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sheila
September 6, 2013 at 3:18 am
please email me. I would like to ask you a question
admin
September 7, 2013 at 1:39 am
You can contact me here.
samantha
September 5, 2013 at 3:04 pm
My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago because I cheated on him. We have been talking and things have been very confusing for both of us. He does want to talk to me and even see me once in a while. Right now he wants to keep things on friendly terms, but when we met up 2 weeks ago, he wanted to hook up. I also know that he hooked up with 2 other girls since we broke up. But before we were going out, I already had experiences with other guys and he didn’t really have many with other girls (which I know always bothered him because he loved me before we were going out and I had a thing with someone else which he eventually got over.). I love him so much and I really can’t explain to you why I cheated on him 8 months into our relationship, but I did and I regret it more than anything. I told him 5 months later because I just didn’t feel like it was fair to keep it from him no matter what happens, because if I didn’t tell him, me feeling the way I do about not telling him would ruin the relationship sooner or later anyways.
He didn’t break up with me for the first 2 weeks because he really wanted to make it work, but then we both figured it would be better for both of us to just break up and do our own thing. It has been weird, but in the past 2 or so weeks we have been talking in a “friendly” way and like I said, we met up once. A few days ago we got into a long confusing conversation about how he feels and what he wants because he told me that he got with some other girl again (after asking me if I had gotten with anyone, which i didn’t). In the convo he told me that he loves me and he doesn’t want to say it because it makes things harder on both of us and he doesn’t want to give me false hopes. He said he loves me, but he doesn’t know if he can be together with me or if it would work because he is so hurt. -but he wants to see me probably this weekend when he gets back from his vacation. What should I think and how should I act? I feel like he needs more time to sort out his feelings and to see what kind of girls other than me are out there. But sometimes it just seems like he doesn’t want to get back together but then he told me that he loves me and he wants to hang out. I know that he’s confused, but so am I. I feel like he is worth waiting for to let him figure out what he really wants, but it just hurts to know that he is hooking up with other girls and going out doing the things that we used to do and I don’t know how much longer I CAN wait. I love him so much, I just don’t know what to do anymore.
admin
September 6, 2013 at 2:18 am
Do you think he hooked up with these girls to get back at you for cheating on him? Kind of his way of revenge.
You might want to check out Ex BF PRO on this site.
Also, have you tried a NC rule?
samantha
September 6, 2013 at 7:38 pm
I think he hooked up with them 1 to get “even”, but most of all because right now is the time for him to just experience other girls and see what else there is out there, since I already had different guys and he never really had as many girls. He also told me that none of them were as special as me, but he is too hurt to be together with me and he doesn’t know if it is even possible- but he loves me. I guess only time can tell at this point, and I did try not to contact him, but he would message me saying that we need to start from somewhere (friends) if we ever want to get back together. So I should write him back if I ever want a chance to get back together. To me it shows that he misses me and wants to make things work, but he is confused. Thats what I think at least.
admin
September 7, 2013 at 2:04 am
I think you are right!
CARMEN
September 4, 2013 at 4:55 pm
My ex and I broke up two weeks ago after getting into an argument. Whenever I say something that he does not like of feels I am attacking him he give me the silent treatment, just totally shuts me out. He has done this six times in the last year and a half. mind you, this is a 45 year old well educated professional man.
This time I am giving him the silent treatment. The first time the NC lasted 3 months before he sent me a text, as he is very stubborn. This time after texting him for four days in a row after he applied the silent treatment on me again I sent him the following message and have not contacted him. Do you believe he will try to contact me again after this?
“I thought you were a sincere genuine man in which I can communicate and talk to. You have showed me a different side of you that is sadly quite immature. I have realized that you are not the man I can trust nor depend on to be by my side as my lover or friend. I just wanted you to know that I will no longer pursue you in anyway. hope you find that person that fulfills you, because I deserve more that what you can and have given me. Goodbye and Best wishes”
admin
September 5, 2013 at 12:35 am
I believe that you should enter into NC and text him a certain way to get him to respond.
CARMEN
September 5, 2013 at 12:16 pm
I started the NC on August 21. which way should I text him if I decide to contact him after the NC period is over. To be honest, I just want his friendship and nothing more. how can I make that clear to him?
admin
September 6, 2013 at 2:09 am
Well, if you wanted him back I would direct you to the ebook b/c that is basically THE gameplan to follow.
