By Chris Seiter

Updated on May 31st, 2019

There is no way around it, when someone breaks up with you, it sucks. Sometimes the blow can be softened if you had a feeling a breakup was coming soon but if you were completely caught off guard then your ego definitely took a pretty big blow :/. Nevertheless, the world isn’t over and you can definitely salvage the situation. This page is going to focus on what steps you can take to get your ex boyfriend back if he broke up with you. Now, I want to give you a little notice here, I am not one of those people that is going to fill your head up with all sorts of lies saying that the methods talked about on this page are guaranteed to have him crawling back to you. All I will say is this, if you follow the advice on this page your chances of getting him back will increase dramatically.

 Do You Have A Legitimate Reason?

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If you want this to work then you better have a legitimate reason for wanting to get back together with your ex. I can tell you I have heard a lot of stories from women wanting to get back with their exes except when I ask them “Well, what is your biggest reason for wanting to get back together with your ex boyfriend?” they can’t come up with anything legitimate to tell me. Responses like:

  • “I miss him”
  • “He is the best I will ever date”
  • “I don’t want to be alone”

are NOT good enough. Trust me, if you don’t have a truly legitimate reason for wanting to be back with your ex boyfriend then I can assure you that you won’t get the happy ending that you are searching for (and for the record when I talk about a happy ending I mean having a long lasting HEALTHY relationship.) Now, the things that I talk about throughout this website will work on someone, even if you don’t have a legit reason, but almost always couples that reunite without a good reason don’t have a very healthy or long relationship. I want you to have a healthy and long relationship so that is why I am preaching this so much.

By now I am hoping that you are screaming at your computer “CHRIS, WHAT IS A LEGITIMATE REASON?” Well, there are a lot of legit and non-legit reasons to want to get back with an ex. I wrote an entire page covering them here: Legitimate Reasons To Get Back With Your Ex Boyfriend.

Alright, enough of this nonsense, lets get to the good stuff what do ya say?

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Common Reasons He May Have Broken Up With You


As I am sure you have already figured out, men are quite complicated when it comes to relationships. There is a whole list of reasons that he may have potentially given you for the break up. Right now I don’t want you to worry about that, that is my job. What I am going to do for you is take the most common reasons that men use for a break up and tell you what they really mean. Now, I do feel it is important to mention that even though some of these reasons may be hard to face, it doesn’t mean all hope is lost, in fact, I think you will be fired up and ready to get him back after I break these down for you. Let’s take a look at the most common reasons:

  • The “it’s not you, it’s me” Excuse.
  • You don’t appreciate me
  • I don’t want to talk about it (Silence…..)
  • You Cheated On Them

The “It’s Not You, It’s Me” Excuse

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Ah, the oldest excuse in the book. There are two big things you need to realize about someone who gave you this reason. First off, most of the time they are lying to you about the real reason why they wanted to breakup. Secondly, they weren’t specific about anything that you did that caused the breakup essentially leaving you in limbo land to wonder what went wrong. Off the top of my head here are some of the REAL reasons why they wanted to breakup:

  • They did not find you physically or emotionally attractive but cared enough about your feelings to not tell you to your face.
  • Some men have short attention spans and can get bored really fast. It is entirely possible that he just got really bored with the relationship and wanted to move on.
  • His emotional and sexual wants and desires weren’t met by you. Yup, some men are real jerks just because you won’t sleep with them.

I know it may seem hopeless now but I actually have good news for you if your ex gave you the “it’s not you, it’s me excuse” but first, there are a few things that you are going to have to do. Take out a sheet of paper and list all the real reasons that you can come up with that would make him break up with you. Here is the good news, the fact that your ex cared enough to lie to you, to spare your feelings, is not a negative thing, it’s actually a positive.

You Didn’t Appreciate Him

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Unlike the reason above, this is a legitimate excuse for a guy to use. Here is the deal, if you were constantly nagging your ex or criticizing him there will eventually be a point where he can’t take it anymore. No one likes to be criticized every step of the way. In fact, nothing is a bigger turnoff to a man than a woman pointing out everything he is doing wrong. Men like to be admired and appreciated. Every time you nag or criticize him (to a great extent) you are hurting your mans confidence and lowering your value in his eyes. The good news in this case is that this is something you can fix since you control what you say. Take some time and really work on being less judgmental of him.

