The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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Sha

November 30, 2017 at 10:57 am

Hi,

My bf dumped me 3 weeks ago after 2 1/2 years of being together, unfortunately, our time together was rough. We had a lot of moments of fighting and making up and staying together. I was going through some personal things and he doesn’t like to communicate. I am the complete opposite and I am able to talk. I have had trust issues with him since we dated. But when we broke up it was over something stupid, he wanted a day to himself with his phone power off so nobody can reach him included myself and to me it sounded so shady and sketchy. So, I asked why? He flipped out got so angry and said I can’t seal with this anymore and I don’t want to be with you again. He then blocked my number- I sent him a email saying I’m sorry if I offended you by saying why, after a few emails back and forth he agreed to unblock my number and he apparently changed his number and eventually we were texting but in a friendly matter and sometimes call. I know this past thanksgiving he called to wish me happy thanksgiving and I thought he was trying to work things out but no he wasn’t. He got so angry at me and kept repeating I gotta go, I gotta go. Than he turned off his phone. He had is phone powered off for the next few days. So I thought I could email him many times which I
Know was wrong and I asked is this about someone else? He said I will say this for the last time, this isn’t about anyone else, I don’t want to be with anyone else, would you please stop contacting me or I will get the law involved, he also said enough is enough and move the F*ck on. Than he changed his phone number again – I tried to email him begging him not to threaten me and that all this shouldn’t be going on (also I’m 3 years older, I’m 30 and he’s 27. I feel that our whole relationship has been a scam and a lie. I been sick in bed missing days of work not being able to eat or anything. I’m severely depressed, sad and angry and felt suicidal. The only person that keeps in contact is his mother and she tries to say he isn’t with anyone else and this isn’t about anyone else and that he wants to be by himself. But honestly I find it hard to believe. I tried even emailing him apologizing to him and bringing myself down. Is there any way this could be changed or is this over and done and he moved on?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 30, 2017 at 8:34 pm

Hi She,
Check this one:
You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed… I’m Here To Fix That

Tash

November 30, 2017 at 8:03 am

I feel like I have no hope though, why did his sister block me? I’ve never done anything to her. I’m on 12th day of no contact and feel awful. I’m actjally more depressed now even though I’m trying to go gym. Remember he said he wanted space even as friends then why has he gone awol? I don’t know if I can do 45day nc. Please reply and give me advice.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 30, 2017 at 8:22 pm

Don’t focus on that because it’s not helping and there can be a lot of reasons why..Don’t jump to conclusions

Tash

November 29, 2017 at 12:57 pm

It’s me again. I’m on 11th day of no contact and I’m so sad. I just recently found out his sister has blocked me on WhatsApp and when I tried to add her on snapchat she declined me. I honestly don’t know what I’ve done to be honest. I remember before I went into no contact, me and her spoke and it was an alright convo, but at the end we spoke about him and etc. I’m just so upset. Like he doesn’t even view my snaps and when he does, he only viewed one which I think was done by accident. I just feel really hopeless. Like this no contact won’t work on me as he’s already most prob moved on. Please advice me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 29, 2017 at 3:10 pm

Do less of snaps, do more posts that just stays there unless you remove them..and make them public..if it doesn’t work later on, then just continue improving yourself while moving on..

meme

November 27, 2017 at 11:46 am

No it’s not the same topic, we jumped from one to another, i did that again yesrerday and he replied again and he started to open up a little i guess.
After we met last month for the first time, and everything went great, 2 weeks after that he opened up to my bff and told her he is not ready for love any time soon and that he really loved me not only because we were together for two years and another two years as bff. But when she told him that he still he said no, and told her that i no longer love him too. She told him no but he didn’t trust her, and he told her that we are both happy this way but he needs a long time to heal and to even to talk to anyone new, and he added we had to do that , because we were fighting a lot in the end and i didn’t put a title for us. I’m not sure if he told he that because i was really good and didn’t care wheb he tried to make me jealous when we met or he really moved on.
what do you think amor? Because all i’m thinking if if he really moved on why he replies so fast on my msgs, even i reply two days after it.
I think the big deal is he doesn’t know that I’m ready to put a title, I’m still confused and i really want him to initiate but i don’t know how when he thinks i won’t put a title.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 28, 2017 at 2:05 pm

if that’s really the case, he would have made more effort.. it looks like the other way around.. he doesn’t want a title, so he friendzoned you..

