Making an ex regret their decision to leave you isn’t easy.

In this post, I intend to change that by giving you a clear and concise game plan to make your ex regret not being in a relationship with you.

Oh, and it get’s better.

All of these strategies that I’m about to unveil to you have been used by my clients who have gotten their exes back.

In other words, every strategy here has been proven by real life people who have gotten their exes back.

How To Make Your Ex Regret Losing You


To make an ex “regret” implies that you are hoping they become sad or disappointed over the missed opportunity of being with you.

Unless you have extreme confidence, this isn’t going to be a cake walk.

In all, I have identified five strategies or mindsets that you need to adopt if you want to dramatically improve the odds in which your ex regrets not being with you.

  1. It’s All About Positioning (They can’t regret losing you if you beg for them back)
  2. Utilize The Theory Of Reactance
  3. Sprinkle In The Fear Of Loss
  4. Double Down On The Best Parts Of Your Relationship
  5. Bring Your Ex Back To The Good Old Days Emotionally

Some of you may be reading that list and thinking,

“But Chris… I don’t understand anything on there… How am I supposed to use this?”

To those people I say, buckle up because I’m going to teach you everything you want to know.

Let’s begin!

1. It’s All About Positioning

I’ve been doing this for half a decade as you can see by my best selling book and the one big takeaway I’ve learned in my six plus years is that most of the time people struggle to get back with their exes because of two simple concepts,

  1. Timing (Meaning the timing isn’t right)
  2. Positioning (Meaning they aren’t in a position to where they have a shot.)

Today I’d really like to zone in on the positioning portion of the struggle.

Most of the people who fail to make an ex regret their decision to leave the relationship fail because they aren’t putting their ex in a position where they are regretting their decision.

I’ll give you an example.

Let’s say you have two people trying to get their exes back,

Person A begs and pleads for their ex back. When that doesn’t work they begin to stalk their ex. This essentially reinforces Person A’s exes decision,

And then you have Person B. This person takes a completely different approach and instead of trying to get their ex back they start to implement specific strategies designed to show their ex what they are missing.

The results are clear,

Here’s what I’m getting at.

You can’t expect an ex to regret losing you if you are poorly positioned.

Poorly Positioned = Begging for them back, looking desperate, being needy, not leaving them alone

Once you have accepted this mindset shift you will begin to look at the rest of this list as not so much a “make them regret losing me” strategy but more a positioning one.

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2. Utilize The Theory Of Reactance

What is the most popular strategy in the industry when it comes to getting an ex back?

It’s the no contact rule, right?

Here’s the funny thing about that though.

If you ask most experts out there why the no contact rule tends to be so effective they have no clue.

But I do!

The no contact rule works so well because of a psychology theory called “reactance.”

Here’s the technical definition in case you were wondering,

Reactance: is a motivational reaction to offers, persons, rules, or regulations that threaten to eliminate specific behavioral freedoms.

So, what does all this mumbo jumbo mean?

Quite simply, if someone is faced with a situation where they encounter a rule that takes a way some type of behavioral freedom they are likely to react in a way to try to take that freedom back.

It’s a close brother to “reverse psychology.”

Are you looking for evidence of how this works?

Check this picture out,

Pretty funny, right?

But how does this apply to making an ex regret losing you.

Well, when you implement a strategy like the no contact rule you are actually taking away your exes freedom to talk to you.

(I’ve talked a lot about this before)

By doing that you are stacking the odds in your favor that they are going to reach out and try to take that freedom back.

Remember, it’s all about positioning.

3. Sprinkle In The Fear Of Loss

Did you know I have a three year old daughter?

One of the most interesting things about her is that she has trouble focusing on one thing for an extended period of time.

I’ll give you an example.

Sometimes my wife and I let her watch TV.

Usually she’ll sit still and watch it for about twenty minutes but inevitably something else will catch her interest.

It’s at this point when I tell her that I’m going to turn off the TV that she throws a tantrum,

But why?

Why is it she is throwing a tantrum?

Well, I believe it’s because she is afraid she won’t get to watch TV ever again. In other words, she’s afraid she will lose it forever.