Lets Just Drop It (Silent Treatment)

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I will say that out of all the reasons I listed on this page this one gave me the most trouble. The only thing I can think of, if your ex gives you this reason, is that he is really angry about something that he refuses to talk about it. I will admit, this reason is really tough to deal with because your ex boyfriend isn’t communicating with you at all. In any case, this one is going to require you to do some deeper digging internally.

You Cheated On Them

A very popular topic here on our site except usually people ask about it if they were the ones who were cheated on. In this case, we are flipping the coin and looking at how you can recover if YOU were the one who cheated on them. Cheating is kind of tricky, there is a lot to go into but I don’t think this is the page is the proper place to do so, I can tell you that usually women cheat for emotional reasons. Perhaps your relationship with your ex wasn’t good, was going downhill or he wasn’t giving you something that you needed. Whatever the case, think really hard about if you want to get back with a person that literally numbed you enough that you cheated on them. I have found that a lot of times women who cheated on their boyfriends and then wanted them back do so because they didn’t realize how good they had it with their ex boyfriend until they see how bad the relationship is with their new boyfriend.

If you are in that category, don’t worry, you can still get your ex boyfriend back. However, I want to ask you to consult the list of legitimate reasons before you go through with anything. If you consult the list and decide you still want your ex boyfriend back just realize that it is not going to be easy. You hurt this person and you are going to have to work extremely hard to gain back their trust. It’s possible, its just going to be really hard.

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The Steps To Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Getting your ex boyfriend back is a very complicated subject that few are willing to dive into, luckily, I am one of those few. Here is the deal though, I am not going to give you the exact steps to getting your ex back on this page. I already created a mega page that does just that. This baby is 10,000 words long, took me a month to finish and I am confident enough to say that it is the most comprehensive “get your ex boyfriend back” free guide that is currently in existence. Yup, I am that confident. Anyways, if you want the exact way to get a boyfriend back please visit the following page: How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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1,328 thoughts on “He Broke Up With You And Now You Want Him Back”

  1. Debbie

    January 31, 2023 at 4:12 am

    Im not sure how i feel …i cant turn love off like that no closer …i feel like i deserve to at least talk to see and make sure how i feel …i will kw whn i see them and talk privately not online or phne

  2. Jean

    October 4, 2021 at 10:45 pm

    My boyfriend just broke up with me last week. We have been together for a year and we were both so happy. Then out of the blue he ended things and said he just couldn’t handle a relationship with me and it was too much pressure. I know his mom has something to do with it because she wanted him to date many girls and not just one. I love him and I want him back. I’ve been reading online how to do that and almost every website has said start with the no contact rule. The only problem is we go to the same school and have a few classes together. He told me he still wanted to be friends so we talk for a short amount of time after class. We also have a snap streak over 300 and he snapped me asking if I still wanted to keep it with him and I said yes. Is this preventing him from missing me and wanting me back? He also is remaining friends with my friend group and has been hanging around with us at lunch sometimes.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 7, 2021 at 9:04 pm

      Jean, if you want to follow the program then snapchat streak is irrelevant. You need to either No Contact correctly, or understand that this isn’t going to work.

  3. Ell

    August 24, 2021 at 7:20 am

    Hi there,
    My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. We’d been together for two and a half years, and it completely blindsided me. He didn’t give me much of a reason aside for saying ‘we’ve both been miserable’ – that is not true. He’s had a few things going on in his life that have caused bad stress and anxiety recently, and he is also suffering from depression.

    Looking back, I wasn’t a great girlfriend. Although I was always there for him, I would criticise him too much when he did things wrong and I didn’t appreciate all the things he did for me. This is certainly something I want to change.

    Ever since the break up, he hasn’t talked to me once. He’s practically ghosted me. I’ve not contacted him for 5 days (I contacted him twice, to ask a question and tell him my opinion, he responded with a polite paragraph saying ‘ I can’t I’m sorry’ to the question one and didn’t respond at all to my opinion).

    I want him back so badly. I wish I could just tell him right now how much I was willing to work for him. He’s the only person I can see myself with in the future as he’s always been my dream guy and I saw a future together with him.