If you just want to be friends keep things light and don’t try to accomplish the goal in one day.
CARMEN
September 5, 2013 at 12:19 pm
and still have the possibility of remaining friends. I have know him for over 12 years and we are the godparents of my nephew. the chances of seeing him are very hi as he is the best friend of my brother in law. I believe we should find a way to be in good terms as to not feel ackward when we see each other in family gatherings.
admin
September 6, 2013 at 2:09 am
I think you just talk to him about this tbh.
Tammy
September 4, 2013 at 12:36 pm
I have been talking to a very busy police officer that is supervisor romantically for the past four months it’s been very tough to be patient w his schedule.. The times that he has tried to see me is more so for sex. I do want too but after having out first date or time together, I realized our chemistry/connection was unlike any other man I’ve dated. Also he is in his early 40’s I’m in my early 30’s .. I over texted a few days following the last attempt that he asked me for a booty call and thought he was at work but he said woke him up in middle of night and that he was pissed.. I tried for a few days to see him but he was busy w work etc. I sent him an apology letter and haven’t heard back and it’s been over 2 weeks now. Conflicted with asking him if everything is okay with us or just leaving him alone for a solid month or two ?
admin
September 5, 2013 at 12:24 am
I think I would vote for the no contact for a month and then reasses the situation. Were the two of you official?
Also, i think you emailed me and I will get to that later tonight 😉
Val
September 4, 2013 at 5:36 am
Okay so, I’ve dated an army guy for about a month, he had asked me out last Wednesday, and on Thursday everything was going great until he over heard my sister talk to one of her friends asking how my boyfriend and I was and she was like “which one?” Now he knows that my sister and brother in law always mess with him, but she was only simply joking and he took that seriously and left. Come Saturday, -there was no contact friday- he started accusing me of things that were never my fault, we got into a heated argument that got everybody included from my sister and his battle buddies, everything escalated to quickly throwing f-bombs left and right and even somebody threatening to go kick some ass, once again barely no contact Sunday, and no contact Monday, today I finally got into contact and told him how I really felt and how things should’ve never escalated quickly like that, he only apologized to me but he said he wouldn’t for anyone else, I went ahead and visited him and tried talking to him about it in person. Even though he’s been saying he doesn’t want to talk to anyone and deleted everyone’s number, he had this bummed out look on his face, he was just saying the same things he said via text, He kept apologizing to me for how it was and how everyone got involved, yet he doesn’t want to see them. We had our last hug I believe, and that was it. Then he shot me a couple of unexpected texts that I couldn’t actually believe he would say. “I am truly srry babe that all this shit happened, I want you, but its no one else’s business, thank you for being a great person to me I love you for it.” And then another that said “Im far from happy without you with me, ill be fine sorry that people got in the way, I never meant for that, im so f*ckin sorry this sh*t happened, I hate myself, Im far from happy right now, and even more upset that other are determining our relationship, thats all I have to say lady, ill leave you guys alone now.” Is there any way he will realize and stop holding grudges and actually see me again?
admin
September 5, 2013 at 12:08 am
So, this all happened b/c your sister made an innocent joke?
heather
September 4, 2013 at 12:19 am
is 60 days too long?. i have stood my ground .
admin
September 4, 2013 at 2:55 am
Hard to say. Some situations call for 60 days.
Lucy
September 3, 2013 at 8:13 pm
I know this is soon, but my boyfriend broke up with me tonight and I loved him so much. I really miss him and am getting upset, even one of my friends said no one thought u were right for each other. But I don’t care, I just want him back any more tips???
admin
September 4, 2013 at 2:46 am
Yea, go into NC hahaha immediately!
Courtney
September 3, 2013 at 6:15 am
It’s been a month since I was broken up with and I did not do the no contact rule because we live in such a small town and have all the same friend so it’s hard. Tonight he sent me this text I am not interested in you anymore, or interested in getting back together. Theres your answer. Bye. Please stop contacting me. Then blocked me on his Instagram and Facebook. I was doing okay before all this happened and he keeps saying the same things that he did last time we broke up and we got back together stronger. I know I should start the NC rule right now but what else do I do? I want to marry this man. He’s my best friend. Thank you again!
admin
September 3, 2013 at 6:31 pm
You turned into a text gnat: read this page to know what that is: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-things-that-women-do-that-can-cause-boyfriends-to-lose-interest-in-them/
I would say during NC definitely work to evolve and improve yourself. You might also want to check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.