It really ties into the theory of reactance that I was talking about above.

And that brings us to how you should be handling your ex if you want them to regret losing you.

Sometimes exes need to see someone else enjoying your company for them to react with regret.

Why does this work?

Well, lets say that you decide you are going to go out on a date with someone whose had the hots for you for a very long time.

Inevitably a picture gets taken while you are having fun on the date and gets posted to social media. Your ex, who is a pretty avid social media person, sees the picture and reality hits hard.

You see, your ex may have wondered if you were dating anyone else but wondering and actually seeing it are two completely different things.

And sometimes it takes this cold hard dose of reality before your ex starts to realize what they are missing.

4. Double Down On The Best Parts Of Your Relationship

Are you familiar with something called “the peak-end rule?”

No?

Well, you’re in luck because today I’m going to teach you about it.

It’s actually something I talk a lot about when I coach people and have even talked about it in my book (link).

Here’s the break down,

The Peak-End Rule: When human beings remember an experience they remember it based on two points, the peak of the experience and the end of the experience.

This is a perfect psychological concept to grasp when it comes to breakups.

Most of the time this is the general arc of a relationship,

Notice how there is a sure rise at the beginning of the relationship and then eventually that rise plates and it’s all downhill from there.

According to the peak-end rule your ex is going to remember your time together based on two points roughly here and here,

A huge reason for why an ex doesn’t regret their decision to leave is because every time they think back on your time together they aren’t thinking of that peak portion where things were great.

Instead, they think of the end and usually the end is synonymous with some really bad stuff.

It’s hard to regret something that isn’t really anything to get excited about.

So, what you should be doing is finding subtle ways to highlight the best parts of your relationship which will reinforce that peak part of the relationship.

Luckily, I have a few strategies in mind for you.

5. Bring Your Ex Back To The Good Old Days Emotionally

This may sound a little strange but I want you to take out a piece of paper and start to list all of the best times you had with your ex.

I’d also like to add another level of complexity and require that you focus only on writing down the best times as it relates to your ex.

In other words, try to take yourself out of the equation and ask,

Did my ex really enjoy this?

If you come to the conclusion that they didn’t then it isn’t going to make the list.

I’ll wait….

…..

…..

Do you have your list?

Yes?

Perfect!

Once you have your list I actually want you to slip in some of these memories during conversations with your ex.

I actually talk about this technique a lot in my book and call it, “the memory text.”

I’ll give you an example from my own life.

One of my fondest memories is the time that my wife and I actually went on a hot air balloon ride before we were married.

Perhaps the coolest part about this experience was how it ended.

I was always under the assumption that hot air balloon pilots had a very specific place that they would land.

Turns out reality is a bit different.

Our hot air balloon pilot literally landed in someones backyard. To make matters crazier the whole neighborhood saw us coming and came to watch.

AND TO MAKE MATTERS EVEN CRAZIER.

The backyard we landed in was having a birthday party.

Here are pictures,

Do you see how awesome that story is.

Can you imagine if I told that story in a text like this,

The key is to really pick a memory that is going to incite a lot of emotion within your ex. Something that will stop them in their tracks and make them reminisce.

If you are looking for ideas I suggest you check out this guide my buddy Brad Browning did for texting your ex.

There are tons of ideas there for you to look at.

Conclusion

You made it to the end!

To be honest, I never know how to end these articles so here is all I’ll say.

I answer everyone who comments.

So, if you have any questions about your situation make sure you comment and I usually get back to people within 24 hours.

See you next time!