Mar

November 26, 2017 at 1:48 am

So i’m on the No contact phase
But since the breakup was caused by a fight (i doubted him for the millionth time) that i didn’t apologize about properly + its before 3 weeks of his birthday and my birthday. So shall i send an apology text that isnt needy or close to begging but i’d state few things about the good time and oh lets give it a chance or shall i stick to 3 weeks of no contact? And send a gift on his birthday after 3 weeks without writing my name on the card but i’d leave a hint maybe. Then after my birthday maybe i would text him with either the apology text or the reminder text idkk which one is better 🙁 i was hoping if i could meet him before all of this! But according to the article that would be a bad decision?. Moreover, since i got emotional and blamed him, he said “goodbye go and live your life be comfortable without me since being with me is so tough and harsh on you” so i’m afraid that if he saw that i’m doing good and moving on he’d think that he made the right decision! + he has a very busy dramatic life idkk if i’d be on his mind that much:( it scares me that he would still want me but will act strong and deny that and maybe reject my offer in starting all over again and that i’ve learnt the lesson

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 28, 2017 at 1:44 am

HI Mar,

who broke up with who and why did you doubt him? check this one:
“Can I Text My Ex On His Birthday?” Let’s End This Discussion Right Now

meme

November 25, 2017 at 6:20 am

So after exactly a week of texting, here is the conclusion, he responded very fast, but i wait for couple of hours, and on day 5 i didn’t replied but when i did on day 7 he replied fast again.
But i feel that something is wrong, i texted him but he never initiated, is that because it was the same conv but i let it last for a week? But even if i don’t think that is the problem, he suggested a band and told me to see black friday deals, i put in my consideration that he is depressed this period of time ” i knew that from bff” but my question here how to make him intiate first msg? And what does it mean if he only replies to mine?
I also understand why he is doing that, because he is still hurt because i refused putting a title for us several times, but i still don’t know how to let him trust that i changed if he puts that barrier.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 27, 2017 at 8:22 am

Same topic for a week? Then maybe it got boring for him.. If there’s no rapport yet, and he’s not getting interested or curious about you, he probably won’t initiate

Tash

November 19, 2017 at 7:25 am

Hi amor thanks for getting back to me. Basically I went into no contact and then after three days I failed and contacted him asking if he was okay. I felt stupid afterwards as he did say he wanted space even as friends. Anyway I’m back in no contact mode, day 2. I’ve been posting snaps on my story of me travelling and he hasn’t viewed any of my snaps. However his sister has been looking at them. Ah amor do I still have a chance? And should I stop posting now?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 20, 2017 at 5:44 pm

Hi Tash,

I think you still have a chance but post more in sites where the posts stays

Garry

November 17, 2017 at 1:49 am

Tips for getting an ex-girlfriend back when she has moved on? Is it even possible to win her back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 2:40 am

HI Garry,

Check this one:
Exgirlfriend Recovery

Tash

November 16, 2017 at 1:25 pm

Hi. Please can someone help me. Basically my ex boyfriend broke up with me last year in 2016 after 8 years. It was a bitter break up, due to family culture. He came back into my life in February as a friend but we started sleeping with each other, having days out and also we went on holiday together. Anyway last week I found out that his parents are looking for him to get married. I confronted him and we had a big argument, he started saying that we broke up over a year ago, he’s moving on and I need to completely let him go, he said it was best if we don’t speak. I agreed but few days later I felt so guilty, I text him saying I was sorry and that I really wanted us being friends and then he replied back saying that it’s gokd we’re both moving on and that things between us will never be easy and the situation will take time to heal. He also said that even as friends, we need some space so he’s asking for that space. I replied back saying I agree and that there’s no bad blood and it is what it is. Hopefully I will figure things out soon. Please anyone what do I do? I really want him back.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 2:27 am

HI Tash,

start a 45 day nc rule because he expects you would answer in a month.

meme

November 8, 2017 at 2:39 am

Hi amor, how are you? i texted him a week after seeing him and asked for something and he responded actually, but he didn’t try to talk nor was like i saw him, he only answred the questions. That was our first msg after almost 2 and half months. So is this normal to act soo cold after talking for 2 and half hours?or does this mean he moved on?
Second question is, he said clearly to my bff we won’t get back because he wanted a relationship and i didn’t. I’m still confused how he’d see this major thing if i didn’t say it?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 8, 2017 at 7:27 pm