Lisy
September 3, 2013 at 3:09 am
I have been with my bf for 2 years we have had 4 break ups through out the 2 years, but theys never been longer then 1 month. I always ignore him and then he always come back saying he justcant get over me and promises me this wont happen again but yet he shows me thoughs promises in the beginning but the through out the end he does it again, and maybe is because ive giving him to many chances…i dont know, i would like to know what can i do to make this relationship better to try to aviod this if we do get back. Im afraid he will do it again but i feel like if i make him work hard for me back i can get him to appreciate me more next time. I coyld really use some advice.
alisha
September 20, 2013 at 3:22 pm
same boat. Been giving him chances and he hurt me again after i given him a few chances. He hasn’t called or text me in months and its getting frutrasted but i dont want to text first. Has your ex shown signs he still loves you?
thanks
Alisha
admin
September 3, 2013 at 6:03 pm
Well history is on your side certainly haha.
It seems to me the thing you are looking for is that if you do get him back how do prevent this from happening again. How to have a long lasting relationship.
Why did you break up?
Lisy
September 3, 2013 at 11:32 pm
We broke up just for a fight, cause i got tired of him threatening me everytime we have a little fight…he would say oh no im tired of all the fighting im leaving and he would never leave, until i got tired and i told him no this time your really going to leave because this is over. And thats what happen… hes like that his solution is leaving and to me that imature. Face the problem dont run from it
alisha
September 20, 2013 at 3:15 pm
my exbf has this same issue. Ive been with him for 3years. I also have the same problem youre having with breakin up then back together. I want to be with him but he’s hurt me in the past and um afraid he’ll do it again. How did you two meet? and are you two working it out?
thanks,
alisha
Lisy
September 3, 2013 at 11:40 pm
What can i do? I cant let him keep stepping over me, i need to earn my rights. I love him but i want this to change i cant deal with the whole break up and make up thing noo! And the funny part is that in a month he misses me and comes back begging and me like a fool believe him and give him chances. What advice can you give me ?
Lisy
September 4, 2013 at 2:09 pm
I am on the no contact process and im really good at it ,where do i get that ebook
admin
September 5, 2013 at 12:20 am
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/ex-boyfriend-recovery-pro/
Thanks in advance if you do decide to pick it up!
admin
September 4, 2013 at 2:52 am
Are you in NC because that sounds like EXACTLY what you need to do to get some of the power back. Also, I would like to point you towards Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO, my E-Book.
Anne
September 2, 2013 at 2:39 pm
Hi. My bf broke up with me after more than 3 years of being together. I was in Central America and he is supposed to meet up with me. His family found out..coz he’s been unemployed for the longest time so they want him to stop travelling and start working. Made sense. I didn’t know he’s going to Atlanta and work there. He lied to me that he is staying at is ex-gf’s house. Days after I found out,he said that he needed a break for the time being so he can focus on himself. Work, his health etc. Made sense. He used to be an alcoholic.. so he said, he wanted to take this time to find himself again.
He seldom calls or texts me, but when he does, he still calls me “babe” and he still tells me he loves and miss me. At times, I get depressed if he doesn’t call. He always says that he is busy. Everytime I talk to him that there is nothing going on between him and his ex. He just needed a place to stay. He always tell me that he needed solid time of work and that he will move out by January. He said he just needed to save some money.
I haven’t contacted him since Friday. I am confused, I don’t know what i am to him. I want him to fix himself, but at the same time… I do not want to lose him. We have been through a lot of things. His friends said that he’s been listening to a lot of sad songs lately. I feel like he found himself a rebound… but when i talked to him..he said he has no time, that he does not need any distractions. I don’t know what to do
admin
September 3, 2013 at 3:08 am
Stay in NC for now and complete the steps on this page: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back/
Anne
September 3, 2013 at 2:53 pm
I am on my 4th day of NC..still have ways to go. Some times, it is just so hard to breathe but I just keep reminding myself that I am tougher than this. I reviewed his messages last week.. he said that give him until january to stay in Atlanta.. So confused. Is it easier for you guys to move on? can you explain to me again how NC works on guys in general? I am dying here.
admin
September 4, 2013 at 2:13 am
It is easier for guys to move on. That is why typically you see them have the brunt of rebound relationships.