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131 thoughts on “5 Ways To Make Your Ex Regret Losing You”

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    Osako James Peter

    April 18, 2020 at 8:30 am

    Thanks so much I think I will try to do because I broke up with my girlfriend and I don’t the reason she left and when I try asking her she tells me to leave her for some period of time but what am seeing is she has someone else so am really heart broken and I don’t know what to do help

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    Rae

    April 8, 2020 at 3:18 am

    Hey Chris,

    My ex and I broke up 8 months ago from a 3 year relationship. Our relationship was very passionate but the last year was very rocky but we kept trying to make it work. He was even talking about rings and asked me to move in with him weeks before we broke up. Well one weekend we had a blow up and 7 days later he was with another girl. Still with her now and she is opposite of me! A few weeks after we broke up he started telling me how she isn’t me and he missed me and losing me was a big regret… but he never left her. I also was not pushing him to. Fast forward to about 3 months ago he started contacting me more. Again he would tell me he missed me and regrets losing me and wishes he could go back. But again never left her. The last few weeks he’s been pushing it more. Telling me he misses me and misses the past and hates his present life. Again telling me losing me will always be his biggest regret. Those things were said today… then he posts a picture with her on snapchat but deleted it seconds after. It was a punch to the gut. I told him I never wanted to speak to him again. I feel like he is just playing with me. Wanting to know if he can still have me?? I’m having a very hard time. What do you think his motives are?? How do I handle it from here on out.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 14, 2020 at 10:45 pm

      Hi Rae the fact he moved on so quickly I would say he is rebounding if he was not already speaking with the new girl. If you want your ex back then you need to first complete 45 days NC and then start the being there method.

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    Ayomide

    March 25, 2020 at 12:37 pm

    Hello, me and my baby daddy broke up 7 months ago and we have a son together I have r not contacted him but he contacted saying he wants to see his son and never poped up… So I did not pick his call again and I have not contacted him what do you think he wants??

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 28, 2020 at 4:30 pm

      Hi Ayomide, I would say he wants to see his child

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    Andee

    March 24, 2020 at 9:01 pm

    Hi! I enjoy reading your articles. What if the situation is slightly reversed? He didn’t breakup with me, but I broke up with him? My ex was out there looking on social media for something physical (so he says) and as soon as I found out with him I broke up with him on the spot and asked him to leave. I was shocked when he was genuinely heartbroken. I am considering getting back together with him, but since I did the breakup, should I be the one reaching out to him? Or should I wait for him to reachout to me? Thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 27, 2020 at 12:20 am

      Hi Andee, the information is still valid you still complete a No Contact and if you want them back then you need to assess the reason you ended the relationship and if that reason is not going to come back if you were to get back together

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    Jessica

    March 15, 2020 at 5:09 pm

    My ex and I broke up a week ago. This is our second break up in a year and a half and this time we lived together. He was caught getting a random girls number while out one night without me and I kicked him out. He never tried to get back in my good graces, he just left and got a new apartment. He says he made a huge mistake and would never cheat on me and does not remember doing it, however, we will never work and we do not make each other happy. Last time we broke up he met someone 6 days later and had a long-distance “relationship” with her for two months before coming back. He has already started going out and bragging to his friends about the “single life”. I’m pretty sure my case is the most tragic and helpless posted. I have started no contact today. I am going to try my hardest for 45 days and then regroup. Last time we never went more than two weeks without contact. I am afraid he will sleep around and cross a line that cannot be undone a second time and just never cared. I just want him to regret losing me and come back…I know that is pathetic. Is there any hope?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 18, 2020 at 2:50 am

      Hi Jessica so if you want your ex back, then follow the program. If you want your ex to regret losing you, work through the Ungettable information and apply this to your life. Using mutual friends, social media and making sure that you are focusing on creating the best life for yourself so that you are truly happy

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    Sharma

    February 28, 2020 at 3:54 pm

    Hlo chris
    Me and my ex recently brokeup..we were in relation since last 6 months.and the relation was an on/off again.he loved me nd I too loved him..but we were unable to create understanding during our whole relationship.his past relation before me was a very successful one but oppositfky I had a worst experienced in my past before him..during my first breakup with my first ex before him I was badly hurted and disappointed nd cheated by him..nd It took me 4 months to completely move on from him..but my first ex kept on coming back nd back but I was moved on..my first breakup killed my sense of behaving nd trusting again.though I loved my recent ex completely but I never got able to trust him..not I told him about my ex because i didnt want to talk about that bastard as it always make me depressed.but I never hide the fact that I was in relationship before him..few days ago we had a fight and that day i tried to explain him each and everything that why i always stay insecure and mistrust him i told him about my past experience nd my how badly that affected my ability to trust again..I have lied to him many times just because I didnt want to tell him about my frst ex..I used domfine else’s name as my ex..few days ago I honestly told him.everything whatever I hide from him..and i made him clear that my intentions were not hurt him nor i cheated him..i was loyal to him but the pain from my first breakup never let me to act normal..but he didnt understand me.
    He said I hurted him deeply by telling him the truth or by lying to him..I apologized..I gave him proof I made him understand.. ut he didnt trust and kept on making me feel guilty..and atlas he said he doesnt need me anymore..he just want to be away from me ..I asked him to understand my situation but he said he dont want to have any proof..
    What should I do?is it over?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      March 12, 2020 at 10:43 pm