Yeah it’s normal… he might have said that to your friend to save face or because he knows your friend is going to say that to you, and that will make you defend yourself or chase him.

lynette marshall

October 28, 2017 at 8:34 am

my bf ian and i are in a situation its where i lied n hide things from him because i thought it was saver that way but it wasnt and i feel so terrible and we both are so sad and everything. i really want to show him that i want him back as in see me again without having to think about it. he said he might have his desicion on november 13th the day i see my ear doctor for a check up. i poved him wrong before like i wasnt smart enough but i actually smarter then what he thought. i really love him. he sometimes does answer my messages and phone calls but i,m worried if i,m losing him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 31, 2017 at 7:01 pm

Hi lynette,

Check this one:
How Do I Prevent My Boyfriend From Ending Our Relationship

meme

October 27, 2017 at 3:16 pm

Hey amor, so my friend told me that he would travel to several countries to dilever some projects, and he would stay abroad for a year. So i thought that was the end and decided to let things go as it should be, and texted him wednesday at night that i want to give him his money and want something i forgot with him, he texted me back thursday at the morning and said he’s not sure if he could make it after travelling but if he couldn’t he would leave my things with a friend of us, then texted me after 2 minutes to check my schedule for this weekend, anyways we ended up meetning on the same day, and i was shocked!
So i met him on the street, i looked really good too, nothing was arranged, we almost talked for two and half hours, we were laughing and i was surprised by all that, everything was good i guess, but he said to my bff before he can’t deal with me now, but his behaviour was exactly the opposite!
He tried to make me feel jealous as well, he told me he was somewhere with some friend and mentioned the girl he cheated me with, and repeated it and looked me in the eyes, but i acted normal and continued laughing about some other situations, also mentioned another girl that was trying to sleep with him but he refused. He was also surprised by the new things I’m doing but i didn’t say too much and didn’t give any details as well * as u adviced me* . We didn’t stop laughing and i was the one who asked to leave, i think if i didn’t say i have to go now, we would continue talking for longer time, but i wanted to control the day, when we were walking he asked me if i knew how to go home *i don’t have car* so i told him i would take a taxi, we walked and then he saw me his new car i congrats him for buying it, then i told him bye and left.
Never thought things would be that easy and i found that he only travelling for maximun 2 months.
I’m not sure why he acted so nice, and why he told my bff he would travel for a year but aside from that he didn’t text to check on me, i will start talking with him slowly, i think after two and half months he was wainting for me to talk and he missed me because it’s not normal to meet up at the same day and to keep talking for 2:30 hours, isn’t it? I need your advice on all that and i know it’s too early for that but i want ur advice on how to let him stop talking to this girl even if they are talking as friends without mentionung that, i wouldn’t accept that if we got back together. I only acted normal because that was the right thing to do at this period and because we are already in a break.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 30, 2017 at 9:55 pm

You can’t control other people. The best you can do is to stick to your standards.. If everything progresses between the two of you and he doesn’t stop talking to her, you have to walk away.

Vishal

October 18, 2017 at 10:27 pm

Hello, I am a gay man and I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months. We had a lot of fights but we would make up every time and be like before. We truly loved each other a lot, shared everything and would go above and beyond to do things for each other. We fought over a guy, who he had a fling with in the past, and he broke up with me. I begged but still he did not agree to reconsider our relationship. I stopped contacting him and once in a while he would text me to which I would reply. We met for coffee after a month and we both cried a lot talking about what was wrong in the relationship and also how we miss each other. I asked him to take a week to decide if he wants to be with me because it seemed like he didn’t know what he wanted. But in two days, I got anxious and needed an answer. He came to me and said that we are not compatible so we can’t be together. I asked him if there is any hope in the future and he said no. He wanted to be friends and I told him that I can’t be friends with him. Basically in all the begging and pleading, I have no self worth and self respect left. I just tried everything to want him back. I am 2 weeks no contact with him but he hasn’t texted me. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 22, 2017 at 6:55 pm

Hi Vishal,

if you were not active in improving yourself and in posting in social media, restart the count of nc, and do at least 30 days.