You are in a LDR? I wrote a new post on that you might want to check out.
deepika
September 2, 2013 at 11:15 am
Hi,
So i had a fling with this guy for 6 months and i asked him out but he declined. we were friends and hooked up on anf off.After 4 months he asked me out and we started dating. but due to the issues at home we decided t break up and jus be good friends.We liked each other like crazy and could not cut off.
DAy before we got into an ugly fight coz i got insecure when he spoke about other gals and we said some nasty things to each but made out after we calmed and appologised to each other.
He asked me to leave and that he did not want to see my face, hear my voice or be a part of his life before we made out.
Next morning i felt shitty and messaged him saying we need a break from us to which he agreed.
Now i really miss him and want to know what should i do for him to call or message me.
pleas help
admin
September 3, 2013 at 2:59 am
Your first step should always be NC!
Mya
September 2, 2013 at 4:53 am
Hi there,
I am looking for some advice on a bit of a complicated situation.
I met a guy online and we had been dating Long Distance for about 4 1/2 months now. We are living about 2 hours apart, so we see each other every other weekend usually. He’s absolutely wonderful, and we seemed to be getting along very well, we have the same interests, goals, values ect. He’s thoughtful, attentive, affectionate ect
Well about halfway into our relationship I found out that he gave me genital herpes (I was having my first outbreak) He did not know that he had it (and I believe him because the doctor said most people don’t know that they have it, as it is not part of regular std testing here in Canada) he is one of many ppl that don’t get any symptoms…. anyways… I know that it wasn’t his fault and so I never blamed him, he was extremely upset that this happened and that I now had herpes because of him… so we discussed that this was something we would work through together ect ect ect
Anyways, it was an emotional time for me and I was upset. After a little bit of time things started getting a bit different for us. He was calling a little less and texting not as much (although we were still in contact everyday at least by text) It’s like I felt him pulling away. I did bring it up and he said that everything was fine and that sometimes people can be quiet and calm, but my instincts were telling me something different.
So after about 2 weeks of this I broke up with him over text saying that things weren’t the same with us and I was having doubts. I know that it was wrong to text him, and we had just gotten off the phone with eachother and had made plans for the following weekend (this weekend now)
After a day of reflecting I’m really having regrets. I feel that deep down I was having resentment toward him for giving me herpes, and although I was angry for having this, and knew that really at the end of the day it was my own fault for having unprotected sex, I was so angry that it has changed my life, but felt it was wrong to be angry with him as he didn’t mean to.
So I’m thinking that this resentment, which I had not fully accepted or understood was effecting the way I was being with him also.
I thought that he was pulling away, but when I sit and think about it, I was doing the same thing, being less affectionate and not responding to texts and calls basically.
So now that I have come to this realization, I tried to call him and explain that I had made a mistake (I wasn’t going to bring up the whole resentment thing as I have worked out my feelings on my own) but he didn’t answer. I waited a cpl more days and texted him a long message saying I was sorry that I made a huge mistake and that I wasn’t trying to play games with him but I was confused about my own feelings but that I appreciated how amazing he is and how much he means to me. It has been 4 days since I sent the text and I haven’t heard anything from him at all.
I’m worried I’ve lost him for good and I also feel a bit hurt myself as if he must not care (although I know he is probably hurt)
It’s such a new relationship to have to go through this already and I know its a bit complicated but can you offer me some advice? I have called once and texted, so I figure the ball is in his court now.
Thanks in advance (and sorry for the way this message has been put together, I’m just trying to get in as much detail as I can, spare the grammar lol)
admin
September 3, 2013 at 2:57 am
I want you to visit this page: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-complete-guide-to-getting-an-ex-boyfriend-back-in-a-long-distance-relationship/
Vanessa
September 1, 2013 at 7:14 pm
So my ex we were together for 8 months and
We broke up like a week ago I broke up with him
Because things weren’t going so good he wasn’t really
Talking to me like he had interst in me so I asked him
If he still liked me and he said 50/50 I was upset so I just told
Him we should just be friends and he replied saying this
“Okay:D” like come on now what is that suppose to mean
So I don’t know if he completely lost feelings for me or not now that we broke up and
Do you know that saying “you don’t know what you have till you lose it” I wonder if he will feel that way if he will relize he misses me and relizes that
He actually does still like/love me he just didn’t know what he was feeling at that moment…. Please Comment/respond back
admin
September 2, 2013 at 2:42 am
Hahaha deep breath Vanessa deep breath.