      Hey Sharma it sounds as if you need to give your ex some space and time without talking about this issue. It will take some time for him to get over it but he will. I would say that you need do a no contact of 45 days as you keep pressing on trying to prove yourself to him is just pushing him further away at the moment

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    Trishia

    February 23, 2020 at 8:13 am

    me and my boyfriend were just in a short term relationship and is a long distance. we have broken up for over 3 weeks now and he still watches my instagram story with a new account he created bc i blocked him in his other account. he broke up with me because he said our situation is hard, we always fight and that hes tired of the responsibilities. after a week of our breakup we said to me that his decision in giving us up is final and that hes better without me. and until nowni still miss and want my ex back, whatever he did to me, bad or good, i still love him. how should i get him back especially when we cant bump coincidentally because we are far from each other. how can i make him miss me and regret leaving me?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 28, 2020 at 8:47 pm

      Hi Trishia, so getting an ex to miss you can be simply done through using No Contact, where he does not get to hear form your at all for 30 days at the least and you use social media to show how well you are doing in life since the break up

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    Naila Ali

    February 4, 2020 at 8:06 pm

    Hi.
    My ex bf left me 3 months back. The reason was his family forced him to break-up. Because we used to fight alot and his family came to know about it. He stopped contacting me blocked me from all social media accounts. He became cold and distant. I begged him to come back but he misbehaved and puts all the blame on me for ruining the relationship. I was loyal with him. I was ready to change myself. Will he ever regret his decision?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 8, 2020 at 5:37 pm

      Hey Nalia it sounds as if there was a lot of negative aspects of your relationship. I would not expect him to come back if both of you do not work on yourselves for the better.

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    Sharma

    February 4, 2020 at 2:38 am

    Hey chris
    Me and my boyfriend recently got breakup. The reason was I was getting negative guts regarding him as I was not feeling the same love nd care..so I decided to test him through fake I’d..but I doubted that it was me..he said he knew it was me and he will finish things..but he asked me for an explanation that y I did this..I didnt want to explain that his behaviour was getting on my nerve and I was feeling insecure so I did that.but in highly anger state he again asked me nd forced me to tell then I angrily said that I just did timepass which i meant that I did timepass with fake I’d not with him.but he misunderstood.nd broke up with me.he abused me..block me from whatsapp md insta.
    What should I do..do I have chances?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 11, 2020 at 11:39 pm

      Hey Sharma, so you need to go into a No contact and leave your ex have some space. While working on yourself and assessing why you felt insecure enough to create the fake profile and test his loyalty to you

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    Nisha

    November 15, 2019 at 5:57 am

    I loved this man since past 2 years but I never told him in the fear of being rejected.suddenly he sent me follow request on Instagram 1 day and started chatting with me and spent some time with me and I started loving him more but I came to know that he had a girlfriend and he was just doing time pass with me.i am depressed,I have no one to share my story with.what should I do?please help mw

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 18, 2019 at 7:42 pm

      Hi Nisha, I would suggest you take some time away from this man as you have said he has just used you to fill the time away from his girlfriend. Work on getting yourself feeling better, see a therapist for the depression and work on becoming Ungettable. Then when it has been 30 days of not talking to this guy re enter a conversation a new version of yourself so that you give yourself the chance to do the being there method. Good Luck