brinly tan

October 18, 2017 at 1:48 pm

my bf broke up me me about a week ago and his reason was because i was stubborn and he told me that we had nothing to talk about anymore. is there still a chance of getting him back he is a very stubborn person as well.on the day when he broke up with me i was really shocked as the day b4 we were okaii so i acted desperately and kept telling him to give me a chance after that i stopped contacting him. 3-4 days ago he blocked me on instagram and snapchat so i couldnt see his story. i was really sad. currently im doing the no contact rule and im planning to text him the day b4 his brothers bday but im afraid that he might block me on whatsapp too….how should i start by texting him???i really want him back

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 20, 2017 at 8:29 pm

Hi Brinly,

How many days are you in nc by then? How active are you in improving yourself? And even of you’re blocked you need to be active in posting..just make them public

Brit

October 13, 2017 at 9:03 pm

My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me saying he needed time away cause he has so much crap going wrong in his life and was unhappy. We had a very loving relationship and he was so sweet to me. He even slept over the night before and was saying he was in love with me. He broke up with me over something so ridiculous in my opionion… I just don’t understand. It’s been 2 weeks now and he deleted me off everything which I don’t understand why. I saw him yesterday to drop off something and he was like “you smell good” and hugged me hello and held me and he Even accidentally called me babe. When he was talking to me he told me he wants me to be happy and not stress about our break up and he also told me he’s not talking to any girls at all, but I felt like he was kind of sketchy with his phone when I saw him. He also is adding all these girls on Instagram that he told me he thought was gross and now he’s liking all their pictures. Can someone please just help me out and tell me why he’s sitting here telling me not to worry and keep my head up and that he still loves me?…..

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 14, 2017 at 11:54 am

Hi Brit,

Do you want to try the advice above?

Ntokozo

October 13, 2017 at 5:58 am

My boyfriend of more than a year broke up with me three months ago. At first he said we just taking a break. then changed and said we argue too much which was not the case, then changed again and said he is too busy with school he then changed AGAIN and said the real reason he broke up with me was because I was neglecting him and that led to him falling out of love with me. I merely thought I was giving his space because he was studying heavily for exams.
I then found out he started talking to girls literally two days after breaking up wit me, telling them that he likes them and ****. We agreed to be friends and see where it takes us because I wanted him back. He told me that he stopped talking to these girls. But a few weeks later I found out that he was still talking to two of them. Even went as far as making out with one of them multiple times behind my back. At this point he and I were doing well, he had even told me that he is starting to like me romantically again. So when I found out I was devastated. And when I confronted him about it he told me that he doesn’t like me anymore because I got mad at the situation. He told me to work on myself and find my happiness first and only then will we give our relationship a go again. And I did that. I found my happiness and told him. His response was “I meant what I said about us giving it a go again but not now. I don’t have time for a relationship right now”.
I really don’t know what to do because he gives me mixed signals. One day we are happy and every thing is okay, then the next day he is cold and not even responding to my texts, When I ask why he doesn’t respond he always makes excuses like he was at the library, he was studying, he only came online(WhatsApp) to ask his classmates school related things etc.

Recently I asked him if he has moved on from me and he said yes. He said that he doesn’t find me attractive anymore as he doesn’t see himself even kissing me at this point. He only sees me as a friend. I then told him that I cant continue being friends with him because he completely broke me and made me feel unworthy. All he said was I am better off without him.
So I have been doing NC for 10 days now since that conversation and neither of us have reached out. I deleted hs number, unfriended him on facebook and unfollowed him on Instagram. he still follows me thou and watches all my stories.
Foolishly I am still in love with him and would do anything to get back together with him. Would it be a bad idea? Do you think I still have a chance? Why is he acting like this? I’m really confused.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 14, 2017 at 10:26 am

Hi Ntkozo,

Do nc for yourself.. Check this one:
The Ungettable Girl

Alyssa

October 7, 2017 at 4:45 am

Hey, my long distance boyfriend just broke up with me on Friday after 8 months. We broke up mostly due to spending way too much time together like literally all day since neither of us had a job or school going at the time as well as me being to clingy and needy. I am on day 4 of NC but was worried I may have started bad because of coarse I did the typical begging and everything will be different, but he said he doesn’t believe people change and doesn’t love me anymore.
So then I tried to just be super friendly and told him so and pretty much talk to him like normal but when he wouldn’t commit to conversations, he was polite but still off, I asked about it and he said he wont initiate contact me since it would draw out my pain, but also didnt want to ignore me since that would hurt me as well. So I said I understood and went NC from there. Do you think that this a bad start to NC? We have to have some basic interaction in mostly group settings all online but im sure never to talk with or answer him directly but he can still see my general messages and say things. Other people could answer these things too but rarely do.

I am also a bit worried because we are long distance but have been together in person 6 weeks previously and he is very good at suppressing his negative emotions and has a super lot to keep him busy besides being a bit stubborn wont it be easy for him to move past what we had?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 8, 2017 at 9:47 pm

Hi Alyssa,

It’s not a bad start..Check this one too:
Will My Ex Forget Me If I Do No Contact

Azalyss

October 6, 2017 at 12:08 am

Hey, my long distance boyfriend just broke up with me on Friday after 8 months. We broke up mostly due to spending way too much time together like literally all day since neither of us had a job or school going at the time as well as me being to clingy and needy. I am on day 2 of NC but was worried I may have started bad because of coarse I did the typical begging and everything will be different, but he said he doesn’t believe people change and doesn’t love me anymore.
So then I tried to just be super friendly and told him so and pretty much talk to him like normal but when he wouldn’t commit to conversations, he was polite but still off, I asked about it and he said he wont initiate contact me since it would draw out my pain, but also didnt want to ignore me since that would hurt me as well. So I said I understood and went NC from there. Do you think that this a bad start to NC? We have to have some basic interaction in mostly group settings all online but im sure never to talk with or answer him directly but he can still see my general messages and say things. Other people could answer these things too but rarely do.

I am also a bit worried because we are long distance but have been together in person 6 weeks previously and he is very good at suppressing his emotions and has a super lot to keep him busy wont it be easy for him to move past what we had?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 8, 2017 at 8:40 pm

Hi Azalyss,

It’s not a bad start..Check this one too:
Will My Ex Forget Me If I Do No Contact

Brenna

October 4, 2017 at 5:16 am

I also forgot to mention he’s been having a lot of stressful things happening to him lately. So maybe his head isn’t on straight.

Brenna

October 5, 2017 at 1:12 am

I’m trying to do no contact but I’m horrible at it. I literally feel crazy and depressed. I cant stop crying
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 5, 2017 at 8:33 am

Check this ones:
How To Stay In No Contact
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 4, 2017 at 6:35 pm

looks like he just used that as an excuse to flirt with other girls.. are you in the no contact rule now?

Brenna

October 4, 2017 at 5:07 am

So my boyfriend of a year and a half had an amazing relationship, but the last month is August we had some ups and downs and were fighting which wasn’t usual for us. Last Tuesday he broke up with me over something really small, but seems he had a lot build up and itthrew him over the edge. After he broke up with me he blocked me off everything besides face book and snap chat. He wouldn’t see me face to face. I tried my best to not bother him, but failed. On Saturday he messaged me on face book for going out to the bars with my friends and said goodluck finding trashy guys at a bar. Which wasn’t what I was doing there in the first place. After that he blocked me on Facebook and snapchat as well. We didn’t talk all day after he yelled at me for going out and we didn’t talk yesterday either. Today I called of block cause it was the only way I could reach him since he blocked my number. I asked if I could meet up with him to drop off his clothes. He said sure and unblocked my number. We talked for an hour and it went really well. He basically said he’s in love with me and that our break up has nothing to do with love. He said we just had issues we both need to work on and there’s a good chance we could end up back together with time apart. During this talk we had some giggles, we did kiss a few times and we hugged for a while. After we said goodbye I asked if he was going to unblock me on everything and he said “no I’m sorry I’m not going to unblock you on everything right now, I’m sorry. Head up and don’t cry, glad we were able to talk.” I replied back and said “I understand! Like we said if we are meant to be we will find our way and be better (with a smiley face) I love you, see you around” he then replied “ everything happens for a reason head up beautiful I love you… see ya ❤️“ and I never replied. Just read it and ignored. I’m just so confused. Do I really even have a chance? Why did he go from being so mean. To being so nice after our talk? But also after our talk I see he’s following a bunch of girls, liking their tweets and Instagram pictures. He also followed a girl he knows I’m not very fond of cause she use to flirt with him. After our talk and his last text to me… why is he doing this? Why won’t he unblock me and is only leaving my number unblocked? What do I do. I need the best advice ever. Because we really did have a beautiful relationship. He even said it. He just said this is a rough patch ….

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