    I suppose my question simply is, what do I do? I feel like he’s handling the break up really well which scares me. Eg. Not contacting me, but being polite enough to send a message back saying no, it seems like he cares but doesn’t have feelings. We’re also not the type of couple to break up and reunite loads – this is our first time breaking up, however not the first time we’ve talked about it. Usually we talk when one of us is feeling antsy about things, he didn’t do this

    Everyday is a struggle for me because I just want him back, but I’m worried the longer We’re not together the more likely he is to not get back together with me. Please tell me this isn’t a lost cause. I would do anything to see him again, but sadly he is quite stubborn and ego-y so I’m worried if he did want me back, he wouldn’t say out of pride.

  4. Layla

    July 30, 2021 at 7:23 am

    Everything was well written I like the way you wrote it . It was as if I was really having a conversation with you in real life . It was not so uptight and I didn’t have to go back and read over to get the point, for the first time . I got excally what I wanted to know from your page … Thanks

  5. Tanisha

    February 1, 2021 at 6:46 am

    My bf just broke up with me again . Everytime I start the no contact rule he comes back to me within 4 days but this time he isn’t even texting me . We had a fight about a really silly thing and he just dumped me . How do I get him back again . Will the no contact rule work again .

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      February 4, 2021 at 6:01 pm

      Hi Tanisha, you need to stick with a No Contact for at least 30 days and work on yourself in that time, allow him to worry why you are not reaching out to him or replying to him in those 30 days. Read the articles and use this information t help you follow the program

  6. Karena

    December 31, 2020 at 5:47 pm

    My ex fiance left us 5 days ago. He moved out while I was at work. The day before we had a huge fight because he didn’t get me anything for Christmas, he also decided to go to work on Christmas, he didn’t come home until late, then he said he didn’t want to eat Christmas dinner because he already ate. We were together 4 years, my son considered him his dad. We we’re happy for along time but lately it wasn’t good. I was resentful he stopped helping me clean and do things that needed to be done. I was the only one paying the bills a lot of the time (not always but majority) so in turn I became a colder person and our intimate life dropped off badly. He was upset about that but I had anamosity. We got into a bad rut and we could have tried harder to fix it because we both are good people. I want to try but he doesn’t. I pleaded with him to try but he didn’t want to, now the past 2 days I haven’t even heard from him. I’m devastated my son and I want our family back. please help me

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      January 18, 2021 at 10:01 pm

      Hi Karena, so the first thing you need to do is look after your child as he is going to be feeling this loss especially if your ex is not going to be having access / visiting your child. Make sure that he is feeling safe and that you are not going anywhere, he may even show signs of anxiety from the change. You then need to spend some time in the no contact period to allow your ex some space. I understand your frustrations with his actions, by the sound of things just got tough. If you work on yourself showing the person you were when he met you and happier and fun person he may realise where he went wrong with his own actions too.

  7. Nozipho

    December 5, 2020 at 6:22 am

    My boyfriend broke up with me he started by ghosting not really communicating with me and our mutual friend. Then I did check on him sometimes he would say his things are complicated now. He’s an intern Doctor he’s writing exams. The other day I checked on him and told him I’m worried about him. He told me he’s sorry he’s not been there, he’s just not in the good condition to be in a relationship as he doesn’t really have time. I acted desperately and texted a long text and he replied “we will talk about it, was just feeling bad that I am not giving u time”
    Out of panic I texted him again, he read it but didn’t reply.

    Me:You will talk about it?
    Him:I said so
    Me :the last time you said that u didn’t get back to me
    Him:I knw

    I texted him again saying I still love him and want us to fix things. He didn’t reply but read it. I sent a question mark, he didn’t reply. I feel ashamed that I acted needy. Feel like he must have been starting to get annoyed with me. Do u think I have chances to get him back?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      December 14, 2020 at 9:32 pm

      Hi Nozipho – you need to follow a no contact and stick with it as your ex clearly knows that all he has to do is reach out and you are there waiting. I would suggest that you stick with a 45 day no contact this time around and ignore your exes attempts to speak to you this time around.

  8. isabel Dominguez

    October 8, 2020 at 7:51 pm

    Hello , my ex boyfriend just left me without warning last year…he ghosted me &went silent , I didn’t even notice that anything was wrong & I thought he was happy…we were together for about 10 months…now i think he has deactivated his fb account or blocked me. I want to see him again…just to talk if he wants to …we have not talked for a year , properly….what can I do…just wait & wait…when he broke up with me I was messaging him all the time …saying I love & miss him etc , he used to read my texts…but never reply…he used to send me good morning messages…& our relationship felt loving , so i don’t know whats wrong. I would very much like your advice , becoz even after a year…i love & miss him very much. Thank you .

