183 thoughts on “How to Make a Stubborn Ex Boyfriend Come Running Back”

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   Audrina

   October 13, 2017 at 12:12 am

   Hi, I finished NC, he texted me immediately after the first text fast forward to day 6 I didn’t keep it to 6 messages and we texted all night (a minute or two apart, but I tried to wait 20 mins in between) I ended the conversation by saying it was late and I had to pack which he said he’s still going to be up and we can still text, told him no I’ll be going to bed soon, he said he knows me and knows I’ll be up, after no reply he sent another 3 texts an hour later saying what was I doing and quit ignoring his messages because he knows me well I don’t sleep early and I’m awake lol… I forgot to mention I have my read receipts on so he sees that I saw them. Now Day 7 I tried to sent a message and I saw he blocked me! I tried to send another that night and still didn’t go through. I don’t understand how after not hearing from him at all during NC during our texting he replied immediately or sent back to back messages to suddenly blocking me for no reason. Also I want to state on day 6 he asked if I was busy that weekend and I didn’t reply right away about it but dodged it pretty well. Wouldn’t it be too early to meet up? I need help on what to do.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   October 13, 2017 at 6:48 pm

   Hi Audrina,
   Rest from initiating for now, since you’re also blocked.. Maybe 3-5 days and yes, it’s too early to meet up

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   Cara

   October 10, 2017 at 7:29 pm

   HI EBR–I love this site and value your blogs and articles!
   I know I’ve shared many times and the short of it is that my ex apologized to me after 6 months of no contact and we have had some sporadic texting since then.
   About a year and a half ago when we were dating, a guy friend told me to end the date at the restaurant to see if he’d chase me after that. I followed his advice, but prior to that my ex and I had already been intimate so in retrospect that advice may not have been the best as that’s when my ex started distancing himself and acting vindictive. He then started using the friend who set us up to spy on me for a year and find out if I had been dating or not, and play games. Like ask me out on a date and then not follow through. So in retrospect I feel like he took that as a huge insult and saw me as a tease. It now seems dumb cause like i said we had already been intimate several times before, but I wasn’t getting a full commitment from him. So that move of ending the date at the restaurant was to get him to commit, etc. It backfired. At the same time, the friend who set us up was backstabbing me and calling him names and telling me not to date him. I know Amor has said the apology was good sign and at the same time, has said I should move on. I really feel like’ I’ve tried to move on, but we had a soul mate connection. So I wanted to ask what’s wrong with me sending him an email explaining my side of all that happened? Not apologizing but it seems like there was a lot of miscommunication and the involvement of the friend (who lied to me and led me to believe he was asking her on dates the entire year cause she did not want us to date again.) At the same time he was going to her for info thinking she was helping him find out what went awry at the last date. Why can’t I send a thoughtfully written email? I have tried asking him to meet up and/or texting to build rapport but it never transpires that we get to meet. I fear I will never have the opportunity to explain my side of things and at least maybe i can re-create more interest and clear up misunderstandings. I can’t text it cause it’s too long. Thanks

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   October 11, 2017 at 9:54 am

   Hi Cara,

   It’s chasing..it’s not really wrong but you have to avoid doing it to fully move on.. But sometimes that has to happen to, because the more you chase, the more he will reject you..The hurt will help you realize that you can’t go on chasing anymore

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   April

   October 10, 2017 at 12:12 pm

   Hi Chris and the team, huge fan of the site!
   I wonder if you could give me some advice on my situation?
   I’m a 27-year-old surgeon and was dating a really lovely guy, John, for nearly 5 months. When I met him, I had recently come out of a long-term relationship and definitely wasn’t over my ex. This came through at times when I was distant from John, distracted by my phone, or nit-picked at things he did, purely because he did them differently to my ex. 3 weeks ago, John told me that he likes spending time with me but that something was missing; he told me he doesn’t want us to meet up anymore, although he also said “this won’t be the last time we speak” and suggested that we stay in touch (although maybe he was just trying to be nice?!).
   My feelings are that John and I are very right for each other, but that I met him at the wrong time, and that now I have ruined my chances with him by spending 5 months being only a distracted shadow of myself around him. We have had some great times together, and have very passionate chemistry, but I was never really open to connecting on a deeper emotional level so I can see why he felt something was missing.
   I am currently 1 week into No Contact but am worried whether maybe I should instead go and see him/talk to him and explain the above? He is unaware that I had recently come out of a long term relationship when we met. I am also aware that he is already dating other girls from Tinder and this obviously scares me because maybe he will bond with someone new before I get a chance to show him I’ve changed.
   Thank you so much in advance.
   April x

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   October 10, 2017 at 3:30 pm

   Hi April,

   Continue nc, explain it later once you get to talking abouy that again when you’ve already build rapport

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   sarahhh

   October 9, 2017 at 9:20 pm

   Hi,
   It has been 3 months since the break up (our second breakup & together for 2yrs), and we haven’t really talked since. We met up a week after the break up to exchange things, but we ended up hanging out. That made separating from him extremely hard for me. But After that I did NC for almost two months. I reached out to him via text and our conversation was short. He did not seem to be interested in talking so I never reached out again. Its been a few weeks since that last convo… I’m not sure what to do. Should I reach out again? What if I don’t get a response or a neutral response? What should I say without sounding too eager/excited? — I feel like every first contact message I draft sounds like I’m trying to get him back. Help!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   October 10, 2017 at 3:02 pm

   Check this one:
   How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact