Today we’ll be looking at how to get a Capricorn man back. This is our third little foray into astrology. Yesterday we focused on libra’s.
So, like libra’s, getting a Capricorn man back boils down to six clear steps,
- Understanding what traits are important to consider when getting a Capricorn man back
- Figuring out how the value ladder needs to be altered
- Not giving in to your anxious attachment style
- Addressing codependency issues
- The stability and mystery scale
- Not jumping the value ladder
Let’s start diving in.
Understand The Traits That Are Most Important When Getting A Capricorn Man Back
Ok, so the traits that are most commonly associated with Capricorns are,
- Practical and Realistic: Capricorn men are known for their practical approach to life. They are realists who prefer concrete facts over abstract ideas. They value practical solutions and are often good at problem-solving.
- Ambitious and Hardworking: They are ambitious and have a strong desire to achieve their goals. Capricorns are known for their strong work ethic and determination. They are often career-oriented and strive for success in their professional lives.
- Responsible and Disciplined: Responsibility and discipline are core traits of a Capricorn man. They take their responsibilities seriously and are often seen as the ‘rock’ in their relationships and families.
- Reserved and Patient: Capricorn men can be quite reserved and might not express their emotions openly. They are also known for their patience and are willing to wait for the right time to act.
- Loyal and Committed: Once committed, Capricorn men are incredibly loyal to their partners. They value stability in relationships and are usually looking for long-term commitments.
- Traditional and Conventional: They often have a traditional approach to life and relationships. They respect tradition and might be more conservative in their views and behaviors.
- Cautious and Calculative: Capricorns tend to be cautious, especially in new situations or relationships. They prefer to assess the situation thoroughly before making decisions.
- Financially Savvy: They are often good with money and may have a knack for financial planning. A Capricorn man typically values financial stability and security.
Obviously not all of these traits can help us get a Capricorn ex back. Here are the ones that I think will inform your decisions.
- Practical and realistic
- Ambitious and hardworking
- Loyal and committed
- Cautious and Calculative
Starting With The Value Ladder Framework
Now, in the past, when I’ve discussed astrology-based signs, I’ve always operated within the same framework, which involves the concept of a value ladder.
You take the traits of the astrological sign and then, based on these specific traits, adapt the value ladder accordingly.
In some cases, the texting phase needs to be shorter, while in others, it might need to be longer, and so on.
Capricorns, however, are a bit different. As I was examining the traits associated with Capricorns, I realized that not many of the traits I consider important for increasing your chances of winning a Capricorn man back significantly alter the value ladder framework.
So, essentially, the way I created the value ladder should remain unchanged. You will still want to go through the no-contact period, then start the texting phase, building value there, followed by the phone call phase, and continue building value.
The nuance, however, lies in the timing and application of the Capricorn traits, which may come into play slightly before entering the texting phase and throughout it.
It’s a lot about the mentality, which might not seem like the most exciting topic to discuss, but I’ve often found that it’s the overlooked aspects that make the biggest difference in achieving success in endeavors like this.
Therefore, there’s not much to elaborate on regarding changes to the value ladder and how it should be modified.
Not Giving In To Your Anxious Attachment Style
One of the first things noted about Capricorns is their practical and realistic nature.
They are known for their practical approach to life, preferring concrete facts over abstract ideas, and valuing practical solutions. They are often good at problem-solving. This brings me to a crucial observation: the problem-solving aspect is a trait commonly seen in people with anxious attachment styles.
While I’m not suggesting that most Capricorns have anxious attachment styles, there does seem to be a correlation between those who are excellent problem solvers and those with an anxious attachment style.
You may encounter a Capricorn who exhibits some level of anxiousness, but more importantly, I want to discuss your anxious attachment style.
From our audience polls, we know that a vast majority have what is considered an anxious attachment style.
Given that Capricorns generally prefer concrete facts over abstract ideas, it’s crucial not to succumb to your anxious tendencies, as this will only reinforce their perception of you.
If they viewed you as anxious during the relationship, continuing to exhibit anxious behaviors post-relationship will likely reinforce this idea. Remember, Capricorns are practical and realistic.
They value concrete evidence.
Therefore, my recommendation for individuals trying to win back a Capricorn is to work on becoming more secure if you have an anxious attachment style. It may sound like basic advice, but it’s effective and often necessary in these situations.
Get A Handle On Codependency Issues
Capricorns are known for being ambitious and hardworking.
They’re very career-oriented and strive for success in their professional lives, which naturally draws them to partners who understand this drive. However, a problem I’ve noticed with most of our clients, as I mentioned earlier, is that they tend to have anxious attachment styles.
A predominant characteristic of individuals with this style is a tendency toward codependency, where their entire world appears to revolve around their ex. While this is understandable, it won’t do you any favors with a Capricorn.
Since Capricorns are career-focused and value success, they seek a partner with a life independent of the relationship.
If you’re in a relationship where your entire existence orbits around your partner, this can be problematic.
I often use the analogy of planets and the sun to describe this dynamic. Many clients come to me as if they are planets revolving around their ex, who is the sun.
My goal is to help them break away and become their own sun, with their own solar system, filled with their own wants and desires.
That’s the essence of overcoming codependency – realizing that you can be an independent person. This independence is what attracts a Capricorn.
Going back to their practical and realistic nature, a tangible fact for your ex to see is that you have your own world, your own wants, and desires, not just revolving around theirs. This independence is what makes you attractive and can draw a Capricorn back in.
The Stability And Mystery Scale
It’s important to note that Capricorns are typically very loyal and committed. Once they commit, they are incredibly loyal partners who value stability in relationships.
They often seek long-term commitments, and this is where the stability and mystery scale becomes relevant.
For those unfamiliar, I frequently discuss this concept that human beings have two competing desires in relationships: the need for stability and the desire for adventure, mystery, and spontaneity. An imbalance too far in one direction can be off-putting.
In many cases I encounter, an ex falls in love with my client who initially exhibits a sense of adventure and spontaneity. However, over time, they become more stable, leading the ex to wonder what changed – missing those spontaneous, fun trips they used to enjoy.
Capricorns, however, tend to prefer stability over mystery. If we were to quantify this, they might favor a balance of 60% stability to 40% mystery.
Therefore, if you are perceived as unstable – perhaps due to being overly adventurous, engaging in frequent partying, having a turbulent home life, or being surrounded by drama – these factors can undermine the sense of stability and potentially turn a Capricorn off.
My advice is to conduct an audit of your life. Assess what changes you can make to eliminate any drama or stress that might make you appear less stable as a partner.
Do Not Jump The Value Ladder
Capricorns are known to be curious yet cautious and calculative. They are particularly cautious in new situations or relationships, often assessing situations thoroughly before making decisions.
This trait can lead to slow progress with a Capricorn. Interestingly, the value ladder is designed to encourage a gradual approach. While it might be tempting to skip steps with some partners, this is not advisable with Capricorns. It’s essential to take your time.
Out of curiosity, I conducted a survey in our community, asking members – who are trying to get their exes back – if they have ever jumped the value ladder.
(I’m not sure why our community software is miscounting a percent but what can you do?)
Surprisingly, 62% of the responses indicated that they had. This suggests that the majority of individuals attempting to reconcile with their exes, particularly Capricorns, tend to skip steps in the process.
Jumping the value ladder typically means bypassing stages like the texting phase or phone call phase and directly moving to the meetup phase. Feedback from the community revealed mixed results, with many indicating that skipping steps did not lead to positive outcomes.
Therefore, my advice, especially when dealing with a Capricorn ex, is to resist the temptation to jump the value ladder. Taking your time to build value and moving slower than you might prefer often yields better results.