  9. Vic

    September 14, 2020 at 7:56 am

    Me and my ex had been dating for two and a half years and had been engaged for the last six months of our relationship. Three weeks ago we started looking for a house together and planning the wedding and out of the blue he says that things were moving too fast so he ended things because it “wasn’t fair to me that he didn’t feel 100% in it all the time”. I am left confused and hurt because I was never pressuring him for marriage or to get a house, it was all him. I know there was no cheating and the breakup wasn’t because of another woman but I don’t know what to do at this point. I have been in the NC phase and have not heard from him either. What do I need to do at this point?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      October 2, 2020 at 9:29 am

      Hi Vic, it sounds as if he got scared of the steps you are taking. While you say it is his idea of getting a house – getting married. It is not abnormal for this to happen. Even if it was his idea. You need to work on yourself in this time to show your ex that you are not in turmoil that he left. You follow the rules of No Contact for 30 days before reaching out to your ex again

  10. Al

    September 12, 2020 at 5:04 pm

    My ex and I have been together for 3.5 years but throughout our relationship we’ve been fighting a lot about girls because I feel like my ex has commitment issue, we’ve been on and off but at the end of the day I still want to be with him. The whole month of August we’ve been fighting none stop when I confronted him about something, I left to come back home for school at the end of August and never thought that would be the last time I see him. He asked for a break after I came back and we were on a break for 2 weeks. After the 2 weeks of not being able to talk to him because he blocked me on every social media and my number he texted me a few days ago that we’re done. I’m so devastated and can’t believe that this is really the end of us. I couldn’t even talk to him because he blocked my number right after he sent me that text. I don’t know what to do, I’m still very much in love with him and want him back in my life again. Should I just accept the fact that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore or what should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 18, 2020 at 7:47 pm

      Hi Al, so you need to start following the program if you want to try and re attract your ex to get back together. Stick with not talking for at least 45 days solid and work on yourself, reading more articles is going to help you follow the program

  11. Bec

    August 29, 2020 at 10:53 am

    Me and my ex had been together for 5 years, we own a house together and he is genuinely the person that I saw myself spending the rest of my life with – we made each other laugh, had similar interests, went on adventures together and he was basically my best friend and boyfriend all in 1!
    On the 2nd August, completely out of the blue, he told me that he’s leaving me and hasn’t loved me for a while. I did not see this coming at all and I am still in total shock, it seems completely out of character. He also said that “He needs to learn to love himself before he can love anyone else so I need to let him go”.
    I am totally and utterly heartbroken! Originally I made the mistake of begging him to stay which resulted in pushing him away more.
    He came back after 1 week and said that he didn’t mean it and he loves me and never wants to be without me, but the next day he went again saying that he’s confused and it’s “just something that he needs to do”.
    We have now done 3 weeks of NO CONTACT which has been the hardest thing – I have never gone this long without speaking to him! Every day I want to message him but He has said that the only thing that I can contact him about is the house.
    I am at a loss of what I can do now, do I have to accept that he is gone even though I would do anything to make it work? I had left a letter with him explaining exactly how I felt and what my thoughts for our future were.. I was hoping that would have made him come back..

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      September 7, 2020 at 9:34 pm

      Hey Bec, so you need to go into a No Contact where you just focus on yourself for the time being. Understand at the moment he does not see that things can work. But giving him the space during NC and that re starting your connection is going to help you show him you have grown

  12. Beth

    June 27, 2020 at 8:56 am

    Hi. I was with my ex just over two years and we even have a child together. He left 8 weeks ago first blaming it on his mental health and telling me he needs to get better before we can be a family and couple again. He lead me on in the 8 weeks by telling me he still wanted me, loved me and kissing me etc when he saw me. But then I found out he’d been messaging his ex and also using tinder. Two weeks ago he ended up telling me ‘too much’ has happened between us since he moved out so we can’t be back together ever again apparently. Even though he had sex with me last Saturday!? I used to text him begging for him every single day and when I’d see him I’d beg too. It’s not been until the last week or so I’m not texting him even tho I really want too. Have I lost him for good or will he have his fun and want to come back? Because he did tell me he loves me and misses me still just knows we shouldn’t be together and it’s for the best he says. He’s all I think about every day and I cry so much over missing him it’s horrible.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 27, 2020 at 7:38 pm

      Hi Beth it sounds as if you need to start following this program so that you can re set the dynamics of your situation as well as show yourself that you are worth more than what he is giving you right now. Following a limited no contact where you only speak with him about visitations with your child or any emergencies regarding the child.

