My ex broke up with me on March and had a new gf on April until now. We was still sticking to each other even after he got a new gf that looks serious about for marriage. I kinda feel like we are friends with benefits all this while but he still went hiking and movie with me. Recently I did stupid stuff like texting his gf for the first time after his gf confronted me for a few times and i run away. I texted the girl to make her to force him made a decision between two. Btw he is my boss so I am seeing him almost everyday. After I have text his gf, he never contact me at all except working stuff. No text, videos call like how he use to do. What should I do now ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 27, 2017 at 10:41 am

Hi Emily,

Check this one:
EBR 009: The No Contact Rule If You Work With Your Ex

clara

August 18, 2017 at 4:02 am

I’ve been acquainted and in relationship with my bf for 6 years. Last year we broke up, he met with his new gf and only for 8 months. Finally he back to me and regretted all that was done. Yesterday he shared that in deep his heart he don’t know what actually he wants. For my side hope that he can make a decision to marry me. What shud i do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 18, 2017 at 5:36 pm

Hi Clara,

check this one:
How Do I Prevent My Boyfriend From Ending Our Relationship

Dayana

August 16, 2017 at 7:37 pm

Hi, thanks for your helpful website. I have a crush on a guy, i bumped into him on instagram via a common freind, asked him some questions and he gave his number, i didn’t contact him until i talked to him once a again after 2 weeks on instagram and he urged to talk on phone. But we had brief talk, i felt as if he only wanted to satisfy his curisity and finally i ended up putting my cards on table. I told him i liked him, asked if he had a gf or not… he said he didn’t have for almost a year… he had a breakup last year… he said it’s ok us tobe freinds… he is 32 yo and me 30… then he called me and told me sexual matters are important to him. I refused to and he got cold sort of… i tried to get close to him as i really like him… but he acts as if he doesn’t care me and he forces to reply! I don’t know what to do! All happend in a short period of time … what do you think?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 17, 2017 at 3:32 pm

Hi Dayana,
Looks like he just wants sex

Girl2

July 21, 2017 at 9:12 pm

Hello. I was with my boyfriend for 1 full year then we was off and on for 7 years. We got a 5 year old son and was living together. Since day one there was problems. I thought hings would change because we was coming out of high school and we was young and naieve. But while we was living together he was starting to entertain other woman and i was starting to think he didnt care and love me. It made me entertain others as well bt we never slept with them. We just recently broke up because we kept arguing and arguing. I was ready to settle and get married he said he wasnt ready. He still like to party and hang out and im the type i want to be home with my son. We broke up and 2 weeks later hes in a relationship with his new girlfriend. They been together 2 months now he say he really like her but i have his heart because i was his 1st love. He say she do things for him i didnt do like party and rub his back . We dont contact each other at all because when we did we would kiss touch and hug and he said he dont want to do his girlfriend like that because she havent done anything to him. He say he have to check her cell phone everytime she comes over. Im lost and dont know what to do because i love him and he is the father of my son and it hurts me because hes with his new girlfriend

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 25, 2017 at 2:39 pm

Hi Girl2,

check this one:
How To Get Your Ex Back When You Have A Child With Them

Girl

July 6, 2017 at 10:42 pm

Hi Chris I just need some advice. My ex and I got back together after a few months of no contact. We were broken up for like a year and then I spent all that time trying to get him back but when I didn’t message for a couple of months, he messaged me and said how much he missed and how no other girl was like me. We started dating again and it was amazing. We were together for 7 amazing months, we rarely fought, but he treated me so much better and we were both happy. We had a small fight but then he blew it way out of proportion and said he wanted me to leave him alone and he wanted a break up. This came out of nowhere because we were very happy and the very same day he was calling me his wife. I did beg him, I spammed his phone and i got him to agree on a break instead of breaking up. He said he’d take a break and see how he feels after but I’m not sure what to do now.

Girl

July 10, 2017 at 5:57 pm

Hi. We talked things out but he says he doesn’t want to be with me. He says he’s tired of me but I don’t believe it because there were no signs. I don’t want to do NC. I’ve done NC too many times. I don’t even think I’ll want him back again after NC.
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 14, 2017 at 9:05 am

Ok, that means you’re moving on?
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 9, 2017 at 3:56 pm

how are you now? Are you back in nc?

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