Have you tried out the NC period yet?
Vanessa
September 2, 2013 at 3:03 am
Yes but he messaged me on Friday and I responded back:/
Was I not suppose too?
admin
September 3, 2013 at 2:47 am
Well that is ok I guess haha.
Christy
September 1, 2013 at 5:29 pm
Hi, I really hope you can advice me. My situation goes a little like this: Met this amazing army guy back in 2011 and we hit things off instantly. I’ve never had such a wonderful connection to someone. We officially dated for a while, until he found out he had to deploy to Afghanistan. He didn’t want to end things and neither did I. The last night we hung out I told him how I felt about him, but he said he didn’t have those feeling for me yet. I made a big deal about it and left. But then I texted that I didn’t want us to let go. He agreed.
After he left, we kept communicating almost every day through facebook for a few months because he told me that would be the only way we could communicate and not through phone calls. But, it didn’t seem like he wanted to keep in touch that often anymore. One day I saw a comment on his facebook where a friend of his (a girl, but at that time, I didn’t know they were only friends) told him to give her a call again ’cause she wasn’t able to answer his call. And ofcourse, being the emotional wreck that I was back then, I got jealous and called him out on it. He got mad and told me I needed to move on and that he’d never date me again and that I needed help. I kept calm and told him that it was fine and that I had been dating someone else since a few weeks back anyway (which I wasn’t, but I was just trying to get back at him). I know it was dumb and childish, but back then I didn’t know any better. I then stopped communicating with him for a while and then he contacted me again to see how I was.
We then kept a constant online facebook friendship for a year and a half, during which he told me that he missed me a lot and that he was in love with me. I even sent him a letter apologizing for how I had acted and what I told him during the breakup. So then I started getting my hopes up again and then one day, out of the blue, he mentioned that when he came back to the states he was gonna start dating someone else. I felt my heart drop to my stomach. I asked him why he had told me what he did then and he said that it seemed like I was down and that he just wanted to make me feel better and also because he didn’t know if the army was sending him back to the same city where I live. I stopped talking to him for a while, for about a month and a little after that, I started dating someone else. When he found out from the army that he was coming back to the same city where I live, he noticed on facebook that I had already met someone else and he immediately contacted me and tried reconnecting with me. I noticed on his facebook that that girl whom he was gonna date was sending him winky faces and commenting flirty things on his facebook. I didn’t care anymore though as I had been dating this other guy for a few months.
When he came back to my city, the first thing he did was text me to meet up for dinner the next day. We met up and re-established the friendship again. Things had gone wrong with the other guy and so I was single again. He invited me a few times out to eat and to hang out at his friend’s place. After a while he kissed me and we started hanging out every weekend. But then he started communicating with me less, but we still kept hanging out. Two months into it, we started sleeping with each other. But there was a month where he completely dissappeared. No texts. Nothing. On December I decided to text him again and he answered and we kept hanging out and having sex. We kept it going for 5 months and he still hadn’t asked me to be his girlfriend yet. So we met up for lunch one time and we talked about it and he said he didn’t want to be in a relationship with me, that he was just not the relationship type, but that we could still be friends. I calmly agreed and we parted ways. It hurt me a lot, but I let it be.