  13. Re

    June 24, 2020 at 3:23 am

    We dated for about 7 months. Continued to see each other and was like we were basically together for another 2 after. He said he has feelings for me, but that he doesn’t have the same feelings I have. He said he always felt like our relationship was in question, and that he never felt things progressed to a level where he felt comfortable or completely happy. He said the last few months he had been feeling that way. That he wanted it to work because I am a good woman, but he isn’t going to stay with someone just because they are good to him. *He is 38 years old and his longest relationship was 1.5 years. Not sure with all he told me if things can change. We always had a good time together. Physical part great. Lots of laughs. No real fights. He said “something is missing with us” “something isn’t connecting” and he doesn’t see a point in trying/dragging things out. Do you think there’s even a chance? I’m not really sure where the disconnect is because I always had a great time with him and it seemed he did too.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      June 26, 2020 at 11:09 pm

      Hey Re, so he is saying there is something missing then you need to use that information about your ex and what he finds interesting and attractive in a person use this to work on your Ungettable and Holy Trinity to show him that you are the best he is ever going to get. Be sure that while you are following your NC that you stick with it while using social media to show how great you are doing without him in your life

  14. Alusha

    May 29, 2020 at 8:22 pm

    My boyfriend ended things with but now we not in a relationship we are living together with our kid. I love him but he says he doesnt have feelings for me but he wants sex what should I do

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 29, 2020 at 11:24 pm

      Hi Alusha, 100% do not sleep with him under no circumstances. Do not fall into a friends with benefits. Read and follow the rules of limited no contact

  15. Molly

    May 19, 2020 at 10:34 pm

    Hi, so I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 months. However for the last 2 we have been in lockdown so haven’t been able to have any physical contact, although we have been calling most days which was working fine. Government guidelines said 2 people could meet up at a social distance so my boyfriend suggested we go for a walk. Whilst in this walk he broke down crying preaching his love for me but he felt there wasn’t a ‘spark’ anymore and wanted to end it. He initially said he wanted to take a break then later decided it would be too unfair on me so wanted to break up. We sat at cried and talk for hours then eventually had to leave as it was too much for me. I feel really confused and don’t know it it’s just the lack of physical contact that’s making him feel this way. This only happened 3 day’s ago so don’t want to contact him too soon

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 20, 2020 at 8:18 pm

      Hi Molly you need to complete a 30 day No Contact as he has ended the relationship

  16. Jasmin

    May 8, 2020 at 9:25 pm

    I was with my boyfriend for 5 years. He left me I was a mess i called him a lot of times a day that I was drunk and he blocked me. After he blocked me I got it into my head that he was a mean jerk and was okay with never talking to him again. After a few days he unblocked me and texted me something about our dog that we shared. I was so confused, If you had blocked me why did you unblock me to just tell me something about our dog. After this I was a mess for a couple of days because of the confusion. He broke up with me because he said that he was not happy with the relationship, but honestly he has changed his mind of why he left me a lot of times. Obviously I am so confused and honestly mad at him for doing this to me.

  17. Oliwia

    April 29, 2020 at 8:07 am

    My boyfriend broke up with me after 3 years 24 days ago. He is my first serious boyfriend. He had some two girlfriends but it didn’t last long – about month or two in both cases. He said he doesn’t love me after I had rough day and called him at night and cried and he didn’t know what to say. He said that he has been feeling like that for some time. I think that he felt overwhelmed with me being so emotional from time to time he is that type of guy that doesn’t worry at all and he isn’t showing any feelings when I’m talking about them a lot.
    We had a great relationship I think, we split a year ago because he started talking with some girl but said he was stupid and he we got back. I had some trust issues but he was working hard to make me feel good again. From that time we had a really good relation. We were having a good time even tho we weren’t seeing each other a lot because of my university and his football games.
    I did contact him after he broke up even tho I agreed to his decision because at that time I was in shock and I thought that I can’t force him to love me. But now I miss him so much and I think we can work through that. I understood that I was too emotional sometimes, blaming it on him and making big deals out of small things. I understand he had enough. It’s my 6th day of no contact. He said he wanted to keep in touch and have contact with me and that he is sorry and grateful for everything we had but it’s better for us to be apart. What should I do next? Sorry for the chaotic message but I’m all in my feels and English isn’t my first language.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 1, 2020 at 9:29 pm

      Hi Olivia, I would say that while you are doing a No Contact your main goal is to learn some emotional control and how and when to express feelings. Read articles about the Holy Trinity and work on being the best version of yourself.