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    Ghdafhj

    November 11, 2019 at 7:26 pm

    What to do? I thought him as he was my everything but…..he cheated me with a girl whom he used to say his sister. I am totally broken and he is not guilty about his work he is happy with her

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      November 12, 2019 at 8:09 pm

      Thats awful, I am sorry he lied to you and cheated! You need to work on yourself for some time to get over the break up, the hurt and then remember yourself of your worth. In the mean time you need to read, read, read and make sure you are the Ungettable girl before oyu reach out to him in 45 days

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    Harsh06

    September 18, 2019 at 1:17 am

    I’m not sure what to call him but we have been dealing with each other for 3 and a half years. He wont commit. Every time I mention another female he tells me hes not in a relationship. So I dint talk to him. Then he’ll pop up at my house or call me and work his way back in, then the next few days he does it to me all over again. He tells me I dont mean it when I say I’m done with him. That I love him. When i don’t talk to him he finds a way to get in contact with me and I don’t even have social media. What is this, what should I do. Is the no contact rule the best solution for me. He thinks I’m always going to be there for him bc of how I feel about him and I think he may care more than he says I but doesn’t want to commit but he hates not talking to me either so should I just let it go even if I dont want to or see how the NC rule goes?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 19, 2019 at 9:10 am

      Hi Harsh06, so I would 100% complete a No Contact on this guy and also make sure during that time you work on becoming the best version of yourself, (I’m sure you’re great already) But look up Ungettable girl posts. They’re worth it. There are also articles, podcasts and even YouTube videos about these types of guys, Guys who one COMMIT. He isn’t committing because he thinks, he can still do better. If you want him, in a serious relationship, then you need to show (not tell) how you’re the best he’s going to get.

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    Anonymous - R

    September 2, 2019 at 2:12 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I am currently into my second week of breaking up – i am devastated. I need to know in regards to social media.

    I know radio silence is the way forward although i thought this would also be regarding posting on instagram. Do you think it’s better and okay to post whilst putting the Non Contact rule into action. If I post once a week looking amazing – is that good enough? Posting but not often would make more of an impact I thought? I’ve also took our pictures down which he may be shocked at a week ago.

    I am trying to do things differently this time and make it look like i’m taking him seriously and moving on. To post or not to post that is the question! I didn’t know if online silence could also drive a person mad and make them wonder about you more.

    Thank you!

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    eve

    September 2, 2019 at 11:14 am

    Hi Chris,

    What about a situation where you went on a couple of dates with someone ~5 and texted with them every other day. I closed off a bit physically toward the end due to my own insecurity and inexperience. We weren’t dating exclusively and he texted me that he chose to see the other girl seriously. He told me he was very attracted to me and we also share many of the same interests/ taste in music, etc. What do you think my chances are?

    Thanks

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    Donna

    August 27, 2019 at 4:42 pm

    Hi me and my husband seperated 2 months ago after he met someone else ,we talk on wasspp all the time ,he has said he does not want a divorce but sees me now as a freind ,I have been freindzoned ,I have told him i want us to get back togeather ,pleaded and begged all the things I should not of done the longer he is with the other person the closer he is getting , he lives with her and has done since day one, is it to late to ge him back or has the damage been done ,I have been advised to go no contact but am scared that will be the complete end ,I have offered him a divorce but he says he doesnt want one ,he says he loves me but not in that way as he obviously doesnt to be able to do what he has done

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    Sarah Lee

    August 20, 2019 at 3:48 pm

    Hi Chris,
    I am a high schooler going through a rough time with a guy that I had a thing with over the summer. He already graduated high school and he’s leaving for the marines in a month. We had a pretty good thing going and he said he wanted to ask me out but he wasn’t sure how it would work out since it’s the first time for us and he’s leaving. I don’t understand he’s mindset and perspective but he keeps hitting up my friend behind my back and doesn’t see a problem with it once I find out. My “friend” plays along because I think she likes him to and she met him behind my back. My guy and I were pretty close and talked about everything and I think with more time we could have worked out but my friend dragged herself Into our relationship and now he’s indirectly ended things with me. I’m not quite sure what to do since I’m losing 2 people in this. He would always act interested in me and if I played the same game he did and didn’t talk to him or open his messages he would immediately go to my friend and ask her to hang out. Sometimes he would text me and say he missed me or send random posts but it’s like he’s not trying hard enough to save us. I want to know his true intentions- weather he’s doing it to make me jealous and want me back or if he is just a player? I’m very confused:/ thank you!