We didn’t talk for about 3 weeks and then he started texting me again. He kept texting me for about 2 months until one day he straight out asked me if I wanted to sleep with him. I said no, that I wasn’t looking to be his f-buddy. But then I thought about it and decided to give it a try. It wasn’t the smartest thing to do, but I had this notion that if I slept with him for a bit more and didn’t mention the gf thing, that he’d eventually realize he wanted to be with me. So we met up and he acted very nice towards me. He said that if I wanted to call him an f-buddy, that it was fine, but that he didn’t see me that way. So then after, he went out of town for a while ’cause he was on leave and then he kept going out of town for a friend’s wedding and stuff. Two months later, when he got back, I went out of town. When I came back, he went to the field for a month, so we didn’t get to hang out for a total of three months after the last time we slept together. For the first month he was on leave and stuff he didn’t text me. But when I went out of town he started texting me very often and even when he was in the field. He was super nice to me in the texts. Everything seemed different. He even wanted to take me out on a date when he came back. And when he came back he took me out to eat to a nice restaurant, he even dressed up and wore cologne (which he never did before). We talked about his life and my life, and then he kissed me and we hung out and ended up in a hotel, but we didn’t have sex. The next day he was just as sweet, telling me he was going out of town on the weekend again ’cause he needed to say goodbye to his little sister who was going off to college in Canada. He said he’d let me know when he came back. I was really happy that week. And then one day I logged onto facebook (which I had deactivated ’cause I didn’t wanna get distracted ’cause I am taking some online courses) and I noticed he had deleted me off of facebook. I was in shock. I didn’t know what or why. So I texted him asking him if he had deleted me. He said he did because he thought I was done with facebook since my account was deactivated. I then told him that I wasn’t done with facebook and that I never thought he’d delete me. I also asked him if that was the way things were going to be. He said no and that he’d add me again once he got back on his computer. I believed him, but a week went by and he didn’t add me. So I texted him on the weekend to see if he wanted to hang out and he didn’t answer my texts (2 texts) anymore. He had never done that. In the two and a half years that I’ve known him, no matter how bad the situation was, he had never deleted me from facebook nor had he ever not texted me back.
It’s been two weeks since the last time we spoke through text and one week since I texted him to hang out. I still haven’t heard from him. I’m just wondering if this time things are really over or if there’s still hope for us? I’m not contacting him for a while. I need time to think about it. Should I let go and move on? From a guy’s perspective, do you think he’ll come back again? We had a deep emotional connection, where he told me his fears and what he wanted out of life and about his family and I would talk to him about my life as well. We got along great. We laughed a lot together. The sex was amazing too. But at the same time I don’t know if he was just using me for sex. I don’t know if he met someone else either. The girl he had talked about dating had gotten into another relationship not too long ago. But i think that guy broke up with her already and she’s single again. I don’t know if he took me out on a date because she started dating someone else and I don’t know if, once she wasn’t dating that guy anymore, he decided to stop talking to me. Everything is just weird. I can’t help, but feel like I am to blame because maybe I pushed him too much too soon about wanting a relationship. Please give me your opinion. I know I wrote a lot and that I’ve made a bunch of mistakes with him, but I just wanted to get the details in, so you’d understand the situation a little more. Thanks!
admin
September 2, 2013 at 2:49 am
Of course there is hope for you.
Actually I recommend going ONE FULL MONTH without contact. So, you two were kind of already doing that on your own. Have your read this page yet?
Oh, and you might also want to check out ex boyfriend recovery PRO
nasi
September 1, 2013 at 3:53 pm
Hi,
I broke up with my ex who i love more than anything and we are from different countries and we had decided for marriage. we were studying in the same universities and due to some reasons which are mostly my mistakes like my excessive anger and my decision to take care of my parents instead of leaving my country our relationship went wrong although he loves me madly and tried too much to keep me with him. At the end he accepted things and said he wants me be happy with me and he said he lets me go with my parents but h knows that I will never marry and will love him forever like he is loving me forever. I was such a stupid to tell him to never even contact me and he said for my happiness he wont contact me ever. We departed both with broken hearts and crying faces in the airport and while saying we will love and miss each other forever. Now I am very far away from him in my country and he is in UK. I contacted him first days to say him I am sorry and I want to be with him again and it is painful to lose him but as he promised he did not reply and it is a week I stopped even e-maling him. I am thinking of gong back to UK to meet him and talk to him for a new relationship but I do not know is it good or not. I do not know what I have to do to get him back as I can not live without him. Please let me know your idea as soon as possible.
Thanks for you help
admin
September 2, 2013 at 2:35 am
Hi there,
Tomorrow (YES TOMORROW!) I am coming out with a LDR post that will help you out a lot.
Indiana
September 1, 2013 at 3:30 pm
My boyfriend and I have been dating (and living together) for 3 years. About 2 months ago, upon my suggestion, we took a 2 week break. When returning I decided to break up with him. He was devastated. I’ve since given the breakup thought and decided to say screw it and get back together, but now he refuses and claims that he “just needs time to find himself”. I love him, and this is all really dumb. I don’t know where his head is at, and I need help to get it back in the right place. Is there hope?
admin
September 2, 2013 at 2:29 am
Yea I think there is for sure!
I would say you stay in NC for a full month and do everything I recommend on Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.