  18. Sara

    April 28, 2020 at 5:38 am

    Hello! So my ex broke up with me because he said that he is not where he wants to be in his life at the moment( he means like job wise). He’s only 22 and feels like he needs to have everything put together and because he doesn’t it really bothers him. Before we dated we were together with out a label for a while because we both wanted to focus on ourselves and not be in a relationship but then our feelings grew more and more so we dated. He now feels like we rushed things and I agree it wasn’t all bad it was actually good most of the time. While we were breaking up he told me he still wants to see me and talk to me and just not rush into anything. But I am not sure what that entirely means. I love him with everything in me and want to grow with him through all of the good and all of the bad even if that means I have to do it from a distance. But I really want things to have another chance between us. I feel like we bring out the best in each other and I don’t want to throw it all away.

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      May 5, 2020 at 9:51 pm

      Hi Sara, it sounds as if your ex is looking for more of a causal friends with benefits situation than an actual relationship. If you want to be in a relationship then you need to follow a NC and work on yourself during that time, then start the texting phase to reconnect with your ex and get him investing into you rather than thinking he can have the best of both worlds

  19. Anna

    April 22, 2020 at 5:29 pm

    So, me and my ex had a relationship for almost 4 months. He had a relation before this and so did i. He had a relation for 4months and i had for 3years. I was teen and got into relationship. My first ex Didn’t had a good career and he often misbehaved with me. So i left him. And about my recent ex, his first relation broke up due to betrayal. Somehow we both got into relationship after two years of our consecutive break up. I love him so much. I did Everything he said. But he was never satisfied. When he got to know i had made out with my first ex and i left him for his career, he Didn’t take it nicely. My past had a negative impact on him. He always told if i could leave my ex even after having 3years old relationship, i could leave him too. But i assured him that i wouldn’t because i love him so much. He would always be sad that he was never anyone’s first love. He would break up with me every now and then and the next day he would say sorry. I would always take him back. But recently he said awful things to me and blaims me for everything and broke up with me. He called two days later. I Didn’t receive. He texted in wapp that he Didn’t feel bad leaving me and it was best decision and i would be happy so no need to worry. After 3days, he called me for 17 times and texted me to text him for 5 minutes. I Didn’t. Then he texted that i would get the same silent treatment from him if i try to contact him. I Didn’t reply either. I do love him even after all the things he has done to me. I want him back. Please give me some tips what to do

    1. EBR Team Member: Shaunna

      April 25, 2020 at 10:38 am

      Hey Anna, so the first few things you need to do is follow a No Contact rule where you work on yourself and follow the rules to become Ungettable and the Holy Trinity, then reach out to your ex using a text that Chris suggests to get your ex talking where you end the conversation first and make sure that you do not speak about the past relationship, the break up or getting back together.

  20. Dione

    April 19, 2020 at 2:52 pm


    Thankbyou for your article.

    My ex broke up with me a week after valentine’s day this year after dating him a few months. He said for me that I shouldn’t feel bad because he is in a bad space (It could be he has been through really bad relationships while he was studying and never got the chance to work on himself), he is following his gut to let me go and that I made such an amazing impact on him.
    I have been very talkative a week after the breakup, I was so in love with this man, I wasn’t ready to let go and I didn’t think clearly. Out of desperation I asked for his friendship, which I should have. I wish I came across this article earlier, because I feel I might have acted a bit needy after a month of talking him. I did some research and started the no contact. I am in 23 days of nc. I have been constantly trying to work on myself and it was really hard is it is lockdown. I have done some research it’s best to send an “elephant in room text” after nc and then leave him for another 2 weeks.
    This was the first person I felt so safe to open up to and trusted, we were been so happy together. I honestly feel I have been the best lover/partner/friend to him and I did the best for him.


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