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    Neha

    May 11, 2019 at 5:28 am

    During no contact, he flirted a bit, but I wasn’t in the mental frame of mind to be open so I ignored him sometimes. After no contact, I felt guilty. We talked over the phone as friends. I wanted to hint to him that I still like him, probably in the hope of getting his attention again. But he was suddenly about to hang up the phone and I blurted out ” I’m really sorry for closing up like that. I was immature and didn’t know how to handle the situation. I was like, if I keep acting like this, I’ll lose him”. He said that it was totally understandable. I kicked myself for saying that. I didn’t tell him that I still liked him. But what I said wasn’t even true since I didn’t cut him off entirely and it sounded needy and as if I fear losing him.
    How do I earn his respect back? I’ve seen a slight change in behaviour since he doesn’t like my pictures and send me memes anymore. I don’t know if I want to date him or not, but I guess being friends is okay with me. I want him to make effort and respect me.

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    Joules Arias

    April 29, 2019 at 3:41 pm

    Hi Chris,
    Ill shorten it up because it seems quite a lot,
    The main reasons why he broke up with me is because I kept pushing him away when we’d argue and he then took that as me not trying to fix our problems right away and that he was putting in more effort. The other is, he wasn’t honest about the way he was feeling with this in order to keep me happy and then eventually he got unhappy.
    He wants me to be happy and apparently he was just hurt seeing me cry.
    Me and him have been through so much together, and we were both in love. We both saw that future together. Me and him, and everyone else around saw us as an amazing couple who looked so happy to be with one another.
    Not even a week after the break up, I tried to give him space when he thought the opposite and then I didn’t expect to see him so soon, at a party too. Me and him ended up not being sober, and talking to just one another, laughing like nothing’s changed. He took me home and even gave me his jacket cause I was cold. We ended up being honest to one another in the car, on our way to my house, and he thought that I wouldn’t want to deal with him because of the horrible thing he did to me (break up with me and make me cry). I told him that I didn’t care, that I forgive him already and that his happiness is all I care about. I went off on that feeling and then he started to cry. I asked what was wrong? And if it was my fault but he said everything was fine. I said you can always come to me if you need anything, and he already knew. He said “I know I shouldn’t say this, but I really want to.” It took him a minute to say it but he said, “I regret breaking up with you, and I’ve been thinking about this now and then”.
    And now I’m confused because the next day I talked him like it was normal and confessed how I’m trying to better myself and how I’m healing.
    And he even admitted that he’s still so comfortable with me and even though he shouldn’t talk to me, he still does.
    I’m more confused than sad about the break up because it seems like he won’t take me back because he thinks it’s the best decision so I don’t know what to do.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      April 29, 2019 at 9:00 pm

      Hi Joules…. I know all this period can be confusing with your ex’s changing behavior. Usually its best to have a sensible ex recovery plan so you are at least doing things to maximize your chances. I would recommend my eBook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro”. He doesn’t seem to appreciate you fully, but with some extended time and space and the implementation of some other tactics, you could turn this around.