Indiana
September 1, 2013 at 8:37 pm
“I just feel like you said, I’m too young. I need to experience life a little more and figure out what I really want to do before I die; It might sound cheesy, but its true. I feel like the only way to truly do so is alone, but if we were meant to be together then who knows what will happen 1,2 or 10 years from now. I’m not saying that I’m looking for you to be available in the future, but for you to stay friends with me and talk every now an then. I still have feelings for you so this is very f*cking hard, but I know that I need to go this way…” That’s a text from him, verbatim.
admin
September 2, 2013 at 2:42 am
Well, he sounds like he wants to stay friends. The only problem is that you don’t want to be friendzoned.
I would say do what’s best for you and if you haven’t already do the NC period.
Angela
September 1, 2013 at 5:35 am
Hi! this seems to be good advice so far. It has been six wks since my break up with my ex of 8months. No contact has been made from either end. I’m keeping very busy with my life and goals…i just went to NYC and i saw something that he would get a kick out of. i took a picture of it. is it okay to text him this or should i continue with no contact???
and when does this period of not speaking end?
admin
September 2, 2013 at 2:12 am
I think you can make the first contact now.
I would say check out the texting pages on this site or if you want a real good rundown of what to text him go ahead and get Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO.
michelle
August 30, 2013 at 7:08 pm
Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been broken up for about five weeks now. Were both in college and its long distance. He broke up with me for i think several reasons. I think he was unsure if “i was the one” and also he was fed up of our fighting. We have been together for over 2 1/2 years. A week ago he called me and said that he isnt going to move on and that he will either date me or be single. So then I was confused if we were on a “break” or a “break up.” Also during that phone call he said in a few weeks he wants to take me out to dinner so we can talk about things. AFter that conversation I did no contact for about 10 days but he never texted me and i broke and texted him except that his replies were very cold. I asked him if people ask if I am single or not what do I say and he said that I should say I am single but there was some jealousy in those texts because then he asked who exactly is asking im single and why. So I know he still cares. But I am confused, If he still wanted to meet up with me and take me out for dinner, why would he have really cold texts towards me. I really want to get him back he really did make me happy and I am not sure what to do anymore 🙁
admin
August 31, 2013 at 2:22 am
Hi Michelle,
I am actually about to come out with a big post on LDR. So, you might just want to check back in a few days.
Miss Flamingo
August 30, 2013 at 3:36 am
My BF of 4 years, whom I have been living with for 2.5 and we just recently moved into ‘our’ place, says to me ” i dont feel the same about you and i think it’s best that you leave”. After some begging and asking him to try and work on this with me, I told him that I need some time to find a place to go – it took me 2 weeks and I got my things and left, during which time i did not see him and only answered his texts to me about if i was sleeping at the apartment or not. The day that i gave him the keys I asked him to talk to me about why, reluctantly he agreed to talk. He said, ‘I just need to do this and you deserve to have a man that loves you and wants to be in a relationship with you’ . I said, ‘go do what you have to do’
It has been 1 week NC my question is 1) we LIVED together, I mean we had life plans to be together! Can this work? And 2) we broke up a year into the relationship due to a large age gap (9 years his senior) I did NC and he was devistaed that I did that and he was very clear in his intentions when we re-connected that he wanted to be with me ‘for good this time’
I know we have a good thing, I know he loves me and cares about me – I am willing and able to do the work to ‘get him back’ – can this work TWICE?!
admin
August 31, 2013 at 2:07 am
Can this work twice. Most people will tell you “yes” but I am going to tell you “no.” Something has to be different this time around. What you do during the NC period, how you text him, what you text him. Some aspect has to be different and very intriguing.
You might want to pick up Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO as it has helped a lot of women.
Sara J
August 29, 2013 at 8:42 pm
Ok we had been arguing alot but not over anything major, he broke up with me when I moved into my new place about 2 months ago. Our kids still talk but unless he is dropping his son off to play I don’t talk to him. I didn’t have any contact with him until I had to text him about a screen door he ordered for my house. He came over and did the work and had dinner with us, he is nice and talkative when he came over. Then nothing, I don’t hear, see or interact with him. Then I text him when my door stopped working, just asking what I need to do. He responded back he can stop by and fix it. I told him I could handle it and haven’t spoken since. I miss him dearly but don’t know if he misses me.
admin
August 31, 2013 at 1:57 am
Is he the type of guy that is proactive and will initiate texts or is he the type of guy who you have to start a convo with first before he will engage with you?