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    Gingging

    April 21, 2019 at 2:03 am

    Hi Chris.
    I am your devoted reader in your articles about on how to get an ex back and on how to get over my present breakup. He texted me that will broke up . I was shocked and then I did everything what you mentioned in your articles on what not to do. I hugely did the wrong thing being GNATT. We only have misunderstandings in phone but we dont quarrel in person..I admitted I am a needy and clingy girlfriend in phone but as far as I remember we dont have problem if we are together. He lives 3 hours of travel from my place due to of his work assignment. We only have a meeting together in every 15 days of the month during his day off. Therefore , we spent together in a month only 4 days..the rest of us is through texting and phone calls. And then finally I decided to back off and do no contact. Its been 10 days now since I started. My boyfriend is a stubborn man and full of pride of himself. He wants everyone will bow down on him . I have a decision to do it till it ends. He never contacted me since the last text I got from him.I dont know what he is thinking now. I kept reading in all of your articles everytime I have questions. I really want to buy your book but I am living in Philippines and its too expensive. I relied now everything reading your articles in internet and plus prayer. I am looking forward on the result of this endeavors. This is my first time of doing no contact. Is this no contact works even when he broke me up through text that was sent to me almost 2 months now? After those text, we still in contact and meet in person but I felt something different and as if I dont know him anymore. He almost angry with me in phone and rarely replies my text. If he replied it was full of anger and so thats the reason I decided to back off and do no contact…Chris , is it not yet too late of doing no contact?
    Thank you so much. Please if you have reply and advice kindly only reply through my email .
    Gingging

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      April 21, 2019 at 3:59 pm

      Hi Gingging…No, I think implementing No Contact can accomplish a lot. Feel free to check out my flagship product, “EBR PRO” (485 pages) as I try to lay it all out in detail so you understand the whole ex recovery process.

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    MelissaC

    April 5, 2019 at 4:16 am

    Hello, I need some desperate help. My ex broke up with me in January (after 10 years of being together) because he claims we were fighting too much and things werent progressing. We were fighting over financial problems, him drinking too much, partying, me not giving him constant attention (since i work alot) etc. for 3 months I tried to desperately fix things and change for the better because he made me believe I was the one at fault. (i did not do NC, my mistake) I then found out that he was in a relationship with another woman and even worse, since NOVEMBER so he was already with her before he even broke it off with me. 5 months, so I dont think its a rebound. I found out that within 2 months of them being together, they were already saying “I love you” and moving too fast. I confronted her as well and told her about us. She had no idea he was in a 10 year relationship and had a son with me (and we’ve been sleeping together so he was also cheating on her) so she got upset with him as well. I kicked him out once I found out and it hurt sooo much to do so. He had no place to go, he didnt have money nor did he have enough space in his car to put all of his things. I had no choice but to kick him out because In the end after i confronted him, he said he couldnt decide between me or the other woman in the end, he chose her. He told me a lot of hurtful things like “I dont love you anymore” “I havent had feelings for you in 2 years” and so many other hurtful things that to me dont make sense… Now he lost everything. His home and his family (My son and I).
    Even after losing everything, he doesnt seem to regret anything (yet i think because i havent seen him). He said he is trying to fix things with her Im hopelessly lost and i dont know what to do. He’s all Ive ever known and we had a life together. I gave him everything, a roof over his head, a son, delicious food, did his laundry, cleaned, even helped him pay his studies and he just threw everything away He made it seem like everything I did for him was never enough. What confuses me more is that even tho he’s trying to fix things with this other woman, he still txts me about his personal problems and his favorite things we share together (anime, video games, marvel comics and movies, soccer, etc) So Im here thinking, if he wants a relationship with this other woman, WHY IS HE TELLING ME ALL OF THIS INSTEAD OF HER????
    So I went onto her social media and it seems like they have nothing in common, she’s not even his type. She’s vegan, does yoga, enjoys festivals, etc. THINGS HE DOES NOT ENJOY. He loves eating meat, hates festivals, hates going out, he prefers to stay home, he’s a very geeky guy, etc. I dont think she likes any of the things he likes which is why he cant speak to her about those things. But then again, WHY DID HE CHOSE HER?? I just dont understand. Maybe its just a phase but I hope one day he regrets everything he did to me and realizes what he had and what he lost.
    I feel so hopeless, i feel like things will never get better and I feel like he’ll never realize what he lost and I feel like he’ll never come back
    Update*** He came by 4 days later to pick up more things and he looked horrible He told me he hasnt been able to shower, had no where to go, hasnt ate in days and had no clean clothing… i know he’s suffering. I can see it in his eyes. I just dont understand why he’s ok with losing everything with this other girl… i hope one day he misses me and regrets what he did… maybe one day he’ll appreciate everything I ever did for him. I really dont know I dont know that to do… HELPPPP

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